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BakireBulmaker:
Ehya

But he should be back home in the yeast by now.

Who doesn't like City life

tommyken:
If a man can see the future and consequence of his every action then I believe no man will make a mistake but nature never design it that way.

After my ssce I join my uncle in business and was making enough money and even open account with two different bank but my aspiration was to go to school. after I wrote jamb and pass, my uncle who I was doing the business with began to advice me seriously to forget about school and make enough but I never listen and instead I thought he was just jealous although he is also a graduate but no job made him start the business which later benefit him.

Fast forward to months later I got admission and spent almost all my money for school expenses and rent because my parents were poor and am even the first child of the family so I did all the admission expenses with my saving .then I return to square one with hunger in school just in the name of university education which I later regret.

Am currently in 200 level but the funny thing is that I have lost all passion for school and don't even like going for lectures. The regret is still eating deep in me because with the way I see graduate living in peanut salary I ask myself what stupid enthusiasm even push me to school. please am thinking of dropping out of school now and to use this 100k which my aunty in London sent for me to continue in business and then later learn a skill in IT instead of wasting it to pay for school fee.

Please I will need advice from you all.

Hmmm
You are about making a mistake that you will regret when the time comes

Pls continue with your schooling
God will see you through

It's true that most graduates don't have work, but you can't compare yourself who is a graduate and a non graduate when you get to certain aspects of your life and business

Make call to family and friends to help you out financially, very soon you will be through then continue your business with an additional knowledge of your university degree

You have done well by struggling to get admission which is not easy. Nothing good comes easy, you must pass through some hardtimes in life before you become a successful man

Your Aunty abroad that sent money to you, plead with her to assist you and see you through

Your uncle that lead you to the business, humble your self and beg him to see you through

With prayers God will make the road a smooth walk for you

jinka:
Pls which state do you reside?

I don't support this idea, his state of residence is different from yours so how do you transport it and what is the condition of the keke before buying it.

You can contact any person you think can buy keke for you on hire purchase and you pay daily returns as agreed by both of you

If that is done, use part of your money to get a one room apartment and start leaving there and do your keke business

By the end of one year, you have finished paying for the keke, while doing so don't accommodate any woman in your house because you can't be stranded and keep a woman at home

If you must keep a woman, look for a woman who is working so that both of you can plan well

But it's very painful after school one is relegated to mush room job

If there is constant light, all these won't be happening

kolafolabi:
I am very sure the 16yrs old minor is not a virgin.. Useless girl and man

Whatever
Virgin or no virgin,
She is a minor

Consider that

exco90:
no be all those oshodi useless girls?.. they had better free the man..

So a teenager is a useless girl ?

What does a teenager knows about sex

Instead of you to blame the idiot man you are putting it on the teenage girl

Stop reasoning with your balls

Olamsoh:
The best way to win a woman's heart is to show her love excessively.
Women don't run away from where they are pampered

You are on point my guy

Those men that practise this don't have issues in their marriage

But the uncared one will neglect this and keep having issues with their wife

Let him serve his punishment,
He talks trash and his commitments are full of nonsense words

tgmservice:
Good day all

There is this extremely beautiful girl who is my friend on Facebook.

Not exaggerating but this girl will be among the top ten beautiful girls on Facebook. She always snap sexy pics regularly (guess she might be a slay queen as that is d only thing she does). I always fantasize abt her.

I have tried messaging her privately on fb but she never replies, so i just bone.

Recently she uploaded a pic on her story saying jokingly who will give money for xmas, so i replied the story saying i will giv her.

To my surprise she replied me saying she will be glad if i send her money, thats how we got chatting she even said she is willing to hang out with me for d xmas but she needs some little money first.

Guys in the house should i send her some cash this girl is so beautiful it will be nice for me to see her in person.

You need to see how beautiful she is you will understand my plight, she is complete all over.

Beauty have never been a criteria for a good relationship

So because she needs money and you are willing to send to her then the relationship will hold both of you will hang out this season, that means if you don't have monitor give her then you won't see her

How are you sure she will even see or meet you after sending the money to her

Guy be wise, if you are still a learner, you need to go back and start afresh to leant how to handle love issues

Don't come here and share a story of broken heart

Enjoy it while it last

Sharla87:
My friend says he cheats on his wife because he loves her but is not sexually attracted to her
Is that a common reason

Sex has been the major reason people cheat

If your partner can't give you the desired sex, forget it, you will look for it outside

Especially for those that have high sex drive

DrFlora:
There's this my sister that has two female children

She took in for her third child but refused to go for scan. Few days to her delivery time, she finally accepted to do the scan.

