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Ndimkpurummiri:
Victor umeh too must have also eaten from Bianca's Honeypot like Femi Fani Kayode

Try and have sense it's not bye force to comment

You have been commenting nonsense on people post

Grow up, you are not expected to remain the same forever

illicit:
This Bianca woman fine o

She was a beauty queen who won the most beautiful girl in Nigeria in 1988 and Regina Askia came second in the contest

Messi1997:
You are a coward,you have been playing virtual for seven years and you are scared. Don't quit,keep trying don't let your previous experiences discourage you from gambling.Your time to win millions and cheat the system is near

You lack manners

Streetbabah:
It's a dilemma choosing to marry between a spouse with good character and submissiveness who relies on you to make 80% of all decisions.... And a spouse with high IQ of great intellects whom u can discuss anything with be it business politics and so on with who is also a self starter... people's opinions are needed

A woman with a high IQ is more preferable than a woman that is submissive

Is good to be married to a submize woman but that high IQ covers every areas that your attention will be needed

An intelligent woman will also be submissive if you take time to understand who she is and her value for your family

AlphaTaikun:
Well said! You have a very balanced
view of life. "True love" is the ability
to give love and receive love.

Thanks my dear

jonaifame22:
We started dating in January.

She cries and whines on my bed like she has just heard the news of the passing of a loved one.

Find out from her if it hurts her or that's her own way of moaning

MrCover:
Source: https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2022/3/man-strangles-his-8-month-old-son-to-death-dump-body-in-swamp-after-quarrel-with-wife.html

Premature couple marriage is not bye force

You must be ready to accept the stupidity of a man and the foolishness of a woman

This is just unacceptable whatever the senior has in mind for doing such a dirty thing on her

blue01:
Good morning nairalanders, please you guys should pardon me because am not much of a good writer. Am here to seek advice from some of the great minds we have here, I got this little issue that has really put me in a state of confusion.

I applied for a job sometime last month and the job is 108k/month but the issue is that the opening is still very much shaky like they are still contemplating if to employ more hands or not so the person that linked me to the job anytime I call him he keeps telling me to pray hard because of the nature of things over there, then sometime Last week he called me and asked if I can manage another job of 50k pending when that other job will be available, both jobs comes with free lunch but the one of 50k comes with extra incentives like 2k everyday but the one of 108k come with no incentives (only your salary every month end), so am really confused if to wait or just resume at the one of 50k.

Any advice is highly welcome and will be appreciated.

I forgot to add that at both jobs I will be working morning shift two days, night shift two days and I will have two days as my off days too and it's not something stressful too.

Take the one you see first

AnonyUser:
I know this is not the right section for this but I need a wider view.

My neighbor just gave birth. I want to go greet them but I'm short of what to say. I don't wanna go there and be looking like a fool.

I don't know how to start the conversation.

What do I say when I get there?

I don't know how something so simple could be also very difficult to do .

Only you understands your thoughts

What's difficult in saying Congratulations to the couple and dash the child money even if it's 1000

Brytexbaby:
Good morning everyone.

I've been dating this guy for a while now. He's been into tramadol and smoking for a very long time. Over 15years.

We've been friends before now, until late last year when we started dating. I've been making conscious efforts on helping him stop all these acts.

He has improved on quitting smoking, as he only smokes once in a day or twice.

My issues is the tramadol. He takes about 5 tab everyday. He's physically fit and one could barely tell he has that addiction. He can't do anything like reading, writing an exam if he doesn't take this thing. I've tried to help him the best way I can. Yea, I love him, but I cant afford to raise kids in such environment. I might have to take a bow if this persists, but I really wish and want to help him go through this.

What are the side effects of this drug?

How can I help him with this addiction?

Please help!
Thank you

He is an addict and they question that should bother you is can you cope with such person for life

I don't think you have the capacity to do so

Quitam:
Thanks for the advice. Just curious. Can an adult be adopted legally?

The question will be which family will adopt an over grown adult

Cristlaw:
Good morning Nairaland.

Please I need your advice right now.

Last year I got a job in an insurance company through an outsourcing firm, Although the company is doing well but the pay is low(below 100k).
Recently, I applied for a job online and later found out is a position of a RESTAURANT MANAGEMENT TRAINEE.
Should I let go of my current job and go with the new one? Or I continue with my job and forfirt the new one?

