₦airaland Forum

JEmma1:
Thanks for this suggestion, I'll do just that

You will be glad you did

Kiddo01:
Good day fellow NL, how is the lock down is your part of Nigeria. Hope you're all getting along.
A brother needs help /advice. I decided to bring this issue here because I there there are well meaning Nigerians out the who who has useful knowledge to contribute to or impact to my plight.

I am a man in my twenties, born and brough up in a Christian family. My parents are godly and as such impacted the right morals in me. after my secondary school, I decided to move to the city to learn a trade, a hand work. I've learned the work and currently currently excelling in the work. Ever since I started living an independent life, I've never been spiritually stable. My spirituality is wavering.
To cut the story short I hardly engage myself in Christian activities, the worse of it is that I don't even pray to God again. I think I'm going astray spiritually, I'm lacking behind. I don't want to blame anyone for backslide. What's your advice

You are the only person that can help yourself out

Go to alters in a church of your choice and call you God

Is because you are sure of the next meal that's why

If you are not sure if the next meal, you will serve God

Sinzuko135:
It has been a thing of worry to me that wife insists on having four kids, but it didn't go well with me... Initially we concluded on having two, all of a sudden she change it.......
Pls what is the best way to resolve this cause I actually have reasons for what I say.... Wouldn't want this to bring a problem between I and my wife.

Thanks

Does your wife contributes to the family, if yes, seat down with her and share the work at home

Let her take feeding, just feeding alone

You take, rent, school fees and other major bills

By the time she single handedly feed the family for six months her head will correct

But if she is doing nothing but seat at home mum

She won't feel what carrying burden means

Get her a shop or she should go for teaching

Start withdrawal method, if she detects it and starts complaining, tell her your reasons and switch to condom

Because she will nit tell you her heat period so that you avoid pregnancy

conyema12:
My brother in-law who is my wife's only brother lost his wife late last year due to kidney problem. She was just 29yr old, they were married for only 3 years and blessed with a 2 years old daughter, same age with my daughter. During the burial ceremony the girls mother hired some touts and police men to cause problems and whisk the little girl away from my in-laws, claiming the boy was instrumental to her daughters death . However they couldn't succeed. It was agreed for my wife to go with the little girl pending when the matter is resolved. This just happened less than a week and the matter hasn't died out.

Now my inlaws are suggesting for the little girl to live with us and start school for now till the long vacation holiday (June).

My concerns are:

1. I am of the opinion for the matter to be fully resolved in a police station with agreement duely signed before she can settle in my house for now...

2. I am also seeing it ad a huge burden on my wife. We already have 2kids and it's a mouthful at the moment.

3. The brother will have to be financially involved


Pls I need suggestions on how to handle this so my inlaws won't see me as not being helpful.

Both my inlaws are retired and comfortable in their own house

I will advise you call your brother in law, seat him down and tell him that, you will advise he allows his daughter to go to his inlaw and start living with them and he can as well be visiting them to see his daughter

That child is best kept with her maternal parents pls

No matter what your brother in law will contribute to the up keep of that child, you will have to bear it till further notice and don't complain

There is no issue to resolve here as for me because, the late wife family are not denying the fact that they are not aware that he us the father

Let the two families meet and hand over the child to his inlaw and should be allowed to take responsibility of the child and be free to visit the child

The wife family are not happy with him because he may have death with the daughter that made her develop such terminal illness and she would have been telling them alot about his behaviour to her

Once the child starts staying with his in laws, time will heal everything

You will be free
The man will be free
The wife family will be happy

jenwaf:
Mother in the house please can you help out? My little boy of about +2yrs now, don't like eating any thing food. He prefer pocketing the food in the mouth when ever he is been forced to eat. I don't know what to do again.......

You didn't start early to introduce solid food, next time start as early as six months, it helps alot

You can try the following methods

When you cook, get the food ready, get something like biscuits or chocolate at hand, get a cain

Let him be seeing all those things, give him your phone to be playing games while you feed him

Tell him if he eats up to 29 spoons, you will give him the goodies but if he refuses you will use the cain on him and then tell him to play games on your phone while you feed him

As you feed him, give him very little portion if food and before you give him the next spoon tell him to open hus mouth for you to check if he has finished the one he has

You see fir the next one year, you must be feeding him until you get your desired results

Don't give him chance to dictate meals for you

Pray for him and God will open doors for him

It can only be God

yahaya2014:
Nairalanders,

Here is my story.

