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Politics › Re: Aisha Yesufu Analysis Of Peter Obi Chances Of Winning The Presidential Election by gabicon: 9:06pm On Sep 21, 2022

porka:
Even your own submission is more muddled than hers.

In your first paragraph, you claimed that a "huge number electorates are fixated on a candidate not a party" and ended up saying that there's "no data" to buttress her assumptions.

How did you get your own data to come up with the "huge number" in reference?

Then you went on to submit that some zones in the south are controlled by a party, and concluded that it would be difficult for another party to wrestle control.

How do you people reconcile these seemingly distorted views in public space?

The Christian association of Nigeria is an organisation that speaks for Christians, they can be considered a huge number. I got my data from them.

Reference: https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/nigeriansll-vote-individuals-not-parties-can-president/%3famp

Politics › Re: Aisha Yesufu Analysis Of Peter Obi Chances Of Winning The Presidential Election by gabicon: 6:47pm On Sep 21, 2022

Kingozymandias:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LSTKGZ1Sp-k

SUMMARY

Southeast
Peter Obi will sweep the southeast not because he is from there, because he is the most competent. Going by voting patterns since 1999 southeast never supporters their own candidate infact we always make fun of them on how ibos never support their own but this is the first time since 1999 the ibos have come out enmasse to support their own.

Aisha feels it has to do with the PDP betrayal. She said since 1999 the southeast is the only region that has given pdo everything 100% , no other region ever stood with the PDP 100% the easy the south east did and how did the PDP repay them when it was their turn? They treated them like they don't matter.

Southsouth

Peter Obi will sweep the southsouth like the southeast, they vote exactly like the southeast and follow the same patterns. Even though the PDP VP candidate Okowa is from the tegionhr is light weight .

North Central

Peter Obi will sweep the north central totally based on Christians who feel marginalized in the north central. The people are angry and feel that both the PDP and APC betrayed the south because the presidency was supposed to have been zoned to the south so a Christian can take over so people feel betrayed.

Aisha feels the Muslim ticket will work heavily against the APC and the more they try to use media to downplay it and make it sound irrelevant the more they alienate the Christian citizens because it downplays their emotional feelings of injustice. Peter Obi will benefit greatly from this error of a Muslim Muslim ticket by APC.

She said it is as if the path was miraculously being cleared for Peter Obi by his own rivals. She said if the PDP has feilded wike and it's candidate Peter Obi won't have won the southeast and southsouth.

Southwest

Aisha feels Tinubu's influence in the southwest is overrated and Peter Obi will split the vote or even pull and upset and out reach Tinubu in the southwest.

Northeast

Peter Obi won't do well there. Atiku would dominate here with the vote split with Shettima not because of Tinubu.

Northwest

Obi won't win here either but he will do far bette there than in the Northeast.

This analysis is very presumptuous. First of all, this is d first time in our history when a huge number of our electorates are fixated on a candidate not a party, hence there is no data to support this claim. I'm more afraid about these election postulations because they have the potency of unrest should they not match the actual election results.

More importantly, based on data, the SS and SE predominantly are PDP strong holds, they control the structure and resources in such areas, it's not going to be a walk in the park wrestling the PDP hold in these states. If you postulate that Labor party will split the votes, that is comprehendible but an outright win will require a lot of hardwork.

Based on previous elections, the turnout in the South East is very poor, a cumulation of 3 states in the South East can't match the voting power of rivers not to talk of Lagos and Kano.

This election will be decided in the north, the north has experienced a reduced occurrence of unrest especially in the NE, it might translate into an improved election turnout. By the way this election is going to be the most financially induce one in our history.

The race is still too close to call.

Politics › Re: Nigeria's Inflation Rate Stands At 20.52%, Highest In 17 Years by gabicon: 9:56am On Sep 16, 2022

oshozondii:
https://twitter.com/Broadstreet_Fin/status/1570390828803137539?s=19[/quote]It is expected, it's a cost push inflation, as a result of the rise in energy cost, production cost increased so did, material cost along sid energy cost.

