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todaynewsreview:
This is just my personal observation but for a while, I've observed this trend and can't really tell why. Even car owners or drivers, as soon as they stepped out of their vehicles, one of the first things they go for is their phones on their hands.

This is a global trend and not just among Nigerians along. Though, it's called handset as most persons will argue, the meaning of the word "handset" doesn't necessarily mean holding it all the time. Handset simply means a "Mobile Phone".

Is the pocket or bags not good enough for keeping of phones? Even as I write this, I keep observing same scenario. You may make your research on this too if this hypothesis is valid or not.

What do you think is the reason?

That's while it's called mobile phone

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

Honestly, it's going to be a calamity for the entire families
Just respect yourself, your sister may ride you off

Family issues can't be erased out in a home where fathers and mothers stays

Most issues are not well handled and it brings more problems

Avoiding it is like postponing the evil day

Kriss216:
Cowards!


As a man, always be the troublemaker in your home. Your wife should be the one saying "oh he's back, another trouble will soon start".

Anytime your wife demand war, give her battle. Don't always sell your dignity in order to maintain a peaceful home. We make war to live in peace.

Always take your drugs and stop reasoning from the reverse side of your brain

Analysiscorner:
I have noticed that married people hardly continue to stay in the same house they were previously living with their spouses after their spouses' death.
What is the wisdom behind the act, please, somebody.

Of course you should know that the house reminds them of the exit of one of them

So changing his former residence will bring a new house to the heart and life goes on without the departed loved ones

oyin44:
Even their mama and papa can't stop them..

Them be born throw way

GboyegaD:
He should be dismissed and prosecuted.

That too harsh, his rank should be reduced

BadRadio:
Some partners can be good with all the sex style and have got gargantuan stamina.... while some may not be too interested about sex, but have got an interesting mindset.


Which will you pick?

Get the one that have sense and you will value her more than styles

Mabel45:
Hey guys...
What's the best way to get rid of an ex who wouldn't let you be after breakup.
I met this guy and we dated for a few months, I observed he wasn't caring including other negative attitudes, I complained bitterly about it, instead he broke up with me with the excuse that I complain a lot.

When this happened I just accepted it and moved on, after two weeks he came back to my inbox to say Hi, asking about my new boyfriend and all, since October till now he shows up in my inbox... His only concern is about my relationship"how is my boyfriend?" I will come around soon, you can come with your boyfriend so I can take you guys out" he will unblock and block me anytime he wants. If I block him and unblock him for sometime he will come back again.. infact this is annoying. The question is how do I deal with this pestering guy disturbing my life?

Ignore every communication from him

Vicktorhmustjap:
exactly what I'm doing now... It's not easy though

That's good to hear from you
You will over come all those tempting you

Any one that rushes into marriage will definitely rush out

Iceprinzaaman:
I don't know why I hate and detest women so much, even my own sister. Please should I be worried? If my sister ask me for 10k (I've the complete money) but I would send 5k and tell her to use her body to get the remaining 5k it's non of my fuckin business. Afterall she has other brothers, I'm not the only son. (it's becus she's my sis that's why I'm helping her sef)

I have nothing to do with ladies except sex. Even the sex, I always try as much as I can to make it transactional. Everyone knows I don't help or do favors to women and I don't expect any fvckin help or favors from them.

There's this runs girl I brought to my house last week around 8pm, she said a night is 7k, I gave her the money, later she said I should offer her food nw. I told her if you're hungry, go outside, buy food and eat afterall I've paid you already, Infact immediately I had sex with her I told her to leave my house around 10pm. She was like bros abi you said a night nw.

I guess there was harmattan this morning, I saw some of my colleagues drinking hot coffee at the office canteen, so a female colleague asked me to buy her a cup of coffee, I told her "no bi only a cup of coffee, na a cup of agbo, I go buy for you rubbish" ...she vex but I don't care.

