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SultanOfAbia:
It's a MAN'S world
The Man is the leader at the top
Since Men have occupied the top spot
Women are left with the 2nd spot

So the competition for the 2nd spot is fought by women against other women.
Why??
A Wife is on the 2nd spot
If she loose guard then a side chick will claim that 2nd spot and wifey will be demoted to 3rd spot

That's Why Women see other women as threat to collect her only 2nd spot she is enjoying
Hence her being overprotective in relationship
Her fighting side chick instead of the man
Her forgiving the man but never forgiving the side chick
Her maltreating housegirl due to jealous or insecure thoughts..knowing that husband might find the girl attractive.

This explains why men don't fight other men because of a cheating girl..
Men are at the Top
It is the women that compete to have us
Not vice versa

This analysis made no sense at all

If you want to know why women fight each other, be a woman and you will understand better

You think women alone fights other women because of their husband,

Have you ever seen a man willing to share his woman with another man ❓

Go and do your findings

BonPatrick:
Each time I have sex with my girlfriend after second round I use to fell into deep sleep. I use to last 40 minutes before I cum. Is this normal for a guy to sleep after sex

What do you expect after such hurdles ❓

Of course you have done a herculean task and you need to rest, like wise the woman

But more of men

miniziter:
I've come to realized that whennever I had a quarell with my partner and I stopped eating her food (both the natural and cooked food) for some days, the aftermath of the other room is always wonderful. I also noticed that kind of experience is not common. Don't say am encouraging fighting o but amjust trying to be naughty.
NB: Am not affected by your lockdown so you won't say it's as a result of lockdown.

I feel that when we quarell with our loved ones, we tend to let loose all that goes with the live dye to anger

In the course of it, you don't have feelings, no love, no pity, no happiness.

Just anger and pride all the way

You realise that even the heart is lonely because it doesn't like anger and tension

But when you settle your differences, all those good attributes that left will start coming back and in the euphoria, the body needs to have fun to celebrate the make up

Thats the force of nature working on both of you

karnap:
feels good to hear this, thanks so much...

Good to know that

karnap:
hello nairalanders!
it was nice to be in this forum,how ever its something I would love to hear from matured minds, preferably married people
I'm 30,I have already set my traditional wedding on 23th May before the lockdown of covid 19 virus.
as its now marriage is not for immature minds as many of my elderly people do tell me,
marriage come with different fashion in life.
please I would love to hear your advise.
thank you

You didn't state where you need advise on

But marriage in general is sweet and has a bitter taste, get this clear

The first 3 yrs of marriage is always like a child having bitter taste

But with love, prayers, commitment from both sides, patience, tolerance and above all, understanding is the only way out

Be good and let God handles the ones you can't

Remember, communication is the key

Casalindal:
Last night I got really stressed woke up the morning and I notice I’m having leakage the water in my womb seem to be reducing... I’m dead scare it not even 3month yet does this mean my water has break God please help me. I’m presently at The hospital I need your prayers please if I have ever wrong anyone on this forum I’m deeply sorry I need all the prayers now..

God will heal you and keep you safe

Pls when you get home, have enough bed rest

If you rest very well, you will be fine and baby will be fine

Don't even life a bucket of water, let hubby do the rest

If you over work yourself, you will be the one to suffer it

Rest and eat enough fruits

Pregnancy is not something you toy's with

Anitafire:
hello everyone I have a pending problem there is somebody in my life who I love so much we've been together for the past one yearas friends.

He asked me out I really love him but deep down inside me I have been saying no for a reason not because he is at fault but because I have my own issues.

Now this is the issue I have, I come from a home where my dad virtually abused my mum so I've been scared always of men, I'm also scared of committing myself to him looking at what my mother went through and I wonder all the time if my mum could suffer the same fate would anyone still love me all that and it has been winding a me down I get depressed and I really don't want to put those baggage on him even though I love him so much please I need advice how do I let go of my past how do I let go off of my issues because I really can't see myself with any other person but the same time I love him too much to hurt him.

