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Ayobiggie59:
How possible is this?

If you sleep on an old foam that sinks you in the middle because it's too soft, your shoulders and chest suffers it most and your heart feels it hence the blood pressure reading

Brighton1:
Good day nairalanders.

My neighbor's son fight with his father almost every week, they fight in public without shame and people in the estate are tired of settling their fight. I don't live in a face me I slap you apartment, I live in an estate, this neighbor I'm talking about lives in the next compound, just a fence that demarcate us.

The son should be 23 years old, and he respect people in the estate so much, he greets alot, he can run errands for you without stress. Sometimes he do come to my house to charge his phone whenever my generator is on, If I'm about to wash my car he will say bros don't worry I will wash it, before you say jack he's done.

Some of my clothes I don't wear anymore I do give him, sometimes I do give him money atleast 2k to hold side. He's fond of saying thank you a million times, Infact after a week he will still be saying bros thank you for the other day.

People including me, do wonder why this boy fight his father? they throw punches at each other, better Gidigbo....Anytime they fight, they do speak their language and the boy always repeat one particular statements, and I don't really understand their Lang. (I won't disclose their tribe to avoid tribal bigotry, becus this forum need to work on that) So i asked a friend that speak and understand the lang, it means "you ruined my life"

For those of you that would say I should mind my business. Normally, I don't like to interfere in people's matter, Infact I'm an introvert, I just have few friends but I see this boy as my younger brother and I'm not happy with the way he fights with his father, I would like to advice him to stop but I don't want to force him.

Nairalanders please how do I go about it? For the boy to use that statement "you ruined my life“ to his father, something must be wrong.

Sesy him down and make good use of your last paragraph to find out what exactly is the problem with him and his dad

The truth may come out before he kills his dad

Preciouschinwe:
Good evening everyone. I'm in a confused state right now, and I would like if experienced mothers in here will share their experiences with me.lately I have been having thoughts of going to school of nursing. But the negative comments from people have disencouraged me comments like how hard it is to get admitted, too expensive and time consuming for a mother and a wife, Thanks in advance.

If your passion is nursing, enroll into school if nursing while you still take jam for BSc nursing

No time to waste time

Ayobiggie59:
About 2 months ago I noticed my left arm to my shoulder is paining me, I thought maybe I slept on it while sleeping but since then I've been experiencing d pain in d left arm.

5 days ago I've been experiencing. Chest pain and tight chest and this make me scared.

I went to check my BP. I checked it thrice. The first one was 145/86
2nd was 148/86
3rd was 148/81.

Pls medical practitioner in d house pls help me interpret this and tell me what to do pls.

I'm just 29 and a half years old

Have you tried changing your foam mattress, it could be too weak for your comfort to sleep and wake up healthy

That alone can trigger BP

lifeiscomplicat:
Hello guys

I've been a member here for 10 years. I had to create another account for my story. I just have a quick question for you guys to help my life.

My brother and I struggled together because we had no one to cater for our needs as needed. Our parents were just struggling.

We're both over 30 years old now. I am older.

Now, we both struggled that he should go abroad. After trying many times, God answered our prayers and it worked for him. Having spent some years abroad, how do you guys think he could help me too? Should he let him join him abroad by all means or he should just give me money and start business here?

If I should art business here, how much do you think he could give me to suffice me?

Plead and discuss with him to bring you over there

No business can start and stand well if you don't have upto 10mil

Before your family will say you are a failure for not being able to move your business forward

Niece:
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They applied for death and got approval so fast

wunmi590:


When many parents are still want to register their ward there, just because of the educational gain in the school...

If dem open today, they will see more student, and beside, they are currently doing online class, while school is closed.

Unless they reduce their school fees by 70% before any sensible parent will enrol their child there

Ayanwukoma:
The first wife he married didn't last a year he fired her, just because he saw her with another man at a restaurant eating.


the second wife, is presently in her father's house, because he says she doesn't listen to instructions, since 2012.



just this evening, a group of elder men from his third wife family came visiting my father to talk to his brother....I knew they must have been another issue...


so this left me asking is he the problem or his wives?
lalasticlala

Even at the third marriage, you are yet to understand that your uncle is a difficult man to live with

