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Xundi73:
Thanks for your words. He has older siblings and the pandemic has delayed his being enrolled into school.

Is alright just relax and give him time while you work on him

Hathor5:
That's not what you initially said.

Mayne you were reading and understanding from another perspective

I. Think is the beginning of arthritis, just massage your legs at night before bed time and see if it will reduce, use Neurogesic tube for the massage

vybzkartel:
My friend is suffering hernia
His groin , I mean scrotal bag or scrotum has become very huge. Now, even when he wears trousers u can see it
I asked him why he is not going for surgery and he says his wife says she loves it that way
And that if she goes for a surgery she will divorce him. I met with the wife to find out the truth and to my amazement she confirmed . She even warned I mind my own business and that sex with her husband is better that way.

Please, is she a witch?

If the man doesn't have a sense of direction and he is living because of her so let it be

mariahAngel:
Ha!
Deputy Buka spotted!

I don't even know where to begin with this your post eshiokwu'm nile

Is alright

This lady is yet to tell us what really happened before the death of her father

Umunna can't just hijack a corpse like Ogboni people

Xundi73:
Greetings,

My family has become very worried because our 2 year old (27 months) son doesn't talk yet and doesn't seem interested in making effort to talk.

The only word he says almost correctly is BYE whenever someone is leaving the house. However he has his own version of 'daddy' (ampu) & 'mommy' (mei).

He is smart however, but just not interested in talking and sometimes it appears he does not understand when you give him instructions, other times he'd do exactly what you ask him to do. He plays well with his older siblings who started talking well before 2.

We have ruled out hearing issues as he seems to hear when music or sounds he likes come on tv, he would start dancing to music he likes even if he's not seeing the TV.

Has anyone here had experience like this? Should we be more worried? What can we do to help our son start talking.

Mods please help put this on front page so we can get enough help/opinions - thanks.

Mynd44
Lalasticlala

At two years its too early to get worried anyway, let him start mixing up with other kids and the challenges he will be getting will stir him up

pozehnani:
Lazy men everywhere. See how he just sold his birthright. SMH.

As a woman you are not supposed to reason this way

For a man to take such decision, it means the wife should please help him out and he will remain humble to it

Until you get married and have a family you will never understand what it takes to keep a family intact

Try and change your mindset and perceptions about men, they are not a cash cow that's why some ladies are still single

pozehnani:
Mehnn the day I heard a woman sharing her experience with her first child, I thought she had gone bunkers. She said there are times she feels like harming the baby. Like what the heck??!... But funnily enough, none of my sisters have made mention of such wierd experience while nursing a newborn.

Could it be it only happens to certain people? Maybe people with a history of mental health issue?

More explanations to this please. And how can one manage or even prevent such situations..

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

Please do the needful For a wider view and advice from experts in the house.

The simple truth here is if your partner loves you and willing to give a helping hand and also both of you plan for the baby, nothing of such will happen

Casalindal:
Please read to understand before saying what you don’t have understanding to. I’m depressed and I’m stressed

Why not invite your mother, mother in law or a matured woman to live with you and concentrate on your baby, just a child you are already going gaga

Hathor5:
First of all, a woman looking after little children is sharing family responsibilities.
Secondly, if earning a living could stop anyone from having children, the man would not have come inside her. She can't take in what he doesn't release in the first place.

Who teaches you people to hate yourselves so much?

The essence of a woman working is to have self respect and confidence

Incase of tomorrow she will not be stranded

Only married people will understand

McDonaldfished:
It's an investment that hasn't yielded profit!
You wouldn't want me to start divulging it here

God will send helpers in Jesus name Amen

McDonaldfished:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,
I had to open a new account for this.

I got a loan as a contract staff( outsourced staff) at a bank in Nigeria around May of this year.
I am supposed to repay 30000 every month which is supposed to be deducted from my salary till next year May.
Knowing that I am still under contract with my parent company an outsource company till next year July.
However, July, 2020, I was asked to leave my position in the bank due poor performance on the job. I didn't forsee this happening. I was in fact shocked by this happening.
I haven't been able to get a new job ever since due to covid 19 and instability in the country.