However, my current job is in Lagos and the stress is much so I thought to get a new job outside Lagos because life here in Lagos is crazy with traffic.

Please kindly advise a brother before taking a wrong decision.

Regards.

If you want to keep trying, remain in Lagos and continue to search for a better one

The issue of Lagos traffic is something we have to accept because it can never be removed

But if you are tired of traffic and Lagos state as a whole then accept the new job

Ogbeni2000:
There's a certain argument that you shouldn't marry unless you're financially ready.

When exactly is a man financially ready? Lots of people lose whom they love chasing when they're financially ready.

Please I need matured contribution on this.

I think is when a man is capable of feeding himself and an extra stomach

When a man is will to accept woman as his wife

When he can afford for himself and sundries

Lastly, when de desire to have a woman around him becomes necessary

TheGidRedpiller:
She is sick, to the point of stooling blood, this is actually true.
That biittch thinks she isn't enough curse to me than whatever she thinks is standing by at the middle of the night waiting to manifest her all powerful curse

I know she is sick, i know, but i also know when she is trying to manipulate her ways into things with the attention she gathers from her illness situation. She asked for financial help, i swear i wanted to help her too, but i just couldn't, did she deserve it or not

If you followed me from scratch, you would know that this is the same wh0re of a mother that would fvvck another men in her matrimonial home after the death of her husband, this is the same selfish biittch that would put herself first before the interest of any of her children, she literally made my sister cry over her education, but my sister watched her change wardrobe every week!

I know i'm being very mean & vengeful, i need people to help me snap out of it because I JUST WANT TO PUNISH HER!!

Still Typing...

I just wish you can ignore that woman and focus on your self

You don't need to abuse her as she is your own biological mother

At the same time, you don't make her to curse you because of tomorrow

Pack far away from her and let her only be communicating to you just in phone alone

She has lived her dirty life, leave judgement for God

Preshieben:
ain't picking again till further notice,
Make I rest with relationship abeg

Is alright, at times women do go on break

OvertheTop:
You know well That:
If a woman Does all these Things, She will Have NO Regard or Respect for the Man.
She Will in most Cases Keep this Act in her memory and use it To Abuse the Man During Provocations/Quarrels.
Most Women do this.

When This Happens, the Man Gets Frustrated and Marriage Regrets Crips into him.(Love Disappears)

to Avoid the Above Its Bet to get Married when Financially Stable

I understand your point

But even men that married with their own money still go through marriage wahala

That's why I said if a woman who loves you sponsors your marriage, just respect your self in the marriage as a man

StennyB:
Thank you for your reply. I've spoken to him and I understand with him. His relatives are relocating from a bandit prone area in KD.

Ohh dear

ndukwechinasa:
I met my girl friend around 2015 but I was not so serious about loving her. Just wanted to make love to her normally or even become a casual friend. But my intentions did not work out as planned we both stop communicating.

Not until December 2020 when I had accident and she eventually came visiting me and bought somethings for me. I was so impressed for the kind gestures. Her care and kindness made me started loving her.

However, this love extended to her family. I always call the sisters and the mum at will. I also visit their village during festivities and their base too. She is kind to me that I can not imagine. I have grown to love her immensely that I don't have affection for another woman.

But yesterday, my babe called that the mum wants to speak with me. I aborted the call and hurriedly call back. I greeted the mum and she responded very well. She asked me not to get upset that she wants to know my intention towards her daughter that time waits for no one and again there are suitors coming but the daughter said she loves me. Finally she will not be happy with me if I dump the daughter in due course.

I just told her that I love her daughter so much and I also have the intention to marry her but she should also pray for me that things work out right for me.

Honestly, I really love the girl so much but I am not financially stable now cos I lost my job two years ago and I have been trying to put things in order as to meet up financially.

What do I really do now?

MATURE MINDS���

You did well by informing her mum about your intentions on her

The next step is to discuss with your girlfriend and find out if she will marry you as you are not yet stable

If she accepts that, then ask her about their marriage rights and how best you guys will carry it out without much fan fare

It's now left for her family to cooperate with you

Some women sponsored their marriage because then the man couldn't afford enough and they lived happily while the man still finds his bearing

The only problem with such marriage plan is, when the man starts measuring his muscles with the wife by being authoritative at home and there by proving stubborn

That will definitely not go well with them.