It's not directly the governments fault but it indirectly is. If we had great power infrastructure alone it has the potential of dropping inflation by more than half.

Politics › Re: Buhari Confers American, Spaniard, 200 Others With Nigeria Citizenship by gabicon: 9:41am On Sep 16, 2022

rickpat:
congrats...you just become citizens of hell(Nigeria)...hold your original country passport well o..cus you will be needing it soon... Lol

Lol, just maybe they see something in your country you don't see. Irrespective of how dangerous fire is, some people see it as a destructive burning flame while others see it as a cooking, metal forming flame. It all about perspective.

Travel › Re: Why Do Nigerians Abroad Stay Several Years Without Visiting Home For Once by gabicon: 1:26pm On Sep 14, 2022

SergeantTitus:
Why do nigerians living abroad fail to come back to Nigeria even for Important things like their parents death, burial, brother's wedding etc? I also find it weird some remain there for 15, 20, 30 years without ever visiting home even if na just once.

The problem with many of us is that we swallow the rhetoric propagated by the first world media that their country is void of problems.

There is one constant in the world, irrespective of the country. We have the wealthy, the rich, the upper middle class, lower middle class, and the poor. Very few immigrants break it to the upper middle class, fewer to the wealthy and rich.

So back to your question people can't afford to visit their home countries because they have financial responsibilities that out weight the need to come home. Moreover, them coming home isn't beneficial to them because those at home just milk them dry.

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Travel › Re: Traveling Abroad With Soon To Be Wedded Fiancee by gabicon: 1:11pm On Sep 14, 2022

ersonleads:
Please can someone help me on how I can go about traveling with my soon to be wedded wife Abroad. One of us will be schooling & working. The other will be working. Presently working on the funds.

How can it be possible & what country will be easier to on my intentions. Please I need your help because dis country done tire me

I applaud you on having a plan to better your life, however you need to understand that relocating for a single person is difficult not to talk of a newly wedded couple. "Country don tire me" is not a plan. If you intend to relocate, you will need to do a lot or research, some countries are suited for singles relocating while others accommodate couples and families.

If you have any doubts about your fiancée, leaving abroad will multiply that doubt. The laws of third world countries makes you the man of the house, the laws of first world countries makes her the woman of the house.

The punchline here is have a concrete plan with contingencies.

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Career › Re: What Do You Advise Me To Do? by gabicon: 11:07pm On Aug 31, 2022

DaddyGideon:
Good day Nairalanders
I've been a regular member in here but I'd decided to open a fresh account for the sake of privacy, and please pardon my typographical errors or probably correct them for me cause I like learning.

So here's the thing, I've been working for someone as a labourer for the past five years in a small private company. A very stressful work and very time consuming that I see no future in it and its affecting my health at the same time causeI always look stressed up, however I've been able to save a little over 3 million within this period of time. But your man is getting old, am 27 and by now I'm supposed to have a sable business of my own I should be doing.

Now am planning to leave the work cause to me it seems like I've wasted all this years cause I don't have any single skill to start with, I have no knowledge of any business to venture into and if I decide to go and start learning handwork it will take me more time, hence my confusion.. So many thought have been going through my mind. if I should relocate, buy a small car and start uber business or if I should look for a way and leave the country, or if I should just venture into business.

Please guys what do you advise me to do

The truth is no one can or should tell you what to do with your life, never give anyone that much power over you.

If you decide you want to start a business, a business starts from identifying a need or having a skill that can be used to provide a service or having a gift/passion. So you have something, you just need to sit down in a weekend in deep thinking and outline what you have or what you are willing to learn. While you are doing that you can consider putting your savings in piggyvest and get 11% profit that way your money is only shy of 7% of inflation.

There really is no age a person should have a stable business, intact statistics shows that most start at 40, I'm not saying it's wrong to aspire, I'm just saying don't put too much pressure on yourself. Set goals and work to achieve them.

Lastly, search deep within the last 5 year, there might be gold in what your labor work.

