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Victorious12:
Good day Everyone. I'll be very brief
I lost my Dad yesterday and it was a very shocking news.... Pls what are your advice and what should I be expecting from his family, Note this....am the only son but I have two sisters
I don't know my Dad's lawyer n the Rest

Pls kindly advise me on what to do

May his soul rest in peace

You are the one to brief his family and your mother should have been there through out the years of marriage

Your family will inform you the traditional rites if any and how f you don't have the money tell them and they will give you options or sort it got you

And if they do, you must humble yourself all through your life else a day will come that they will remind you how they buried your late father if you misbehave to t by them

Be close to mum and both of you with your sisters will be stronger

hunterezi:
Hello Nairalanders,

I'll love to hear your opinion on the said topic.

I work with hospitals and recently a woman said she couldn't give birth for some medical reasons...

The woman said she has advised her husband to take up another wife but to no avail. This couple love is out of this planet. So the doctor said there are other ways too....

SURROGATE! I got to know about everything and she said I should help her get a single mom (that must have given birth before) who can be a surrogate mother.

I've not been looking for anyone because I really don't know about it. Is it safe?

It's not your duty to get one for them because if it turns out bitter you will be blamed

If you want to be a surrogate mother for them you can be and will be well documented and paid but you can never ever have the child again

Pls leave them they will sort themselves

Sunmars:
Firstly I really don't like sharing stories here. It feels awkward, but sometimes, you can't really wrap your head around certain issues and you need third parties to examine your issues.

This is a new moniker I created for this issue.
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Mods please don't send this to frontpage.

Ignore the errors and typos.

I shared the first part of this story in a previous thread.

https://www.nairaland.com/6062515/may-go-separate-ways

Now I have been able to get a good self contain apartment in the oukskirt of town. The neighborhood is not posh but the compound and flats is really good.
I won't mind as I mostly stay indoors and always mind my business.
Madam has still refused to come with me. I have already made up my mind for a solo trip in my lifr journey henceforth.

Three weeks ago, I got a call from one of my uncle. Immediately he requested to see me, I knew something was wrong. I eventually went to see him in the company of another uncle who came to pick me.
On getting there, the elder one said madam came and discussed so many issues which where down right lies and half truth.
She said I don't take care of them nor feed them! ( I eventually got statements from my four accounts showing transfers to her account on weekly basis with narrations such as feeding allowance, foods, baby food etc. Even rent payments were via transfers too)

She said so many things that were downright foolish. I can't possibly type all here.
She also accused my mum of being the cause of our problem. That it was my mum that brought the idea of me moving to outskirt of town. She conveniently forgot it was the challenges I encountered that led to that decision.

Even when she was having problems conceiving for 3 years my mum was always encouraging her and advising her to pray.

So after meeting with my uncles and refuting all those lies, I returned home and didn't confront her. I didn't want things spiraling out of control and leading to dangerous events that will appear on pages of papers. I was ready to play calm and avoid trouble.

Two weeks ago it was time for me to host my town brethrens. Madam was aware. The meeting was supposed to be on Sunday but madam left for her mom's house immediately she returned from work on Friday.
I have already vowed to ignore everything until I leave so I took over preparation. I eventually took the chickens to a friend who is a caterer to help me prepare Free of charge.
Madam came back Sunday afternoon, an hour to the meeting.
All through the event,she wore a long face and refused to do anything. No complaints from me as I handled everything myself.
As I was seeing the guests to their cars, one of my aunty told me to return back home that madam is putting on jeans trouser and said she will attack my mum who also came for the meeting.
I hurried back in and actually hurried back in to meet madam now wearing jeans trouser instead of the wrapper she was putting on. I waited to see what will happen but she did nothing again.
Well if she has tried that nonsense, it would have spelt big trouble for her, I can guaranty that.

