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Nomorelove:
Hello everyone, I'm a 24 year old guy and there is this nice lady I met two months back and ever since then, I've really been happy. Truth is we aren't in a relationship yet but have spoken about our feelings for each other. I really planned on settling down with her and likewise her but something happened today that got me in a state of dilemma. So she had to talk to her ex because of something really important and all of a sudden, she told me she still has feelings for him deep down and talking to him after a year of breakup has brought it all back and hopes that they'll be together someday... I was like "Am I dreaming?" (I said that within me). She went on and on and I immediately started shaking like literally. I couldn't speak for a while and she noticed nothing at all. I'm really dumbfounded right now. Her ex was even the one that broke up with her... Why are girls really confused these days? She has told me countless times about how she feels towards me so I have no idea why this is happening all of a sudden.

I think it'll be in my best interest to cut of all ties with her because I can't face what has happened and I'll be hurting myself by deciding to remain friends with her. What do I do?

Critics are most welcome

Cc lalasticlala

Most times, it's not easy to forget or cut ties with ex's

Give her all the time she needs and let her know that you are giving her time to go back to her ex or continue with you and if she wants to continue with you, she has to drop anything she has with her ex

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ThemanS:
Hello Nairalanders i am back again. I created this account mainly for this kind of situation.

My Boss is a Contractor, and i am his manager, the problem here is my boss always like cutting coners and embarassing himself.

And the most painful thing about is whenever he got exposed, he will tell the whole world that i am the one who deceived him, but me and him knows whatsup.

Back to the matter.
My Boss have a very strong connection in (NEDCOM) so almost each year we use to win contracts sometimes multi million sometimes peanuts.

We happen to win a contract around April this year with a completion period of 2 months, but till date we havent finish the Job. And the worst part is we were paid half of the money just because we have connection.

I have been persuading him for almost a month to complete the contract but he keeps on posting me and telling me lies.

Deep down in me i know he dont want to finish the Job, he just want to get paid and abandone the project. I have warned him severally that if the Auditors got the wind of it, that will be the end of winning contracts in that Ministry, but he is not having any of it.

He told me i am just a kid that is how Nigeria is. Please how can this country move forward with the kind of elders we have? I am just confused, the supervisors keeps on calling me, that they will report our company, but my boss is adamant, he just want to Chop and clean mouth, while i am thinking of the future.

Besides abandoning contracts is what destroyed this country. I also regard this as Fraud, and fraud is the last thing i will engage in because i want to live with a clear conscience.

Alot of workers in that ministry hate him but he dont know. And if i tell him that so so so and so so so are your enemies they want to have a concrete evidence against you so that their boss will foreget about you, he will tell me not to worry, they cant to anything.
This time around the Top man in the Ministry refused to sign our request for payment. He insist on getting a full audit because he is always receiving complaints, and he want to clear his name, so that his co-wokers will not say he is having his own share of the Money.

When i told him about the latest development, he rebuked me and told me he is going to sack me. That i dont know anything. I am just tired. As i am typing this almost three people that worked for us called me about their balance. If i ask him to release money so that we will pay them, he will tell me to make the wait, until he got payed. And this people are not having any o it. They will say i am a thief, my boss paid them but i refused to give them the money. If they call him directly he will tell them to call me and ask me, cus he has already settled them through me.

This man is just using me as a cover to cheat people and i cant say he is lying cus he is my father. Even if i said he is lying nobody will beleive me.

Please Nairalanders how can i convince my Boss not to abandone the project? This is the Third project we are abdonding and chopping the money. I am tired i dont want to continue this way. He is even avoiding me these days just because i am putting pressure on him to fulfil his end of the bargain.

