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Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

She lost her home even before the arrival of the house maid

So if she is sure that she is in charge of her home and she has been contributing actively to support her home and family

Let her take that girl to the pack with all her belongings let me see if her husband will pack and follow her

Nonsense

kyber:
This girl told me of how much she missed me just yesterday night and of how she loves me.
I have been really busy with school work so I had no chance to visit her in the last 3 days so I decided to pay her a visit this night after the rain stopped only for me to knock and met another guy in her hostel room with his clothe rough like they have been romancing.

Please help I don’t know what to do
She is begging me now … should I forgive her?

Dey play
Part two is coming

dododawa1:
Nairaland please help.

There is nothing to help you on, in this matter

There is nothing like tight vagina, once it's broken or sex have been had, it remains so

So ask her what quantity of what she used to wash it that made it tight, she will tell you

I don't want to mention the name here, it's as cheap as #100

dante12412:
Good evening NL'ers, I seriously need your candid advice.

2021, she had 2 miscarriages and
since then, we've been looking forward to another
pregnancy which God just answered that Prayer as she recently announced to me that she's taken in.

I need help as to the necessary precautionary measures to take by nutritional food,and everything Health-wise.,so the foetus can atleast hang on till 3 or 4 months.

Thanks in anticipation.✍️

Its only a doctor or medical test that can be able to direct you better, then check if she has a weak cervix

But on a lay man side

Give her brake from sex, unless she demands for it and when it's done, you must apply extreme caution

Help her to stay away from stress and stress related things that can trigger her stress level including her emotions

Let her have enough rest and sleep, even if it means stopping her from going work just to carry this pregnancy to full term

Lastly, look after her very well, get enough fruits for her to eat steady and vegetables and early antenatal registration and follow up

Good luck

Fineman2:
you are right, and I will show her shege as well.

Lol

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Since you married her at age 20yrs,you didn't even allow her experience real love and she is requesting for it now because the vacuum is still there

If you don't create time to prove love to her and give her attention

It woo get to a point her attitude will change

Now she is requesting for tattoo and waist beeds

She want to experience those things she was never given access to

She has already given birth and she no send a y body again

So you have to start being loving and romantic before she goes over board

Fineman2:
thanks, I will

Even though she has apologised through someone, but I know her too well

Her apology is temporal she will start again

A trouble maker has no remorse

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello fams sorry to bother you again i need your advice please , my son is nearly 15 last year when their father came from italy he contacted me via facebook requesting for my number. I rushed here to asked for advice and you have advised me to give him my number which I did, he called to tell me that he want to 100% support his children with the condition that I have to give them to his sister to take care of them which I refused. I didn't hide anything from my son I have explained everything to him because I don't want someday for his father to corrupt him with fake stories that I was the one who didn't allow him to see them, my son was very disappointed why would his father want them to live with the aunty who hasn't bothered to check on them for 9 years, he said my decision was right because I love them and I don't want them to go and suffer like he did when he was with my brother and his family. It is over a year now haven't heard anything from their father and on sunday my son asked for my permission if he can contact his dad on facebook, my son has a facebook account which is controlled by me , he doesn't have a smartphone so he use my phone to access his account. He said he is a big boy and he want to chat his dad to ask him why he refused to take care of them while they are still in my care , i told him he should not bother himself God will help us but the boy was begging me to please allow him to contact his father , I even shouted at him out of anger i called him ungrateful human being, he cried and apologised to me but I came to realize that he is now a big boy he only want answers from his father and to form a relationship with him only if the father will also see it the same way. I asked my brother for his opinion he said i shouldn't allow him to contact him the father may think that i am the one who sent the boy to beg him to do his duty as a father and he added nobody beg a parent to provide for their children. So far I have taken the advice my brother has given me but my mind is not in peace i keep thinking about it ,i feel like i am not being fair to my son and I should allow him to contact his father, I am taking care of all my 4 children alone as a single mother and i will never stop any of them to have a relationship with their fathers as long as things are taken to the right channel. please help me with your advices should i allow him to contact him or i should let the matter slide ?

I will approve of him contacting his dad through any means, not just in face book, if you have his contact number give him

Just for one reason

They want to ask him why he abandoned them, that's all

Your children already know that he failed them all

So at this stage, let them fight for their right from their dad, your own is to guide them properly

Every thing will be alright soon because you have gone through the worst stage

So it can only get better

Fineman2:
seriously, she's so calm these days.

This is someone that will not allow anybody to have rest of mind in the house anytime she's around, both night and daytime

She is back to factory reset but it's for a while

So be on guard to reset her anytime she starts

Ynix:
It's not a woman issue, but that you are married to a narcissist.
Check youtube on how to handle narcissists

Fineman2:
I am the house caretaker where I live because our landlord doesn't live with us, being the oldest tenant, I have a married couple that moved in last year October.

The wife is a very troublesome person, she insults everybody in the house and engage in physical fight as well, I warned them not to cause trouble before collecting money from them and they agreed

I ignored her for almost six months because I've lived with people like her before, so it's not new to me.