Just last Friday, I came in late from work and not long after, her mum and her younger sister marched in. The mum was huffing and puffing like a boxer. I was,just watching in amusement. She said she wanted to see me, so I said OK.
She said my younger sister called madam and threatened to come down from her base to beat madam up because madam said she was gonna fight her mum( my mother).
I said she(my sister) must have spoken that out of anger and as a woman. I said any lady who heard such news about a threat to her mum, whether its true or false would react that way.
That even her own daughters would do same too.
Madam's mother went ahead to say something that got my spiked up. She said she is afraid for the safety of her daughter. I tried to reassure her that my sister meant no harm, but she continued.
That she is afraid of me and my family, that she heard that my tribe used to eat humans.
I stopped her there immediately and asked her to take her daughter and leave immediately.
If after 6 years of marriage and a couple of years of dating without any issues and no harm to her daughter, she can say this, then they have no business being in my house.

So madam got up and grabbed some few clothing's and left with her mum and sister.

Now I am going to call them and reveal things I have sworn not to tell anyone.
I will call the mother and tell them the medical condition of their daughter before they will later say it is me and my flesh eating tribesmen that inflicted her.
I will tell them her HIV status, that her two fallopian tubes are occluded (blocked ) and that she has hormonal imbalance.
These are things I have kept to myself and managed madam's condition myself, but I think they need to know the truth.
I think I should do this to absolve myself of blame as this woman goes around painting me and my family bad.

Now I can see why madam has been acting the way she does. It is the doctrine she got from my mother.
Now I understand why my pastor requested I move my family away from this people. He said this two years ago and I didn't mention anything to him. Dude must have seen something I didn't.

I am finally moving to the new place next weekend alone. Life goes on.

You have done well by tolerating the nonsense she has been doing Al these while

Simply go with your family and give them , give them a date and let the two families listen to you all

After that, demand for the bride price you paid if any and tell them you are done with the marriage

You really have to move on and don't let anyone slow you down

Chef2000:
Please doctors in the house is there a cure for nocturnal epilepsy?

I have a pretty girl, we started dating 8 months ago, this girl is everything I need in a woman, she is neat, cooks well and humble, so perfect to my taste but she is epileptic.

I have been inviting her to my house for over 5months for her to sleep over in my apartment but she keeps refusing, telling me she has a problem then I later promised her whatever the problem is that I wouldn't abadon her.

She finally came on friday, we ate together and later in the night at 22:38 she started having epilepsy and after about 45mins she woke up and started crying, she told me she has been suffering from epilepsy since Feb 2019 but she hasn't been to the hospital due to financial issues.

So please can we find drug for nocturnal epilepsy, it happens to her only at night like 30 to 35mins in her sleep.

She will be fine if you give her the emotional support she needs

Tension too can he a triggering factor

Follow he to see a doctor if possible with any if her family members

Divanona:
Eight years ago, with tears in my eye, I held his hand, begged him to stay with me that we will struggle together and succeed, but he refused. He walked away living me pregnant. Now, he's back without anything.

We were friends from the University, I graduated before him because I was studying a 4years course. The very first time, we tried to take our relationship serious was after my graduation. We had s.e.-x for the very first time and I became pregnant.
The truth is, the guy have always been good to me throughout my stays in school.
I remembered that day he sacrificed his school fees for mine so I could be able to do my final clearance. But when I became pregnant, he walked away after convincing me to keep our baby.
I went through everything all by myself.
Since last year, he has been apologizing on phone, so last week, I asked him to come. He traveled down to my place. Without being afraid of anyone harming him from my family, he believed in me and came. He's around in my family house, staying in my brother's room for the past 3days.
He has opened up everything to me, my family members and have apologized.

now, I'm so confused with my life.

He couldn't graduate, he had problem in school after I left and all this years, he has been struggling, but now he wants to take responsibility and be with us, but he had nothing. No certificate, except diploma which he later did from another school, no job, no place of his own to stay. He had nothing. He wants us to get married and have a family.


I feel I'm about to add more burden to my already stressed life.
The only positive thing here now, is the excitement my son is having seeing his father and the relationship they're building.

A part of me wants to see this guy have a great life and have direction and not see him live like this, even if I don't settle down with him. because when I meant him, he was kind, a good person, he had dreams, vision and good plans.
But living us alone all this years, with all his explanations, I'm not contented.