To be frank, just leave that man the way you met him ,it has water deep into his system and nothing will change him unless he stops getting the contract

The more you bulge him the more he sees you as his friendly enemy

It's eith you over look him or you leave him for another job

Don't be surprise he is not eating alone other members in the ministry may have been scratching his back

shegs2009:
So i have been away from home (lagos) for 3 years and my lil sis who is now 16 is getting all grown, but my recent communication wit my family made me realize that she have a thing for fashion, which is making her demand more from my mum... My mom having realized this is cutting everything off, on the ground that if she doesn't get wat she wants she will go astray, even my other sister which is older than her says the same thing.
This made me spoke wit her and she told me she love fashion and all, that mom want her to b like her older sis who is focus to be independent
Now my problem is how to make her realize it not all important without making her feel everyone's against her, making her do what she wants when she get the chance and making her have this entitlement mentality like an average girl
turning to a slay queen with nothing upstairs.
"I am sure going to lagos this December by God grace"

Seat her down and let her know that whatever fashion she wants she will get it but she must be focused in life

If she doesn't stop that mentality, means you guys have to reduce the amount of money she gets

She is just 16yrs and she needs to plan her life but if she feels she is grown now and fashion is her problem, you guys must reduce the attention she gets from you all and also reduce the amount of money you give her

The more money she gets the more she mess up with fashion

Engage her with vocational training that will keep her busy and Jamb class too

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos. I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family. Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos. Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy. Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage. Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Honestly, it's not a good experience to.have your wife date another man, men should just avoid anything that will lead her to such life Beyonce they test it out side ,it takes the grace of God to bring her back

Just keep monitoring her until you catch her and that is if you can catch her

Live your life and don't allow her attitude lead you to depression

Every man must make sure his wife doesn't need another man, if her problem is love give her enough, if it's sex give her enough, if it's care give her and if it's attention give it to her

Dont just give her room to get it else where because she will definitely get a better one than yours

Hunt27:
Source below
https://www..com.ng/the-only-way-to-a-fruitful-marriage-is-total-submission-bishop-oyedepo/

Even when the man is irresponsible and left the family for the woman to paddle alone

That's not possible

If a man wants a submissive wife, let him face his family squarely and love his wife

It's simple process

kbrown202019:
I am dealing with a financial issue that is impacting my marriage and I need advice. This is long -- please bare with with me. My husband and I are based abroad. My husband is the youngest of 7 siblings.  My mother in law is around 80 years old and she is based in Nigeria. Some of my mother in law's children  live in Nigeria while some live abroad.

Earlier this year, my mother in law's children decided to sell her home in Lagos and have her move in with her son in Nigeria. My husband was against selling the house and having his mom move in with his brother but since my husband is the youngest and he is abroad, no one took him seriously. Once The house was sold, all the siblings got an equal portion of the profit. 

My mother in law has been living with her son in Nigeria along with his wife for the last 6 months.  Unfortunately, the son and the wife had a very horrible fight. Their marriage was already on the verge of breaking down and this fight ended their marriage. My mother in law witnessed the fight and we were told she fainted and couldn't speak for hours. My mother in law is now staying with one of her daughters in Lagos. My mother in law has made it clear to my husband that she doesn't want to stay permanently with her daughter and she is never going back to the house of her son who had a fight with his wife. My mother in law wants her own place in Lagos. She has a house in the village but she hasn't  lived there in many years and she would be alone and it is far from everyone. If she stays in Lagos, she would be closer to her children and grandchildren. 
Out of 7 children that my mother in law has, my husband is the only one that is willing to contribute money for a place for my mother to stay in Lagos. The other siblings have said they are not willing to contribute money to rent a place for her because they  can't afford it and they also said my mother in law has the following options for where to live:1.  My mother in law can go back to live with the son that had a fight with his wife. My mother in law said she is never going back there.2. She can stay with one of her daughters in Lagos. My mother in law said this is not possible. The daughter's house that she is staying at has 5 people sharing 2 rooms. My mother in law would be the 6h person and she doesn't want that. The other children in Lagos don't have space in their houses.3. She can go back to her house in the village and live there. Again, the village is far from everyone and my mother in law hasn't really lived there. The siblings are fighting among each other and my mother in law is heart broken. My husband loves his mom and would do anything to make her happy.

I've stayed out of this drama as much as possible but now it is starting to affect my marriage. My husband has decided that if the other siblings do not want to contribute money to rent a place in Lagos for my mother in law to live, then he will pay for it using funds from our joint savings account that we share. We are not rich, we are a young couple, married 6 years and we have two young children that we have to pay school fees for.Currently, my husband gives my mother in law money every month for her up keep ( he gives her a total of around 1 million naira per year for her upkeep). I don't have a problem with this. However, if my husband has to rent a place for my mother in law to stay, it would cost another 1 million naira a year. So 2 million naira of our money every year would go towards renting  a place for my mother in law along with money for food, upkeep etc. I told my husband that we shouldn't be the only ones paying for a place for his mom to stay when there are 7 siblings that  can contribute to this. If we split the cost, then the burden won't be on us. He said we don't have any other option since the siblings are saying they can't afford it and won't agree to contribute.

