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phidipe:
As i m typing this i m crying bitterly because there is nobody to help, even during the wedding nobody offers any assistance the major issue there is what i have said up here, i have told them i m so sorry but they insisted that they don't want to see me, i told them if they want to take their daughter is okay but they should let me see my daughter, please house i need your help please

Is your family aware of this trauma or you are keeping it away from them

You don't have to give yourself more tension than the one on ground

Just be calm, you have a daughter and they already know

Just move on if you can, time will sort all these tension out

Bumber3:
Person go want die nobody to help💔🤦🏾

Whats exactly you problem

SimpleGuy001:
I don't like bariga, heard it's not so good. Sono intention of going there but i fancy yaba only that it's difficult getting a mini flat for 600k total package, same with akoka.

I think i will look at shomolu, in terms of security, water and light as those are of priority to me.

The difference between shomolu and Bariga is just a canal

But chose where suits your pocket

SimpleGuy001:
ahhh, canceled. I don't like anything cultist abeg, i value peace of mind

Try places like Yaba, Akoka, shomolu and Bariga

They are close to third mainland Bridge

phidipe:
Sir, she is in Lagos I'm in Akure Ondo State I did not know when she put to bed neither when the baby was christen I just saw the picture posted on the Facebook tagged my grand-daughter. That was when I knew she has delivered of a baby girl, they kept everything away from me. Is not that I don't have what it takes to take care of her all the expenses but they decided to acted that way please I need your help for the past four months now I don't know the fate of the baby. Both mother and daughters including my wife changed their numbers blocked me on all social media everyone I sent to help me out will later turned against me. I have made several effort to apologize but they turn a blind eyes on me please Lawyer in the house I need your help

Honestly you must have done something wrong to warrant this nonsense

Since they blocked you from calling them and changing their lines, what about their place of residence, is there a Dog there preventing you from going there see things

You are yet to tell us what happened from toasting her, getting married and antenatal to delivery

Assuming you don't have any blame, what about your family, are they aware of this nonsense

Younghacka:
I Never Knew I Am Prided. . . Funny Enough I Dont Have Any Qualms Adressing Others I Dont Know As Sir, Even My Juniors.

People with pride denys having pride because they believe they are always right
But from your report, I picked that out

I may be wrong anyway

Samantha124:
That's my fear, I'm afraid that one day he may end up killing his own father or even taking his own life.

He has admitted to me before about struggling with depression, I suggested he see a psychologist, but he's just not comfortable with the whole thing.

I really do want to buy him the charger, but I keep thinking of how his father complained the last time I bought him something, the man told me that I was spoiling his son and that I was part of the reason why he looked down on him.

Because his father failed him, any one that wants to assist his child is a treath to him

Help him if you can and advise him to keep it secret

Samantha124:
And as for my sister, she can be very selfish.

Even their last born has at one point confided in me of how their mother is always buying herself expensive clothes, but would claim to not have any money whenever they ask something from her.

Don't worry about her
She will get her reward in old age

Zenzu01:
Thanks for your response. I don't think the fridge has an issue as it worked when used with a stabilizer. However, I'll use a stabilizer to check how long it takes to block a bag of pure water as you suggested.

That's a good one

Samantha124:
This may be long, so my apologies.

My eldest nephew is only six years younger than I am, my sister had him when she was still in high school and I was in primary school at the time. Fortunately, the father later married her and they're still together up until this day. The problem is that my brother in law and his son, my nephew have never had that father and son relationship. During the boy's early teens, my brother in law would constantly beat him up so bad that my nephew would sustain some bruises.

It wasn't until 2021 that my nephew started fighting back, that year they nearly killed each other because my nephew had started to overpower him. The nephew is not the most nicest boy, but because him and I were raised more like siblings rather than an aunt and nephew, I've learned to always forgive and forget all the hurtful things that he'd usually say to me because going back and forth with him is pointless.