I met this girl while teaching in a secondary school. She came to write Waec in the school. That was how we met and started seeing each other. She was so in love with me, that she had to chase away the lady I was dating then because of her frequent presence in my house. She virtually spent nights in my place.

Two months after the relationship, she got pregnant as at that time I got a job with a bank for six month. We resolved to keep the pregnancy.

After three months, the bank terminated the job. I came back home. Remember during this period, my family never liked her.

But due to the pregnancy, my Dad had to accept her and went to meet the father. Only for the father to say the daughter isn't someone to marry. But if we insist. No problem.

During the period of her pregnancy, there are challenges and suffering. There was a night she almost died in my house because she was feeling bad that I am leaving her to my place of work (the bank job). We rushed her to the hospital and resuscitated her.

To cut the long story short. I got a federal job as a lecturer. Brought her and child over to my place against the decision of my family, because my conscience couldn't let me abandon her.

One year of her staying, she started acting and committing all sort of things like stealing and nagging. She went home two times on trivial issues.

The last one was surprising to me as we were fine. She was working in one private school because I promise to get her what to do.
The day I gave her my phone, our problem started. She started acting and saying that she wants to leave. That she is not happy.
I now told her to keep my son for me and she didn't object because I had no intention of taking him along.

She will answering calls from guys. She will ran out if her fone is ringing.

I now concluded to give her money to go after series of begging her to stay because of the child. I called her parents and brothers. But she was adamant. She left and never went home but went straight to another place.

She is there sleeping with men and all.
But I have cut her off from myself and the child.

Hope my decision is not wrong?

Go and reconcile with the other lady you were dating before she her

You and your father, should go and meet her family and tell them why you don't want to continue the failed marriage with her, that's if their was a proper marriage

Go with the dowry and return it back to her father, that's if any dowry was paid

Her father told you that you she is not a material yet you went ahead

Am sure you have learnt your lesson

lovelin1993:
pls advice me on what to do...
A guy owed me 15k and he doesn't wants to pay me and I do go to his house to ask for the money bt my going was productive until I detain his jincheng bike bt someone now advice me to take the bike to the police that it would probably lead to something serious if it should be in my custody, so I did. the bike used up to 3-4 months in police custody before I went there for the clearing of the bike bt on-getting to the police station, the police asked me for the papers to clear the bike and I called the owner that I want to clear out his bike that he should bring the papers to the police station while I was waiting him to come bt the guy didn't show up till now..although I have cleared tje bike from police station with a lot of money since there is no particular for the bike bt where I borrowed money from to clear it has detain the bike again and we both reach an agreement that if the money would not be paid in time that he will sell the bike bt with what I'm seeing, the bike has sold the bike bt now the guy has paid 12k of my money he owed me, remaining 3k, and the bike was sold some months back bt the father to this guy is threatening me with SAS police...pls anyone should advice me to get out of this problem...the 15k the guy owed has cost someone to loss admission since he could not pay back my 15k in time...

Nonsense

JEmma1:
Hi nairalanders,

I and my wife were searching online for a washing machine that will serve our laundry, we just got married and we are expecting a baby soon.

I came up with some options on konga but I need some advice as its my first time shopping for a washing machine, I haven't really own one before. My budget is 45- 55k, I'm looking for a strong product with good features and one that can handle basic laundry like clothing, bed sheets.

I came up with these options

Product 1
https:///product/nexus-nexus-7kg-semi-automatic-washing-machine-nx-wm-7sabi-blue-4520790

Product 2
https:///product/haier-thermocool-top-load-semi-auto-washing-machine-blue-tlsa06-6kg-3879205

Product 3
https:///product/polystar-washing-machine-7kg-pv-wd7k-4684215

I would appreciate your candid recommendations

If you want peace of mind , pls follow this advice

Get a washing marching of 6kg for the entire family incase your family starts expanding

Buy LG products, not from any how stores because of tamparing

Google their direct sales out address and you will get one close to your location

Budget like 50/60k and you will be happy you did

You can even go to their show room and see things for yourself then come back and discuss with wifey

Their direct sales stores is called fouani Nigeria limited, Google it

Marshal9:
Please nairalanders I need your advice on this, I'm a final year student, and my rent is due I'm supposed to renew a month ago but travelled due to this pandemic.