The result of the scan showed that she is carrying a girl. This is where the problem started. She started crying, calling everybody and weeping heavily.

When she first called my other sister, she thought maybe, she has lost the baby.

It was when I listened closely to the crying voice of my sister that I understood what actually happened. I had to call my other sister to tell her the true reason my sister is crying.

Fast forward to few weeks later, my sister became due for delivery but she refused to go to hospital.

The pregnancy water came out of her body but she still stayed at home, the blood which is the last stage before the baby comes out also came out of her body while she was still at home.

It is not until the baby stopped making movement that she had to visit the hospital.

When she got there, the baby was already weak and the doctor said that any further delay could have seen the baby dead in the womb.

My sister wanted to rush home immediately after giving birth. It was the doctor that forced her to stay for an additional day to ascertain the condition of her health and that of the baby.

She went home the next day without telling anybody that she has given birth. Not until the husband came home (he wasn't around the day she delivered).

Three days after, the husband started calling all of us (her siblings) to please call my sister and ask her what the problem is.

You will not believe that my sister is still crying inconsolably.

As I type this, I am feeling hurt and pity for the poor innocent child that came out to this world to meet a mother that spites her simply because she is a girl.

My sister as I type, has refused to pick our calls. I didn't know people will still think and behave this way in 2018.

Please, is it normal for a mother of a newborn baby to be crying profusely, simply because she has given birth to three girls?

Our fear is that she might hurt that baby as she has demonstrated during the late pregnancy stage when she was due to deliver.

Please, any suggestions on how to make her come back to her senses and know that children are from God?

Please, I need your contributions

She is crying because she had only girls

Let her ask a barren woman what her wishes are

Let her ask a mother with deformed child what her wishes are

Let her ask those her aunts who are married before her and are yet to have a child what her wishes are

She is the one troubling herself

Instead of her to be grateful for having those lovely angels

Anyway God will grant her heart desires

ObaKlaz:
Sometimes, I wonder how you all cope in Lagos.

We cope very well,

Just find your class and level
Then live within your income

It's easier to survive in lagos than other states

leks4sure:
Hello Nairalanders, I'm having issues with the names on my documents.
On my birth certificate, My name is written as Kikelomo (Surname), Oladapo Oluwaseun (Not my real name though)
On my WAEC Certificate, I have Kike (Surname), Dapo Oluwaseun as the name written on it.
On my Degree Certificate, I have the same name as it is on my WAEC. Since that's what's on my WAEC and UTME result at the time of admission.
Name on my NYSC discharge certificate is definitely what I have on my Degree Certificate.
Note: I couldn't correct those names as neither my school nor NYSC accepted that.
This problem happened due to the fact that I couldn't set my eyes on my birth certificate since I was born till when I wanted to do my documentation at the University. My parents are not educated, so none of them has ever followed me to school or checked my book throughout my schooling. It really pained me after discovering this fact.
After discovering this, I sworn an affidavit indicating all documents with those names are for 1 person which is me and should be regarded as 1. I also did newspaper publication to authenticate that.
My question is should I use the name on my Birth certificate or continue using the name on my academics documents for my job applications?
Note: I would love to use the name as it's on my Birth certificate as that's my actual given name and in other not to cause confusion in the future. I would like it to re-appear in my Passport, Master's degree, Professional qualifications, employment details and any other place henceforth.
Any implication with this and how to solve it?
Please I need urgent advice and recommendations from you all. Thanks as you do so

Just leave that name the way it is you have already gone far with it

When you marry and have kids, you put there names the way you want it to be and you may choose to give your family including your wife one if your names as their surname

This thing called love can be very naughty

Well from the look of things you both love yourself though you are married

The main problem here is that she is not enjoying her marriage that's why she is looking for a man to make her feel like a woman

You on your own side, you are following her out of pity because she is not getting the love she supposed to in her marriage

If you really mean to stop sleeping with her, relocate from where she is and go to a place she can't locate you

Stop seeing her but you can still communicate on phone but that communication must be avoided with love matters and communicate less

With time if she doesn't see you as she does, she will learn to withdraw too

Don't tell her to her face that you don't want the relationship to exist again, she might go extreme