My brother in law would always try to compare him with me because I was doing great at school, he pressured my nephew to study law when he completed high school just because I was also studying law. My nephew once did told me of how he wanted to study economics, but he decided to do law just to make his father proud. Unfortunately he failed last year and decided that he didn't want to continue with law anymore, this infuriated my brother in law and he has decided to not want to have anything to do with him anymore.

Now there's this online software program that my nephew has been doing since the beginning of January, but unfortunately, his laptop charger got damaged and he needed a new one, I was able to borrow him mine only for a particular period of time and I tried talking to his parents about him wanting a new charger, but it's like the both of them don't care... My brother in law even made it clear that he wants to punish him for 5 years by not giving him any financial assistance, he wants him to feel the pain of seeing his mates working while he wouldn't have achieved anything... My sister claimed that she doesn't have any money when she had just bought some expensive designer clothes and the charger is just R299.

Both of them are working and my fear is that my nephew may eventually turn to bad friends for comfort and the bad friends may end up introducing him to things like alcohol, or even worse, drugs. I'm afraid that he may end up feeling neglected and turning into a criminal... He may sometimes be stubborn and have a big mouth, but he's not a bad boy.

Ever since I took the charger back, my nephew has been moody towards me and I kinda feel guilty, it's like I'm the only one who cares about his feelings. I don't know what to do.

If you can sacrifice that charger for him, pls do
You are his only hope as both parents are frustrating him at the same time

But your sister is not helping matters because she is supposed to be the one bringing that guy closer anytime his dad does otherwise

A time will come, that guy will terrorise that family

Zenzu01:
Thank you. I'll have to buy a stabilizer first because I don't have any. I just wanted to be sure if buying a stabilizer will sort the problem.

The truth is that probably the fridge has an issue and may not be as quality as it looks beautiful

No electrician uses 1mm for wall socket

If not fit the distance, I will suggest you take it to them let them on it there for 3 consecutive days running let's see if it will block a bag pure water

Lastly get an electrician to check your plugs and it's wiring of the house

But it's too early for such fridge to have issues

fortyishcouga:
Men, what do you mean exactly when you say respect is what you need from your spouses. Seems to me like men and women have different understanding of this word.

Loyalty and recognition that's what they mean by respect, they value it more

Though am not speaking for the men

all4zionlover:
Each time I talk to him about getting a job or his next plan, he always tell me. He have a plan. But I know he don't

Well such a situation is not really enough for a divorce

His case may be that of a lazy man who wants the good things of life yet doesn't want to struggle

He lost his earning to gambling not even investing into his family

I think separation is the way out

Alternatively, just ignore him and make sure you take care of your children, especially on feeding and education

So far he is not a beating you or abusing you in any way

When he can't get any freebies from you, he will dust his shoes

Kingdollar28:
How do you know he doesn't have a plan?

He had money before bah?

But lost to gambling?

Sis, your husband is battling frustration/depression

Help him find his ways back

If you divorce him, na u loose

Mama I no fit lie you

I'm married and experienced

Tell me one good reason why she will loose if she divorce him

Younghacka:
I Have Known Him For About 3 Years Now From The Fellowship I Attend, & All These Time I Have Been Addressing Him As Bro Chris (Not His Real Name), We Are Somehow Close.
Now The Issue Is That I Started Learning A Skill Under Him As An Apprentice. He Has Other Boys Also Learning Under Him And They All Adress Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga', But I Am Finding It Difficult Calling Him Sir.
Each Time He Calls Me I Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother', He Has Told Me About Three Times Now That I Am Supposed To Address Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga' When We Are At Work But I Still Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother' Spontaneously Each Time We Are At Work; I Repeated The Same Today & He Was Very Upset With Me & Said People Are Asking Him Why His Boy Is Answering Him 'Yes'.
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I Really Want To Change But I'm Finding It Quite Difficult & It Feels A Bit Akward For Me.
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Plz Has Anyone Here Been In My Shoes? How Did U Adjust? Ur Advice Will Be Highly Appreciated.
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P.S: He Is Almost 20 Years Older Than Me, I Have Been Working With Him For 6 Months Now.

