Rtk5: Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.
Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.
I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.
Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.
There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.
In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.
Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.
The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.
Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.
You have been through hards times and she is not helping matters
If you know that you are happier with out her around you, do the needful
Forget about what people will say, what concerns you is your happiness, you are responsible for your happiness
Easylion3569: Hello Nairalanders, please lalasticlala, help me to direct them to my formal thread. Thanks..
nairalanders was the reason i did not abort the pregnancy, but what i did is even killing me more.. I'm still a young man of about 25yrs, please what ever advice you still have for me, say it..
so, to avoid the shame of allowing my friends, mum, dad and my siblings to find out i have gotten a girl pregnant, i had to take her with me to where i'm schooling, i'm in HND 2.. Without her people or friends knowing, and they have been looking for her..
we have been suffering, because the money they always send for me is not enough, i have suffered alot since october till now, i just finish my hnd final exam, and my people are expecting me to come home for xmanx, but i cant leave her alone there, and right now we are starving.
i don't kno what else to do, right now, we are both planing to take poison and die together, its tool late to tell my people.
if you dont hear from me again, drop your RIP..
lalasticlala
What can kind of Shane are you avoiding that you will not inform your parents about the girl you pregnanted
What kind of risk are you taking keeping her with pregnancy with out her family knowing about it
So when both of you takes poison and dies with the innocent child the news and shame will be happening after your death
We must take responsibilities of any action we adult takes
It seems the is the one advicing you or you are so soft that you decide to swim in an ocean without a life jacket
Anyway as you plan to hide the pregnancy, make more plans to hide the baby away from you both families
Havesomesense: I think a rich man, if he desires should have more than one wife. What do you think?
Wealth has never been a criteria for marrying more than on wife and won't really be
If a man is wealthy one wife is enough for him because if he has two wives, it will get to a stage the family will be divided because each of the wives will be manipulating the family settings and the person that it will affect most is their husband
When things falls apart, every woman will divide her own children and that's the beginning of the entire family problem
NovesaTillie: Good morning and merry Christmas everyone.
Please I'm in dilemma and really need some good advice. This guy and I have been on this relationship thing for 5 months now with occasional misunderstandings here and there. The first one was because he visited me and refused to go after the time he said he would leave, when he finally left I got back home from work only for the security to call me that I have a visitor at the main gate and behold it was him. I allowed him stay the night because he's a nice guy, really good in bed and also helps in the house to do stuff like wash the dishes and cooking.
Fast forward to December 15th we agreed he comes over and we spend the Christmas at my place then go to his place from 27th so we can enjoy the new year there. As we agreed, he came to my place on 17th of December and has not made any moves to leave or for us to go to his place. I am moved to create this thread because I got home from work yesterday and noticed more of his things have been arranged in the wardrobe with his shoes arranged by the front door..
Please how do I address this? I can't go on like this. He eats a lot. Snores also. Is relationship not supposed to be the other way around why is he moving into my apartment like I'm going to marry him We both stay in Abuja.
Mods please kindly move to Frontpage.
Is it that he is not working that he doesn't have much doing but staying at your place
Yes he may be good at helping you at home, that's one of the qualities of a romantic man
You have to let him know that it's new year and you want you guys to spend it in his apartment
After the new year celebrations, seat him down and ask him, what's his plans for the new year with your relationship with him
If you don't ask him, he will be so comfortable attaching himself to your house
hotwax: My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.
She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle
The Problem
Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too. I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.
She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in. She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).
As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.
Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with. She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.
She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.
Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute fowl stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.
I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.
It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.
Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.
“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.
The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.
She bleeped up on whatever thing she felt she was doing
Nonsense, no single respect for your person or even your family that knows her
phranco: I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.
The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.
I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.
Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.
