₦airaland Forum

tensazangetsu20:
Lol the countries with the strongest passports in Africa are very unfriendly to Nigerians and for good reason.

OP, Here is your answer. To add, if Ghana had its way, Nigerians would have been restricted entry into the country. Besides, your plan only works when you are very young (15 to 20). Namibia for instance issues permanent residency status after 7 years. If you leave Nigeria at the age of 30, would you still be interested in trying to move to the West at the age of 37/38?

FreedomfromtheT:
Some people are trading blames over who is the worse president between Muhammadu Buhari and Bola Tinubu.
ns.
They will likely get it right next.
But will the Igbophobia people reason beyond petty tribalism?

As I have stated countless times on Nairaland, if you put a pig against Udom Emmanuel, the majority of Nigerians WOULD gladly campaign and vote for that pig instead of Udom simply because Igbos support Udom. Mind you, Udom is an Ibibio man and Ibibios are not Igbos, but the very fact that Igbos support him would have other Nigerians vote for a pig to be the country's president.

You should learn to understand the mindset of your fellow Nigerians. The earlier you do, the better.

Gerrard59:
There are the tribalists, too. As long as it does affect other ethnic groups, especially Igbos, they are satisfied. Their sole aim is never to see an Igbo man or someone who Igbos support in Aso Rock. It gives them an erection so bad!

Organise an election today between Tinubu vs Peter Obi, and the former would win for that very reason. Pit Akpabio vs Kwankwaso, and the latter would win it. Do Atiku vs Jonathan and the Waziri of Adamawa would win. In fact, pit Udom Emmanuel against a goat and your fellow Nigerians would vote for that goat.

You need to understand how your fellow Nigerians think.

ednut1:
End insecurity, end oil theft

Finish! E no pass these two for a start.

The tale about corruption is overestimated. Every country is corrupt to some degree. Corruption mostly exists because of too much government bureaucracy. On that aspect, privatise everything. Privatisation reduces corruption.

Bokeeto:
If I can't find job visa sponsorship as a digital marketer, I'll apply for job seeker visa which will enable me get into those countries and apply for onsite digital marketing jobs, I believe I have options with any of the routes.

Gerrard59:
Good luck getting a visa from Portugal's embassy in Nigeria (assuming it is operating sef).

The same applies to Germany.

sirgalahad26:
While I blame the doctor for indulging her while he's treating her, I need to understand what the woman and her lawyer(s) meant by "vulnerable". Isn't that what she does for a living? All I see here is just mutual exchange of service.

Just because she is a sex worker does not mean she should be exploited by a medical professional she trusted with her life. Na this kind mentality dey put una for trouble.

wrongnumber:
How?

So doctors are forbidden to fall In love with their patients?

This is a bondage.

Yes. It is unethical. You do so after the interaction with the patient, not DURING the medical interaction.

@TOPIC: Our people should learn to separate business from pleasure. Thank God for my upbringing.

On Instablog9ja where I first watched the video, she TOOK the children ALONG with her to the man's house for a visit. That is the problem, not "men don't want me because I am a single mother".

That aside, three children as a single mother is maddening. I, as a man, am scared of having more than two children, then you expect me to entangle myself with a woman with three children whose fathers are not responsible in their lives?! I would have understood her better if she was a Northern Christian whose husband was slaughtered by marauding Fulani herdsmen. Other than that category, any woman with three children whose fathers are absent (but alive) in the children's lives should make do with that condition and stop seeking a relationship with single men. The alternative is to target wealthy polygamous men.

It doesn't make sense for a single man without children to be with a single mother with three children. Very unfair!

Bokeeto:
I made a mistake, I was actually referring to the job seeker visa category

Good luck getting a visa from Portugal's embassy in Nigeria (assuming it is operating sef).

Bokeeto:
I've been in a dilemma for some time now, trying to choose which pathway I should use for my japa plan.

I would prefer to go with a study visa(to Portugal or Malta) as I'm more familiar with the process and can do everything myself without much help, and it's also easier to get the visa.

