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Don't be surprise he drove through out the night and expected to drive the next day no rest at all

For how much sef ❓

This Tiwa no send anybody

Anago0147:
Thank God he wasn't drunk today

Look at his big belly, filled with kaikai and ekpeteshi

This man is a slowpoke,where is his wife ?

I hope he took permission from his wife before he participated in this

Every thing your posted here was sensless

Grow up your mates have left you behind

He is only delaying his judgment day

Let him continue to run until he reaches the end of life

Idiot

D1 is not looking himself or as usual

Ajaerof:
I accept all d blames, but am down psychologically plz I really help nw, no body to talk to

Calm down, confront him he will deny, persuade him, he may tell you the truth

Then be bold and tell him you want him out from that act

Give him time to come out of it

Does he enjoys sex with you or he just sex you for the fun of it

Anytime you see his juniors hanging around him, tell them politely that you don't want their friendship with him that they distract him from paying attention to you and the kids even the entire family

Then remind him he will go to jail of he is caught

That's the little I know, don't allow this to swallow your emotions, you may lose control of yourself

Lastly, involve him with your kids in family prayers and voice out any thing you don't want in your family, le him chorus amen to it

Drabeey:
She's married now

Good luck to her

Debbielam:
Hello
I have a delivery company that does that for me
Also the fat is expelled through frequent urination
It doesn't purge at all and if you're someone that experiences constipation a lot you'll realise that it will stop as soon as you start taking the bfp
It is to be taken first thing in the morning 45 mins before you eat anything

That's good, pls send your contact details

The idiot has lost it all, both his dead body and his ill gotten assets are now taken over by government

This one is not inside life but outside life

His family now live with pains and regret

ClitRaider:
No bweasts, no yansh, no body, no beauty.
See legs like mosquito legs, thigh like cockroach own, head like something wey dem dey take shock motor for Ladipo market.

Fine guy don suffer.

That's his choice, he is comfortable with her and having a happy marriage

If its to be delivered to some where close to palm Grove, how do I get it

Where does the fat goes or how does the fat expels, through solid or liquid wastes

What's its does and don't

Jordanbelfort07:
this is how things should be
a woman is supposed to be begging a man for marriage and not the other way round.

You go wait tire ❗❗

lostsoul955:
thanks boss
your comment just made feel better

Lol

SenecaTheYonger:
No one uses toothpaste to tighten their private parts. Women are not that stupid.

Thanks for saying it out, I still wandering who came up with this crap

They just feel women are doing a lot to pin men down whereas they are just being themselves

Wherever he like, let him die there

Whoever sells in a beer parlor will always be a suspect even when she doesn't even have time for such

The man too has finally ended, both of them will separate when they meet over there if they will ever meet

hunterezi:
Good day Nairalanders ,

Happy Independence Day to everyone.


I'm a final year student in a university. In my early 20s, earlier this year I had sth with a girl and it turned into pregnancy.

When the pregnancy was two weeks, she told me about it and she opined we flush it.

We went to different Nurses and they all told us not to abort because it's dangerous.

She managed the pregnancy till the 5th month until her mother got to know about it (Her mum works at Eko, she only stays at home on Sunday's).

They called me, I went to them, they scolded me and did the normal things a normal parent would do.

On my own family part, Dad is a retiree(Hes got no money), and I'm the only son. Got two elder sisters. They abandoned me since they heard about everything.

Now, this is the week she's gonna deliver and I'm yet to provide anything for the girl and the baby.. The little money I get from. menial jobs, my school projects and final year wahala is taking it.

The problem here now is.. Her family told her to block me, they all did too. She sent me a msg that she won't allow me see the baby again until I do something.

I'm just depressed here and don't know what steps to take.

I plea on Nairalanders with similar experiences to advice me on what to do cos I'm losing it already.

