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Degunners:
I just need someone to scold me badly, maybe it will help me get sense.

Seriously I can't just believe at my age I still do the things I do.

Right now I am in deep hole of debts from these loan apps. Can you imagine someone taking loans from more than 10 apps? Yes that someone is me.

Presently if I should add up all the loans it will be close or more than 500k. The annoying thing is this is like 3yrs now I have been struggling with these apps.

I once was able to clear all the loans but like a dog going back to it's vomit, I still went back to them (I seriously need delivarence).

Why I'm so ashamed of myself is because I didn't take these loans mostly because I don't have a good source of income but because I don't know how to save and I am very extravagantly wasteful. I loving feeling rich, I can buy beer and flex anyone those I know and those I don't.

Thought getting married will help but for where like I got worst after that.

I seriously don't know how to come out of this mess I dragged myself into. Because these loan apps will only give you 7days loan with very high interest. I have been servicing these loans throughout last year and I don't want to continue this year.

I have already spent more than 200k this month alone on interest alone because I have to borrow again to be able to pay others.

I'm owing the following apps:
1. Fastmoney 70k
2. Imoney 50k
3. Gocash 38k
4. 40k
5. Palm credit 70k and counting this is long over due.
6. Kuda 50k
7. Next credit 21k
8. Mint loan 35k
9. 9jacash 12k
10. Add money 9k
11. Ncash 9k
12. Ducredit 70k
13. Ajeloan 15k
14. Easy Naira 12k.
15. Cashsea 26k

I'm even scared to add the total but this my current reality. Virtually all are 7days loan.

I don't know how a sane human being can get to this stage, I don't want to attribute anything to anyone or some village people. This is my owing making, and I have been living with this burden for long. I was hoping to get a job that will pay me like 500k at once but none for now.

I dont even know what next to do. I have alot of other responsibilities to cater for.

I don't even have friends or relatives I can run to. I am writing this because I deserve all the insults in the whole world. I deserve to the stoned. Though I will never take my life because of this, God forbid but I can't grow with these on my neck and it's really weighing me down.

I can't remember when last I genuinely smiled or laughed.

I'm determined to find a way to over come this problem. That's why I'm here.

I know you guys will come for my head but I'm already in this shot so I will accept any insult. But please if someone can say something to help me a little I will appreciate.

I'm not breathing fine but I'm currently harvesting what I planted.

Wish I can get a counselor or therapist who can help me because I'm scared that even if I suffer and clear these I might not learn my lesson because it has happened before.

What can I do please?

No body will advise you what you already know

It's your life to be a chronic debtor and the people you took loan from will send messages to your contacts and your disgrace will start from there

I only pity the family name you are dragging on the mud

favy19:
hmmmm this one is no longer love ooo it's stress combined

Lol

aminulive:
POLITICSNIGERIA.COM

Information just reaching the POLITICS NIGERIA newsdesk reveals that Oyo State Former Governor, Christopher Alao Akala is dead.

Though details of his death still sketchy at the time of filling this report. It was confirmed that he died last night after returning from Abuja.

Akala, a popular grassroots politician was Governor of Oyo State between 2007 and 2011. The 71 year old was the candidate of the ADP in the 2019 Governorship election in the state.

More to come...

https://politicsnigeria.com/breaking-former-oyo-governor-alao-akala-is-dead/

I wish all this politicians knows that death is the end to all their powerful position

zum19:
Am sick of Lagos, I want to just travel around Nigeria visiting each State, staying in a hotel.

I need change of environment. I think I will start with Enugu, I miss abundance of good fruits and igbo delicacies in Nsukka.

If you can afford the cost of transportation and lodging go ahead

It's part of adventure

2braithe:
So flushing toilet before use will prevent water from splashing on the butt?
Interesting.

