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Dearlove2me:
Legal practitioners in the house?
Experienced people in the house,
Pls, help out with this informations.
What rightful, peaceful way can one divorce a partner without violence?
For a marriage of three years, how can one go about with divorce?
What are the procedures and duration?
How can one do it without turning to an enemy, but just move on In a separate direction?
Thank you

I think you can start with separation

Use that time frame to evaluate the marriage and see if it can be corrected from whatever that is leading to separation

There is no way one party will not be offended

But you guys can go for counseling if you care for another last chance

RTID:
There's this young girl who wrote the just concluded JAMB exam.

Hopefully she gains admission when ASUU and federal government are done playing chess.

There's something interesting about her family.

Her great grandmother got pregnant out of wedlock and gave birth to her grandmother.

Her grandmother also got pregnant out of wedlock and gave birth to her mother.

They said her grandmother imposed all the discipline she could to make sure her mother doesn't get pregnant out of wedlock but somehow somehow it still happened.

On the premise of this, her mother has sworn to guide her daughter and see that they break that chain of getting pregnant out of wedlock. Because the thing is now looking like generational curse, as Nigerian pastors would say.

So the mother sits her daughter down recently and explained everything to her.

While she was talking, tears began to roll down her daughter's cheeks.

Her mom smiled in her heart, for she thought that the tears is a symbol of, "I won't let you down."

But no...

Her daughter is already 3 weeks pregnant out of wedlock.😟

It runs through but their own was so linked from point one to four

Eddie360:
I study accounting in uni and pass out of nysc last yr oct i'm a professional barber but ryt nw am confused whc part to take cos ma barbing job is taking too much of ma time though i make money but on d other hand i wnt to learn more abt accounting package(ie excel, sage 50 etc) but if i wnt to get dis skills i will have to live ma barbing job and focus on dis part through i av som savings dat can sustained me fr awhile.
Abeg pardon ma error

You can make the barbing a part time so that you can open your shop when you are free or every evening when you are back

victooman:
l am the first child of my family ,due to some family issues, the age gap between me and my siblings is quiet far, l am 10 yrs older than my immediate brother, and 19 yrs older than our last born,
The major issue now is that since l was born,the major challenge in our family is finance, l have to battle my way through University, after my service in 2021 ,no job,l started a small business that is helping me with minor upkeep,,, now financial challenges keep creeping up here and there, l have to carter for my father mother and siblings, is like everyday the challenges for money keep spranging up,,
l have a wonderful girlfriend l intended getting married to, but with this family challenges l dont even know when l will settle down, seriously my head is full,, first born in this forum how do yo handle this challenges ?

Its not peculiar to you alone it's the normal things first born go through especially if their parents are struggling to survive

Am glad you have a supportive girlfriend which you plan to settle down with

Just love and appreciate her and both of you will succeed through her support

Just thank God your mum gave birth to few of you

Omobithousand:
My hubby cheated and has been begging me to forgive him but i can't find it in my mind to cos the messages and everything i saw really messed me up... never knew i could feel this way
Please I'll welcome Ur advice and bashing and if you also have a
Marriage counselor please share his or her number with me.. thanks.

At this stage what is important to you is your happiness

The more you get angry the worst it will affect your mind and body

So forgive him and move on because he may likely repeat similar thing in no distance time

If you do to forgive him to you will get hurt the more and he will not feel the pains of you being hurt

Davies25:
Thanks.
I'm open to more advise please.

If he refused, talk to him to establish some trade or investment in you and watch the business grow and you return his money

If your parents need to establish a business advice him to sponsor them

Keep talking with him and one day he will reason with you

Kinqmaker:
Each time I see My friends or people around me been HELPED by their ELDER SIBLINGS or RICH well to do family members in one way or the other while i am the ONLY ONE supportinq myself as a RESULT of not havinq any ELDER SIBLINGS to run to in time of NEED qives me REAL and GREAT DEPRESSION 😞😞….. i feel like qivinq UP but i have no choice than to KEEP pressinq on😢…. At times i share HOT tears in my INNER room when i flash and recall that I don’t have anyone to run to😢…..i just have no OPTION that to keep movinq slowly….By God Grace i have TRIED for myself and ACHIEVE something meaningful for myself BUT how are wish i have support SYSTEM i know I would have GONE far than where i am today…… am seriously in PAINS😢😢😫😫