I think the pride in you is the problem behind that

Cut your pride and address him properly, for the fact that he is your boss

That's enough respect for him

Rolexxxy:
I had misunderstanding with my mother couple of months ago and she sent me packing. The problem was that I am too old to live with her under the same roof. She taunts and say all manner of things that my age mates are married but I am still at home. I am 23 and a manager in a super market. My boss pays me well. With that I was able to rent my own house. I am career-focused so I don't want what will jeopardize my chances.

Last month she called and demanded to see me. After I arrived she said her house is collapsing and that she wants to move into my apartment but I rejected that idea. Instead I suggest to repair the damaged parts but she refused so we left it that way. As from last week to this week I hadn't breathe in peace as she's always on the phone disturbing me to come and take her in.

Seriously my mother is a troublesome woman, she won't give me peace of mind. I can't live with her I am tired of her emotional torment.

Please my fellow nairalanders help with a word of wisdom on how to handle this matter. I am confused and have no idea what to do.

This is the kind of issues that makes me tired

Let me not say what is in my mind

EBMedia:
If 'Ashawo' Can Tackle 10 Men Daily, Then You Have No Excuse Not To Satisfy Your Husband - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian man, Aderoju Dave Adewuyi, has said that women who are not in the mood to have sex with their husbands should leave the marriage so their house girls can take over, IGBERETV reports.

Adewuyi stated this in his comment on a Facebook group post on Wednesday.

He said if a sex worker "can tackle 10 men in a day' then there is no reason a woman should not always be in a mood to have sex with her husband.

The creator of the post wrote;



Adewuyi replied;



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Sex for pleasure is different from sex for money, that is purely business

Danyel1z:
its been high with me and 36 years of age no be beans.

Danyel1z:
she gets wet on the road when she misses me, bro, she gets wet for me on bed, just something most ladies encounter at certain age being low estrogen. We've both talked about it. Just in search of experienced assistance or advice

Ma'am pls

Then it could be mood swing
We all go through that

Danyel1z:
I love her so much to the point getting married to her and some weeks ago, she made me know her estrogen is very low and not happy about it despite we still make love. She's 36 years old. Any advice or drugs to take or food

I think most women that fell into that category are yet to get a man they love deeply or a man that understands how to handle her

When a woman loves you from the depth of her heart, your presence alone will turn her on

So you need to be romantic and be the one that will take time to melt that point in her

Be very calm and gentle with her, that will keep her warm and she will be rest assured that she is safe with you, from there all her nerves will relax

Obavoh:
I have a very special female friend. Her birthday is coming up this weekend. I would really love to get her a special and fancy gift.

My budget is ₦ 3,000. Please help me suggest a very nice gift that will last long and make her think warmly of me whenever she sees it.

^*Please nothing romantic she is just a friend.
I am a married man with kids.
She got me a nice wristwatch on my own birthday. She always listens to my problems and gives me good advice. She is worth more than 3k

Let whatever you are giving her worth more than the wristwatch she gave you

JackDaAlienz:
Can it be cured or will the person depend on medicine for life?

It depends

If it's inherited, I doubt

If it's drug related then rehabilitation may help

If it's a curse, only prayers can deliver

Cutehector:
Are you gay?

Foxyfox:
Good evening forum. I will go straight to the point. I and my man started dating since like October last year, I am a student, and my man is a government worker, who earns well and he even the boss at his place of work.

But the issue I gave is, yes this man wants to marry me, but he doesn't give me good money, even despite him knowing some of my situation. He only me 1k or at times, 500, once in a very while. Sincerely I love this man,and he does too. But the not giving me money is the part that is really hurting me.

I haven't discussed it with him, cuz I am a shy type and I don't even know how to open my mouth concerning an issue like that, cuz I believe Its not my money. Whenever I seek for help in his DM, he wont reply the message.

And I don't intend discussing it with him cuz I don't know how. This thing is killing me and I don't just know what to do, we have been together for like 6months now.

What can it mean, pls I need a sincere answer.

