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EFULEFU1:
But are there spirits like that?

Alot, in fact they are more jealous than the real human and the best way to separate from them is through sacrifice and rituals

They are Invisible and can be seen by the person they have a thing with who sees them alone

ellamines:
GOD BLESS YOU REAL GOOD!!!

Amen �

MYDEBBY:
Thanks all for all your support,prayers and counsel,like I did promised I will update the house. We had the meeting inside the church as decided by her parents.after prayers the father asked what is my complaint,I told him exactly what I wrote in my initial post which you all read.The dad asked her if what I said is true she accepted it to be true but also at the same time said I like painting things to suit myself so that people will support me,after saying all I said I then said am done with her too since she first said she is done with me in my initial post. Immediately I said that I then said I will like to take my child.it was at this juncture the dad said I will take my daughter but not now,while the mum said its not possible for me to take her.The mum and dad then started to recant all the abortions and randy(womanizing behaviour),and some negative attitudes I had put up with their daughter which their daughter opened up to them on with tears rolling down the eyes of her parents,herself and myself.It was at this juncture I discovered that being inside church I have done a lot harm to the little girl all these years we have been dating unknowingly to me,my eyes became clear that I knelt down and started to ask God and herself and her parents for forgiveness.They then forgave me and prayed for me and their daughter.After which they asked her if she is still interested in me,she said yes,but that she expected me to keep apologising to her even after she said she is done with me.She also said that if we are to continue I must prove to her by my love and character that we need to start afresh again so as to convince her.The parents then urge her to forgive me and forget that a new beginning and chapter has opened now that as for me I should show am serious by completing marital stuff. After which we prayed and left.
The following morning being sunday,I was called by her Parents in their house it was at this point the scolded their daughter concerning all my complaints,they ask her to be going to church,dress moderately avoid trousers and influence her friends positively instead of allowing her friends influence her negatively.She then agreed to adjust in her ways. Before I left I then asked her once again if she is still interested she said yes and that God is her witness that since she met me she has never slept with any other man.Her parents still asked her the same question if she is still interested she said yes but I would need to build the love I killed in her heart once again.It was at this point the parents then said its a gradual healing process,that what is most important now is for me to show how serious I am by completing the marital stuff.it was at this point I brought out my daughter school fees and other money for their upkeep and gave to her,I then went out to buy other provisions and foodstuff they needed and drove them back to their base.on reaching their base she said I should not bother carrying things upstairs for them that she would call me on phone,that if I insist to carry I can still do so.At this point I didn't bother but drove off to my own base.Later in the evening her parents called me to thank me for all I bought and for the care shown I thanked them back,before I slept their daughter called me to say she just wanted to check on me to know how am doing I said am fine.She also ask me to help subscribe their gotv which I did.
Then this morning I called them to know how they are doing.This afternoon she called to tell me she is done with school for today and going to pay my little daughters fees in her school that some little more money will be needed since she is going to a new class.which I promised her I would send later. House this is how I went.
Did I do well? I stand to be corrected or advised Pls note her parents shed tears cos of the ways I have handled her and all the delay in the marriage stuff yet they were believing in me,that was why I had to apologise knowing fully well we are in Gods presence.And she too said she has forgiven me. Thanks all for anticipated inputs.