You can't be poor and troublesome in a relationship

nosleep:
I'm a bachelor living in 2 bedroom apartment. My neighbor room is closed to me. the wall demarcate us. All pvc cilen. We are both bachelors. I'm usually not always at home due to my work. There is one particular black slim girl he normally brings home among all his girlfriends this very slim black girl has the best moaning. Sometimes she scream so loud that I have to masturbate to calm my head. Her moaning isn't forming or just shouting it's different. I have girlfriends but I have not gotten this kind moaning before even all the other girls he brings home don't have this vibes. If I see her with this very slim black girl I will not go anywhere again I won't even want my girlfriend to come over mostly at night so I can enjoy my masterbation in peace. Sometimes they will make love from 1am to 4am she likes smoking weed. They can make love for more than 5 times for the night and I can hear them very clear like they are in my room. I don't know if that particular girl is a runs girl I think I will meet him to know so I can enjoy that moaning she has make me masterbate like Never before. Sometimes man can love a woman for her sex vibes I can't lie I'm falling for that very girl and she's very quiet outside she hardly communicate with us when ever we are together she's bad I swear. Please don't insult me if you hear her you will like her.

I think she is the crazy type

Since you are friendly with your neighbor, discuss with him for his friend to get a crazy person like her for you

But be ready to fire on as she maybe the type that loves steady sex

Alternatively, you can keep enjoying what you hear while you get a responsibile woman that is decent

What if sex is the only good thing about her, how do you cope in other areas a man needs a woman to support him

Nacoss25:
My marriage of 10 months is gradually craching.
I and my wife some issues 2 weeks ago and ran away from the house to her parents and now the parents are denying seeing her while from my investigation and information gathered she connived with her family to go into hiding.

There most be something bad character wise you are doing which she can't tolerate any longer and having told her parents, they will rather keep her away for you

It could be a very wicked attitude
Careless talk from you
It could be something that hurts her emotions

Go to her parents and talk with them, your submission will determine if they will allow her to come home for you to defend yourself

But if you keep on insisting to know exactly where she is without finding out why she left

Then you will never get the location, even with Google map

Preshieben:
Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

Once you know that you can't make love to yourself, you will stop rejecting me

Stop rejecting them before your time goes off

You are doing this now because you are at your pick

Relax and pick one whatever comes out of it you a accept it

StennyB:
Good day everyone,

Please if someone pays rent may 7th, 2021, when is the rental supposed to expire?
Is it legal for the landlord to serve a quit notice and expect the tenant to vacate the premiseson or before 6th april 2022, citing expiration of rent as his reason?

Is there a way out or should the tenant just pack out when stated(6th April 2022) cause the rent would still be counting by then?

Landlords just don't give quit notice

If you have been naughty to him or your fellow neighbors in your compound

Make peace with everyone one

You can't live alone in this earth

Be friendly, speak with your landlord and have of mind

It's very rare to see landlord giving quit notice just one year

Michelle70:
investment is all about risk, pls if u have answer to my question, I'd appreciate

Use that money to buy land and start developing some part of the land

Revolution2022:
What is the fate of loan apps who are yet to recover their loan?

They have entered one chance

Atimjessy:
I just signed up on nairaland today so I can just pour out my mind.
I have been coming to this site for almost a year now because this is where I get latest and trending news.
I live with my brother who cares about me a lot but he has been too strict with me. I FEEL CAGED! Can you imagine I don't have a Facebook account, I can't use WhatsApp, I don't even have a bank account. If someone wants to send me money, I usually use our neighbor's son account.
He monitors my calls and contact list.
I only use e-mail because he said I will be using it for future registrations.
I envy my friends a lot. I'm in my mid-teens.
I am just fed up.

I think you have to look for ways of getting money across to you then leave a note for him and move to wherever your parents are immediately

How will you get admission being indoors

How will you make friends being indoors

How will you go for Jamb classes staying indoors

You can still be who you want to be while staying with your parents

If your parents can't train you them learn a skill before your time runs out

Comradewhy:
That is not care that is stupidity from your brother,if you are above 13 why then Is he treating you like a kid.
Tell him you despise that attitude,if he doesn't agree with you then leave his house and go get elsewhere to begin your own life.