She blocked you until you do something, like marriage rites or what ❓

Look, don't commit into any marriage yet

Keep visiting them and be humble, be ready to accept insult and disgraceful act

That shouldn't bother you

But if they tell you outright that you should stop coming to their home, simply respect yourself and obey

Continue to communicate with her if you guys are communicating

One day, you will be needed

As for your siblings, don't pick offence with them

Just manage everything and every one, it will get fine one day

Just focus on your studies

For her delivery, her mum will sort her out when the time comes

chocolateme:
We are doing well in our relationship, normal misunderstandings and all. We share information about our different families and hides nothing from each other.
To cut a long story short, we were in his parents house, somehow a petty issue arose and led into a heated argument him and i, everyone was trying to calm us down. His mom tried to calm me down but I refused to calm down until I got my emotions all out.
An hour later, he said that I disrespected his mom by refusing to keep quiet when she asked me to. I wondered if it was about his mom over my emotional outburst, he then went ahead to delve into my family discussions I had with him in the past and chose my youngest sister to insult me with. He told me that she is my God, and that I cry whenever she talks to me, he even told me that she can never call me on phone. I don't know what made him say that knowing that I am a very hardworking person and I must not be in the same financial level with my siblings. The words he told me is too deep and I can't seem to stop crying since then. I am a grown up that is working tirelessly to be somebody so why that comment? She is my blood for crying out , I can't feel hatred suddenly for my sister.
Now he termed it that he wanted to hurt me for disrespecting his mom. I dont know how the 2 is connected. I even went to his mom to apologize and explain that it's not everytime someone is in that mood that he or she listens to anyone around saying it's ok.
Honestly, every single thing I feel for him disappeared within the twinkling of an eye, been trying to get it back but not working. I guess this may be the beginning of the end of my relationship.

He lost the gentleman in him, that's if he was ever a gentleman

He insults your family because he knows their story but he has his and you never used it against him

You should be angry and its possible your inner mind doesn't feel love for him again

Give yourself time to heel

Saao:
Hi everyone,

How do you handle a wife that careless about dirt? I complained about it to her several times but she is comfortable with it, and I'm getting comfortable eating out than in my house. I'm the type that if I noticed dirt I won't forget it. I know how to cook but it will be wrong for me to ignore her food and walk to kitchen to go and cook. Last time I'm almost ate cockroach in my soup thank God I didn't.

If you see her out side, she looked clean but her kitchen hmm, I talked severally nothing is changing.

What's the best way to handle such persons? Don't forget, she's my wife.

If she hasn't realised that she is dirty in the kitchen, up on all your talk talk, then it will be very had for her to be clean

Stop giving her time and attention

If she ask you why, tell her she and the kitchen irritates you

Eat out if you want and eat in if you can endure the mess

We always hear of how most especially women claim there marriage is the best and all but in reality it isnt.
Its not like there are no "ballons" kinda marriage where things are usually rosy but its a lie when they tell you there hasnt been times when husband displayed some 5 minutes madness.

Yes o... Sometimes its more than 5 minutes to days but trust me there isnt ONE perfect marriage.

This morning... Okay actually I stay with my aunt and they have this scooby dooby kinda marriage where everyone is playing, dancing and all but sometimes when they get into their rooms I just feel like do they mourn someone everyday in that room.

Fastforward to this morning... May I say this man is the perfect gentle man who doesnt shout, beat or argue with his wife. A sweet man I must agree. Thank God im not gay... So this morning I was sleeping and I started hearing shouts for the 1st time ever since ive been with them and probably since they married as confirmed by their neighbours by their bemused countenance.

He was so upset, angry, was throwing things and shouting at the wife saying: "Be very careful"... "I will not tolerate that from you" etc.

My question is; "Has your husband displayed this kinda madness eventhough you have that perfect marriage?"... "Was his action justified eventhough we still dont know what happened as they failed to disclose. Very funny people?".

More importantly to the men; "Is it necessary sometimes for a man to show this kinda madness to keep the woman in check?". You know sometimes their excesses can be over the top.

Lets have your thoughts.

For him to raise his voice that way he must have tolerated enough

No marriage is sweet or sweet, they do have that after taste which is bitter

tobaseye:
Hi, guys just want your opinion on this as I don't want to sound harsh.
My immediate younger brother is 36 and wants to settle down by next year March. He is a graduate but currently into business as he hasn't been able to secure any job since graduated from University for like 3 to 4 years now. He has been living with me with other younger ones since 2003 in my one-room apartment until I relocated from Lagos and left the room for them while I keep paying the rent till date.

