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Kealmin:
Good evening nairalanders please I have known this girl for more than 5 years now and 2 years ago I opened up to her about my intention to marry her at first we didn't really took things serious but later that year we got serious with each other and started planning ohhh, but few months ago she told me both of us can no longer work out due to somethings beyond her control, I beg her to stay but she just couldn't heed to my plea, it wasn't easy at first but with the help of God and close friends I was able to move on, though she still check on me sometimes but I noticed that anytime I see her with the guy she is Currently dating I feel bad and pained and sometimes I just feel downcast and may not be able to work that day.

Note that she said I didn't do anything wrong to her because several times I asked her why she left she told me it's beyond her control

Please I don't like sinking into depression and I don't like see myself wallowing over a lady that decided to leave me on her terms, please how do I move on without having to feel bad whenever I see her with her current guy.

Thank you
Good evening

Mod I would appreciate if you can move this to FP.

I don't know if what I'm going through is normal after breakup or is just me that doesn't know what to do after breakup

What you are passing through is expected of anyone that is in your shoes

A part of you left you and the vacuum is what you need to fill up

Is better you mourn the relationship and after that uou move on

Definitely you will come out of it and it will strengthen you and prepare you for another relationship
You have to take care of your emotions

But one thing I need to let you know now is that, She has found someone she feels, is better than you and you can't do anything about it

It also mean that she wasn't faithful and loyal to you in the first place

So because of that, you have a good reason to move on and get a replacement

One other thing, Start ignoring her chats if you can, she is keeping you on hold incase this other guy drops her, then she return to you

Balkony11223:
Helo all.I live with Igbo man for 3 years in foreign land.I dont work because of my documents.We have 18 months old baby that most time i take care of.She was planed.Most times the guy wil beat me insult me how i am lazy how i am good for nothing.Many times I starved together with my baby because he didnt give us money to buy food.He controls me comands me everything.He complains every single day about me but anytime i tel him we should separate he doesnt wana hear about it.I do all domestic works i take care of our baby.I am good woman.Anyway i found out i am pregnant again becausw d way my stomack is growing.I try to tel him this but hr doesnt wana accept the fact that i am pregnant again.He is forcing me to go exercises in gym and forcing me to be making videos there so inwil show him.We donz have sex long time ago.I feel always so wortless with him.Pls what should I doAbout pregnancy?He told me he doesnt wana hear it that i am pregnant.but my stomack is already round

It seems that you are not even married to this Igbo man and you keep having pregnancy even when he warned you about getting pregnant again

Well you have to keep that pregnancy and deliver that child no matter the situation and condition that you will see yourself

But don't feel bad if he doesn't marry you probably because he has been engaged at home

I don't see why you have to leave with a man and busy having children for him without even his family going to ask for your marriage

That's why he is treating you like nobody

victooman:
l remember when we started our relationship last year, l can go on and on having sex with my girl,, l dont get tired and her slightest touch arose me to the full,, she is the first girl l ever given or.al sex because of the love l have for her,
Now honestly is not as if l am no longer in love with her,, is just that l no longer feel like having sex with her,,
now girls who are not even half as beautiful as she is are the ones attracting me,is like l just want to try sleeping with another girl just to have a different test of another woman,,
please nairalanders help me,l love this girl more than anything but l dont know why l am feeling this way..

If you don't form the habit of keeping the one you love and remain faithful then you will hop around girls during your marital life because you may get fed up with your wife

Am glad you still love her, I think you guys need a break that will trigger you to search for her

While the break is on, like a semi breakup

Your body will tell you if you really need to make love with her or not

Nelsonprince1230:
This have been most challenging in some

relationship and marriages...

And as a result many relationship has broken because of this.

Let's talk on this.

"How Often Should We've Sex In Our Relationship?

It depends on the mood and good times

The more the happy mood the more you get sex

The less happy and more worries the less you have interest in it

manchyme:
Been monitoring my ex ever since we had sex around 26th December, 2021 and January 1st this year, because two months after, she told me she was pregnant. She has a fiance so I didn't probe on if it's mine and just congratulated her and also advised her to focus on her man by not calling me.

My previous thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/6933345/okafors-law-simply-cheaters

I was just following up, asking after her like once a month, sometimes once in two months. My calculations was that if the child is mine then I expected her to give birth between 26th September and October 1st. Ladies and gentlemen, she gave birth on 27th September. As usual, I just congratulated her and wished her well. What do you advice I do about it?