You did excellently well, God will direct you on your journey

MYDEBBY:
Thanks all for all your support,prayers and counsel,like I did promised I will update the house. We had the meeting inside the church as decided by her parents.after prayers the father asked what is my complaint,I told him exactly what I wrote in my initial post which you all read.The dad asked her if what I said is true she accepted it to be true but also at the same time said I like painting things to suit myself so that people will support me,after saying all I said I then said am done with her too since she first said she is done with me in my initial post. Immediately I said that I then said I will like to take my child.it was at this juncture the dad said I will take my daughter but not now,while the mum said its not possible for me to take her.The mum and dad then started to recant all the abortions and randy(womanizing behaviour),and some negative attitudes I had put up with their daughter which their daughter opened up to them on with tears rolling down the eyes of her parents,herself and myself.It was at this juncture I discovered that being inside church I have done a lot harm to the little girl all these years we have been dating unknowingly to me,my eyes became clear that I knelt down and started to ask God and herself and her parents for forgiveness.They then forgave me and prayed for me and their daughter.After which they asked her if she is still interested in me,she said yes,but that she expected me to keep apologising to her even after she said she is done with me.She also said that if we are to continue I must prove to her by my love and character that we need to start afresh again so as to convince her.The parents then urge her to forgive me and forget that a new beginning and chapter has opened now that as for me I should show am serious by completing marital stuff. After which we prayed and left.
The following morning being sunday,I was called by her Parents in their house it was at this point the scolded their daughter concerning all my complaints,they ask her to be going to church,dress moderately avoid trousers and influence her friends positively instead of allowing her friends influence her negatively.She then agreed to adjust in her ways. Before I left I then asked her once again if she is still interested she said yes and that God is her witness that since she met me she has never slept with any other man.Her parents still asked her the same question if she is still interested she said yes but I would need to build the love I killed in her heart once again.It was at this point the parents then said its a gradual healing process,that what is most important now is for me to show how serious I am by completing the marital stuff.it was at this point I brought out my daughter school fees and other money for their upkeep and gave to her,I then went out to buy other provisions and foodstuff they needed and drove them back to their base.on reaching their base she said I should not bother carrying things upstairs for them that she would call me on phone,that if I insist to carry I can still do so.At this point I didn't bother but drove off to my own base.Later in the evening her parents called me to thank me for all I bought and for the care shown I thanked them back,before I slept their daughter called me to say she just wanted to check on me to know how am doing I said am fine.She also ask me to help subscribe their gotv which I did.
Then this morning I called them to know how they are doing.This afternoon she called to tell me she is done with school for today and going to pay my little daughters fees in her school that some little more money will be needed since she is going to a new class.which I promised her I would send later. House this is how I went.
Did I do well? I stand to be corrected or advised Pls note her parents shed tears cos of the ways I have handled her and all the delay in the marriage stuff yet they were believing in me,that was why I had to apologise knowing fully well we are in Gods presence.And she too said she has forgiven me. Thanks all for anticipated inputs.

You tried so much for the peace talk that lead to reconciliation

Pls bring them back to your home to save excess bills

God will give you directions on how to handle your family

Marriage is a very big task and you won't know until you have challenges

Every home havea challenge but the ability to handle it is what makes yours best

Weldone

Women are the most complex being to deal with but then you can't avoid them

Let peace reign in your heart

Good for them, let it continue, idiots

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

I want you to look deep into your spending in her bills despite that she is working and ask yourself

By the time you get married, will she be stingy and you run the home alone or you don't mind If she doesn't contribute

What actually does she do with her salary when she cant pay her bills

Anyway before you make it official

Stop paying those bills and other sundries let's see if the relationship worths it

krissconnect:
There's this lady who has her office in the same market with mine. I noticed she responds interestingly each time i stare at her lustfully, and just recently we started greeting each other whenever i walk past her office.

I am 23 and she should be around 26yrs if am not mistaking. Please i want to advance my game towards her, but am not sure if she might be offended i look younger.

Pls how do i go about this?

Looking younger or older is not the issue

The issues are
Don't come and complain that she is too old for you

Don't come and complain that she doesn't obey your orders

There is nothing wrong in dating older person, but at your age, I don't know if you are experienced enough to handle such

It takes maturity and understanding to love someone older than you

BEAR in mind that she will always use her maturity when needed

Be discipline in dealing with it

Wake up every 2hrs to wee, yes every 2hrs, that's the price you have to pay

Stop taking any liquid once its 7pm

Stop taking herbs to stop it to avoid damages

Be serious with it because being a woman, I am wandering how you will cope during pregnancy

If you can trace any of her family members, just get a vehicle and organise boys to pack her things and drive her to her family

Tell them her staying in the shop us a risk, you can then dash her 20k to organise her self, pls do that in the presence of her family

Serves them right, good and Instant judgement

She has made herself a life slave to her husband just because she has no other option

ellamines:
GOD BLESS YOU REAL GOOD!!!

