₦airaland Forum

Be it assembly or manufacturing the point is you are sha doing something and I am proud you are Nigerian. Respect

we as a country have not been able to balance the quantity of graduates entering into the system withe the amount of jobs created by the system.
we have 2 million graduates yearly being produced by all institutions of learning, lets assume that this number has been constant for say 5 years, are we saying that our employment system has created 10 million jobs in 5 years or better still ten years? your guess is as good as mine.

Nigeria has failed to provide jobs for her citizens for years and it has equally failed to enlighten its citizens on the potentials of entrepreneurship to its growth, no basic social amenities to easy business, no laws that protect small businesses, dependence on foreign goods, poor infrastructural development. better put it is difficult for small businesses to survive and grow in Nigeria.

Are there a number or unemployable graduates in the system? Yes. Do they constitute up to 70% of the system? yes. are we able to provide 600, 000 jobs yearly for the employable graduates? No

I blame the government and parents for the state of the nation because they both were concentrating on themselves and the present that they forgot about the future. the british and our founding fathers created opportunities for them while they sat, complained and murmured for years now the chicken has come home to roost and once again they take the easy road our graduates are unemployable, I sometimes wonder how these same graduates hustle and go abroad and make a success of themselves. i guess the climate there turned them to employable.

the way forward, the average nigerian graduate does not think, and if one can't think he cant see opportunities. the reason for this is because a physiology or go to school get good grades and get a job has been implanted into our brains. this needs to be changed to go to school and make a difference in your society. No foreigner will create 2 million jobs for us we have to do it by ourselves by making sure that young people use their energy to create value for their society, 70% of america's economy is made up of SMEs, we need to replicate that here in Nigeria and steadily grow our exports.

Innoson should concentrate more on Nigerians buying his cars than government, the latter are business destroyers. If kia can sell so much cars innoson can do better with aggressive marketing.

Nigeria a country with 180 million methodology on how to fix her problems.

I applaud the initiative, I just feel the numbers don't add up, $5billion with pumpkin leaves as the major cash crop doesn't make much sense. How many people or companies in the world consume or use pumkin leaves as raw material? Or better still who is the targeted market? If it were cassava as a major cash crop I would have believed it since it can be used to get starch and even alcohol. Good initiative by his Excellency at least he is doing something irrespective of if the numbers add up or not.

What we need is to stop the names calling and put our brains to work. I was born into a country with epileptic social infrastructure and my children are most likely going to be born in same state, this is an indication that I've existed but not lived to create a difference for my yet unborn generation.

The past is gone with its irresponsible leadership we are in today going to tomorrow and we can make a difference if we have the will and decide to work hard.

Firstly we need to cut government spending I suggest we the people initiate a 75% cut on political office spending, how will this be done? There is a call back clause for senators and honourables, if they refuse let's call them back home, when a few are called back the others know we mean business.

Secondly investing in agriculture each local government should have modern farming tools that can be rented to farmers to farm. And the products sold outside and inside the country. We can forces on cash crops to sell outside the country.

Investing in mining, we got too many natural resources wasting in the ground.

We also need to revamp our manufacturing sector to process all we mine and grow, there by adding value to raw material.

Deep sea fishing is also a lucrative venture.

This things take time to grow but best time to grow an apple tree is 10 years ago, the next best time is now. We cut cost, invest the cut, and gain profit in the future.

SSpeter:
I know this might not be totally right but at least it will make me feel great. Egbon wants to get married in march and automatically I will become the best Man. But I don't want him to get married to her. It is not because of her but the dad.

It all started back in 1998 my dad was having a court case with our supposed in-law over our house. The house was sold to my dad by the late late brother of our supposed in-law. That was even before my dad got married. We have lived in that house for more than 10yrs. My siblings and I were born there. After the death of the brother in 1998 he dragged my dad to court saying his brother was only a benefactor and does not have the legal right to sell the building and their late father made him the executor of His properties according to the late father's will. My parents were partners in business and their office was located at the ground floor of the building where we lived. Their goods were also stored there (plumbing equipment).

