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Biingoo:
Home breaker common gerrarahia !

Burden carrier, add more to yours,
Anuofia

Tobs01:
Nairalanders! Pls I need your candid advice.
I used to feel depressed every time I remember my dream course,and the course I found myself. I'm an undergraduate of the university of Ibadan distance learning, from the department of psychology. A 200 level students with a CGPA of 6.3. Don't be surprise of which one is distance learning?it's UI part time programme.
The journey began in 2017,when I took my first UTME exam. I did fairly well and I applied for medicine and surgery in the university of Ibadan. I wrote the post utme exam and I didn't meet the cut off mark for admission. So I opt in for UI part time programe. I opt in for UI part time program not because I could not wait to rewrite the exam the following year,the reason is that I was advised by a tutorial master. I took him as my career guardian,because I didn't know anything about university admission. So,everything he says was the final.
To make the story Short
Later years,when I found out it was part time programme,I was not pleased with it. And the cause of the big fees we used to pay (120k). I can't afford those fees due to my financial status, I'm from a poor home, where will hardly feed on 3 square meal per day. I found my strength in teaching, and I started doing that, just to afford my school fees. The cause of the stress is too much for me,I made a plan of obtaining another jamb form 2019,but I was unable to get #3,500 to apply for the form.
This is my pain,if I will be paying high school fees,on what am I paying it for. And the course is not what I wish for. Don't forget it's not about some psychologist also work in the hospital. It's a dream. I'm this type,whether I study any course,I will still do well.
This is my pain,and I used to see myself as a failure every time I remembered.
Pls, I want to write another UTME exam to study medicine and surgery. What is your advice for me? I need your help,both in terms of advice and material wealth. Plsss
I make the story, there are a lot of limiting factors for me.

You can whatsApp me or call 07037123918

I feel your pains because finance is affecting your dreams

Try other states that you can get admitted with a not too competitive cut of mark with their post utme

If you have a relation in anywhere in the North East

Pick a choice of university there

Many people wants to study medicine both post utme exams cut off mark is their obstacles

Jamb has been a dream killer since 2000

Adekun33:
Am 19yrs old and I am 188cm i.e 6.2ft. I feel so awkward about my height. I feel that am no longer tall but long, for a very long time now i hated everything about my height to the extent I feel very sad and depressed every day.

As a result of that, I've lost confidence in myself and also my self-esteem is nothing to write home about.

This has made me an introvert and I don't socialize.

So pls tall dudes out there, I want to know how you deal with your self esteem and confidence and also how you approach comments about your heights cuz am gradually going insane!!!

Pls go to a dwarf and explain your complaint to him

He us in a better position to advise you

Meanwhile eat well to balance your height

Incase you don't know, at 19yrs , you are still expectes to grow either in height or weight or body size

Be grateful after seeing dwarfs

Biingoo:
See them. Bad wife

Yes i agree,

if you have an uncle or aunt that breeds like rabbits and hoping on you to cater for their family, go ahead and carry their liabilities leave yours

Don't stop helping them continue until you get to the stage of collapsing

Mugu

Richy4:
@ Bold......It is not everyone that is fortunate enough to have mother and Father in Nigeria... If it was so, then there won't be orphanages in the country.... have you ever thought of those kids that grow up in the orphanage home, what becomes of them when they grow up and gets married? who drinks their wine or took their dowry because as far as I know, not all of them get adopted.

Also, It is not everyone that is fortunate enough to get married the proper way? some started as living in boy friend and Girl friend before kids started coming.. and they automatically became couple.. Or has things changed so much in the country that everyone now gets married and pay dowry? I stand to be corrected though.

You are right about improper ways of people living as couple's without family commitments or marriage commitments

My stand is that women should work harder to provide for themselves incase the man turns to a monster

Many have died that way

The moment your troubles a woman's emotion you have killed her slowly

doctimonyeka:
Some women are just Demonic


I just don't understand!!!

Why did Satan approach eve despite that he has been seeing Adam

The more you understand women and their manipulating nature the better for you

J111333:
If I don't have the extra to spare, trust me I won't be doing what I do but thanks for your advice.

