Tob456: Hey guys, my ex girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me cos I didn't want to carry the responsibility of her four sisters.
She is 24 orphen and the oldest of seven children. She is a fruit seller and the pregnancy wasn't plan she took in 6 months into the relationship but I have accepted the responsibility and I wanted to make her my wife.
First of all I wanted us to discussed about her sisters living arrangements after the wedding and she said she wanted to bring all four who are under 18 to live with us after the wedding and I rejected.
I suggested that the youngest two can live with us while the other two can stay with the aunty but she refused.
She said the relationship was over and she doesn't need me in her life that she will take care of the baby alone.
I've told her even if she doesn't want me in her life anymore she should not stop me from helping her financially because I want our baby to be born in good condition but she refused.
Last week I sent 30k to her account for baby stuffs and she sent the money back to me saying she doesn't need a kobo from me she will take care of the baby alone.
I want to leave her alone but it is hard for me to do so cos she is carrying my child. It will not be easy for me to give up easily I just want to be a part of my daughter life. What do you guys think please?
I am Still wondering why she is turning you down up to financial favors
I think you have tried, she wants to force her sisters on you and you have tried to give her soft landing but I think she wants something bigger
Start saving the money you are supposed to give her because the need will come up
For the main time, take a partial brake and leave her to sort herself out
I believe she is buoyant enough to take care of her siblings and the new baby
One day whomsoever that is deceiving her will leave her and she will look for you
Just make sure you are informed when she is in labour and pay her delivery fees
StagethemTVee: Afrobeat artiste Teni Makanaki who hit the limelight with her song case walked away from President Buhari without shaking him during the collection of her award.
The video shows Teni in a trousers suit walking with a mannerism that suggests displeasure and anger. One wonders why she bothered to show up for the award at all if she was that displeased with the President.
The official event was not the place and time for such attitudes and it has attracted a lot of criticism and support from online viewers.
Tunjibalogun: Yes you heard me right. My brother seems to be from hell. He is the first son, family of 6 children
He was giving all the privileges in childhood, he went to one of the best secondary schools and did his masters in UK and was doing PhD before he was deported for alcohol related offences. Prior to his departure to UK my brother tormented my parents, always having accidents that nearly claimed his life, my mom did nurse him in the hospital. He womanises and brought women to the house. My parents were tired and sent him to do his masters in the UK and he completed and was running his PhD. He became an offender and got deported. He recently drove off with my dad's car and crashed it necessitating us getting a new car for dad and just yesterday he went to drink again and crashed my daddy's car. My 3 siblings stay in abroad, 2 in UK and 1 in USA, whereas I and my sister are doing very well in naija, then this my brother from hell made us 3 in naija I have lost emotions for my brother, he brings my parents tears and nothing less.
My brother is from hell
Dont worry about him being he will soon be caught and he will go to jail, where he will go through a reform that will reset his brain
Afodot0022: Good day naira landers and happy holiday. I am writing this base on the challenge am having in my marriage. Some of you might have known little about the issue i had previously cos i brought it to the forum. It happened that my wife was having emotional affairs with another man which i knew through her chat. Though family and pastor were involved and have tried everything to resolve the issue between us. I have decided to forgive and forget and also give her a second chance even though it was a difficult situation for me, i decided to let go cos of my two daughters and dont want them to share from a broken home. Now the issue am still having is that my wife has promise to change and be a better person and also promise to cut any emotional tile with the man. But i wasnt confident with that, so i told her to block this guy on all social media and also delete his number so there wont be any communication between them cos i sense if they both keep in touch, they might go back to what they were doing before. She was got angry when i told her this and she said she cant block the guy cos they have been friends for many years even before she got married to me. She started dating the guy last year under my roof and her reason was that i pushed her to do such act cos i wasnt giving her enough attention and love which is totally a lie. So house, pls just let me know if i did wrong by telling her to block the guy or i over did it. I just felt blocking him will be best for us cos i noticed my wife is not fully detached from this guy emotionally. Pls if you are in my shoes, what will you do house. If you want to get more insight about what transpired, you can go to my details nairaland
Pls mod, help me by doing the needful
You don't have to allow this woman to keep giving you tension, when you too knows what to do
You have tried, you have to move on
If you think you are not finding happiness with her
Start a relationship, she too is not finding happiness that's why she started a relationship
At one point in our life we all need someone that we can be close to
iykbethany: During my 2019 birthday celebration, I visited this orphanage in Owerri and that's where I met this angel.