The issue now is that he has been searching for accommodation and he wants me to assist him with it. The first one he got was Two-room self-contain 250k per annual, to pay for 2yrs, Which I said No, because I know considering his present condition he would struggle with the rent after the first 2yrs. Though he said he will be able to pay subsequent rents, I don't deceive myself, I know he can't unless a miracle happens.
He just informed me that he has got another 2 rooms for 150k p/y to pay for 2yrs and agreement and commission going to 400k. He has asked me for 300k to bear the rest himself.

My problem now is that my brother might go bankrupt even before the wedding, judging from the cost ahead of him and his financial capability.

NB.. From 2016 still date I have given my brother more than 300k to support his business, but he seems that he keeps cash instead of using all the money to buy goods and he is not that

This is the same business I did to send him and three others to higher Institution. The same office (Warehouse) I used, so I know the business is lucrative though not as it was in the last ten years.

So, pls what Advice can I give my brother and for how long will I continue to take this hung responsibility of his?

We are seven from our parent, I am the third. Our parents are not active anymore so we are responsible for their upkeep.

I can understand the situation in the country at the moment but these are responsibilities I have taken up since 2001 and want to get them off my neck.

I hustle well but I haven't really enjoyed money myself because of all these responsibilities. Built house for my parents, I haven't even built my own just left it at foundation level, even car I didn't buy but could afford it ever since 2005. I have really seen and experienced poverty while growing up the more reason am not living a flamboyant lifestyle.

Pls, I need advice as I don't want to sound harsh to him because If I were him, I would marry in a room and add the money to my business and when my business grows I will go for a bigger accommodation. But it seems we are not thinking the same way.

Even the room I left is bigger than 12:12 in size and only share toilet, bathroom and kitchen with just one tenant. He currently lives there with our last born (doing great in the same business) and two of their friends. I can ask them to vacant the room for him.

Am sorry to be blunt but take my words

Your brother may rake you down simply because you are doing fine and he is not

Since he wants to marry, bear in mind that you will contribute to his wedding

Be straight with your statement that you don't have money and you took loan for doing all the projects you did, it's now affecting your ability to save, the bank is in your neck

As for the room apartment he is living where you pay the rent, consider your junior brother and didn't ask others to leave the apartment for him

He should be the one to leave the apartment for them

Stop giving him every support he needs, if not you will be the one to cater for his family

As soon as he gets married, start planning yours if not you won't be able to settle down because you are waiting for others to stand well

Let him look for the apartment he can afford to pay the rent without being a burden to you

Learn to be standing on your ground, if yare not serious, he will survive his living in you

Start planning too because if you are down non of them will give you 10% of what you need to stand up

Time waits for no one and there is no time again

lostsoul955:
Hello nairalanders..

I have been a visiting this forum as a guest for some time now and I decided to sign up for just this...

please I need all the advice I can get.. including insults


am a 300 level student in a state University,, I was doing fine at my first/second year in school
until my first semster in my 300level when I missed my full semster exams..

I don't want to be a drop out.... I need advice on step to take.. I know I will have an extra year but I don't want to be a drop out


please help a brother

You already knows what's ahead of you

Be courageous and brace yourself

Take a bold step, forget about what people will say, it's not your business to be concerned about their statement

Your future is in your hands

Excesslove222:
When I was dating my husband, I remember getting him an original Calvin Klein belt as a birthday gift, I had to empty my account then cause I was very broke.

I even remember asking him if he would love a belt,and he told me "yes" that I should get him a black one.

He pretended to appreciate it, only for him to tell me after we got married that he wants to dash it out to somebody, I asked him why and he said the belt does not look original.


This was just about 2 months after getting him the belt, he did not even wear it for one day!

I was so heart broken but I let it slide, I jejely collected my belt and I'm still wearing it till date, i promised myself never to get him a gift anymore.

I kept to that promise for about 2 years, every of his birthday, I just wish him a happy birthday with word of mouth and mind my business.

But this year, I felt I should do something special for him.
I decided to surprise him, i ordered a cake, fried turkey and invited a few neighbours just to make it special.

He was indeed surprised...only for him to tell me later that night that he does not like cakes (this is coming from someone that likes eating cakes) and does not like turkey (he also loves eating meat).

Well, I concluded to myself that this is the end of me trying to do something nice for him.

And I don't blame my Nigerian sisters that get men "singlet and boxers".