He said the other siblings  don't care about his mom and he doesn't want his mom to die because of this issue. I think the other siblings care about the mom's well being but they won't put up the money to get my mother in law her own place and will also sit back and allow my husband to pay for everything. My husband says this is the only parent that he has alive and he wants her to live. He also said if he cant take the money out of our savings account to pay for this place, then he is willing to take a loan and  would work extra jobs to pay off the loan. My husband already has a busy schedule so him taking on extra jobs would mean less time with me and our children. My husband also said if my parents were in a similar situation he would do the same for them. My husband and I are now arguing over this issue and it is causing stress in our marriage. I feel like he is choosing his mom over our family. 2 million naira every year is a huge sacrifice for us and it is not something we can easily afford without going into debt..If we make this sacrifice, his older siblings will continue to live their normal lives while my husband is the only one sacrificing. I love my husband and want to support him, I don't want to be selfish and want the best for my mother in law but I feel like the financial sacrifice is too much for my husband and I to bare alone. My husband said we don't have an option. If my husband moves forward with his plan and we start to struggle, worry that I might lose my marriage because of an issue that is not even my fault. Please advise.

My dear sister, I want you to know that even your husband siblings wants your husband to take full financial responsibilities over your mother in law and it's either he does it or leave it

Your sister in-law is the best place for her to say considering she is her biological daughter and you plan on what to send to her for her up keep

If you guys gets accomodation for mum, she will need extra hands to take care of her and she can't live alone ,that means more money for feeding,house rent and others which you can't really guess how much it is

Those who will leave with her will take food items away and all she wants is let their be food at home ywho is she waiting for to provide that ,it's your husband

Even his children and gramd children will spend time with her and they will be fed all on your husband's pocket

Now tell.me ,won't the load be too much on your husband and it will also affect your home front

For me ,if i am in your shoes, best option is to relocate her to wherever you people are
Doing so will, save the costof sending over 1m every year

By the time mama gets too sick that she may not survive,she will be flawn home because if it ends there the cost of bringing her home is high and she can't be buried there

Alternatively, let your husband talk with your sister in-law and get a more spacious accommodation for them and mama will leave with them

Besides,don't you think it's time for mama to come and visit you guys in abroad or don't you know that, that's what everyone wants you guys to do

Only her children knows what she suffers to put them through in life and you are not aware of her sufferings when they were growing up

Your husband duty is to make sure she doesn't suffer, last borns are more closer to mother's

By the time she comes abroad and spend time with you guys, there must be a way of taking care of her when comes back

Just save yourself and your marriage and bring her over there for the time being or support your husband decisions

I think his father was never relevant in his life

Omuka:
Good evening everyone.
Please experts I have a problem. Whenever my urine color is pure i would be having serious frequent urination, but when it turns to normal color it would stop. I have been battling this since 2015. Please what could be wrong with me? Expert i need your input please.

Why not go to hospital and explain to a qualified doctor's

ABDULKANSILA:
Hello,pls medicals practioners of the house,i am still at 26years old but my blood pressure use to rise up to 154/84mmhg while sometime down to 130mmhg.what is the implication of that to my health,are mine hypertensive or what is the cause of that.please i need more explanation to that.thank you all.

I am not a doctor but I can explain some things

BP are hereditary
Life style can trigger BP
Too much stress can trigger BP
Depressing situation can trigger BP
Excess salt in the food does

But it's advisable to get your doctor monitor your BP number and you start taking your drugs for life

It's the most silent killer

Just look out for signs like
Heart palpitations
Weskeness
Dizzyness
Fainting
Confusion
Unhappy state of mind

goodman41:
Thanks you so much for this advise, she is the last born she is so much attached to the mother I will go to see her

Good, for the fact that she is the last born, that makes her very close to her mum.

drunkdad:
all he does now is ride his Okada out of the house, without leaving a penny for my mom to cook for the day then get to make little money and resume drinking. then he comes back home to sleep in the afternoon before repeating the same in the evening and finally coming back drunk in the midnight.