Another part of me is confused, afraid and I feel ishould push him away and let him go back to his life and keep moving with my son because I don't have the strength to shoulder all these.

Please matured mind in the house, what do you have to say? This is my life and it's getting more confused.
What would you advise? What should I do?
I don't want to make more mistakes.

Sorry for my lengthy write-up

He came back to you because he has lost all hope in life

He left you because he believes he has greater chances than being with you

Now he wants to be the cross you have to carry in your life

Forget about the sentiment of your son here


If you ever love him, see him as the man of your life

If that word love wasn't and never existed in your heart, accept him and see him as your cross to carry for life

ThatIgboBoy:
Hello fam
I need your in put on this topic.
There is a lady I want to get married to. But we keep having one particular problem.
We both work. But she is of the opinion that her money belongs to her and she might decide to help out or not.
I am of the opinion that as a couple we have to work things out together. I dont expect her to pay any bill for me but to help out as a help mate. She flatly refused that her money is her money and she might decide to help or not. And that I should not have it in mind that she might help me. That the role of the man as the head of the house is to take care of everything.
I dont know if my perception is wrong here. I need experienced married folks to advice me.

The moment a man shows interest in a woman's money the more difficult it will be for the man to have access to her money

A woman who will spend for you will spend her money on you and never made reference to it

Stop making mockery of sensetive issues like this
No one goes to marriage to get divorced and no child was born with the intentions of being in a broken marriage

Go and get married and experience what it is

Covid:
Thanks for your comment. I'm not really emotionally affected and I don't take our misunderstanding too seriously cos she's the one always bringing up an issue out of nothing. I spent most of my time working online, I have no time for argument with her, but the reason I fall sick each time I decide to give her a break is what I do not understand.

Alright

KingsDisease:
Our Housemaid of just 16yrs disrespects me a lot.. it is caused by too much play by my fault, I agree.
What can I do , Resetting slaps doesn't solve the problem
I call her, she doesn't answer. Total disrespect and disregard! I don't want to be beating her because it seems she is getting immune to it. It is also creating a mutiny or diminishing the closeness between me and my younger ones because she takes care of them.
Ps- I seized the phone given to her because she uses it to make midnight call to a boy hence the origin of the issue.

Lalasticlala, Dominique,RoyalBoy
fp pls

That girl will implicate you and it will take the grace of God to believe that you are innocent of what she will put on your head in that house over her body

If you notice anything just report her to mum

Hence fort, correct her with politeness and don't ever beat her, leave that to your parents

Put a final stop to playing with her

Sameazy15:
Over to u pls help a friend

Only someone who is in distress knows what it is to be in a financial distress

Help if you can with out making advances

Covid:
I've been with my fiancee for three months and we are not in a sexual relationship; she is a virgin and we both agreed not to have sex until we are married. I noticed that each time we had a little misunderstanding and we don't talk for a day, I literally fall sick. This is the third time and it can't be a coincidence.

Am I the only one experiencing this? Please advise!

Cc:
Rocktation
Farano

I think you are falling sick because you don't communicate with her the way you guys use to communicate when you are in good state

Try to avoid that thing that will make you to be having misundersting with her

That sickness is showing that your emotions are fighting that quarrel and the break

It's could be love

jomarq:
your signature said it all,but i need a second opinion

See guy, for peace to reign in your marriage, just talk to her to bring something so that you can also bring something to make it up

The mistake you made was not telling her from onset that the money is not yours

Money given to women especially a wife are hardly returned back as she assumes it's her own share

Unless she follows you to sign a paper from a money lender or bank

That's the only way she will participate in making up the money
They will rather prefer you dash them and don't talk about it

Darkandbrown:
Away from home for 7months now because of covid 19. Just when I thought airports are opened I can now go home, hubby said I should give him 3 months to gather funds for a better apartment. What can I say as visa issuance is even on hold sef.
To the reason for this post,
Oga usually hangs out with his friends once in a week and gets home late, we had issue about it when I was there. And since I travelled he still continues such and when he is out he would not take my calls, my messages wont get delivered then he gets home about midnight( I know cos immediately he steps in he gets the mesages). The next day we would have issue cos obviously I was pissed my this.
Last night he did samething, we last spoke when he was at work, he responded to my messages this morning at work then he called me ( I.e he slept out). I was calm cos I didnt want to talk or react in a bad way. I asked why he didnt take my calls, oga claimed he didnt see the calls, I asked why he didnt receive my chat either and he said wifi in the house stopped working, the usual none challant respond and the obvious lie got me pissed and I told him I had to get to what I was doing and I would talk to him later. He kept insisting on the lie. I angrily said oga park well, I know what is going on and that I wasnt stupid. He ended the call, after a few minutes I was calm and thought I should call back but since then he has refused taking my calls.