I actually have the money, but I'm concerned on what will be the outcome since we're yet to ascertain when this will be over. Should I wait till this is over or pay already?

I believe no student is out there looking for new hostels, so there's actually no pressure on my landlord. But I'm still considering him after all it's his property and at the same time I believe the money will come in handy if this lock down extends indefinitely

Please I need your advice thanks

Whether the lock down will be over in 6 months time or soon, pay your rent let it go off youits a debt you must pay, unless you are telling me now that there are no luggages there that the room is empty but if you don't want to be homeless whenever school resumes pls pay now and worry less over other things that you will face when you resume

Dganji:
More than ever am not happy with my mom.

I have this younger sister who was adopted by my dad from his younger sister(her father is late), she's just 10years of age and i really don't like my moms attitude towards that little girl. In the past when i was much younger, my mom has has many quarrels with the mother of my adopted sister which i really cant give accurate count on who's right or wrong, but for the record my aunty(younger sis mom) is very troublesome no doubt.
She started living with us june last year and i noticed she's always very happy when me or my dad comes home, was thinking its was because we were very nice to her that's why not knowing the kind of pressure she was going through at home. Several occasions ive seen my mom saying too many harsh words to that little girl which am not comfortable with but I've had to keep my calm. I feel reacting would made my mom hate her more as she might feel the little girl has turned her children against her. the saddest part of it is that our last born who's 15years is taking the same part with my mom in frustrating that little girl. Today i lost my cool and reacted and truth is i'm not willing to continue keeping calm again.

My immediate younger brother(we are 3 boys and no girl) decided to start taking this my little sister out for jugging cos she's too fat. She always return home crying cos of the pressure they put on her to jug, my mom on hearing her cry today came out and started beating her and saying hatefull words to her including insulting her mom, calling her mom names which honestly would get any child angry if they are told same about their parent.
Out of annoyance i got up and shouted at my mom to leave her alone that its becoming too bad for her as a mother to treath children like that. Instantly my mom kept calm and guilt was written all over her face. Im honestly not happy about disrespecting my mom but im no longer keeping my calm, there was a time when my dad had to take similar action against my mom and it didnt go well for anybody, the little girl suffered more hate from my mom and my dad wasnt really happy with my mom that period.

Returning that little girl back to her mom is never an option as the environment where her mom is very negative and would no doubt worsen her situation.

Talking to my mom calmy about it has been done by me and my immediate younger brother but problem still persist.

My worries are.
1, the little girl
2, my youngest brother whos taking after my mom
3, me disrespecting my mom.

Nairalanders your advice would be appreciated on this situation. I already have what to do in mind already but ill love to hear from those who have experienced similar situation and how best to handle it..

No matter how bad the place her mother is living, other parents lives there with their children and they are still living and training their children at that same bad place

Your dad will help by taking that child back to her mum and still play the role of adopted father

Your dad can look for accommodation and relocate her sister so that she will go and meet the mum and get her something doing if she has nothing doing

At secondary level, your dad can send her to boarding home school and that will help the whole family, but these involves money

I don't want to talk about your mother, she is just being jealous to a child that could be an angel to the family, leave her to her conscience

Daisy101:
Should we relocate to Lokoja, Kogi State for a Federal Job?

My husband and I have been in a dilemma between moving to Lokoja or remaining where we are. A Federal government job offer recently came up in Lokoja for my husband with a slightly better salary but we already have somethings going on for us were we are now (a local government area in another North Central state). My husband works with the government here while I'm running my own business. We have kids.

My worry now is that I don't know how Lokoja environment is. Moving over there means starting life afresh. We have no one there. I'm worried about what I'll be working on there, the social life. I don't know if there are good schools for the kids.

Please, is there anyone who has an idea of life in Lokoja. Is it worth the risk of leaving everything we have here behind? What job opportunities are there for graduates like me? Is Lokoja a nice place to be in?

I need advice, Please.

Woman ❗
Stay where you are let your husband go to kogi, get the job and over time, being a federal job, he will seek for transfer to any where of the federation

You can't because of job and relocate a whole family, what if it doesn't work out as you guys expect it to be

frubic:
Good day fellow Nairalanders,

This is my first post and I'm going to summarize my gist. I m staying in a room self contain and met this beautiful & fair lady in her middle twenties in the compound I just move in. Before we stopped talking, I got to know that she can't sleep without light on (either her candle, rechargeable or electric light must be on) every night. I have confirmed it. When ever I come home late at night due to my nature of job. But she refused to give me details why she must sleep with light on.