My dear ,the best for you is not to allow him determine your family happiness

You guys have tried for him, your mother must have endured enough

Just move on and carry your mother along and always be there for her

Leave your dad with his life style, he will definitely carry his own cross

SegFault:
His liver is already gone. The best thing they can do is to advise him to go to rehab, if he doesn't want then I advise the op to start hustling along with his mother, your father has a choice in life, if he wants to die an alcoholic nothing wrong, if he doesn't nothing wrong. Our lives are in our hands, choose to do with it as you please.

Honestly

MhizzMarcelina:
My story is a long one, but before I start, I just want you all to know that this is a true story, I am not a scammer. I can provide evidence and sign an agreement/undertaking if the need be.

I am a University graduate, I had a 2:1 in History and Strategic Studies and have completed my Youth Service.

I got pregnant in my final year, second semester for my boyfriend whom I thought loves me, but I was wrong. Our relationship was not really a serious affair as such, I met him in my 2nd year in Enugu. We were only chatting for a while before we first met in my 3rd year again. The relationship was a long-distance thing because he stays in Enugu and I was schooling outside of Enugu.

I can count how many times I have seen him, 6 times. The 6th was when I got pregnant, we have not met for 11 months, I was preoccupied with school and other stuff. Eventually, I visited. Like I knew what will happen, I warned him to use Condom but he said no, that whatever happens, he will take care of me.

I realized I was pregnant after 1 month, called him, but he said I should abort. I went to 2 pharmacies but they objected until I provide him to sign an undertaking. And I was in school, he was in Enugu. I was so scared, confused, and didn't know what to do. See my project coming, see exams, how I managed to scale through with the pregnancy, is still a miracle to me. I could remember carrying 8 months of pregnancy to Taraba State where I was posted for NYSC, I could still remember my swollen legs after the journey.

It was a terrible experience, I won't wish even my worst enemy to go through one bit of what I went through. Even after childbirth, I bleed for 6 weeks as a result of some leftover placenta. The sleepless nights, the cryings, the frustrations, the wretchedness, the shame. The whole time, my boyfriend was not in the picture. He stopped picking my calls. I visited him with my 8 months pregnancy, he sent me away and warned me never to come to look for him.

I have been staying with this aunt of mine all through my pregnancy, even did my NYSC in her house, I was reposted from Camp to Imo State. But it was not easy living with her. She is this person that complains about everything, even the food I eat. She contributed to my frustrations. I won't lie that she has helped me, but it was frustrating because she is too bitter towards me.

I completed my service and relocated to the village to stay with my parents. As of then, my daughter was 8 months old. I was doing all the village chores to survive with my child. But along the line, my mother died of a snake bite when my child was 1 year and 7 months. It was devastating!! I didn't think I could survive it, my mum had been a strong support and I was at peace staying in the village with her. I became a shadow of myself, I started working as a roadside sweeper. Sweeping express road early in the morning.

Things were not easy for me in the village since my mum passed away. I had to travel back to stay with that aunt of mine. God, it was hell living with her. I was enduring every tribulation I faced living in my aunt's house until I couldn't endure it further after a strong misunderstanding where she hauled insults at me calling me names even prostitute and reminding me that she is the one fending for me. I got angry and traveled to Abuja to my girlfriend's with my daughter. Things were not easy there as well, I didn't see any job to do. And no money, I had to travel back to the village.

I resolved to carry my cross the way I saw it. I kept reminding myself that I was paying for the sin of fornication. I was doing village chores and saving small money. I started applying for jobs online until I got a job in Enugu. I took my child to my aunt because there is nothing I could do and no one I could entrust my child with. And I needed to get out of that village that was turning me into an old woman.

So, as bitter as it is, I left my daughter to the aunt that has been a torn to my flesh. I started working in Enugu in a firm, the job came with accommodation. But, bearly working for just 5 months, Covid19 struck, I was laid off from the 20,000 naira job I was managing.

I went back to my aunt and daughter, since the Covid19. I have been Jobless and broke. It is frustrating with my aunt on my head constantly reminding me that I am doing nothing but eating. Sometimes, I starve myself so that she won't complain about the food. She picks at everything I do in the house. My presence irritates her, i don't have peace of mind at all, am scared and afraid.. I have even lost my self-esteem.