He is a salary earner and I think he is conscious of his spending and nothing can make him change because he spends according to his income

Chinelo154:
8 days ago my mum left with my 3 siblings she has rented a room where we are staying right now , she left because my dad was not treating her well , he hasn't worked for like 10 years and he has abandoned all the responsibility for my mum he still treat her bad to make the matter worse he has invited his brother, the brother wife and their 5 children to our house making my mum to carry the responsibility of 14 people in a 2 bedroom house , my uncle wife felt so bad seeing her fellow woman suffering so she has decided to leave with her 2 daughters my uncle has refused to leave saying he came to Lagos to make money and the wife has left their 3 sons with him , i have spoken to my mum friends about the situation which they've helped to convince her to leave the marriage for her sanity , it wasn't easy for her to leave because she didn't want to but i was suprised 8 days ago when she said that she has gotten a place for us and she was leaving my dad for goods i was so happy to hear that she was finally leaving him, it was a moment of joy and she went to work while my siblings and I have taken the opportunity to pack their stuffs in my dad and uncle absence, moving them to the new place my mum begged my brother and i to stay with them we refused telling her we will be fine we are happy she and the younger ones have moved and we will manage just fine , i returned home at night my dad was on neck to tell him where my mum was , i said i have no idea he started shouting at me I have made her to leave i will not known peace, he was talking ongoing and i remained quiet only for me to returned back tonight to meet him at the front asking me to go back to where I came from he said he will allow me in when i bring my mum. , i asked him to let me get my clothes he refused to let me inside , i begged him to threw the bag outside he refused saying he will not allow me to take anything and i was still standing there pleading with him to give my clothes then my phone rang, it was my friend i answered the call while i was on the phone my uncle son came at the back of me and snatched the phone he ran to where my dad was and gave him the phone , i couldn't go closer.my dad because he was holding a belt to prevent from approaching him , he was telling me if i approached him he will hit me with the belt , i started crying begging him to give me my phone i will leave but he said no, i should first bring my mum back, i left in tears i am at my mum place i told her what my dad did to me and she was no happy but her response shocked me and it she is already thinking about going back to him just 8 days she left and her reasons are she don't want my dad to curse me and she will go and talk to him so he can forgive me and give me back my belongings, i told her i didn't insult him or disobey him and his curse will not touch me also told her to forget about my belonging i will save money to buy new ones but she is still adamant that she has to meet with him on thrusday and i strongly believe that if she meet with him they will get back together and she will move back with him sometimes I don't understand why my mum like suffering i swear if she get back with him i will cut ties with her i will move to a far away from all of them and will never have anything to do with them anymore sorry for the long story and please advise me

My dear, just leave them and find away to Liberate yourself from all that drama

caution001:
Dear nairalanders,
Help me, I'm actually seeking advice for someone because the person is at a point she has allowed her past to dictate the recent trouble she brought upon herself. Anyway the person is my sister. She had several abortions years back. In year 2020, she is in her early 30s when she met a guy and they both agreed to do introduction, of which they did but the guy is not aware of her past. But it was quite unfortunate to discover the both of them has AS genotype at the time they were preparing for their traditional marriage and the parents of the bride disagreed, my parents. Later, the groom parents also disagreed considering the implications of two AS marrying each other. I personally pleaded with my sister that she should let the guy go but she wouldn't listen. Fast forward to this year. She told me she is pregnant for the same guy they are both incompatible as regards to the genotype. My parents are not yet aware but if they know they will disown her with immediate effect.
What can she do please? Because she's seeking my opinion but I personally don't know what she can do.


Please advice.

She wants to prove science wrong

Let her keep her pregnancy, she may be lucky to have AS child

But if the child turns out to be SS, she will learn her lessons

worried222:
Please can someone confirm if 13.6 units for 1000 naira is correct.
I moved into a new apartment and I am suspecting that the prepared meter has some outstanding debts on it.
Reason why my units finishes earlier than expected.
That’s why I brought it here to know how far.
Location is Abuja.