My problem with it is that it's quite expensive, and it will take some time for me to start doing full-time work to save tangible funds and cover up the sources I used in getting the japa capital.

On the other hand, a work visa looks great, but I'm not familiar with the process (I will most likely seek assistance from travel agents I know in person), I don't know the possibility of getting a good job within the time-frame the visa will last.

Thanks in advance.

Travel agents cannot arrange a work visa for you. You apply to a company based there, go through its recruitment process and if successful, the firm applies for a visa on your behalf.

As for digital marketer, sorry, but that is not a field western companies seek to employ foreigners, especially from Africa.

mu2sa2:
Why the fixation with japa? You have N2m, how many Nigerians have even 100K to start a business in Nigeria? Btw, that's about 1200$ at current exchange rate. That's just pocket money in US, Canada or Europe. But in Nigeria with that money you can start a good business and watch your money grow. There are lots of Nigerians languishing abroad as a result of japa gone wrong - don't go and join them.

Nigerians' fixation with "start a business" even when the person is better off practicing the profession they studied in the university. So, tell us, Musa what kind of business an aspiring professional nurse should start with 100K?

Thislifee:
You guy is a simp for condoning you answering a male call in his presence and going to a bestie or even having a bestie at all! If it's me, I would Bleep your pussy to my satisfaction and dump you because you belong to the street! Street dog. We all know that besties are the main lover that you sex and just deceiving your guy. Girl like you required to be poured Concentrated H2S04 or HCL acid! When am with you and you answer a male call that's not business related,I would beat the hell out of you!

This is the second time you have threatened to pour a girl acid just because of envy. The other time, it was in medical school, now this. You really have a problem o. Weren't you the same person who had financial difficulties and had to meet a NYSC friend who promised you a job if you were from the same LGA as him?

Honestly, I fear and sympathise with the non-blood-related women in your life. Any small thing, acid And to think you pursuing a PhD degree!

DND069:
Only if women really understand men, then you wouldn't argue with him on this.

There is this little fantasy men create whenever they meet women who will nurture/mother their kids. It is this fantasy that sustains how a man treats his woman[care, provision, protection, and guidance]. In order for this little fantasy not to be dismantled, he sets boundaries.

If the woman follows his rules, he wifes her up. On the other end, the moment a man meets a woman and he doesn't create the fantasy of the above mentioned, then he has only created a sexual fantasy.

In which, he doesn't set boundaries. He only wants to pipe and go. He wouldn't care if you have millions of bestie or not. He wouldn't care about your lifestyle nor your pasts. He would even encourage you to do nasty things: smoke, drugs and the likes. But in the end he doesn't need you, he only wants you at the moment.

Summary, when a man set boundaries, he wants a long term; when he doesn't set boundaries, he wants short term fun.

A very simple breakdown of basic evolutionary practices of male species all over the world and across the animal kingdom.

Double0h7:
Two adults and not one of you could afford to buy bread and eggs for breakfast? I think you both have bigger problems than boyfriend girlfriend issues. Neither of you have any business being in a relationship if you can’t meet your most basic needs. If you get pregnant now what would you do? You better go back to your parents house and get your life in order instead of chasing little boys up and down.

EOD!

Love800:
Will he be the one producing the cocoa from farm and supply later?

No. He doesn't have to be cultivate cocoa. Just acts as an intermediary between the farmers and exporters. If he has plenty of funds, then conduct the export himself. More money in exporting directly to buyers in Europe and America.

Who were the people campaigning, drumming support, and eventually voting for Buhari in 2015?

As you lay your bed, so you lie on it... The mandate is mandatory, he must continue till 2031, no ifs or buts, period!

Gibson01:
As much as I'm not a supporter of Tinubu or any of the then presidential candidates. I'm still very optimistic about this govt than the previous ones. Nigeria has two choices, it's either we continue to manage and struggling while govt keeps es today at a point once closed their economy and suffering for many years in order to stabilize it and grow their local content, but in naija, we only want imported goods.
As you can see that the govt is generating revenue now and he has been clearing some debt with it.