You are about making a mistake you may regret later and I hope you don't

Yes, your mum suffered in the hand of your dad, some men dealt with their wives just because they want her to know that he is a Lion but if you call him an animal, he gets mad

Have you ever asked your mother what led to her emotional turture

Have you watch your parents up till now to see why your dad acted so when you were small

You see, you need to know all these then use it as a guide to make your choice of man

In my first paragraph, I don't want you to loose this particular guy because you can't be afraid of what you don't wish yourself

The good guys are difficult to get like wise the good ladies

Erase that thought from your mind and accept his proposal unless you feel there are more befitting ones still coming, but that is what I will call gambling

Every marriage has its own issues but the ability to handle it, is what makes the difference

Those that are divorced or separated never wished for it, but circumstances brought it

Daisy101:
I'm not pleased with what has been happening at home and I have been in a dilemma. My husband has lost sex drive and it's affecting me and our relationship. We're a young couple(1 year) and I'm pregnant. I've tried to seduce him. No change. It's been getting me sad and irritable lately.

Yesterday, I tried discussing the issue with him. I asked what I have done wrong and he said nothing. I noticed that he's been taking a drug called vigomax forte. He keeps d card in the car. I searched and found that it's for erectile dysfunction which got me shaking.

I'm afraid that he has this problem and has been hiding it from me. How do I confront him about the drug and his attitude? To even imagine that he's a doctor and acting up this way is disheartening.

Help give her advice esp medical professionals.

Am. Glad he is a doctor so he will sort himself out

Men do experience erectile dysfunction and it can cone up on its own or could be an underlying case

While you take care of your pregnancy, give him time to sort himself out

He wants sex but he is finding it difficult to get erection

You can seat him down and tell him you have observed that he doesn't get hard on

You will like to give him all the cooperation he needs to get himself back

Having done that, give him time, give him support and he will be fine

Monitor his progress

Swtbabyvee:
Opinions please

You did not state what led to such statement

However, water child belongs to the marine spirits

We have it in both male and female

Ndubuisipaul1:
I have constantly asked myself this question, "whether or not women masturbate"

it is a general knowledge that many guys masturbate . due to following reason ;

1. At teenage age boys who stay with their parents may not have the courage to bring the opposite sex to their family house

2. Many guys may not afford what it take to take care of the opposite sex financially

3. And lastly , girls can be difficult to get, at some point you just get fed up trying to please them. Getting a girl can be frustrating most times .

This are reasons I feel that make many guys go into masturbation . But on the other hand a girl of 13 years old have started getting different opportunity to have sex, ranging from young and even older guys. Guys who have a house of their own ( so she doesn't have to worry about place)
So she just have the option to choose who she want to have do it with.

That is why I have always asked myself whether ladies masturbate, considering the fact that they have much more opportunities to start having sex early in life..

Men does that at a certain age because they most expel to relive themselves, so the way and manner they do so, is up to them

Women does but at an advance age not as a teenager

Once a girl remains a virgin, she doesn't know what sex is all about, nothing of such

hailey345:
I'm a Jehovah's witness, I graduated from UNILAG in 2018. When I was in my final year, I started dating a non-jw guy who'd been my very good friend since I was in 100L, in fact we were best friends before we started dating.

I never intended to fall for a non-jw because I know that I can't marry one, but I couldn't help it, I guess we really can't choose who we fall in love with sometimes. We really love each other and he's ready to marry me, I'll be 24 next month. He's more than willing to marry me but I can't accept his proposal because my parents will never let me marry a non-witness and my fellow witnesses may see me as a bad person if I marry a non-jw because I'm a very devout member. Also, my dad is an elder in the congregation, a fellow witness told me that if I marry a non-jw, my father will no longer be an elder and he'll never forgive me for that.

I want to let him go and start a relationship with a Jehovah's witness but it's really hard. Also, he's not willing to convert to my religion because he thinks witnesses are too judgemental and hypocritical (we've argued about that before). I'm scared that if I break up with him because of religious differences and marry a JW guy I don't love, I won't have a happy marriage. I've always wanted to marry someone I really love, someone whom I can call my best friend. I don't want to be that girl who thinks about her ex while married to someone else.

We haven't had sex, he's been really supportive of my decision to abstain from premarital sex, that's what makes him even more appealing to me. Should I just let him go and try to fall in love with someone who practices the same religion as me? or should I hold on to him and find a way to make things work?

You are responsible for your happiness and marriage

You got what you want yet religion wants to separate you from who you love

You are considering your father who was not even born in JW but grew to join them as his choice of place of worship

Well, if you reject him and couldn't get any one like him both in JW or outside it, blame yourself

You should be asking how to convince him to wed you in your church

The choice is yours

danietohbadt:
They're deceiving us.

You need to note that it's 25 percent of their basic salary....