But this woman is a very repulsive and bloody minded person, she doesn't want to change at all, she insults and controls her husband as well, I refused to report her to my landlord because they came to the house through me, so I should be able to handle her.

It wasn't up to two weeks that they came into our house and she broke the well where we fetch water.

I am a very quiet person, both at home and at work, I hardly talk, you won't hear my voice from morning till night, so she thought she knew everything about me.

She was talking about me last Sunday, saying every time I will tell them not to lock the well, this got me angry and I went haywire, I lambasted her so much with serious warning never to try it again.

Since that day, I stop talking to her and I will not collect another money from them when this one is due.

She's afraid of me now, all the madness she's been showing in the house has stopped as well.

It takes madness to correct some people's nonsense

That's the system I use when one is trying to take me for a fool

In her own case, you have open the field for other tenants to reset her stupidity anytime she messes up

CosmicDust:
Here is my story....

I have a 3 siblings and I am at odds with my eldest who is a lady. The way it is, I may never have a conversation with her again.

She was the first person to be invested in by my parents after which I came. Luckily enough, she was able to strike gold in her career and do well for herself. She went abroad for her masters with my parents supporting with half-payment. Unfortunately, whenever it came to family demands and helping the other younger siblings, she has either been negligent or grudgingly does so.

Few years after going abroad, she decided to lockup and sends only 40k home which is supposed to cater for food for a month.
Now parents are retired, the whole family weight falls on my following sibling and I. The youngest one education is on me. Happy she will finish soon. Parents need to be supported in challenging times, one is coping with diabetes and the other is with some challenging issues I can't say here. Their savings are being sapped by their needs to keep living on.

But my so-called elder sister based in Canada despite knowing their condition is silent. She still sends her peanuts, while I and my younger brother who is an upcoming fashion designer do 2X what she does. This aches our parents and sometimes makes our mother cry and our father rant with regret.

A time now came, our mum got admitted in the hospital. Condition was so salient that she had to be hospitalized for weeks. Hospital bill was 450k. The Canada-based first born doing a good job, who was always talking to her, praying with her on phone, etc only sent 100k. We the others did the rest. Glad mum is back at home but her heart is broken and has refused to talk with her. She's been in Canada for 5 years and has refused to even support any of her siblings to come abroad too.

My other siblings say because we all refuse to be dictated to by her is the reason for her behaviour. I don't care. Mine is that if you know that you are going to be useless to a family, let your parents know before hand so the money used in training/feeding you can be used for farming business which will despite bad weather bring returns than on a child who feels is not obligated to support the parents who supported you all through.

I think you people are expecting so much from her because she is in Canada

That she is abroad and she is not fort coming on your requests and expectations from her doesn't mean she has neglected her family

I will advise you guys to bear with her while you stop expecting much from her

No one knows her situation over there and if she is actually making progress

No child will love to see her parents suffering or stranded at old age

If you stop talking with her, it's OK but anytime she calls you, pick that call and listen to what she will be saying

Overseas are not really what we all think

shantti:
Aunty pls die this talk
He shouldn't let her in his house period.
Remember that marriage is between a man and his wife, no third parties

Lol
Women are just drama queens

When you want to pay her back, she sees it as being bad but she did same thing to him

Livelystone01:
It's like you don't understand entitled people, they only think about themselves. For her to have the courage to bring this up despite her shenanigans against the mother inlaw shows she's entitled and entitled people do not regret their actions.

Her mother should live with her siblings, that's the law she agreed to in the beginning, nothing should change it.

This way, she'll think before acting wicked next time.

She's should be also ready to face her repercussions from her daughter in-law.

I really understand your point, I want her to face with the shame of what she did to her mother in law, if she has any shame

By the time the husband doesn't contribute a penny to her medicine and upkeep

She Will feel the heat

Starz825:
Wait...you come back from Ukraine to Naija....

Wait come do wetin ...no ....I just dey ask you....

Pressure from your mum....

Your mum....hmmmm

Oya Go and meet your mum for assistance....no offense...

You dey vex me....


You go school...got educated .....but na your mum dey advise you on how to live your life....

Guy ...you shouldn't have got back to Nigeria....


Forget about my ranting....

You are already here...so no need for the blame game....

Try to be realistic about your current situation and find a way around it...God go help you....

Omooo....he still dey pain say you come Naija ....you know aw many places you fit link from Ukraine.....

He could be the only son, who knows

udomma1005:
It's automatic!
Move out and get along with a life without her and she knows, albeit within herself, that's she's as good as being in her father's house.
Not much drama, move few things that are essential, keep the rest for the comfort of the kids, let the games begin. One does not need to cope with an entitled bit"h for a second. How come your mom should come stay when mine couldn't, plus my money oooo! Ogun go kee some f beings urgently. 😠

What if she has been the one financing the home front and was actually the one paying rent and you are just not contributing anything at home

Will you still kick her out or rather move out of the home and go and start life afresh

shantti:
Things actually work that way
He will not let her in
And you are not the man
What goes around comes around

Dont be surprise if he let her in

Is not weakness and it's only God that will reward him

Livelystone01:
It won't become another thing, people should learn to understand that there's a consequence for every action. You people forgot to return the quote she gave? Marriage is between a man and a woman, no one else should be included according to her.