Thanks too, Use that extra to insure your income by committing it to a revenue generating business

You will pull out gradually form their liability

doitforyou:
lol you do when they grow up.

Lol, OK I agree with you because if you don't others will do

mysticwarrior:
you are a reincarnation of wise king Solomon, abeg kindly permits me to salute you in warri style, three gun shot salute for you Kpoko..kpoko..kpoko your teeth complete dem no reash.

Thanks dear

stormborn28:
hmmmmm....cucumber things

Better than messing around

Please help and read to the end, your little comment might save a depressed soul.

I finished NYSC early this year and moved in with my brother who is a site engineer in Lagos, I tried all I can to secure a job after my NYSC but mother luck is not smiling on me

After so many month of fruitless search, my brother and I concluded that we should open a business in which I will be in charge, my estimate of the business requires at least 400k for a start, my brother transferred 200k to me in late August and asked me to keep it until we get the remaining money for the business, but things were hard a little bit since then and he couldn't comes up with any other money

Week before last week my phone started one of his usual problem and I had to take it to an engineer for repair ( I have been using the phone for more than 3 years) after spending 2k on the phone the problem disappeared only to returns 3 days later

Due to the problem the phone is giving me a thought came to my mind last week Tuesday that I should use 20k out of the money with me to stake on 2 odds and use the profits to get my self a new phone

I never knew I was putting my self in a trouble that I will continue to regret for the rest of my life, I staked 20k on the champions league games of Tuesday with an expected return of 50k but Barcelona been the early kick off game spoiled it, I was frustrated and in a bid of winning back the lost 20k I lost another 20k that same Tuesday night.

Since then I have been staking trying to win the money back but everytime I keep loosing, I used the last 50k of the money to bets on 4odds yesterday and Napoli later spoiled it.

Since yesterday night I have been depressed I couldn't sleep throughout, a lot of thought have came to my minds

I have thought of Suicide but I couldn't afford to bring my mother to that much agony of loosing me

I thought of running away from house leaving my brother a note of the main reason why I left and why they shouldn't bother looking for me, but my mother also came to my mind, I couldn't afford to send the poor woman to an early grave we are the only ones she has been looking upto since she lost her husband in January this year, loosing me again can bring her sudden death.

I knew I am cursed and I have made a mistake that will continue hunting me for the rest of my life but I don't want to make another one.

Pls your little advice can go a long way in saving this depressed soul.

Cc: lalasticlala
Cc: Dominique
Cc: mynd44

You are not coursed

You are not stupid either

You just tampared with the money kept in your custody for business

But its a pity it doesn't work as planned

Stay away from bet

Stay away from gambling

Stay away from greed

Just sit your mum and your brother and tell them what happened

They will feel bad and your brother will lose trust in you

Your mum's presence will calm the situation down no matter how painful it is, it won't be compared with the pains of losing you

Having said that, dust your self and look for any legitimate job and do to save the money back and get the love of your brother back

egopersonified:
Adopt and don't pretend you gave birth to the child. The lagoon is still open to anyone who doesn't like it. As long as it's legal and the baby is fine, the only thing you should worry about is when and how to tell the child.

You owe an adopted child no explanation about the way and manner she was adopted

Just blend her in to the family

Simplestone:
Please I need advice on the right step to take,I've been married for some years now and I am yet to have a child.I got pregnant on different occasions and it either ends in premature birth or miscarriage.
My husband and I have decided to adopt a child.We are still in our reproductive years but hubby said we should adopt a newborn or a few months old baby legally without anyone knowing while waiting for God to bless us with our own.
I don't know if I should be patient or go ahead with an adoption.I am 29years old.My hubby is a good man and he loves me so much.
It breaks my heart when I see him cry after each miscarriage.Kindly advice me on what to do and please anyone who has idea on adoption should direct me.Thanks

Am very happy that you have a supportive husband

Pls go ahead with his consent and adopt

Don't be supprise when the baby brings in those angels as kids at home

But under no circumstances will you ever segregate that child when your biological child starts coming

Pls hurry up now that hubby is showing his support before his immediate family will start working on him

You can't tell the state of a man's mind until it happens

Just thank your God that as young as you guys are, your hubby is willing for adoption

He loves kids and wants them at home

It's still better than getting or imposing another man pregnancy on him

And guess what the arrival of that child is coming with baby bump

Good luck

Amijos:
A friend is currently admitted in the hospital due to terrible injuries inflicted on her by her huaband in Agbor Delta state. This young lady has no one in her family to defend or fight for her.
She has 3 little kids and her 1 year son is currently in the hospital with her because he was also injured by the man too.
Do you any domestic Voilence agency in Delta state? Please help this lady before she dies.