Their basic salary could be 40k....
25 percent of that is 10k



The Governor's action is commendable anyways.

Better than non

He acted so well in the home film called, "Palace"

ChieduJoshua081:
Who else did not recieve Nepa bill for April? They normally bring it between 17th and 23rd but I still have not seen mine. Is it that the FG really relieved us of our April Nepa bill?

Any bill you get in the present month, is a bill for the previous month

If you see any bill now, it's for the month of March

It was really a wrong time to distribute such carzy bill

Get well soon

Others will learn

Tunex252:
yes na or they sell it

y

Hmmm, no be me abeg

koning:
Dem no born dem well to eat it all. 98% of the meat will be sold. Most of these village hunters are not hunting to eat. They hunt to sell. It's their proffession. Same goes for fishermen.

Yeah, but am wondering people eating the meat

Tunex252:
See better meat

So they will eat this animals ❓

ehirosplusbiz:
This is the Snake I Killed In My Backyard today there where two, One Escaped.

Is this a dangerous reptile? Cos am afraid. I have kids and they do play around outside sometimes.

For the time being and until you get the escaped one and because of you children

Get enough bitter kola and spread every where around the house out side

The presence scares snake away

Officialgarri:
I'll like you to visit one hotel in Bayelsa. I bet you wouldn't wish to leave. But guess what, it was built by someone whose job is just to be called "first lady". No other job.

Aridolf

So that's her worries now on earth

Anyway it's her choice

sisisioge:
He said he only beat her up

Ohhhh, why naw

Real men don't do that

Youngpo413:
never underestimate the power of a woman.

Lol, na you sabi

We must get sense byeforce

placeofallure:
Hmmn! Coloured urine may be as a result of the drugs or injections you're taking. But wait! You said you don't know what you're diagnosed of? Who prescribed the drugs and injections then? Or are you on self med? Whoever examined you must have come up with a diagnosis hence the drugs. If it's a doc. Just complete the dose and if symptoms persist, take yourself back for a re-examination.

Young people and mindless acts. If you don't give a hoot about yourself, consider your poor mother who wouldn't want to bury her child.

Mods, change the topic to: I had sex..

You have said it all, if any guy doesn't want to consider himself, let him consider his parents, especially your mother that will be highly affected if the wrong thing happens

eddieguru:
Hello nairalanders,


Although, I'm not good at writing

I had sex with a girl I met on Facebook, and now my urine hurts.

I'm currently taking injections and drugs, but I don't really know what I've been infected with...

While I'm taking treatment i've been having coloured urine ( yellow, brown and orange)

Guys I'm simply confused right now...advise a brother

So what test did you do before taking treatment ?

Pls stay away from sex now so that you don't create problems for others

Most girls who are highly infected gives sex freely and easily

Becarefull next time, keep to a faithful partner and you too help yourself and be faithful too because am sure you already have a girl friend

Take your medication amd take enough water so that you pass out enough urine

After one week of no improvement you go to hospital for test

200 condom would have saved you from this expenses

JEmma1:
So I also did some research the LG WP-750RC appears to be similar to the hisense 5kg (Wm Wsja 551) in design and also features. But the price on both jumia, and konga is around 90k. Quite high

You are making me to loose interest in giving you the same advice I will give my own brother

What are you searching for in Jumia and konga

Are they the importer

I have already referred you to the importers and sole distributor

You are getting it from the direct source where Jumia and Konga are getting there's

Anyway, it's your money that is involve, just do your wish

egopersonified:
bought this LG manual 11 years ago, no issue till date

Yes you are right, the top loader beats it all, the nick name is Roller jet

smiliyB:
Modify- I decided to adjust the headline, that's my own opinion. My aim of creating this thread is for us to discuss and leave meaningful comments for our own good. Not to start debating on the story's headline.

I have this experience with two married couple on two different occasions on my way back to East. So, I'm just wondering is it that they fell out of love or they never loved each other from the onset. What really happen? What can be done to keep the fire burning (I mean the fire of love oo ) between couples even till old age.

I know you're desperate to know what happened, let me share with you. But it's really big sha, so try and be patient. I'll try my best and limit it too.

Before I start, let me talk about my parents a little. I never experience this with my parents, my dad left this world 2007, at the age 63years but I haven't seen where my parents talked back at each other in a disrespectful manner inside the house talk more of doing such outside our home. I was a teenager when my dad left, so it's not that I was a child during those times and I couldn't notice a hot argument. If there's any argument, they do settle it in peace. Okay, Back to the story!