Men can lie for Africa to cover their tracks, if you want to be happy, just be happy and stop monitoring him

You can't change him until he is satisfied with his ways

Souqwaqif:
There is this relation of mine that has been cohabiting with this guy for about three years now,with no seriousness to marry from the guy even after advising both to do court or simple traditional marriage.
Currently she is having fibroid and advised by the Dr. to go for CS. But the guy claims he has no money to deposit for the CS. Also this relation of mine has no money of her own currently.
Please what advise can one get to handle the situation? Constructive criticism and helpful comments pls!!!.Thanks

There is no other advice than for them to go their separate ways, nothing is progressive about their relationship

jomarq:
it started like this,I give her money to start business after much prejor from my mum that you need wife to be doing something bra bra bra.i give her 100k to start.she later come back to tell me that the money is not enough since she need to secure portion (OK bizz).now I give her another 100k that is not my money(meeting money)b/c am the treasurer.but i didn't tell her that it is meeting money and meeting is closing next month.when I ask her, she said that husband doesn't borrow wife money and get it back I should ask my mum.Elder please is it true b/c I don't know how to make 100k in the next 3weeks.l

Consider that money gone

Fox12:
I accidentally eavesdropped on him on the phone(Having intimate conversation) with an anonymous girl.
Should I tell my sister about it?

Just mind your business before you will be the one to create a problem that will lead you out of that house they are staying

Trustwallet:
Hello nairalander!

Unknown someone keeps sending money to my diamond access bank, this is the second time am recieving money to my account, which is 30,290 & 30,136 naira and the text on the remark is a foreign name.

At first i got alert of 30,260 with remark "Stepan zemalek", at first i thought someone mistakenly sent money to my account, i said lemme wait if i will receive a call from someone claiming the money but nobody called to claim the money, not knowing that my bank have deducted 530 naira for sms fee nd 200 naira for stamp nd postal fee, i have to transfer the money the money to my rubies bank account with the hope somebody will call me nd claim the money.

Secondly, i got another alert of 30,136 with the remark saying "Jaonna LiebeltEtzler/18.9.20".

I dont remember giving anybody my bank details apart from my mom nd uncles, i have called my bank customer care to complain about it and to know who sent the money from my account but he said he cant disclose the information to me. i have complained to the bank and the keep saying their normal bla bla.

I need help on what to do next....below is the screenshot of the alert...

Go to the bank and make a complain to the manager

HomerTimpson:
HMMM only a woman can know a woman like the palm of her hand.

I HAIL MAM

Thanks

cho25bc:
Im not surprised by your comment. Ive already prepared my mind before creating this thread for negative reactions like yours so it's no big deal. I appreciate your comment regardless ma'am. But pls,next time you see a thread asking for help on nairaland or on any other platform,even if you dont want to help,at least be nice with your words or walk away. Stay blessed.

OK, I will do just that, thanks

Until you forget about your good looks and go closer to God , you will never understand what's happening both past and present

cho25bc:
Good morning Nairalanders. Please I need your help. Im doing this on behalf of someone,it is not for me. Usually,i dont do this because it it not in my nature to beg for financial help,but the situation is pushing me to it.

There is this kind woman who is a cleaner in my school hostel at UI then when i was studying for my Masters,2018 to 2020. i left the hostel in March, one week before COVID-19 lockdown started. I and the woman were close,like friends,although she is very older than i am,should be in her mid forties. Long story short,she is a poor woman struggling to make endsmeet as a cleaner. But since February,the school has not been paying salary to cleaners, although NASU has been on strike since January due to non-payments of arrears and other entitlements. I guess the hardship extended to the cleaners because they are not under NASU.