You don't need to be confused You know what you want from a woman can not be gotten 100%
Secondly, you talk about possibilities of cheating on her
Look cheating is an attitude a man form, so you will cheat if you want to cheat and if you don't want to cheat, is your choice
donleo92: Am going to cut this story really short. Am the only child of my dad, all though he is not married to my mum and he lost his wife last three years without having a child from her. to cut the story short I don't follow with him like our spirit don't align at all. maybe its cos of the fact that he is not married to my mum? maybe I can't tell.. and moreover he tells me he can't marry my mum. and the mummy she is talking about self has already moved on in her life
It was his attitude towards your mum that made you to dislike him So nothing about him entices you
Am glad your mum have moved on since
Your dad has nothing except you on this earth and he has just realised that he has not been in your life despite not being married to your mum
I will advise you over look his side and struggle for yourself and become a strong man with sense of a complete man
By the time you become stable in life, your dad will humble himself because of old age
Then for your dad, is best for him to go and remarry so that his old age won't be a problem for you because your mum is already done with him for life
Ejirite: My marriage is about to collapse which am not okay with it, my wife pack out of house with children because we have misunderstanding which has been settled by both family. I don't want to involve my parents because am very sure it will affect the marriage and the children. All my efforts to settle the issue by involved her parents alone is not working. Please what can I do.
Where did she pack to, have you been there to see the children
Since you don't want to involve your parents, then leave it that way it will sort itself out
But she can't just pack out with out a reason
Find out what the problem is Who the problem is And if that problem has been resolved or keep repeating itself But if you think you are the problem go to where ever she is and talk with her to come back and avoid triggering the problem
There must be a reason for her actions unless you don't want talk about it
Compliment of the season. As a follow up on the link below: https://www.nairaland.com/6900506/give-up-marriage-stage..pls-advise Please how can my friend be committed to his little daughter of six years parentally without the lady exploiting my friend financially, over a week she left, my friend has been sending money to the ladies account for feeding,and Christmas gift .
Also, my friend got a call from the ladies parents,that they do not have any issue with him (my friend), but that he should believe God for a change from their daughter, what could this imply?
Also, my friend having granted the request of his wife to go and see her parents and informing the parents of the ladies coming with her belongings, does he need to inquire from the ladies parents concerning the lady,since it's over a week she left his house and has still not gone to see her parents, but diverted to her former school accommodation, where her younger brother still lived .
Thanks
If he still wants the relationship he can talk to her in the presence of her parents to change her attitude and its left for her parents to talk sense to her
But if he knows that he is done with her, he should just tell her parents that they can't continue but he will try and take care of his daughter
The next thing is to find out the school she attends and find out the school fees and test books, pay to the school directly and send allowance to her mother
Mercychen: I feel sad and can't sleep after taking out my frustrations on my nephew who came to spend the Xmas hols with me.
Hes actually my first nephew from our eldest sister.and he's been itching to come to my place as I'm his favorite. I always spoil him whenever he's around.
Hes now a big guy but still fond of me. So he came yesterday and we all tripped out to have fun but somehow I've been unnecessarily harsh on him. Like I expect him to know what to do at the right time and if he fails, I'll just yell at him but later start feeling bad for yelling at him. Now because he's a big guy, he feels somehow, unlike when he was still Small that he'll just laugh it off or quickly say, "aunty I'm sorry". Now he'll just look at me like "what again now" and it makes me feel bad.
Today, he called the Mom and told her he'll be coming back on Tuesday. It immediately hit me that I've not been nice to him like he expected. Even when the Mom asked why he's coming back so soon, he said, "when I come, we'll talk." So when he dropped, I asked him to tell me why he's leaving so soon and he just told me it's nothing. So I asked him if he still wants to stay beyond Tuesday, he said if I want him to, he will.
Today was worst because the generator refused to supply light and I began to fume after trying to call the engineer to no avail. So I took out my frustrations on him again. I blamed him for the fault of the Gen and told him it was after touched it, it developed problems and he was like " not again"... * Gush*! I don't know what's wrong with me.
After everything, I called him and apologized for being so harsh and asked him to forgive and bear with me. I feel so baaad right now..
Please, I don't want this nonsense to continue tomorrow. So what can I do to control it. I really feel for him.