So you were sharing her with another man and you know that

Anyway that one is gone, don't go and create problems you can't finish

xin5:
Right from my teenage days I always spend money till it finished before my body rest, that same character is still in me even till when I went to the university and now that I finally secured a job.
My account is always red, as in the normal 100naira First bank .
I can't remember the last time good money is in my account for a month.
As soon as my salary comes in, I spend without Budget anyhow on things that don't matter...it's then I will remember one big yansh female I took her number previous week or to go to rich point boutique for wears.....from there everything it's going.
What kills me is that I hardly eat better food in my body and when all the money finished just the first week of the month, I'm back begging... running to my back up plans (parents and friends)

I'm dieing, I really need help on how to manage this month salary.
Because have Just been paid And I'm at the
bar in the club typing this and might not go home alone.

Nlfpmod
Mynd44

You are actually eating your future
Take this report to your parents especially your mum

She will tell what to do and how to adjust

Alternatively go and marry, make sure you marry a woman that is organized

She will help you organize yourself

ObamaMessi:
My closeness with kids help them alot. No cause for alarm!

Fantastic

JackDaAlienz:
Omo we busted village yesterday, we are in my grandmas place.
After lunch, i was shocked when my grandma told my dad to go outside and buy recharge card for her.
See man wey dey form hard man for house
Dem dey send to go buy recharge card

I couldn't help but hold my laughter when my dad went out to buy recharge card

E really shock me, my dad is a Big man ohh
As well respected thats why im wondering why his mother (my grandma) still send him on errands

As far your grandmother is concerned
Your dad is just 10yrs old to her

ObamaMessi:
Do you think it's ok for parents to share same
bed room with their kids?

I was shocked to my bone marrow when a little girl of eight was telling me of what happens between her parents at night simply because she share the same room with them.

I can't explain but I can assure parents that sharing the same bed room with their kids is not too good.

Am still wondering what kind of discussion you may have been having with her before she told you that, then your closeness to how may be worrisome

I hope you didn't tell anyone to avoid nonsense suspensious things related to what she told you

Blupen:
I just wish i can get a job to start with

God will direct you

Baronthecelebri:
you're very stupid

It takes a foolish and stupid idiot like you to read all an regard it as stupid because you reason upside down

Lucyomolola:
Dont mind the new monika,

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now. but after he came to my house and saw my parents he has been acting somehow. Like he is avoiding me.he said sth like i am not good enough for you.

He is a student in 400l, i can say his background is average(not poor not rich). He But we love each other so much,we both in our mid 20s.

When he came i left him with my parents to go get somethings upstairs. I dunno what they told him. I really love him.

Please what do i do

If he is not man enough to face your parents and still come out strong
Then he is not matured for relationship

Its now left for you to decide if he is a weakly or not

That you are from a well to do home shouldn't reduce him to nothing

Blupen:
Am a very funny guy i can make you laugh from now till tomorrow but the problem here is that am always sad and depressed
sometimes i see no point in living this life again......Am a drop out, an introvert and am also jobless am 24yrs old
is there still hope for me in this life??

All you mentioned above is enough to make you sad

Come out of your shell

fadilaMaikiriki:
Hello all!
I'm Fadila. I'm the fifth child in a family of four girls, two boys.

Please help me out!
How do I unite my breasts and make them stand in unity? I don't know what to do. The only time my breasts are together in one accord is whenever I get them locked up in their house. And this is because I forced them, not as if it's their wish to be together. Because, whenever I open the door to their house, they all fall apart, looking sad and facing the opposite direction, like two bitter housewives being wifed by one husband.

I've tried ways to unite them but, it seems like the ways I've tried are not working as fast as I would want. Please, which other way(s) do you think I can get them to stand upright and in unity?
Has anyone encountered this or been in this situation before, or seen a thing like this? Please, I need suggestions on what I can do to remedy this situation and make peace reign in their midst. I want them to be able to face upwards, stand up boldly on their own with or without any support from anyone or anything.

Thanks.



Sannun ku!

All breast are not the same

engtechmedia:
Hello Nairalanders my friend here has been asking this girl out for about one year and she finally agreed few months ago, the point is he is so into this girl that he apologize for any minor things even if he is not wrong, and always tell her that he can’t do without her.
All the alpha males in the house what would be the outcome of this relationship, will it last because I know this guy doesn’t have heart for breakfast with the way he’s acting with this girl, you guys always say when you boost a girls ego too much she is most likely to dump you for a bad guy, but I think this their relationship is exceptional to those rules as both of them are enjoying their relationship, I think she is okay with the way my guy is simping, note he doesn’t even have money and she doesn’t ask, he is a pastor and the girls is a church girl too.

He is still a learner by the time he gets the needed experience he will join the rest of other men

KalioPeter:
Can't men also do prostitutions?



