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Sonofgoodness:
Few months ago,I was so depressed almost everyday. Sometimes I felt like commiting suicide because I was so lonely,broke and feeling mediocre. Oneday, which was on a Sunday. I was so lonely and depressed again,I pray and I said, "oh God help me". I said these words with pains in my heart. God heard me. That day,I met a pastor who is a husband to my friend. He counselled me. Though I didn't tell him every thing. That same day, I heard in my mind that I should go to a particular area to go and look for a friend's mum. On getting to the area. I saw a girl and ask her if she knows this my friend's mum because I didn't know the house. I asked her if she knows mama so so so and so,she replied no. One talk led to another, I gave her my number and I forgot to take hers. When I got home,I realized I didn't take her number. I pray in my heart that if she is the one ,she would called. It was not long when she called. That was how we began. Since that day till now, I don't feel depressed anymore. My financial channels of blessings has increased. She is a big blessing. I don't struggle. She doesn't stress me financially. Though she broke up with her ex the week before we met, she has never given me a reason to doubt her.
From the previous trend: she didn't go back to collect her clothes. Last we she got a new job, brought clothes. We are both getting better.
The question: girls are now flocking around me. I don't want to cheat. I told her everything. But the greenlight from girls to me these days is so surprising. I don't want to cheat. Those girls calls me. She is jealous. I don't want to hurt her. I am a disciplined person and also a Christian. Please no insult. What should I do to avoid cheating

If you want to cheat, cheat after all you are not married to her

If you don't want to cheat, then start practicing how to be faithful so that by the time you marry her, you would have practiced how to be a faithful husband

Lessons123:
My wife comes from Imo state and I observed they can do anything at all for papers.

Early in the marriage when I was upcoming my wife's brother asked me if I can allow my wife marry their relative in Germany so that she can get papers and then pick me up later.

This was the worst thing I've ever heard from my inlaws, consequently any transaction involving any one abroad my wife will jump at the man no matter the look, type or shape anything abroad is a sparkle in her eyes.

Also observed her family supports this boldly.

Dear Nairalanders
Please is this how Imo State people are?

To them, their is no big deal, they believe they are planning for the benefits of all especially your family

It is now left for you to accept such or not

Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties,I got married aged 22,( always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby,parked to our house and things were rosy.i have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.

I have always helped him in his house projects,might not be much 100k,50k,20k when need be,I never siphoned my money to myself,as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head,(3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)

Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together,I told him no,I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it,( just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
After some weeks,I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense.i was heartbroken,for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...

Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday,I find it so difficult to forgive him,I insult him,he insult me ,he broke my phone,I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says "I'm his wife,no be today man dey collect him wife money,he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight,I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call,he didn't reach out,3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him...I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.

My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.
How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.

No insult please,I have cried enough.

Trust is like a sticker once you remove it from the surface where it is pasted, it can't stick properly again

If you don't want to go back to him, let him pack to your new apartment

Stop attacking him unnecessary or finding faults with him

Try and accommodate him since you want a father figure for your children

In this life, you will meet nonsense people whom you don't know how to place them

Finally, forget about trying to trust him it may not workout

You have to put a stop to having babies
so that you can plan well for the entire family

Make sure you write your names in everything that has to do with assets because of the future

englishmart:
A lady refuse to get married to a guy because of his surname
Onuamu
That she can't be address as Mrs onuamu

That's not enough excuse because she can as well bear any of his names as surname

Zee0007:
I was having a conversation with a friend and he said, " he cannot marry someone who doesn't know how to read or write.

Can you?

I will humbly marry a man who can't read and write

So far i will have absolute peace and he will give me attention


I will write his speech and he will introduce me as his wife to read it

I don't care what people think about it

I am after what makes me happy

Zonefree:
You get sense.

Lol
Thanks dear

Jones90:
Good day all. I will try to be brief.

My wife and i are into real estate. While she works in a different company from mine, we share ideas and experiences together. So on Monday, a family friend of hers who based in the UK told her she wanted to buy a land from my company and she brought the deal for me.

I worked on the deal and the woman made her payment. Now comes the sharing formula for the commission which will be paid to me. My wife is insisting on 50/50 while I'm saying 70/30 (me taking the largest share).

