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From my own experience, forget about washing machine of 35k, I bet you, you will definitely regret wasting that money but don't ask me why unless you experience it

Go to LG offices, especially their Fouani sales offices

You will get something within your reach and pls make sure is top loader the nick name is Roller Jet, it comes in different kg sizes .
You will keep. Smiling

Google it pls

yocreo:
thanks for the advice. ofc it got this worse cos I didnt stay away when the debt was still little. I was stupid to think I could clear the debt by playing more bets. meanwhile, I'm not an addicted or reckless bettor, I guess it just wasn't for me cos I tried all possible ways to be careful but things kept getting worse.

I can't even imagine how mom will handle the disappointment... I'm the least person she would expect this misdeed from.

Simmon up courage and go to mum, she will definitely be mad at you but God will give her the grace to accept it

Then your problems will be half way solve

Lightangel65:
But is sex urge really a good thing?

It's not man made its nature made

Any one without a sex urge is as good as not living

Sex urge is equivalent to hunger for food

Get more details from your doctor

This was done in the olden days to keep women away from having sex urge but their counterpart in men are busy having sex spray

Well am glad it has been reduce to the bearest minimum

Every one is free to enjoy life, just do it in moderation

Any man that is looking for a wife to Lord must have digged his grave before embarking on what will kill him

Who even have time to lord a woman, the person wants to get depressed

Nonsense

Alexgman1:
Health practioners advices that wearing face mask can help prevent the spread of covid19 via airborne.

Same health practioners also encourages us to use mosquito net to stay safe & prevent malaria.

What did they say we should use to prevent the contraction of HIV virus pls?

Condom or stay away from multiple sex partners

Siratro:
I work as a pastor. Now I discover that my wife is no longer in love with me. She no longer agree to intercourse. I monitored her phone and found a man she's has been talking to all this while. There is no need fighting her because you can't force anyone to love you. I didn't even confront her.

I can't even try to divorce her because that means the end of my job. I don't even want to be separated from my only daughter she has for me because my daughter is my everything.

If I resign from my job, there is no hope of finding a new one because of my disability, and I have no money to set up a business with my skills.

The most painful of this is that I have inspired a lot of people who made it out of darkness alive.

But here I am a drowning being. To remark in the passing, I have been praying for a long while.

What really happened that she started having an online partner, did you treat her bad or made her to lose interest in you

I believe its not because of your disability because, am sure the disability was there before you propose to her

You have to find out the remote causes of this problem

If you don't tackle it now, she will definitely be happy doing what she wants to be happy while you struggle with emotional pains

Alternatively, go to her and plead with her to bring her mind back home and you too avoid triggering her

It's never good for a woman to test it outside, she will definitely get a good match for you, it's best to avoid it

If she doesn't want sex from you, who gives it to her then ?

Find out from her the way forward and prays as a pastor God will guide you

There is no smoke with out fire

yocreo:
Hi Nairanlanders,

I would have loved pour out all I'm going through but posting about personal issues can be really boring to some people and also, some might think this is some sort of competition cos of the rate at which people speak about their ordeals lately. I have done something really terrible which I personally go crazy anytime I think of it to my mom. All I feel right now is depression, anxiety, unhappiness and frustration that I'm afraid I may do something crazy. However, I'm in need of a serious advice and counselling from concerned people. I'm willing to let everything out... I NEED HELP, I'M SO GOING NUTS!!!


for anyone kind enough to care, here's my email address bidemslimz@gmail.com.


MODIFIED: Since many are of the opinion that I type it here, I'm going to do it..



 


December 2018, a boy in my neighborhood who is also like a relative started making some savings with me, unfortunately that was the time I started betting as well. I used to be very trustworthy when it comes to managing people's money that's why he entrusted his money in my care. Betting later got the best of me, I used part of the money to bet, that was how this ordeal started. In the quest of refunding the money I used on betting, I kept losing the more. I lost up to 90k before coming up with a lie of how the money was stolen in my forex trading account but I promised to refund the money. While trying to refund the money I kept losing the little I had with me till I got hold of my mom's bank account, this started around October last year. I kept using my mom's money and the loss kept accumulating. I was able to recover the loss on my mom's bank account before 2019 ended. now to 2020, the boy kept asking for his money, I had to return to using my mom's money again as I had no other hope of getting the money.. how I wish I had told my mom about the whole thing when it was still amendable. Fast forward to today, I have used virtually all my mom's bank savings from betting to forex trading without her knowledge. when she noticed about the error in her account, I had to lie I helped her fix her account as she doesn't make withdrawals from her account  cos she's a trader who doesn't use her bank savings for her business.. I'm finished now, I lied to her the duration of the fix is 4 months and she's expecting the money with return by August ending. Together with the money I owe the other boy, I'm in over 600k debt... I seriously don't know how I got here, I wish I can turn back time, I feel drained... I don't know what to do with my life, I feel like I have failed the woman who has always shown me nothing but love and care. I failed her, I failed the woman who has always trusted me to be a good son.  I even had to lie to her! Each time I think of telling her about everything, I get sick. I can't keep on going this way.. I just want this to end. I'm really SAD