Share your opinions please

Men do especially young men who does that for a living

They concentrate on more matured women who have the money but doesn't have a man who will do it fine for them

So they get paid privately for a good job and once you can get it right then you keep going there till you are finally set to end the nonsense

Such men understands the moves and what it takes to wet a woman within seconds

Its like a side job

Gabreil2121:
I’m just ashamed, I have a very small dick my girl doesn’t moan when we have sex unlike my guy that has a very big dick and when he is having sex there will always be tears,moaning, and shoutings from the girl he is having sex with…

You have no problem with the size

Go and master the act of using it well

Meanwhile, do more of fore play and will moan for you then you ride on

You need adult lectures, meet your follow guys to teach you how to keep her moaning

Is a skill you need to master first

Nomanlike:
Dunno if this is the proper forum for this topic but here we go...I have been hearing and reading about stories of people who where having it tough in life but things and life got better for them after they got to make pledge in the river and appease there ancestors. Please has anyone here done something like this and what advise can you give . thanks

You are about handing over your life and entire generation to the goddess

The devil will give you one and take two, then round it up for you with sorrows

Reason well before you enter into such agreement

[quote author=Threesha post=117090070][/quote]I think you should cut the relationship if you know that you are not capable of committing one into relationships and visiting her family

Just respect yourself and stop honoring all invitations

FriendsAndFans:
Hi, I am planning on settling down this year, hopefully. Most women I have met are often times corpers or women who only concentrated on academics and don't have a business/vocational trade/handwork.

I figured instead of searching for a working class lady, I can assist the one I find. I believe in such a case, one can still assist such a woman with a business to engage in. I think it's the ideal thing to do that.

The issue now is, what kind of moderate business can one setup for a lady who has little to no idea of business or vocational trade? A business that will be easy for her to cope with and expand.

Your moniker says friends and fans

Since you are a friend and fans of the daughters of eve, why not marry one and invest in her instead of the what you are planning so that you don't come here to complain about how she recked you down and ran away with your money

JerkyChan:
Whatever you do, setup the business in your own name, and let her be the manager i.e. work for you.

You dont necessarily need the money, but dont just open the business in her name.

E get why.

When he is not a mugu, will he open it on her name

Bukayosakes:
https://www./527925635357353/permalink/650938163056099/

Strait to jail let's have peace that's where they belong

johnfaleks:
Facts About Men.

1) No man is perfect

2) Men are like children. So be like his mother.

3) Hear quickly; talk slowly.

4) Never compete with a man.

5) Never try to be equal with him.

6) Be fast to apologize when you know you are wrong.

7) Don't be too jealous with him. This is good for your peace of mind.

You may check on his phone if you want, but that isn't necessary.

9) Always be honest as a wife.

10) Never leave your house for a long distance without his permission.

11) Make sure you know the food he likes, and prepare that at least twice a week if money allows.

12) Don't let your husband get in the house with a parcel in his hand.

13) Try to make a budget together.

14) Be his adviser, not a critiser.

15) Don't ever forget that a wife is a helper of husband.

16) Learn good things from your mother.

17) When God blesses you with children, never give more attention to your children and forget your husband.

18) Learn to smile at your husband.

19) When your husband knocks off from work, greet him. If possible, hug him.

20) Don't let your husband leave the house without eating. This may mean "eat" and "eat".

21) When your husband becomes angry, stop talking.

22) Keep the bedroom clean always.

23) Never put cloths on the bed. Some men hate that.

24) Be a clean woman.

25) Look romantic.

26) Always remember to do what a wife should do. You are not his sister.

27) Treat his relatives as you would treat yours.

28) Oftentimes ask how his relatives are doing.

29) Go to prayers together.

30) Never compare your husband or your house to someone else's.

God bless you

You need to mould a woman that will fit into all these then plug her to electricity for optimum performance

Even the late Queen never had this routine

Boyeejay:
Greetings NL. I'll be very brief.
I'll be 20 by year end, a final year student but been at home due to the ASUU strike.
There's this cousin of my mom's who resided with us for some time during our stay in my mom's country. She's in ghana now with a big eatery (I've checked it on Google) and other investments doing well for herself, my mom have been in touch with her and have asked her if I could come over to her place and if possible work too. Her cousin welcomed the idea and also asked that I should ensure I'm with all my academic credentials cos she'll like to put me in school too and also will also sponsor my trip to her place.
Now me I'm confused because I feel ASUU would call off this strike any moment and considering my level in school already I'll like to continue but on the other side this isn't a bad idea too.
Please NL I need your various inputs on this matter let me weigh my options.