Prior to joining the plumbing business, my dad was into commercial inter-state transport services after suffering heavy losses he auctioned what was left and joined my mum in the plumbing business. A year later he was in court with our supposed in-law. The legal battle started in December. Egbon travelled with an aunt of mine who had won a visa lottery the previous year. My sisters were older than the guys. they were already in boarding school. I was the king of the house. My dad suffered many embarrassment at the hands of our supposed in-law. He dragged the case for some years money meant for business ended up in legal battles. My dad had to borrow to pay suppliers. He couldn't not order for new materials anymore and the business eventually collapsed. Extended families gave their support until 2003 when a lagos high court handed our supposed in-law victory

My dad wanted to appeal the judgement but his lawyer told him to get an apartment with whatever he has left. Although my parents thought they hid everything from us. Perhaps my sisters didn't notice because they were not always home but I saw my mum cry severally. I saw the fears in my dad eyes. I listened to their whispering at night I knew we were doomed. Our supposed In-law sold the house to a bank. The bank gave two weeks to evacuate. But before the notice expired they brought sledge hammer and started destroying the building with our properties in it. My dad tried to protest but he was beaten and arrested. For the first time I saw our "Supposed In-law" that day ordering the boys to destroy everything. My dad was later released days after. I went to live with my cousins. My sisters also went to live with my other cousins.

In 2006 I wrote a mail to Egbon I narrated all that happened to him and he vowed he was going to ensure that they payed for it dearly. Few years later, I got admission into the university my parents embraced christ; But I still feel bitter. How time flies, my sisters are both married and it's just me preparing for the life of a bachelor; Until recently my brother told me his plans of getting married, I noticed it because he has visited us more than usual last year and had extensive discussions with my parents. But whenever He came back He still promised my dad that he will never forget all that happened. My dad told him that was in the past but I know what my brother was capable of doing as regards family.

He brought his supposed girl friend (I believe that is all she will ever be) to the house last christmas everyone welcomed her but immediately I set my eyes on her, she looked like the man that was giving orders to tear down our house. I asked her for her surname, when she said ****US, I knew she was the daughter of our long time enemy. When they left, my mum and dad begged me that I shouldn't say anything. That they have forgiven him. She invited my parents and I during the new year but I declined. I have also told my brother I can't be his best man. He thought am joking cos it was via mail. My brother had assured me severally whenever I told him what became of us after then that incident and he told me "I will give up anything to deal with the Man that messed with my family". I guess I will have to tell him the whole truth. But my parents keep calling me every single day to beg. "Saying I should not bring him misery. That they were happy he decided to bring home a cool headed lady".....But I just can't let it go. Unless my brother and I will decide not to be brothers anymore because I will never go to his house if he marries her. I will never associate myself with him or anything that has to do with him.

I have finished typing the truth I want to send the mail to him...I don't know why I am hesitating (I guess my parents will forgive me sooner or later) but he has to know the truth!!!!....i can't dine with my enemy!.....I don't want to see her dad face again....never...I hope am doing the right thing....i think I am.....perhaps I am...

You have to forgive my bro, and forgiveness means you letting go stop thinking and talking about it. Vengeance is Gods work not ours, God has been faithful in bringing your family out of such a big mess and he has blessed you it will only please him for you to extend the olive branch to your oppressor.
I think your brother has a right to know the truth, but as its popularly said what you want to say is not as important as how you say it, let your parents be the one to tell him and who knows life may just be trying to orchestrate a reconciliation of both families.
God has forgiven you so much therefore you have to forgive others and allow God heal your pain.
God bless you

This is the biggest corruption problems we have, when friends and family act ignorantly on truth. If the man is not an arms contractor/ security agent why should he be paid through that channel? Do doctors go collect their paycheck from a law chambers? I honestly think we need to appeal to our senses of morality and discernment on right and wrong. It is wrong to obtain money for a good job done through the wrong channel. The funny part is all of these accused try and pass the bulk on GEJ without proof, no document has so far indicted GEJ on the sharing of monies to these guys, the only document in circulation is the one that ask dasuki to obtain money to buy arms.

Olisa simply return our money, family in the future kindly probe the source of your patrons wealth. God bless us all as we make Nigeria work

This kind of people come to steal from you. They steal your youth, you shouldn't be having premarital sex in the first place, if you are as good as you claim get yourself a wife and render her due benevolence. She told you when she gets married you will still be a lover, u better run she just signed and stamped your death warrant.

The question to the Presidents utterance is this, if we arrest abubakar shekau and the courts grant him bail we Nigerians feel safe with him walking the streets? I consider sambo a bigger terrorist than shekau because he held the resources to stop BH and save the lives of our soldiers but he shared it with his friends thereby becoming responsible for the blood of all those dead as a result of I'll equipped military

Nice car but how many can afford it? And why aren't our senators buying it there by keeping the money in the system?

Why was an embargo placed on us in the first place? Is it only the US that sells sofisticated weapons? If US refused to sell can't we go somewhere else? Look these excuses are flimsy, FFK needs to stop justifying mediocrity. Even a five year old knows that if the store by the house doesn't have candies you go to the other store down the street.

These same people who have sat on the development of the south east are coming to spill nonsense, all they want is their own share of the bounty called national cake but unfortunately PMB has refused to share or rather he is selective in sharing.