You got it wrong, a flushed toilet before use, no matter the splash on you bum bum, it's a clean water

Solosolojohquay:
I thought she will overgrown it when she see onion in her foods she will pick all the onion one by one before she started eating that's when she is small now if she see onion in her foods she will reject the foods and went on hunger strike ,she will not eat fried rice because of all the green beans e.t.c instead she will prefer jollof rice that the onions is not visible or she will hand pick eat am afraid of what might happen if she travel out will she be on one diet through out

Blend onion instead of cutting it so that she won't be seeing it

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

Allow her come over what you did to her, now your dick will remain calm because he has eaten his food and his hunger had gone away

Remain the good husband that you have always been with her and uu have to give her time to come back to her normal self

Just remain a good husband, your humblenes and obedience will heal her mind

Women don't place high premium on sex like men, maybe because they may have some challenges that affects their emotions and that's it

JoyReportsOnlin:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/CYkUskPI9G4/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Watch Video Below..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JElsOLP5_rg

This thing called marriage is like JAMB and UTME, combine examination done in Nigeria but marked by Professors of Harvard school, USA

favy19:
oga take this advise

Lol, Oga is in love

Am just speechless

Daxyd4realzy:
The bolded is not entirely true, a wife can be sleeping at home everyday, doesn't night crawl and still be into runs.

For a married woman to be doing runs

Then the man has questions to answer

MPESA:
God bless you abundantly,if he like make take this your advice if no like make him leave am .

God bless you too

Some men are too weak that's why some women work on them

Women are more wiser and they know how to detect a weak man

dobnina:
You are late to the party.
Kasala don burst already.
Let me help you search for the link to the post by her husband.

Ohh, is it the same post where the man revealed that his wife that he thought has a kid who is now pregnant for him actually have four children

Chai I read it ohhh

dobnina:
https://www.nairaland.com/6930511/single-mother-1-married-actually#109205232
Read this.
That is the update.

Ok

Born2winKingOG:
when she travelled last 3weeks how am I sure it's her parents place she was all through.
that's when the 300k appeared

That's why I say keep your eyes on her so that you will have enough prove to trap her

But if she is sincere with you she will tell you all you need to know

Alternatively, tell her you want her to tell you what kind of business or trade you want her to start doing this new year and when she says that, ask her how much does she have as her own contribution

That's where you will confront her of the money if she doesn't want to open up

Demigod22:
So I met Cynthia immediately we resumed from covid 19 break. We started as friends before the feelings set in. I made my intentions known to her. We usually called each other, but she stopped calling the moment I revealed my feelings to her. I was the only one doing the calls, the texting, we chatted everyday.

She said she doesn't like guys that take alcohol and I stopped. I started attending fellowship because of her, I was visiting hostel always because of her, I joined school politics because of her, I stopped keeping late night because of her. Everything she wanted I was doing, I bought her stuffs too.

The problem was that she wanted friendship and I wanted relationship. I was ready to accept her terms and conditions, like no sex, no visiting. I did all her assignments for her, I gave her tutorials,past questions, even mark her script with sentiment.

I realized how foolish I was trying to love someone that doesn't love me but was only interested in using me. I stopped calling and doing those things for her. One month after she started dating my coursemate. I was hurt but I moved on.

Today, after everything, this wicked girl sent me a message on WhatsApp, asking for my help regarding her project. She said she needs me to give her project topics and guide her. Then I am wondering how some people can be this wicked and heartless.

Although she denied dating my coursemate, she said she doesn't have the ability to love, that was her excuse of not accepting to date me and she said she is not dating my coursemate either, but what guts made her think that I will help her after the treatment I got from her for eight months?

You are a nice guy and don't be surprise if you come across people who doesn't deserve you

If you know that she doesn't deserve your assistance simply tell her that you can't realy help and you are sorry about it

Just end it there and avoid her like COVID

Mylordmygod1:
Hello nairalanders...

i got my girfriend pregnant since september, and it really got me crazy..

when it was 2 months, we tried to abort it, and so we met a chemist who gave her drugs and injection, he told us that the blood we rush out, but it did rush out just small and stopped.. So it did not work even after i paid him 8k..

now, we are about to carry out D & C abortion tomorow, but she keep saying she is scared.. Even me, i'm scared too..

i don't know what to do..

please, don't feel bad reading this, i only need advice on this, it is a wrong move but my mind is already made up to do it..

how i wish i can just allow her to birth it..

though, one of my mind is still telling me to keep it, but how can i be able to take care of her and the baby?