Please am i wrong or acting greedy? If yes, what's the appropriate percentage for us to share the commission? Thanks

Note: We are living happily in our marriage
Lalasticlala

I think both of you should agree to use the profit to purchase a land

If you already have a land, put it into the building project

If you guys already finished building, use it to furnish the house

If all that have been done, use if for vacation

Let her plan on it

Instead of the sharing formula that will cause wahala

Robenna:
Hello guys, this is a Nairalander
I know this family can help me with solutions
Abeg no much insult
In the recent 1 year, I met a woman from our church, i was just liking her but all of a sudden i started coming close to her. Shes married, I am close to her children, theyre little tho and her third child of about 5 years is my jokingly best friend.
I know her husband, i do come to her house steady, not far from mine
Her husband is cool and dosent cause muvh problems. The thing is that, now and earlier I took her as my Second Mother aka "Momma"..But in the recent weeks and months, i think this has exceeded a mother to vhild stuff. Although i term her my mother, buh i now feel deeply in love with her.
The affection is much; I Love her so much
Please dont see this funny, Im soon gonna be 18 and she may be around her late or early 30's...I know she loves me too, Ive always seen her jealous of my personal life, like someone who cares a lot. Guys im too close to this woman, same with her.. Not sure how much she loves and cares for me, but guys i need your advice to me.
I havent gone so romantic with her, apart from trying to kiss her at one time, which i later didnt do
Let me know your mind about this feeling

Pleas Admins I need this to be on the frontpage for better suggestions please

Congratulations
At 18yrs, you have started nose diving instead of flying high

Its your life and your business

Advice yourself

Karma already knows your address

bigjackass:
why must it be cold?

Just to enjoy it

Nemesis0147:
thanks ma

Thanks dear

Nemesis0147:
What drink can someone be taking that will
Make one add up within 1 week...
I have been sick for some weeks noW so I lost weight and I’m naturally not a food person......you guys should recommend drinks for me please

Malt and milk cold one daily till you get your desired weight size

GabrielVOG:
A lady reportedly pleaded people’s on social media to beg her husband to forgive her after sleeping with his best friend �‍♂️

She stated “my husband don’t always have time for me ever since we got married he’s being busy working all day, and we hardly had make love together. Three months later he traveled, so his best friend that has always been there even when he is around always come checking on us! He came to check on us since my husband wasn’t around so I told him my feelings & pains I’ve been going through with my husband that my husband haven’t make love to me for a while and he felt for me and we did it on my matrimonial bed and now my husband came back showering so much love on me so I’m scared if he would gets to know about it “

My question is “can such thing be forgiven?

See people’s reaction ���https://www.facebook.com/callmhevog

Its a top secret that non of them will reveal

wasuka14:
My wife Twins sister moved to our apartment of a room and parlour self-contain with her 4 kids after the demise of her husband without notice to me.

Honestly, I really need urgent advise as I can't have access to my apartment or to my wife again. As her twin sister moved in to my small apartment with her 4 kids and loads of clothes and some other luggages. Therefore, no single space left in my parlour to sit or leave again.
Am mentally stress with what am passing through now. For 2 weeks now, I can't sleep in a small house am managing with my wife and our 4 kids too. The issue at hand is not even about apartment alone but also of feeding.
Now, before now, my wife used to manage 2500 to feed all of us for breakfast alone. But now, she barely manage 6000 every morning.
Thereby, increase daily expenses on food to like 14-16k daily depends on my pocket.
And the funny thing is that,both the sisters are not working so as to at least support with something.
For now, am managing to pass night in my shop, but twice in a day they will send my first child to my shop to fetch money for food. Am really tire. I am just a bloody welder.
I don't know how to take care of these migrants going forward.
My wife can't drive away her twins sister by herself, am also too timid to drive them because of human feeling in me. Pls what do I do. I really need help and serious advise from fellow Nigerian and non- Nigerian

You know what you just have to seat your wife down and ask her what's in her mind when she approves of her sister coming with the children to leave with you guys in that small apartment that is not even large enough for your immediate family

Whatever her excuse, give her 3 days to ask them to leave

If after that three days she has not left, then one night, seat both of them down and tell her twins that you and your wife have discussed that she will be leaving because it's too heavy for you alone

