Stupidity of the highest order. She's just gonna keep attracting more haters and competition. I mean, tuface is already hot cake. Why announce this and even post screenshot like which better person truly cares? Na her fellow class of women care and hey Annie with this unsolicited advert, they coming

Sha don't waste her time so that in 5 years time, you don't come back eulogising a 37 year old woman who's Conservative n wears no makeup while looking for a younger woman.

I don't want an under educated husband, too. It should be 'an' for overeducated but we understand.... You're too busy sorting out which women should be wifed on the basis of their education and that I suppose is really really important...

Belafonte:


You don't need a OverEducated woman as wife, yet that is exactly what this thread is about, I man it's right there in the title . Can you show me where I said I don't want an educated woman?

Bros, why are you fighting yourself? Please tell me you're okay

Women now make children? Or do you mean dolls

Belafonte:
This has been an observation of mine for a while now and I happened upon a twitter thread that sort of echoes my thoughts.

Feel free to disagree, of course. I'm open to opposing views

Lobatan. See him redefining fornication!!! And we should take his words over a dictionary cos he said it and on Nairaland, no less.

Framed:


Sorry bro it is not about the number of years but the quality of life in those years. If you are married 21 years and you still talk and act like this on nairaland, no body should be taking relationship advice from you.

Abi, wahala for who no permit ADULTEROUS husband. Husbands can be ADULTEROUS too. Tueh

baby124:

LMAO!

You try to sound wise all the time, parading your archaic and misogynistic opinions as nuggets of wisdom but this literally takes it to a new level

Toks2008:

Im just a realist and FYI, a man does not commit adultery if he sleeps with an unmarried lady... Except the lady is married.

Are you by any chance insinuating that marital vows apply to only females? Well, your opinion is not tenable under Christian marriage and court marriages. Even Islam that permits up to 4 wives at least requires you to marry them before bedding them!!!

Now run along and look for some more gullible crowd to indoctrinate....

On behalf of the shrimps and assorted veggies, I'm furious

What were you doing at 2 years, please share...

garriAndsugar:
Nice one..
That's how I started too though mine was earlier.. at about 2yrs..

I never said it's far fetched to have 3 maids but it's far fetched to have 3 maids taking care of only one boy. Aunty who's surrounded by people with means, how much do they pay these help? Some of them are grossly underpaying their staff and prefer to pile staff, instead of paying proper domestic staff well. Anyhow, not sure I'm as surrounded by as many people with means as you are , so make I stay within those in my means bracket. Merry Christmas.

Klass99:


If people are having two maids what makes you think one more to make it 3, is far fetched or impossible?

The neighbour who returned home with a nurse, having two maids on ground already, no be 3 helping hands in total she come get?

The nurse herself told me if she didn't have aspirations to relocate overseas, she wouldn't have minded staying on with the couple and continuing their engagement for as long as the couple wanted.

Not everyone lies or exaggerates their realities when they come online. The story you're doubting, I can believe because I have seen it and I am surrounded by people who have the means to afford it.

Wheres sokoh estate? Sounds interesting like somewhere I need to locate on una country map..

As per the maid stuff, u said it yourself- at one point. Three maids on a consistent basis for an only child of an eatery manager and assistant manager of nig bank is bizarre and I said so. Even your mum said so.... anyhow, e no concern me...

atheistandproud:


It is not. In a place called Sokoh Estate where I grew up. We had this neighborhood who lived 2 houses from us but our families were friendly. The man was an outlet manager at Sizzlers Airport road and the wife was an Asst. Bank manager at First Bank.

They had 3 maids at one point. One of the maids was a live in maid who looked after their only son, the other was a cleaner who came and went and the third one was a wet nurse for the boy. She was an elderly woman. They only let her go when the boy was to turn 1 year.

I remember vividly because I was in JS3 and my mom was disgusted by the idea. She was complaining about it to my dad who quite clearly didn't care.

3 maids for a son sounds far fetched even from your account. The most anyone had from your post is two so I'm free to doubt this story......

Klass99:


It's not a lie o.

Two different neighbours where I live, have two maids.

Neighbour B, has a cook who also cleans while the other girl I think focuses on the child only (one child)

Neighbour C , has got to be the most interesting neighbour I've had in my life. She changes maids so frequently, I have lost track of how many, have come and gone.

At each given time, the helps are always two. When she gave birth last year (first child) the number of helps increased to 3, but I learnt one was a nurse who worked at the hospital where she gave birth, she was hired to mind the baby only for a period of time. The other two were doing the cooking and cleaning.

Money, can afford you a life of ease and comfort, with less stress and strain o.