I ride Honda accord popularly known as 'evil spirit'....so another new female staff asked me to please give her a lift. I told her "no bi only lift na forklift I go give you" I wind up and drove off. My guys in my car was laughing and saying that's not fair. But I don't care

I'm 31 years old, I can't remember the last time was in a relationship, no plans of settling down sef, no lady has bought a gift for me in my life, not even the boxers and singlets simps do complain about.

Women said I'm heartless, stingy, rude, wicked, I'm not romantic, e.t.c. the funny part is I don't give a fvck about what they say. And since I joined nairaland 2018 it's been worse, from frying pan to fire. My mother has talked to me about this hatred for women yet no changes.

Please is this normal

After reading this nonsense write up, I wanted to be negative on you but because you came out of a woman, I decided to be calm with my response, not withstanding that you don't give a Bleep

But one thing I will assure you is that, if you continue this way and get married with this mindset

You are finished

Just remain single

Dreadlock69:
Why does the signs and symptoms of sexual infection rarely shows on the female body?
For a guy it's easy notice , because he will be acting funny ,walking funny , funny and fast hand movement , you not necessarily a close friend will even notice.
Furthermore, for girls they will be walking like nothing happened, still smiling not knowing they have infection.

Women do get infection and it takes time to come out because theirs are internal while guys are external and can be easily detected or noticed

Vicktorhmustjap:
Hello everyone.

Please I sincerely need your help in terms of advice and counselling.

I am a young man in my mid thirty, has a beautiful wife and 2 kids. I have about 32 staff working for me. Just recently, December to be precise I started developing an emotional attachment to one of my staff. I told her I want her to join me to see a movie and she said she was travelling and she won't be around but January was fine. I knew she was avoiding the outing so I bought a ticket to the movies and sent it to her she never showed up and I didn't call her until work resumed on January 4th and I asked why she didn't come for the movies and she apologise that she was busy.

I told her we can go see the movies now since she initially wanted January, she said she can't that she doesn't want to be seen with a married man, and besides my wife is nice to her and also she doesn't want any girl with her husband when she eventually gets married so she won't want to be with anyone's husband that I belong to someone else.

I told her I don't want sex from her, all I want is from her is a squish relationship. she practically turned it down that she can't because she will be hurt in the end because belong to someone else.

Honestly, I felt hurt because I truly love her. I am more emotionally drawn to her even more than before. We spend considerable time chatting every day and on phones in the evening till night after the day's job. She is not so comfortable spending time in my office as she told me the day I was not in the office everyone kept asking after the boss from her and she felt embarrassed and asked them why can't call to know why I am not in the office.

she said we should please remind her the way it is, just chatting and phone calls and she can't afford to be seen around with a married man.

I really love her and I feel hurt as she is turning me down. I wish I can stop loving her, I really don't know how to stop loving her as I really wish not to hurt her.

Please I need the mature minds here to help give workable suggestions.

please Move to front page

lala

You are the problem here

Stop loving her and love your wife more

Just respect yourself, simple

ChizzyBuna:
My distant aunty (my dad's sister) came back to Nigeria after over 20 years abroad.
The last time I saw her was in the 90's
She married a white man and based there.

At night, We were having dinner and she is a stroy teller. She starts telling stories about her childhood with my dad
I was just over the parlor watching football.
Until i overheard hershe said something wild and crazy.

Ahhhhhhhhh as I hear this I just weak
So u mean I would have been born in U.K instead of Nigeria.Chaiiiiiiii

I feel like giving him a HEAVY KNOCK for making this kind of messed up decision to stay back in Nigeria.

That one is already gone and dusted even before you were born

Just move on

Lordedifice1:
No we don't have sex often like that we can have it twice a month some months we don't even do it at all

Is alright just let him know why the sudden change

Promise47:
Hello Nairaland
Good morning to everyone.

My name is Promise I'm in my mid 20s. currently I have graduated but still having some outstanding courses (full session) .

I graduated from one of the state university.

My problem is that I'm an Amateur boxer (Paramount king boxing) Lagos and still need to clear my courses before I can take my results. Things haven't been going well with me, the people training me in boxing has told me to choose between my Career in boxing and the school I'm going ( because it's really affecting me I can't go to training anymore) .

