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streetpaddy:
According to the topic I want to know why?. Does it make them last long during sex!

Just greed to sex her with every energy in him including his reserved ones, as if he won't go there again

enshi:
I will make this quick .. I am a guy in my late twenties.
I have been seeking for real love. But this happens each time I find one.

I meet pretty ladies and well cultured ladies but its surprising that once I ask them out and we start dating in a short while like say two months men will start flocking around them in a very serious manner with varrying levels of competition. I get tired most times cos I don't like to compete for love. My not being able to compete sends an un serious signal to the girls and they leave with these competitors.

This has been happening for years but the most resent is a girl I met two months ago. I have been observing her and I could say for sure that she was without any bf.

I approached her and we started dating . since then there hasnt been any day she goes out and comes back without having men, when I say men I mean 5 6 or 7 of them toasting her.

Note: this resent babe is not even cute .. I had to cut my standards just to make sure this thing stopped but no way.

I cant razzle for ladies and i can't keep loosing them cos I don't want to compete... Neither should i marry them immediately I meet them..

What can I do

If you are not ready to compete with another man, then you are not yet man enough to handle relationships

Women gets attention and woed by men every hours of her life, even the pregnant women

Dsimple:
I got married to this lady on 3rd December 2016 in Jos, plateau state. We were both staying together until she decided to absconds from my house on May 29th 2019. She gave birth to 'our son' on 1st February 2018.
Although I can term the marriage as marriage of convinience where both of us are never happy staying together and I became the happiest man on earth the day she left even though she stole a lot of my properties while I was away for work including my ATM card and withdrawing every money from my bank account.
I reported it to her mother and her mother was threatening me with jail terms if I don't produce her daughter. Meanwhile, her dad is late even before we got married. I never knew that her mom 'rented' people to stand in for her late father claiming they are her father's family members not knowing that her father's people have since cut off the relationship between them since the issues of inheritance came in because her mom doesn't want to share a dime with them.

Fast forward to few months ago, although she don't pick my calls but we do chat occasionally on whatshapp where she has been telling me that her 'son' is not mine. The last time she said that was the third time she will be saying that.
Now I really want to know the options I have, kindly assist with valuable information if you are in the know, a lawyer preferably.

Note:

She is now in Lagos with her mother and I really don't know the exact place. When I visited Jos where the marriage took place, I found out that they've sold their house there which is now a hospital.

I really want to know if truly I'm not responsible for the birth of the boy and if he's truly my son, I can't continue to trust him on her.
If otherwise he's not mine, I believe there should be a form of punishment for infedelity while under marriage contract. Besides, I think I deserve to be fully compensated for all the time we were together, the money she stole, the care I gave her, the nursing of her pregnancy, the monies I do transfer to her mother and siblings, the monies I spent in marrying her, her clothing and shelter while we were together etc.

Kindly advise, criticisms are also welcome.

Thanks.

You are not getting any compensation from anyone, stop asking for the impossible

Try and locate her, start a good conversation with her and one thing will lead both of you to the hospital where a DNA test will be done get your research on where DNA tests are done and lure then there

Once the test is positive keep Sending up keep to her for your son

If the test is negative, then withdraw all connections with her, send a copy to her mother and her fathers family head for they own information that you are done with her

That's simply what you need, this has no business with a lawyer

You can't drag what you are not really sure of the owner

Adequate459:
Please,How do I preserve rain water for a long time.hope hear from you soon

Is it for ritual purposes
For health purposes
For food purposes
For house purposes

Or don't you know where they sell water tanks?

dprincedej:
I need suggestion from nature minds only. I have not seen my children for over 3 years. The problem started when my former wife left me. She went to another town to start over. I used to visit my children but she would chose a public place so I can't find her house. I remarried a wonderful woman who never complains and is very supportive and maybe that is why the former one is bitter. She would insult me before letting me see my children so I arrested her once. The second time, she resisted arrest and so I went to welfare office. The problem is that welfare expect me to be paying school fees and upkeepfor the children before I can see them. It may make sense to some people but how can I pay school fees of a school that I know nothing about? The one who put them in a school should face the consequences. If she did not feel that she can stand alone then why did she leave? Women are selfish and I can never be fooled into sowing where I won't reap. I am sure another man is sleeping with her by now. I told the welfare that I want a DNA test before I can pay anything and they wanted to force me to be the one to pay for the test. I did not bother to go back because she might have bribed them. If I pay school fees and feeding then what would be left for her to be doing and I can only see the children once in a while. The problem now is that, both police and welfare have not worked and she has left her former house. She does not pick my calls. I even sent 50k to her account to see if she would pick but she did not. She told my aunt that I have to pay all outstanding money from all these years. Imagine how cunning women are. If she let me see the kids, I would start to pay but how can I go about it? I am so worried that the children would grow up to hate me due to her lies of that don't know me. People would also think I abandoned them if they don't see their pictures on my social media. She is so wicked that she doesn't even upload their pictures again because she doesn't want me to see them at all. It is my right to see my children and I need suggestion on how to achieve my aim.

