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Poorboy:
look at this fool..... I say na one can of milk dey there others na empty containers.... Why display empty containers, you wan may I show you how I dey do shopping worth over 100k

Onukwu

Hannah346:
Hi Nl,
I 've been in this relationship for 3 years now...
We were happy and loved each other..... Then three years into the relationship, my bf started behaving strange and funny...

He doesn't call or text like before and when I talked to him about it , he always pick fights with me...I decided to keep mute...

Then one day I was at his place and decided to go through his phone( something I hardly do unless I needed to send pics or videos on my phone)...I found out he has been cheating with a girl he met on IG and they have been seeing each other and having sex....they even send nudes to each other on WhatsApp...

I was really hurt and I woke him up...he begged and said he was sorry that it was a mistake but I didn't listen and left...later that week he called me and said it was over between us ..I was really shocked cuz I didn't understand what was happening..... I went to his place that day to confront him and there he said I was boring and am not what he wants ...I was confused cuz none of my ex or anyone else ever told me I was boring.... I begged him and told him I could change but he said it was over...

After a few days I started seeing pictures of him and that girl he cheated with on WhatsApp... I couldn't help but stalk him on fb and IG and it turned out they were really having fun and ....

I deleted his number and blocked him on all social media and decided to move on....I decided to stay off relationship since then around June

Then around October... He called and said we should meet up that he wants to talk to me....I met with him and he apologized for what he did..I asked him about what he said to me then and he said he didn't mean the 'I was boring' .I told him it was past and its forgotten but deep down I was still hurting and I felt like smashing his head right there but I was cool......
Since then we have been talking and chatting but I found out the girl left him for another guy....

He said he still loves me and he is asking me out again and I don't know if I should give him another chance cuz I still love him...I told him we should just be friends for now ...on the other hand am still hurting about what he did.....
We have Been hanging out alot and am loving him more everyday
Am very emotional and I think I might give him another chance if I continue seeing or chatting him...
Should I just forget him and move on or give him another chance
Pls advice.... Thanks

The ball is in your court, he used you for 3yrs, got another lady who flashed herself on him, he picked her dumped you and after all, he could not get what he wanted, he compared you with her and came back to you

Now you are in a state of going back to the relationship

Well if he is the only one you hoped on go ahead but if you think that you are too good for him to drop and pick you up like a passenger

Give him an break while you search for another guy

Don't say yes and don't say no

By the way, your first tenure was 3yrs, what was your achievement in the relationship as in what was impacted in you

Second tenure, he is abck for another delay

Who's time is going, yours not his

Just keep him floating if he has never introduced you to his family and has not proposed to you

Don't make yourself cheap that he was once in charge of your pussy does not make him a life ceo

NaijaRoyalty:
That poorboy is an idiot, it's good the Op ignored him .
A tin of SMG Gold big tin size is about N6000 per tin and what I'm seeing there are 2 big tins and 1 small tin.

Lol

That's not true at all

majamajic:
it's risky dating them, they always like use their power of attorney in relationships.

u can't head the relationship unless u are in the same job as her.

If you have what it takes, you can head the relationship

Stop being inferior and intimidated

ANGELMARVE:
Well i don't like ladies that chew gums, it's a very huge turnoff.

I don't like ladies that put on cloths that will reveal their private parts of their body, it's a very very huge turnoff.

I don't like ladies that are broke, the ones that depends on guys for recharge cards, i will never date any lady that finds it difficult to recharge her phone with her own money, i will never date a lady that don't have at least 100 thousand naira in her bank account, excluding her business investment, she must at least have a 100 thousand naira to spare for her upkeep, cloths and other miscellaneous.

On my birthday, my girlfriend should be able to bake a cake worth 30,000 naira for me, she should be capable of spending lavishly on me, on my birthday.

There are two things involve, if i am dating a Lady from a financially average home, she should have her own business, be independent and she should be capable of taking care of her younger ones and parents on her own without the support of any man.

If i am dating a lady from a very Rich home, her parents must be very very Rich, she must be attending one of the most expensive private universities in Nigeria or UK or USA.

She must be very brilliant in her studies, not proud, very respectful and she should have millions in her bank account, whether she will work in her dad's company after graduation or not, is not my problem, but she must have her own personal company she manages..

One thing is for sure, i will never date a lady from a poverty home or date a lady with a 5000 naira bank account,, God forbid..