Since then,this woman with two children has been living from hand to mouth, begging people for money to feed and doing odd jobs for anyone who needs cleaning services.

Her opportunities of making money by doing laundry for students,fetching water and cleaning rooms during academic session are on hold because of the lockdown. I called her in July to greet her and asked her for help regarding something i wanted to find out,and she told me about her predicaments,how she's been suffering. I was forced to send the little i have to her then.

Now this is why I decided to come to NL for help. On saturday,she called me and lamented that her daughter in polytechnic Ibadan called her that same morning. She said the school management has asked all students to pay their fees of N45,000 on or before 25th this month,which is this Friday,else,the money will increase by N5,000 after that day. This woman said her daughter is in ND 2. She doesnt have a dime to even feed not to talk of paying her school fees.

I know you will ask. "Where is her husband,the father of her children?" She said her husband is irresponsible. He doesnt provide for them nor assists with the upkeep of their children. She's been the only one taking care of the children,which is why she took up the cleaner's job in UI. She is also a part-time caterer but jobs are not forth-coming like before because of the pandemic lockdown.

I don't have such amount to give. Im a physically challenged person who is struggling to be somebody in life by going to school. I dont have a job yet. I only manage whatever my family can provide for me and also augment it with my freelance writing business,which doesnt bring much for me monthly,else,i would have helped her. So im begging you,all kind-hearted and generous NLers to help this woman,not me. Whatever you can give will go a long way. I will also add the little i can afford for now,which will be far from the needed 45k. Help me to gather the school fees for this woman's daughter so that she wont be a drop-out. Her mother was crying bitterly on the phone on Saturday and i felt awful that i couldnt help.

I know how Nigeria is right now,the inflation,increased prices of commodities,high level of poverty, hunger and unemployment. I know many of us are also going through financial hardships,but i know there are people who cant be freaked or shaken by 45k. Please let us help her.

You can call or chat with me on Whatsapp for verification if you have doubts about this story. I will provide more information about her including her phone number. My number is 08080963661.

For security reasons,i dont want to share her account details here on the forum.

Please if you have anything to give her, quote me with your line and i will inbox the account to you in private.
May we not beg for food in our lives in Jesus Name. God bless you all in advance.

Cc Lala,mynd44, ishilove,please help me push this to the front page for wider publicity. Someone's future needs saving.

Thank you all in advance.

What exactly do you expect members of this forum to do for you about this woman
This is an issue of your interest and need not to be on this platform

usj:
How my act of kindness brought me shock, and regrate this morning. In lekki Lagos

Around our shop, there is a single mum (we are from same tribe) cohabiting with a man (Ghanian). She has a son from a previous relationship with her, so, three of them are occupying a room.

The son do come (for two weeks now) over to our shop, he watches what we do and we took him as a protege, we buy him food( mostly lunch and some times breakfast depending on when he resumes) give him money which the mum collects from him. most of all, we see him as a family.

He came to shop on Friday with a moody face, so we asked him a lot of questions, and told us many things:

1. As at 1:30 pm he has not eaten any thing.
2. He was flogged at home for using their cream.
3. He told us that the mum doesn't beat him, but the man does. She too is seriously being abuse by the man.
4. Based on my observation, the boy is under fed, very timid, physically abused (from the bruises on his back), has ringworm and dandruff, his hair was bushy, and looked like he hasn't comb it for days.

After telling us everything, we bought him food, I brought my clipper from home for personal hair cut that day. I begged a neighbor to allow me use his light. So, I took him there and barb his hair, afterwards we closed around 5:30 pm.
This Monday morning, the first thing our neighbors greeted us with was that; the mother came crying and asking why we barb his hair, that if anything happens to the son, we are going to be held accountable.
That her mother had a dream and called her not to barb the boy's hair .......blab bla bla... Since morning I have been so worried, what if something happens to him? Won't I be the first to be arrested? We told the boy to stop coming to our shop, and I have seriously warned myself to mind my own business hence forth.

