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This woman is so funny and serious with her rights in marriage

The other video she was asking Obey who Obey what, it was a signal that she is not a push over

Oizee:
lol, abi o. If u no want people to know d problem, how can dey give u solutions.

E tire me ❗❗

I think the most important thing now is to look for money buy coffins and burry your mother and the burial rites will be done later

Keeping her that long will incur twice the money for coffin

Plead with your kins men they will reason with you

I know of a family that kept their grand mum in mutuary for upto 4yrs now and it still counting because it has accumulated more debt and more burial expenses of which they don't have any thing at hand

ThaThinka:
A quick question, especially directed at those knowledgeable or experienced about this sort of matter:

Is it normal to sometimes not want to be seen with a lady you're thinking of possibly getting married to?

I think this is not a good sign, if you ask me. But I haven't been in a situation like this before, so I don't really know what to think.

Is this a feeling I can possibly get over with time after getting married to this person? Please advise.

Probably you are not yet ready for marriage or you are yet to fall in love with her

Amazinggirl95:
I have 1 million naira,i want to put part in Nigerian Treasury bill,wanna fo this with Stanbic IBTC bank(don't know if its a good idea)then start a lucritive business with the rest..pls help me which biz can i start?

And also i studied Accounting and graduated with a 2:1,haven't done ICAN nor Masters...have a year work experience and i know how to sow cloths very well..i want to travel to canada..will 1million be enough for me and how can i go about it... Pls mature minds advise me pls

Get chartered in your accounting now, when you still have the time and you can start a sewing shop where you seill for people and start saving big

1ml is not enough to travel with out accommodation over there

Rowlandd:
I'll make it straight and simple...

I met this girl age 22 some months ago, she said she had a crush on me since her childhood, we got talking but I wasn't really giving her the green light in her defence so she got close to my friend within that same month of meeting me (online due to Covid-19)..things didn't work out between them, I met a friend of hers and we got talking which made her jealous but honestly nothing is going on between us..

now the main wahala started about a month ago when I got to know her for real, she loves me thou and I have equally fallen in love with her but don't want to show it too much to avoid being heartbroken or used. I was talking with her and found out she has slept with about 10 guys and had three abortions at just 22 yrs, now this is scary for me cos i have had sex once after which I promise to keep it clean till I find the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with( to avoid Baby mama or having a kid raised by a single parent)...she also made mention of sleeping with men for money and that got me mad cos I don't think sex should be all a lady has to offer.

She apologized for all she said and did in the past and I forgave her sincerely cos I know life wasn't easy for her. I think everyone deserves a second chance, even Hosea was asked to marry a prostitute, Mary Magdalene was a repentant LovePeddler and so on.

I'm madly in love with her and want to relocate to the u.s or Canada with her to start a family.. I'm 27 yrs, I make a decent income for myself, I have a small business, I'm good looking, and think is time to settle down.

My fear is will she run back to men in my absence or when I don't have the money?

Will she be a good mother to our kids?

Will she be a good wife?

Will she leave me?

Am I making the right decision? Etc.

We're currently not in talking terms cos I need some time alone to think or even get over her but I'm honestly in love with her.

You just met her and you are already planning to relocate with her yet you are yet to get relocated

Date her first, time will tell

berbz:
Me and my wife has been separated for like 7 months now. But we have a 2 year plus son. Now she don't want me to see my son again. Please help what should I do .

You didn't tell us what lead to the separation, definitely when you go to human rights office, you will tell them

Duru9:
Good day everyone

Please don't mind my write up, I'm witting with a bittered mind

Please can someone suggest a best way to handle my brother before he kills my mom

In my family we are just 4boys I'm the 3rd born, we lost our dad some years 2 years ago, this my immediate elder brother decided to go to the village and stay with my mom because he's not doing anything in town
Please note: before now our eldest brother invested 1.2m in opening shop for him where he sales drinks wholesale bought mini tricycle for him to be using to transport holds for customers within a year he ran the shop down, my brother has to sell the remaining goods off and the container shop, use the money and bought Nissan Almira car for him to use for taxi still yet he didn't achieve anything with it, he is a chronic smoker and he drinks a lot and womanizer also, my eldest brother got tired of him and decided to let him be since he don't want to be somebody beside my eldest brother is married he's more focused on his own family