I have been threatened so many times by the branch manager of the branch I took the loan from. He told me I need to pay all the loan I got back if not he will either arrest me or embarrass and arrest my guarantors.

I took the loan for a good 'course' which has not yielded what was intended due to some unforeseen circumstance around it.

I know as well the condition surrounding my dismissal wasn't right. But I don't want to fight it.

My parents and family members looked to me for financial help. They themselves are very not financially buoyant to even feed themselves!


Now I am very worried right now. By what the manager has said and how this might affect my career.
I notice as well that the monthly repayment increases by 2000, with each month of non repayment failure.

I will so much appreciate advice on what to do in the situation. Please save me and my future!

You never mentioned what you did with the loan

funkmrflexx:
She always gives excuse like she's tired , she wants to sleep, she's not in the mood blah blah blah. We haven't had sex in a very long time . Sex creates a tighter bond in a relationship but now I'm no longer feel d vibes anymore. I talked to her about it but she said sex is not food and it's not important in a relationship. I even threatened to cheat on her but she's no budging. She does everything else well . Cooking and cleaning. But the sex part is dead . I don't even feel it for her anymore.
What do I do and she's not ready to get married now before some people say i turn her 2 slave o
She's in school and I'm basically the one sponsorship her . So she's gaining more than me in the relationship

Only her knows what's in her mind

Is either you bring the relationship to an end or you seat her down and talk to her

Worst case, look for another woman and give her the attention she is not really making use of

Mariangeles:
What are you trying to achieve with this comment?
So, the pressure the op is already pouring on his stressed pregnant wife is not enough okwaya?

M mekata gwa gi ihe nu'm n'obi ehn....ha banuo'm to oblivion!

Well you must have misunderstood me, what I mean is after birth let her have a share of family responsibilities
Most women who don't contribute to family responsibilities don't understand what it means to reduce the number of kids to cater for
Am sure that's why the hubby is reacting

charles009:
Hello Family,

I am so pissed right now. I warned my wife not to take any contraceptive going forward, I have two kids and my last baby will be 3 in February.

Now she hurriedly took post pill last month, few days ago she told me she has missed her period.I can onfirm that she is pregnant. I am extremely upset and I have told her to Immidiately abort the baby or go back to her fathers house.

I have spent the entire 2days reading up topics concerning two burning questions.
Will the contraceptive cause a birth defect?
Is there a high chance of ectopic pregnancy?

I have called a few doctor friends, there answers are just guess work to me. Sincerely, I wouldn't want issues emanating from not taking simple instructions.

Any contribution please...

Just relax and let her have the baby, she took in on purpose and this time around involve her parents

Women already know how to take in despite warning from their husbands

Rgis time around, let her be involve in family responsibilities if she has not been contributing

Let her feel the heat of carrying family

Trayceey:
Hi all,

There's this guy I met in December, we started dating. He was working then, but due to covid 19, his job was put on hold in March. I've talked about this guy in my previous topic. Immediately his job was put on hold, I came to realise that he has no savings. He's even owing his bank. I began to support him financially. I even wanted to run an investment for him but because he's owing his bank I couldn't because if I put the money in his account, the bank will seize it. It's been 7 months since he stopped working, some people at his work place have been called to resume but he was never called. Each time I try to inform him about another job vacancy he can try, he's never interested. Sometimes he picks offence. I was discouraged. I withdrew from assisting him financially. I didn't give him a penny anymore. Even his rent I promised to renew, I changed my mind. Please am I overdoing it? Am I being wicked? He has indirectly started telling me how broke he is. Yesterday, he told me that he's thinking about his life and that he has no Kobo on him.

That's a red flag of a lazy man

Leave him let him face life reality and learn how to stand as a man

The more money you give him the more you make him comfortable with his laziness

Take a break else you will rob yourself and carry the family burden for life

Some men are like that pls all they need is a struggling woman to keep them going, don't be a victim

mrpoul:
I have been very sick for the past four days now. I woke up this evening with a strong urge to masturbat, so I wanted to know if it is okay to masturbat or if I masturbat, it will worsen my condition

The hormones that regulate sex urge has nothing to do with your state of health if you are sick or not

If you can stand the urge fine and if you can't give in

kenny1111:
Good afternoon everyone,

please I need advice from all parents and Educators and parents on Nairanland. today I just realized my 3years old son cant even read Letters A to F talk less of A to Z but can read Figure 1 to 10, I am seriously worried.