What you did is out of pity and charity just that you would have informed his mother before barbing his head

You have to go to her with a witness and tell her your reasons for taking care of him and as it is you are sorry because you mean no harm

After that just withdraw from any help from them, she will definitely come to you for help, simply tell her that you can't help because you don't have what you need to assist her

So many people are in prisons for helping out someone innocently

fineboynl:
my room and toilet is now smelling. there is this girl I'm seeing she frequently or sometimes visit me and stay for days. her pussy smell really bad.

before you all say it dirty girl. she is not. no matter how expensive her fix hair is, she removed it within a week or at most 2 weeks. she is not a dirty girl. but I don't understand how her pussy smell so bad. my bedsheets and guest towel which I give to girls is just bombing with smell. the toilet where she urinate. I am tired and already thinking of stopping her from coming.

what could be the problem? she get wet too easily when I touch her. sometimes while we are in public when i touch or romance her the next thing is that foul smell.

what is she not doing right? if it's an infection what is the treatment and how do I tell her? she isn't my real girlfriend neither would i like to date or marry her, but for the main time I like her company as she is helping me to kill boredness most times. there are other needful situation I am needing her for. if not I would have deleted her since.



I am tired of washing bedsheets and cleaning the house each time she visit. my wardrobe where she put her undies or trousers smells too. I'm tired

It's a medical condition and the odour is coming right from her womb not even from the pusy

She needs to go to a government hospital where she will be directed to a gynaecologist who will work on her

I don't want to say more to avoid giving you tension

Tell her so that she will start now to tackle it and if you know that you won't marry her, pls release her to find another man

You may keep her for long and after you think you are done with her, it will be too late for her to go then you guys will start having troubles that will definitely affect your individual life

Before they will accuse you of using her

Elizkid:
Something like what please. Any recommendations?

Well constant Elemax is OK
Thermocool is OK but more expensive because it doesn't have fake since its produced in Nigeria

While others are imported from China

You need to add it up to 50k to get something that will stand the taste of time

Adonis86:
I graduated from the university seven years ago. After my youth service, I went back to my school for a postgraduate program. It took me four years to complete the program due to death of my supervisor and ASUU strikes.

But in between the four years, my hod called and ask me what I do. When she learnt I was unemployed, she asked me to come over to the department and start working as a casual staff for 20k salary. I had to accept since she needed someone skillful in MS office computer packages, beside I have done a lot of odd jobs before then which couldn't feed me let alone paid my rents and school fees.

Then, last year while doing the job, the university commenced recruitment which was very massive, but underground. God being so faithful, I was able to graduate from the masters program at the time and she kept promising to help me push my cv for employment. I came out as the best postgraduate student in my department with the highest FCGPA.

Brethren, do you know what has happening from then till now? Vested Status interest.
Since then till now, my application has been going one step forward two steps backward. She minuted on the first one last December. It got to the faculty, the Dean minuted and sent it out after much pressure from me, minutes later she ordered the application to be returned and that was all I heard about it. But she pushed her son's application and he was employed as well as our Hod's. She pushed her daughter's and her husband's niece, they both got while she kept lamenting that she's confused on how to go about mine, stating she has ran out of idea on how to go about it.

This afternoon, she called to inform me that, the university wants names of all the ad-hoc staff in all the departments for immediate employment as junior staff. She was asking me if I'm interested in the offer since I'm currently a PhD student and the job should be for ssce or fslc holders...

She said if I should accept the offer that it might terminate my chances of getting a teaching job, which I've been applying.

Please, what should I reply her?

I think at this stage she has no progressive plans for you

Just finish your PhD and sort your self out and look else where

Meanwhile don't accept that offer, it's a ploy to reduce the spead of your progress from her once you take that job it will affect your CV

Leave her to her conscience

gfm01:
Pls,I need a serious companion lady,I stay in lagos st,am a Yoruba by tribe,single, working and a Christian.
Just send me a text message on 08158377606,pls if you are really interested.plsss

I think you need to state your age, preferred tribe and your location. This will help those who will be declaring interest

FinewineNg:
Please ooo help. What is the tested and trusted solution to Premature ejaculation? My husband doesn't last 5 secs during sex. Immediately he penetrates me, he just cums just like that when I am preparing to enjoy the show. This have been going on for months and he isn't bothered.
The other time his di#&k was inside me and it went flaccid.

