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Sorry about your ignorance. Do you know my age... anyway, run along and keep being the naughty boy you are

Nawttiboi007:
your aproko too much.. at ur age?

Are you proud and arrogant?

Pension is equal to salary? Is he a past governor?

Tunjibalogun:
I seriously don't understand how my dad is always broke. He's been paid pension monthly oo which is equivalent to the chunk salary he got while working.
He's not training anyone, he's not the one providing money for food in the house.

I have tried to investigate what happens and I found out that he keeps a lot of friends and spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large. Well, I don't pity him again. If he likes he should always be broke that's his business.

It's not your place to beat anyone's child especially when the parent has warned against such. There's something called parental consent for heaven's sake. You might be comfortable with it but the Op is not comfortable with it.

Me, I make it a big deal if anyone apart from the grandparents beat my kids cos I feel they lack the affection that I will usually have. I believe that the parents wont have beaten the child till he wounded.

Look, beating is not the only way to discipline a child... sometimes, you may end up actually hardening up the child. Even the sight of a cane scares my children enough to behave. And I reject all your negative words over the child / parent.

07kjb:
To discipline a child is now abuse?

It always end in tears for anyone that reject the counseling of a child

I see you regretting in the future in tears over a lost child


Our people said beat a child with your right hand and draw him closer with your left hand

Cooked a mean pot of Ogbono with bitterleaf.

gloryhomemaker:
Oh, thank you for pointing that out. I used Uziza leaves, I have included it now.

You didnt mention the vegetables?

Are you sure it's your friend? Cos it sounds like you

who buys foodstuff for 120k?

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

My thoughts exactly....

cococandy:
If her issue is not with you, why wouldn’t she pursue reconciliation first before any business ventures?
Sounds weird.

Don't fix no shop. Thought she will relocate to be with you if u tell her own people that she has no issues with you

Sominablack:
Update:

I finally summed up courage and went to see my little daughter. My little daughter is well and doing fine of course I have been sending upkeep before now.

However, her mum is not looking as good as when she was with me. After a brief stay and discussion with my little daughter, I decided to take her out to buy some ice cream. Her mother opted to go with us too and in the process we had a heart to heart talk at the eatery. Guess what? Once again she told me i am not the issue that she does not have problem with me that she s gathering herself and that her father had disowned her because of me( they are angry with her for her negative actions towards me)

She told me to go and meet with her family in villa and settle with them since we first went there for a meeting, that I should tell them she does not have issues with me.

My response to her was that she has to tell her family herself that she does not have issues with me and that we have reconciled and not me telling them since she painted a wrong picture of me before them during the initial meeting their villa.

However I made some efforts to reach her fathers elders brother who she always confide in since she claimed not to be in good term with her own father. Response was that she herself has to inform them (her own family)she has no issue with me and that we have reconciled.

She agreed to do so ( communicate her family) but told me to assist her fix up the shop she newly rented for her business through a loan she collected and that when she will tell them about the launch of the shop she will use the opportunity to inform her family I assisted her and that we have reconciled.

I then told her that we have to get things right by truly reconciling with family involvement in the reconciliation process and every other thing will fall in line including the shop but she is insisting I fix up the shop first.

I also told her that since she will be visiting her villa soon to deliver some business good to a relation she should use the opportunity to inform her family that she does not have issue with me but the visit was not the right time to inform them as she may come back that day or pass a night and may not want much people to know she was around in villa.

I told her she does not care about my needs and feelings all these while she has been away despite my efforts but she wants me to do her own bidding. She then said I was giving her condition before helping her.

Men and brethren am not finding her idea of fixing her shop before she would use it as an opportunity to inform her family funny despite the fact she has opportunity to travel home soon which she can use to tell them.

At this juncture, I need ideas and strategies from experienced and matured minds on how I can go about this with her now. Thanks in advance for your inputs.

The case here is if she does not have any issue with me why is she waiting till I fix her shop before informing her family members.

Please if you wish to call me you can reach me at 07037854559. Thanks

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So wat kind of pda, does he enjoy?

Juliusdaughter:
I guess you and your wife are both not big on sex. What if he is? He hasn't asked for sex and I don't think he will until we are married. He is a principled Christian

Rice and Peppersoup

No you're not doing the right thing cos who will take care of your kids.... so u want to leave your job, relocate and feed on what...abeg postpone am if the guy no gree relocate

XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ?