Family › Re: Is It A Crime To Admit That Your Spouse Is Older Than You? (my Story) by gabicon: 6:45pm On Aug 30, 2022

Gosh234:
I will go straight to the point and make this brief. Recall this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6990203/should-marry
On March this year I got a job as ICT officer in a firm which made me move to Lagos ,we are super excited about this development and everything working out fine (No relationship is perfect, understanding kept us going)

I served in a university, towards completion of my service year, I accomodated a guy who got to know about us
One day we were in a arguement of dating or marrying someone older than you.
I stood my ground that I can marry irrespective of age, provided it is what I want
The guy came to conclusion that it seems my spouse is older than me, we laughed over it (That ends it)

Secondly my friend Davidson that live in the same compound who is done with his studies, working while waiting on NYSC.
I told him about my woman , how I love her and ready to settle down as soon as things go as planned for me (he have seen her visited once but they never met)
He asked me if she work, I told him
He asked of her age, I JUST TOLD HIM THAT SHE IS A BIT OLDER THA ME.

While discussing with my woman last night , I was assuring her how much I love her irrespective of anything then I pointed out the two above incidence
To my greatest surprise she became angry eith me
In her words
a) She detest dating underage, how she found herself in this mess she can't tell

b) I should go ahead and tell my mum and elder brother (they just talk via phone) and even all my friends

c) I make her look desperate, that she is loosing interest already

d) I insulted her and she can't trust me again

NOTE
a) I promised her that no one will know of the age difference even if they know she is older

b) I never mentioned her age to these people or the age gap

My crime is that I admitted that she is older and I am proud and love her wholeheartedly

I don't see this working out again
I feel so belittled
Gosh

I think you are hiding under your shadow, the age difference bothers you but you continually justify it in your head. And clearly it bothers the lady also. You guys need to revaluate your relationship and decided if age difference is a problem in the relationship because wether you like it or not, the subject is going to come up from time to time the outcome of that conversation will depend on how comfortable you are with the whole thing.

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Politics › Re: You Won The Ticket, But Lost The Election, What Have You Achieved? - Wike by gabicon: 1:07pm On Aug 11, 2022

Nwodosis:
Wike is a bitter loser!

I don't think it's about loosing anymore, southern governors came together and were hosted by the Delta state governor, the result of that meeting was that power has to return to the south. Now a supposed money bag buys his way against an agreement made by the southern governors and we expect everyone to be silent. A bigger question is "if Peter Obi won the PDP ticket will Wike be blowing hot?"

Romance › Re: Men, After Damaging Some Women, You Now Want To Settle Down With One Not Damaged by gabicon: 10:50am On Aug 10, 2022

siofra:
As a virgin, I'm not getting married to a non-virgin. I don talk my own

The Naked Truth: Some many men spend their best years "damaging" some women AND then when they're ready to settle down, they WANT a woman who's not "damaged" at all. Y'all, please help me make some sense out of this one! #EmpoweringWomenNow #victorhill4 #msruby

I really don't agree that a gender has the ability to damage another gender. We are all gifted with the power of choice, if someone isn't treating you well, you have the choice to walk away. Should you choose not to walk away, the consequences of your staying is on you. The biggest problem in cases of abuse is low self esteem.

Romance › Re: Coping With A Spouse With High Sex Drive by gabicon: 11:49am On Aug 06, 2022

Odewaleadesoye:
Source: PUNCH

When one gets married, you need to understand that there are 2 types of sex. There is sex for mutual pleasure and there is sex as a duty.

Mutual pleasure sex is the sex were you are feeling the moon, stars, butterflies, love in the air etc. It can come as a result of a gift, a service pure desire, feelings etc.

Duty sex is satisfying a partner especially when you don't feel like it. Duty sex is why quickies exist, the end goal is to satisfy ones partner.

The application of this two type of sex in marriage will help in setting a framework that effectively manages sex.

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Career › Re: What Is Your Take On Thanking Your Boss After Receiving Your Salary? by gabicon: 11:45pm On Jul 30, 2022

ashewoboy:
A yes or a no.