All what you said here, reveals that you are from a very poor home and have not seen wealth before

So for that to happen, you have chosen to be a gold digger

Be coming they are waiting for you but it comes with a price "mumu bottom" for life

HermesParis:
I will try and make it brief.

I think i have a problem and its one that i don't really know what to do about it anymore.

Anytime i tried having s*x with a condom on, there is no how i will be able to reach climax(release). I will do and do and still i wont cum, this is so frustrating that i will have no oda option than to remove the condom and have unprotected sex with the said lady; which is one that i end up regretting.

The last one happened to be with a lady i just met. Invited her to my place and when d act was about to start, d kinda smell oozing out from her virginal was out of this world... I managed to go in with a condom on but, as usual, i removed it just after 5mins or so, cos i wasn't just feeling anything and have to go in unprotected jst to release mysef of all the tension. Now i am so scared as to whether she as a disease. This is something that sud have been avoided if only i can release with a condom on.

So, How do i solve this problem?? Anybody with a similar issue should pls come forward and help me. This is because i don't intend to contact any of the STDs flying around. Pls and pls i need serious contributions cause its a matter of life and death.

Since you pick girls randomly you will get infected

Happyguy201:
please what should i do

Continue fucking her, why did you stop to ask questions

You are an adult and should decide for yourself

Ojizy1:
I am 27 years old and I have been dating this lady for 2 years now , I'm doing well with forex trading and make money without hitches.
I always take her shopping and buy her good stuff but the thing is I don't see her as my life partner but now she's 4 months pregnant and she concealed the information from me.
I'm not ready to father anything child now because I'm still yet to complete my house.
Guys please suggest what should I do .

During your initial discussions with her, you must have said that you are not ready for a family but you were having sex without condom

She kept the pregnancy secret for you so that by the time you will get to know, it will be too late to about the pregnancy

But the mistake she is making is that she doesn't know if you will eventually marry her or not

Having her as a partner is different from having her as a wife

The decision to marry her or not rest in you not her

prince985:
I've been engaging in morning jogging for some weeks now, and I noticed some joggers usually clap twice when we cross paths. Is it a kind of greeting? How do I respond?

It's a form of greetings for those in sports who doesn't want to talk whine on it

When you see others clap your hand twise and they will clap back to you

That's the way they greet

Poorboy:
Wetin you buy no reach 5k

Just because you a poor joy doesn't mean you can't appreciate a kobo spent

MikelEleta:
Your spot on bro. 100% correct

You guys just want mumu as a wife nothing else

A guy that will flirt will definitely flirt even with angle as a wife

Onyijeff:
What will happen to them

Their women are as loose as thread, just toast them and you have them on your bed as much as you want

Their is no company in Brass except Agip, so employment is scarse their, once you get their with boat, your other means of transportation is okada, accidents rate is as low as low current

But for free electric, you will have excess light their and you don't need gas jus hot plate

You don't have any reason to be afraid of preserving food in the freezer

Though cost of living their is extremely expensive because its a town far away from the city

They are in their own world, the women are lazy and prefer dating to struggling and their men too are lazy looking up to Agip

It's a fin place to be if you have money for vacation

They have fish but extremely expensive

The cost of going to yenagoa by boat to get things they sell made it more expensive to buy anything there

Lastly their women are easily available

Tallesty1:
Two adults climbed bed to get sexual satisfaction and one thinks it's her right to lay there while the other works for his own and her own satisfaction?

I am here to get satisfied and I work for it, work for yours.


I cum and I go.

I usually loose interest in a woman before she does so don't think you can scare me with that.

It's good uou do lose interest in women, learn how to do without them

He already brought stealing to his destiny at this very young age

Where are you located precisely

nlPoster:
It's at the spouse' discretion if they want to check each other's phone or not.

Outsiders should not meddle even if they (outsiders) are also checking phones.

It's not easy to get spouses who agreed to live their phones open, even you, will not raise it as a topic of debate

You talked about third party, this is irrelevant to it

sarmuel97:
Wow
This is adorable !
She tried oo and there is no twin among them

She was looking for a girl

Wayne4uall:
Some people said that don't ever check your partners phone to avoid hypertension and some said always check your partners phone to know what is coming and ur stand in a relationship.... Is it right or wrong?