We spent over an hour at the orphanage but when we're set to leave this angel refused to let me go.
She finally managed to let me go after I convinced her that I was going to come back to get her in few weeks.
To be honest I thought about her the whole week but gradually I forgot about it.
But for some strange reason I have been thinking about this girl since August 2022. Sometimes I wake up 2am and she's the only thing on my mind. There's this strong voice that's been telling me that I made an unfulfilled promise to an orphan. So I'm restless kinda.
Problem is I don't even remember the name of this orphanage so I've been searching everywhere. And this morning I found it as well as all the pictures we took that day.
In the coming weeks I'm going to locate the orphanage to find out if the girl is still there, and possibly start the adoption process which could take 1 year according to my lawyer.
But I would like to seek your opinion guys. Is adoption a good idea? Please share your thoughts and opinions whether positive or negative.
#iykbethany #iykAnthony #iykanthonyfoundation
If you love children then you are good to go
If you are married discuss with your wife
If you are single, keep paying her a visit till she is adopted or no more there
Alternatively, get her a gift and start withdrawing after giving her the gift
gbaskiboy: My current salary is 70k, work in Yaba, Lagos. I have a baby girl who will soon be a year old. Sometime, I do side hustle to augment the salary but side hustle does not come often and is affecting the salary. Many times I borrowed to keep floating till month ends and when month ends i would pay for previous debt and continue same way. I have tried to see if I will get a car to venture into car hailing service all effort to get a car was abortive. I spoke to a friend who drives minibus popularly known as korope and he promised to get one for me before this month ends. I discuss it with my wife that I want to quit my job to venture into commercial driving business she was hell bent that the work is dirty and it will bring no respect for me. Am a little bit confused, just thinking how long will I keep up with meagre salary with heaps of bills and other household needs to cater for? What should I do?
Since your wife feels it's derogatory for you to be a bus driver, put down thr family expenses
Share it into five portions andet her chose two or three portions while you handle the rest abs the invisible ones
If you are lucky she picks feeding, you are free from feeding wahala
Then get accommodations that you can afford to pay the rent convinently
Gipre: Hello everyone. Happy Sunday. Today, I'm not going to church because of the heavy rain falling here in my area in Lagos and my street gets flooded at times.
I want to narrate my experience at Ijebu-ode this past few weeks.
I'm from Imo state but I'm based in Lagos state.
In August, I got admitted into Ogun State College of Nursing Sciences, Ijebu-ode. When I saw my admission letter and saw "Ijebu-ode" because I have never been there before, I started making enquires about the place.
Most of the people I asked in Lagos about the place kept on telling me bad things about Ijebu-ode people and the place in general. I kept on wondering why?
A woman in my church who is from Ogun State too told me horrible things about the place despite being an indegene of the state.
I did all my school registration at the Ogun State Ministry of Health, Oke Mosan, Abeokuta and then proceeded to my school at Ijebu-ode for my School registeration.
The school is located at Oguntuga street, Omo Owo behind General Hospital Ijebu-ode.
The school said they do not give Accommodation to male students. Only females. To me, that is gender discrimination but that will be story for another day.
That was when my search for Accomodation began.