Do you thank your boss after receiving your salary?

Use the comment section to tell us why you choose any of the above.

This is a clear indication of the kind of organisation you work for. It's most likely a business owner/ one man show business, it most likely lacks qualitative structure. It a very unhealthy place to both work for and lead.

Politics › Re: Okowa, Ortom Appeal To Wike Over PDP Presidential Primary Fallout by gabicon: 9:56pm On Jul 29, 2022

Newsgist24:
https://www.channelstv.com/2022/07/29/okowa-ortom-appeal-to-wike-over-pdp-presidential-primary-fallout/

Wike is pained. Atiku bought the presidential primary, Okowa convoked the southern governors to Asaba and resolved on southern president but worked against that resolution. Tambuwal who Wike worked for in the last election, worked against him. To be honest, Wike single handedly kept PDP together since they lost power in 2015, a Wike defection would have buried PDP.

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Foreign Affairs › Re: War: Russia’s Plan A, B, C In Ukraine Have Failed Already – Britain by gabicon: 6:34pm On Jul 29, 2022

adenigga:
Source: https://dailypost.ng/War-Russias-plan-A-B-C-in-Ukraine-have-failed-already-Britain

Make Una dey there dey deceive Una self. The most dangerous fellow to fight with is the one that has nothing to loose. Russians are so accustomed to suffering that they are uncomfortable when they are not suffering. The solution to the Ukraine crisis is diplomacy, US should swallow their pride and speak with China, China can end this thing in a giffy.

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Politics › Re: Insecurity: My Solution Will Be Decisive And Immediate, Says Peter Obi by gabicon: 8:23pm On Jul 25, 2022

Odewaleadesoye:
Source: Channels TV

Economic prosperity isn't going to solve the present problem of insecurity, it can solve the security problems on a longrun but on the short run, you need brute force every terrorists needs to understand that the penalty for terrorism is death. Create va special terrorism court, once convicted hang them. The biggest problem we have is no consequences for bad behaviour.

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Why Have I Always Failed Job Aptitude Test??? Most Especially Dragnet by gabicon: 5:15pm On Jul 23, 2022

symbolofhope:
Hello Nairalander, i have always failed job test most especially Dragnet test, could their be anything am missing out, how do you guys ace those PWC, KPMG, E&Y, Deloitte tests

I used to prepare with all seriousness and relevant past questions, thanks for your advice as usual

It's great to practice and all, but you need to understand that the pool is very large. Most companies can only employ less than a hundred people from a pool of 5000 people. The competition is steep.

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Politics › Re: Funke Akindele: My 20 Million Social Media Fans Will Vote For Me (Video) by gabicon: 7:32am On Jul 15, 2022

Maleekdon:
Popular Nigerian Actress and PDP Lagos State Deputy Governor Candidate, Funke Akindele has said she trusts her large social media following and over 20 Million followers will vote for her during the 2023 Lagos state gubernatorial elections

We Need PDP To Take Over, People Want To Right The Wrong - Funke Akindele

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JcFiR4Z9ppE

What percentage of your followers are residents of Lagos? How many of such followers are eligible to vote? Go find out what happened to John Dumelo in Ghana, millions of followers but couldn't get up to 50k votes.

Politics › Re: Insecurity: We Can No Longer Tell Buhari What He Wants To Hear – ACF by gabicon: 6:26pm On Jul 12, 2022

iwaeda:
https://dailytrust.com/insecurity-we-can-no-longer-tell-buhari-what-he-wants-to-hear-acf

It's a little too late to call out the president. You watched as your people were demoralised by leaders from your own home town, then you also watched as they were destabilised by terrorism. Well the next phase is crisis, except you make the right choice in 2023. Forget Buhari, his presidency is just a wasted opportunity, we elected a personal ambition not a leader who wants to serve his people.

Politics › Re: Tinubu: Shettima Is Unaware That He’s My Running Mate by gabicon: 9:05pm On Jul 10, 2022

Islie:
https://punchng.com/just-in-shettima-unaware-hes-my-running-mate-says-tinubu/

Tinubu might have just shot himself on the foot, his present permutation assumes that with a core Fulani man he can capture major northern votes in at least 15 states and hold on to the south west.