Take stye and withdraw gradually, in that case you are the one to save your self

Waladade4luv:
I got married three years ago, and I can only say it's only my first year of marriage that I enjoyed privacy, all because I stay in my in-law's town cos of the nature of my wife's job and I do travel here and there but had to make my wife stay pamanent somewhere because of the kids. But after our first year of marriage my wife told me she wants her mum to stay with us so to take care of out new born baby then, I didn't see it as a big deal because she complained she will soon resume duty and she has no car to drop the kid at d creche and pick him up. Since then she has been with us, later her sister use to come and join and also their maid, now she has another child and their is no privacy in my home it's now as if am the one squating in their family house not the other way round, she gives them more attention and whenever I want to complain about anything she picks offence and claim she won't allow me disrespect my family, in fact their are some things in the house that when I ask who pick them she will tell me she has dash them even without my consent. What annoys me most is that yesterday i went to the bathroom and coming out they are sitted in my room gisting and I expected them to excuse me to dress up lo and behold nobody stood up till I finish dressing, I stay in a two room apartment and they already occupied one, whenever any of my friends or family is traveling and want to branch and spend the night it's either I avoid them or they come and sleep sitting room. But I don't know if am being selfish or am not tolerating because I really love privacy, please familylanders advice accordingly no abusive words please

You can't eat your cake and have it

What do you expect when you are staying in your inlaw family house

They see you as gaining from them rather than them gaining from you

If you can afford accommodation else where, go and pay the rent for a new apartment and relocate your family, get a house help or nanny to look after your kids

But if you can't afford it, just keep enduring till you find your feet

If you pick quarrel over those unwanted visitors in your house, she will ask them to go but she will make sure that nobody from your family comes there talk more of leaving with you people.

Besides If she is running your home and contributing even more than you,
My dear forget it, she will take upper hand and decisions

Judging these from two different points, single and married

If you are dating a lady and age depends on you for her maintenance, it's not a must you do it, if its convenient for you, you will do it for fear of not loosing her depending on the weight of love in the relationship

She looks up to you to take care of her because you are equally bedding her

From the point of marriage, the man is the Head of the family, that means he will be providing for the family but a good wife will contribute to support him

But bear in mind, once it happens that way, respect and appreciate the woman and you will see her do more of financial commitments

But if you don't appreciate her contribution, you might not be able to control her.

That's why you see some men are very scared of independent women, but those women that can't afford anything remains a wife slave to their husbands

But with love even the children won't know where the funds are coming from

If you want your wife to bear the cost of running your home be ready to play the fool that the price of not being able to do it yourself

It's a task that comes with somany challenges

As a working class or career woman, you have to put both work and family into consideration

None must suffer for the other

If you have a supportive husband he on his own can choose among the chores what he will be doing to ease tension on the woman

But if you have the type of an African man that will not stoop to assist you, that will be very bad

Before you know it, she starts having mood swing, nothing interests her again
She will now focus more on the children and less on the husband

Even her sex urge will decline.

ubunja:
Not making enough babies. 2019 must see me making atleast 5 babies, with different girls. Got to put those sperms to good use

Na you go tire

He who brought a fire wood infested ants must surely have lizards as visitor

ubunja:
Not making enough babies. 2019 must see me making atleast 5 babies, with different girls. Got to put those sperms to good use

Na you go tire

He who brought a fire wood infested ants must surely have lizards as visitor

So the only thing that is worrying her and her life is her boy friend dick

Hmmm person never marry you, you don dey cage him dick

So if he marries you then you pocket his dick

This one never know anything, a guy that might leave you for another lady anytime soon

Justchill01:

Good for dem
Dey can never stay one place
Always want to catch fun
RIP is all i can say

Have you ever sat down and ask yourself when and how are you going to die

Death can meet any one any where

Very lazy baboons,
All they know is to join cultism and keep terrorising people around

That state shouldn't have been created in the first place, when you go there you will see how underdeveloped that state is

The only good thing there is there road network, very smooth road

Then their ladies are not helping matters, they keep having kids why still leaving with their parents as that is an achievement

GuyWise101:
Hungry guys that have refused to work and make legit cash...


Kudos to the NPF....