I feel this development is a blessing in disguise we will be forced to think n implement alternative sources of income, my only regret is that GEJ didn't save enough to help us diversify conveniently. I don't see 2016 financial year as a tough one but one laced with opportunity to explore untapped resource.

There was a prior coup attempt before the vasta incident purely orchestrated by the langtan Mafia (officers from plateau state)in the army, most of who were executed. This displeased the Mafia and when they caught wind of the vasta saga they required the same treatment as met to their comrades. If IBB refused to kill vasta n co, he stood a chance of getting over thrown by the Mafia and even get killed, it was a case of my friend against my position, because IBB knew vasta was innocent, his wife even pleaded for vastas life.

PDP is unrebrandable the name is synonymous to corruption and theft, that why anyone who switches over to APC becomes a mini saint. change the name and improve your chances and for the love of life remove the idiot publicists who keep granting stupid press conference. On a lighter note I believe in the government of PMB to perform and truth be told we will begin to feel this government in 2017 cos 2016 is going to be foundational.

It's only natural that the government go after Linda, the banana island show off just opened her to the Lirs. She should have learnt from the likes of messi or neymar how to quietly evade tax with the code: keep quiet about income and purchases. I see the firs coming for their own pound of flesh too but on the brighter side her taxes are helping in infrastructural development.

louistearer:
But brother, u knw hw women are.
1. She knows we are agemates d respect won't be there is we eventually ties d knot.
2. Because I was financially dependent on her don't u think I have lost my pride as a man to her?
She doesn't hesitate to remind me that she rented and furnished my ouse. Don't u think that's an eye-opener to what she will turn out to be when she has my ring on her finger?

Tell her how you feel man, abi don't you guys talk? Marriage is a partnership between two people and communication is key to the success of such partnership. Tell her you dont like how she talks to you, state your worries to her of why you are having second thoughts.

chccho:
OK o now I get u, but he says she is the type who isn't even adventurous in the bedroom. He even went as far a buyingvsome intimacy gadgets...

To have a successful relationship with a woman one has to communicate always, instead of buying intimacy gadgets he should have asked his wife what he needed to do to take their sex life to the next level or how to satisfy her maximally same should go for the wife. It's all about communication all she may want is six packs or get away adventure. Different taste for different women, and communication should be a continuum, just because she likes a today doesn't mean she will like it tomorrow.

chccho:
u condemn infidelity but, u feel that there is a justifiable reason it could have occurred!!! At the end of the day after u might have heard all sides nothing at all Justifies infidelity in marriage so pls what is your point here

I believe I used the word no moral right, infidelity is and should not be an option in marriage, But infidelity can be instigated by a partner. One of the needs of marriage is sex, if a partner is not meeting the needs of the other its only a matter of time that the latter finds fornication or fornication finds him.

I have audienced cases where a wife feels too holy for sex and the husband has be starve for months and fornication comes knocking and he falls everyone start pointing at the husband but the question is would the mess have occurred if the wife played her part as a partner? Most marriage cases are more complicated than we see and paraphrasing apostle Paul for the sake of sexual immorality every man should have a wife and visvisa and the spouse should render due benevolence to the husband and visvisa. If we don't render due benevolence to our spouses we are only a step away from immorality.
From the OP I can't say if he rendered his due benevolence or not I am simply pointing him to that direction to evaluate himself if he kept his own end of the bargain, if so consolidate on it if not make amends.

chccho:
what kinda trashbare u spilling here so all u can say is its the OPs fault his wife cheated or what Na pole like u dey always give false advice

Behave a little bit mature my dear, state your point and don't create a feud with names calling.

There are three sides to every matter OP's side, the wife's side, and the right side. We only heard OP's side it is only fair we hear the wife's side then we can decide on the right side. I condem infidelity in the strongest terms, infidelity can either be as a result of personal greed (long throat)/ selfishness or due neglect of a spouse needs.

A kingdom divided against itself cannot stand. Everyone one wants control.

Realwvn:
My wife and I had been married 15 years and we had been through some challenging times like most couples. Our sex life was regular but my wife was never really willing to explore things in the bedroom and whilst I desired her to be more adventurous l accepted it.

I had bought some toys but she seemed aghast at thought of using them. I received a promotion at work and the demands of the role meant longer hours at work and often compiling reports late into the night. During this time I noted my wife gradually spending more time on the computer on social media mainly with her group of close friends. Over a 6 month period she stayed up later and later and I would tell her to come to bed but eventually fall asleep. Not long after this she told me her and a friend were going to another state to visit a work colleague. Given l was busy at work l thought a good chance to catch up over the weekend. So the wife went and returned and said she had a great time and caught up with some old and new friends so l was happy for her. She soon returned to staying up late and noticeably seemed consumed by her mobile. this continued and a month or so later I had a conference out of town and asked if wife wanted to come for the few days but she said she would get bored. So this came and went and it appeared my wife was losing interest in sex.

