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elmerdove:
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Can I see the original receipt to be sure it was bought from LG direct and not all these China LG my brother's are getting from China

Does it have a blue tooth

Wittyglam:
This issue has been bothering me, I want your honest opinion.
As a lady will you stop working of your husband ask you to? As a man would you love a full-time housewife?

For whatever reason the man has for that, it's not necessary, not even with this low current economic situation

Wittyglam:
This issue has been bothering me, I want your honest opinion.
As a lady will you stop working of your husband ask you to? As a man would you love a full-time housewife?

For whatever reason the man has for that, it's not necessary, not even with this low current economy

Just walk up to your in-laws and let them know the situation you guys are

Alternatively, you can send your wife to her parents few weeks to delivery

Honestly, no one will listen to the regular statement of my wife is pregnant and about to deliver

Once you can pregnant a woman be ready to take care if it if not you would have used a condom to save this situation

misspeters:
You're referring to a mother who have been single handedly taking care of her son. It's not easy at all.

You don't have to live a life of pity, I haven't said anything strange or discouraging

There are some women with more than on child and they are single parents, despite their circumstances they still uphold the responsibilities over their children

OK assuming she was married to the man and all these is coming up and the man neglected her, what do you think out of it

She has to brace herself up simple

Every one has a cross to Carry even the legally married ones, they are not finding it funny

Let her brace up herself and take it up for the sake of prosperity

Drlateef94:
Please fellow nairalander,I am currently in a dilemma, and I am really confuse and can't sleep since yesterday. I will make it brief and do not mind my English.
I am a final year student of a university in the country,but because of covid19 and ASUU strike,I decided to stay with a family of ours pending resumption.
This is not the first time I will be coming to visit them,I usually visit when we have short breaks because my own family stay in another part of the countey,but the highest I had spent with them is 3wks or a month not until recently.
The head of the family is a business man,and due to the covid19 pandemic , business has been very slow, in fact the last time a customer visited for work is more than a week,so it happened that a customer called the man yesterday for a work from another state and the man ran out of airtime, so he asked me to get a card on credit for him from his wife selling card very close to his shop.( nb that any time the man collect things like card on credit, he will surely repay.)The woman was angry and she told to go back and tell him that she doesn't have card now,I delivered the message and the man got very angry and flared.(the man is the sole provider of also everything in the house)
He called the wife together with the children yesternight and told them that he doesn't like the way his wife usually treating him whenever he his short of fund,but the woman replied that i lied to the man and i am trying to ruin their family and their marriage blablabla.
I really felt bad yesterday that I could not sleep till this morning
Note that part of what is keeping me thre is that I borrowed the man some money when things were really hard and he his not done paying me.
Thanks for ur reply.

Call the man aside and let mhim know that you delivered the message as he said to his wife and she just framed that you want to scatter her family just to push you out of the house

That you want to relocate before you will be acused of anything in the house as it seems your stay is no longer needed

Ask him to give you part of your money so that you can transport yourself and ask him when you can get the complete balance

Let him know that you are kit happy leaving his house but if that will make the whole house happy, you will be glad to do that

Some women are something else and she has forgotten that her own children may need accommodation sometime in their lives

Anytime of her life she wants to make up with you, just let her know that what you need from him is to tell the entire family that what she said about you is not true

That's the only thing way you can forgive her and still relate with the family

No one knows tomorrow

misspeters:
Since last week, I have been thinking and I'm getting depressed already.
All through this years, I have never spent it without my son. He has always being with me. I am the only one providing for him, the only financial support from his father was about 5years ago.
He's 7yrs and it's like all I've been doing is working so hard to take care of him.

I threatened to sue my son's father last year but I was told by a close friend that he's suffering where he is and he has no job, but right now, I don't care, because I'm tired as well. I want to take my son to him either if he had or not so that he too can struggle to provide for his son just as I've been doing.

I currently don't have a job, I can't afford his school fees this time and seeing him stay at home sad depress me more.

What should I do? Do you think the step I want to take will hurt my son later? Do you think I'm becoming a bad mother?
Please advise

For the sake of that boy, you must find something to do, even if its ordinary pure water, you ha e to do something

If the father is suffering and you want to take the child to him, then what do you expect the child to do, to suffer with his father or he should use him to make money

This is the first time am coming across a mother complaining of how to take care of a single child

I think you are just lazy

Let me remind you that, that child is the reason why you are still recognizing and if you choose to throw away the bath water with the child, well its your choice not ours

Seat up and take a responsible step and make sure you don't get pregnant any how again, for whatever reason

evuna:
Hello everyone, kindly help a brother. I just secured an apartment close to a mosque because the area is close to my work place.