Honestly, I took time, twice to read your write up and I have to tell you that I disagree with some of what you said and I also have to let you know that, you are getting everything wrong

Take a look that the following points your current wife is everything good, well that's for the moment, all women are the same, some comes out quicker while some comes out late

You said you need a DNA test and they are forcing you to be the one to pay, are you not the one requesting for it or you want her man friend to pay for you

You said you are sure she has a boy friend, have you not been sleeping with another woman from the very day she left you, she needs it too

You said the welfare are forcing you to pay the school fees, so who should do that for you?, that's means you don't even send any allowance to them

You have to remove your pride and do the right thing

This children will be loyal to their mother as far as this story of yours is concern

If you don't want to pay their school fees don't pay, after all they are in school and they will be in school Wether you cares or not

That woman will lock every avenue or chances of you to see those children as a punishment for not being impacting yourself into them

Why not form a duty of paying a certain good sum of money that will cover their schooling and into her account that you feel will cover their upkeep too every month and keep the tellers as prove an still notify her of the payment alert

Why not be communicating with her so that the children can still remember you any time you speak with them

You are too proud of yourself and if you don't take time you will loose your influence on those children and if they grow up not feeling you, your old age will be the time you will know what you have done to yourself

Start sending money to her on monthly basis and see if she can start picking your calls

As far as am concerned, you are not taking up your responsibilities and you are dodging it and she knows

Which man have time to drag children with a woman?

She is not done with you yet and by the time she is through with you with this your stubborn attitude, it's either you bend or you break but you must touch ground, that's for sure

Loveandwar:
My dad has been living a lonely life for a decade now and his life style scares me a lot. I really your advise on how to improve his life style.

We are a family of 6 with 3 girls and a boy. My Dad is a loving, funny, caring and responsible father but he is a drunkard(not an insult but a fact).

Due to his drunken nature and irreconcilable differences between with my mum , the home was always hot with everyday fight between my dad and mum which affected we the children alot. We practically lived with curses which they rain on each other morning, afternoon,night and many midnights.
When I gained admission into uni and thought I had escaped, I would receive calls almost everyday about my parents fight especially during exams.
Family members, police, court and even the Oba of the community had intervene all to no avail.

My mum could no longer bare it 11 years ago, so she left my dad without notice and took us along except my brother because she didn't want my dad to be alone.
My dad wanted to move in with my mum but she refused because she wanted peace. He brought my brother to us that he doesnt want we the children to be separated which my mum accepted and that was how my dad started living alone.

After my mum left, my dad lost his job (forced to retire as a civil servant), lost his car and his inherited house was 'grabbed' by the so called omo-oniles. They paid the family off which was shared between my dad, his brother, his mum and he also gave we his children some percentage out of his own share. He refused to rent an apartment and told us he would sort himself out because he doesnt want to be a tenant. I kept my own share just in case. He squandered his own share and was thrown out of the sold house, Btw, I was married and had just delivered my baby when the house was sold.
I later heard he was sleeping on the street so I rented an apartment for him with my own share that I had set aside. He didnt live up to one month when the landlord refunded his money excluding agency fee et al and asked my dad to leave his house because of his alcohol nature and fights. He lavished the money and was back on the street. When i heard and asked him he told us he now squarts with a friend till he gets another apartment , he never allowed us to know or visit him at that friend's house.