Im thinking of getting the police to arrest this man but cant even archive thus from my location right now and there's no one available to help.���

How come she doesn't have families to fight or caution that beast

So who took her bride price and drank her marriage wine

You see why I keep saying that women should never allow any man to kill their emotions

Assuming she is capable of taking care of her self, she won't even look at the idiot

Check very well, its unresolved money matters that is causing this havoc

Women, once you accept your faith that you can't struggle on your own be ready to accept what goes with it

Well she has the option to walk out or return back after the hospital admission

If a man's wife is doing well, that one alone will intimidate a man not to be disrespectful

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

You made a valid point my dear

Men has become what our fore fathers couldn't do out of shame

A man that loses his worth, strength and pride shouldn't vent his anger on his woman

Am glad women are sensing dangers and walking out, marriage it is not a prison or correctional home

It's supposed to be a love field where true love guides our activities, actions, words and deeds

Maepanindim:
I have been dating my boyfriend for four years the first year I broke his trust with my past since then I have tried to build his trust I love him so much more than anything I can never hurt him but he still thinks that I cheat on him.This morning we had an issue I told him to apologize because he was wrong he apologized after much talk we were about making out he was touching my pussy he saw whitish discharge I have toilet infection and he is aware I can never cheat on him he's very handsome and he takes care of me he's everything I want he thinks I cheat on him and I am living with him what do I do for four years have been trying to build my trust I don't know what to do anymore please push to front page I'm going through so much emotional pain I want to move on I tried but I couldn't.

You have been living with him that means that you packed to his without formality of marriage

You have been staying with him all these while yet he doesn't trust you

You loved him so much and am sure you can't even risk losing him

You know want, just give him your mumu botton let him be satisfied

J111333:
This is personal so please be courteous with your comments.
I have a married female cousin who takes church serious more than her life, well I don't wanna waste your time with that part of the story.

I have tried to help her husband and her financially for a long time now and I'm afraid I've turned from helper to head of household, not funny. I jokingly told them to hang their boots after they had their fourth child but as I'm typing this, baby five just landed.

Their first son just got admitted into Unilag and guess who they called to help. I've severally decided to stop helping but thoughts of those lovely kids of theirs have always affected my decisions.

I told the newly college admitted boy to open a bank account so that I can channel my help properly but her mum said he wasn't 18 yet so she would be the one running the account until then.

A little background story.
My cousin is a graduate but helps her husband in an imaginary business of his which I have put in like N10m if not more yet nothing to show for it. I later switched to helping my cousin get a job, she ended up getting duped of the money meant to pursue the job Nigerianly.

She was/is my favourite cousin growing up and she was more than a nanny to my sister and I when we were little.

How can I put an end to this madness without feeling guilty about the kids? Mind you, I love their kids very much.

Cc: RoyalRoy
Lalasticlala

You made yourself their life ticket

You that is carrying another person family, what plans do you have for your self or probably you feel you are OK for life

You are just investing in a mud land because you will have nothing for your self

You don't need to tell them to stop having babies when you are their conduit pipe

Get married if you are not and start raising your family

If you are already married, start investing for the rainy day

If by any careless mistake you fall economic wise or business wise

No one will spend fortune to raise you up

I know that if you are married trust women, your wife won't allow you to be doing this

Omoluabi16:
Marriage as we all know is the coming together of two families. But down the line, especially when children start coming, there seem to be this choice by default to love and and dislike one side of the family- Mother's side or Father's side.
The paternal family is most of the times disliked distrusted or actually hated. I once came upon a poll where over 90% of respondents gave a negative view about their fathers side. Some believe the 'Village people' are definitely from that side. One way or the other, we are also a paternal family too.Feeling the same negative vibe. So what could be responsible for this?

