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ednut1:
Raised in Nigeria
Op quit smoking weed

flowerpower23:
Its not just the beauty I'm comparing but some other things. Look closely at Yvonne, Even though she is younger than Chimamanda, her skin looks less vibrant. Chimanda's skin looks radiant. Also if you look closely, Yvonne has lines around her mouth area that Chimamanda does not have. I think that has something to do with living in the cold environment and not getting proper intake of vitamin D which is known to strengthen bones and make the skin more supple. These are just my observations

Totilopussylick:
Abakaliki is arguably one of the best developed state currently, followed by Uyo State.

tensazangetsu20:
I really don't feel sorry for women but op I really pity your wife. I honestly feel she can read the nonsense you wrote. . Spiritual problem ko spiritual problem ni.

BlueRayDick:
This is totally unacceptable. Whoever is the mod on this section should please ban this never-to-do-well.; this is the height of it all.

How do u just wake as early as 5.35am and u tell a fellow human he/she won't live long cos of the food he/posts on nairaland?

I know most trolls don't have things going well for them offline and they transfer their personal life frustration to whoever they come across online, but mehn this is just not acceptable. Na because of imbecilesss like this guy some of us reduced our post here cos of the negative energy. The mods really need to clean people like this off this streets

Labadi69:
You won’t live long if you continue to eat this junk

frosy1:
Sorry oo... are you sure that you are not a BASTARD?
am just just curious. How can a legitimate son call his father "lousy and nagging".

You are just greedy, selfish and not contented with what you have that's is why you envy your friends who are into scams and frauds.

I won't say much but am sure one day you will become a father.

Chijeep:
AM NEWLY HAPPILY MARRIED:
My wife can't wash I bought washing machine.
My wife can't cook n I employed a cook.
My wife can't sweep n I employed a house maid.
My wife can't pound yam n I bought pounder.
My wife can't drive n I employed a Driver.

Pls Am I really a caring husband or a Simp

kenzysmith:
Money wey go dey this man account no go pass 35 million

kakameks:
Best response so far, I couldn't have said it better myself.

Sometimes the cost of being petty is not worth it.

You and your marriage survived a social media drama you started, now you have come again posting your marriage issues online.

Annie should avoid using her marriage to be in the limelight.

If you are rich and still petty (pepper dem gang ladies) it shows you are not contented.

Belafonte:
You don't need a OverEducated woman as wife, yet that is exactly what this thread is about, I man it's right there in the title . Can you show me where I said I don't want an educated woman?

Bros, why are you fighting yourself? Please tell me you're okay

Belafonte:
This has been an observation of mine for a while now and I happened upon a twitter thread that sort of echoes my thoughts.

Feel free to disagree, of course. I'm open to opposing views

Framed:
Sorry bro it is not about the number of years but the quality of life in those years. If you are married 21 years and you still talk and act like this on nairaland, no body should be taking relationship advice from you.

baby124:
LMAO!

Toks2008:
Im just a realist and FYI, a man does not commit adultery if he sleeps with an unmarried lady... Except the lady is married.

garriAndsugar:
Nice one..
That's how I started too though mine was earlier.. at about 2yrs..

Klass99:
If people are having two maids what makes you think one more to make it 3, is far fetched or impossible?

The neighbour who returned home with a nurse, having two maids on ground already, no be 3 helping hands in total she come get?

The nurse herself told me if she didn't have aspirations to relocate overseas, she wouldn't have minded staying on with the couple and continuing their engagement for as long as the couple wanted.

Not everyone lies or exaggerates their realities when they come online. The story you're doubting, I can believe because I have seen it and I am surrounded by people who have the means to afford it.

atheistandproud:
It is not. In a place called Sokoh Estate where I grew up. We had this neighborhood who lived 2 houses from us but our families were friendly. The man was an outlet manager at Sizzlers Airport road and the wife was an Asst. Bank manager at First Bank.

They had 3 maids at one point. One of the maids was a live in maid who looked after their only son, the other was a cleaner who came and went and the third one was a wet nurse for the boy. She was an elderly woman. They only let her go when the boy was to turn 1 year.

I remember vividly because I was in JS3 and my mom was disgusted by the idea. She was complaining about it to my dad who quite clearly didn't care.

Klass99:
It's not a lie o.

Two different neighbours where I live, have two maids.

Neighbour B, has a cook who also cleans while the other girl I think focuses on the child only (one child)

Neighbour C , has got to be the most interesting neighbour I've had in my life. She changes maids so frequently, I have lost track of how many, have come and gone.