A female student who is in final year gave me contacts of two agents for me to call to get Accomodation. I decided to call one of them but he said he had only a room and Parlour for 250K
In my mind, I was like "Oga, I'm a student o, I no dey find Room and Parlour o. Even 250K sef, I no get". I just said OK and ended the conversation
I called the second agent who is an Ijebu-ode man. He even took me to his office close to General Hospital Ijebu-ode. He took me to a house which is a 2 bedroom apartment. The house is owned by one very old woman. This woman would be about over 100 years old. I think her children have all moved out of the house so the have empty rooms which they are renting the rooms to people.
He said the place is 250K but wants to repair the toilet/bathroom. He started to convince to take it and that he would bring someone to share the apartment with me so I will just pay half of the money (125K). Rent is 100K while 25K is Agency.
He then said if I can add extra 25K in top of it make it 150K, he will would repair the bad toilet BEFORE I MOVE IN. He said when he brings the next person and the person pays, he would give me back my 25K.
He kept on trying to convince me to take the place that is just a 1 minute walking distance to my school (the house is on the same street as my school).
I asked him to assure me he will would keep to his words because I can't even pay that amount with such toilet. He assured me and promised to transfer back my 25K.
He even asked me when I was going to move in I said Saturday (that was yesterday) and he said I should not worry, it is a one day work. He will do it before Saturday.
All these happened on Tuesday lastweek because school resumed that day. I transferred 150K to him which I borrowed. I gave him. He gave me receipt.
I travelled back to Lagos that day. All these while, I go from Lagos to Ijebu-ode. Very stressful if you ask me. I called him that evening but his phone was switched off. I felt maybe there was no light in his area.
I woke up on Wednesday and I had this strange weakness and heaviness all over my spirit and body. I am a child of God and I can spirit when God is telling me something. This heaviness of spirit lasted till night of that Wednesday and I kept on praying to God.
I remember telling someone that I'm spiriting something negative wants to happen so I prayed about it and moved on. I called him that Wednesday night still but his phone was still switched off.
I work up on Thursday morning still with that heaviness then I decided to call him in the afternoon and it rang. He picked and I asked him about the repairs he said he would do because I was to move in yesterday.
This man told me boldly that he would NOT do any repairs atall in that house until whenever he gets the second person to move in too and that was what he told me that day.
At that moment, I couldn't believe what I heard. Did this man just change the story he told me? Is this man trying to scam me? Did this man just breach agreement? I disagreed and told him he has breeched Agreement then he started raising his voice and did not know when he said that he can even give me back my money. I held on to that and told him to transfer my money back immediately but he refused saying I should come to Ijebu-ode with the receipt he gave me.
After this happened, I started having relief from that weakness and heaviness of spirit. I started having divine peace.
I travelled down to Ijebu-ode on Friday and gave him the receipt. He started acting nice when he saw me and wanted both of us to talk. I did not even give him face atall because he is a Professional Criminal and Con-Artist.
I told him to transfer back my money. At that point, baba started acting like cartoon. Started blowing his phone and acting as if his phone was bad. Dismantling his phone and putting it back. Raising it up and down for it to catch network. What remains for him was to climb a pole to get network.
It took close to 30 minutes before he transferred my 150K back to me. Then he started causing trouble saying I should pay for his receipt 5K which I refused to pay. I only paid his so called reg fee of 2k which he told me the first day I was meant to pay for them to show u apartments.
So that is my ordeal with an agent at Ijebu-ode who tried to SCAM me.
My first time being in Ijebu-ode and having such ugly experience tells alot about what people have been telling me about the place and it's people.
Are there still good Ijebu-ode people
Should I use my real life experience to conclude on what people and indegenes of Ogun State have been telling me about Ijebu-ode people or did I just meet a bad one?
What are your thoughts?
I took time to read your message and I can say you met a good one because he transferred the money intact to you
Ebenman: I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.
My standards are: 1. At least she must be a graduate 2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable) 3. At most 5-6 age difference between us 4. Looking calm and understandable 5. She must be an average-height lady
This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.
She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.
She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.
Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.
Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?