You have already disappointed yourself and your mother with your friend

Go to mum and let her know what you did to her and advice her to change her bank and keep the details away from you

As for your friend, he will not take it lightly with you and whatever he decides against you, carry your cross

As for you, at this present age you are, you are already a mess, it will definitely get worst if you don't stay away from betting

Very soon you will get into drugs and that one doesn't really require you buy them, friends can also buy and give to you

By the time you realise that you have eaten up yourself the next thougt is suicide

Help your self before you go neck deep

Fejos:
Good day Friends,

Please I need a snake charmer in Delta state to remove the giant snake in my roof. It is so huge that the whole house trembles anytime it moves. It is always chasing something and I fear it is going to fall down from the roof one day. This is my permanent residence so moving out is not an option. I want to see it with my eyes when it is being removed, so that my family and I can finally have peace of mind. Please kindly recommend any good snake charmer in Delta state. My number is 08150336119. I promise to post pictures of the snake here when it has been removed. Thanks in Advance.



Lalasticlala; front page please

Why not go to any area the Hausas are settling, they will definitely have a catcher around there or even recommend one

After this, get a bricklayer to go up there and cover those block holes inside the roof, that's where snakes stays whenever they enter the roof they live inside the holo blocks and hunt at night both in the house and outside the house

Always try to clear bushes around your house, it will scare them far away from coming close to your house

Lastly, get a sniper at hand at home, it kills snake faster when spread on it but keep the sniper far from reach

WhisperedNoise:
Yeahhh

(S)he should type the story here, and edit out the personal details.

A yoruba adage says, one doesn't hide himself from the person who will wash his corpse.

That's true

khia:
I believe he is saying at two years old he was taught the names of the governors and he memorized them.

Ok

longetivity:
She's beautiful in her own way

Exactly don't be surprise she didn't die a virgin

SmartyPants:
What about the threat to the child's life??

That man needs to act.

She won't do it, every mother knows the joy and bond they have with their children

And if she does it, she gets jailed

samguru:
What I found disturbing about the child custody is that, the lady abandoned the boy with her mother and relocate to another area.

What do you mean by abandoned the child with her mother

Do you expect her to go e every where with the child

Don't be surprise that she us done with that marriage

That boy is in the best hand at the moment

Let everyone be free to find their bearing

JONNYSPUTE:
....Pls forget about the guy and his foolish advice.

You are right about him going to court.

That's how so many weak men lose their children because they are scared of court proceedings.

No matter what,going to court is still the best option unless he has been maltreating the wife.

Even at that,the court will still grant him some visitation right.

Let's assume the man is afraid of the court procedures

Is he also afraid of the girls family if yes then he must have prove to them that he has no future for his family hence the separation

Even if you go to court, court will ask you what her family says about the whole issue.

Assuming that child is a girl, that would have been the end of that sojourn or search

samguru:
This lady is very violent, he threatened to kill that boy when my friend visited the boy at her mother's house.At that point I told him to stop checking on the child.

I spoke with the lady about allowing my friend to see the boy, she told me according to their tradition once divorce has occurred the father loose the child to the her family.

If that is the case in their own traditional system, then the man world have been told from on set by the family, if he ever married her properly according to their customs and traditions

samguru:
Good day Nairalanders,

My friend is separated from his wife since 2016 due to intolerable behaviours of his wife. My friend on a several occasions has asked his wife(I still considered them married since they are not legally separated) to open account for his son and also furnish him with details of his son's school so that he can start paying his child school fees.
The adamant wife refused to do so and even took the boy far away from him.Everyday my friend is pained that his wife has not allowed him to access the child and discharge his fatherly responsibilities.

I have advised him to start a new life and that the boy will come back to look for him in the future, but my friend is yet to heed to my advice.

what other things can he do to reconnect with his son?

If you think that your friend should start a new life and the son will come back to him later, is the best way to go, then it's another biggest mistake he will be doing

Even there are ways that former couples can separate yet they still have access to the child /children at will

You didn't state the child age

You didn't state if the in laws are aware and the efforts the made to force their daughter to make the boy accessible by his dad

You didn't state if he has ever been responsible during the marriage and after the marriage

Every woman wants her former to take up his duty over their child, but has it ever been done from on set

Your friend haven't told you all you need to hear

For best results, visit her or speak with her on phone she will tell you more

Despite he complains about the wife naughty attitude, get to know more because you just heard from one side and that's not enough to judge

PublicHealthNig:
https://www.publichealth.com.ng/8-diseases-a-prostitute-can-give-you-the-last-can-kill-in-days/

Can some one tell me the purpose of condom ?

For those that goes to them, you are the reasons why they are there

WhisperedNoise:
Seconded.
You can hide personal details, if you'll not be comfortable sharing them on a public platform.

Me thinks many people who have valuable advice won't mail you.

Just try to type it up here, bro/sis.

Godspeed.