I don't know what to do should I just leave this degree and focus on my boxing career ( may be I may travel abroad when opportunity comes) or should I finish my school because this degree has been drawing me back ward(since 2015 I was suspended and I came back in 2019 ) now I graduated but I'm still owing my school delsu (9 outstanding courses) .

I'm really suffering because my parents don't have much, but they are still struggling to make sure I go.

I'm really tired.

please I need advice. please u can insult me but I also advice me thank you I'm the first son I have two sisters.

The race is already on the last Lap so that loose strength

Go back to school and finish the unfinished course it's still better than starting another degree abroad if you find yourself there

By the time you complete your degree here you can go for more advance studies

After your full graduation, you can now focus fully in your boxing career

The way to success in never easy

Don't kill the spirit, pick up the vibe and as your name implies, promise yourself that you can do it

Determination is the key

Anfieldboss:
I'm not the OP, but the reason most men go for younger girls is because it is easier for them to conceive. One does not also pray for delay in conception in marriage, an older lady will be more worried about hitting menopause than a younger lady.

I get your point about menopause

But in this case she is still at child bearing age

What if the man is impotent won't he look for an older woman with children or single parent

Lets follow our heart whenever we get to a junction and can't really decide

cescky:
Its not your fault..

Some ones unfortunate son is toiling and feeding your insensitive black jackass...

Person whey de toil for money won't be here yarning garbage be this insensitive.

If you didn't have anything to add, you didn't need to come dampen his spirit,

If you have enough sense, you will read that message again and understand that I just said the fact

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

Your guy is just weired and he loves crazy and weird things

You need to stop him from those crazy things

Counselling and constantly rejection of going to the hotel with him will help in resetting his brain

He will cheat if he wants to cheat, even if you stop giving him sex

If you try your best he did not stop it, just leave him and look else where

Iyaebe:
My friend came to visit last Sunday and met my cousin brother who came visiting, she asked who he was and I told her then I noticed she steal glances at him at intervals and not fully interested in our discussion. Ever since then she has sort of made our house her second home and I don't need to be told that she's very interested in him.Whenever she comes around and we are discussing, she will just be nodding and contributing with few words while her main work is to be stealing glances at him and this has made me so angry that each time she calls that she's coming I'll tell her I'm not home but she will still come.Yesterday when she called to inform me that she was coming which I told her I was not home and I will branch her place when I'm returning. I knew she will come, so I went to hide in my room, and behold when I came out,I met her and my cousin having some conversation and I'm sure she initiated it,I didn't even give her face as I was so annoyed as to why a lady will present herself so cheap for a man she barely knows.Now I want to fully stop her from coming to our house but I don't know where to pick on her because she's a nice person aside this cheap silly attitude she's displaying. How do I go about it?

I don't even understand what you are bothering yourself for

She loves your cousin and she is a real goal getter

Don't create enemies with the three of you

Your cousin never told you that he hates her presence, so what's your own

Just leave them, she likes him and the are full adults

If your brother uses her and dump her, then shame will be allover her and if your brother goes on to have a beautiful relationship with her, the credit will go to you

Just leave them abeg, unless you want to date him then declare on time

PaulEzenwa:
I know there are lots of responsible, homely, beautiful and good women on Nairaland, so I'm trying to pick a life partner for my Cousin

1) He is igbo

2) 28+

3) A very successful Programmer and Crypto expert

4) He is very very super comfortable

5) You would be treated and taken care of like a Queen

6)He is interested in a serious relationship that would lead to marriage

7) It is a big plus if you are igbo but every tribe is welcomed

If you are tired of games and would want something serious kindly send me a message on WhatsApp on 07054832748

So I can tell you more about my wonderful cousin

Leave that guy to sort himself out pls

He is not a Virgin, so why can't he najs his choice by himself

Lordedifice1:
Good afternoon Family
What does it mean?
Was chatting with my gf this morning and I asked her to come meet at my house she said NO! That this year no sex that if i can't handle it i should forget about it. Although we had sex last year but this year she just said no.
Well i am not an addict to sex i just told her it's ok that it's been 2months when last we had sex that i can stay away from sex. But its odd anyways and she never discussed anything like this to me she just said it to me this morning.
What do i do guys, because i am thinking of avoiding any form of hug or kiss from her and also thinking of staying on my own.