And she is just my side girlfriend, not my real babe..
pray for me nairalanders, i need strenght this moment to take the right decision..

lalasticlala..

Whatever you want to do, consider that two lives are involved

Allow that child to be birth, we all learn from our past mistakes

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states. Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride). A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind. According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence ,her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation. Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.
I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.
Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet. To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.
Thanks

You can go into relationships with him since your mind is there, but you already know what's on ground, do guide yourself so that you don't become pregnant and then stories will start coming up

Handsome men ate very romantic and knows how to pin a woman down with good behaviours

But the main question I am asking you is, are you very sure of all he told you

Well, until you keep visiting him in his apartment with out hindrance and he allows you access to his phone

That's when the picture of this man will be very clear

Meanwhile enjoy the feelings of this new relationship

Qatar2022:
Wait for them, they're coming for your head

I have already done that to him

Cashsteady:
Let's be real honest.. Nigerian girls ain't really pretty.. they all got fat ugly faces all looking like men..na only few fine small..


Still don't know how Nigerian girls makes the list of most beautiful women in Africa.. I don't find Nigeria girls pretty .. my opinion!

You are saying all this because the women in your family are ugly

I think it's only in your family that it appears

The Nigeria women I know are black and beautiful with good brains to match

Travel out of your family to appreciate Nigeria women

As old as you are, you still lack senses, just open your mouth and talk anyhow

Born2winKingOG:
I saw 300 plus in my wife account balance yesterday night, this is the same account I saw ending of last year it was empty (4k)


yes I do give her money, cash especially to stuck up the house with foods and drinks...she doesn't work currently.

how come 300k just appeared on her bank account and am not aware about it.



how did she get it?

who gave it to her?

she travelled during the festive period, hope it's not what am suspecting.

The money came at different interval's , when I went through her messages alerts ( I saw 50k , 95k, 35k) from her previous credits alerts.
Before I dropped her phone

please how best can I handle this situation?


lalasticlala

ps: her parents who she went to visit can't give her that money, am the one who supports them.
offcus I will ask her, but still contemplating on the best way to go about it.

because I know if I asked her for some financial assistance just to test her if she says she doesn't have, she might get to know have seen her alert messages..(because have never asked her for money before)

Why not wait and see if more money will enter in to the account then you must have gotten enough time ask her questions

So far she doesn't sleep outside your home or stays out for long, you don't really have to suspect her

Lastly wait, let's see what sge is upto with that amount

Don't be forward yet

Mummiesgirls4:
Am a moda of 4 girls by 2 different men , 2 lives with deir fada one with my parents and i onli stay with my last baby 1 years and 5 months . I I relocated to asaba to start afresh and i met my new guy in june , he loves me so much and has accepted my baby like his own , we are staying together but i i haven't told him abt my 3 other children , i lied to him that i only have 1 child i I didn't tell him about them because they don't live with me and its not necessary to mention them now . I love him so much and i don't want to loose him because he is my everything on earth. Did i do the right thing please advice me.

Starting a relationship with false is as bad as a time bomb

You had those kids out of problems and you understand yourself better than anyone

It's now up to you to change your behaviour and attitude to accept things and relate with yourself

Now the main issue here is that you have to inform him about those kids else you loose him wjek he finds out even if he finds out a day after wedding if he wants to opt out of the marriage he will

So summon the courage seat him down and open up to him

He is still the one to decide if to stay with you or not

GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.