The Mom just called now asking me why he said he was coming back. I just told her what he told me.. . I guess she's suspecting he's not happy with his stay with me.. Now, she's coming tomorrow.
Modified:
All I created this post for was to get help and I don't care if I get bashed because it's typical of nairalanders to throw shades instead of making sensible contributions to help as expected.
For the records, I woke him this morning and asked if he sees me as being harsh, he said No. So, enough with the insults already.
You know what
You have to seat him down, apologies to him for being unfriendly with him
After that take him out and give him a threat then keep him to enjoy the new year with you
Then you have to respect yourself no matter what makes you angry
Kollins11: Happy Boxing Day Nairalanders. Please I need advice on this matter.
It was on a good evening... Abt 4 months ago. I went out to get a bag of pure water, but the woman that sells around my street has closed so I went to the next street.
I saw this beautiful creature, light skinned, slim and pretty girl. Although she narrowly escaped albino. Her hair is naturally dark, she's very light skinned like Regina Daniel. BUT if one observe her very well and look at her eyes one would tell she's an albino because her eyes are always swinging and dangling. Immediately I saw her, as a sharp guy I approached her, I flattered her and she smiled and gave me her number.
NL's, I have been living in my area for almost 2 years now. I don't know this babe stays down my street. She live with parents, I was so surprise when she showed me their house. Well, since then we've been chatting and calling each other.
She's a good and happy girl, she has never directly or indirectly ask me for money, she has a great sense of humor. She enjoys my company. She's 23yrs old an igbo girl. I know alot of guys would be attracted to her beauty but I doubt if she has a boyfriend. For her to be living down my street and even my guys haven't seen her mehn! She's well reserve.
The guys in my hood, I don't know maybe the girls that broke their heart made use of Thor sledge hammer (in Avengers movie) to break it. These guyz are hardcore red pillars.
Yesterday was the First day she visited me. she brought food for me, she saw I and my guys butchering our chicken, she also assisted us in preparing egusi soup. When she left. My guyz was like where did I see this beautiful fish....Before I could even narrate to them, they were already asking if I don lash her. I said No. Omo!! They almost pick up a Physical fight with me saying "why I neva lash her nw". Honestly she's different from other girls. If na before...I for don lash her since nw.
They were also surprised that she live down our street. This babe is so reserved and well mannered. I don't mind, I would like to marry this babe. I have never felt this way for any girl in a very long time.
NL's I don't know if I should ask her out or maintain the friendship.
The relationship has already started so keep enjoying it she will move it on
Studio247: My Elder brother offended me so bad I felt pain that i thought of commiting sucide.
I went into depression infact that moment has been one of the worst moment of my life
Since then I cut off communication with him about 2 years now
But I told all family members what happened. Gradually the pain is heal n gone. From my heart I forgive him But I don't want him in my Life again I lost that blood connection with him cos of what he did to me I was deeply hurt then.
But God who sees my heart knows I have forgiven n
I found so much peace with out him in my life
But people are telling me to call him to beg him that Because no matter what he is older then me.
My problem is Non of this people point out his wrongs to him though this has always been the way he is always right no Matter what.
Some family members keep saying am the last born there are 4 people before me so I should be the one to call him
It has always been like this anytime he has issues with anyone even if he is completely wrong people will push you to Go n bag him Which I feel is because he has money God bless him more than any of us for now.
My brother has never told anyone sorry because he feels he is entitled to wrong anyone and the person owe him an apology.
One hardly find peace being around him is will always be from one problem to the other
Cos he listened to gossip too much Is like that is the only way to his heart people who need financial favour from him go with gossip
Is act is always bringing problems but yet he will not change
I don't want to apologize cos he badly offended me though I have forgiven.
Most importantly for me is the rest of mind I found since I took him out of my life .
Am so scared of having any relationship with him cos I see him as trouble.
Please is it possible to forgive your brother without communicating with him?