Amen and you too

Thanks for sharing this pictures

Every married man need to partake in child delivery, by the time you witness a birth and sees what you subject her to, you will appreciate women

Carrying pregnancy from conception to delivery, is God's doing

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

The truth is tgat she is fed up with the relationship and marriage

Her expectations weren't gotten

You are lucky she is showing you the red light at this early stage

Go with her to her family and if they are playing smart on you, just ask her before her parents if she is done with you and if she says yes, just make sure her parents heard what she said and stand up and take your leave

Forget about what people will say, that's nit your concern, your concern should be how to plan and move on

But if you feel that you can't let her go and you ate willing to tolerate anything she does to you, then deal with it

The question I want to ask is, after the operation, are you seeing any difference

The amount owed by s much quiet alright but your family should plead with them to release you because you are definitely going for clinic follow up and anything you have you keep dropping during follow up to reduce the bill

MrBrownJay1:
just like that abi?! no fake pictures, no doctor's note, nada!!!! people should just send money to someone who since AUG 2018, has been coming to NL with one sob story after the other beggging for free money. ok bro, we are sending thr funds, let us dring some herbal tea 1st....mtschew!!!!
btw is it your brother or you? dont get confused...

no be 2 million, na 10Billion!

Stop it naw, he us in pains, haba


If you u can't contribute financially then keep quiet and don't confuse others

If he is faking it, let God see it

Real mothers can starve to male sure her children gets educated

And for those men who think they are smart by not contributing, your reward is instant, your children will focus on mum before having time for you, that's natural

That is how they keep dodging their responsibilities, leaving the woman to suffer alone and you think Karma is not aware

You guys should sell the vehicle and give mechanic his money if any and take the rest

Some gifts are meant to suck you

If you intend living there for longer period and you like there, get a 2 bedroom flat depending on your income

But if for a managing start depending on your income, go for one bedroom flat congratulations

If you programme yourind that it has to be a white man that you must marry, and you don't get to find one. You may be stranded

Just free your mind and allow suitors to come and you make your choice

You can't be rushing to marriage at your early twenties, what if it doesn't come, what's your faith

Relax your mind let's see if you can make a good choice besides, enjoy yourself before you will start complaining that you married early and didn't enjoy your spinster days

Every one will feel she has gotten some one that does it better

I feel that staying away for so long would have killed the urge and maybe you guys have been having arguments about certain issues that need to be solved and you are not heading there

That aslo can kill the urge

Until you get home, taken it gentle on her and she will come back to her normal self

Women attach emotions to sex and unti its slove, your desire to sex means nothing to her

Am sorry to say this, edo ladies are not really good wife material, it's better they marry people from their sides who understands them better.

If you like mis interpret me but that's a fact

Am sorry to say this, edo ladies are not really good wife material, it's better they marry people from their sides who understands them better

womenareapes:
sorry! I don't speak the language of fish

Just because you have fish brain

BRATISLAVA:

command and complain. But come to think of it, what exactly do women benefit from marriages except fighting for men? The men are busy complaining while the women are busy slaving. Later you will hear who is useful and productive and who is not adding anything to the union

To you they may be fighting for men but to them, they have a purpose which you don't know and won't even know until she is done with you

Midas01:
But you want her to contribute in paying bills? Isn't that your sole responsibility?

Trust women now, she can't be subjected to doing the home work alone without you helping and you still expect her to contribute to your bills

Even the devil that deceived eve will not succeed in convincing her

womenareapes:
rubbish!

anything written by a woman regarding husband and how them should behave, please regard it as piece of shiit!

a fish cannot write a book on how to catch his fellow fish!

Fabricate your own write up let's see if your small brain will beat hers

uthlaw:
after birth giving what other benefits is in marriage,I do think about this always!

Just marry and purposely, don't give birth

Come back and tell us what you think is more beneficial

bukatyne:
Avoid 'Nigerian' wives who cannot respect men who treat them well.

Every Nigerian wife is willing to respect and obey her husband but don't show her that she is a lesser person

lexxyrule:
My question is, why always her?

Because her happiness is your own happiness

Every thing about her determines your stability in life

Sirseedorf:
So na only men come to suffer abi, Woman self no fit dey submissive ehnnn.



Radar



Maybe you need to tell woman too how to maintain their relationship status .

What's the word suffering doing here ❓

Just to love a woman and be good to her is now a suffering thing❓

OK, how do you think it should be ❓

MichaelUweh:
Women also feel sexually attracted to men who assist them do something...explain this paragraph Mr. Writer.

Yes you are right, they feel attracted to men who helps them

Have you noticed that when you form the habit of buying things for kids, they will yawn to have you visiting them and the entire family will always wants you to visit them, but if you are very stingy and doesn't get anything for the kids your visit is an inconvenience to the entire family even the kids won't have any reason to come near you