Finally he was paid his pension which he had been waiting for so that he can buy a house but I had travelled to a remote area for work at that time. Someone that knows my family well reached me and informed me that my dad had been sleeping in front of a church, I was shocked and sad when I heard about it, I requested for 2 days off to come to Lagos and sort things out. When I arrived I lodged my dad in a hotel for 2 weeks so that i can go back to complete my remaining 1week rotation at work and still have the time to search for a good house for him to buy. When i returned a week later, my dad told me he had already rented an apartment. I said no problem we can still buy the house but he refused and said he has to utilise his one year which he just paid for before buying his house and that was how he squandered his pension lump sum on alcohol and women and dashing people on the street money anyhow.

He started living on his monthly pension which was okay for him initially but due to his alcohol nature, he is in so much debt and his pension allowance N49k lasts for only two days. I and my sister support him with 15k monthly which doesn't last up to a week as well.

His lifestyle now is an eye sore , his landlady and neighbor keeps complains alot about him, he is so unkempt, drinks to stupor and sleeps with the small girls in the area. Everyone keeps telling us to take care of our dad as if we don't. We always have to reach him through his neighbours as he always misplace his phone, sometimes seized by those he owes.

We discussed about taking him to an elderly home facility which he declined because he doesnt want to live with a non family member and doesnt want restriction of movement.

My dad is 59 years old.
One of my sister lives with me due to proximity to work while my other sister lives with my mum.
My brother is still in uni and he is not interested in living with him because of his lifestyle.

I really want him to enjoy his old age and care from his children. I have been praying and will keep praying for him. I am also trusting to get good advice from matured people here.

I will sound harsh but let me speak my mind

Now you see why your mother couldn't cope with him

Now you see why no one can live with him

He wants his freedom and let him have it as that's the only thing that gives him joy

You have to live your life else that man will majevyiy nit to be happy and not to have savings, then you will have issues with your wife

Take him to a rehabilitation home and pay for the services if you guys really want him changed

He will never set his eyes on alcohol talk more of women to sleep with

Your mum is not even ready to look his side, yes she is right, she can't kill herself

Your dad is suffering from his stubbornness

Maryjane001:
Good evening fellow N/Landers,

I write this with a heavy heart tired of being always been striped of what I and my family laboured for. My house has been burgled yet again - for the umpteenth time. Only just noticed that the flat screen tv , generator tools and my creams have gone missing. We are yet to discover all.
The community is aware of all this but they seem to like minding their business until it affects them. We v done all we could to salvage this matter but all to no avail. At first, we thought it was because we didn't put up a fence. Dad and mum had to squeeze out money to put up a fence coupled with a dog but all to no avail. They 'v basically stolen all valuables in our house that dad is scared of even buying anything in the house. Items ranging from pumping machine, generators, clothes, phones, TVs etc have all been stolen.
Our own home is not even safe for us. We are even scared of keeping our valuables at home. My brother's files containing all his documents was even stolen and right now I m scared of someone setting us all up.
Please guys, I really need urgent advice before this consumes me. This is beyond me. My family is in need of your help right now please.

You didn't state if its a new site you guys packed to

You did not mentioned if the incident happens when all of you goes out for you daily breed or when you guys are at home

Are your neighbors experiencing the same thing

Give us more insight about the area and location

Baba40:
This question is born out of curiosity why most married woman cheat on their innocent husbands, be it physical, social or emotional. Cheating is Cheating.

It is men we know for this abberation but you won't be shock anymore to know that women has taken over the cheating industry, in so many disguise.

Pls women, why do you cheat on your husband?

What goes around comes around

I expect you to list the reasons why men cheats
Women are humans too

pozehnani:
Please help me with this. I just got an alert from one of my schools but I'm troubled because I feel I'm being played and I don't want to be too forward and spoil a golden opportunity.

When I got the appointment to work in this school early this year, during our chat, we agreed on a price of which the owner of the school said she can only start paying from subsequent term that she will pay me a certain amount for starters (that was in second term) so,we agreed. But due to the lockdown, third term couldn't hold, so there was no room to remind her of our agreement and all that.

Now, I just got an alert from the school and they paid me the same thing I received for starters.... I called her and she confirmed the payment was from her. I thanked her but couldn't ask her immediately why she didn't do as agreed cos I don't want to look like an ingrate especially as we are just coming in from the lockdown and still didn't go this week ( because of the crises in town) but I'm worried because she might act like she forgot and want to continue paying that amount. Though the difference is not much but I feel agreement should be kept.

Now, I feel like calling her again to remind her. Would that be inconsiderate of me? Please I'm really worried and feel like a jackass right now.