The dynamics of Nigeria is changing, more people are interested in the outcome of our presidential election than it has ever happened in our history. Our churches are getting more involved in the election process. A consolidation is all that is needed his plan for the sw crumbles. Political thugs will face steep opposition this election, it's going to be a very tough race.

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Family › Re: A Law Banning Poor Men From Polygamy. by gabicon: 3:22pm On Jul 04, 2022

jmoore:
I watched Newsline on NTA yesterday. This man has four wives and 19 children. The family is poor and the kids beg on the streets.

1. There should be a law banning poor men from marrying more than 1 wife.

2. Another law that makes it a criminal offence for a poor man to have more than 2 kids.

Laws are easy to formulate but difficult to enforce. Are we ready to share contraception to all and sundry? Are we ready to legalise abortion?

Celebrities › Re: Seven Trials Funke Akindele, Husband Endured In Marriage by gabicon: 4:33pm On Jun 30, 2022

ijustdey:
https://dailytrust.com/seven-trials-funke-akindele-husband-endured-in-marriage

I had the feeling when they started dating that they weren't meant to be together, not because they are necessarily bad people but because it is really difficult to combine a thriving career with a blended family, the icing on the cake was them working together. They needed a professional to help them work on the relationship and as usual Africans don't like to admit they have a problem not to talk of seeking help.

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Politics › Re: Ahmad Lawan Announces The Defection Of Ibrahim Shekarau From APC To NNPP by gabicon: 1:06pm On Jun 29, 2022

Shekarau shouldn't complain, he assented to the new electoral act that delivers the structure of the party to state governors. Buhari refused to sign but they forced him to, now the state governors are using their legitimate gotten power and senators are decamping. NNPP is taking Kano this time, whoever gets to appeal to lion of Kano, will sweep the votes, I don't see Atiku getting it though.

Politics › Re: PDP Threatens To Expose Obasanjo Over Comment On Atiku by gabicon: 2:06pm On Jun 28, 2022

Djdeebrain:
https://tribuneonlineng.com/pdp-threatens-to-expose-obasanjo-over-comment-on-atiku/

https://tribuneonlineng.com/pdp-threatens-to-expose-obasanjo-over-comment-on-atiku/

This is the difference between the old school politicians and the new school politicians. They better let OBJ be else the little reputation atiku is managing, baba will destroy.

Career › Re: Is ICAN As It Is Now Overrated by gabicon: 2:06pm On Jun 25, 2022

In a sense ICAN is overrated because of technology in another sense it is a river of opportunity for those who have ICAN skills because they can leverage on technology to create great products that solve our daily problems.

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Sports › Re: Chelsea Targets Osimhen As Replacement For Lukaku by gabicon: 12:13pm On Jun 23, 2022

robosky02:
https://dailypost.ng/2022/06/23/chelsea-target-osimhen-as-replacement-for-lukaku/

After watching Osimhen at the world cup qualifier, I must say he has a lot of improving to work on. What he needs now is a good manager not pressure. With the right management and discipline he can be as prolific as Drogba.

Family › Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by gabicon: 10:10pm On Jun 22, 2022

Purple2003:
Good morning everyone,
Pardon me if I am posting this under the wrong section (this is my first time of posting on this platform).

To the matter....
I need legal & other advice on how to handle a situation that's causing me a lot of mental stress. I loaned 280,000 Naira to my cousin's husband around January for his business. There was no written agreement (I blame myself for this) because I felt it would be awkward to ask a family member to sign papers before I help him. Although I have other proofs like recorded calls and conversations where I asked for my money and he kept on begging for more time. The agreement we had was for him to payback by March. I had plans to purchase a fairly used Keke-napep with this 280k (plus some money I had reserved in my account).