Then tell her you will appreciate she gets another place to go with her children in three days time and you can still support her with whatever you can lay your hands on

Aft that just stand up and leave because your statement doesn't require much replies

If after the three days she didn't leave, just relocate permanently to your shop till the house is conducive for you to return

If everything gets settled

Let your wife start some thing doing, if she can't trade let her go on for teaching, let her start contributing from their even if it's cooking gas and electric bills

Most people who add to family burden don't work so they don't feel what you that provides for the family feels

As bad as the economy is, don't allow people to put their pressure on you

If you don't get your wife busy, she will not know that the shoes you are wearing is painful

GabrielVOG:
This is the most advisable comment I’ve ever come across here

Thanks dear

Miltonz123:
I know majority of you will call me a simp but I have to pour out my mind.

I have been in a relationship with this girl in 2021. I met her through her brother, which was my friend and everything had been a blissful. I really love her even though I am 9 years older than her. I worked in the islands then while she worked in mainland and the relationship was OK.
I have a job that's not that paying much but I thank God I can eat and sleep in a 2 room flat I am managing as I haven't really furnish the apartment like that.
Back to my girl to be turn ex this morning g, we did plan to engage though and I have promised to marry her when I know the time it's right. I have introduced her to my family members and my parents that she's the one.
I never doubt her love and trust because she's very religious and caring to home. (my mom too is religious and she want me to marry her by force lol) . She's good and respectful that my landlord keep telling me I was lucky. She would make sure we pray together every morning and night and all. Because of all this, I trust her that a choir and prayer girl like this will not cheat.

One thing led to another, her phone was stolen this month.. And since I have a spare phone, I decided to lend her my spare android phone to use. She brought the phone to me that her WhatsApp chat need to be recovered. I told her the only way we can restore her chat is to restore through Google backup she did. So I took the phkne to my office and start using my work WiFi to do the restoration of her chat.

After restoring, I asked for her password a d lo and behold, what I saw break my heart.

She has been flirting wirh a particular guy since January this year because I decided to read all there chat from beginning. In January the guy was pressing her to see her. I saw the guy snap with his Honda civic car, and all that. And the chat was Consistent. March she has been sleeping at the guy place and it was in that March that we started cohabiting together because her work place is closer to me and she want to save in her transport. She was telling the guy that I am still struggling and all that, that she doesn't think she can wait for me. Around June, she was sack from her work, and she told me she want to be staying with her sister. I said ok since they live in mainland, she can be coming to island any time she's free. But it's a war to get her attention and when she comes, if I try to touch her she won't let me, citing we have to wait till we married and God will not like it.

And I don't like forcing my way.

So for 3 month till now, I haven't romance her. Only kiss

Lastly, In her chat, she has been seeing this guy steady and she had been collecting steady. So this end of September, she told the guy she's not seeing her period, and test came out she is pregnant.

I continued reading, and the guy told her he's not ready for the baby and that's how this my ex to be blocked the guy since last week after an heated argument... Looks like the guy Don clear her that he's not ready to settle down at all as he told her he doesn't have a dime in the bank and he Want to sell his car.

Well, this is 12:30am and I can't sleep and she's sleeping sheepishly be side my bed. 7:00am I am driving her out of my apartment for good and this is the end. I will explain everything to her brother and I hope he will understand.

I gave her phone two times and a laptop and this is the church manipulation she put me into. Because of my kindness and love.... I told her everything was going to fine between us but I thought as a prayer warrior person and someone that can't do without church will be faithful. She was a choir member self.

But I have had enough.

Goinf Back to single life again.

You have to discharge her immediately before you father another man's child

Just discharge her and if you must explain anything
Seat her and his brother and open the can of worms but that is after she has packed out

There is no room for nonsense

Obavoh:
My wife put to bed 2 weeks ago.

My mother usually takes care of her but her aunty decided to come this time.

I usually have sex with my wife 2 weeks after she puts to bed. It pains her a little but I am very gentle with her. She knows I am not a cheating husband that is why.

Last night as I tried to make love to her, she was crying as usual. Before you know it, her aunty started banging the door and was shouting that I want to kill my wife.

I felt so embarrassed and went tried to explain to her that it’s not so. She said if I try it again she will carry my wife and children back to the village and will return her bride price.