I don't stay at home except for weekends as I am working outside my state, but due to the curfew I find my way back home yesterday so I was able to discover this problem in the early hours of today.

I know the mother is trying cos I have seen different live videos where she was teaching him and working on his assignment, most times I pity the boy so much because of the beating from his mum alone makes me sick but I can't really complain since I know is for his own good and I know how stressful it is for a mother with 2 kids to manage her time and all that....

I called his teacher immediately and she told me my son will be going to Nursery class when the present term is over due to his age, sadly she didn't say things I expect to hear from her so I told her I will visit the school once the curfew is over, I need explanation, is private school that bad these days ? my son can't even write 2 and 3
I have bought Video CD, bought many play book materials containing letters and figures displayed boldly, I bought counting and so on when he was 2 years so i expect a better result by now.

pls sir and ma, I need help on how to guide this boy to learn better, what should I do and how should I go about it.

Note: any time I am home, I always go through his books, assignments and read his school rhymes for him.
pls Help
concerned Daddy

posted this on Other Educstion sections as well so as to have a wider views and opinions

thank u

Pls calm down at that age he is still picking up but on a slow speed

I suggest you engage his class teacher on a private lesson where you pay his teacher, I bet you she will pay special attention on him through out his first nursery class

Perfectman91:
Say what you like but pray never to experience very difficult situations. Life can be unpredictable

Just be yourself and you won't get bashed, we all are passing through one thing or the other

Perfectman91:
Nobody likes begging honestly but all will be fine, I am partly ashamed, that's the truth

My dear, everyone is in a tight corner, just focus on what you think that needs perfect attention and suspend others till further notice

abdulramanian:
women are creature created from a man last bendable rib,there are emotionally captive to mind and soul of a man,if u know them u are safe or else suffers the pain.they needs man to give them love,affection, committed and dedicated to their wellbeing.

I love your write up, only few men understands what you just wrote and those few who understands it are happy in their relationship

NaijaBoy213:
Pls don't mind my English, no be my English make her toto wide.
After having sex, my girlfriend always ask me, if her vagina is wide, I wud probably answer her no so dat she will not feel bad if I say yes. But deep down it pains me alot, cos I'm not enjoying anything, I don't even feel anything at all when doing it. Is like going in and out of a door, that's how wide her kitten is. And dis girl am talking about is so beautiful, she looks like Nengi of big brother naija. She even said, she likes the way I bleep her, dat I'm her future husband and nothing can stop dat. In my mind I wud say, sharrap pacific ocean. I'm looking for ways to break up with her, cos I'm not the one dat made her kitten wide, so i won't be the one to suffer for wat another man or men damaged. Pls advised me, on how to break up with dis ashawo in disguise. I'm Tired.

Don't call her ashawo
It could be the way nature made her and such kitten has its own advantages, giving birth will be smooth for her as she doesn't need a cut

Maybe your own dick is not big enough to fit in

If you can't cope just leave her the way she is pls

preciousose:
Good morning everyone, i have been an avid user of this forum for six years. This is my first post on this platform.
My name's Precious from Edo state, I will be graduating this year or next year. I have lived all my life in Ekpoma, Edo state. I plan on relocating to a new state after I graduate in few months time. My preference is a South South state, because I'm not a good traveler i have come to seek the help of this great forum.
I need a state where there's security, average electricity and affordable housing. I studied Electrical engineering.
Thank you all.

Don't come to Bayelsa, you will not be able to have a good plan for yourself
I am not condemning the state but you won't understand until you live there

QuinieR:
You are same person as daddycee91
Weldone sir

That's how they become chronic berger in reality

Nephilim:
you no get sense at all.. In all the problems of this country cake and birthday is your problem abi ediot!

He doesn't have a single sense of self respect and dignity

Oizee:
Look at a begger with pride, u dey insult people right? If I was ur child, I will have disfather u since

Don't mind the idiot begging online as if people donated sperm for him

Very sad news
Rest in peace, a whole family, just like that

Flolovtri:
She's deaf

I've told her that already

Don't worry, she will take to your corrections with time