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double

Dem nor reach

Congratulations......

BamBamK:
Awwn ...

Congratulations...

So happy for u... Extend invitation for naming ceremony when it's time oo

Well, I agree but Imma play my part by being deliberate bout my choices n staying prayed up.... Our forbears say, When a man says yes his chi says yes also

highchief1:
true but life is deep.

So, you still loud

Life is not programmed in a manner that your choices will not impact your 'destiny' and sometimes the destinies of others. If he hit someone else assuming he was drunk and driving, while he didn't die, so he hurt someone else with his poor choices.

People who don't drink die but people who drink and drive are often more susceptible to dying younger....

highchief1:
he has been drinking.life is programmed.he was destined to exit the stage that day.Ppl who don’t drink die too.

Hopefully, he wasn't drunk and driving...

You can help your cousin sister by being a support system for her - take her out, keeping your humorous side around her....

No worries.

Blessedmercy8:
Ok.
Thank you so much.

My dear, there are no certainties in life. Prayerfully, consider this guy before losing interest, Abi u no wan marry, ni? Check if he has any major character flaws, check his personality too..

Blessedmercy8:
Not that I'm looking for someone into shady deals. I just want to be sure that amount can sustain us a married couple plus he might not be willing to wait for sometime for us to start making babies due to his age..

Now, with that amount, he's living in ikoyi. I wonder how he gets the money to pay such rent. He was staying in VI. Then moved to ikoyi. Who knows why?

I don't want a situation whereby all our money will be going into rent cos ikoyi is expensive. I was born and brought up there before. Worked and lived the most part of my adult life there before my dad retired and we moved. I know how expensive houses are in ikoyi.

I'm just fed up. I like him. He's everything I want in a man but hmm... I see what other people who didn't prepare well before going marriage are passing through now and sometimes I silently thank my stars I've not brought any child into this world in this harsh economy because I hate to see children suffering. I dread it!

She's beautiful

Waoh, thier mumu never do...Olorun maje o....

sisisioge:
Yes o....you will wonder how they do it. It is well.

For this same naija?

sisisioge:
I do not understand addiction....I find it unreasonable. Anyways, would you want to stay off your phone and the internet so you dont get triggered to bet? Your debt is still minimal at 250k....people get into millions of debt before realising their follies. It is well with you.

Wetin be second year

Gavinsamuel001:
Stop it is not good what can kill you finally is playing virtual I lost over 2m my family and my friends left me alone about 1 year ago since then I never make 30k for saving just pay loan I never pay my house rent till now am using second year stop betting please

Its not sufficient cos you can't tell if his wife works or not. U know whether she get kiosk or be nanny somewhere? Also, he's losing the opportunity to bond with his children by at least relieving his wife with childcare.

MadarasBlade:
If the man provides solely for his family, then i see no reason why he should help out at all.

He has fulfilled his part, and that is sufficient i think.

There is a love language called acts of service. Physically too, wife will not be too tired to bond with her husband.

Anuoluwa12345:
Humm..at the bolded, you are right tho!. It is we :-Xll.

Or very intimidated wife? We can't tell what happens in their home from a 2 min vid

toprealman:
Very humble wife.

Nigger raw nwannem said it, ara ga gba ndi ara nwannem.

No 1 pet peeve, it's sight or u think say na construction site?

OKOATA:

Women should learn to dress sexily at home, and husband's should get sexy lingeries for their wives. To be honest I can't get hard at the site of a woman on wrappers like that.

No 2 pet peeve, nobody gives a hoot wat u like to see your woman wear. This one in the video is not your own woman. Her husband is ok with her appearance. If you saw his picture and he was wearing se.xy lingerie or whatever suits your fancy, then we can consider whether your pressure dey necessary or not.

No 3 pet peeve, Only God knows what mama Orji is doing, pounding yam or fetching water while Papa Orji is in the room, still looking to enjoy and not even trying to help with childcare. Nig men u def can do better. Rant over!

Press the ignore button. She's definitely going to be back to continue the relationship but your mumu Don do. She's toxic, troublesome and a gossip. She's gonna lower your IQ and your peace of mind