She asked me to wait for at least 4 months before I touch my wife again which I promised her I will as I did not want her to report to my wife’s family.

What can I do? I don’t want to cheat on my wife and I don’t want to disrespect my Inlaw by sending her away. She is a nice woman but she is making me uncomfortable in my own home.

Just two weeks you are already running out

You would have started from Labour room

Mtcheeew

Musty112:
Someone who is doing nothing is complaining about teaching job being stressful . Even if you have i am not in support that you give her alm the time. That will amount to you enabling her not to do anything and from her not to reconcile with the husband since someone is footing her bills without her having a need to lift a finger. Make efforts, it encourages people to help other than just sitting around. Those working are not your slaves

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Only her knows her plans

Both you and your brother, start saving some money

As soon as she packs her children inside the house , you guys will quickly get accommodation and pack out

Remember to carry your dad along

Let her live there and enjoy her single life since that's what she wants

akwesenana:
It has been often said that if your Mother curses you, it will surely work.

Well, today I didn't wake up early to sweep the compound and my mother swept it(I believe she did so in order to find what to use and talk).

After that, she launched into a prolonged ululation about how useless I am and capped it off by saying "I'm already a failure".

Normally I wouldn't take this serious but this woman us fond of cursing her children at the slightest provocation and it seems to have effect one way or the other.


My eldest brother, I haven't set eyes on him in over 10 years and I don't have any idea of his whereabouts. Funny enough, it is his notes on HTML, CSS and JavaScript that I'm using to study now.


My second brother was on a path of uselessness but is now in a Polytechnic.

My sister finished at Unical over 2 years but is yet to receive her certificate because of a carryover. She left because she couldn't stand my mothers attitude.


Then there's me. I left home at 17 because I couldn't stand the curses and abuses then.
It was a wrong choice by me no doubt but it seems coming back home was the worst.

Not to talk of my late dad. Despite the fact that he trained her and seniored her with over 15 years, she would never hold her rain of curses on him even in front of we the children.

You guys need to stay away from her till she will be to see you

Which mother curses her children is that not witch craft

Hee mates are talking bullets to save their children, She is laying curses on them

That means she may not be well after all

You too find your level and start planning how not to go to her all the time

Tammyor2:
my parent listen to nobody they don't take advice from anyone and they are very far from home. Their brother and sister have ignored them to their fate. I have tried explaining the situation to the head of family but its not helping matters. As much as I still have my plans too cater for them and build their dream house, I want to set myself up first.

Thank you very much for this

Ok naw, you have seen that, their attitude have kept people away from them, so it's not your fault

Build up yourself as you have decided that you will

As for their dream house

Use the money, buy a land in the city and build for your self first before thinking of ther own because

They don't value or appreciate you and your efforts dont go and build a house that will become family house and you start dragging it with your siblings

Or after building,
your business may develop another thing

As it is now I don't trust any of them

Law of survival is you first

GabrielVOG:
Hello everyone,
I’m an average guy but my girlfriend is shorter not just short but she has a small stature hoping if she will add up soon��... the true is that I really love her and she loves me too, but deep down in me I always feel if we are compatible due to her stature

Please I need an advice because the way I feel for her I’ll love to spend the rest of my life with her but still considering If it’ll affect our children?

Would you prefer a giant as a girl friend, yet no love existing between both of you but pretending or pretense

Assuming you are shot and she accepts the relationship, won't you take her to the next level

The most important thing her is love, not just love but true love

Dont be surprise to if everything about her stature changes

So take a good picture of both of you and keep, one day it will remind you of when you were contemplating whether to go ahead with her or drop her

By that time you will appreciate the good decision you took

As for your children, nature ans gene will complete its work on them

Havent you seen couple giving brith to Albino child, yet they are not Albino

Is because either of the great grand parents from both side once had Albino years back even before your parents were born

The most important thing is love leads other things follows

Tammyor2:
She came to the village for an occasion, she wanted to stay at my place for sometime but I do not want her around.