When it was time to pay, I called him a lot to ask for my money. Sometimes, he'll pick and beg for more time. Sometimes, he'll pick and just leave me saying "hello hello hello" without a word from him. Most of the time he won't even pick my calls. He once asked me to send my account number but he didn't send anything (I felt like a joke). This went on from March, April & May. During this period, I had spent, on feeding & other bills, all the money I was supposed to add to the 280k in order to purchase the Keke-napep. This Keke-napep would have generated money for this bills if I had bought it then.

I've been staying at his place since beginning on this month because I don't have any money to fend for myself. When I came here, he told me that his customers promise to send the money before 15th of this month but they didn't. Now he said they promise to send it by the end of this month. All these while I have been patient and tolerant with everything, including the treatment I've been receiving since I came here (I don't even want to go into these treatments). I've been staying indoor since I came here because I don't know anywhere in this area. Just sitting one place and waiting for time to run makes me think about a lot of things and it's depressing.

I can't take this anymore. Even if I have a soft spot for family members, I also need to think of myself by taking necessary measures to get my money back before they ruin my plan of purchasing something that will help me survive daily. I need advice, please

The bigger question is does he have the money to repay the loan? If he has the money to repay, that's just wicked on his path but if he doesn't, I'm afraid you have lost your money. Now you understand why banks ask for something in return for loan as security.

Politics › Re: Atiku Picks Okowa As VP Candidate, Will Present Him This Morning by gabicon: 10:56am On Jun 16, 2022

AntonVince:
With due respect to the person of Okowa, I think Wike is the PDP's best bet if they're truly desirous of dethroning the APC.

Yes, Wike will be good at winning an election and doing dirty jobs. But as a VP he will have to travel and represent the country, I'm not sure Wike has that composure to do the duties of VP. The Ideal candidate would have been Obaseki, but he can't risk his second term for an uncertain VP seat.

Politics › Re: Labour Party Does Not Have Offices In 25 States Of The Federation - Bashir Ahmad by gabicon: 11:45am On Jun 13, 2022

onez:
Please we need leg work in Kano. I believe Kano youth will soon do the needful. NLC and Trade Union Congress should convert all their offices in Kano and all far northern states for this revolution.

My dear one bottle of cold campaign bottle for you. If we want Peter Obi to stand a chance, we need to start putting boots on the ground, sustain the trend online for the next 9 months, physically visit people at work, markets, joints, busstops etc. We can stand on the shoulders of TUC and NLC.

Family › Re: My Narcissistic Brother by gabicon: 2:28pm On Jun 11, 2022

Moonshine101:
Hello Everyone!

I have a family issue but I don't have someone to speak to about it, so I'm very grateful for your inputs on this matter.

SOME BACKSTORY (You can skip this if you want):
I'm the youngest of my two siblings (26M). I have a sister and a brother. My sister's kinda okay. My brother (35) is a selfish, toxic and entitled person. He dropped out from the university, doesn't have a job and he steals from my parents like my dad's watches or property or my mum's jewellery and then sells them to buy weed or something.

One time he sold my mum's car and after some police and legal issue that basically went nowhere, she basically had to steal it back (The guy who bought it, passed away a little while after, so I guess that case is closed..), he once took my phone while I was sleeping because I refused to give him a different phone I had, that belongs to me after selling his own phone or something. It's like he acts solely on impulse. My dad (who's in his 70s now) is almost always on security alert when my brother is around. As for my mom, she just straight up enables him and bails him out of trouble every time, saying things like "He's your brother" or "God will change him" when I talk to her about it. My brother and I got into a fight, like a year before I left for university, because he wanted to look around my room to see if I had his usb cable despite me telling him I don't have it nor have I seen it. That was the last time I willingly spoke to him.

My family moved into a new house and I finally left for school (my brother stayed in the old house and my sister moved in with her husband after marriage, so it was just him over there). During my 3rd year, I called my dad, asking him for some money because I was broke, and during the phone call, my dad tells me that he's at the hospital cuz my brother and some girl just had a kid. okay.. I came back for holidays and found out that his baby mama (who's also toxic and insults people alot) and kid, my nephew, are staying with us, with my parents providing for them while my brother stays in the older house, renting it out to people (who messed up the house and compound to the point it just became a disgusting place to live in) obviously without permission from my parents (who don't even own that house, it belongs to my uncle). By the time I graduated and came back home, he was now living with us in the new house because free food and no bills, I guess.