She should hire someone to take care of her mother period!

You guys always want to eat your cake and have it at the same time.

For the mere fact that her husband will not contribute a penny for her medication is enough for his wife to deal with

By then she will feel more emotional pains than what she did to her mother in law and it will be too late to apologize

Aklee4994:
same thing will happen to your son

I know you have bastards as children , so rejoice because you will not experience anything

Rinoxy:
I agree with your submission but the bolded Anything wey wan happen make e happen. Na man mama dem treat like this for him own house o!

Yes you are right
But my submission of the react, is centered on the children who may witness nonsense from both parents when the drama starts

sandra50:
His refusal will react to what thing?did her own refusal react to anything then?if she passes her boundaries then he should send her back to her father's house

You think it's automatic to send a woman with children out and back to her father's house

Its something you have to apply wisdom with

MediaBoyfriend:
Disgusting! Manipulative swines!! His refusal may react to another thing? Who cares? His mom should be very disappointed at him in her grave if he ever thought of accepting the wife's mom to stay with them. And you, stop manipulating men! Stop that rubbish. Op return the energy now. If her family needs monetary support, if you have, give. But if staying with you, don't let that happen.

Your thinking is quite different, the Op already know what to do, he just wants to know if we will support his decision

akinbodma:
Best advice
Welcome her mom, while you also switch character after 2/3 days of her arrival

Let her use her imagination
So she can remember it’s a man and woman like she also said before

That's it

Fearcom:
Hmmm!

Awon okurin o raye wa oo!

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

All the men should gather here amd take this advoce:

1. NEVER, NEVER PAMPER A BAD WIFE.

2. HANDLE HER WITH AN IRON HAND. LET HER KNOW THAT SHE EITHER SUBMITS OR YOU KICK HER OUT. PERIOD

Marriage doesn't work that way
Am sure you are not married

shantti:
Why r u women like this
Why do u support evil so far it is your gender that perpetrate it.

So the wife's refusal to let her mom in law come wouldn't lead to another this.

OP!!!! DO NOT LET THAT WOMAN STAY IN YOU UR HOUSE. GIVE HER SAME TREATMENT!!!!!!??

It doesn't work that way

He will allow her in but if aam the man

I will leave her medical bills on her daughter

seanwilliam:
Women and manipulation .

Lol

Dearlove2me:
And situation differs as well.

Yes that's true

wunmi590:
You are a wise and intelligent woman....

But some people don't what to go through some of these your listed point, nah to just break up immediately they will be looking for...

Thanks for the compliments

Understanding differs my dear

teekay213:
Hi,

I have been snoring for some years now and it annoying that I have tried ways to stop it but didn't work.

Whenever my girlfriend comes to sleep over she will not able to sleep well because my snoring disturbs her sleep and now she avoids coming to my place complaining that I don't let her to sleep well.since then she hasn't been responding well to me and I also feel my neighbors too are affected but can't tell it to my face..

I have try different sleeping position to no effect.

I'm fed up and wish I could get a help.

You nay have added weight

You sleep on your back and face up so when you snor the sounds can be very embarrassing

Reduce your weight then start sleeping on your stomach or side ways

Davizee:
It's not that,of recent I was having a convo with two guys and they were putting fear on me that at this age my parents shouldn't be feeding and they were also saying that life ahead is very hard that the only way is struggling

Those your guys are the ones that will deceive you if you don't cut them off

How can I you be independent when you don't even he's sound mind to focus on how to prepare for Jamb and get admission in to school

So if you biw git admission a d you meet the good, the bad and the worst guys in school then you are finished finally

You better go and discuss your fear and worries with your mum

ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum. However, as she aged, her health waned. Se was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it. Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.

Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed. What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?

I understand how you feel about her treatment to your mum and eventually she passed on because she didn't get the care you have planned for her due to your wife refusal to cooperate with her

Now it's her mums turn, just allow her to come but then, let her provide her needs while you focus on the family needs as usual

What she denied you off is what she is requesting your approval to get, such is life

Your refusal may react to another thing

UYEMDO35:
thanks bro. But what does porn video got to do with dis.... 😡😡😡😡.
I no like ham.

Just be a little bit patience and loyal to your family

Meanwhile discus with him that you want to learn a trade while waiting for your result

He will reason with you

As for your step mum, she us in the position to make things difficult for you and to make things easier for you in that family

All you need is avoid argument or issues with her

Mikagrace:
I really don’t want to go into depth. Just tired of him, just need a male friend who can take my mind elsewhere. I’m just fed up.

If you are really tired put it down for him to understand that you are tired of the relationship

You may get a male friend and he will expect you to respond as a female friend

Are you ready for that

I think what you need is God's grace in your marriage and things will turn around for your God

What the male friend now pieces the already broken heart instead of amending it

Think twice