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mariahAngel:
Someone asked me the above question, and I just laughed before I could even reason what to answer
You know how it is with parents na, they're always right ...especially Nigerian dads

So, as a parent, can you apologize to your child if you found out you were wrong about an issue?
Did your parents ever apologize to you after a wrong accusation?

Oyindamolah:
Thank you which one should I sell?

Oyindamolah:
Good morning Familanders!

I lost my dad a few years ago. It's been very difficult but we having been pushing through. I am in my early 20's with 5 sibling.

Dad left some properties for us. I happened to be the first female child.

Property 1
Is almost completed to decking level no windows and doors. It has not been plastered or floored, JUST sand filled. We currently occupy group flat in this property.

Property 2
Is an uncompleted building with roof.

I have my mum with underlying illness and 5 siblings to cater for.

I currently work but the money is not enough to to even complete the current abode or property 2.


Please, What do I do?

Rosebloom:
This lady recently got a federal job in Delta and met a guy who resides in Abuja .
He proposed and they had agreed she'll work for at least two years while they try long distance.

After they had been in the relationship for a while the guy told her while he agrees to the arrangement he'll retract his end of the bargain if the long distance interferes(he was basically saying he doesn't want long distance). Suggested rather she quit and come look for a job in Abuja or start a business.

Note that he also does not want a stay at home wife.

loswhite:
can you ppl ever be responsible in ur life? A man should give her everything she wants...lol, most women are just useless

donnie:
All this type of advice. Please my brother, watch and pray. A wife that can cheat on you can kill you.

One4me:
Good Advise but a Man's life should not all be about Pleasing a Woman, you never know where it will end.
Sometimes, in the attempt to please a woman, a man's life ends in the grave.
A cheat will still cheat, even if you gave them your Life on a Plate.
You cant MAKE SURE your Wife will not need another Man because she will, if she will.

[b]If your wife is not contented with what is on offer from you, then you better save your life by freeing her.
No one is perfect, No one can please the other 100%, every marriage is a "management of the best what is available".
I cant kill myself o, l cant kill myselfat all because of trying to please a wife[/b]

NNU0000:
He killed himself,with the aid of alcohol.

EBMedia:
Lady Shares Pictures Of Injuries Inflicted On Her Mum By Her Dad (Disturbing Photos)

IgbereTV reports that a 21-year-old lady, identified as Gloria Ezeobi, has accused her dad of domestic violence towards her mum. She shared photos of her mother with the injuries inflicted on her.

Gloria Ezeobi, a student of pharmacy at LUTH, said her parents have been married for 22 years and her father, Sunday Vincent Ezeobi, has allegedly been "brutally beating" her mother, Maureen Ezeobi, for all of those years.

According to her, her father's apprentice also beats her mum in front of her dad. She said the alleged domestic violence from her dad has caused her mother to have miscarriage twice.

She said that the mother reported to the police but they did nothing. Gloria claimed her father also abuses her and her sister and that he once stripped her naked and flogged her with a fan belt before sending her out of the house late at night.

She said her father also regularly locks her mother out of the house, causing her to sleep in the streets for days. She said her father has boasted that nothing can be done to him.

She said her father said to them: "My money will get me anything in Nigeria so no one can save you."



https://twitter.com/Ekpereka3/status/1301842268148690944?s=19[/quote]This one is very simple to handle

Just organise area boys ambush him and beat him to stupor and he will never know the reason why he was beaten

Zeion422:
I don't have issue approaching women,the last lady I meet I meet her on a Friday d next day she came too my side asking for 5k

01pudesseld:
Which is better, cuddle or kiss?

obembet:
Most Nigerians guys believe that its total scam for a Lady to have a male friend as bestie when they in serious relationship.

But the truth there is that most ladies prefer a male Friend as bestie because ladies believe that men are more secretive than ladies and its more easier to get good advice from a guys than Ladies.

So can you allow your girlfriend to have male friend as bestie?



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Zeion422:
Pls i need advice frm mature minds.... I notice girls are afraid too come close too me, even the one that come close are not too comfortatble been around me. Am tall, looking handson,i dont talk much, am not the rich type but if u see me you think am the rich guy because of how i dress ,money wise am ok.pls i need your adivce. What could be the course I seriously need a relationship.