My mom is in her late 40's, she is a type of woman who doesn't care about her child well being and being the first child from a womb, I was most affected. Countless time I have faced pain and cry asking myself if she is truly my mom. She has an habit of raining curses on me since my young age until after I left home at 15. Over the past 10years i have been staying with one family to another working my ass off. Trust me I have had my own share of sufferness. The most astonishing part is through those years my mom might only call once in a year that's after facing backlash from family members why she do not care about her son.

She also always half her way to block extended family members from helping me by either fighting with them at the brinks of them helping me or she will sha do something awkward at those moments that will make the helper back off

I won't be able to go into details of the sufferness I had been through with no support or parental love/care. Atleast if parent don't have money, they will support there child with prayers and care.

2020 I went home after 10years away, due to little misunderstanding, she knelt down in the middle of the compound and started raining curses on me, saying I will never prosper and all sort of different curses. I had to left home bcus of that. I went to further my studies at sch by engaging in all various type of hard labour. My mom will usually tell me going to school is not compulsory for me, that if I can't afford to go to school I will do hard labour. Yet when it comes to my younger brother she will have money to pay for his schooling and upkeep

Fast forward too a year later, things started going well for me, I was okay and doing pretty fine in school. Because of the loneliness and love I never had at young age, my girlfriend got pregnant and I told her to keep the pregnancy bcus I'm very sure I could take care of them.

That same year, I wasn't happy deep down the situation my family were in, so I gave about 50% of my savings to my mom too start a medium business for the family upkeep. A month later grandma died and my father had no money for burial. Yes my father and mother have been living together all this while. My dad is different from my mom toward me, he will always support me when he has, but he is not a fighter, he doesn't care either but hevis better than my mom. he will only give wen he have it. Though He finally succumb to my mom pressure and they both forget about me 2016 as a failure who will never make it. I was just 20years old then with ND certificate.

For the burial, I was foolish enough to support them with almost all I had, and my mom also diverted the money I sent her for business into the burial. After the burial they all went their way and I'm left with my pregnant wife and depleted account balance. A month too the due date, things were so bad I already have plans to sell some of my furniture's wen my baby arrive. After my baby naming ceremony I was left with only 12k in my account and nobody to look on too. Non of my family member attend my child naming ceremony, only three people from the extended family who are close by came from my villagewhich is 7min drive to where i reside. My parents didn't even call me or my wife to send a little token for the child or at worst ask for his wellbeing.

Luckily for me again after the child dedication things started improving, my child brought favour and luck. A family member ask my parents why they didn't attend their grandson naming ceremony, they told him because I do not support their family despite me having money. I was so angry they could utter those statements after all I had done for them. Many more I did for them was not mention here. I later found out my father was angry because I gave my mum money to start a biz fir the family but I didn't give him money to build a house.

Despite all they did, I put it behind me and still started giving the little I could afford, they won't ask me directly if they need any thing but would rather tell people or family members to call me which often pisses me off, they have spoilt me in the face of families and old friends that i have money but dont want to help them. They do not appreciate the little I am doing.

I am currently serving NYSC, but because I have been taking care of my wife and boy Without help form nobody dey thought I am very rich. I have explained to them I'm not what dey think I'm yet but they won't bulge, they get angry anytime dey need and I could not provide. I don't have a car neither have I build a house.

Despite all this I still give them everything and they still kept on telling people I'm not helping them. My younger brother university education fees and welfare is on me, I pay 50% of thier rent recently, I send some cash periodically to them too yet they are not appreciative, everybody in the family sees me as someone who's not giving his parent.

I Iive in my state of origin and my parent are staying far east. Recently my mom came home for an occasion and want to stay at my place, I was not kinda comfortable with her coming around, I do not have that feeling. Yes I could send them money and cater what I can but I do not want her around me for now atleast not until I have figured out my life and settled down. They have called almost all the family again telling them how I don't want my mom to come to my side. Everybody in the extended family thinks I'm rich. I'm really afraid something could happen to me(Village people things)

My child is 10month now, and non of them have send a single penny for him.

I'm just confused because I know if I fall today again, there will be no shoulder to rest on, all I have is my wife(not wedded yet and my parents don't care about that) and my child.

Pls I need advice on what to do and how to handle them. I'm confused they might want my head through this hatred.