He says there is nothing wrong with him.

He doesn't kiss, he is not the romantic type, even to play with my nipples is a big job for him.

I am frustrated to the point I am always Hot 247. My v. Jay is always wet. I need to be made good love to. For 2 months now, no sex, he just masturbates in the middle of the night while watching p@rn on his phone (he is a porn addict and heavy hemp smoker).

I told him we should see our family Doctor but he insisted there is nothing wrong with him.

I have a healthy sexua l libido and I enjoy pre-intimacy nd se x alot but here I am, starved, frustrated, constantly dripping and hungry for it. We have 4 kids and my libido increased after child bearing. I'm in my middle thirties and he is is his mid forties.

I am a 100% clean woman and I maintain very healthy oral and general body hygiene so its not a case of me being a dirty woman.


[/b]Nairalanders please what healthy treatment options are available, where can we get it?[b]

Help me. I can't sleep with another man.

Thank you for your suggestions.

Masturbation is the major cause of his poor erection and pride won't allow him to accept it

Get a drug enhancer and put just a little portion on his meal and be the one to take the ride because he will definitely get erection use it that period and watch his reaction if he will notice anything

Just because he can Masturbate and you guys are done with kids, he believes he is done with sexual satisfaction

Assuming it happens at the early stage of your marriage that means he may not be able to pregnant you and won't accept its his fault

This are one of the secret pains women goes through yet they expect you to be happy

Hopefulone:
Hello everyone. I’m sorry this is a bit lengthy. I need urgent help and I hope you read through.

I’m a student in one of the universities in the south-west. Ever since I came back home since the corona virus thing started, I cannot point to one single thing that I have achieved in my life. Late last year, I got to know about my HIV-positive status. I am not a loose person at all, my only mistake was trusting a friend. I won’t lie, the whole thing affected me. When I wasn’t drinking, I was sleeping. It was really hard for me to deal with what everything that was going on. Before I knew it, I would have flashes of mixing bleach or sniper with a drink and killing myself. Whenever I was in a bus going somewhere, I created different scenarios of an accident happening that would lead to my death. I started cutting myself at some point because I could not feel anything. I don’t know how to explain the whole thing in detail. I just generally felt like I was floating through life.

The corona ish has made everything worse. Since March that I have been at home, I have cut off friends and just distanced myself from people. I stay with my dad alone and even though we have a relatively good relationship, I can’t bring myself to share stuff with him. Once, he noticed a cut on my wrist and I explained it away as an accident. I have lost faith in people and my dad is the only reason why I haven’t found the strength to end it all. I feel like I am slowly drifting away. I am unable to sleep at nights, I have issues with recollecting things or events and I have a persistent headache that never goes away. I know there is something wrong with me but I don’t know what it is. I hope that someone can know someone or something that can take me out of this very dark place.

It took a whole lot of strength for me to type this. Please, I beg you in the name of God, go easy on me with the insults. I had to create a new account because of the sensitivity of this post.

The problem your are passing through is as a result of your state of mind on your health status

Pls for the sake of God be happy and make sure you take your drugs

Once you are faithful with your drugs you will leave healthier than a non HIV patient

Move closer to God that's where you will find peace and happiness

Pacesetter123:
Yes,but it will have to be Akpabio,Dangote,Adeleke,Adenuga,Saraki,Indimi,Atiku,Bamanga Tukur n de likes sons.Else.........

Exactly ❗❗❗

Emmaxy9:
True or not? As a male child, life had been fun, at least for some, you enjoy childhood, playing football and having fun, with little to no pressure about getting rich.
But as you clock 20 or thereabout, you begin to feel the heat. Everyone now begins to see you as a consumer. And the only value you can get right now is to be rich.
Is this true or not?

That's not true, once you make yourself relevant in the family settings you will be needed at all times

But if you don't impact yourself into people's lives, of what use will your presence be