2 years down since he has been in the village my mom called me 3days telling me that my brother beat her up, and threaten to kill her all because she's asking my mom for money my mom told him she don't have money, she tore my mom box scattered her things searching for money, he sold every electronics in the house use the money to smoke and carry village girls if my mom complain she will threaten to cut off her head
Me and my elder brother have been in touch with the head of village vigilante we want him meet SARS arrest him and jail him till we come back December but the man is not being serious
I live in North while my eldest brother lives in South
I want to go and kill him myself, my mom just called me now that she has been sleeping in her church for 2days

My village is full of cultist and he has joined them
My mom can't suffer what she suffered in his dad hand and still be experiencing same thing now

He just carry his dad(our dad) character from A-Z

Your brother will kill your mother and he can only be jailed

Best option, you guys must relocate your mother either to your eldest brother or to your own place

Leave your elder brother he will nail his own coffee by himself

Ruthia:
AGED PARENTS.
One Parent Can Readily/
Happily Take Care Of 5 Kids,
But at Old Age, 5 Kids Can't Take Care of their 1 Parent. Why?

Your observations are true but some situations brought that, though its not a pleasant experience

Among the five children, four may be living from hand to mouth and are not just happy and the only one among them who is doing well is very stingy

At a stage in the five of their lives, they already have their respective families but can't even help matters talk more of helping their old parents

Old people have challenges and we must follow their system rather than expecting them to be as good as we younger ones

Lastly, every parent is better of wje care ith they daughters than their sons all their sister needs are money to take care of them

Unless were their are only boys

Can you send pictures of your mum and medical documents to prove your point

I feel for you and God will provide for you and your mum and your entire family

He should carry his cross

Emir8:
Hello Nairalander,
I really need advice concerning making a choice between the two jobs before me. My family members are divided over which job I should choose.

I'm working in a highbrow secondary school and my start up salary was N75,000. After three years, my salary is now N96,000.00. I just got a lecturing job with a private university and my gross salary according to the appointment letter is N88,000.00. My father wants me to continue with my teaching in the secondary school but my mother and fiancee are pressuring me to write acceptance letter to the university and accept the offer. There's no time, both the university and the secondary school will be resuming on 12/10/2020 and I have to make a choice between now and Thursday. My fiancee is already calling herself "wife of a lecturer" and threatening that she will quit the relationship if I did not accept the university offer. My mind is in the secondary school because there is free lunch and N150,000.00 housing allowance per year, but the university doesn't give lunch and housing allowance.

Should I go and become Mr. Lecturer and sacrifice my secondary school benefits?

Pls forget about your family stand on this, follow your heart and your heart is in the secondary school.

For University, I will advise you upgrade your current educational status

Though you will make more money in the university but then, just follow your heart

annayawchee:
Hope his age won't pose a threat?

Well his immune system will determine that

annayawchee:
Typing this with a heavy heart, I have this uncle who is 68 years old and around August he lost weight and was complaining about sleepless nights, headache..

He was taken for a test and they result came out positive.

His wife died 6 years ago.

Any chance of living long considering his age and possible weakened immune system...

We are planning to do another test to be sure and enrol him to a healthcare centre for the ART

There are government hospitals where people with such gets their medications free

Find out the one closer to him and let him be registered, he will be fine and back to good health if only he takes his drugs regularly

Nasir123:
Abeg! Experience answers pls!

How many times in a week is OK for husband and Wife to dey have sex?


Abeg make nobody talk anyhow I need
honest answers.

The number of times couples have sex in a week will be determined by their relationship with each other and the position of things in the family settings

As for men, the urge is constantly there and for women, the more you make your wife happy the more she is ever ready

Happiness and good state of the mind is the determinant factor

johniemos:
Hello, everyone. I trust we are good and getting ready for the week, its gonna be a fruitful one. Amen.
I find older women more attractive and approaching. This has been happening for over a long period I can remember. I find them attractive and wanting them. I'm almost 30. Should I really be worried or it's nothing really serious. Comments will be appreciated.