Wvat about your parents in this situation, are they still watching thus family drama just like that
Anyway, since you didn't mention what transpired and besides everyone is asking you to apologise to him, that means what you regarded as his offence wasn't really an offence
You can still reconcile with him and still keep away him
tife4eva: Hello, My mom is lovely but lately I'm getting fed up with her. She is someone that requires people to do every single thing for her without lifting a finger. Asides earning money to train her children, which I'm forever grateful for.
I can say that all my life, I can count how many times I've seen my mother cook or pick a broom, talkless of lay her bed.
Growing up, I thought it was very normal since our culture is one where you have to be very respectful and help your elders. I have many siblings so we all did everything for the house and for her. But lately, with the older ones settling down and moving out, I'm left with her.
It has gotten to the extent that my unmarried siblings also avoid the house because it's not easy living with her. We got her a maid to help around but it's not a permanent solution especially with expenses.
I'm a student and I came home this break while the maid travels back home for Christmas. The whole situation is quite tiring for me. I was baffled today when, while I was choked up cooking Christmas food for us and guests coming later, she called me to rub cream on her foot, like why can't she do it herself. The fact that she didn't even help with any of the cooking and arrangements was painful enough.
My siblings have given up on her as they believe she's used to it already and she can't change. I've been told that my late dad pampered her and got several maids for her so she has been doing this for so long already. My father died when I was little.
I've taken it as not a big deal but I'm beginning to think of moving to another state after graduation just because of this issue.
I don't know whether to confront her about her attitude. Or whether that would make me disrespectful or ungrateful to her.
Ignore that part of her life because it's too late to correct her
Just move or relocate to any where you feel you will be better off and don't confront her about her attitude, she has been doing so before your birth
edego2up: I married my wife and my father in-law gave us his blessings after that every year ending I use to give my father in-law things like rice chicken and some ingredients for the celebration, By late last year my in-law died and these things which i use to give my father in-law now goes to my mother inlaw, but the senior brother to my father in-law is now on my neck, anytime he sees my wife,he always is threatening fire and brimstone.
He says that since his brother's demised we have not been visiting him and infact have not received any Christmas gift from US Meanwhile,in every Christmas i always do for my mother inlaw what i should have done for my father in-law.
I am now confused i don't know who to serve now between my mother in-law and uncle in-law.he is now blowing fire and brimestone
The major matter now is how i can be able to service my mother inlaw and my uncle in-law then my family. I am a low income earner just managing to keep ends meet, see where i now find myself.
The main reason i am nolonger at ease is because these tribe are mainly known to practice witchcraft especialy the very family.
Please nairalanders what should I do now to save my head and the head of my loved ones. If you love jokes kindly skip this Post for this is a very serious matter.
Even now my mind is telling me to devorse her and life goes on, will this decision also affect me? infact how, how, hooooooowwwwee?
I am still wondering how he gets to know about things you give to your direct mother inlaw
Richdoh: I'm a young hard work guy who's planning to settle down someday. I have a girlfriend whom I have gone to see her family with my own family , as in, we have done our introduction, what was remaining was for us to fix a date for our wedding.
But this girl started showing some nasty attitude. There was a day she came to spend weekend with me and I gave her some money to buy some food stuffs to cook, that day i received the greatest shocke of my life , my fiancee warmed me never to send her message like that again that she is not my slave.
As if that was not enough. Another day she came to spend some days with me but when she got to my house I was not at home that day. She went to the bathroom to get some shower but unfortunately there was no water running in the bathroom because we didn't had light for 2days so we couldn't pump water. Normally when there's no water like that we usually fetch from the next compound. Though I live in a room and parlour self contain with water running in my kitchen and bathroom.
To cut the long story short, my fiancee refused to fetch water for herself to take her shower. She had to call me on phone to come home and fetch water for her to take her shower. When I eventually got home at late hour, I took the bucket went to fetch water for her to bath just for peace to rain. I later asked her why she had to call me to come and fetch water for her to bath knowing fully well that I was not around. She said in her house, she does not fetch water that her dad usually call Aboki's and buy water from them. She told me that she can't leave a suffering life of having to fetch water, she can never do it.