Pls don't this attitude of him turn you off

He is unappreciative, that's just it

Let him face the family up keep alone

That's how they allow their ego to put them in a tight container

You have tried so far

You were asking what men want ❓
They just want a woman to be as submissive as a mugu even when it's not the best

lighteast:
Good day fellow nairalanders, I have been a member here since 2013 not until I lost the account, every effort to retrieve the account never yielded any progress because I do not have access to the email used in the acount creation, so I decided to view as a guest.
I virtually sleep and wakeup here everyday, it makes me laugh, read news all around the world and learn new things everyday, infact it is part of me I can't let go easily, so that is why I decided to bring this up here as my last resort, been planning to post this for long but lack the courage , your piece of advice I shall consider because I believe we have intellectuals here, enlightened fellows who won't stoop low to degrade another.

The circumstances trailing my birth was controversial, I grew up without a father figure in my life, I am twenty three now in my third year in the university, I will try as much as possible to hide the identity of the two characters involved in my story including yours truly.

My mum got pregnant for a man which sparked an outrage some years ago, the man denied my mum and left my mum to her fate, my mum bore all the burden and tantrums thrown at her at that time all alone, she got rejected by her people, her church and friends, but she never gave up, she took me far away from home to train, in return I never disappointed, my brain and personality was too hot my teachers and classmates would wonder which planet I came from, from my primary school days till I graduated from secondary school, I never for once settled for second position in the class overall termly report.
things where going on well in my innocent mind I never bordered thinking of my life, what the future has in stock for me nor the reality that will soon set in.
Let me not bore you with my story, fast forward to my university level right now, mum lost her job and things changed immediately I got admission to study the same course my father studied, now that was a coincidence as I have never met the man nor heard anything about him, I got to find out we share same trait, same look and same level of intelligence [maybe] from a man I came across.
life became a nightmare for me in the uni to the extent I contemplated suicide on several occasions.
I could recall how I summoned courage to ask my mum about my dad, wouldn't it be fair I get to know him atleast to help ease the situation of things, like get support from him knowing full well she can't cater for my education anymore, maybe a Daniel will come to judgement through him, he is a public figure and an affluent now, but my mum said I should never think of that, that if I ever try that then bear it in mind that I have hurt her, that she will never be happy, that if I leave her after going though all this suffering because of me, she will never be happy.
life is a living hell for me, should I listen to her and keep struggling with life until I make it or throw caution to the wind and go for the man whose blood run in me, I am scared of dropping out and becoming a nobody in life, still thinking how to pay my hostel fee that is due but no help whatsoever. been at home since school resumed, I believe she is still bitter with the man, I don't know if I should get both of them to reconcile and forgive each other for my sake or should I just move on with my life, please I need your advice on this.

This is a sensitive situation that you are in

Whatever decision you want to take, put your mum first to avoid breaking her wonded heart

Both of you will have to try has to see that your education doesn't suffer

She is pained and bitterly pained

No matter what you will tell her, she won't want to hear the word reconciliation unless she has made up her mind

Your dad too doesn't want to search for you, reasons are best known to him

Believe in God and tell God to make your dad to search for you

If your dad searches for you, you will enjoy him more than you searching for him

PrettyMelly:
Good evening Nairalanders.
Pls I matured advice here. My boyfriend n I dated for 2yrs den we broke up n stayed apart for up to 6months. But we talk if we bomb into each other. He's in his late 30's while I'm in my 25yrs. Few months back he started begging for us to come back, talk abt how he missed us etc etc...
Last week I decided to give in, n we started off. One of those days, I went visiting n I saw a drugs on his refrigerator, I googled d name. Only to find out dat it was for erectile dysfunction. I asked him nicely wat d drugs is meant for n he denied saying he doesn't know abt any drugs. After much talks he later said it's for treating body pains.
Since den he's been acting up with me. Not until today he apologised but things r still not right.
Aside that, he chats intimately with other girls on his WhatsApp, even to calling one my wife.
I thought abt the whole thing today n thought of ending it.

Pls Wat's d right thing to do in this situation, cos I hate anything stressing me emotionally.