I am 26 years old, broke, homeless, no bussiness, and a child. My aunt is a big woman in a federal government job. She has a good job and earns good money but finds it hard to help, she complains and calculates everything she has done for somebody. Staying with her is like staying in hellfire. She is not married.


Please, I need someone to help me with a job that has accommodation and can require me to bring my 4 years daughter along. Please.. Or any suggestions that can help me to be a better version of my self. I need help. This aunt of mine thinks without her, I am nothing, I really want to prove her wrong. As I said, I am ready to provide evidence and sign an agreement if need be.

Take that child to her father,tell him to take responsibility of her by telling you how much he will be giving you every week or two weeks or monthly

If he denys you ,UnCloth yourself before him and I'm the presence of that child and tell him that , he will never have peace until he comes to his child rescue, after doing that dress up and go

drunkdad:
For over 20 years, my dad has being a chronic drunkard. drinking alcohol despite all my mom's effort to try and stop him. 2 years ago, he stopped drinking and he was beginning to look better, speak more coherently and not socially awkward, but now, he has gone back to his past behavior just earlier this year when he started making friends with another guy who drinks alcohol.

All these behavior leads to him not able to work and a lot of behaviors he exhibits that is totally nasty, behaving like a kid.

My mom and I have called him and talked to him on several occasions about it but he still always goes back to drink after he leaves home.

I'm totally fed up, even my mum is very sad about the situation.

How can I deal with this situation..

My concern is the effect of alcohol to the liver in his body

Is your dad still working to earn a living or his friends gives him free drink

Zzor:
Good evening to you all,please I'm looking for an elderly and very rich man to marry,i don't have eyes for small boys,i need an elderly man that is so wealthy and will pamper me even at my worst behavior,like Ned is to Regina.I am everything Regina and more.Please all this young herbally energized penis people should stay out of this thread,take your aggressiveness away.To those that will come and type rubbish,eat your words and to those that will remind me of my Christian and born again status,we preach against poverty in my church.Only happy people are welcomed

You can contact Ned or Regina to link you up

It's your choice and we can't be against you

Alexgman1:
My girl is in her early 20s. A pretty, decent damsel who was born & brought up in MFM. I deflowered her 2years ago. Shes very innocent facialy, very loving, caring, romantic & helpful. I can go on & on describing her good & unique virtues which make me love & cherish her so much. But the problem is SHE LIES ALOT.
I know an average human lies like up to 5x a day but my baby doesn't know how to stop or use caution when it comes to lying. I have not talked to her about it before, all i do is nod my head or smile whenever she talks.
Am fed up already because there is nothing you will ask her that she wont respond witout lying or twisting words specially when we are on call. She lies on things that doesn't even need to be lied about.
Just recently she came to my place, we had so much fun & she slept off there after. I was looking 4 my phone everywhere in the house but couldnt find it so i had to use her phone to call my number. To my greatest surprise she saved my number in her phone as "MY BROTHER"

It's time to confront her about her lying habits before it becomes chronic

goodman41:
My wife visited me on June for her first time, along the line she got pregnant, which I have gone and do almost all the marriage rights which took me about 100k remaining wedding.

Although, she was supposed to go home with us that day but because she was constantly vomiting and feeling sick so we left her with her mother for her to recover small before joining me to the city. now that she is getting better I have told her to come over but she is saying wedding wedding she want us do wedding bla bla bla, infact I have decided to leave her to keep staying with her mother until when she is ready to join me, though she is not the demanding type she hardly ask me for money, even now that she is pregnant she hardly ask me for money, though am not financially buoyant now but I can take care of her.

please, is it good for my pregnant wife to be staying with her mother even when I have done almost the marriage rights? remember is her mother that is taking care of her and her mother doesn't want her to join me now because of her constant vomiting, though she is a very good girl and I love her.

Pls just leave her there to be nurtured by her mum as this is her first pregnancy,she needs her mother's care more than before

Do send allowance to her and visit her as you can

If she keeps bringing up the wedding issues, tell her you are saving towards it but for now ,her pregnancy and delivery is the major thing in your mind

It's will give you the opportunity to save towards her delivery and future wedding

By the time she thinks she is stable to travel to be with you ,she will demand for it and you can them come and pick her


Though at six months of her pregnancy she would have been strong enough to care for herself with little help

Unless she insists on staying with her parents then come after delivery, good better for you

sapphiere:
What do you think this?