I am just frustrated and in a mess right now. the house is very decent but the noise from the mosque is unbearable. they wake me up by 5am and won't stop till 6:30 am. In the evening, they start by 7pm till 8:30pm. I now delay coming home because of it.

I was advised to buy ear plugs or ear muffs .


please if you know anyone who sells any noise reduction device, kindly help me out before I run mad.

The man shouting doesn't even live in my street. I don't want to confront them for obvious reasons.

heeeeelp. ear plugs or ear muffs urgently needed.

thanks.

My dear, the earlier you accept that situation for the time being the best for you

I was a victim of this and I just made up my mind to accept it, I only feel bad about it when I am on call and that stupid noise starts

Then anytime I have visitors ams that nonsense noise starts I feel bad about it

But I took time to get another apartment where the mosque and its noise was far away from me

I don't even know why they disturb people's peace by mounting speakers of loud sounds

chronology:
"Love is like a rock,easy to come by,hard to crack"
Love binds two souls together, today I came across a picture of a beautiful couple on social media, the picture was a wedding photo of two young couples alongside the picture they took together while in secondary school.

The picture drew a lot of attention from media users,as they could not help but congratulate the couple. But amidst all congratulatory messages, I drew a very important moral lesson from that picture,the lesson is not far from the test of time in relationships. Yes,gold and silver are tested in fire to make them look as attractive as they look,so too a good relationship should stand the test of time.

The couple above kept faithful to each other right from their secondary school days up to the moment they got married, but the question in today's relationships is can they stand the test of time? Can they still keep faithful and wait?

But anyways, the best thing to do is to always put our future spouses in prayers,that God in His infinite mercy would grant them the ability to wait for us as well as grant us that same grace to able to wait for ours,this is because, very few people are lucky to find their better halves early in life, and the above couple are a wonderful example.

This is an example of true love,

No pretence
No greed,
No selfishness but pure Understanding and maturity

blinking001:
This is rubbish news. Hope he de flowered her otherwise he's just foolish.

What made him foolish?

Zzor:
It's tiring,haba since secondary school

Is only true love that can last this long and still go on to sealed it

IamD18:
I'll choose a fertile lady over a wombless facially pretty lady!

You need to grow up

GboyegaD:
Can't you see she loves being manipulated? Her mom shouldn't be involved but her pastor should be.

That's ehhh,
She doesn't have her own sense of direction

OchoL:
My dad beat my mother and growing up I used to defend her and even fight him on her behalf. Until I grew up and became a wife myself and saw how Manipulative and nasty my mother truly is. My father was a victim of years of snake-like manipulation and emotional abuse and tried to fight back the only way he could. My mother deserved the beating tbh but she continued to stay so that she can leech off his wealth. She didn't want him to move on and find peace elsewhere. Neither did she want another woman to enjoy his wealth. She's a sociopath and all her children eventually grew up to hate her

She got what she bargained for

This is awesome thanks

Zzor:
I can't inform my mum because it will be the beginning of an unending sermons, I will see my pastor later in the day

Leave Pastors out of this

You are the only one that has the power to advice yourself

It's either you accept the marriage or you turn it down and now is the time to decide before it gets hover board

Pls next time you want to buy LG products, go to their sole importer sales outlets is called Founai

Google it, you can also take it to them but I doubt if yours is their products or China