He might have had or he having erectile dysfunction and uses the drugs to sort himself out

Take him Suprise and fundle with his dick to see if it will erect immediately or it will take time to get attention

Advice him to go for STD test to know his status

If possible go with him and chose a hospital and read the results together

Drabeey:
Guys, naturally i wouldn't have brought this up here, but it seems i can't think straight any longer.


I need your candid advice my good people.

I am a guy who is set and ready to hit the stop botton of 'single and bachelor's life' ASAP. .... After many break ups and ladies palavas, i have finally gotten this lady that suit my heart desires. I love her without any remorse and reminants.

Just as we are about sealing the fate of our marriage some days ago...... In short, i was even running my mouth about how u can bring heaven down and carry land back up when she suddenly stopped me and broke this news about her genotype and blood group.


I am a guy who can be related to an 'educated illiterate' because i don't think i have ever asked a question relating to this issue for once. Im always concerned with two things.... No HIV, Not SS. Im too stupid to know any other thing.

As fate may have it, she stopped me from making vague promises and knowing what she is before i make the major move. I tell you my online family, this lady is all a man can ask for.

Now that she had opened the truth to me that she is a B- and also CC genotype, im confused.

Naturally, if she had not raised any suspicion on this issue i wouldn't have given any glitch too, but i went as far as making researchs on this rare two 'combo', i am AA and O+ Now i can fry my beans no more.

Now the question is, should i proceed or just stay put..,, nonetheless, the later is not a favorable option because 'im stupidly in love with her'.

My research have given wider knowledge the she might go through a lot of stress while pregnant and probably the child too. Please how true is this, im an 'ibile' guy who don't really believe all this science brouhaha, but shouldn't I ?


Please i crave for matured advice, im in a middle of a life attached decision making, HELP ME!

I also know i've opened a bashing avenue to my nairaland jovial friends, yet kindly use @drabeey for your kind advises. Thanks



Drabeey wrote this....

Only an experienced medical doctor and a gynaecologist can advise you better

I have noticed this about girls, once you become friends with them, they always bore you with their personal problems, forgetting that as a man you have many needs to be met,

I remember a situation back then my friend (casual) wanted to buy a blackberry phone for 20k, I asked her to raise 10k that I will support her with 10k, she got angry and said I should forget about it. I pleaded with her oo and gave her the whole money but I can't see myself doing that now.

On another occasion, just 2weeks ago, a lady I was still taking to (I liked her though) within few days she started telling me she needed to park out from her current house and that she needed 180k, she didn't ask for the money directly but I got the message and had to avoid her like a plague.

I don't think I'm stingy but all around me I see guys doing extremely well, buying properties and the peanut I have, a lady wants it all for her comfort. If I go broke from pleasing a friend, even a girlfriend. I don't think anyone will still be around me.

Why are girls like that, share your experience

It depends on your body language and the way you present yourself to them

Be modest and they will understand that you are trying to survive

You can't be giving a girl an impression that you are a big boy and wje the request comes you go hiding

Be yourself and those that appreciate you for your status wont be a bone in the neck

uglyboi:
There is this girl I'm madly in Love with, she's not that beautiful but I love her for no specific reason. I've been trying to ask her out since last year but all I've been getting is a no. Sometimes, I try not to talk to her but I find myself with her again..I'm not handsome but ugly is not the word to describe me. I'm really keen on a serious relationship with the girl. Me and her are so close to the point her sisters think we're dating. All she says is she's not ready for another heartbreak or she doesn't have an interest in me. I'm deeply in love and confused.. What can I do to make me stop thinking about her?

Since you guys are close, give her time to accept the relationship

She must have had a bad relationship in the past and is afraid of having another one

Your pure heart with her will break in for you

Don't rush her keep getting close to her

My own is Lucifer 66 and his comments are like that of pure devil

Then NwaAmaikpe, his comments are always senseless, always out of the point

Yamleg:
Her boobs were nice to see and the rest until after she gave birth 6 months ago.
One of her boobs is extremely bigger than the other.
Kindly help.
It's an eye sour.

Women boobs are not the same with it

The left boobs is bigger than the right boobs

Even the left side of her body is bigger than the right side

So it's applicable to men

You as a guy, your left egg plants is bigger than your right

Now that she has put to bed, don't expect everything to be intact

Pregnancy leads to elasticity of the body

No wander, a boss of a cult ❓