Very lazy baboons,
All they know is to join cultism and keep terrorising people around

That state shouldn't have been created in the first place, when you go there you will see how underdeveloped that state is

The only good thing there is there road network, very smooth road

Then their ladies are not helping matters, they keep having kids why still leaving with their parents as that is an achievement

Carrywent:
Hello dear Nairalanders, please I need your help.
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I created this monica account just to hear your advices.
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There is this Guy I am dating, he is a disabled but not that serious. He uses wheelchair but hardworking. We both studied in the same secondary School. We were Besties, we latter turned lovers. He is an idealist, he is also independent. Before you ask his occupation. He was an author and letter turned musical producer. Like i said he is independent. He relocated to Lagos after he finished studying music production and established his own studio in Lagos.
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I love him so much. He also promised to marry me and which I have also agreed to. But we are waiting after my graduation then we keep off the marriage. The problem here is my parents those not agree in our relationship. And they are seriously fighting it. Please I need your advice

Your case is sensitive

First of all, love is what conquer everything we do in relationship, I believe you so much love and cherish this guy and you find happiness in him.

How deep is the love this guy have for you?

Tell him what your parents feel about you getting married to him, there is nothing to hide at this stage, seek his opinion on what he thinks both of you should do about it

If he feels bad and suggest you meet a family friend that can talk sense to your parents then both of you are on the same lane

But if he feels less concerned about your report, just keep watching him and if he takes no action then its time to pull out

Secondly, don't marry on sentiment and don't marry out of pity

Thirdly, have you considered what the future holds for both of you
Are you capable of running the home since his disability has limited him, without messing around to meet up

You are the one that have the best opinion for yourself not even your parents

But make sure you guys plan well so that in the future you don't run to your parents or siblings for financial assistance

To forgive and forget are two different things

You can find it abit easy to forgive but not to forget

In my own way, it depends on who offend me

I will forgive you if you have remorse for the wrong you did to me

But might not forget it, the reason is that I will be more careful with you knowing that you might do worst than you did earlier

So that will be a guide to me incase you act funny again, then I won't be suprise

When you forget, you loose yourself to the person and continue whatever you have with the person, if he hurts you again, that one might be more painful than the previous

ChiefAzubuike:
From her savings, you can only see #500 and #1000 notes. That's the denomination of money ashawo dey always collect for short-time in a brothel depending on your bargaining power.

Ashawo work is really lucrative.

Based on the experience you got from your sisters

Besides you are patronising them so you too are one of them

It takes two people of opposite gender to perform the ashawo job

1miccza:
Will you blame them?? There's so much hunger in the land...

This have nothing to do with hunger

This act is an act to adoption
They want to adopt the baby out but would have done it legitimately

What a loss

How can someone excape death from Nysc service and met death inside the house

All these hoodlums will never experience peace until they join those they kill in the cause of Stealing

There are so many reasons why people are buried the way that it looks like carnival

For example, When you see a core igbo man buried outside his village, then there are issues to be settled within the families in the village

Secondly when someone dies, the family gather to plan for the burial, that is when they will know that the licking roof needs to be replaced, the cracked walls need to be fixed, the floor needs to be tilled, the curtains needs to be replaced then finally the walls need to be painted

All these comes up because they have been to their friends family and see how burial celbation are done and inviting them to their own family means putting all those things in place if not those coming for the burial will go home with shame considering the kind of expensive life he is living in the city

Then in igbo culture or tradition, if you don't bury your late father at home, your mates will one day laugh at you that your kins men can't locate where your father was buried and that alone will definitely make you a lesser man.


It's during burial that your family worth are measured, if they perceived your family to be reach they want to see a colourful ceremony on that day

If your family is poor they already know that they will be the one to contribute for the coffin and drinks, but bear in mind for that single help from the kins men,
you must not talk any how to your fellow because if you misbehave,
They will remind you how they contributed to Bury your father.

Lastly, there is a procedure that, if you don't Bury a loved one properly and another person dies, you can't Bury the current one until the family conclude the old burial.

Though everyone tries to contribute while the person is sick it depends on God to preserve the person and keep him alive or call the person to his glory

LordFriar:
Hello everyone. I made some wrong choices way back. Naive me was led into believing that the CaroWhite lotion was a non-skin bleacher; the seller assured me what I had to fear was CaroTone. But now, some 2 weeks after, my hands are lighter than my knuckles which are resilient chocolate browns.

So, someone please, what do I do to revive my dark complexion? I have tried suntanning - or more appropriately, sundarkening - & I've noticed no improvements. Is there some cosmetic solution you know of? Or non-cosmetic others?

Well I suggest you stop all cosmetic soap and cream

Go and start using bathing soap like dove soap or palm olive soap with time your whole body will come to its former complexion

chriskosherbal:
No one can fully understand the mathematics of marriage.

Exactly

It's a school that you are given a certificate before graduation

Each day has its own topic different from the previous topic

Each topic has its own formula

But with prayers and patience, you will graduate