On my way back to East from Lagos State, I came across one couple let say they may be in their late 50's or early 60's. We met on the same place I came to board a vehicle to travel back to my home. I immediately noticed how this couple talks back at each other, at first I thought may it's normal but it was consistent and I was really bordered on how their lives will be inside their house. I sat next to the woman and the husband was on a different row entirely.

The first case, the husband asked the wife if she needs anything, like if she'll eat food and the wife snapped back at him to leave her alone. She said, you have been dragging me up and down since morning and my legs are just paining. I told you let's come straight to this place but you refused and we have moved from ikorodu garage to ojota and finally we are back to that same place you refused to come at first. The husband shouted back at her and left because our bus was still loading. While the wife kept on complaining to herself, even though the husband wasn't there anymore.

I'm very happy she didn't turn to me to complain, I don't really have strength for such, it always drain my energy...Lol... I kukuma mind my business, I didn't even ask anything. This is just one of plenty nags inside the vehicle till we got to East. They were just like cat and rat living together from my little experience with them.

The second couple is just the exact case like the first couple and almost the same age bracket. Let me not drop excess write up on it. So, after my second experience with this couple, I remembered the first couple and I'm just wondering what is happening Please marry your friends, marry someone you can leave the rest of your life with. Don't just marry because you want to marry and age is no longer on your side. Back to the question I asked earlier, please drop meaningful comments on how couples can sustain their love for each other even till old age. Thanks everyone!

Be good to your spouse, leave old age to think for itself

tutidaplug:
Firstly, i don't like getting my nose in people's business but this one pass me. My neighbor is in his early forties and a really nice guy who i've known for 3 years. I was sick of staying home last week Saturday so i strolled to the estate gate by 7pm as this lock-in period was really getting to me. On my way back, i took a longer, lonelier route 3 streets behind mine only to see my neighbors wife in a parked LR4 kissing one old man in is fifties. For some strange reason i looked at the car and the mobile phone light inside shone making me see here as clear as i'm typing now. In shock she waved and i waved back. After 10 paces , the car honked and i looked back to see the woman running towards me. She wanted to explain and i asked her "Madam do we know each other?" and winked. She smiled and said "no" and went back.

As sleek as an answer that it was, i feel guilty because the couple as always came visiting two days ago as they always do. After they left, i told my wife and she said that she will leave this with me and god as she trusts me to know what to do. This thing has made me spend money calling one popular therapist yesterday. I even pay on top for phone counseling.. After we spoke, the guy said he needs me to mind my business and not take up some other persons load. He said if i saw the woman, it simply meant that she was already getting reckless with her affairs and would be caught soon.

I took the advice peeps but don't know if it was the right one he and my wife are giving me o. Conscience dey knack me no be small anytime i see the guy. I just tire.. This lagos na truly wah...

Just mind your business

AutoB24:
My wife left with our 2years old boy to her fathers house, now she's living an I don't care life what should I do? Pls I need advise.

You must have dealt with her while you were living together

Tell us exactly what happened

The more you delay, the better for her to meet other men who will treat her like a woman

sunnymighty:
Lawyers In The House, I Need Your Advice On This.

Good morning nairalanders.

Please pardon my errors. I will go straight to the point, I work away from home but ensure I visit my family every fortnightly.

On Monday 9th of March, 2020 at about 2am in the middle of the night, I received a distress call from my wife that hoodlums had invaded my compound with the intent of vandalizing the mast installation located within my premises, after making several distress calls to those concerned and the attempt foiled, they made away with my generator, we also discovered my fence was badly damaged in the course of gaining access into the compound.

Over a month after this unfortunate incident, I am yet to receive any response in form of compensation from the organization regarding the generator that was carted away and my fence that was badly damaged by these hoodlums after a report regarding the above mentioned incident was claimed to have been submitted by the security supervisor in charge.

I had to spend my own money to mend the fence that was destroyed, no money can compensate for the trauma that my family had to go through during this terrible experience.

Please I want to know, is it in place to demand for compensation? Or better still, put who pays for the loss? Thank you.

If you are the owner of your compound, let them connect you to their power house, but you won't be able to use, pressing iron, freezer or fridge and other heavy electronics

If they refuse, after the expiration of your contract with them, tell them you will appreciate if they leave, you know they won't want to leave, then increase the ground rent for them