There is nothing wrong if finding Older women more attractive, unless you are talking about women of your mum's age mate

You are 30yrs so look around for matured women of that age, most times they give less worries and if you find yourself complacent with women of that group, then good and fine

Happiness is being together with the person you love and like

UDOKABESTLUV:
Update From . COM

A father of two, Maduakor Israel Chukwuebuka has slammed Nollywood actress, Chacha Eke for ending her 7 year old marriage over a yet-to-be disclosed reason, Reports.

Recall that the mother of three took to Instagram to announce that her marriage to movie director, Austin Fanni Ikechukeu is over and she would share her story someday.

Reacting to report As Obtained By , Mr Maduakor, who calls himself Wiseman Jesus, said that "disobedient wives needs violence. and women of noways are quick to cry domestic violence over small beating"


He wrote;

"Chacha Eke can stay in marriage in movie but can't in real life. She always obey her husband on movies and opposite is the case in real life. People and fake life," he wrote.

"A disobedient wife needs violence. All this Nollywood akwunas. I love Chacaha and her role on movies and she sticks to marriage on set . What is it that your husband did that you are leaving . Why not endure till end . I have lived in domestic violence house and I know at some times you have to stick and keep moving . If he beat you, run and come back,"

"Women of nowadays small beating you will start shouting domestic violence. If you meet real violence you cant even run. Thats why we have high rate of divorce nowadays. Stop disobeying your man"

A disobedient wife needs violence" - Father of two slams actress Chacha Eke for ending her marriage

See The Screenshot As Obtained By Below:

Source: Facebook Page

Let him use his daughters and wife ans Guinea pig

JulieJules:
My husband also say please to me while having sex. Like babym biko, bikozienu ( my baby please, please now) and repeats it on and on. He does that all the time. Has anyone experienced or done same? What does it mean?

Like I said, only matured inputs that's why I brought it to the family section

I think he us at the pick of ecstacy and such words makes him to ejaculate with great pleasure

For me, I don't think there is an issue with that, it's his own way of fantasy in love making

OMOJOHN001:
Hell Guys please advice me on what to do.

There is this lady I met few months ago, during the lockdown, we started friendship and later it end in relationship,she told me how her ex of 5years relationship broke her heart, she plead to me not to leave her non break her her, which I said i will try my best.
Later I invited her to my place she came and guess what we kiss,romance and I wanted to penetrate her,just for me to get there and meet her as a virgin ,OMO I quickly jump comot ooooo.

Though she said I should please disflower her, that she didn't want another guy to do it but me,I refuse her, and we continue our relationship without me having sex with her but in my mind I already break up with her, cuz I know if I should disvirgin her,it will end in tears for her.

Now I want to break up with her without hurting her,though I have stop picking her calls for days now but she won't stop calling me, she has sent me numerous messages and threatened that she may hurt herself if I refuse to pick her call before the day runs out today(Sunday),
she keep calling me,but I have refuse to pick her calls but I am afraid she may hurt herself, my problem is that I can't keep a relationship with a virgin unless I am ready to marry her, please what should I do now.

Your advice is needed guys ,Thanks I am OMO_John

Not picking her calls is sending a bad signal already

Pick her call and be brief with your discussion and notify her that you want to relocate for a while

She will definitely adjust

virtuouswoman77:
pls how do I handle this problem of hubby that does not have self control when it comes to alcohol he drinks to much and sometimes messes the bed up with urine have talked to him still no change pls I need practice solutions that will make him stop because he is the type that doesn't take things serious unless it gets to him and this his behavior is making me regret my marriage to him

Report him to his doctor and any day he is sick doctor will tell him that he needs to test his organs, then he will tell him that his liver and kidney are affected by alcohol

That alone will change his drinking habit

Secondly, keep reminding him of the financial responsibilities at home and learn to start allowing the children to demand from him directly

It may help him spend less in alcohol

nahzyla:
Please how can I solve issue of dampness in the walls of a bedroom in my house? We are developing sniffing and sneezing allergies because of the damp walls in the house, we cannot move out for now. Please help with suggestions to solve it,

Thank you in advance.