I suspect her and same time inquisitive to know why? Because she has a strange attitude and I have never seen her goes to Church since I moved in.

Please, members of Nairaland if you know any good reason, let us know. Thanks.

Some people can't sleep in darkness

It's her choice to on the light and respect her for that

Then respect yourself by staying away from her and everything that has to do with her if you love yourself

Kuns84:
It's really astonishing the amount of counselling I've had to do for women who have sunken into depression after finding out the gender of their baby - and I've noticed most of these women are pregnant with girls.

The only time I encountered someone unhappy with a male pregnancy, was because she already had 3 boys and was desperate for a change the 4th time round.

Why is such mentality prevalent amongst our women? In fact, the way some of these pregnant women act makes me question if women hate their gender so much that they can't bear to bring in another of their kind into this world.

You and I knows that if you don't have a male child, your husband will nit give you rest if mind

So they wish to have a male child as first child then relax, whatever gender that follows after that is OK for the woman

But having a female child as first child, if the other ones, there is no male child, the worries gets bad

Even as the men knows that, they are the determinant of a child gender, through their chromosomes they ate still the ones giving their wives tension about male or no male child

jess2019:
Sorry about the lengthy post. I just needed to vent.

My mum came to stay with me and she has been stressing me out instead of helping.
A quick info about us. We live outside Nigeria and domestic help is very expensive so we basically do everything by ourselves here. Everything is also by time here and kids are involved in extracurricular activities after school. My children only have 1 day of rest after school before lockdown. They come back home late . My son trains on Sunday morning which we do before church. Saturday is a busy day for us as they both play games on that day.
I have a baby that is less than a year. My mum knows that I need help but since she came she has this idea that she is on holiday. She doesn't cook , she only helps around the house like moping, carrying baby and loading dishwasher or spreading clothes. All these are not done everyday except dishwasher and carrying baby. My daughter has complained she shouldn't be doing her job as they get weekly allowance from doing chores.
My baby wakes every 2hourly until 1am and he starts waking every 45mins and glues on boobs all night. So every morning I am always weak and exhausted. So I give my mum baby around 7am to get sleep for 2hrs before i take baby back to me by 9.30am to put him to sleep as none could get him to sleep. Even though my mum knows this she always wait for me to cook everyday if I cant cook we order food. What she does is as soon I take over baby by 9.30pm from Her she eats her breakfast and go to her room and keep watching TV until 2.30pm. She will come down to eat anything i cook if no food she will do quick healthy food I taught her like fish and vegetables and she will continue watching TV until 6.30pm. She will come and eat her food again. If its swallow she will not even ask whether my primary school kids are eating for her to do their own. She gets angry demeanour if I dont cook when she comes down.
When she first came here, in the morning she will sit in the sitting room watching Nigerian movies and wait for me to cook breakfast, lunch and dinner and serve her she will also ask that u get her water as well. She has this attitude u must take care of me bc am ur mum and likes attention yet she doesnt ask about the welfare of any of us and then finds it difficult if u dont ask her after hers.
My husband is very busy and work almost everyday. I also work but currently on maternity leave. I've asked her I would like to do casual may be once a week but she will shout noo pls stay at home even though she knows we need money as I send money to my brother that schools overseas as well. We spent over #2M just on flight alone to bring her here because she refused to come during off season and insisted she will come back together on the same flight with us as we all travelled for xmas.
Not just that she is not helping around the house she also finds fault in people and gives no one rest when u stay with her. She just stayed with my sister before coming to mine and my sister complained that the 3months she stayed with her was frustrating. At a point she started leaving house to stay in their shop to avoid mum and this my sister is very kind and has a mellow nature.
I will be going back to work in less than 2 months so I've been sleep training my baby and mum knows this and she hears baby crying but all she does now is to come downstairs eat and goes to her room to sleep, watch Facebook videos and Netflix. She will not even care to find out if am cooking for her to come and help. My older kids can look after my baby and do those minor chores she does. I have talked to her about cooking but that is her nature. She likes to eat food but doesnt like cooking it and she likes people serving her. She has turned me to a maid. Any day I dont cook she laments I dont look after my mum. That i brought her out here and not looking after her. We buy things in stock here that lasts upto 6months. Boxes of chicken, Turkey, rice, beans but she will not cook.
She has this attitude i noticed, she cooks for my brothers and she will be begging them come and eat but when she visits her daughters she will not lift a finger even though we are the ones that need her help most. The brothers live alone
My mum is 67 but she has a mentality that she is very elderly. I see other friends that their mum visits how helpful they can be to their kids and some of them are older than my mum by 10 yrs.
I don't mind her behaviour if I live in Nigeria where there is help around the house but she has turned me to that and I am no longer happy and beginning to resent her. She will not be helpful around the house and also be picking quarrels. Since she came I have taken her for medical checks, ultrasounds and scans and be buying her things clothes, jewelleries, perfumes, electric brush etc to make her happy. I even paid a naija cook to make food for us two weeks ago.
She will be staying for one yr and I dont know if I can continue like this. My sister and kids were warning me that one yr is too long with her but here most people's parents stay for one yr due to distance and I would like for my baby to stay at home than at nursery when I start work.