I'd just advise the youths to be more productive at this time. If you don't really have anything meaningful doing, get on the FARM and produce,reduce the rate you chat on social media without no productivity and get on the FARM.
This time is not for laziness.

Go and tell farmers in Benue, Taraba, Plateau, Kaduna, Zamfara etc., who have been brutally murdered and their farms razed by maruading Fulani herdsmen. Recently, a rice farm in Enugu was brunt to ashes your darling Fulani herdsmen! What do you say about that?!

Get out! Stoopid riff-raffs who don't understand what actual farmers, rather than Internet noisemakers, go through!

Chicagograduate:
Who don blow with hard work?

Trust me, if OP changes to cocoa supply, he won't even want to japa. Those people make a hell lot of money.

brain54:
Some times Nigerians like to personalize...

And sensationalize issues. She never stated it was guys around her. She didn't say these guys were are friends.

She only simply mentioned her observations that most guys smoke and take drugs these days.

Which is true and even backed by statistics.

Where are these statistics? Any source to find them?

Pansophist,

The West is jittery that China will flood the global markets with cheap and reliable Chinese goods thereby reducing the clout of Western firms. The arrogance is what pisses me off! You blocked the Chinese from buying ASML machines, then are angry they (the Chinese) are exporting their own goods to the world.

I will come back with more, just don't want to get banned again.

Rules for thee but not for me.
aka 'Rules-based order' - we make the rules, you follow them, and we may follow them when it suits us. - signed USA and its vassals allies

ibrocool:
The places you visit and the kind of people you mingle with will determine what you are most likely to see. Imagine having gangster as friends and going to club every time, do you expect to meet a non-smoker? I don't think so.



Non of my family members or friends are too religious. I know most people will hardly believe this.

It is actually possible. My siblings and I are examples. For one, I don't smoke or womanise, but I seldom drink, which is measured by monthly intervals/gaps. In fact, I did not touch alcohol between 2019 and 2022. Neither am I religious.

People like us exist.

brain54:
Like poles actually repel...

In Physics, yes. In biology, they attract. She is obviously attracted to men who smoke. Which means she smokes as well.

gforce5:
Nigeria has happened to them. That's why. Japa is now very expensive. You need at least N15million to Japa to the west. Not only that, many countries are tightening their immigration rules. The UK and Canada (the two biggest recipients of international students from Nigeria) have implemented measures to restrict the number of international students coming to their respective countries. France, Holland and many EU countries have also tightened their borders. Even South Korea is reducing it's intake of international students. This is the worst time for Nigerians to Japa. The anti-Japa crew know this and have gleefully decided to keep quiet. It's a field day for us immigration lawyers. Best of luck to all those intending to emigrate. It's not easy at all. In my time it was easier (early 2000s). Mad respect to parents who can send their offspring abroad for further education. Not easy at all.

It seems this niche is very lucrative these days. I know Henley and Partners has a Lagos office and an Abuja office (correct me if I am wrong on this part). But is the demand so high? If yes, which countries are clients interested in? What are the profiles of your clients (age ranges, what they do for a living, why they are patronising you and your colleagues etc).

I understand the legal field is high on confidentiality, but this is an anonymous forum.

Maxxim:
Most educated parents has this sense of believe that their daughters are entitled to marry someone with higher level of education, even without no job o they believe miracles will happen somedays. Compared to someone with lower educational background and a trade skill already making a life for emself they'll choose the former.
If they ended up choosing you as a skilled labor/ trades man then you've agreed to step up your education qualifications.

To be fair to those parents, it is women's nature. Just as I explained in the link I mentioned, women are hypergamous (a global phenomenon), and as their education and earning capabilities soar, so do their aspirations. Even for men, it is the same. Beauty isn't just a factor these days, but a woman's educational qualifications and earning capability (even though most men aren't necessarily interested in a woman's money). So, times have changed, but women have maintained their hypergamy steadfastly. The issue for women and policymakers (as referenced in that link) is that there are fewer men who have the profile that these women desire. This is why even though there are more men than women anywhere in the world, there are more marriageable women than marriageable men.

Hmmn the write up is so insightful, I wonder how the world will look like few years to come when this ideology finally gets accepted amongst most countries.