Yes, totally wrong from both sides because you will definitely see what will give you BP

Live your life as if nothing is happening and you won't see things that will frustrate you

The more you want to see what's in the phone the bitter you will be at the end

This my point is applicable to both men and women

wired4comfort:
I need a neutral person's opinion on this.
I spend between 30-35k every other month on food and other consumables. my husband thinks it's too much because it's just the two of us.
Do you think it's too much?
pls offer tips on how to spend less.
thanks

It depends on what kind of foid items you are getting for just two of you

You better start saving because when those kids arrive, you will find it difficult to adjust

But if you take food from home to work for breakfast and lunch then it's OK for both of you

But if its for dinner alone and weekends, try yo adjust it will help you more

Amarisa:
Cont'd..

This lady am seeing is now pregnant for me. I was elated. At last,I am going to be a father. I promised to take care of her but she said she will not keep the baby if I do not marry her. Now,I cannot marry her even though I love her because I am still married to my wife.

Divorcing my wife will look like I left her cos she is childless. I am not kind of person. I tried to explain to this lady but she does not want to listen. What do I do? She has threatened to abort the baby cos she cannot be a baby ,mama.

What can I do please…should I divorce my wife and marry her or allow her go ahead with her threat and aborting the baby?..what if this is the only baby God has destined me to be?

With the way my wife is already sad and depressed about this childlessness,calling for a divorce will break her heart. I still love her despite all and I do not want to hurt her.

Another option I am thinking about is,maybe I can wed this lady traditionally. At least that is legal. But if my wife found out,it will still break her heart. I do not know why God has not blessed us with children,if not…I would have never slept with another woman.

While we were dating,my wife(then fiancee) got pregnant twice and twice we had abortions cos we were not ready. Could God be punishing us for that?Its been six years,even almost seven years but no issue.

I am genuinely confused. I warned this lady that if she goes and get an abortion without my approval,that I will sue her. She then said if I sue her,my wife will know about the pregnancy which I do not want.

I need advise.


Done..

Hey, stop this silly game you ate playing

Have you taken her to go for pregnancy test and the results delivered to you

Am glad your wife took in twice and you guys aborted the pregnancy

Why not hold on to your faith and be hopeful that God has a bigger plan for you

Yes you lost control of yourself and she claimed she is pregnant for you, how sure are you ❓

She knows you ate desperately looking for a child and she is on her game

If she can't keep the pregnancy then if she wants to abort it, let her go ahead

Don't break your wife heart because of your desperate situation

How will you feel if your wife imposes another man's pregnancy on you just to make you happy

How will you feel after marrying the lady and she gets a mis carriage and also have a delayed pregnancy, will you return her to her family that you are no longer interested or you keep her as your second wife and Shute both

For how long will you be able to do that

How you so sure tgat it's your pregnancy ❓

Pray to God to direct you to take a decision you can defend

ofemigeorge:
Iwill be moving to another place. So decided to sell off some stuffs. My sofas three, two and onesitter up for grab 55k negotiable. 09056901155 i screw away the legs so if you need it. Fine
Shomolu. Lagos.
So lets do this ..... others are bed frame with drawers at the edge and space to keep books 4.5 × 6 for just 25k , polished parlour stools (four legs design), table top gas burner ( you dont need a match stick to light it) and a slightly cracked glass top electric double cooker.

My carpenter did the sitter construction from the begining. I paid for top quality wood and choosed the design. Only regret i had was using black swede body finishing, as i later got to find out it reflect the slightest of stain. So i would advise if you wish change the body finish to grey or any colour you choose

THIS ONE WAY NAIRALAND NO WAN MAKE I LOAD PICTURE WEY PASS 4MB
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Due to request from potential buyers pricing the chairs i have reduced it to 55k. Negotiable

Pls can you post a picture of the side cupboard because I need one, I stay at shomolu Bariga so proximity is an advantage and what's the price

Tallesty1:
Women and this "He does not satisfy me" excuse when they bleep out.










Nah Only God go Help Us Sha

Yes it's your duty to satisfy a woman in bed

If you don't do it well, some one will do it for you and you will just be observing that she has lost interest in yours

A man tries hard to work on that aspect because women are made for men and for you to have a level playing ground, you have to pre-intimacy her and take her through the garden to get to paradise before you arrive

Fhemmmy:
While all the mentioned are real and true, but what do you say about couples in their 60s that has all the money you can imagine and power isn't a big deal to either of them because they have power in the office but only see their other half as one that completes them . . . They have had all the enjoyment both in bed and out there by being crazy together BUT yet they still divorce? Meaning there is more to divorce than all aforementioned factors.