My dear sis, I became tired after reading all this

Your mother is not helping the situation on ground

You must find a way to trick her home, one year with her will lead you to depression and its not her business

Save your life and your happiness
You only live once

Expensiverichyb:
Honestly, it's so scary reading different stories about marriage, married people online. Most especially nairaland. Does it mean we don't have great marriages that's working here? Why too many nagative stories. It's discouraging.

So, do you think marriage is beautiful, does it worth it or a waste of time?

What area are you pride of for being married?
Are you more happy and fillfied now than when you were single?

What beautiful view can you share with us?

Married people in the house, share with us please.

Marriage is supposed to be an institution where husband and wife learn, interact, play, share love and happiness

Meeting the right person makes the boat to sail with out the storm

Some are getting it right

Some are getting it wrong

Some are trying to understand it yet its ass difficult as further maths

While some can't stand the heat

Which ever way you see yourself, if you can't cope, just walk out, take a break and start another search

As it's applicable to men, so it's applicable to women

Managing the crisis is like a time bomb

Liliantalks:
What u guys think ?

Majority of those bad girls used diabolical means to get their husbands and still use that means to manipulate but they will not tell the truth

Those ones thst waits on the Lord will sure get theirs, just that it takes Time

Who will see a young man making money that will let him go just like that

Why can't they get married to the poor men if you think nothing diabolical went on

Good for him

Why can't they remain where they are

Any traveler now is a suspect

Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,

I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.

In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.

When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.

Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him?

As a fellow woman like you, I will advise you give him pls, these are my reasons

He has been a darling from the day you have been dating

He loves you and his love has kept you guys going

This lockdown has reduced some men to begging and the decent ones doesn't even like it but they don't have options

Am glad you have more than enough to give, pls give him any amount you don't hope to collect back, just because of this pandemic period, that is your own contribution

If he is hard working and not the gold digger type or someone that expects you to be spending for him

Then he is a good person to be with

Once more give him but don't tell him it's a dash, whenever he returns it to you, tell him to keep it yet and don't talk about it again

When next he ask from you, of which I hope he doesn't, tell him to use that reserve

Another old man

Isinweke:
While Chika Ike is doing Slay Queen and slaying around.

You want her to kill herself abi ❓

Since they can't stay at home,
Put them in isolation center let their family feed them for 14days while they run a test on them including HIV test

sylve11:
Please, what's there to appreciate?

Nigerians are getting what they deserved.

That's not even what they deserve as citizens

They may be gay partners who knows

rollandben:
Abiiiiii, that is why they have gut to be doing this to us oo, No problem we all shall deliver to our creator!!

Exactly, let them do what they like it's only God that can deal with them not you and I

Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

My dear, you are such a wonderful person and a humble guy, keep it up

I want you to understand one thing, you know people from Ebonyi are always underrated and you know why it's so, let make it a topic for another day

I was glad to read your post as you are from Ebonyi state, that's a good one form an intelligent amd brilliant person

As for your girl friend, she has been using your head since day one of rhis relationship and he took your simplicity and gentility for being stupid and being a fool

Now I want you to brace up and man up yourself

Pls and pls forget about her and move on
From your write up, you may end up with a bitter marriage with her or her puppet and must dance to the tune of her dictate

There are wonderful girls out there looking for a caring man like you to build walls around