Let him continue marrying and sending his wives away

By old age, he will stay alone

donleo92:
Goodevening nairalanders. please I got this issue really disturbing me.
My boss wife, came to the work place and told our secretary(female) to please help tell her about the husbands activities at work. That she thinks she is losing her husband. Infact she was close to tears. she complained that her husband comes late every night, that he doesn't have time for her and her kids anymore. Infact she is done been spiritual, that she wants to go physical. she wanted the secretary to be her eyes and ears in the company. but we all leave by 5 after work. just our boss most times stays back. the secretary been close to me came for my advice today. honestly I told her to stay off the case. what's your advice if you were in my shoe

She should stay off, she was mot employed to be an informant

badoh:
Though I'm yet to confront my wife on this as I need to gauge public comment if this act of her is tenable. This is how it goes.
My mum called me last week to know how we were doing( myself, my wife and our children). In such greetings, she will pray for us on the phone and wish us well. However, she told me she has been calling my wife's line for a couple of days but the number always returned busy. I never attached importance to this cos I thought it could be network issue. This week again, she called me to extend her greetings and told me to inform my wife that she has been trying to reach her on phone but her number is busy.
I was curious and wanted to know what actually happened. Around 10pm yesternight, my wife gave me her phone to charge for her as she was already feeling dizzy. I collected the phone and remembered what my mum told me. I went to check if my mum number was blacklisted on her phone, alas, my mum's number was actually blacklisted. I can't really comprehend why she would do such. I'm so disappointed in her for what she did. I had to snap the blacklisted part in case she wants to deny it if I eventually confront her. My mum is not the troublesome type, very calm and kind.
I dont know if I should confront her on this or I should keep it within myself. I can never think of doing such to her own parents.
Has anyone experience this before?

Tell her to give her phone that you want to call your mom, if she refuses then confront her immediately

Whatever is her reason, it doesn't hold water

And remind her that she too will get same measure of she doesn't change

Fred166:
My job requires critical thinking and full of deadlines, I work from mon - Fri, I return home as late as 9pm, my weekends seems like I'm working from home. Seriously, I don't want to manage her business in addition to my work, Please I'm human, I'm not a robot or machine, blood runs through my vains not wires.

The Business I opened for my wife is worth over a million naira, she sells baking flour, baking utensils and baking ingredients. She is also skillful in baking cakes, she has customers. She delivers cakes to Mat-ice, for those of us in Benin will know Mat-ice.

Though she is 5 months pregnant (our first child) but that is not enough reason why she would stay at home besides she's fond of it even before the pregnancy, she goes to her shop 10 or 11am return 3pm, sometimes she won't go at all. if I question her she would say she's working from home that if any customer need her services, she will send the maid to her shop to attend to them. (and that wasn't part of our agreement with the maid)

There are some lazy traits she's exhibiting that I'm just enduring, I can't even write them here or speak out else even my great grandfather and my ancestors will come out from their grave with cane, put me in the middle and flog endurance out of my body. Honestly speaking I've really endured enough.

Now that we are expecting our child I want her to be hard working, so she can support our child financially, everything shouldn't be me alone. She's a graduate from BIU and she can't manage her business.

Please don't suggest sales girl, I don't trust them, aside from that I just employed a maid and she's on salary of 20k every month. I can't afford to pay any worker for now.

Please how do I manage her business, I feel I've wasted money venturing into the business she knows and understands.

It take madness to remove laziness from a spouse life

You to stand on your feet and tell her openly that the lazy traits she is exhibiting will put her into embarrassing situation

Let her know that you are building her for the future and that if she refuses to stand and face her business, whatever situations that comes her way she will have herself to blame

Leave her with those words she will think twice

worriedhubby:
I have been married to my wife for 10years now. My 1st child (7 years) has some health challenge. My daughter's challenge was diagnosed at age 3. Same year, I came back from work to see my child having crisis. I asked my wife why she didn't take my DD to the hospital. She responded, "no more hospital in this house". I tried calling a friend to drive me an my girl to the hospital, she got the phone from me and ended the call. Her words were , " if you are aware what is causing your child's illness, you better let me know ". I kept focused. Got my girl the needed medical help. Next day when I got home, I asked her, she refused answering. I later told the priest that wedded us, who later spoke with her.

In 2020, I got a call from a church in Port Harcourt, that someone brought my picture to the pastor. That I am the evil man causing my wife's and daughter's illness. The person that took my picture is my wife's brother. I was mad! But family and friends helped me to keep calm. A month later, my wife wouldn't UnCloth in my presence. If I entered the room while she is dressing or the bathroom while she is bathing, she will quickly cover up. When I confronted her, she told me it is because she believes my "hands are not clean ". That she was told that I am occultic before she even joined me. That because I am "hot tempere","don't pray certain prayer points ", she believes that I have some dark powers. I did my best to refute her claim in a calm way. But was deeply hurting. I reported her to a Pastor at Mountain of Fire where she now worships. She changed and told the man that she believes I am a child of God.