Lh2704:
Hello, (a bit of background) I live in the UK, my boyfriend is born in Zimbabwe but half Nigerian too. He’s lived in the UK since he was around 15/16 so about 6/7 years. We have been in a relationship for nearly a year; he is very very serious about me as far as I’m aware. He is always talking about our future; marriage, children etc. We are currently looking at flats to rent so we can try and give the “living together” thing a go and then eventually buy our own house together. He always talks about our future together and how much he can’t wait to live together etc etc as right now we have a long distance relationship as he lives in London and I live 2 hours away. It’s very hard for him to get away from his family because they are constantly ringing his phone to come home to do chores etc as soon as he leaves the house. He’s a very traditional African man when it comes to family and household stuff.

Anyway, considering he is so invested in our relationship and our future; he still won’t introduce me to his parents. It’s not like they do not know about my existence though however, as I have contact with his mother over text many times and she knows I am his girlfriend not just some female friend. I have met his older brother and we often all go out together and do things, so I have a good relationship with his brother. About a month into our relationship, my boyfriend was very insistent on meeting my family, so he has met my family already and often comes to my house and sits with them etc, so he has a good relationship with my mother and father. I’m just confused as to why he won’t properly introduce me to his parents as he has had many opportunities to and it’s not like I am a secret, as his mother knows of my existence, nor am I some “fling” since he is very insistent to move in and get married and have children etc. So I’m just confused as to why he won’t set it up already? I understand he can’t just bring home a girl it has to be a proper meeting but when he asked to meet my parents within 2 weeks I set up a meal and stuff and had them meet properly. Sometimes he tries to use his culture as an excuse but I have dated African men my whole life and most of my friends are African so I do understand a great deal of the culture and I have to constantly remind him I’m not clueless and he can’t try pull that card on me lol. I just really need other people’s opinion on this as I and many of my friends find it a bit weird. Thanks

Kingsley2001:
Good afternoon.
I have been a guest for long, decided to create an account as I need the help of everyone.

I am a 19-yearold boy and I am currently in my third year in a federal university studying a 6-7-year course.
I recently lost my Dad who was a diligent civil servant and a very great Dad until his demise.
While he was on his deathbed, I was with him all through as school was on break and being the oldest too. We were at the hospital one night when he started entrusting me with some of his assets. He owned two accounts known to me and mother and we have exhausted all the money on him while he was very sick.
The night we talked which was few days to his death, he told me he won't survive the sickness and he asked me to accept it in good faith and that we should stop wasting our resources on him. The words were very heartbreaking but there was nothing I could do. That same night he told me of three thrifts he was involved in, his contributions totalled #675,000. He reiterated how we should not waste the money on his treatment as he was sure he won't make it.
I didn't tell mum of his instruction, we collected the money and we offset the bills needed for his other surgery and some other things.
My Dad although weak and frail still managed to express his anger and I tried letting him know it was impossible to watch him die without doing anything. After all said, done and spent, we lost him. A night before his final death, he told me four digits repeatedly but didn't tell me what they were for. This was on early December last year.
We accepted the loss in good faith and continued with our life. My mum on the other hand is a government teacher and I have two other siblings. One in her 100L while the last born is still looking for admission.
While we were at the hospital, my Dad gave me his purse a little bigger than the common ones and it has been with me since then.
Just this week, I just went through the purse and I found another ATM card, out of curiosity I went to check the balance but the password was incorrect.
I tried the number he gave me and God so good it worked.
The balance shows; Savings- #1,238,006.84.
And Future: 18,244.30.
I was surprised at what I saw.
I ran home to tell mom about it and we agreed we would keep the money till I am done with school. She asked me to keep the card but I declined and asked her to keep it instead knowing how such money can influence me to make irrational decisions.
I also told her leaving the money there won't be of benefit to us as in years time the money would have lost its value.
I told her I will come up with a good business plan and she agreed. I have no idea the kind of business to venture into as my course in school is very time-demanding same with my junior sister's. And the last born is still young to handle business.
Please what business can I do with this money? That won't be wasted and will be flexible enough to manage with my academics. Mind you, I'm studying MBBS same with my sister. And my mum is not good with business at all. Everyone of us knows.