We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

Daughter's are actually close to dad's same with son's to mum

The jealousy is normal

I think you have to make the sacrifice of sleeping in her room with her till she gets to know that the room belongs to her and her future siblings

As for your good time with your wife, you need to program yourself and when you want to do so, lock the door with key until you are done, even when she wakes up and see that your room is locked she will knock its still better than catching you guys in the act

You can get a hug teddy bear for her to be sleeping with in her room

She is not just comfortable sleeping alone besides it was too late as at the time you want there to start sleeping in her room

Next time start early by sleeping with the child in her room

okine4real:
Fathers and Mothers. Pls ohh. Myself and my wife, we trying to have a child this year, and we want a Male child. Male Child or nothing else. In fact i just Pray this time it works because trouble FIT dey.

Now my question is, as anybody in the house every tried the method of making love to you wife on the day of her Ovulation and the sex happens to be a Male child?

I have read to much article and the one that got my attention the most was, IF YOU WANT A MALE CHILD, MAKE LOVE TO YOUR WIFE A DAY TO HER OVULATION DAY OR ON HER EXACT OVULATION DAY. Please whom have tired this method and what is the success rate? I nor get money for IVF, so dont tell me say make i go do am ohh, because i heard its not cheap.

Regards

Abeg help save this marriage.

God is the only scientist that determines every sex or gender of a child

Any child given to us must be appreciated no matter the gender

But for ovulation calculations, why not try every alternate days

What if you as a man, you count is low, what do you do at that point

So hand everything to God, he knows best

Consray:
I have been having this urge of having a baby for a very long time now.

Please guys how do you get over wanting a baby.

And I have been watching birth videos on YouTube alot now adays.

Ladies is there anytime you have ever felt that way or it just me....

You are a woman and you already have a bond with children by nature

So if you can take care of a child without the help of man, then you can decide

But it's best with your spouse so that both of you will have sense of belongings and responsibilities

LiberatedGirl:
I'm thinking of my boyfriend too much these days. It's like morning, Afternoon and Night and In between. It's a good feeling but it's strange.

Enjoy the feelings of doing so while it last

Love has different meaning but it still ends up somewhere

InspiredGene:
Hello,

I will be brief and straight to the point. I got married last August 2021. We dated for two years with only one issue. That issue was the fact that girls were always flocking around him and I feel he does not do enough to drive them away. He says what do I expect him to do when girls always flirt with him. I always tell him to let them know he is taken, but he will just laugh over the matter and says its not his fault that he is handsome.

Well, he is quite handsome and that is his biggest flaw. He knows it…he is boastful about it. I do not like how it makes him feel…he is not humble at all. I tried to end the relationship but he will always beg me, saying he needs me in his life to help him remain grounded and not get carried away by all these female attention he gets.

Eventually, he began to act maturely and that gave me some comfort to proceed with the marriage plans. Since we have been married, all is ok … God blessed us and I am pregnant with our first child. Pregnancy is a serious challenge for me being my first time. So, I have to rely on my hubby to do alot of things for me like shopping, cleaning, etc.

My husband actually likes to help because he does not want me to stress myself or the baby. So, like I said, I have been asking him to help with the groceries and he has been helpful. But last week, I went to the groceries without husband in the supermarket close to our house.

After shopping, one of the sales girls who is a very nice girl greeted me very warmly as usual. She mentioned that she has not seen me since and I explained that I have not been feeling well but that my husband has been coming to the supermarket for me. This girl told me that she wants to tell me something very important and that I should give her my no. I was a bit surprised at her boldness because I thought she wanted to beg for money or something .

However, I gave her the number because she is always a sweet girl to me whenever I come to shop. When this girl closed her shift, she called me and told me that she wants to tell me something but I must guarantee that I will never tell anyone she was the one that told me. She first asked if I was alone cos she will not say anything if someone was with me.

After assuring her that I was alone, she then revealed that if not that she has known me for a while, she would have minded her business. But that she wanted me to know that her supervisor has been flirting seriously with my husband and she thinks my husband is encouraging her to do so.

This girl revealed that she saw her supervisor ask my husband for his phone, he gave it to her and she out her phone number in it. That my husband just smiled and went away. That the same supervisor bragged with another female colleague that she would do all in her power to get my husband.

