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Boliboli760:
Yes, it is back and regular too. That will be nice. Thank you.

obi4eze:


The onslaught of the enemy on godly marriage is so strong these last days. One marital mistake a person can make is to marry a divorcee.

nokspos:
lol you should try polyandry then

nokspos:
Polygamy would have been fine if christianity didnt preach one man one wife in the first place. Yet many prophets married more than one wife in the bible and God never condemned them, something tells me it's one woman that wrote that part of the bible that says one man one woman, it doesn't look like what God wrote. Only the quran got that marriage thing right. Now women are beginning to accept that their husband could have side a chick but why not wife her and personalize this side chick to avoid the risk of STDs.

The only reason any man including me , wont want to be polygamous is because women dont want it , and the only reason women don't want it is because the bible preached against it and taking a second wife forcefully will most likely lead to early grave for the man because the first wife is against it. But in the real sense every man wants a second wife or more wives because biologically we are wired differently from a woman, God didnt create a man and woman the same way biologically. We may have similar brain and other future but our sex organ is different, a man produces millions of spam every seconds... to use it with one woman ? I dont think so. A woman was born with a hymen covering their virginal indicating only one man owns her while a man comes with nothing of such meaning more women owns him.

Woman are not seeing the advantage of polygamy because if you take the envy out of it, you can borrow money from your other wives , they can take care of your children while you went for a weekend party , you can do a family business , a man can have sex everyday or twice a day , but most women are not designed to do this expecially after they've given birth to a child, so your other wives can help you out on bed when you focus on other things, when you give birth to a new child , while you cant have sex immediately, your husband can have sex with the other wives. More women will be off the street and have a home too if polygamy becomes a norm in our society, your wives and your husband can save up money faster to buy properties and do bigger things, the advantage to polygamy is endless , but christianity messed up everything for us. I'm a christian and christian is a good religion but I doubt that marriage part is right

cococandy:
thankful for the ones like you who get it!

emmanuelbrown26:
Well, as an elder i hv to come in.
First and foremost, d problem started from d garden of eden. Adam was in good terms with d whole animals, trees, water and sea, including d things beneath water.
Jah brought in Eve, problems started, enmity came, nagging started, backbiting started, manipulation started.
A situation whereby 10 men stays in a room for years without any issues, but put 2 ladies in a room and watch as they would turn d room into wwe.
D gods are wise

Belafonte:
But each woman has the choice of not dealing with man who wats more than one woman. I mean men divorce cheating women everyday, no?

pocohantas:
What exactly are you talking about? Is Pete Edochie rich?? No be yesterday Kanayo build house? Tony Umez is still living in a rented property till date. Didn’t some other old actors die of sicknesses?

There was no money in acting (and entertainment) of the old! They were at best comfortable like an average family.

Fame isn’t equal to wealth!

Now you guys are twisting in all angles to refute the grass to grace story. Do you know his father more than him? Same Yul that celebrated Pete on father’s day saying he didn’t have more than 5 pair of trousers while they were growing up. Abeg rest!!

JONNYSPUTE:
...... Hehehehe.

JONNYSPUTE:
.... You don't know what you are saying bro.
Yul's father Pete was a civil servant and a presenter in radio Nigeria.

When he featured in things fall apart then,he acted so well that when he retired he joined nollywood so he wasn't rich.

It took him,Pete more than 10 yrs to complete his personal house in Enugu so tell me how such a person will be tagged rich then?

Yul him self after writing his waec then in 1998 from New heaven boys secondary school got admission,graduated and while waiting to serve got his girlfriend pregnant.

It was the dad that stood for him and was taking care of him and the wife .

And it was at that time that Pete introduced him and the other of his son into acting and luck smiled on Yul.

Believe him when he says he had nothing.
This na guy weh I know too well. Grew up together in the same vicinity,move around and belong to the same group chat of our old boys though he left the forum now.
So you won't tell me about the family.

Emarvel:
I will skip your rhetorical questions and respond to the bolded, when you say or write that a woman suffered with a man, is it that the woman was far better than the man but she chose to marry the man or both of them were just managing? If both of them were managing, then stop using the term stick by or suffer with because its not applicable, life is just a race and we all came to be part of it, nobody invested his/her life into another, let's stop playing the blame game.
If he was maltreating her or she cried out because of domestic violence, then i will be a critic of Yul, but right now he has done nothing wrong by marrying a 2nd wife, unless he stop caring for the first wife.

Emarvel:
He has repeatedly praise her till date, but there's no where he promised her monogamy.
He married a 2nd wife doesn't mean he now detest her, he just want to continue to live peacefully.

Acidosis:
Is this message for me or the OP?

Acidosis:
Good. We can condemn Yul's actions without trying to make ladies who are "really suffering" with their decent husbands look like f00ls for upholding their vows. Odabo.

Acidosis:
I'll really like you to bookmark this thread 'cos the same Yul will come back again in two decades to hype the second wife about how she stuck with him in 2022 when he had "nothing".

I hope my aim is clear now? Please bookmark the page and save us the stress of having to type the same thing repeatedly.

Acidosis:
I am not in the category of people who said all actresses earn more than their male counterparts. For God sake Pete Edochie used to be (and maybe still is) the highest paid Nollywood actor for over a decade. What's the idea behind the cancel culture and gross generalisation? Female actresses appear richer because we all know that many of them have multiple streams of income and the industry somewhat favour them.

For how long do I have to come to this thread to explain my point?

People must not say what you want to hear, where you want to. And this thread is not about the correctness of Yul's actions.

Nobody deserves to be cheated on. That's my view about life. Trying to demystify cheating behaviours based on who is less or more deserving of cheating husbands do not make sense to me. This is the narration I'm trying to correct but some are hell bent on pushing the narrative of "don't suffer with him".

Even if you want to classify the type of ladies that do not deserve to be cheated on (since this is what the thread appears to be), I don't think Yul's wife has done anything beyond what other victims have done and still doing.

Acidosis:
Funny how people still believe some "grass-2-grace" celebrity stories online.

If Yul, a son to a famous Nigerian actor, could be broke during his undergraduate years, so what then should we and many other Nigerian students say?

Yul definitely wasn't where he wanted to be at the time he got married. That's not the definition of being broke.

If Yul's dream of becoming Nigeria's president gets actualized tomorrow, he will come out again with stories about how his second wife agreed to marry him when he had "nothing."

Yul was never broke and Yul's 1st wife did not marry into a broke family.

DoggoneDogg:
A sensible woman ought to be hiding her face if she is just getting married at the old age of 46.

All these fake smiles will disappear soon when there is no child to be presented to this same family. And even if a baby comes out of this union, this woman will be holding a 3 year old's hand to Kindergarten at 50 years old.

And knowing celebrity marriages, if they do break up in less than 5 years, a woman in her fifties will be coming on social media to constitute a nuisance about her "side of the story"... something she should have grown past in her 20s and early 30s....


Let me just stop here before I puke.

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.