He's typing with a dictionary and encyclopedia. Ndi Queens English

Ishilove:

This guy can't you just write in a less convoluted manner?? Ahn ahn what is all these na

3 housemaids to a son? Uncle Lai Mohammed

layzie:


It is not domestic work.
My friend once had 3 housemaids to a son and a wife. Yet he always complained of same issue. And this is someone that married her because of the frequent sex when they were dating.
Op is not alone, like someone said, 70% of married men are going through this, rich or poor.

Respect. Merry Christmas brotherly

wirinet:

Compliments of the season you too. May you find happiness this season and beyond.


You do have the power to terminate the marriage. If it's a court wedding, employ a lawyer and file at the nearest magistrate court. If it's traditional marriage, get your people together to go to your wife's people to return the bride price.


It's most probably an emergency. You said further down that her mother is sick. It depends on the nature and seriousness of the sickness. She wanted to be there for her mother in case she dies.

You my friend is being unreasonable for getting angry and wanting a divorce because your wife went to see her sick mother during Christmas. Is this the last chrismas that will happen before Jesus comes? Besides are you a child? To most men Christmas is for children. Abi you expect your wife to take you to see father Christmas?


Family is supposed to be together every time (as situation demands) and not only at Christmas. Nothing stops you from taking the children out after she gets back. There is no law that says you can only take your children out on Christmas days.


You mean you can't prepare ordinary salad? And you are proud to say that? Well should out to Niger Delta guys - We dey cook pass our wives. My children alway look forward too days I take over the kitchen. They all tell my wife that I am a better cook.


It was an emergency. She didn't have time or state of mind to put her house in order before going to see her sick mother. Why can't you help her put the house in order? After all marriage is supposed to be a partnership and not a employer/ employee relationship.


Marriage is not about tribe or clan, but about love, understanding and respect. There are lots of marriages from the same clan failing, even couples from Enugu/Anambra.


Her mum is sick and all you care about is your own selfish interest? You are very cruel and selfish.
Your kids are crying all day even though they are in your custody? You must be a bad father then. I stayed alone with my kids for 1 week when their mother went to the village to bury her elder brother. There was no crying.


Women are closer and more emotionally attached to their parents than guys. Most women take care of their parents after marriage than men.



You need to look into yourself and make necessary adjustments. You don't seem to love your wife and it shows. That's why she probably don't show you love too. You want to her to sexually satisfy you but you are treating her like a house girl. It doesn't work that way.
My bother look into the mirror, and there you will find your problems.

Do all women have thick fucking skulls and their kids too? Not even a word for the badly behaved fathers causing some of these issues?

Any how sha, some readers may be interested in the lightness or thickness of your skull but I'm here for the bible verse. Its Prov 31 that talks about the virtuous industrious women. In all the versions of the Bible I have seen, the book of proverbs no even reach Prov 35 o and hey, edakun dont come for my skull...

2buffagain:
Three things:

- Hurry up and leave that house for the owner so you can devote your energy to thinking of matters concerning your own house. Until you do that, you are subject to all manner of shit from whoever you are dependent on. Feel free to isolate yourself from their toxicity after you have gained your freedom.

- Women! Get this point into your thick fucking skulls. Figure out what to do with your life beyond just being a housewife and giving birth to children. There is more to the purpose of your life than just these basic things. BE FINANCIALLY PRODUCTIVE so you are not that person having to be asking one man with delusions of godhood (and even your children for that matter), for money to buy everything including paiyynt. This shit makes me angry when I see women who put themselves in these situations. Being a MONEY EARNING woman does not make you a bad christian. Read Proverbs 35. In fact, you should be suspicious of any man who doesn't want a proverbs 35 woman. It means he just wants someone he can control due to his own low self esteem issues.

- Sons and Daughters! Get this into your thick fucking skulls. Be stubborn early. Set boundaries with your parents early. No human being has the right to insult you, so tell them to cut that shit out the moment they start and hang up if they continue. YOU have to teach people how to relate with you respectfully. Otherwise you leave too much to their bleeped up nebulous concept of right and wrong, respect and disrespect. Give your parents a template of how to interact with you through negaive/positive reinforcement. When they know you will put up a fight each and everytime, they too will start fearing the consequences of getting you involved with their mess and will disrespect everyone else in that family but you.

Walahhi, I love this. New wife ran like Olori Naomi singing dis life I cant kee myself. Nonsense ati ingredients

adeblow:

Sounds so much like my dad. My dad is even worse. Thank God we all turned out well now and we've left his house for him.
He married someone else and she ran away within a year.
Why are some men like this?
With my own dad, his car is his first child.
We wash that car twice a day, thoroughly.
I can't even type everything here.
Just take it as a motivation to work hard and finish well in school.