I think the floor has to be recasted with a nylon on the floor before the concrete cast then tile it, in the case if it is the floor

If it's the wall then you have to put tiles on the wall upto where the dampness is

DenreleDave:
Anyone that can help a lady frnd. Pls..

It may jst be temporary

Honestly, I don't see any reason why you can't help this your stranded friend and yet you call her a friend and you are disturbed by it

That same reason why you can't do it is the exact reason someone can't help her

So sort her out and don't bring us in, how can you be a friend and you can't help

Hope ASUU will understand this

Royalfurnitures:
Their covid-419 game is over and they've no more stories to tell Nigerians

Your home is incomplete without good quality furniture thats why we are here for you

Please can I see pictures of the furnitures

Scrupulous419:
#Unscrupulous

Nigarr comfortably spending money on hoe.

#Comesmokewithme

Every one is not like you, most men her are very responsible and organized than you are

Blessedassuranc:
No mind her or him and likes. They won't mind the girls adding value to the family but want them out when it comes to property.. Thank God my dad isn't with such stupid mentality

Honestly, such a stupid thing from modern men

Legendforte:
she is free to dash anyone her own personally acquired property not an ancestral or communally gotten land.

Your thinking

JidennaJason:
Life has taught me to always look before I leap...

She didn't look.


Life is a teacher, I wonder why people don't learn from it.

What do you mean by look well before you leap

Marriages will always have issues talk more of this one that was once married before and had a child before meeting her

bryanarchie:
My Dad is still very much alive and owns a property, flats which he rents out.

We are three children, I'm the last , I have an elder sister and brother. My brother is the first child and first Son.

We girls are both married.

Years ago, a particular flat was allocated to my brother to live in when he gets married.
Then suddenly my brother said he won't live there because of the standard of the property and wants to rent out the place , top some money up and pay for his new place.
My father has said no, that my brother can not collect rent for his property while he is still alive.

My sister came up with a suggestion to my dad and said she wants to set up a clinic with that particular flat and asked my dad for it
My father agreed without informing my brother and I , which caused some issues and disagreement because the said flat my brother was still contending for it.

My sister and dad went ahead to start work on the said flat without informing us but I heard from my mother, I asked her and she said she owes us no explanation.

My brother is totally upset and sad about this, I asked her to choose another flat for peace to reign but she said no.
We both have government jobs but my sister does not, My sister is very wealthy and gives my dad a lot of money, even helps me out too.
But I don't want to be bought over because of her money, I want to be fair and I have asked her to approach my brother for a dialogue but she refused.

Please, I need advice so the love we share will not be destroyed.

It's the responsibilities of your father to gather you all and tell you guys what his reasons are for taking such decisions, though he has the right to do whatever he wants with his salary

But you guys should not fail to let him know that he should share things and you guys can only have possession of it after his demise

IamD18:
Few weeks ago, I read an article on the decision the Supreme court gave on the note of women inheriting properties in Igbo land and I was just laughing because I know it'll never work.

Many women were forming women right activists, celebrating joyfully over the news on social media with non-Igbos and non-traditional Igbos.

Bruv, there are traditional doings that can't be stopped by social media arguement and ranting.

Not even the Federal government can give women access to their father's properties when there are men in the family. In the settings of inheritance in Igbos land, a woman has no say. The earlier y'all accept this the better.

Most of the things women advocate on social media are things that will lead them to frustration or to their early grave when practiced in reality. Let social media ideas end on social media, if you want to live long in this county.

Since you are an advocate of not allowing daughters get an inheritance from their fathers properties

That means if such a woman is in a good position like being a president, vice, governor or senator, she should never allow her fathers family members to benefit from her positions as the case may be

Change your mindsets that's a very stupid decision

The Yorubas that gives their daughters a share from their fathers properties have already seen tomorrow

Me am Ibo and I will give my daughters whatever I give to my sons

hunterezi:
Yes. What I was thinking exactly. Thanks for the kind response.

Thanks

lilyheaven:
thanks for sharing, but i didn't know scent leaf is used for vegetable soup

I was surprised too