I. Will advise you go there for a visit pending when the strike will be called off then you come back to finish your schooling

When you graduate, after service you can go there and do your Master degree if you think it is easy for someone to tell you that she will sponsor your education in Ghana

What makes you think it's going to be 100% possible without having issues with here

More so she is not your mother or direct siblings

Finish school here and hold the certificate before going anywhere, so that you don't miss both education

Kukere15:
Good morning Nairalanders, I need advice on the next steps to take. Please pardon any errors as I had to type this as fast as possible.
To God be the glory, I got married few months ago to girlfriend of 5 years. But ever since she gave birth to our son 5 months ago, it’s been one excuse or the other to avoid having sex.
My nature of job entails that I work from home, meanwhile she is currently serving, this means that we are always at home together. We live in a very comfortable apartment, we don’t lack anything in the house at all, and I made sure we have all anti-hard work appliances in the house, so there cannot be any “I’m tired” excuse as I also take a fair share in taking care of our son. We can go more than a week without sex and she wouldn’t even feel it, if I complain she will say ‘sex isn’t food’ and I can never masturbate when I have a wife at home. I have sat down to talk to her many times, she will be remorseful and go back to her act after 3 days. I have never thought about cheating, but body no be firewood. One of my old cum dump texted me recently and the temptation to ease my tension is all over me.
I need advice please

Women don't understand the importance of sex the way men do, so pls,
Advice yourself

You already know what to do and you don't need our approval

maxkenny:
Good Morning Nairalander

How do you manage a chronic insultive wife?

Its true violence against women is a crime but when a woman is so addictive to insulting, causing provocation, emotional imbalance, how do you manage it without unleashing your anger or make mistake?


is there law against women insulting or causing provocation.

Mature minds please

When she is not mad, she can be insulting you just like that

You need to say precisely what happened between you and her that may have been triggering such bad attitude

What about you, what have you done to warrant such nonsense from her

If really you paid her bride price and did the needful as a responsible family man and she has been insulting you

Take her back to her parents let them finish the work they left undone

Once a man can't find love and peace at home, he stays more outside and anything can happen in between that careless period

[quote author= post=117043120]Source: https://punchng.com/newly-married-artisan-burns-self-blames-abusive-wife/[/quote]Marriage is like an ocean, you must use a life guard or life jacket to swim in it

Dont go into marriage if you are not emotional prepared

Sirseedorf:
I feel weak, terrible and hopeless. I lost my job today due to management change of system, I never saw it coming, in fact it came as a shock to me. Am just confused on what to do next, I have huge responsibility ahead of me, even now, I have to find something doing or else negative thought and depression will kill me faster than gunshots. I can't cry out physically but inside I feel pain as if a knife as pierce my heart, my self esteem is weak, my life is heading on a rock, I don't bet, never drink nor womanize, I just want a better life for myself, but it seems better life might never be achieved while still leaving with joblessness and failure status.
Help me nairalander, I don't know what might become of me in the next few days or weeks.

You have to be strong at this point else you loose every thing including your happiness

This looks like the end og life, but it is not

Belive God every thing will be fine

Cast your burden on him

Dannyfan:
Thank you Ma

Thanks dear

jbsuth:
When i Look at my Father and all the things he is currently going through, i feel like killing the man. I have thought of poisoning Him, shooting him . I have thought of having him Beg for his Life before i pull the trigger .

A thread was on front page about a nairalanders father being so promiscuous and sleeping with married women. My own father was worse. People come to him when they have marital issues and my father will sleep the woman and further destroy the marriage. He has done alot and our family name has been soiled. There was a time i spent close to 2 million settling issues regarding sleeping with a naval officers wife.

I am 26yrs of age. I took my woman home to see my parents so i could start marriage plans. I stayed home for days with her. We started having serious issues and she left. She called and said she was no longer interested. I was Mad about it all. Two weeks later, a friend that works in a Hotel close to her place called me and told me that my woman now hangs out with a particular old man. He sent me pics of her with my own Father .

My Father takes her to the hotel to sleep with her. The hotel is like a guest house. I made an arrangement with my friend and told him to let me know when they are together. He called me few days later and i busted them without him knowing i was the one. I poured acid on the girl and she is badly damaged .

My dad came back him and lying to my Mom that he went for a church program. He has been receiving call from the girls family and i can see hw dejected he looks. He doesnt want to tell me what the issue his.

I feel like letting him know i did it and also feel like Killing Him. I might do it. I am Pained.

You poured it on the wrong person
Uou should have poured it on your dad if you are sincere with your report