Only Islamic countries would be able to withstand it. The women empowerment movement has sailed and the world isn't returning to the '60s. Women sef no go gree. But what I presage is an abundance of single women in advanced ages, men deliberately being single, a significant proportion of the population having children outside marriage, a rise in divorce cases, alternative marriage arrangements etc. The West (North America & Europe) are already there. Na for parts of Asia, Africa and other parts of the world to catch up. It is inevitable.

Some houses have became divided and both couples divorced but those avoiding social backlash ended up living in same house as strangers.
In some cases the husband ends up submitting to the wife cos she's earning more.
Other times it becomes some kind of competition whereby the the wife secures properties without the husband knowledge.

This are my observation around most places in lagos which is just one part in the southwest, in context when i mention the southwest.

No wonder. Lagos is an anomaly (not a bad meaning) in this analysis as it is cosmopolitan. So, Yoruba women there will adopt values different from their kith elsewhere in the region. It is the same with Igbo women. Those based in Lagos and Abuja differ from those in the East. People in cosmopolitan areas tend to be more opinionated (largely because of the financial power) and liberal. Sometimes, they tend to be aggressive because of the fierce competition for scarce resources. A way to check for this is to compare educated women working in civil service in, say, Ekiti vs those in Lagos. There would be differences. Islam on its own already tames feminism, so we focus on Yoruba Christians.

Looking forward to when you get your research done

Thanks. I would advertise it on Nairaland. It is my form of philanthropy because there are many unanswered questions we have as a country and people. Too many I no fit lie give you, dem tell me say and trust me bro sources of information. By answering these questions logically, we know where we are coming from, where we are and where we are going.

Maxxim:
South west I mean

Interesting. I never knew it is brewing in the west as well. Well, Islam will tame it down. Western civilisation is incompatible with Islamic civilisation. And so far, that is the only ideology I see that can withstand the incursion of Western ideas into its circle. Indian and Chinese civilisation can be penetrable (examples abound), but so far, Islamic civilisations haven't, and certainly not the ones in Africa.

But to be balanced, it is not just the southwest that is reeling from the effects of educating the female child over the male child. I wrote about it in detail here: https://www.nairaland.com/7990643/marry-beautiful-nigerian-women-uk/4#128293405

So, does this mean that there is a rise in divorce cases amongst educated women whose husbands aren't as educated as they are (women)? Also, if you note the cultural differences between the East and West, parents go ahead with blind dates for their children; I doubt that is possible with Eastern women, especially as the children are scattered across the country more than women from the southwest. For instance, there are more Igbos in the southwest than Yorubas in the east (both genders). So, maintaining control isn't that easy.

Which brings me to another research question: Which ethnic groups in Nigeria have the highest number of unmarried women above 30? And what could the reasons be? Nigerian ethnic groups with the highest rate of single mothers? Why? What are the factors?

_{My money needs to plenty. So many questions to be asked.}

Maxxim:
I was having a conversation with an igbo man, he's older than I am, and I reasoned with his point.
He said one of the factors is exposure to education at an early age for the ladies meanwhile the men on the other side are often expected to travel out to the city to hustle, leaving the women with an advantage over the men in terms of education, at the end of the day the men after making it comes back to pick a wife and the both parties doesn't interest each other anymore sighting the imbalance between them, so the dude looks for a feminine young lady to marry and sponsor.

Yeah, that is one of the reasons being peddled largely because of limited economic resources resulting from the Civil War. It is happening in the West (abroad) too. Another reason for Igbos' own is the adoption of the Western version of Christianity and its corresponding values, both good and bad. Western values promote freedom of thought, speech and ideas. The complete adoption of those values without factoring in cultural differences is a recipe for disaster.

I don't know if you notice this has been happening here in the west too, the parents spends ridiculous fees to sponsor their female children to school whereas the male counterpart is on the street hustling his life some even ended up becoming nuisances and at the end of the day the lady won't want to marry down and ended up becoming one bitter feminist. In some case, the parents finds a partner for their kids through blind dates and after having more than one kid they divorce cos the lady is claiming the role of an alpha.