Yeah, let's blame the victim. Always the best way to make the culprit improve his behaviour. Merry Christmas!

Mstick:
Almost 30 years of marriage and your Mom doesn't know how to work around your dad?

Weird.

I serve guests first, spouse next and me, last . Anything wey remain dey ok.
...walahhi, u dey worry.

Ignorance at its best... sex. With a minor is statutory rape as the minor is unable to give his consent to sexual acts. How does defile even sound better

talk2hb1:
The Headline should be changed to Defile, not rape. You cannot rape minors, minors are defiled.
I knew it, we are fast becoming endangered species.

E pain you abi? Yes, women can be top officials! If it was runs now
it won't pain you so much....

ogoloray:
"top official working in Dubai"

Was that detail really necessary

Agba ti de

BlueRayDick:


Why don’t u eat Egusi ? I’m curious, I want to know .

When I was much younger I also don’t eat egusi , I don’t eat ewedu laced with egusi, neither do I eat egusi ijebu ( just plain watery egusi and pepper spiced with dried fish or any protein ).

When a paternal aunt came to stay with us for few months she accused my mum for spoiling me and allowing me to decide whatever soup/food I like or I don’t . She would carry stick, sit with me and try to force me eat any of the aforementioned soup/food. She usually gets frustrated Cos I end up not eating at all. Later she realized her folly that u can only force the horse to the stream but can’t force it to drink from it. She apologized to my mum and allowed me choose what I eat .


Funny enough , now that I’m all grown some of those meals/food/soup are my favorites now. Egusi with garri at a standard Igbo kitchen is what I don’t play with anytime I’m in an area that has such mouth watering delicacy . Even ewedu with egusi goes well in my mouth with Amala well well. Even carrot that I don’t eat back then, it’s a must for me in my stir fry spaghetti, fried rice or coconut rice .

A plain MBA is ok. You can still back it up with cipm accreditation at your own pace if finance is an issue.

creolehunt:
Professionals in the House, please which do you advise?

I already have an MSc in a Social Science course, but plan to pursue a career in HR but have been wondering the best path.

Should I pursue an MBA in Human Resources from NOUN or simply sign up for a CIPM certification?

N still pay their stuff peanuts

Debodimeji01:
I swear...

Though crude but your mind is at rest.
GTB... you get alert, they remove N50. You do transfer, the debit you N10, then debit you N26 again. If the transfer is now above 10k, the debit you N50 again. On top your money ohhhh...

N he does not take alcohol at all o. E be like say village people don buy plot of land for your matter...

TheGreatIYANU:
You knew you had medicals, YOU still went and drank red wine... LOTS OF IT!

Is this not village people?

Quiet people are usually mistaken as proud. Had the same experience when I was serving that I wove at people like a beauty queen, so full of myself and if this makes you feel better, same Nccf. Yet, I find it off putting and in bad taste, speaking in public about earnings. That may come across as boastful, which doesn't mean you are. Maybe, you are giving too much. If you feel led as I assume you are a Christian to give more than what seems reasonable, give anonymously.

You just keep working hard and expanding your horizons. U are doing great.

Where should they pick it from before? Yall be celebrating mediocrity and attracting mediocre leaders too....

But she's sha a human being na, abi na cartoon she bi?

I just remember driving past this school years ago, bowing when I hear their fees and imagining if I'd ever be able to school my yet unborn kids in such an elitist school. Now ,I know better...not all that glitters is gold.

Your friend

Odiegwu, hope no be yahoo u dey do sha? Keep low profile, u no wan hear.... abeg try to dey invest sha, no be only shoe, cloth and perfume u go dey buy if u sure say the money na legit one.

Denvacandy:
Bros, i dont even talk about how much i make or tell them when i recieve credit alert, this my 2 brodas live far away from each other, infact we have not seen each others for close to 7months now.

Let me make this clear to you, you cannot hide money for long, people will notice you already have money.

When you dey fresh and change shoes cloth and even making crazy moves, how will they not know you already have money

I try as much as possible to hide it away from people that i have money but no.

Do you know the meaning of someone that has suffered and smells compare to when you see the person now and the smell of peff won make u hug the person? you see fresh shoes and cloths?

Shey hin go steal am ni?

Dis your pidgin is definitely in pre school mode. Don't come for me pleeeassee, I'm on flight mode.

Kobojunkiee:
Why make for staff? Dem no fit go make it for their own self? Why must they eat from what is the students?

Teachers wey suppose to dey give students, na to take from students dem they do instead.