She doesn't need to be confrontational

There may be more to what she wrote

Heartbroken05:
Good morning nairaland families.

I have been in a relationship with my gf for the past 8years and this year I planned to Marry her.

Last year, I took her to my sis to learn her business which she did and my sis showed her everything in 3 months, which should have take upto a year for someone to complete learning. I begged my sis to show everything about the business and take her to where she buy her goods. I finally opened a shop for her after 3 months and she started doing well.

There is this a guy she usually talk to but always tell me he is just a mere friend who makes her laugh only not until recently I suspected something must be attached. I had argument with her this December which resulted slapping her slightly twice. I really felt bad and quickly apologize and also told my people to beg her on my behalf.

But since then she has been acting so strangely, so recently, I call this my girl and the guy pick up and told me she is busy and I should not call her anymore, I was shocked and think this is actually a joke, he told me he knows I'm dating her and he is dating her also and nothing I can do. I was really heart broken and down that day.

But she later chat me that it's nothing to worry about. So recently, I went to pray about this and it was revealed this guy has charmed my GF and he is planning to destroy her. Four different spiritual people said same thing that the girl has been charmed and they had turn her against me by this guy.

I know I shud move on but i really love my gf and I don't want her to regret this later, as I was told she will eventually see the reality soon and will definitely wants to come back. I'm just so sad this is happening to me right now.

Please do you think I should fight this to the end or just leave and watch how this guy will destroy her. The guy has nothing and has been collecting money from her and even tell her to leave the shop I rented for her also.

At this stage you are an obstacle to an intruder

Your life doesn't worth to be gambled with

Just leave her the shop you open for her was her farewell gift from you

Wether the guy charmed her or not is not the issue

The issue now is that if you don't withdraw you may be used for the sacrifice

So, let her go and end it there

Wether she came out successfull or not is no longer your business

You warned her but she walked into it herself

So that means she has been double dating all these while

Law of survival is me/you first

Even when she comes back to beg you, you don't know if it's for good or bad

Connected1:
It's obvious you don't even have sense.



If she sends other children errands and leaves her own children, that's not hatred probably she fees those ones are more matured for the job

Women loves children irrespective if who gave birth to who

So far you are a mother you will live them all, especially at children level


Tell me that the bolded is about yourself alone and I will know that you are completely foolish.

Is because you are a beast that's why you are masturbating on a woman topic

Connected1:
Be typing rubbish you hear.

If you don't know what to say, just keep quiet.

There are so many persons here that were maltreated by our aunts, uncle's wife and brother's wife. The worst is when the so called relation of yours has money than your family.
His wife can kill you.

My Uncle's Wife is begging for forgiveness now they even organized a family meeting because they can now see that we are grown, successful and can do without them.

But I will rather go to Ukraine and fight for that Comedian President than forgive her.

Spits.

Am I your uncle wife ?
If you had a bad experience it's not my business

If you don't know what to say just keep quiet

I spoke for myself not for your uncle wife

Ewu

ShenTeh:
This one too dey. I never hear am before.

It means if you don't like a particular meat,
Don't share it with your teeth

Desusi:
Naira landers, kindly advise me on what to do.

l am over 60 years old, a widower. By the grace of God, l was blessed with three children of which two are graduates with good grades from reputable universities here in Nigeria, one is still undergraduate before the departure of my late wife some years back.

As a retired man with meager money, I decided to manage a little business which barely gives me much money. One of these my children, a professional, though not teacher, is currently residing with me doing teaching job in different places as part time, pending when he would get a much better job.

We are living in my personal house. l would single handedly pay electricity bills, lawnman, etc. My son would not want to help in any way, not even with pure water of #10 claiming that he is with his father.

Efforts to convince him to assist me is not yielding positive result, instead he would pick quarrels with me. His senior sister has married, while the junior brother is still in the school as dependant, what sort of counseling do you think he needs to change.

I am afraid even if this boy owns shop rite in future, he would not help either.

Why not look for responsible youths around your area to talk to him and advise him to get his own accommodation at least let's start from that

Let see if he will starve himself

He must be responsible if not he will become a liability in future