Hmmm

This is very deep

You have already started a family to fill the gap of lack of love from you parents

I think you have exposed yourself a lot to them, simply because you are extending good hands to them despite your own financial problems

No matter how much you spend on them all, build your own home and business and get your wife doing something so that when you are falling your wife will raise you up

The problem has already been created between you and your family including that of your wife

You need to go and do the proper thing on her family before you can call her a wife

Secondly, if you know that person your parents respects, you need to visit the person and explain all you can without reservations and ask him to unite your family together

Your parents have to lead any group of people that will follow you to your babe mama family, you can't do without going with them

The load you are crying is too much for you and pregnanting her was another load of joy to the Pains you are passing through

If you refuse to reunite with your family, then you are prosponing the evil day

As for your mum, i don't think she is OK

You spirit is irritating her demons

Your father is just silent and following your mum because he doesn't want her naughtyness

You woman is not recognized by your parents because of lact of family values among you guys

Your child is just a victim of all the nonsense going on and you have to protect and guard him

soomedics:
Hello nlanders, help me with advice to savage this marriage..
I had my first son back in 2013, so I left the marriage with the son I gave birth to for the family of that man, when the child was 2yrs Old due to the fact that, I'm not comfortable...
After some years, I met another man, wch was fruitful with a girl and just because of beaten up and down, I had no option than to left also but I took along my daughter, so I have bin taking care of her with the little I have...
Now I met another man, some years back, wch we love each other despite I told him I have had two children for the previous marriage, he loves me with everything and two years into our courtship, we had a daughter again but we have bin together loving each other but my husband in-law victimized me that made me to sought solutions before pastor, they prayed and they asked me to leave the marriage again
But where I'm confused now is that they told me if I'm to achieve, it's either I go back to man I born for or I should remain without having husband forever, please advise me cos actually, the first Guy I had my first born for is yet to marry up till now, will that be possible as that is a shame... or I should forget about having husband or I go should pray over the last man that Loved me even with Having two children... Thanks

Is like you keep taking in and becoming pregnant in every relationship you find yourself with out taking caution if the relationship will lead to marriage or not

I think you should just stay where you are, if any of them wants you, they will come for you

That doesn't mean you shouldn't go into a relationship

But try and study your ovulation period and avoid all these careless pregnancies

You are the one suffering and their dads are just walking freely

So now all your children have different surnames from even your own surname

Honestly you have to advice yourself

You are not a baby factory

Heathrow44:
Thats naija women for u, they would rather die dan walk out of a marriage without stealing and reaping where they did not sow, during d whole of d relationship my money is my money and ur.money is our.money and yet she said she made him.who he is today, typical naija girl mentality

Is because you have comprehensive problems that's why you are not aware that she dropped out of school and gave her school fees to this same man

THELATTERMAN:
As a young independent person far from home, whose words or bits of advice should you always respect more? Your dad's or Mum's? And why?

Asking for a friend. Thanks.

You have to respect both but if you are stucked on who to pick

I will say mun
She is the only that can sacrifice and take bullets for her children

She is the one that won't eat until her children are fed

She is the one that will go out of her way to provide for her children when dad starts becoming irresponsible

No mother will ever allow her family to break or loose out

Most men are not disturbed as Mum's about family because they don't understand the intriguing aspect of what goes in and out of the family

They still leave that to mum because she is closer to the children

A father is the head of the family

A mother is the neck of the family

The children are the rest part of the body from shoulder to the feet

Any where the mother turns her neck that's where the father will face because he is the head

Dainy1:
Serious

Yeah

Saintmary:
This is deep. Your post is very insightful, the man must have lost his love for the woman and he's only using her as cook, housekeeper, stable sex object, etc


This is not the behavior of a man in love.

Thanks dear

It takes madness to correct nonsense

Samantha123:
Why does He forbid?

A family holding their child's destiny to ransome

Wizywiz:
don't mind that kid trolling all over

He is a premature adult

Samantha123:
You won't understand.

Some families are very strict out there.

Trust me, I know, especially when you have nothing to show.

Godforbid

Wizywiz:
my mama Mia ... research ko what ni ...I greet you this evening ;

My pady pady, good evening

VictorUSA:
I understand but i don't expect anyone to support that. Was your response meant to be sacrasm?

I was serious with my comments
But I believe the man is too soft to a fault
He is not took her back because of the children

That's his excuse