Please nairalander is this a good sign or bad sign to watch out for?
I like her type, she is just showing you who she is and no pretense about it
The question that should be in your mind is, can you tolerate her with this uncooperative attitude of hers or you can not manage her entitled mentality
Supreme145: Good day Nairalanders, there have been a lingering cold war in my family between my parents and it has created a tension in my family that as the first son I'm running out of options on how to dunce this tension. My parents have been married for almost 30 years and just like another has been full of ups and downs.
I will try not to sound biased but my dad's authoritarian nature has caused a serious crack in my our family and made my mom a very unhappy woman that is just enduring the marriage for the sake of her children. Instead of the children to find solace in our home we all prefer to be far away due to the continuous rift between our parents. My dad has never laid his hands on our mom but constantly talks down on her even in front of the kids, and knowing my father you would rather prefer to be mended with 2x2 plank rather than my father letting his tongue lose on you. His mouth is filled with venom.
A while ago one of my siblings got a job as a cashier in a bet shop without my father's knowledge, we kept it away from him because we knew very well he would object because he hated anything bet. My mom on the other hand knowing fully well that the boy has been idle for a while gave her consent reluctantly. My dad got to know after he observed that the boy was dropping money at home frequently and when he inquired about the source of the money and learnt that he was working in bet shop all hell was let loose.
He called me on phone in school, which he rarely does just to confirm if I was aware which I replied in the affirmative. He said all manner of derogatory things to me, because he felt his position as the head of the home was threatened, he felt we the children was siding my mom to override his authority in the home. My siblings would later call me the following day to complain about how he spoke to my mom, the poor woman cried for days. They said my dad would never see a dime of their money if they get rich even though I know it was childish talk but that's how serious thing are.
Almost all my siblings have grown to hate my dad though they conceal it very well. His tyrannical rule is not helping matters at all, my dad is the kinda father that if you spoil an appliance in the house, it would be in your best interest to repair it before he becomes aware because the funny part is he won't say much to you rather all the aggression would be transfered to my mom. If we use the generator we would have to replace the quantity of fuel that we used. I was sleeping in lecture hall in school, my pop man insisted there was no money and even advised I withdrew from school if I can't cope only to get home to meet the news that he just bought a land lol.
While I don't expect much from him cos I'm of age, I don't like how he keeps alienating himself from my other siblings due to his nonchalant attitude to their warfare. Those kids would spend weeks at home due to non payment of school fees but he would spend hundreds of thousands fixing his car if it breaks down.
My mom called me today in tears, p man just left the house without dropping anything for Xmas, and even a cube of maggi is not at home, and its not as if he doesn't have money, I'm away of the big contracts he's working on at the moment whereas he's been spending on his car putting it in shape for travelling him. And he was the one that told momsi not to process her cassava and sell because she envisaged that something like this would happen.
Now my siblings have been bombarding me with complaints and this is why I preferred to stay back in school instead of traveling home. How should I approach this issue? I can't call a man and tell him how to use his money, I've been struggling to make mine so that I can offset some of the expenses from his shoulder.
I love my dad and I understand his struggles, i know what people without a father figure goes through but how can I stop the hate that is brewing towards him from my siblings? I want our home to be peaceful. Please I need your advice.
Sorry about your dad's hardeness on you guys, especially your mum, whom have grown to endure his tyranny
Well until you guys grow up and move out of the house, you can't do anything to him
But it will get to a stage where you guys will confront him or challenge him in a polite manner, though he will feel the challenge but it won't change anything, that's just his character
The major issues now is to make sure your mum's emotions are not being threatened by your Dad regimented system
Protect your mum as you guys are now the strength she has
As for your dad, he has already established a distance relationship between him and his family especially his children, which will definitely affect him at old age
I hope he starts adjusting because he won't be strong forever
JoyReportsOnlin: An American woman on a Delta flight wasn’t joking as she whipped out her breast and started breastfeeding her cat on board a Delta Airline.