You have to be considerate in this situation because some parents may not have paid school fees and the effects of lock down with end SARS are still on

Don't talk about it yet till you receive next month's salary then you will be able to ask her questions if the increase was not reflected in it

This is where the gentle man in you is required and neeeded

longetivity:
y you no post the full story here e no go better for you and your husband

That was too harsh

HopeSpencer:
She made it clear that she is no longer interested in sex. And she's never ready for divorce.

What should I do?

There is no smoke with out fire

Trace the smoke and you will find out where the fire is

What kind of crazy idea is that

If you have been having good communication with her, definitely she will open up

If you guys have not been having good communication before now, then it's either you are the problem or she has lost hope and confidence in you

Ferlis:
Good day all. I had to create this account to post this. I need help urgently. PLS I DON'T NEED ANY MONEY. I just need advice and guidance. I'm not myself right now. I'll try to be brief

I turned 27 last week, finished my service in March and work with a private company. I actually started working here after school and 'worked' my posting to serve here and I'm still here. My salary was increased to 200k per month shortly before the lockdown but I'm required to work everyday (mon-sun). No break. Work is going well and I'm okay with the long working hours. No issue

Problem I have is that I'm constantly thinking and worried about my health and future. Nobody except my immediate family is aware that I have a chronic medical condition. I have to inject myself twice daily (morning and night). Sometimes I skip a dose cos I'm fed up but the symptoms become unbearable so I have no choice but to continue with them. Doctors say its hereditary but my parents are fine. Well, my health is not even the issue, I only mentioned it so you'd understand me better

The main problem I have is I constantly feel worthless and depressed. I've been saving since I finished school but only have close to two million naira in savings so far. I tried getting my own apartment but my parents insist it's not wise since my workplace is very close to home and that I shouldn't start incurring so much expenses now

Well, how long will I keep saving before I'm financially stable to afford a good apartment? How long till I'm able to afford a car? Get married and establish my own business?

I'm an introvert and this constant worry has made me withdrawn even more from others. No single friend. I'm even tired of this life. Sometimes I wish I would sleep and wake up a child so I don't have to worry anymore. Other times, I wish I can just sleep and not even wake up.

The least grade I got in school was 'C' which was rare. Mostly 'A' or 'B'. Yet I would constantly cry and feel worse than even those that failed or were going to probate. People hated me for that but it's beyond my control

Let me stop here. Pls, what can I do to be happy and feel good about myself? I'm always worried, sad and frowning my face. Where can I find a therapist, counselor or psychologist cos I feel something is wrong with my brain. It gets so bad I start having intense headaches. Pls I'm tired. I just want this feeling to stop

You didn't state your medical condition

Your mood is caused by the solo life you are living, pls come out of it if you are very sure that you are really ready to make up your mind to mix up with people

Talk to yourself and prepare your mind

Stop being sad and create fun for yourself

Having a girl friend will give you the spike and challenges you need to behave normally

Keep saving don't pack out of your parents home yet because, you would be lonely and no body will understand you, that's why you need a steady relationship with a woman who will understand your life style then when you pack out, your woman will be with you

I am still thinking of how you have a job that keeps you going and you can even save, so money is not your problem

Assuming you don't have a job, you would have been depressed the more, who cares, no one but you

Get a life and bear in mind that having children or your own family with this kind of attitude will make things worst for you

So the summary is that you are the one to provide solutions to your problems and I have mentioned them

Life is fun, live it

jodpoundz:
well you know am not really that experienced with women, so far have only got one rejection about 6yrs ago and it didnt end well with me cus i felt so bad that i never spoke to any woman for about 2yrs exept my mom, if i have numerouse rejection i dont think i would even seek for help here cus i'd be experienced

Is alright, but bear in mind that rejection doesn't mean that you are not good looking, women do have theur own spec too

Anyway all are what makes you to gather experience

Hisense4life:
Thank dear �� God bless you .

Amen and bless you too

Fero24:
Hi everyone... First time posting here cos i need your advice on a Lil issue

My girl friend of 2 years just informed me that she wants to practice celibacy.. That she wants to stay outta having sex for awhile and saying stuffs like.. Sex is overrated bla bla.. Meanwhile I've never for once heard of that from her..