They are premature adults

LegendsCoded:
Nairalanders i hail thee.

I'm seeking for help on behalf of my neighbor's wife and her kids, her husband(our landlord) beats his wife and kids everyday(I mean 7 days a week nonstop). This man is usually drunk, I'm really concerned and really pained, as i type now he's beating his wife and has locked them out. I tried some Google searches but it's not helping. Please this woman and her kids needs help, but hat can be done.

Thanks

Does it means that the wife can't call her family to caution him or her family are equally weak to deal with the man

Why can't the wife run out to police station or even to the street

Well you can make a report to the station and ask them to protect your identity,that is if they will protect you

chichijas:
I do not know where to post this thread.

I travelled to a town this morning, after doing my business there I ran out of cash, then I called my dad to send my four thousand naira for my transport..

prior before sending it, my account was running low on -29 or something close to that.

later called me and told me he had sent it, I checked I didn't see alert.(it happens sometimes).

then I went and checked my balance I am now seeing 17 naira as balance (before it was minus -29).

i called back and told him to go and report back to pos agent that I haven't seen any thing.

He is saying that the pos guy is insisting that he has sent it and I have received it..

and I am seeing different thing..

I am banking with UNION bank.. please

I don't know what to do and stranded..

Go to your bank and get it sorted out

hafsatadebisi:
Please, in case anyone feels it's not true, the money mustn't be given to her directly, it can be given directly to the transport company. I just want her to be helped in any way possible, please. Anyone that stays there can comfirm this. Thanks.

Stop this nonsense pls ,it's getting to much of you people to keep begging as if others doesn't have something to beg for

So even her boyfriend there can't raise money for her , despite the services she rendered there

All these begging is becoming worst every day

Leave her there, let her locate her destiny helper

SirMichael1:
Hello Good afternoon Familanders. This is very long, so please bear with me.

I’ll start from the root. Well, in my church, there’s usually a committee for the married men where most times we can proffer solution to the issues or need of the church members and other times organize get together monthly within us (married men) just to foster unity. Since we're like 20, different men host the get together. Therefore, it's spaced out for 1year and 8months.

It all began last Sunday when I was chosen to oversee the next get together which comes up this Sunday after church. When we (my wife and I) got home after church, I told her about it and she immediately asked, “who would do the cooking”? I was taken aback as the question sounded strange. I replied her saying, since she did the cooking the last time, I figured she’d do it this time.

She got angry and said there’s no way she’ll be going through the stress of cooking for 18 to 25 men and that I better know what to do concerning who’s going to handle the cooking. I tried to calm her down and reminded her of how I assisted her in the kitchen by pounding the yams while she made the soup -two soups actually and that I was going to help her this time. Yam is quite expensive so we’re not pounding this time, just Semo.

She remained adamant and said there was no way she would do anything, that the work stressed her so much and she won’t partake in any cooking and that I better go find anyone to do the cooking. Thing is, I understood the fact that the work was stressful for her because she was 5 months pregnant then and it was her first time.

Yesterday at work, I kept pondering about a solution and a thought struck me. I called her from work and asked her, "how about I get one of the women at church to offer you support?". She blatantly refused and still held on to her words.

My mind hasn’t been settled since morning because I got hold of a caterer and she told me that she’ll charge a thousand naira per head, that is approximately 20k. Truth is, the get together came at a wrong time and considering the prices of drinks, the cost of the food stuff, meat, ingredients, etc. I really can’t afford a caterer right now.

I’m at a cross road now. I don’t know what to do because it’s causing a rift between us. I thought of bringing a church member to assist on that day without informing her so she wouldn’t surprise me and leave the house but I fear that if she comes, my wife might not join her in the kitchen and the woman will begin to feel a certain way (thinking of how ungrateful we are). Then again, who will purchase the food items? I’ve just been confused. I really need insights.

Note: I said I'll help her make the swallow, she just needs to make the soup.

It's quite stressful cooking especially for crowd

Shopping for the food items is a bigger stress

Beg her to pick someone to shop with her and do the cooking

But my question is,why the cooking, is the economy friendly with you guys in this hard times

You guys should start providing the food by paying a caterer to do the cooking and supply to the house who is hosting the meeting

By the time you guys can't afford it again, the cooking will come to an end

Is it even necessary, or you guys just like partying under the canopy of church ?