Just few weeks ago, I picked a paper under our bed where my wife wrote to someone how her brother had a dream in December and was told that I am my wizard causing my child's illness. In that write up, my wife also claimed she had her own revelation that I am in some occultic powers. When I showed her the paper, she tried to cause a scene, but I left her. I only asked, "are all these true?" "Why are you bent on labeling me what I am not?"
Later that day, she came up with lies, that the paper was just some prayer points she was putting down.

Just yesterday, someone called to inform me that he was with a certain owner of prayerhouse when my wife called to tell the woman why she believes I am occultic.

I have tried to ignore her, but I am gradually getting worried. What is she really up to? She doesn't believe in the medical diagnosis for my DD, hence, she won't give the child the necessary medication if I am not home.

How does someone believes that the hubby is occultic, and wants to harm her, yet still tries to initiate s3x with the said husband? When she had a surgery last year, I was the person cooking for her till she could get back on her feet. Why did she not refuse the foods? Finally, who knowingly get married to someone she believes is occultic, then start running to prayer houses for deliverance?

Could it be my wife is mentally sick? Or she is projecting who she is on me?

I think she has been mingling with people that are telling her all she wants to hear

Then couple with the fact that she is yet to ha e another baby, she is now behaving weired

I don't want her to dump the baby with you, so take it calmly with her and you have exhausted all points of telling her that you are not whom she said that you are

So, ignore that part until she says she is not staying again, then give her the freedom to walk away

Maybe by then she will still come back to her senses

KVN1:
lol..I'm not married. Everyone is trying to make ends meet and I'm still being looked up to

Just take life easy so that you can be there for us

Look after your self then think of how to raise the family

KVN1:
Good afternoon all.
I dropped out of school at 200level because I could no longer cope with my responsibilities at home and my studies altogether. Had to defer so I can continue much later in future after I achieve balance. Now I am trying to learn a skill,but for two months now, I have only been able to accumulate just a little more than ten working days at work.
When I don't go to work, I go in search of menial jobs but everything now seems like a rat race. Time is really flying and I find myself going to work (as an apprentice) on an empty stomach most times.

I can't even cope or even concentrate with neither skill nor school because of I'm so broke..

I didn't go anywhere today.. just in bed, hungry and confused.

What do you think I should do?
what's the way forward?

Where are your parents in this picture

You said family responsibilities made you to drop your education, are you married

ThiefnubuBandit:
Useless job

Better than being jobless

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Great woman and a real man there.. wannabe redpillers come and call him a simp for accepting oo.. bunch of online weaklings..
Or is this not your mate here that respect and understand women..
My women just dey give me joy.. confidence overload.. blessings to the man for being sensible..
Women are indeed great and wonderful..

Thanks for appreciating women, God will definitely give you one that will give you everlasting joy and sweet family

lordaltruist:
Dear Nairalanders,

I got this job in 2019 and it turns out that now I am the only male senior staff except from the security guard. Way back in 2019 there were 2 other guys but they left in 2020 after our company transferred to a different location and since then, I have been the only male staff other than the security guard whose job is not in internal affairs.

She is actually my senior colleague and way older than myself but over the past year and some months now, we have been so friendly though we don't discuss relationship together or talk anything boyfriend and girlfriend together but something seems to be odd in her look whenever I talk about a girl likewise myself I felt odd when she talks about a guy she flirted with.

In my office every other staff have a nickname for us both even my boss was the one who initiated the nickname because of how close we are and even though I nurse getting under her skirts, I do not have yet the muscle to tell her that and lately I am beginning to like her more as we share everything about ourselves.

I have been to her house and can go to her house at anytime and she was the one who persuaded me to return to the company after I didn't want to return when it relocated and also convince my boss to retain me; sometimes she buys me food in the office likewise myself and always like to have me around her like working together and whenever she needs assistance over a job, she will want me to be the person to help.

I notice she and my other female (married) colleague who work in the same department with us had almost had squabble because of whom I should be assisting and since she's the most senior colleague she won over that one.

She is very single and above her 40s but I don't mind as age does not define my relationship and right now I am growing so fund of her in a way I can't stop imagining and I need your advise on how to relate my feelings and make her confess hers to me.