But whatever try them

Zzor:
Good morning to you all, I know i would get a correct advise and steps to take here over my mistakes. I met this man who lives and work in the US on one of the social media networks and we became chat buddies, strictly platonic and nothing more, he told me how he lost his wife to cancer some years back and have been unable to remarry, he told me about his only child (a girl) who lives with his mum here in Nigeria, I get to know much about him from our chats and I realized he has not seen his daughter for some years now and there was no communication with his daughter for almost two years. The reason was that the mum told him never to call her again since he has refused to remarry and will only speak with him when he has found a wife, he's the only child of the mum and they are from a very wealthy home, the mum is eager and so desperate for more kids from him (you understand how our mothers behave on issues like this). During one of our conversation, he suddenly asked if I would consider him for marriage and I replied with a solid No, he then begged me to play along as he intends Introducing me to the mum as his fiancee just so he could speak with his daughter, he sent me crying videos of how he misses his daughter and how his mom kept to her words, I sympathized with him and saw the eagerness and somehow I agreed to speak with the mom and play along so he will achieve his aim of speaking with his daughter. The next day his mum called and I could hear the excitement in her voice, she was so happy and didn't even care of other things, she spent more than an hour with me on phone and told me alot, by this time I was already scared but can't withdraw. That was the beginning of this whole problems, his mum now call me on daily basis, through her I have spoken with aunties and uncles of this man I haven't even met, recently she sent someone in my location to check on me and she brought really expensive gifts for me,she wanted to visit me but I somehow was able to convince her that she should wait till her son comes back which is next month. I have complained to this man of how he got me into a trap I didn't bargain for and he keeps begging and sending crying videos and telling me to do this for him so as to establish once more a good relationship with his mom and daughter and that when he comes back, he will sort out everything. Now this whole thing has really weigh me down, I don't sleep well anymore, I've lost weight and my heart skips each time my phone rings, my mum keeps asking me if anything is wrong but I can't get to tell her, I'm depressed already. Please help me with advise on what to do and how best to remove myself from all this. Please don't bash me and I'm not a good writer too, pardon me.

You have to inform your mum all that has been happening

Second if you know that, the man is not your spec declare it now and stop collecting gifts from him and his family

Never you enter into a relationship when you know that your joy is not there

You will be the one to suffer it

You guys may meet and the love will spark on

Ozmar:
I've tried to help me but it isn't working. I feel I need help elsewhere, Nigeria is the worst place for my kinda person.

Go to the net and Google how to handle people without hurting them

Then read about how to be serious in life

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.
I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.
This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have beenplanning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isnt going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.
Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (she is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.
Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian. Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.
Patiently reading.

At this age and status of yours presently, don't allow anyone to push you around

If you are OK with the suspension of the marriage plans, then go ahead with the suspension and if you think it's not necessary, just let them know that if because you have no money to start marriage preparation, you are willing to drop out of it so that their daughter will hook up with someone who is ready for marriage immediately

You know what, you have to take charge or allow them to run your marriage for you

Ozmar:
People easily hurt me cause they know, most times, I laugh it off. I can't even take a really tough decision!

If you don't take charge of things around you, you will be handled in a most embarrassing way that will break your heart especially from friends and family

Help yourself pls

LagosAirport:
I met her two years ago and while we were dating she was always putting up a fight with me here and there. So I stop being in contact with her for some months. Some of her friends who knew me asked me what happened between us and I told them she was always starting unnecessary drama and sort. One of her friends who was a close friend of mine and church member, told me that she wasn't in any relationship with anyone since we parted. And she said she was looking for a means to make amends and apologise so we could get back together. (All these was happening while we were still in the same state)

We late got back together and started dating again and I tried to inquire what was made her behave like that in the past. She said she doesn't know why. But I noticed sometimes she gets unnecessarily erratic and sort. She won't even pick my call for somedays and won't reply my chat. Her friend told me that it's possible she is being disturbed by a spirit but I am not the kind of person that believe in that spiritual possession. Although she is always behaving like NEPA light.

Late last year, she and her parents relocated to another state and I told her I think it was better to go our separate ways because the relationship was turning into an emotional burden on me already. She begged me that we should continue, that distance doesn't mean anything. When they finally left town, she was more consistent in calls and chat than ever and I thought everything was fine. She even used my pictures on her WhatsApp sometimes and on her own birthday.

During the covid lockdown period, she suddenly changed again and it got worse. She didn't pick my calls nor text me back. She went completely off grid until last week. Someone called me with an international number. When she spoke I knew who it was so I dropped it although I was surprised. She called again and we talked like strangers then she has left Nigeria. I asked her where she was but she didn't tell me. She sent me some pictures though and there where white people in the picture and the setting was different From Nigeria.

She kept apologizing that she is sorry. But I don't think there is a reason to continue.

It's either she is not yet really matured for a relationship or she is just being naughty

If you love her, give her time to reveal herself more

If the love is already fading out, still keep her as a friend without benefits

Time will tell

Vanzcharles:
It is a sad thing when there is no mutual love between two people dating or in a relationship.