That even when that one colleague asked her why she would go after a married man, she replied, I am not forcing him, he is the one married and needs to be faithful, that she has no reason to be faithful. This girl went to say that she is very sorry for telling me things about my husband but she knows that this same supervisor of her is one without shame. That she had an affair with another colleague’s boyfriend and got that one fired because she is a supervisor.

This girl stated that the supervisor is mean to alot of her colleagues and she is evil minded. That she wants me to pray against any of the girl’s manipulation of my husband. I listened to this girl and thanked her. I was furious and embarrassed. Embarrassed that a common supermarket sales girl was talking about my marriage and furious because I didn’t know how to handle the matter.

So, I chatted with this same girl and told her to text me the supervisor’s no. She did and I used my husband’s phone to flash the girl’s number. He saved her number as Funmi contractor. I was livid. I checked his chats and saw that the girl was offering him s3x already. She sent her pictures of her breasts already. The rest of the chat was deleted. I am sure, I would have seen more crazy chats if they were not deleted.

When I confronted my husband, he denied everything I asked him about the girl until I showed him a screenshot of their last chat. He said maybe someone was framing him and I told him I would leave and divorce him immediately. He then said, he didn’t give her his no but she got it from the supermarket computer.

When I told him everyone was talking about them in the supermarket, he held his head and said…babe, I am sorry…I was stupid…I should not have given her my no…but I swear….I never reached out to her…she has been the one forcing herself on me. My husband and I had a long talk…he explained that while he may seem like he is playing with these girls, he can never stoop so low to actually sleep with any of them. That he is just playing, that I have no reason to worry cos he will never cross the boundaries.

Now, this his defense….I believe…but it is an expensive play…and what I cannot wrap my head around is: why my husband cannot stand his ground. Must you be this playful? The play to him is disrespect to me. He said I am just being unreasonable. That its normal for men to play or flirt with women…that any man who says they dont do that are lying or they are castrated.

Yes, girls are desperate…but if you cannot stand your ground, he is disrespecting me and I cannot tolerate that. My husband believes that until I catch him sleeping with another woman, then its not cheating. That its like window shopping….he is looking but not buying….what a chauvinistic perspective…. its really annoying me…When I spoke to someone about it….someone like an elder, he said, men are like that…wives just have to learn to look away and not let the situation bother them.

This matter is bothering me. I cannot stop these girls from coming for my man but the fact that my man thinks its funny to entertain them is my problem. Why cant married men stop this shit? My dad is a fine man too…I have never seen him disrespect my mother. I do not know what to so about this…if my husband continues like this…this might be enough reason for me to leave.

It may be a minor reason for some people but I am big on respect. We are married…respect our vows…respect your wife…stop entertaining hungry girls. How hard is it to say no? Am I being overly paranoid? Or am I supposed to just live with this? Is my standard or expectation too high?

When I asked him what if I was the one flirting, he laughed and said he will not be bothered. Well, maybe because he knows I can never do that…also, I cannot help but feel that my husband’s bad behavior is maybe because I am pregnant and may not be as attractive as I should be looking or as s3xy as I should be in bed…my husband says my pregnancy hormones are making me over react…am I over reacting?

Please advice me because thinking about this is causing serious trust issues in my marriage. I need your advise. I am loosing my mind.


https://livelystones.ng/2022/01/08/true-life-story-women-flirt-with-my-husband-he-says-its-not-a-big-deal/

Having read all you typed carefully, I will advise you to be calm and take charge of your emotions, especially now that you are pregnant

Your husband loves being around women, that's his habit and nothing can stop him unless he learns in a bad way

He is the one actually attracting those women to his sides either by flashing him self or being a Mr nice guy

All these shouldn't come to you as a surprise because you are already aware

Lastly don't divorce him because of the things you mentioned, what if you do and the number next guy you get married to is a worst womanizer

Since you love handsome men you have to endure the women that comes around them like bees does to honey

Just keep cautioning him because of HIV infection

Melvis100:
Dear nairalanders,

My younger brother's friend came to visit him at the house after a long time. All of a sudden, I started suspecting that my brother was hiding something to give to his friend, but I kept mute and allowed them finish whatever they were doing.