I haven't gotten a job yet so I'm stuck here.

Recently, he's been staying away from me because I don't talk to him or even look at him.

BACK TO THE TOPIC:
Around a year ago, I had a serious wakeup call and decided that, if I was going to go forward in life I would have to better myself so I began a journey of meditation and self-improvement, and I think I've made some good progress. Now the issue is my brother---earlier today, I saw him scouting our house (after my parents went out) and I could instantly tell he was up to no good. I was cooking when I began to hear some noise from upstairs like he was hacking at something. He came downstairs and readied his car while my cousin who stays with us (19) carried the AC unit my brother was planning to sell.
Usually I'll just mind my business and avoid him because he's an adult-child (narcissist) and I think he'll just put his vindictive sights on me if I interfere, but this time I don't know what came over me..

I called my cousin and demanded where he was taking that AC to. I then asked my brother (first time in years I've spoken to him) why he was taking it, he just gave one nonsense flimsy excuse then I told my cousin to return it. When he tried to explain whatever, I didn't acknowledge his presence, I just ignored him and ate my food. He just stood there staring at me for like 3 minutes before he left while murmuring something.

The main reason I've been avoiding him for long is because he's toxic and I decided that family or not, toxicity is still toxicity. He's very exploitative and once he familiarises with someone it's like an opening to trample the person's boundaries. I think I confronted him today because the more you ignore bad/evil the stronger it becomes and eventually it will come for you except now it'll be stronger from all the experience.

The issue is, I don't want to relapse into my old life of toxicity by further engaging him if he decides to steal from me on get physical because he's the kind of person that only listens to actions, not words.
Please, what do you think I do?

I'm not too sure about what your question is but the little I know about training I should be able to chip in a bit.

First of all it takes a man to train a man, a mother's job is to nurture her son while a father's job is admonition. InDiscipline boys end up in prison, on the street or dead. Your father is solely responsible for the outcome of your brother, he didn't train him. Yes, teenager take a detour and start misbehaving, it's the responsibility of a father to guide them back to the light with whatever means possible.

Your mother should understand by now that God doesn't change children, God gave the parents the responsibility to train the children so that as they get old that training becomes their moral compass.

At this point your parents need to put their foot down and give your brother an ultimatum to decide on a skill to learn, to get alternative accommodation, and should anything go missing in the house he will be thrown out. The only language people like your brother understand is firm force.

Politics › Re: Third Force Party Gathering Momentum (photos) by gabicon: 2:02pm On Jun 10, 2022

post=113663247:
I didn't believe it will happen so soon

As much as I relish the possibility of Peter Obi becoming president, I'm certain that there is little that can be achieved by a political parties with weak structure. Labor party and other small political parties have weak structures and next to no presence in three quarters of the states, how do you mobilize people with that kind of structure?

Politics › Re: Shettima Should Be The Best VP For Tinubu (Opinion) by gabicon: 9:55pm On Jun 09, 2022

helinues:
If Apc, Tinubu and SW as a region want to win the presidency, the Muslim-Muslim ticket is the only perfect combo cos I doubt if North will vote Christian VP or a female VP irrespective of Religion.

I watched Shettima speaking on Channels TV. He was able to pass his message maturely without throwing tantrum. He should be a good candidate for VP.

Shettima is from NE same as Atiku, as long as Buhari and co in NW will keep to their promises, NE votes would be shared. NC are the election deciders in Nigeria, SW have been maintaining their friendships with them.

Pdp and LP would share SE/SS votes, Apc should at least be gett6 25% from those 2 regions, SW is secured

You seem not to understand how religiously tensed Nigeria is. A Muslim-muslim ticket is dead on arrival, the biggest casualty will be southwest.

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