I thought she was joking until she said it again in a stern voice.. And the way guys lament here on this platform about cheating girlfriends and how they neglect red flags is something else

So guys.. I just wanna know.. Is this a red flag? Because our last sex was like 4 months ago and we'll be seeing soon... Maybe her Congo have been shined by another nigga.. The thing is probably wide now and she is putting up some excuse... Who knows ...Though sex ain't food but I can't afford being cheated on ...
So please guys.. Is this a red flag I shouldn't neglect... Thanks..

FYI.. I'm planning to Marry Her.. She knows my family and vice versa..

Every woman has her reasons for going into celibacy, she needs to tell you her reasons and if she refuses just keep observing her

jodpoundz:
Experts on wooing babes pls i need your help, there is this girl i like i didnt know she like me until she told my brother bluntly that she like me about a month ago, but i dont know how to go about it becus i dont know wether she meant it or she just said it on a casual basis, she look strict on a normal day and i dont want to get the embarrasment of my life cus am not sure wether she feel the same, but i notice these days that she wear tight dresses when ever am around and she like asking me uneccesary questions maybe just to have a glance of my face but still am not sure, experts pls i need your experienced advise i dont want the girl to slip off my radar pls. abeg mature minds.

Men are use to get rejection from women, especially don't know that should be an issue with you

She looks strict yes she has to else she will loose her feminine guard

Anyway she has already given you the green light, you are the one complicating things

Hisense4life:
Good morning house

I have been dating a guy for close to two years now I have been faithful to him I have never cheated on him before .. but this guy has cheating on me , he lies alot , he slp with different girls have talk to him tired but still no change .. ������� what pain me is that I love this guy , I really want to end this relationship cause am no longer happy with the relationship am sad ... I pray that God should bless me with my own husband ... Am tired of crying everyday .. how can I move on from this relationship.

Please advise me on what to do ��������� ...

It's time you take charge of your emotions

Some Men will cheat but I don't know if they do it deliberately

Hold yourself together and stop crying, it will weigh you down and discourage you from moving ahead

Even those ones you think are now ready to settle down once cheated too

If you can cheat, pls do and if you can't cheat just remain faithful to anyone that deserves you, even in marriage they cheat

That's a bad attitude and habit from her

Just drop her, she is not sincere

Kyngfarabale1:
I have this girl I've been dating since late last year, I sincerely love her and I know she love me dearly.... I met her as a virgin and I was the guy who deflowered her but she is always scared of long time sex because she cums early and she always complained about her stomach whenever we're having sex... I used to have pity on her while sexing but I don't enjoy my sex either because sometimes it'll take me time to even go for 2nd round bcoz she's scared of sex and always tired of sex..... I don't know if anyone has dated any girl like her before..... we both love each other dearly but I can't be doing one round only nah.... make una help me oooo... she's 21 now sha.... thanks

She is a normal woman and she is just ok that way

Thanks goodness she cums quick aren't you lucky

Probably the ones you have been dating earlier, those ones have horse power so you have to slow down considering yourself unless you are on drugs

If you expose her to early steady sex, you will be the one to suffer it when she can no longer be satisfied with just you

What do you gain going more than once at a moment, it's just a habit you formed

If you really want a woman that can stand your rounds you know where they are

MONEY247:
Hello house.... What is your take....
When you cook do you find it fun filled or stressful....

If you like cooking then it's fun and if you don't like cooking then it's stressful

Ghengiskhan:
What's your definition of happiness

A mind free from troubles and tribulations

Loveskid:
Good day Nairalanders! I am deeply sorry to bother everybody reading this lengthy post, and I strongly acknowledge your concerns after you must have read through it.I will try to make it brief as much as I can.
I started dating a girl precisely August 2017.She is this very calm,gentle,industrious and God fearing lady to say the least.I really enjoyed my stint with her from 2017 to Mid 2019.Let me also add that she lost her dad when she was in secondary school about 10yrs ago.From what she told me,she was closer to the dad than her mum and that put paid to her smooth life.With the help of God and her mum she finished from one of the higher institution in South-western part of the country in early 2019,although faced with difficult experiences i can't even explain here.She completed her youth service in June,2020.A fateful day in July 2020,I requested that we should break up.The reason is because of my financial challenges although she was not demanding and was always cool with the little I have. Yet,I have this feelings that she deserves a better man,we both found it so hard to part ways but we are now talking from afar.
Fast forward to today,I missed her call twice but we eventually had a conversation and she made me realise how life has become so miserable for her.She is traumatised,depressed and has become subject of ridicule in the neighbourhood.She would even be booed and insulted by her mum whenever she is managing to eat any little meal from the house.Mum will be like "be eating at home and be sleeping while your mates are working outside".From the best of my knowledge,she had tried all means to search for even the petty ones.She would use her money for food to transport herself to hunt for job but to no avail and she's now left with nothing.Even her low-toned voice on phone today broke my heart in pieces. (Our chat are on my phone).I am so pained seeing a girl of her age going through this present situation.She does not want to go into any shady stuffs like prostitution and the likes.