They have different tariffs for different areas

Call their customer care to find out the tariff in your area then multiple it by the Unit you got or divide the units by the amount you recharge

If it gets equal result then no need to panic

But if it gets something that doesn't match up, then you can call for inspection on your meter

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act. She was good in other areas so, i felt with time things will sort itself out. After the marriage, i made it known to her clearly that i will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change. Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. what do I do my people?

If you know the same way you have been managing yourself, pls apply that measures

Just allow how especially now that she is pregnant

Some women get hony when they are pregnant

Some get hony after birth

Forbrok:
Good day everyone.

I am a second year student in the university.
I met this guy early last year then he was working not until November when he told me that he is going to quit because they are not paying him well and that he wants to go back to the village to start up a small business for the main time. So before he left in December, I took in and due to the fear of my family and others he asked me to abo_t it which I did. So early this year, when I had a little break I visited him and now I noticed I am pregnant. I don't know what to do. If I keep the baby my dad will disown me and the little business the man is doing can't really cater for my schooling and the babys up keeping. I don't want to stop schooling. The guy wants me to keep this one but I am till scared and worried about my school and family.


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How many times will you keep doing abortions

If he wants you to keep the pregnancy,

Let him follow you to visit your family and inform them that he is responsible for your pregnancy

You said you don't want to stop schooling, you will carry the pregnancy and finish your school so that next time you will use your head and senses

Forbrok:
Good morning Okay, I'll go straight to the point. Mom and dad got separated when I was 5 years old, that was in 2004. I was little but not too small to not remember seeing dad beat up my mom on few occasions over unnecessary things. She was like a maid in his house, he treated her like trash, cheating on her right in her face. His girlfriends would come around and they would make mockery of my mom.

Mom told us, she once broke a cup at his shop and she was forced to pay for it. She started a business with her own money but she was made to account for it and give him the money at the end of each day. Nobody could talk to him. This persisted until she had to run for her life. I remember how we all ran into the car that came to pick us up nak_d. We got dressed in there, we didn't even get the chance to take all our clothes.

The japa was real 😆 I grew up knowing he must be alive somewhere but he never showed up, my mom was all we knew. We all watched my mom struggle to fend for us. In 2014, my sister convinced us to go look for him and make peace. We knew he wasn't worth it but we wanted to give him the chance to be the good father he never was. Mom didn't want it but she gave in, for us. We visited him that once, we talked and reconciled, but the energy was never returned.

He only called once and that was all. 3 years ago, he finally showed up but that's because we called him to tell him that my mom was dead. He only attended her funeral, after the burial we went over to his village to see him before going back to our various houses. You won't believe this man tried to force us all to dump whatever we have going on in our lives including university to come help him out in his little restaurant business. Tried to force me to go live with someone I don't even know as a maid. Told my sister who was married to relocate to his home. I mean, who does that? I left secondary since 2017 and haven't started university yet because of financial issues. He didn't think I needed to go to school.

All he said was I have to go serve as a maid with strangers, no payment, I might get lucky and find a husband. He didn't care about what we wanted. He made his own rules. My siblings and I refused. He hasn't been in our lives all these while only to come now to make ridiculous decisions for us We all traveled back not caring what he thinks. And that was it, no calls, he sends nothing. We all have been fending for ourselves individually. For me, I've already had it registered in my head that I'm an orphan. Now here's the question even my mom didn't have an answer to before she died.

Does this kind of father deserve to even be acknowledged when there are suitors? Does he deserve to receive bride price from the husband of the kids he knows absolutely nothing about how they survived all through the years? I'm 23 and my eldest sister is 30. None of us has received anything from him but everyone keeps Insisting that he's our father and the bride price would be payed to him regardless. I feel its unfair. Fathers would abandon their kids because they know in years to come these kids would come back by themselves.