Be grateful to God for the little you have achieved and more to be achieved

Those people who have seniors or family members to be looked, their dependants were in your shoes sometimes

Just be focused and with prayers you will excell

SPF247:
Time to float my company and beat magik company hands down, who knows the formula? Let's partner

To me Magik has the best powdered soap which foams very well and has good fragrance

Eazzii:
Okay. I've this burden on my chest for over a year now and they say a problem shared is a problem half solved (or multiplied)

So, I've this friend who lives with a woman and her little son. He and the lady are of the same age group. The husband, who is in the US is fully aware of this situation. Note: they stay in the same room and even sleep on the same bed. Also this guy's family house is just a stone's throw from the lady's house but he hardly ever visits there and hasn't passed a night there in over 4 years. If you're new to the area, you'll be forgiven if you address them as man and wife.


My main purpose of creating this thread is not to pass judgement on anybody but to seek your opinions. As a married man, will you be comfortable with your unmarried friend staying with your wife while you're overseas. As an unmarried guy, will you be comfortable living with your friend's wife.

Lao, masculinists and feminists, kindly keep off.



PS: They are both active members of their church.

Her husband is already living with another woman over there so he may careless about it

Am sure her marriage with her so called husband is getting to an end for the man to know that his friend lives in his bedroom in his absence

The husband is just waiting for a time bomb

I don't care if both of them are sleeping, it's not my interest

You can't keep goat and yam inside a room

rajunor:
Good morning parents in the house, like the topic said, i need help on how to stop my 2 years old boy from sucking his thumb. I have done all i can to no avail. I have used bitter leaf, plaster and even resorted to beating the child, nothing seem to be working.
Please, if you have been through this phase in parenting before, how did you stop your child thumb sucking?

Ps; pardon my typos.

Dont worry much
Once he starts schooling that's the first report you will make to his class teacher so that he doesn't influence others

phidipe:
I have not seen my child going to months now, all efforts made proved abortive, I don't want to be a deadbeat dad, my aunt intervene to no avail, mother in law was just cursing. I made some mistakes going to a year now I have apologize church has apologize on my behave still no respites
I hold myself responsible for the wrong doing, I did not commit adultery nor beat or cheat. But I lied on certain issues which later blown Open and this is amendable. Please good people here should I go to court please.
Reading that Ghanian guy looking for his dad today breaks my heart I don't want the same to happen to me please should I go ahead and sue them

Give them time unless you have the money to spend to a lawyer

Ehinjuola:
To make matter worst..

When I got there this morning, I hardly sit for 5 mins when her ex entered we just greeted n he left promised to come back later..
I was just laughing since, I don't know if I should stay or leave

Though I know him visiting is kinda normal but something is weird n off to me, I haven't figure what its tho.

The main issue here is that she is into another relationship

For the fact that she refuse to keep that pregnancy is enough prove that it's not your pregnancy that will hold her into marriage

JohnSamuel35:
I will type what happened later

Ok

Ehinjuola:
You're a seer...
I she has done that..
She called recently to inform me about getting miscarriage.
So sad!

Ehinjuola:
You're a seer...
I she has done that..
She called recently to inform me about getting miscarriage.
So sad!

Dont mind her she knows what she is doing

Its now left for you to keep hoping you guys will go on or not

Ehinjuola:
My name is Dimeji( not real name tho), I'm in my final lap in one of the prestigious uni in Nigeria, it happens my fiancee and I have been dating for long now, recently she discovered that she missed her period (though I'm not happy with it and at the same time I don't want ab*rtion) and couple the fact that I really love this lady and I want future with her.
I want to quickly do her introduction before the bump is visible n I have taken a bold step by taken my parents to hers for unofficial intro before the real intro which has been set for next two months.
But recently I do observe that she do post on her status about praying not to choose wrongly in term of relationship, (she has once asked me whether I don't feel we are rushing things in one of our conversation one time like that) plus the fact that whenever I called her recently the vibe is not there any longer, this is the person we are both serious with the relationship oo Infact she's the one that's pushing thing initially.