All criticism and advise will be duly accepted.

If you feel that you are man enough, approach her

Don't wait for her to confess to you

But if you will go into her life to break her heart, just don't disrespect yourself

Stay away from her

You may loose your job if it doesn't go well

Johnames:
Am an introvert, so my girlfriend came around, am not the gisting type, I wish I was, so there is this guy that stays with me, the guy is cool, I have no problem with the guy, so the problem now is that, he is always gisting with my babe and whenever they are gisting, the 2 of them will laugh so hard, the thing come dey make me feel somehow, I will be outside, I go they hear the 2 of them dey laugh for inside house, I don't know how to handle this situation, what will be the best thing to do here.

You have to caution your babe, tell her to withdraw from going into deep communication with your guy

If she really loves you, she will adjust and the guy, if he is smart, he will understand

But if they have gone deep in laughing out loud, be ready to lose her to him

Most women don't like introverts because they make things go bored while together

You too learn to be lively

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Fragility6:
Video doesn't change anything. There is one here were the guy is lying on the bed and a priest is close by him. Videos are attached but I can confidently tell you that those guys are scammers. Painfully enuf dem still dey continue enjoy thier scams and people still dey fall for am almost one year after starting to post about it.

Well, if he makes a video and post his pictures and medical reports I will compare both faces

Let the continue with their tricks and I will bring out more ways to deflate them

Their was one that had an accident and I requested for his video and I saw him on video with local orthopedic procedure and drugs, I sent money to him

I will always try to give so far I can see live prove

snoopanddre:
Pls friends ,Iam currently down with bladder cancer at the national hospital Abuja. Am to do Radiotherapy, Iam at the Male surgical ward bed number 16. Please who can link me to them (OCI Foundation) for assistance and God will bless you abundantly, am in serious pain. If you wish to help personally even if it is 1 naira , my account is Gt bank 0024912434. Raji. I. S
Phone number 08065423014 for confirmation
Thanks in advance.

Put up a video of yourself on admission and talk to us then post medical reports with your pictures on display

The good people of this forum will touch your heart as we do for others that have shown prove of being in distress

We need prove to your sown that you are in a critical condition

meobizy:
That was quick. Likely a South African female. Now he should stop feeling like a woman going though menopause. Men do not suffer the condition.

But they suffer a more painful one called Postrate

Efe42:
Hello guy's good evening I'm kind off little weird asking such here but I need little advice guy's I meet this girl some year's ago let's say 2 but we're just friends back then, but time flies as there say probably fast - ward to November last year we meet again this time I took her my place of resident we talk alot the following day she came we had s*x.

So she keep coming and before then I've break up with my ex girlfriend she's too proud and she's always like what's trending and I can't take's her shit any more I call for break up but my current girlfriend is very cool and gentle but so attractive.

But now she said she doesn't want sex anymore that' sex is waken her in her spiritual life prayers really hard except if I'm ready to see her parents introduction!!

I've already told her I can't be in a very were sex is unavailable but I still love her Matured minds pls...

I love her Intelligence, did you hear where she said, unless you meet her parents

She has to stop giving you sex until you did the needful and nothing sensible about insisting that it's about her spiritual life

So, it's up to you to arrange your family to meet her parents of course you know the reasons or you enjoy your relationship with out sex

You are the one to decide, not us

Uyi168:
..
somehow, the man must have pushed her..

I dy look you

Lol, both of them knows the problems they have

finishmatter:
I know this hurts u but it the truth.
If I may ask: have you ever given your man a 100k?
You know it's mostly likely impossible to do that, right?

Is my man crippled

Uyi168:
..


I see what you are trying t do there.
let's see if we can pin the blame on the man..
You ladies are simply unbelievable.

ozwor

Lol, we are just helping to solve his problem

Lucaslookers:
I feel so pained about what's going on in my home right now even though my marriage is still very young but my wife has cheated on me, gotten pregnant and aborted for another man.
We have fought and our families have gotten involved and there's a little peace but my mind is unsettled. I have never engaged in unfaithful activities since dating to marriage with this woman but she has been unfair to me. The only way my mind will be at rest is if I take my revenge and go and have an affair outside too, after that we will be even and can start afresh to practice fidelity.
I feel so pained and I don't deserve this.