Just because of silent competition among fathers extended family

No one wants each other to rise above others

That's what we call pull him down syndrome (PhD)

[quote author=wwwkaycom post=84331843]Bose is an outgoing and sexually active young lady of 26, she got married to her hubby in November, 2018, they are now blessed with a big baby boy.
She was my student and very close to me and my family during her ND and HND days. She is just like a member of my family. I know that she was involved with two guys then, one a student in the same school during her ND and the other, a businessman in town during her HND days. Her affair with the businessman didn't materialise into marriage because the man wanted her to get pregnant first, a proposal she vehemently opposed because its like a taboo in her family and her religious organization. That relationship broke and she met another guy who I didn't really know in 2017. She told me that the guy was easygoing and fun loving too so I didn't really had much advise to give other than the normal talks about being of good behaviour etc.
They got married in November 2018, she relocated to live with her hubby in Abuja, now they're blessed with a very big baby boy.
She visited me with her baby last weekend when she came to attend the funeral of her uncle here in Ondo State. She stayed in my place. It was then we really had time to talk. She told me that her husband believes so much in some archaic things that is affecting her badly. For instance, he doesn't believe in the use of Air Conditioner because it is carcinogenic, he had sex with her last the day he realised she was pregnant in January. She said her hubby believed having sex with a pregnant woman will hurt the baby. She put to bed in August and since then nothing has happened because the hubby said no sex until breast feeding is over so that the breast milk will not be contaminated with semen, I have been laughing since then but its not a laughing matter. She said this guy is so serious with these wrong facts and is not willing to let it go for anything and that she had engaged him in discussions over this many times with the guy sticking to his points. She said the guy is so caring and the way he dots on her and the baby is out of this world. He hired a nanny for her. the nanny followed her to Ondo State for the funeral and stayed with her in my place. Honestly, I haven't heard this kind of thing before. I told her I'll post it on nairaland and she said I should go ahead and that she will be interested in reading people's comments. I actually admonished her not to look the way of any other guy or be involved in extramarital affairs as that could lead to problems she won't be able to handle. She said that is almost impossible in the environment she lives in Abuja and the way her husband dots on the family. Good people, kindly advise please.[/quote]I am see that the major issue here is his stupid belive over sex during pregnancy and breast feeding

For the sake of peace, she should find a gadget and pleasure herself

If he feel offended, she will defend herself

What kind of wahala is this ❓

Mckore:
You see him moniker?

Just saw it now, no wonder it's really empty

EmptyCoconutHead:
olodo!
no go find work learn. dey there dey deceive yourself dey waste money for education wey no be your calling.
nonsense.

Why are you behaving as if you don't value education ❓

If you are discouraged don't discourage others

manisaint:
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The only thing in your mind is fuckry when your mates are pursuing academic excellence

Back2Daura:
Good day all,

Please I need honest advices on my career path. I made a third class in economics and applied for pgd management but got admitted to study marketing after I got the Pgd marketing I moved on to study Msc management which I made 4.0 cgpa.

Now I am about to apply for PhD management. The issue here is that I am confused if I will get a lecturer Job since I made third class and I didn't study a particular course from my bsc to PhD level.

Further more, can I get a scholarship to study for PhD with my degree in any foreign university still admitting? If there is, kindly avail me as the schools I had search have closed admission.
Thanks alot in anticipation to your kind replies.

Congratulations on your academic efforts, its not about third class it's about what the brain is offering

You have the zeal keep it up

user283:
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed our introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future

I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it's on the high side. Assuming she's just averagely stingy I wouldn't really be bothered but this is gross.

I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn't really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, I'm always sensitive to her needs and I tip her whether she's stranded or not since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I've never for once received any gift no matter how little it is? Not even something as little as toothbrush or hair cream

Initially, I didn't see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it's a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he's in dire need
but I've now grown to realize that "give and take" is one of the key elements of a good relationship

Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend acts nonchalant and she'll be the
last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and discuss about it. Yes I've already done that and I made her understand that I actually postponed our introduction for no other reason but because I'm still indecisive if I want to spend the rest of my life with a selfish woman but her response shows she takes pride in being stingy

I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently just to be sure if she's stingy to me alone but the boy confirmed it that her sister is very stingy. I decided to carry out my findings on her brother because I believe he should know her better.