The woman whose name was withheld was flying from Syracuse New York, to Atlanta Georgia when she was caught breastfeeding her cat on the plane.
As seen in the video posted online, her seating neighbor in same flight had asked her stop stop breastfeeding the cat saying’’ this is not a human baby, it’s a cat, this is disgusting’’.
The man reported to the incident to one of the a flight attendance who told her repeatedly to stop and put the cat in its cage, but she refused.
A message was sent through the Aircraft Communications Addressing and Reporting System (ACARS) to alert Delta crew in Atlanta that a passenger in seat 13A “is breastfeeding a cat and will not put cat back in its carrier when [flight attendant] requested.”
Flight attendant Ainsley Elizabeth, who was on board during the incident, took to TikTok on Nov. 13 to explain more of what went down.
“This woman had one of those, like, hairless cats swaddled up in a blanket so it looked like a baby,” she said. “Her shirt was up and she was trying to get the cat to latch and she wouldn’t put the cat back in the carrier. And the cat was screaming for its life.”
The airline’s website also outlines its policies of women breastfeeding children.
“Delta fully supports a woman’s right to breastfeed on board Delta and Delta Connection aircraft and in Delta facilities.
Breast pumps are allowed on board.
At the airport and if you prefer, many airports do offer private lactation rooms or spaces,” the policy states.
Delta allows animals such as small dogs, cats and household birds to board domestic flights and “must be able to fit in a small, ventilated pet carrier.” – the airline says.
I really do need your mature opinions on this issue, I'm a young man in my early 30s. due to my personality am the kind of guy that flex alot. night life parties, clubbing and the rest.sometime last year I happened to be at the club, just like any other day..I took a girl home. (one night stand) we had sex and in the morning she left after I sorted her out.
She took my number though and from there we started chatting, due to how we clicked easily.. just like every other guy..I decided turn her to a friend with benefits...from friend with benefits....she started acting all up like a girlfriend. (coming to my house to pass the night and she can decide to leave whenever she wants) during this period, we had consexual sex raw because I was beginning to trust her a little.... that she wasn't really that bad.
Fast forward to the ending March this year, one issue led to another...and she stopped coming to my house...though we still talked sometimes on phone... later I got to know she got hooked with one rich yahoo boy.( which I didn't Care, because me na block on my own)
Next thing I saw on her whatsapp status was her traditional introduction rights, inviting her friends and well wishers, I congratulated her and moved on. after some time I saw her upload a pics of her baby bump.
Na wa o, na so it dey quick, fast forward to yesterday evening she just put to birth... which she also sent on her whatsapp status. retweeting her friends who congratulated her on her status.
Now, I haven't congratulated her yet, this has got me worried.. thinking.... "WHAT IF THIS CHILD IS MINE" I have every reason to believe it's mine.
1) calculating the month we broke up and had sex last to this December she gave birth is like few days pass 9 months.
2) the way she acted on the issue that made her stop coming to my place again... showed she already had this planned out (picked the yahoo boy over me because she knows am not going wife her...due to how we met )
3) the baby she uploaded is quite fair, and I also am fair in complexion. (her man is black)
With this I have every reason to believe that child might be mine.... but am really confused don't know what to do... have been thinking ever since yesterday night.
Can I fight this now or I should wait till the baby is grown?
Moving on when I know I have a child somewhere, my offsprings is not an option.. because I feel scammed already.
What if the child wasn't yours after a DNA test
What if you started this drama and she looses her marriage and the test comes out negative yet you didn't marry her
What if you ignore her and move on knowing that you can get a girl to replace her and possibly carry your child to term in your home
People do over look the most important thing that are supposed to bother them in life, so that they can live long
Family › Re: See The GUTS Of My Wife by frozen70(f): 11:58am On Dec 28, 2021
. I guess she's suspecting he's not happy with his stay with me..