Those in the sixties are just not really satisfied for selfish reasons though there was low divorce then but now the state of economy and the state of mind of this generation is like make gas and lighter playing

Anything can trigger the lighter and gas to burn beyond irreconcilable matters

charles009:
I just finished enjoying a delicious plate of nsala soup with goat meat with plenty roundabouts and flyovers, i decided to cool off with nairaland and this story of how my husband scammed me caught my attention.

A week ago, a neighbor summoned me to help wade into his marriage (since the lady is from my village) he feels, the wife wants a divorce. Now before I begin both parties are young and unusually successful in their careers and lest i forget they have 2 lovely kids together. [i pray he doesnt visit nairaland sha lol] I asked a few questions as to what he perceives the problem to be, his answers were along the line of always busy, work etc. I told myself I was gonna try talk to the wife, after all my first class for guidance and counseling no be beans.

Yesterday, I visited the home and asked the wife for a separate session. which she obliged. I pressed for answers and prayed her to get back to her husband, not withstanding what has happened. I asked her if the man has done anything she finds terribly annoying. she kept a huge silence and replied, i don't love him again. chisos, I became increasingly worried cos this is a marriage of barely 4 years. as if that was not enough she dropped a bombshell, she told me, she doesn't know how to tell him but she doesn't feel comfortable changing up in their bedroom, she uses the kids room. i was left in total awe. In the end i advised they both go for counseling and most importantly pray more. I quickly ended the session, and while i drove home i was practically inundated with loads of thoughts.

I've got a relatively young home, a stunning wife, two lovely damsels and once its 5pm, I am always the first to dash off .work can wait,infact work can go to hell, family stays forever. I use to brag that if you see me sitting out, drinking beer with a plate of nkwobi look around well, my family is with me. This is just to express my deep rooted love i have for them. and I do not see anything breaking this bond.

so I ask, why the rampant cases of divorce, can matured minds provide some clues so we can all learn. Its an unGodly practice.

However, back to work.

Most marriages done on scam is subject to problems

Men wants respect from their wives and their loyalty, but have forgotten that it comes with a sacrifice

Once there is no love from inception, no matter how you try, it will break and if it doesn't break it will bend, that's it

Once you marry and shy away from your responsibilities as a man, the woman will be left with burden and that alone can make her behave unruly

Some families, don't have a house help, but instead of the man to help baby sit, he would neglect the children and still expect their mum to continue her multi tasking and still pay attention to them

In fact, he will leave the house by dodging and go and get fresh air in another vicinity

Then he comes home to dinner and still wants to have his way on her in bed.

Haba ❗❗, who does that ❓

The only language women understands is love and affection, keep money aside

These children can make you talk at home and you will develop undue tension and stress, now tell me, the father of the house is not feeling anything just because he is not impacting himself into the family

Yes women are resilience, but not giving her the needed domestic help will make her start acting as If the marriage doesn't worth it

Now let me talk about money here

Women are economical by nature, while dating, you should be able to know if she is extravagant, expensive to keep or she is lazy and doesn't know what it feels to toil the soil and bring Fort food to the table

Give your wife reasonable amount of money for upkeep, she will definitely add hers because its never enough considering the way the economy is going

If she is not a wife that can manage, teach her by monitoring waste of food.

Lastly communication is important no matter how difficult tge topic is, lack of communication in marriage has lead to unresolved issues which ends in break up

Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

Stop acting and make it know to him that you are engaged with the guy and wedding is coming up shortly

He is a matured guy and won't even expose your relationship with him

Relax before you sell your self out

infonet247:
Hello Nairalanders,

I am really in disbelief and in shock hence am writing this here for all to advice me on what to do.

I am a man of 35yrs old and have been dating a lady for three years now and told her this December 2019, my people will come for the traditional marriage having gone for introduction earlier.

After two months of introduction, she became worried and started feeling unease. I told her ok to make things easier and for you to believe I will marry you, I transfered 1.5m into her account for the traditional and white wedding, promising to add more wen we finally draw up the full list.

Then the unexpected happen, we plan going to Aba to get the traditional marriage items last Saturday, which we later purchased but to my utmost disbelief she had accepted another guy by Thursday in case am not serious!

Am shock because during the week of us going to Aba, I had sent 100k into her account by Wednesday to hold for the journey only for her to accept or tell another guy to come. Then by Sunday after the items have been bought, she sent the new guy a txt that she doesn't want again.