My question now is that, Is it anxiousness or marriage phobia or early pregnancy symptoms or she's just confuse or the feeling of not been ready that's worrying her? (She will be 26 next month)

The truth is that she has not really prepared her mind whether to settle down or not

And may remove the pregnancy once she is very sure that you are not the one she wants

I think you can just be watching her

Dogalmighty17:
My inlaws have been intruding into my marraige and i want to teach them a lesson. My wife is terrified of her brothers and she cant tell them to back off.
I will not tolerate that kind off rubbish. Since they want to be mad, I'll show them better madness. They might say they'll return the bride price i paid to me. I need to be prepared for that eventuality.

As a sidenote, i and my wife are fine outside the normal husband and wife squabbles. Her family just keeps poke nosing. And I'm sick of it.

Since she can't talk to them, you will now be the one to let them know how you feel about their intruding
But in a polite manner

JohnSamuel35:
Good day Lawyer, ( Frozen70 )

I dey call yo lawyer up and down your threads for years, but it seems today, my life may be in your hands to save o

Please can it be possible that i get you recharge care and you hide your number and give me a call.

My safety and life is at risk. This emanantes from doing good to people but is turning to an ugly situation.

Can you spare some of your time to direct me on the right steps to take about a problem

My brain can't even boot well to post about the problem here for now

Hello, what's actually the problem

Its not really safe posting personal contacts here

But you Can send an email to me

So tell me why you do call me lawyer when you know am not

Warl0ck:
I really enjoy dating ladies with big ass and moderate boobs.

But i dont want to give birth to endowed daughters.

I want my daughters to be as straight as measuring tape or Ruler.
I dont want them to have figure 8 like their mother.

I dont want them to have big ass or boobs.

Incase i marry an endowed lady, must my daughters be endowed?

Pls help.

You case is the same thing like you don't eat yam but you love pounded yam for swallow as your preferred meal

Go ahead with your choice let nature go ahead and do it's work

RTID:
Let's talk easy but difficult meals...

Pap and custard are one of the many meals that look easy to make but actually very difficult to prepare for most people including myself.

As much as we'll want to deny it, everyone of us has messed this up before.

Trust me, you'll need to have the special skill or else you'll end up making nonsense which you'll still have to eat anyways😅

I can remember I had to reboil it after making it, just so it could be less watery enough for me to eat but then it ended up having lumps like the one in Slide 3 🤦

So yeah, the pap and custard has to be mixed with the right proportion of water and if you miss this, just say goodbye to your breakfast.

Now the question goes, How good are you in making pap and custard? Do you have that special skill?
Pick your slide 😅

Feel free to mention other easy but difficult meals too.

Another one is Semolina
If you don't know how to prepare it, it will come out with lumps

podium:
Good morning all,

I will make this short and brief. I have work in a school for 10years now. I started working there with a salary of 8k up till 20k. I now have a wife with 2kids. The salary was not taking care of us again. And I was left in taking loan. But in any academic session ie 1st, 2nd, 3rd term, apart from my salary I do see up to 100k or more base on tips and other deals.

I resigned February and I got a new job of 45k. Now my former job is calling me to come back, that I will be given 30k.. maybe when more pupils come my salary will be increase..

Former job
* I go by 7.30 and close by 3.30 and have time with my family
* Trekable from my house, I don't pay t.p.
* I enjoyed public holidays and mid term break
* I don't go on Saturday, still have time with my family
* Tips and pension available

New job
* I go by 7:30 and close by lastest 7:30 or 8 no time for my family
* I pay 400 to and fro
* I work on Saturdays no time for my family
* No tips anywhere.. just your salary and you will be subcharge for any wrong posting.

I have 1 week to decide... Please help coz I am confused.

Go for your former job is they know you amd you already know them

You still have chance to increase your salary as Time goes on and as things improve

DearGorgeous:
Tragedy in Ondo as 75-year-old woman sets her son, daughter-law and two grandchildren ablaze

A 75-year-old woman, Iforiti Oloro, has allegedly set her son, daughter-law, and grandchildren abl@ze in Ondo State.

According to reports, the tragic incident occurred at Aponmu, a suburb of Akure, Ondo’s capital city, at the weekend.

