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olabrinks:
When I see what some women go through in the name of being a wife, I thank God for my life. God forbid bad thing.

The only reason why you’re going back to your wife is because your side chick has failed you. You are a disgrace please. Your wife will have the last laugh in Jesus name. God will heal her wounds and place her above all her enemies.

Yes, she may forgive you, but you must definitely face the consequences for your actions.

For the fact that she kept quiet all this while, means a lot

He has to beg her spirit

Tadeknkeepcalm:
I can't imagine the kind of depression your wife is going through.
It's not like you actually realised your wrongdoings, it's because you were jilted by your side chick that's why you're here crying.

Exactly, the pit he was digging for his wife was deep, now he has falling In to the pit

Ayomideayo:
I doubt this story joor...u mean u did all that to her and she's still with you

She stayed because she was helpless and at the same time planning how to serve him the worst way

Karma knows its job

Kingsleyyx:
I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years,infact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now ,I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife heart back. I womanize alot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart,anytime am with her I feels contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother,and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby,and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never care for the mother of my children. The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she call my girlfriend to insult her ,and I was with the girl that night she put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.
Since then I didn't hide my extra affair with my wife . My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife,she won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.
After,I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in,but no matter what i did to my wife ,she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complaint. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife ,still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift,my wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.
This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her,but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money ,she didn't know that I am too old then.
Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine,I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her ,but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger,I can't even crack jokes with them.
Please help me ,how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to

Am happy you have realised that you were farming in another man's land and the owner have taken possession including your crops are all gone

Start from your family

Let them know that you assassinated your wife character before them for selfish reasons

Then move to your inlaws amd let them know that you have not been fair to your wife and you need them to pls talk to her to accept you as you are now a changed person

Mind you, your inlaws are aware of everything and have been contributing to hold your family while you wander away lije a stray goat

The two families will join head together to talk with your wife

It's now left for her to forgive you and forget about the ills amd make up with your, without having the worst plan on you

Women are good at revenge and it a worst when they are not talking

You must remove pride and do the expected

Now you have lost all your stupid investment on the girl and her family members

They have used you as a canoe to cross to the other side

Her family must have warned her to never allow you to marry her or become pregnant because if you can do what you did to your wife, you will do same to her

As for your children, your wife must ha e told them everything, it's lfet for your wife to tell them to forgive you because they will rather listen to her than wasting time listening to you

You really goofed big time

tojos:
I need your advice on how to effectively annul the traditional marriage between my
sister and her abusive husband.
My sister had been living with him for five months but had to flee her matrimonial home because of her husband incessant battering that has left her bruised physically and emotionally.
On several occasion, our family and that of her husband had to intervene and cautioned the husband for him to change his ways but to no avail.
The last straw was when my sister lost her only pregnancy as a result of his beatings by which we had to advise her to leave the marriage.
My family had made several attempts to return the bride-price to our in-laws which they refused, requesting for a reconciliation between the two. We also turned down their request because my sister is too terrified to go back to the marriage, fearing for her life.
Since our in-laws had refused to collect the bride-price what are the other options or procedures one should take to annul an ibo traditional marriage. Though this will lead to divorce, I think the best option is for my sister to leave the marriage and look for better life elsewhere rather than become a victim of domestic abuse (I love my sister so dearly and I've always wished her the best in life)
Secondly, will my sister have any chance to remarry by the time this is over? Pls, to anyone that have had such an experience, I need your advice. God bless you all as you contribute.

That bride price was a tricky commitment to pin a woman down to a man all in the name of marriage

If the man refuses to accept it, that means she is not free

Anyway, let her get back herself first

Your family can still meet the husband's kindred and table the matter to them and your stand to pull out of marriage

If it doesn't work, hold on it won't be long he will get another woman and that will be a good time to return the bride price to him

She should focus on getting her happiness back

Some mens behavior towards women makes me wonder if those that takes care of their wives are from another planet

LORDofODDS:
https://punchng.com/sanwo-olu-blames-late-airport-border-closures-for-covid-19-spread/

What he said was true, after one month

You all knows why

donbachi:
When a man is not prepared for marriage..all women are prostitutes.