You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship especially a relationship that will lead to the altar

What's getting me worried is that we've come a long way but I don't want to end up with a selfish woman because it's written all over her that she cares so much only about her own well being

Please advice your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I've been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can't jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving. Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I'm a man?

P.S: I'm still with her because she has other good traits

Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry

My concern is if she will help you out in financing the home like helping out in school fees, rent, feeding medical and some family expenses

But from your narratives, you may end up working like a jackal for the family to survive since her own sibling have really confirmed her stingyness

I am not saying that you love her for her earnings but you see men likes women paying bills or showing attributes of care spending during courtship

It gives them the believe that she will be supportive

No man will want a woman to do his job, but the economic situation can develop to that

Well, check very well and see if there are other things you can't cope with

And the worst is that people like tgat don't give anything out but expect you to keep pleasing them with gift and cash

Their stingyness made them to be self centred and careless about others need

Fentanyl:
looooool


somebody asked which is better between fried rice and jollof rice

and somebody else answered burnt beans

indeed

That's a sign that his brain is falling him

What a wicked heart

Now you will go to jail and they have lost their child but will continue their affairs while you rot in jail

Na wa for you ohhh

[quote author=Happyguy201 post=84334317][/quote]Lol

Ithream:
Just about yesterday after speaking with my Class advicer, I was left in a depressed state.

I am currently on my 400level IT and I am to return back to school this coming new year by January. He told me about my result. He said my CGPA is the highest so far. Which makes me his best student. I asked him for the exact CGPA which he replied with with a *4.06*. My God I wondered why he was glad to break such a sad news to me. I thought I had chances of making it a 4.1+ the previous semester. I told him thanks. But I know I wasn't Happy

I did the maths...and I found out that the highest CGPA I can make is 4.2+ after my final year(2 semesters left) I feel terrible right now. How can I shift it to 4.3+ Cgpa? I have heard of students borrowing courses but I don't really know if this could be one of their reasons for doing such.


NB: I am not in anyway trying to make it look like having such a CGPA is bad or I am ungrateful. It's just that I have plans of applying for scholarships to study abroad but won't such a Gp hinder me?

Pls I need someone to placate me with motivational words. I feel like a looser. After all these years of studies! What if I loose the passion for school or studies after returning next year? I feel real bad

What if I might even loose the chance of being the best graduating student of my set like my class adviser had said

Since you think you did not put enough effort to get what you want or you didn't expect what was given

Meet someone offering same course with a gp of 2.9 to advice you

Happyguy201:
If I was your brother is this the advice you will give me

Am still thinking what led you to that, is it scarcity of women or excess availability of women

That's if your story is true

Poorboy:
get lost una don arrive with different monikers same idiot

Just because you chose to remain a poor boy that alone can give you depression

freshbillz15:
Please help my marriage is crashing ,don't mind my English and construction though ,I got married early this year and then my wife brother fiancee escort her to my house ,I stay in Lagos and my wife and relative stay in osun state remote area ,this lady is beautiful but an illiterate though can't read nor write ,she has been seducing me frequently ever since she has escort my wife after wedding ,I inform my wife that am not convineint with her staying with us any longer but she beg that the lady want to work in Lagos for a while I agree ,but this lady keep seducing me
Fast forward ,I have a family gathering in my home town in osun state I sent my wife there due to my tight schedules,I came back home drunk in the night met this lady unclad on bed I have no option than to enter her to my greatest surprise this lady is virgin ,I disvigin her and we continue having sex regularly that the intimacy is getting strong .
My wife eventually get to know this ,she pack out of the house ,this lady insist on getting married to me at know cost even she don't mind being my second wife .my wife insist on getting her out of my house ....
Nairalnad please help

Whatever your dick decides for you is OK, keep fucking that's your life achievement