Note, he didn't pay my moms bride price, its embarrassing but that's what it is. He and my granddad used to smo_e together, they were friends. Just because he used to dash him money and buy him drinks back then,my granddad gave his daughter away to him, forcefully, none of them cared what she wanted. They didn't follow the right procedures. I'm planning on having a court wedding when the time comes, no bride price, I'm not for sale and he can't reap where he did not sow. But I want to know, am I being unreasonable? Is it okay to go ahead and have court wedding without his consent? He didn't pay moms bride price so what's the difference? Is it also okay to pay the bride price to my brother when he is still alive? I need your sincere advice please.

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This one weak me

Pls bear the followings in mind

His blood runs in you and he is your father, the bride price is his right even if he is the most irresponsible man on earth
Meaning, so far he is alive, let him receive your bride price so that he won't lay a curse on your senior brother for taking his position while he is alive

You have to make sure he looks good on his traditional outfit on that day and that's the scarife you will have to make

But in my tradition, if your mum bride price is not paid

Yours won't be paid

Your daughters own won't be paid until it's is done properly from the first default which is from your mum side

So I think you guys will package your dad to find out how your late mum bride price will be done according to her tradition, am sure she has her siblings still living in her father's family, they will know how to handle such

For your registry, I think you can do that after your family have giving you the consent to marry, you can't just ignore that part

Be patient and have a forgiven heart to allow your dad play his role on your marriage

After that, the way and manner you want to see him, is now left with you

Forbrok:
I am a single mum of 1 and I am 40 years old. I and my son father had issues of genotype “AS” while I was pregnant with our son. We were never married. Our son is 8 years now. We tried to see if we could stay together as a family for 9 months but it didn’t work.

Because I already see myself doing all the spending in the relationship and that’s not the problem with me but he keeps taking it for granted. He doesn’t want to support with any bills yet works and earns good. I had to move out of the house because I know I can do better without him.


He pushed the blame of the AS on me that I lied to him about my Genotype. Whereas all through my growing up from school and all, I have been AA. The last test I did before pregnancy was still AA. I just don’t know how I turned AS when I was pregnant. I want to believe the Hospitals I have been running my tests played me on that. But I thank God our son is AS too.. Now I wish to have more kids but I want to talk to my son’s father about us doing IVF.. I don’t know if he will agree to that though.

Because we are really not into each other like that. We were both introduced to each other by our friends way back then that saw us more like people who don’t want to settle down. As God will have it, we had a son. Because we are both the workaholic type. I love my sanity a whole lot and dodged any drama that has to come with relationship. No responsible man out there yet and the fear of menopause is wanting me to have more kids now before it’s too late.

My son’s dad is not yet married too.. we have been seperated for 7 years now. I’m not sure if I should go ahead and ask him if we should do IVF. We both have been Co-parenting for those years. And he has been doing his fatherly role to his son. Meaning he could spend on his son but not me. I have no problem with that. But we can’t be together as husband and wife because I know we don’t have any feelings for each other. We are better off Co - parenting than being in a marriage we both know won’t work. He’s still single too.

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Even if he accepts the IVF bear in mind that you will sponsor it from start to finish

Are you ready for that cost and challenges

If yes then you can reignite the relationship even though there is no love, just for you to get pregnant the second time

Having done that, don't be surprise that both of you will still come together as couple at the end of the whole issues

He is getting older and may end up with you

You already have kids with him and if you don't get another spouse, you may end up with him

Heathrow44:
yay, frozen, if u found sm1 dat satisfies u and makes love t u won't u do d same

Not when am married

Forbrok:
Good morning wonderful people, I got married 2021, me and my husband were living happily. I have lost my mum and my dad has another wife. Due to the way she maltreats my sister, I now took my sister to be living with me which my husband agreed. But now my sister started misbehaving, I cannot correct her she would shout at me. She doesn't do anything at home and now my husband is complaining about her. I don't know what to do again. Please advice me.

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Send her to her step mum,let her go there and display her naughty behavior

She will place her where she belongs immediately

By that time her eyes will open but don't accept her back

Though you can help her get something doing

Caramia2020:
Confusion everywhere, CBN is yet to issue statement whether to accept the verdict or put it aside as usual.

Exactly that's what we all are waiting for
Alternatively if they issue old notes at the counter then people will trade on it