Lol

Pls modify it by saying " he regards all women to be prostitute"

MiniMiniPoPoPo:
empty head

afonjaitus melitus

Am done with you

MiniMiniPoPoPo:
bad belle

Rotten brain

No wonder we always see them as the most stupid people

That was stupid of her

Megatrix:
Good news

What's the good news there ❓

This teachers goes through stress on the course of handling these children

They don't generate revenue, so why forcing them to resume

I thought he will be clueless to ask the children to resume since too

To me there is no sense for the teachers to resume now

As a matter of facts, no state will resume teaching unti the who state is free, they must wait even if we are left with kano to clear their corona case, every school must wait

Jasonjay101:
Please I'm new here on this platform and I just want some advice to clear my mind.

Let me just go straight to the point. My girl that we've been dating for a year plus now just told me a week ago that she lived a couple's life with her ex back in school right from when she entered 300l (4yrs course) and the guy 400l (5yrs course) and I've not been able to get over it.

It happened a week ago, we were together and she saw a post of her ex engagement to his current girlfriend and she started feeling bad, so I asked her what happened and a little bit angry with her thinking maybe she was not over her ex yet. She told me she has gotten over him but she just remembered her past so I try to console her to let go and if there's something she hasn't told me yet about her past that is still eating her up she can tell me because before now we've talked about a lot of things about our past and we've try to forgive each other and let the past be in the past.

She had told me it was this only guy she had dated and it was the same guy that disvirgined her. I was not bothered about that because I was not a virgin either. She told me she has moved on even before I came and she stayed for close to a year to heal up and all through this time I was asking her out but she never said yes and never told me she was going through heart break.

Now, it's a year and few months into our relationship, she's been a very good girl, supportive and hard working. And now she just told me this, coupled with some lies she has used to cover it up in some of our previous conversations about her school life.

I'm not perfect either and I've had my past which I have told her. I never lived a couples life back in school and it was only a girl I've also had anything sexual relationship to do with.

Why am emotionally down now is because I know what it is like to live a couples life in school. I never lived as one but I know of people that lived as such in school and I know what happens.

Now I don't know if I can forget about this and we move on. I love this girl so much and she has shown to also love me as much and I've tried to forget about what happened but most times when I see her now I tend to always remember and it eats me up.

Do you guys think I can forget about this?

This is the exact reason I don't like people talking about the past

Someone must be hurt

My advice is, you don't have a good reason to be angry over what you did not witness but heard

Pls if you live her, move on with her and plan the future with her

The more you know about a past the more it hurts

Johnnyessence:
that still doesn't says that police aren't collecting their #50 daily from the road users in the high way.

This your quote was not necessary besides that's not his business

easyconnect:
Matured mind in the house please advise.

His father is alive in a different state. We couldn't get married because his mother didn't want inter tribal marriage.( That's a long story anyway.) I have moved on and everything is fine.
Now, my worries are:
When is the right time to enlighten my son on reasons why his father is not present in his life?
I don't want him to learn how to hate anyone not even his father. I don't want anything that will affect his education, behavior, nor hurt his feelings. I want him to grow up a healthy child with lots of love.

He's very smart, lively and sharp and i don't want anything to change that.
He's 7, but very wise

This is the 4th years we've not seen him (his father) physically. Lately I observed he no longer border me to talk to his father on phone, initially he was.
Even when i ask if he wants to call him, he always said ''no I don't want to talk to him''


He already knows his father is a lier because he has promised hm several times on phone that he will come, but he never did.


When is the right age and time to start telling a child about the absence of his father in his life that will not affect him nagatively?
Do you think I should still keep encouraging him to keep on talking to his father on phone? I'm thinking of getting him a phone to ease communication between his father or myself when I'm not around.
Do you think it's the right thing to do?

If I'm to do this in my own way, I will completely put his father out of his life, stop every form of contact till he's of age to make his own decisions? Because right now, is like we are the only one trying to reach him. He doesn't care about his son.
I'magain this period of lockdown, he doesn't care either his son is fine, either if there's food or anything. He has never supported me. Only promises.