My question is, should I continue with her since she could act like this? Should I go ahead with the marriage or call it Off? Pls I need advice.

Please Front page

I think she loves you for the money you are giving her and not truly for love

She kept another guy as plan B incase yours doesn't work, do assuming you draw back, she would use the money to arrange marriage with the other guy

It's like she is the one desperately desperate about marriage and you are too gentle so she has to coarse you to bring out money quickly for it

Anyway, just go ahead but let her know that, in this marriage, if she f I will behaves naughty you will find your way out because she has made you to distrust her

efex01:
Good evening to you my lady, am Felix by name, Yoruba from osun state that was the introduction that led to another thing.

Less I forget, I started a new job in Ibadan as an accountant for a pharmaceutical store on Monday, in which I was introduced to all the staff in their branches but there is a particular lady in one of their branches that ask me a same question, can I meet?

After introduction the next thing she said is, you are not my type, you are too ugly to be my boyfriend.

My people, pls am I too ugly to be this lady boyfriend, cause I need to ask someone because I don’t have any girlfriend that I can ask

Does it mean that you don't have a girl friend uptil this moment or you want to break your heart for a lady above your standard

Every shoe comes with size so that you wear a perfect one

Be romantic and caring
Pay attention to any lady you admire this is one of the ways you pin a lady to be humble and loyal

Lastly always go for your category in ladies

merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful

There are somethings you haven't told us that lead to the struggle for love

We can't give you a blind advice

Sheds some lights let's understand what you are in

Queentee214:
Hi everyone,
Am really confused on what to do right now and I need advice.

I and my ex broke up six months ago...I broke up with him cuz we are always having misunderstandings...not just that..he can't control himself when angry , he always end up insulting me and calling me names but apologize when he is calm.

The last one that led to our break up was when we went to his friend's birthday party..on getting there,,i met an old time friend(a guy) and we talked for few mins .i went back inside where the party was holding and I met my bf angry already,,we end up quarreling there and he called me a prostitute in front of everyone(that wasn't the first time he would embarrass me in public)...

I was hurt and left there...i started ignoring him and the relationship wasn't going well anymore...i broke up with him afterwards ..i love him but I can't accept his flaws ..we tried to get back together but end up blaming each other for everything.

Six months later, I'm in a relationship with another guy..he has his flaws too but not bad...
Now the problem is I still love my ex and we still talk and chat almost everyday...

He is the first person I call when I need advice and vice versa..my ex family thinks we are still together and always call to check up on me....this is causing problems in my new relationship....

I decided to cut contact with my ex but he is isn't ready to let me go and neither am i..

Just last week my bf broke up with me and told me to call him when am ready to cut off contact with my ex...

Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me

I need to forget and move on from my ex
....pls advice... Thanks

Pls no one should come here and start telling me I met a good guy and toying with his feelings..

My ex is also a good guy, he just has his flaws...I just need advice...

Thanks

You still live your ex and have feelings for him thats why you or both of you are not letting go

Make up your mind to accept him the way he is and that's it

Or you make up your mind to block him and stop seeking advice from him

The more you relate with him the more your feelings for him gets deeper

It's your choice to make up your mind at this stage because we can't advice you against where your heat is

Solsix:
I thought automated means machine only, no human being, please someone should correct me if am wrong

It has to be installed by humans

It will to be operated by humans

At this stage, it will now reduce human work force and do things mechanically

There by creating less job for humans more jobs for machines and the operations

srclark:
you have said it all .I wont really blame the man the fact they both once lived in dubai says it all the zeal to relocate to another country is there but i think the finances is the issue here .Many of our young women out there see marriage and child bearing as a pension plan .From her write up she said she is close to 30 and she already has 3 children where on earth is she rushing too now you want the man to perform magic to relocate you and the kids to another country getting a visa is one thing moving and relocating the family is another thing (you cant give what you dont have ).My advice to the op is better face the facts and accept the situation on ground many women purposely turn a blind eye to the truth these days and expect their husbands to perform magic .Going to the uk alone he can easily squat with his friends but who wants to squat a family of 5 *na for audio all this things dey easy when it comes into reality guy na war ooo* unless you want to go to the uk and return to naija the way you returned from dubai

That's it, she is not giving up abroad because she is finding it difficult to cope here, being rhst she started her marriage life abroad

So the only thing that can make sense to her is relocating out of this country

It's a pity, right now she is like a fish out of water