One day out of curiosity l decided to check the home computer and in checking the history l found the previous night an adult web site had been accessed. I didn’t think much of it but a few days later same thing so I asked wife and she said it was prob just a pop up she may have accidentally accessed.

The history log was wiped from thereafter. I could never see my wife having an affair but it began to eat at me thus l downloaded some spyware. The results stunned me as l found my wife was . I accessed emails and pics and found my wife had spent a weekend not with a friend but with a guy who she spent all weekend sleeping with. Explicit pics showed her being a total dirty slut and the guy was very well endowed and noticeably much thicker than I. He had also travelled and slept with her in our bed whilst l was on the conference.

I love her so much, I have forgiven her but the thought of it can’t make me go near her again.. I don’t know what to do, I am scared of starting over with another woman again or being alone


http://www.naijanewsrave.com/my-wife-slept-with-another-man-what-should-i-do/

I think the problem is your conception on forgiveness. Forgiveness means you stop talking and thinking of the wrong done you. Secondly forgiveness is of the heart same way love is, your head will try to picture the episode over and over but you heart has to tell your head that you have forgiven your wife.

Your wife is venerable after you caught her and a vacuum of guilt is needing filling, the question is are you going to fill it or are you going to allow her lover fill it?

If possible take sometime off work check you and your wife in a hotel outside town and talk about how you feel to her and ask questions about her affair, and her sexual disposition and most importantly forgive yourselves. You may be surprised that the whole affair was your fault, yes she had no moral right to cheat but you also had no moral right to starve her of attention and sex.

The action of the army is condemnable but what about the lawlessness of the sect, constituting public nuisance by barricading public road?

Sin is a curse on a sinner but the blood of Jesus washes it all away when we repent. Our nation has failed to take responsibility in the past and more sadly Christians have failed to take responsibility in the place of prayer instead we complain and scheme. If we will humble ourselves and pray and repent God will hear us and heal our land a day is too much for God to change things.

Secondly God has deposited His creativity in us that creativity has to start finding expression, we need to create jobs and opportunity for others and our success is sure cos we have the mind of Christ.

this story sound very one sided, earlier on some pictures of trailers set ablaze where filtering social media. the question is who set those ablaze? my second question Is the blood of 8 nigerian worth the incarceration (legal or illegal) of Mr Kanu?

Now we know those who caused GEJ the election.

We can't have real black Friday cos we don't produce anything in Nigeria. The idea of Black Friday is to clear out company's goods in preparations for a new production year. We import almost everything and our imports are not based on partnership but local retail hence we can't really reduce the price of commodity.

Gbawe:
Indeed. Many Governors can and would love to do more but our system of governance, as currently constituted, means the greatest tools of empowering the people still resides with the Federal government. for example, the emergence of a thriving SME sector (small to medium enterprises) , which is usually the biggest employer of labour worldwide, will not be a reality without constant and adequate power supply.

I do agree that uneasy lies the head that wears the crown but I think we need to stop making excuses for our govonors. Countries make a living on agriculture or better still we made a living on agriculture before oil and the last I checked we don't need electricity to plough our farms if we plant hectares of land filled with cocoa, groundnut, coffee, bell apple's, grapes, cashew etc that's a huge amount of foreign exchange, if we can get boats and do ocean fishing that huge forex for us. What's stops the state governments from leasing lands to farmerz and purchasing modern farm machinery and renting it to them? Why can't they partner with agro tech firms on technology that will enhance crop productivity?

Why can't states invest in partnership with mining companies to explore the natural resources in their states? If we keep puting the blame on FG we won't move fwd and it is my opinion that if we have 24 7 electricity most states will remain the same. I mean Donald Duke showed us what vision can create in a state. Let our govonors show us what their vision can create.

That's how it should be, taking care of 12 million people should wear on out talk less of innovating ideas for job creation for some 7 million people. The thing is that most of our govonors are mentally lazy, govonors in America take their states from $3 billion to $1 Billion surplus in four years but here in Nigeria they want to reduce minimum wage and block leakage. Attack is the best form of defence it high time our govonors start tingling with fresh ideas and concentrate less on the already dwindled cow. I admire elrufai for his honesty the job isn't easy for those who really want to work and most of our fat stomach govonors are doing nothing in government house.

The solution to this is simple give us a breakdown of the 1%. APC needs put its house in order as a house divided against itself cannot stand. Furthermore if we are active about issues TSA we should likewise be active about the paycheck of government officials, we should have to pay our senators for making us come at ourselves on social media.