Please help me and please no private messages, all advice should be posted on here.
Thanks.
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Vincenzomum:
I am not a Nigerian I live in Italy with my Nigerian husband we have 2 children , and I am expecting twins next month. My first child Vincenzo is not from my husband , I had him with an Italian man we later separated. I met my husband 5 years ago we talked about not naming any of our children with traditional names as their first name maybe middle name because I strongly believe children abroad should be given names that everyone around will feel comfortable to pronounce them, that will also help them from not getting bullied in school we both had accepted. Our first daughter we named her Olivia munachi , we have both decided to named our twins aleesha and alexia but at last minutes my husband changed his mind , he want us to name them with Nigerian names as their first names which I am against him, this problem is bringing a lot of problem in the house because I will not accept him to give my babies any Nigerian names as their first , I prefer it to be their middle names, he is angry and refuse to talk to me. But this thing we had discussed even before we got married I don’t understand why the sudden change in him. Please help me judge this matter who is wrong between the two of us ?

Realpal:
Yes, it is.
You'd think women are everywhere to choose, but it's not easy at all.
My exes are both married and they had to marry someone else then, cos I wasn't ready at the time.
I'm ready now, but still searching.

Sadiqali24:
No one should talk about money, even though I'm not fantastically rich but financially, I can do the necessity without asking anyone.
The problem is, I fear women. I can't woo those I wish to be my girl and this is giving me a thing of concern.

FirefliesSun:
I am so mad right now. I am so confused.
Today around 5:30, I had to visit my friend to pluck hibiscus flowers.

One thing led to another while at the flowers, I saw my friend's mother making eyes/wink and pouting to my friends husband. He just smiled back although he noticed I saw it but the mother didn't.

I can swear they are having a fling and it's shameful. I don't know how to tell her. I am just here, very confused and bothered. Even if I wanted to tell her, how do I even start?

Realpal:
Please, I have a question for married guys and engaged couples.
I hope I'm in the right section.
How do I find my life partner?
I'm 36+ years old, independent and I want to get married, but I don't even know where to start.
My parents subtly suggested to help, but I rejected their offer, because I don't want an arranged marriage.
How do I go about this on my own?
My pastor advised singles in our church to meet him, if they're seeking for a woman to marry.
Is it advisable to look for my future wife in the church?
I need help, please.

Psalm6ix:
Two lovers in Anambra state have allegedly committed suicide because their parents refused to allow them get married.

The incident happened in Okija, Anambra State.

The reason why they refuse to let them get married is because one is an outcast. They left a suicide note which i have embedded in this post below:

https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-6ngKu-MfUqM/X1IZSNpXpGI/AAAAAAAALD4/qrvdaI4Vs1kBHIBM49jq3mKuHj5FBT2QACLcBGAsYHQ/s1600/IMG_ORG_1599215746616.jpeg

Full Details @ https://www.kingsparo.com/2020/09/lovers-commits-suicide-in-anambra-after.html

https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-mVOl4RuqyGk/X1IbZEjLEPI/AAAAAAAALEI/-Zzl2Nl9fkot9UkDdS8mCKZtc3MSOIOAwCLcBGAsYHQ/s1600/IMG_ORG_1599216417592.jpeg

https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-8w4Yrg67xH8/X1IbZ1lmC9I/AAAAAAAALEM/Hv1GmFp6HA0x_G2wR8BNZcV8yT7HVDJwQCLcBGAsYHQ/s1600/IMG_ORG_1599216421169.jpeg

fineboynl:
the cook rubbish down here. they are just cooking for the money. not even atleast yo make it good or tasty.

the surprising thing here is that people don't really care about good tasty food. they just seems to eat any thing they see. and I guess it's the effect of the war why they just eat anything.

Nomorelove:
I know though. Funny enough, her ex was very authoritative and controlling plus anger issues. E just tire me sha. Thanks