Just do what you feel like so far that will calm your anger on her

But remember that if it's in her to keep cheating, then it's a bigger problem

Why not find out what her problems are

Is it that you do t satisfy her or you don't provide for her

Does it mean that she started this silly behavior after marriage

finishmatter:
Let's face it: Relationship is purely and solely transactional! Nothing more nothing less.

The saying: "Money for hand, back for ground" captures this reality. And this is true not just for a prostitute but for your wife and girlfriend.

She feels no emotion nor empathy for you. She is in the relationship mainly and solely for the cash and security a man provides.
She will neither contribute financially not encourage you to make money. She meets her end of the bargain of managing the home while you provide the finance to run the home. Failure to meet your end of the transaction (union) will incur her insubordination

Therefore, men are not expected to invest any emotional gesture on her. It is not your job!
Don’t be deceived by societal or religious expectation that you should love your wife. Lies. She does not love you.

Love, affection and care should be both ways. Not one-sided.

Do not invest your emotions/affection on your wife.

A woman’s love is conditional. She does not deserve a man’s unconditional love.

P.S: WOMEN are INCAPABLE of Love.

Continue till you see yourself inside bottle

Jennyclay:
Good afternoon nairalanders and Happy new year to everyone. I promise to be brief.

My fiance and I hv been dating for 2 years. He's doing well for himself, he's humble, he's quick to apologize even when you're at fault. He calls his mom and siblings regularly, but he don't talk to his Dad. If I ask, he would say forget about him

My fiance has been keeping malice with his father for 3 years now. I don't know what transpired between them because he would never tell me. He act like his father doesn't exist.

His mom and I do talk on phone once in a while. Yesterday I called her to wish her happy new year, we spoke well and she prayed for me. Abt 10 mins later she called back, but this time she was crying, She explained how his son has not been talking to his Father, she said this year 2022 would make it 3 years, she said they have called elders and pastors to talk to him but all to no avail. She said It would be her greatest joy if I also help her talk to him since he loves me so much. We were on the phone for over 45min.

Nairalanders, he's coming to seek my hand in marriage by March but I'm scared and here are my reasons. 1) His he pretending to be nice to me 2) what if we have little misunderstanding when we get married will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years

I was so angry at him, I told him that I'm giving him now till month end to reconcile every conflict or dispute he has with his father else I'm calling our relationship a quit, because this character seems to be a redflag to me. He started begging me, he said I don't understand yet he's not telling me anything.

I'm really confused. Please help a sister.

Since he is keeping the quarrel with his dad an open secret, what happens if it were to be you, will he still be stubborn about it

Well, if he comes for your hand in marriage, tell your family to ask him about his dad and if he says he is alive, let them go to the father as inlaw to be and find out what the problem is

You can't keep such a sensitive ids away from your family
Who knows, your marriage with him can save the situation

But you too can still visit the father to find out what led to such nonsense

Totoismyhome:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have been with my husband for 13 years, 3 years as a married couple. In those 13 years, We have only had sex 5 times, because I have been suffering from candidiasis for over a decade. I can only have sex with him when I apply an anaesthetic gel to my vagina. He claims the whole set up turns him off, and recently, he doesn't even get hard anymore. We conceived our son with a syringe.

He's so insensitive that he takes sides with my employees against me. He claims I am mean to people beneath me. He has quarreled with me because of the cleaner, the nanny, the carpenter etc

We don't live together (we have never really lived together), so he gets househelps to do chores for him, and he sleeps with them sometimes.

Whenever we quarrel, he is always quick to come up with "pseudo-apologies".

I feel he is the most wicked man in the world, and I have made it clear to him that as he is enjoying his youth with all those sl__ts, I will make him suffer in his old age.

I just came here to vent.

You really sound hurt, why not calm down and see if the fault is from you or just one of those crazy things that happens in marriage

You have not even explained anything that one can read and make any suggestions to you

Just seat back and think deep what if he ends your marriage before that time, will you still make him to suffer, how will you have access to him, you should be thinking of how to conceive another child

Kiddwavez:
Can one travel to America without having any family or friends over there?

Good evening nairalanders, I'm seeking for y'all knowledge based on traveling overseas

I'm 26 years of age,I have ND certificate in Health Information Management and I willing to travel out of the country,it has been my dream to live in America but the issue is I neither have a family nor friends over there

Pls if any of you have any idea,I will be glad if y'all can enlighten me more about the procedure if it's possible to travel without having any relative or friends abroad.

Thanks

So far you can afford to pay hotel bills or hook up with a lady and serve her with humility till you find your bearing