It was gathered that the septuagenarian living in the same compound with her son, Victor Oloro, woke up in the middle of the night and allegedly set the house on f!re while the family was asleep.

A resident in the community, Bayo Adegboyega, who confirmed the incident, explained that the residents noticed the family’s house was on fire on Saturday, March 18, 2023.

“We noticed that the building was on fire around 2:00 a.m., and all the family members were at home. I had to join neighbours close to the building in putting off the fire by breaking the windows to gain entry,” he narrated.

"Sadly, by the time we entered, the man (Victor Oloro), his wife (Racheal), and two children ( Toluwani and Blessing) had been affected by the fire.”

He also mentioned that the burnt family members were taken to a state hospital in Akure but were rejected due to the degrees of burns suffered from the fire incident.


"So, we rushed them to the Federal Medical Centre in Owo, but unfortunately, we lost the last born on arrival while on Sunday night, the man and his wife died. Only the firstborn is alive but in a critical condition,” Mr Adegboyega added.

While describing the incident as “bizarre and shocking,” Mr Adegboyega said the residents later learned that the grandmother allegedly set the building on fire.

"It was yesterday (Monday) that we got to know that the old woman got some dry palm fronds and the little petrol her son kept in a gallon, spread it around the house, and set the house on fire. While confessing, the woman said she set the house on fire because her son and his wife were allegedly starving her of food.”


https://www.facebook.com/176502461635/posts/pfbid0yZaFWLM3ViYJ3M7AgEaJyRuM2bX8eMiD77vjGNQa9teMhodNhoJ6qf9w45tcFMddl/?mibextid=Nif5oz

This woman may have been acting strangely because I am still confused on why she would burn down her son's family because they are starving her

Is it that they cook and don't give her yet they eat out of it

Or they have a cold war that lead to this barbaric act

Would burning them extend her life span or make her happy

That's a horrible revenge mission

OmoGomesIlorin:
I meet this lady in December 2019 and by 2020 we had the opportunity to connect with each other on a friendship level. From my interactions with her and observations, she is cool-headed and calm, intelligent and ambitious. Her skills match someone I dream of marrying. She is from Anambra, state - Umuoji

However, as a low-budget guy, I am weighing my options due to stereotype of demanding for a gargantuan bride price.

I want to know if what people are saying online is true or exaggerated


Editted

You dont need to be scared about the bride price as you can discuss it first with her family on your first visit

Her father or family should be able ro list out what you are expected to bring

If it's within your power best it down to your capacity and ask him to explain all that is expected of you

Then if it's what you can carry good and fine you go ahead and start planning

If uts what you can't handle, just let them know at that point that it's beyond your plan

Even if they say don't worry do the one you can and later you complete it, just let them know that you don't like things of such being done half way, am sure that will move them to reduce it

Alternatively if you can't, just let them know that you are not capable

But don't accept what you can't complete

Am very sure they will adjust it for the sake of their daughter

Prettyballer:
Guys i dont even know how to even start saying this

I got married to the love of my life and you know before our marriage we already agreed on a no sex before marriage. My husband is a devoted muslim and he understood my plight very well although we had romance section once a while but no penetration

Fast foward to when we got married hmmm the night of our wedding day i notice my husband doesnt get tired easily and he had me in a very much intense way , dont blame me for complaining i am not the sex type but then i had to endure although i enjoyed it too but he was too strong and intense

😞Guys hmmm i didnt know my ordain yet my husband like sex too much and it is already affecting me too. he sex me in such a way that i feel like a prostitute and feel so dirty inside. Now all i think of is my husband sexing me i already got too use to him that if we dont ask sex for one day i wont get myself, i know must of you will be like then why am i complaining

The other day i couldnt hold it to the extent that i had to go and visit him in the office he works at Alahusa and he is a director so he has his own space i didn't know what came over me i started seducing him till he mounted me again and did it so good that i feel ashamed of myself for going to meet him at work

Now i cant focus on anything else in my life when he is at home there is nothing more going through my head and when he is not home i cant hold it any longer. And i blame him so much for turning me to something like this sometimes i think of my self as a sex object alone i just want him inside me everytime

Guys help me out do i need a psychology or what this guy doesnt know the beast he has created inside me i am scared of if he is not at home to satisfy me will i be able to control myself

Help me out guys!!!!😓😓

Honestly there is nothing wrong with you

Enjoy it while it last

Discuss the issue with him and am sure he will have a way out for you

But keep enjoying the fun

Promzy99:
I was only trying to be nice... Its already a tradition for us to say thanks to visitors... Don't blame me.