At each given time, the helps are always two. When she gave birth last year (first child) the number of helps increased to 3, but I learnt one was a nurse who worked at the hospital where she gave birth, she was hired to mind the baby only for a period of time. The other two were doing the cooking and cleaning.

Money, can afford you a life of ease and comfort, with less stress and strain o.

Ishilove:
This guy can't you just write in a less convoluted manner?? Ahn ahn what is all these na

layzie:
It is not domestic work.
My friend once had 3 housemaids to a son and a wife. Yet he always complained of same issue. And this is someone that married her because of the frequent sex when they were dating.
Op is not alone, like someone said, 70% of married men are going through this, rich or poor.

wirinet:
Compliments of the season you too. May you find happiness this season and beyond.


You do have the power to terminate the marriage. If it's a court wedding, employ a lawyer and file at the nearest magistrate court. If it's traditional marriage, get your people together to go to your wife's people to return the bride price.


It's most probably an emergency. You said further down that her mother is sick. It depends on the nature and seriousness of the sickness. She wanted to be there for her mother in case she dies.

You my friend is being unreasonable for getting angry and wanting a divorce because your wife went to see her sick mother during Christmas. Is this the last chrismas that will happen before Jesus comes? Besides are you a child? To most men Christmas is for children. Abi you expect your wife to take you to see father Christmas?


Family is supposed to be together every time (as situation demands) and not only at Christmas. Nothing stops you from taking the children out after she gets back. There is no law that says you can only take your children out on Christmas days.


You mean you can't prepare ordinary salad? And you are proud to say that? Well should out to Niger Delta guys - We dey cook pass our wives. My children alway look forward too days I take over the kitchen. They all tell my wife that I am a better cook.


It was an emergency. She didn't have time or state of mind to put her house in order before going to see her sick mother. Why can't you help her put the house in order? After all marriage is supposed to be a partnership and not a employer/ employee relationship.


Marriage is not about tribe or clan, but about love, understanding and respect. There are lots of marriages from the same clan failing, even couples from Enugu/Anambra.


Her mum is sick and all you care about is your own selfish interest? You are very cruel and selfish.
Your kids are crying all day even though they are in your custody? You must be a bad father then. I stayed alone with my kids for 1 week when their mother went to the village to bury her elder brother. There was no crying.


Women are closer and more emotionally attached to their parents than guys. Most women take care of their parents after marriage than men.



You need to look into yourself and make necessary adjustments. You don't seem to love your wife and it shows. That's why she probably don't show you love too. You want to her to sexually satisfy you but you are treating her like a house girl. It doesn't work that way.
My bother look into the mirror, and there you will find your problems.

2buffagain:
Three things:

- Hurry up and leave that house for the owner so you can devote your energy to thinking of matters concerning your own house. Until you do that, you are subject to all manner of shit from whoever you are dependent on. Feel free to isolate yourself from their toxicity after you have gained your freedom.

- Women! Get this point into your thick fucking skulls. Figure out what to do with your life beyond just being a housewife and giving birth to children. There is more to the purpose of your life than just these basic things. BE FINANCIALLY PRODUCTIVE so you are not that person having to be asking one man with delusions of godhood (and even your children for that matter), for money to buy everything including paiyynt. This shit makes me angry when I see women who put themselves in these situations. Being a MONEY EARNING woman does not make you a bad christian. Read Proverbs 35. In fact, you should be suspicious of any man who doesn't want a proverbs 35 woman. It means he just wants someone he can control due to his own low self esteem issues.

- Sons and Daughters! Get this into your thick fucking skulls. Be stubborn early. Set boundaries with your parents early. No human being has the right to insult you, so tell them to cut that shit out the moment they start and hang up if they continue. YOU have to teach people how to relate with you respectfully. Otherwise you leave too much to their bleeped up nebulous concept of right and wrong, respect and disrespect. Give your parents a template of how to interact with you through negaive/positive reinforcement. When they know you will put up a fight each and everytime, they too will start fearing the consequences of getting you involved with their mess and will disrespect everyone else in that family but you.

adeblow:
Sounds so much like my dad. My dad is even worse. Thank God we all turned out well now and we've left his house for him.
He married someone else and she ran away within a year.
Why are some men like this?
With my own dad, his car is his first child.
We wash that car twice a day, thoroughly.
I can't even type everything here.
Just take it as a motivation to work hard and finish well in school.

Mstick:
Almost 30 years of marriage and your Mom doesn't know how to work around your dad?

Weird.

talk2hb1:
The Headline should be changed to Defile, not rape. You cannot rape minors, minors are defiled.
I knew it, we are fast becoming endangered species.