OdogwuBlog:
Biko ....

What is wrong with this photo?

Have you ever seen a police man obeying any law ?

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

If truely she is this naughty, pls free her now before you commit your self to marriage

She is not even thinking of what to do.
Nonsense

Mskrisx:
32” inches Bruhm LED Television.
No faults.
Price is 35k. Slightly negotiable.

Can this go for twenty , serious buyer pls

Berryli:
Few weeks to my 25th birthday, last year,I ran into my Neighbour n we exchanged numbers, then the chatting began, we became friends and he offered to take me out on my birthday but It didn't happen. fast forward to the lockdown, I would go visit him we would chat and he appreciated my company as he was alone. He eventually started to make moves, getting all touchy which got me a little surprised and uncomfortable since as friends that was improper, which got me thinking if he wants more than friendship. He has a great career, intelligent and all but not my spec, and I'm not attracted to him. we are very different people, socially and even our views about life. I enjoy his company but that's all there is. as a result if I use to visit twice in a week, I reduced it to once in two weeks and eventually monthly, and reduced the chats just to not give him the wrong impression. he stylishly refer to me in future as his wife. what do I do? is he starting to have feelings for me and how do I stylishly turn him down since he hasn't asked me out or do i wait for him to do so? cos there are people whole just draw close and start dating without d while toasting stuff or is it just his flesh loosing control,which I doubt cos I try to be as decent as possible wen visiting him. do I just go with the flow since I'm currently not in a relationship? But won't that be me deceiving him and myself cos I don't like him in that way. or I over thinking the whole thing?

Reduce all chat and visit with communications with him

Men have different views about relationship which is quite different from women

layi:
I have a female house help thats 15yrs old. She is very intelligent, well mannered and speaks english but never went to school. Myself and my wife have thought several times on how to help her life and bring back her 'destiny'. We just cant put a 15yr old in primary 1.
How can i help her academically pls? I really want to help her life. I don't want to believe that its over for her school-wise.

NB: She spent 1yr with us 5 yrs ago but forcefully taken away by a wicked woman who was " trafficking them" when she found out we wanted to put her in school. She was molested in her new place and ran to us. Long story short, she stays with us permanently now cuz i went to cotonou last month and got permission from her father. How we got her dad's house and arranged the reunion is another long story.

Advise pls. Setting her up in business in future is not a problem but we want her to be educated.

You can look for places where they attend evening classes

She can still be enrolled to primary four or five class fr their she will pick up since she can speak but I don't know how if she can write as well

Forget about her age ,if she is willing she will cope and still go to secondary school

Washing machine can be placed anywhere in as mush as it has water inlet and outlet, except parlor

Guest911:
I’m not close to my dad, I was raised by a single mum till she passed away when I was 16.

My dad has been abroad since I can remember. But I still live in his house, with my cousins. My dad and I hardly talk, we can go 6 months no calls. So I see him as a stranger mostly. I can’t connect.

I have a really good job now. I have like N10M saved up, and earn about N2M monthly.

My plan is to relocate to Abuja and build my house, but my family members and friends thinks I would be foolish to just give up the property in Lagos with no conflict with my dad, as I have lived in the house with my mum my whole life.

But when I was younger he made it clear that this is his house and actually I don’t have access to the papers even.

But also I’m 25 now, I need to be a man after all my dad came to Lagos with nothing and built his house, I should do the same and cut off from him. That’s my only argument.

Is it foolish giving up this property worth about N45M.

It depends on what you mean by giving up on his property

The earlier you start building your own the best for you

The property belongs to your dad and am very sure he has other children, so you don't know if it will be willed to you or to your steps
You can only have a claim to it if you have the paper with you

You must understand some one before you love the person, if you miss that understanding aspect, the love will have issues of on and on off

Sirfemisky:
I am in HND l.

My life has been in a mess since when I was a child. My parents did care much for me when I was a child. I was a victim of child bully.

I wasted many years after my secondary school.

I now steal from them as a revenge for not teaching me self love

If you are ready and willing to change your stealing habit,meet your parents and reveal all to them ask them to forgive you and put you straight to God

Meanwhile, all you have been doing to hurt them end up hurting you you the more