I know as a medical student, you want to marry a fellow profession but you can always get that in your field

Don't think about her, she is in her own lane and you will keep on be disturbing yourself if you keep on waiting for her approval and even when that approval will come, it will come with a condition that before she can marry you, you guys ha e to relocate to over seas

Relax yourself and move on, stopping disturbing her and stop taking care of her

You have done enough for her and let her go with that, you will get another one and she will get her match

As for your brother, don't allow him to put you under pressure for marriage, you area still young and lack some experience of marriage, get a job or relocate and further your studies as you grow you understand the nitty gritty of marriage

Your profession makes you unavailable at home all the time and you need a woman that will understand you so that she can take care of the home front even if she is a doctor

Time will cone she will look for you and by then you will tell her you have found someone else and won't risk leaving her for anybody

She is forming because she is into medicals and hope to get a big fish that will take care if her and hers not a bigginer like you

Pls relax and fashion away of dropping her gradually without being hurt

Even the money you do give her, reduce it


*She can't be rejecting to eat dog meat yet she wants to share the meat with her teeth*

Simplyleo:
What kind of rubbish is this?

Cooked food in take-away as a palliative?

What happens to giving out some quantity of raw food items, no matter how small?

Na those agbaya wey queue dey vex me pas. The clowns are even trying yo be organised by practicing social distancing so they wont miss one plate of food.

Be appreciative for once

Even if they don't cook and give, nothing will happen to government

Perfecttouchade:
Sanwo-coro...u try o. Abeg who get buhari number, make him come learn how to address the Nation from this man

That Sanwo-coro is derogatory

Paul8000:
Good evening ladies and gents...

My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.

Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.

The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.

I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.

I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.

I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...

Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough...

Hmmmm,
What an error

Pls be calm, at this stage you may go out of your way but be calm

We can't hear from your wife to know exactly what is happening and how it got to this stage

But don't give up and don't fight her

You must have been behaving naughty, especially this issue of cheating and it would have been on and on and you don't want to put a final stop to it

You guys must have been having so many pilled up of unresolved issues, so every fresh issue is automatically connected to the previous one which hasn't be solved

You need to seat her down at midnight, when the brain and mind is at rest and have a heart to heart discussion with her

Ask her that you want to know how you guys got to this stage of insult with disrespect and disregard both from her and the children

She will say nothing is wrong but keep asking her

Next day continue again and she will open up

If all these while, you have treated her bad or neglected her in one way or the other or you just have been reporting her to your family, promise her that it will stop

If you have been treating her like a no body or leaving her to struggle alone at home with those kids and you go about having the fun of your life, promise her that it will end that night

You see as it is now, she has polluted the mind of your children and trust children, they will always follow their mum and even support her because they are closer to mothers and they wouldn't want to see mum cry or sad and if they see her in that situation, they will ask her and she will open up, from there, they will see you as a wicked father and start painting that picture

If you are able to get her back let her seat the children down and tell them that you have apologised to her and promised to be a good husband, you too you will promise your children that you will love their mother and love them because they are the only treasure you have

If you allow pride to ride you on this matter, my guy, you will remain in that situation and as the children are growing the situation gets worse

If you have not been providing but drinking away your money, staying out till late or going out to have fun, pls stop it

The best way for a man to win the heart of his children is to love his wife and the children will love you him even more

Once there is peace at home

Whatever you dropped outside, bring it home or forget about it

Discuss with your wife all the time

Be open to her and don't dare manipulate her, an average woman can detect when a man is manipulating her and they don't like it

When you are coming home, get snacks for the children or get for their mum, if its convenient for you, though not all the time

Ask of her anytime you get home from the children

Make her your friend, your companion and your everything

Even if you say you are pulling out to go and start another life, my dear not at this age and stage, you will not find it easy

Pls play the fool and let peace reign in your home

She may not be as bad as you think, but you have not taken time to study and understand her

You have to start doing so

Women by default have a way of attracting sympathy from their children

Once you love your wife, you have full control of your wife and children

Good luck

Xisnin:
The bold is a lie.

You have no idea what hunger means. I hope it remains that way.
It isn't the BS theory you stated above where you can even give to your neighbors.

If your neighbors are truly hungry, you will be avoiding them like plague for your own safety.
You will even hide your car to avoid being marked.

Your last two paragraphs are misleading

You don't seems to care for your neighbours