PM: I have advised her to stop looking for any job right now as there is none anywhere.I asked her to look for a way to start a small-scale business but she told me she is not having even 5 Naira in her purse.She has learnt so much vocational skills both before and during her NYSC months,sadly,no fund to start up any of them.I am convinced she isn't a lazy woman.
She is now looking unkempt and a shadow of herself.Our chat today was going on pastoral level,as I was looking for possible piece of advice I can give her at least to get her back on track.Not until when she reiterated her plans of taking her own life which I had at some points rebuffed twice last year.This time around,she is more determined about it as life has become extra meaningless to her.At the point when she said this,I became so mad at her and I rained so much insults and hurtful words on her with the main objective of halting her proposed suicidal mission.I let her realised that she might not even get the rest she crave for when she eventually died.I threatened her that I would release our chat on social media and would let her mum be aware.Though she begged me not to do so but I don't know what she might do after this.
Please Nairalanders, I need your help on how this hopeless girl can be saved from deleting herself.I really need you people to help me reintegrate her back to normal life even if this will be the only assistance I will get from this place,DO THIS FOR ME!!! I really can't imagine myself not raising alarm after so much glaring picture of how desperate she is right now.Though we are not dating again,I still don't want to weep over her.
Please kindly suggest any NGO or persons that could help her in this regard.She needs to be strengthened mentally,physically.She wouldn't mind doing any legitimate job no matter how small the pay is.I really wish I could be of monetary help to her but I am currently incapacitated and that is why I am here soliciting for her even though she's not aware of this I am doing.
Please all your help and suggestions will be greatly valued and appreciated.
Please help me move this to front page as a matter of urgency I beg you.
#HerLiveMatters

For now the help she needs to help every other things to be put in place is just you and the relationship to go on

I don't really know why you break up from her at this point of her unstable life

You can still be dating her but make it known to her that marriage is not in your plans and she is free to hook up with any guy who wants to go into any relationship with her

With this, she will know that you guys have set a limit to your relationship

Get back to her and assure her that God is aware of her

Are you telling me that if she happens to gain admission abroad and from a wealthy family, you will end the relationship because nothing is working out from your side

Think twice

piggyvestashawo:
The destruction of public transportation were not necessary

Honestly it was uncalled for

eaddyboy:
I have observed that some married women later on in life start loving and caring for their children even more than their husband (her lover) by her actions, words, body language and also her inactions.

Even to the point of abandoning and neglecting the man even at old age to align with the children and having more emotional attachment to the children than the man, could it be as a result of hormones or blood but they do this in such a natural way that they feel right and good about themselves concerning their actions and inactions which i am not comfortable with

I don't know why but I would want some contribution leading to clarity on this, if you can relate or have an experience as regards to the topic I would appreciate if you share with us.

N/B: I'm not in any way against women or bashing them, just seeking clarity as I'm concerned.

Your observations are in order

But the truth is that, men who abandon their wives and cheat on them of which the wives knows about it are the ones who fall into this category of men

Women are like a garden, once you abandon or neglect your garden, weeds will take over it and you end up with poor cropping and harvest

Curious345:
It's with a heavy heart I write you this story.
I am about to get married ,but the lady is not a virgin.

What do I do please ? Do i call off the wedding ?

Marrying a virgin is biblical and quarannical.
It's always been my dream. I thought I would be lucky in this dark world .
But alas I fell into that same web of distortion which I feared the most .

How can I marry a woman whose punna has been used to play PIANO by men of different shades?
Will God in heaven forgive me?

I always had this belief that if I marry a lady who is not a virgin, i am dishonoring my creator.

So what to do ?