When his friend left, I called him and interrogated him. He confessed that his friend has opted to go get favor-soap from a herbalist to do yahoo yahoo and needed finance to pay the herbalist.
So he opted to invest on his friends venture with the sum of 10k. On the agreement that the friend will be giving him percentages of future proceeds. And he swore never to ever do ritual of any sort as it is against our family belief.
Funny enough, my brother is 14 and his friend is 17.

I am still shocked at this revelations.... Dunno what to do.....

Na ritual this children the do.. Kanayo breeds everywhere..

Put your eyes on your brother, at that age he is too junior to have a friend that is diabolic

Gradually he may trade that route without your family notice

Better still bye cut him from being friends with the said guy and also call the guy to stay far away from your brother

Now is the time before it gets out of hand

Highman56:
Today at the market I was just seeing different asses in all shapes and sizes like I shud grab one.How do u guys avoid staring at fine ladies?

Self discipline is all you need

eeewise:
Got a call from a friend who is 23 without much family support (orphans) that she ran some tests and is a month pregnant.
She needs advice on what to do?
She has little or no family support system to cater for a child

So thinking of termination of pregnancy but naive on how to go about it

Any suggestions on what to do exactly

Let her kepp her pregnancy, it's another way of learning

Next time she will think well

RedMac:
Good evening nairalanders... This issue is one out of many bothering me in 2022...

Let me first of all apologize for all the evil things I have said about women being so cheap, hence the reason they fall into the hands of bad guys... cos am now guilty of a bad guy here

My previous relationship was just about crashing, in fact I was totally fed up with KATE, I vowed to end 2019 with her, and so it was... I never wanted to have any serious relationship with any lady until I have a sustainable financial source of income... I was doing fine without a girlfriend until this one wriggled her way into my life, thinking she have found love...

So me and this girl (in her late 20's) started dating deep into 2019 to 2020...

Truth is she was the one who toasted me, she would come to our house to charge phone's and the rest, from there things started happening... I felt whatever that's going on won't last long, but hell no, she just wanted true Love... Which I have been deceiving her with

By standard of wife material (she's a perfect example to the core), very caring and loving

her limitations is her status... Way too local and not up to my standard...

We started dating and the truth is that we both have different reasons for dating each other...

I decided to keep her because of the services I get from her as I must constantly oil my engine... I felt everything will die off naturally as my previous relationship has, now am hooked up...

I got to know her intention of marriage in 2020 during the lockdown, but since then i have been looking for ways to end everything with her, cos I have no intention of marrying her and I feel I have deceived her a lot, She sees me as who I am not... And my plain character have deceived her a lot...

She did no wrong loving me, her only offense was that she could not sense that am deceiving her... If she was up to my social status I would have married her but she is no where close to who I can present to my people as my wife...

I have been looking for ways to let her know am not ready to marry er... One taught am having is teaming up with a false prophet to tell er this guy (me) am not the guy for her... She really deserves the best in life, but I see myself as the wrong guy for her... She has never given me any reason to suspect she's dating another guy, all her attention is always on me

This year she's expecting our relationship to move to the next level... Like introduction and the rest

Experts in the house, how do I pull this off... I just don't want her to feel so bad towards me...

Help me!!!

Which ever way you want to tell her, will definitely hurt her

Just seat her down and tell her that you appreciate her and all her services, but you want her to know that you are not ready for marriage now

And because you don't know the year that you will be ready for marriage, you don't want her to wait for you

This is just a simple statement that she will understand where your point is going

HardMirror:
I remember a pastor back then saying married people should try and watch porn once a while so that their marriage would be interesting. He claims sex is one of the issues in marriage and you need to work on it to make the relationship work.

So it is ok for married people to watch porn in order to improve their sexual relationship?

To me, couples can watch adult films if that will arouse them and take them to satisfaction