Please advice
I think you are too proud and I don't know what you have got that is given you that confidence
You are already sensing that her siblings will start being on you if you marry her
Since you feel you are capable, you shouldn't be afraid of what ways you can help your future in law
You met her as a virgin and an sure you broke her virginity, Do you know how many temptations she went through before falling into your hands
Anyway, you are about loosing a treasure if you keep looking at standard or no standard
Pick her if you want and if you don't want leave her to go early
Preciousgirl: What is wrong with men? Can't believe that my ex guy whom I broke up with years ago is asking me out again Knowing very well that I am married Should I tell my husband? Should I block him? Please how do I handle it?
I am never interested in him
If you know that you are done with him, because you are married and because you don't want anything to do with him again
Ignore silly posts from him
Lots of men now wants to be dating married women
I don't know if because they are more matured since they are married
Or because they believe they don't have anything attached as responsibility on them but just to keep her warm
obembet: A beer parlor business is a very profitable business in Nigeria. If you start this business, you will definitely make massive sales every day. but in most cases, those people that normally do the business are woman and some people believe that those who run those business are likely to have concubine which I don't totally agreed.
So my great mature mind Nairalanders, Can A woman run beer parlor business and still be faithful to her husband?
Source: obembet
As far as I can understand, She is there to sell drinks and pepper soup
Not to sell herself
So its up to her, to remain faithful or become waywards
But whether she does it or not, men will still admire her
So it depends on, whether she will comport herself
RUDEBOYY: Please this have been giving me serious taughts and worry when ever I think about it. I don't know if what I know as my age is really my real age. Me elder brother was born on November and I was born on June of the following year,so from my calculations my elder brother only senior me with just 7months Please how possible is this??
Only your mum can explain how you were born in to the family and what your date of birth is
DaddyCK: Loookat yor message telllin womnes to strugle for foood so men can give them moiney..is this the trick u se to get moiney? must u lie? cant u juss ask. if u ask me nicely i can easily gave u NGN 20,000 (20k) juss for free,i wudunt even ask for sexxxxc,truss me. U clearly a gold digger tryin to ask mens for moiney by advising nairaland women to lie. shame on u twices!!(no oofeinse)
DaddyCK: so u a gold diggger asking other womens to chop mens moiney so God can bless all gold diggger ...correct?...why on earth are u tellin Dollytino4real to chop somebodys moiney so she can sopot her family. shame on u..and then u complain u can find man on nairaland. this is why u lose yor shance & cant find man, shame on u, u are a gold digger!!(no ofiense)
The only reply you need is that, you no get sense
Where did you read that she should chop a man's money
Waynesteave: Like you read up there, I don't actually know my age, but I can remember some event way back, I lost my mum and dad so early and I grew up with grandma.
I remember my uncle coming to take me back to lag, in year 2000 precisely and I remember very well when that bomb blast at Ikeja cantoment happened for days in Lagos.
Now key important things to know is, when my uncle came to take me back to lag it was during third term holidays and I was on my way to primary 2 then but when I got to lag he enrroll me to private school and I was taken back to nursery 3 because baba (me) no Sabi even speak English as at then, and I still remember that very moment very well.
So like how many years of age do you guys think I might be then cuz all the memories are still fresh in my brain so for me to still remember everything then, I am thinking maybe i was 7 or 9 then. I'm so confuse.
Have you done WAEC, if yes take that age in your WAEC as your age to avoid nonsense in your future data
Exxxgeee: Yet d man pays for d house u live in, got d cloths u wear, pays for light, water and waste bills, pays d sch fees... So if d female hustle up and handle food expenses. Isnt that fair enough.. Lazy ass women...
Dont worry Keep supporting your family Keep providing for your family Keep doing good Dont allow anyone determine your happiness Don't allow yourself to be dragged
Family › Re: My Pregnant Ex Girlfriend Has Refused My Help by frozen70(f): 3:02pm On Oct 12, 2022*. Modified: 6:59pm On Oct 12, 2022