What's the right way to go about this?
My son's happiness is all that matters to me.

Just don't worry much about telling him yet for now

Focus on teaching him on how to face his studies and be responsible even at this stage

If you can, stop telling him to speak with his daddy or remind him of speaking with him

He has understood that his dad will s not responding, reliable and responsive

At the age of 10yrs seat him down and explain all that went on and assure him that he has a brighter future and he should move on with or without his dad

You on your own path, move on faster and train that child to love and accept people

Get something doing to keep that child going

You will be lucky to get another man but don't rush to become pregnant because pregnancy can't pin a man down

At the right time his father will look for him and you can treat him the way he deserves

Well its a good development

Petersamuel8:
Hope they soon open schools

Expect that in July

Meanwhile this period is their long vacation

Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?

It's unfortunate that she was very deceitful

She can't be trusted

As for your child, he must be well taken care of by both of you at your different ends

Take a break, rest and think deep of having another relationship

Worst case senerio you marry both of them and stay more with the other one

But as she is a prophetess, you have to move before she blocks all your next move

When I say move, don't take chances

Meet people who will take you to places

As far as she is concerned, she wanted marriage as if her life depends on it sww how she messed everything up

Make sure you don't use her as your next of kin and if you have pls change to another person of your intrest

Just act fast before getting another woman and when you do, let her know what's on ground so that she will be aware of the rough road

Yes I mean rough road because she too have to move too

I wish this Corona virus will spread to Boko Haram hide outs and they will die one by one

Godwin616:
I just see him as an attention seeker, nothing more. The Northern Muslims do not even recognize him. And I believe he is not speaking for Yoruba Muslims either.

Lol

Nancydearie:
I tire for this man. Must he give press release on everything?

He wants to be recognised by all means and by all power

He should go and seat down, who him help, noise maker

Nbote:
Why are governors d ones announcing covid 19 cases and deaths? Dey shld allow NCDC do their jobs and den brief their ppl later.. As it stands dey are politicians and we do not trust politicians.

Not really, I think its best for the state governor to do the announcements based on the information the NCDC gives him

If not, every NCDC staff will become a reporter

If you are hearing from the governor, he too us actively involved in the upto date analysis before he will say he wasn't briefed

To her the child is safe with the person or police

They will still beg her to come for the child

Who knows if she did it on purpose to keep the child with them since she can't afford to feed him

No be woman ❗❗❗❓

Abagworro:
Very good development. Anambra is the southeast leader.

Good development indeed

Once it increases again, there will be another lockdown for the state and this time around it's going to be for one month

May their souls rest in peace

Even if they survive, they won't be themselves again

Vikelo1212:
Chei!!!

The innocent kids went with their mother's carelessness. All because of huzzle. It's a pity. May God console the husband.

Rip to them. May they find eternal rest.

Just explain how it was their mothers carelessness

Theundertaker:
Good evening house , I need ur help

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for more than a year now and our relationship seems perfect , but the only problem I have is that she has a serious boyfriend, I really love her and I know she loves me too but this her boyfriend has been our obstruction. I don’t want to leave her , that’s not an option, She doesn’t want to leave me too , She’s so perfect for me and I think I am done searching.
I am thinking of plotting a way to make the guy know we have been dating , without it coming from me , so they can break up . My sister is discouraging me but it’s my happiness.

What else can I do ? leaving her isn’t an option, I have tried dating other ladies but non of them seem to meet up .

I am still wondering why you are still dating a girl that is still dating her boyfriend

Have you considered the risk infectiofor the fact that you are aware she has a boy friend means you can tolerate nonsense

If she loves you, she will drop the other guy for you to have her all alone

Swst her down and let her tell you if she would like to manage the both of you or she would prefer you

Her response amd reaction with let you know your position in her life

She is not faithful, that's it

DanseMacabre:
At least him go dey anonymous.

Pray not to be in his shoes

He wasn't there before that means it can happen to any man with out a good cause

Once a man can't get it right there, he loosest his pride automatically