Who even have time for personal mail, how will that even solve problems

There are worst cases than that yet solutions were found here

He us going back to put thst his wife through another round of depression, he should have been left like that

The wife have already moved on with her children, since he chose stupidity over family

Why not spill it out here, we learn from here too

That was brilliant of your child
Catch her young and make her be the way she started

Get soft novels for her age with bold writing and pictures of the story, let her start reading novels now that was what helped my children

Anytime you ask them what they want for birthday, they will tell you good novels

Mogajunior:
Nothing special. When I was two years old, I knew the names of all the state governors, local government chairmen and their aides.

That's not true, no one can really remember what he or she does at two years unless such child was told about it

nnadychuks:
I don’t think I need to explain much. Whenever I Remember the conflicts that arise between my uncles and my dad, I begin to wonder if their relationship started from childhood.
They should be friends just like I and my siblings are right now, but every time they’re either having a land dispute or money argument. I perceive there’s not much love between them.
Some years ago my dad was involved in a fatal accident which I believe is the cause of his Parkinson’s disease.
While sitting quietly in church last Sunday I was called by the man of God to see him after service.
He made mention of the exact date my dad had the accident and that one of his brothers was the reason behind it.
I’ve not been myself this week, I even wonder if I and my siblings will live happily after we’ve All gone our separate ways.
What causes the hatred between themselves is what I don’t know, but I’m willing to avoid by all means.
I’ll accept views from all angles because a family issue should be handled with care

Envy is one of the greatest problems family siblings have against themselves

The rich doesn't want to have a rival, the poor are not happy they can't make it

Siblings grows together but as they get married and start building their own lives, one stupid issues will bring mis understanding and if not properly tackled it will grow like an Iroko tree

Worst still if the parents are no longer alive

pepigeorge:
Person wen marry wife come one self contain, how them won take get house for another

Na so

Ijawwomaninoyo:
Someone looking for urgent help but can't even post his full names. I wonder what people do with these.

Only him knows what he is doing

Our own is to be on guard

Rabbi4real:
My name is Angela (not real name) I am 28 year old, I am a civil servant here in Asaba (not real location). I am in a relationship with a guy in my place before I got work here. The guy really love me show all manner of care for me.

This same guy is a believer,all the moment we spent together ,the guy didn’t touch me. The problem though is that I do not have feelings for him. No matter how much I try to show him the same feelings he has for me . I have always found it difficult to love him like he loves me.

Recently, I met a another guy. He is ok. He works in the Bank. The problem with this guy is that he does not care like the first guy.He has never invited me to his house. So I can know where he lives. He says he is staying wit his uncle.

He said that his uncle wife may not allow him to bring a woman come to their house because of her ex girlfriend that travelled out the country. That the Uncle’s wife really love the ex girlfriend. That they were always gisting with her anything dat happened in their family.

However this guy told me that,he cannot marry his ex because....

Source: https://livelystones.ng/2020/08/07/my-feelings-are-stuck-with-two-men-please-help-my-confusion/

You have to allow your heart to develop love for the first guy, he is the one with true love for you

The second guy wants a temporal relationship with you because he is smart and he is keeping the girlfriend abroad pending when they will tie up

Use your head, you can't get it all in one package

Ashima01:
Does IVF treatment give success, and how many cycles can it take to get a successful result? If anyone can share their experience, it would really help me to land on to a decision, whether or not I should proceed with treatment.

There are factors responsible for it

Age
Overall good health
Ovum strength
Hubby sperm count
Hubby sperm morphology and the rest

If you are below 40yrs, you have great chances and above 40yrs, you still have chances but need to be supervised or monitored

In all after the first attempt, if it fails you start the second attempt immediately

Just budget upto 1.5/2m in all

If cash will be an obstacle you can go for surrogacy or adoption

Forget about what people will say, every one has a cross to carry

That's why life is not balanced

kingmurainah:
I noticed that anytime I’m under pressure my body start shaking, it also happens this morning while I was driving and an issue occur only for my leg and hand to start shaking, is it something to be worried about?
I’m just a young guy of 22yrs.

Try and check your blood pressure to know the status

You could be having tension over a pending issue which triggers anxiety in you

Work on your mind and remove fears from you

No car was made for a particular gender

Get it if you can afford it and move to your next plan

It's going to be your first car and don't be surprise your next car will start loading so that you can pass it on to madam

Pls note that cars used by women are supposed to be in a better condition because women takes care of what they have and pay more attention to it

No one wants to be stranded with a car he or she drives

Maintenance is the key

Just like that, no pictures, no medical cards and no medical reports, no image of you on crutches and nothing to prove your claim but just your account number and you opening your moniker for the first time

You have to go back and start afresh, we have decided on this forum to differentiate chaff from weat and it has been helping us so far

Janella29:
I really just want to know.

How do you react to a cheating man that will make him even feel bad. Do you shout at him, threaten to divorce or just keep quiet and keep on like nothing is happening.

Men how would your wife respond to your cheating ways that would make you so terribly afraid?

If you have a cheating husband
Seat him down and talk to him that, there is no time for nonsense and he should concentrate on his family and make things work out

If after doing that several times he refuses to change

Just behave as if nothing happened and plan your life, a time will come when it will be too late for him

When that time comes leave him to suffer the punishment he gave himself

You deserve peace and don't allow him determine your own happiness