The "West" here, is it North America&Europe or South West Nigeria?

We trade a lot with the Netherlands.

Interesting.

Orlu13:
that's how heartless my Igbo ladies are...I'm Igbo but I have to say d truth


if they can do this to a full grown man, how much more pain can they inflict on innocent maids
even most bitter feminist are Igbo ladies...I don't know why they are always wicked

Na the research theme I wan study when my money plenty. 2 out of 3 Igbo women are bitter feminists and I am willing to bet, the majority of lesbians/bisexual women in Nigeria are Igbos.

Wahala for man wey marry 21st century Igbo woman.

The cultural characteristics of some Nigerian ethnic groups get as e be. While there are good sides, the bad sides overshadow the good sides. There is a reason Southern African countries stiffen visa issuances for Nigerians. My problem with Nigerians as a whole is condoning the acts/atrocities of these people who spoil the "Nigerian" name and then blame the government. How come Ivorians or Gambians are not committing the same atrocities in Ghana? Na only we dey travel across Africa?

I usually pity any country that has open borders to Nigerians. It never ends well.

folake4u:
Seeeee! I've seen women being killed by their poor husbands because of silly things like not preparing food on time or cos of N200.

I'm the happiest when UK authorities arrest them and they do jail time. Trust me, it literally gives me orgasms.

Unmarried women earn as much as married men? Really?
But I think there's a gap in how female footballers are paid unlike their male counterparts.

Am I wrong?

Yes. Unmarried women earn as much as married men. https://archive.md/gXWp3 (free-to-read). As for footballers, it is simple economics. Men watch football, and men's football gets the highest viewership. Higher viewership translates to more advertising fees, which come back to clubs that pay these players. I think men even watch women's football more than women do.

In summary, the term "gender pay gap" is deceiving as many factors make people, regardless of their gender, earn the amount they do. Companies look for any way to pay lower salaries, so the narrative that a certain gender or group of people earn less just because of their gender or whatever is mendacious.

Interesting responses.

Married men dey try. No wonder they patronise hook-up babes a lot. Shey, people have seen why hook-up exists? I already outlined it here: https://www.nairaland.com/7684230/how-reduce-hook-ups-nigeria

Again, as I have stated countless times, aside from having children within a two-parent household, the benefits of marriage to men are largely nonexistent or infinitesimal.

BeardedMeat:
You are right. Seun please pin this for us. Thank you

A man whose father is a pastor and has never condemned the killing of Christians in Northern Nigeria, supports El-Rufai and put up a banner restricting commentary in the Islamic section but not for the Christian threads is who you want to pin a thread narrating the Fulanisation of Nigeria?

Stopped going when I noticed none of the so-called men of god condemned the butchering of Christians in Northern Nigeria.

Gerrard59:
This pastor, just like his other pastorprenuers, whose churches have branches in only economically viable states and Abuja, has never condemned the continuous, consistent and relentlessly butchering of Christians in Northern Nigeria. In fact, no megachurch General Overseer has whispered, let alone murmured, as to why Nigeria has the highest number of slain Christians globally than even an atheist nation such as China. Meanwhile, Nigeria has some of the richest pastors in the world, and actually in Africa.

It is why I am not moved or fazed by what a Nigerian pastor of a church based in the south has to say. There is nothing they know about the Bible that I don't know. The day anyone who knows me off Nairaland sees me in a church in Southern Nigeria, know that I am there to hunt for toto to fvck. Nothing else. I will be there to hunt for beautiful, naive, and sometimes confused ladies to have sexual romps with. I will have them give me different sex styles ranging from cowgirl to missionary to reverse cowgirl to spooning. As icing on the cake, I will request for exhilarating anal rimming, then continue to a sensational BJ which will end with me cu.ming on their delightful faces then finish off with cu.mming into their mouths. After which, they swallow my hot cu.m. I rather watch paint dry off the wall than listen to whatever a so-called mOG of a church in the south has got to spew, whereas none has condemned the killing of Christians in the north.

Modafvckers!