Ok. Naw

Nice2023:
My wife's friends who earns more than the husband till date has not had peace of mind. Despite the fact that the lady is humble.

Her husband is already intimidated,troubled and even want her to stop work for no obvious reason.

In fact,most men need to adjust seriously.

Na the man go tire

The lady is moving higher because the man wants to remain where he is

If not for pride and ego, why is the husband behaving like devil's advocate

God1000:
She can't be pregnant within two weeks

She can if its the 14th days after the sex
Which means her period didn't come out

That will be final confirm if after one week she did not see her period

But let her run a text with text kit

Warl0ck:
Pls help;
There is this particular girl that i love but i am sure i wont marry her.

I only like her for dating but not for marriage.

In the other hand, i dont want her to date or marry another nigga.

What do i do now?

I dont want to marry her and dont want another guy to marry her.

Dey play
She may be smarter than you think

Promzy99:
Hello Guys! Been with dis beautiful girl for weeks now. Met her on Facebook, fortunately enough. She lives not far away from me. It would cost just #100 transport fare for her to come over my place.

She's also a single mum. I like that fact that she opened up to me about her relationship statues... And we both agreed that there won't be anything serious cos her baby daddy often come around d family, since he's well known by her family members. In fact they are still in talks on how to settle dia marital differences. And that's very okey with me cos am not ready to be committed either.

Now, anytime she comes around, we often have sex. And whenever she wants to leave I make some little transfer to her for transportation and personal upkeep.

But then, I will sound it to her that d money I am giving to her is not because of d sex we have ooo, that its just a tip..

Now dis election weekend, I gave her money to buy bulk food stuffs for me since she lives close to d market.

It happened that she couldn't bring d stuffs earlier, she came by 10pm for some reasons best known to her. She had no option than to sleep over!

Although her stay, I gave her good comfort and hospitality. Enough food and entertainment. But I didn't touch her all through d nite. In fact, we had no intimacy until she decided its time to go on Sunday.

While I was walking her to d main roads to take a bike, her mood was not friendly. In fact she refused walking side by side with me.

She didn't even wave good bye after jumping on d bike. Then I noticed it. Oh Yes! I was very intentional about it.

I didn't give give her any Money! And uptill now, she has not called as usual. She has not chatted me as usual...

Now am thinking of just blocking her. But I don't know if its d right thing to do now cos I hate the fact that she's been visiting me for d money...


Pls ur advise is needed... Should I ghost her

I think you don't need to block her because you too don't even understand what is happening

You are the one giving her money anytime she visits,
So it now give her the impression that you don't give her money untill she comes and go

Its a tradition you set in

Stop giving her money when she comes, yet sleep with her and give her money another time, which is ordinary time without sex

If she stops coming to sleep over because she is not getting the money from you, then you can decide

Nice2023:
U are dating women from a very questionable environment.

I can't even date woman who can not compete with me.

I like women who can compete with me anytime anyway.

It does not mean she is disrespecting me but that is the way it should be.

But if u don't have a business and not educated too...that is the worst for me.

Your understanding is good base on your statement

Not all men fall into this category

As a mate of fact,
What others are daring is what you are tackling

Samajogs:
Fear women... Period!

What about men 🙁🙁🙁

Karlifate:
Especially this @ bolded.

One partner will do things, and just assume the other partner is comfortable with it.

Regardless of the years you've known each other, comprehensive communication matters, even in things that seem so little.

You are right

ebexofficial:
It is wrong if she does it without the consent of her husband:
1. Her husband who is the Head and relatively responsible for taking care of the family and if the man cannot, the woman should stand in and if none of them can, that can seek help outside with both agreeing.

2. A man gives a woman money sometimes with aim of getting into her pants

3. If the secreat is kept from her husband, other things may happen in the relationship and still be kept secreat

4. Men are egoistic and will feel bad if he finds out another man has been helping his family without his knowledge (the shame may make the man act irrationally)

Not all women are promiscuous