This guy on twitter just came up to share his stories. Below is the chat between the duo.

https://mobile.twitter.com/DansomanKanye/status/1328415082951438340

He should take heart, every single thing we do in this life has its own reward

Leave her with her God to pay her

Nigaraw:
Good day everyone, I actually dont know where to post this but I decided to post here because I needed traffic and people to advice me. I'm a guy in my mid 20s I finished from uni 3 years ago and I have been managing and hustling to keep body and soul together

The problem is I have a uncle who is a politician (a second term senator) I have met him several times to help me with a job he keeps telling me he will, this is the 3rd year now and I dont see any progress

The reason why I created this thread in the first place is to ask for advice. I have been working on how to travel out of the country for a while and by the look of things, it might fall in place next year. Should I make the move and continue investing my savings on my travel plans or I should keep waiting on my uncle

Note, he was not the one that got me my present job I got it myself. I don't want a situation where I will invest all on my travel plans then he will show up with an appointment letter the next day.

Should I keep my mind off him helping me once and for all or I should still be expecting, he promised me that he would get me a job next year. Please come to my aid.

Go ahead with your traveling plans so far its genuine

If you are already there and your uncle gets a job for you, it doesn't stop you from visiting home to access the job then get employed and still go abroad on visits

Don't hope fully on your uncle and his promises

They are not always trust worthy

louken:
Please I need honest opinion from people who have used thermofrost deep freezer before.

I went to Albertina to purchase deep freezer. I had in mind to buy thermocool but when I got there, the price they gave me for thermocool for the size I wanted to buy was way above my budget.
They showed me other brands which included Thermofrost.
Thermofrost is slightly cheaper but I am afraid of buying something I will end up regretting.
Their staff assured me that the product is good but I need a second opinion.

Can someone who has used this product, please, tell me his/her experience.
I also need suggestions on other good freezers that are not so expensive

Pls get the brand you already know and if your money is not up to that, save more

Don't use the only money you have gambling on which products to buy

The economy is harsh

knowhowk:
I want to ask what really makes a woman a wife of a man ,I am.quite sure there are lots of Marriages in Nigeria today, Some go to the Registry ,Some just did Introduction Ceremony and they start to live together ,some did only Traditional wedding ,some church without going to the Registry .My question now is this ,If a man and woman lives together as Husband and wife for several years and had Children ,Later the woman moved out of the man house due to some unsettled Differences ,The man lived Alone for several Years and later died .Upon hearing the Death of the man ,this woman rushed back to Mention to people that he is the wife of the deceased man .This woman told people that she only had a little misunderstanding with her late husband ,The woman does not leave behind even a Pin when she moved out ,When the Man was sick and dying this woman did not show up .Finnaly she is claiming that she and her late man did not divorced each other ,She was asked if there were Legally married at all ,she said No .Can a Woman who has moved out of a man's house for several Years,Been with another man for several years ,leave the second man and rushed down to her First man to start Making Claims ?

It depends on both families to decide

But as far as children are concerned, she will be allowed to return but will definitely face frustration from the family

Does this demolition make sense in the first place?

ZhiosonWind:
Heelo how you doing and how was the wedding

Hi, thanks, everything went well and thanks for asking

Souqwaqif:
Dear All,

Greetings from here. Just needing a piece of positive counsel here. It has been subtle and recurrent but I decided to share this particular one.

My wife travelled for a burial with my kids without my knowledge. I travelled far away for work and call home everyday. Just recently I called very early in the morning to tell my wife I will be coming home by weekend,she somewhat sounded surprised and said instead of me coming on Friday I should come on Sunday.

I didn't say anything,I pretended not to be angry with that. Yet I immediately did a cash transfer for feeding and balance for the kids school fees that same morning we were discussing.

Later in the evening,I expected her to call and update me on the fees payment,but I didn't receive any call,I then had to call but her lines were all switched off,at this point I was worried especially when I couldn't talk to the kids.

I then called a neighbor to help me check if they are at home only to confirm they travelled for burial which the neighbor got to know from a phone conversation between my wife and her sister.

At this point, I called my wife's brother only to confirm that they were having a burial in their village, which I am not aware of,even as an inlaw.

Right now am very upset and I don't want to act in anger,please how can I react to this conspiracy between her and her family carrying my car with my kids to a distant village for burial without my knowledge.

Thanks for mature inputs only:

Whatever her motive, she did wrong

Just calm down and let her know that, she should be telling you about any intending trip or movement outside her domain

Don't fall to tell her that, if she makes you to introduce the type of hand that will make her feel miserable, you will not have any reason to regret it

You have to equally inform her family about her behavior and remind them that you deserve to know your family movement at any time

Kolenda:
My mother is my everything
Just that with this lockdown and current ASUU strike, I feel like I am not moving. I have already wasted much time trying to gain admission. But I believe I'll win at last

Take a visit to Igbobi hospital this weekend, see what orthopedic patients are going through, then come back and tell us how favoured you are