If I call off this wedding at the last minute (I am seriously considering it ) can I still find a virgin lady to marry before December?

House ,I need your word on this imbroglio

Hope you are a virgin

Secondly, where in the Bible was it written that, only women should be virgins

Thirdly, if you really want a virgin, you know where to get one

Lastly, even if you get a virgin and you can't handle her well, what makes you think she can't get it else where

Those ones you disvirgined, who will marry them

Exciting:
I have a female friend that ll be turning 25 soon.

She is still an undergraduate and basically depends on her family for feeding and shelter.

In her words " I will be turning 25 and I feel I ain't in the right path yet, I haven't finished school, no serious lover, I still live with my parents etc" I expect more, I want more"...

Hence, my question. What is really expected of a 25year old lady and gentleman though.

What is expected of her now is to get her degree certificate after that let her find her bearing

urchcoded:
there is no weird thing I'm doing, I just don't join her in morning prayers, I go about my normal life. I'm not even an immoral person because naturally I don't like waywardness. I never tried to impose my unbelieve on her. I think what I'll do is talk to her and tell her that religion is not really a bad thing, and maybe look for some advantages of religion to back it up.

Like I said, she now looks up to you

Seat her down and readjust her mind towards religion then you can carry on your own way without her noticing your withdrawal from religious matters

Oyadorf:
Mothers in the house, is there any drug you use during first trimester of pregnancy to control excess salivation and vomiting?

You can go on bitter kola just put it in your mouth

You can also go on white chalk called Nzu in Igbo land

Mathscum:
Smile I don't like the smell

Go for Amarula cream, not different from Balley

Rangemaster1:
Good morning Nairalanders..
What I have began to feel for my cousin, it's a very very strong feeling.. I like this Girl, likeness is small, I love her, in fact i'm so into her already...

Just happened like a dream easily... I want to get married to her... What I really want to know is that can I go on to date her... Some persons say it's not right to date your cousins... but to me I don't think I can stand to such rules, I love this girl, people around do notice this sef, I will want to make her a part of my life.. Please should I move on with her?

This is something you have to discuss with your parents and they are the only one that knows if the tradition of your place permits it

Do that first before Deeping your neck into it

tipsy242:
I need a chest/deep freezer (100 ltrs capacity) that can freeze food items within few hours, defrost after at least 100hrs and with inbuilt stabiliser. Can i get a good recommendation??

I don't know about a freezer defrosting after 100hrs

Go for original LG products or original scan frost products

Google their direct sales outlets

urchcoded:
I'll try to make this as brief as possible. I stopped believing in God finally last year. I grew up in a very religious Christian family, but I became an unbeliever after analysing religion. I'm the only one living with my mother and few weeks ago she engaged me in a discussion about why I'm allowing the devil use me, I told her the Devil is not using me as I don't believe in him either. I went on to carefully explain to her why I think God probably does not exist and even if he does,there is no way to ascertain that Christianity is the right religion amongst other thousands of religions. Honestly I wasn't trying to get her to stop being a Christian or anything I was just trying to let her understand my stand because she has been worried for a long time. That night around 1am I woke up from sleep to hear her crying, I tip toed to her room and saw her kneeling down praying and crying uncontrollably she was actually praying for me and for God to reveal himself to me. Seeing her cry hurt me a lot and I couldn't sleep the rest of the night. Waking up the next morning I noticed she didn't do her normal morning devotion and prayers. I wasn't happy with the development but I ignored her. She came back in the night and still didn't pray. I had to reluctantly ask her why she was no more praying, she coldly replied me saying "Shea you said prayer doesn't work and there is no God" and she walked away. I've been really really upset because I know she can't actually do without religion. This is what she has known all her life, she's a Sunday school teacher. She needs religion because her life is centered on it. My father died Early this year and I'm due to go for NYSC by next month. pls how do I resolve this situation cos it breaks me to see her so sad and dejected and it might be worse when I leave. Should I pretend to have had an encounter with God or something. I really could use some advice here. If you don't have any just avoid the thread.

You are the one that manipulated her to the situation she is now
You have to do the needful and take her back to her previous religious life and you too get back to it

If you decide not to trust or believe God you should have kept it to yourself alone

Since her husband is late she now sees you as her husband and believes everything you tells her

Join her and bring her back to prayers and do you weird life private from her sight