Experts in the house
Your opinions please

Before a woman will tell a guy no more sex, sge has already suppressed her own sex urge

So even if you don't hug her or kiss her, once she has made up her mind, she no send

Why not seat her down to find out what the problem is

But I think it's because the relationship has not yeided anything apart from steady sex

Ayobiggie59:
About 2 months ago I noticed my left arm to my shoulder is paining me, I thought maybe I slept on it while sleeping but since then I've been experiencing d pain in d left arm.

5 days ago I've been experiencing. Chest pain and tight chest and this make me scared.

I went to check my BP. I checked it thrice. The first one was 145/86
2nd was 148/86
3rd was 148/81.

Pls medical practitioner in d house pls help me interpret this and tell me what to do pls.

I'm just 29 and a half years old

Change your matrass or foam if they are two soft and deeps you in the middle while sleeping

The other way to be sure of my advice is for you to sleep on the floor for the next two weeks with a mat let's see if the difference is clear

Deborah200299:
Good morning everyone , I want to report my mum for abusing my 12 years old step sister both physical , verbal and emotional and I don't like it because she didn't ask to be born from a married man my dad caused it and she should abuse him not her. I don't even know why she is treating the dog who cheated on her nicely while the innocent girl is suffering for his mistakes. My younger brothers 13 and 15 are also copying her and they have started to abuse her too. Tears has become her foods and I am tired of my mum abusing the innocent girl , yesterday she strangle her just because she didn't wash my younger brother white jeans properly and I lost respect for her , I have insulted her for the first time in my life even though she hit me but I don't care I have to save my sister . She is my birth mother but I will not support her . I don't care if she rot in jail because she doesn't deserve the title mum. If you know any human rights in uyo please let me know

Just be careful about what is happening, your mother can be dangerous to you if you report her to the authority

Ask your dad to return the child to her mother

That's the best you can do

Salami71:
Please what is the best bank to open an account with for my 2 months old child What are the things I should look out for ?

All banks are OK at that age don't expect a bank to give you free biess for opening or running a account with them

You can open an account to start saving in your child future not that you expect the bank to give you bonuses

Mumben:
Greetings my people, pls how can I get rid of a particular rat that has refused to die or leave my house. We have been living in this apartment for 3 years no rats and suddenly, I spotted a rat. I don't know how it gained entrance to my apartment.

I dropped rat poison (kill and dry) but surprisingly, d rat refused to eat it. I am so pissed. Pls help a Sister, my greatest fear is Lassa fever.

Pls house, recommend a very effective poison even if it is the one that will kill without drying, I don't mind.

I'm this case, you have to buy all poisonous rat poison you see those guys selling in traffic

Keep trying all till you start hearing dead rat smell at home

The worst will be if the rat is pregnant and can't find her way out

Then your home will be a good place for the rat to have babies and you experience rats Republic in your home

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

If you like marry a woman half your age it makes no difference

A woman is a woman with the same threats as a woman

You only get to see or know more of a woman if you trigger them

It's best you marry a friend that understands you and live peaceful than to marry a younger girl whom you think you can handle but by the time she starts to display

You will be living with fear and regrets

All women are the same but looking beautiful in different ways

Veetee:
Please advise house, I am considering getting a Honda Accord (Eod) for Uber, the seller was honest enough to advise me not to use it since it’s a V-6 engine. So what if it was 4 plugs,
Please what is the best car to use for Uber on a budget of 650 to 800. Nigerian used

That budget won't even get a brand new keke or that small bus called kowope

But that budget can get you a kabu kabu

Then be prepared to attend mechanic workshop once a week

Prospertochu:
Yes she is free to leave I can't kill myself for her , I will still be taking care of my kids from afar.

It takes madness to correct nonsense