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sweetonugbu:
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Why men do not respect Pick Me and Pull Them Down Women

When I posted my introduction, and I was attacked by men, personally the insults didn't get to me. It was expected. I had practically just made myself inaccessible to a good majority of them. Entitled people hate it and hate you when you don't do their bidding. What I found funny about the whole situation though was that women too were attacking me for not wanting to be accessible to every Tom, Dick and Harry. They were questioning my right to set standards for myself and were demanding that I played nice.

"You can be a feminist and still be nice".

Bitter truth: you cannot be a feminist in a way that does not offend men. The very definition of feminism is an attack on male privilege and toxic masculinity. It says "Women are human beings, people just like men", and we live in a society that says "Men are human beings, people, while women are instruments of male gratification". Just like dogs, women are trained by their parents to become loyal and obedient wives to their husbands. When a man wants to marry, he goes to a woman's father, pays money to him, buys gifts for the entire family and community, and in exchange he's given the woman as a wife. He practically buys her the way a person would buy a dog.

The woman will then relocate to wherever the man decides, change her surname to his surname and bear children that will bear his surname. Women are supposed to gift their husbands with their virginity as well to show that no other man has touched them before. Again, like a dog. The whole system is built to make sure men and women complement and need each other. Men need female adulation and women need male validation. But the difference is in the power structure. On the one hand, men demand for female adulation. A woman must worship and revere them. It is their right. Women are expected to know this.

On the other hand, women hope that men will validate them. They hope that they will notice their efforts and give them that head rub that validates their entire existence, just like a master does with a dog. And men know this.

The women who are the most guilty of this behaviour are the Pick Me Women.

They are always the ones to gbam to every statement aimed at debasing women.

Man: A woman who is not ready to be submissive should avoid getting married.
Pick Me: Gbam.

Man: Women who are not virgins do not deserve faithful husbands.
Pick Me: Gbam.

Man: A woman who cannot cook has failed in life.
Pick Me: Gbam.

Man: No matter how successful and educated a woman is, if she's not married by the time she's 30, and with three children, she has failed in life.
Pick Me: Gbam.

Man: A woman's husband is her beauty and crown.
Pick Me: Gbam.

I could go on and on. The point is all these women care about is looking good for men. And in order to achieve this, they even promote self degrading ideas on their own.

"Women are the cause of domestic violence because they talk back."

"Women push men outside their marriage with their behaviour."

"Women cause rape by not covering up."

It's worrisome, but still not as worrisome as the women who join men to insult other women, women who gbam to insults by men against other women, women who point out the women to insult, and women who insult other women of their own initiative. The Pull Them Down Women.

Back in the days of slavery, the reason why many slaves who tried to escape were caught was because another slave snitched on them. These snitches sabotaged another slave's plan to become a free man or woman by reporting them to the guards or master. They got a head rub and maybe a few goodies, but what they never got was their freedom.

Both the slave who tried to escape and the slave who snitched on him or her remained slaves. Because the rules said "White people are free, black people are slaves".

Likewise, when a woman insults another woman or calls for men to insult another woman, she doesn't earn the respect of these men. She doesn't become "one of the guys". Because the rules says that for you to become "one of the guys", you must be a guy. So no matter how hard these women try, men will never treat them with the respect they treat other men.

What about the women that are insulted? What do men think of them

Let's go back to slavery once more. Whenever the slaves who tried to escape were captured, they were punished by whipping, shackling, hanging, beating, burning, mutilation, branding, rape, and imprisonment. Punishment was often meted out in response to disobedience or perceived infractions, but sometimes abuse was performed to re-assert the dominance of the master (or overseer) over the slave. (Wikipedia)

The master didn't just punish them because they ran away. He punished them and even killed them to re-establish the social order in the plantation. The masters FEARED them. They feared that these runaway slaves would influence other slaves to become subsersive. The punishment that the slaves received was not to discourage them from running away again, it was to discourage other slaves from even trying. These masters knew that courage was infectious.

Similarly when men attack women for daring to change the social order, they want to make an example out of her. They want other women to watch and learn, including the Pick Me Women and the Pull Them Down Women. Because at the end of the day, we are all women. Fortunately we no longer live in the Middle Ages, when women were tortured and burned at the stake for being witches. And yes, many of them were reported to the Church by other women (Pull Them Down Women have been in existence since forever).

Today, the most these men and women can do is hurl insults at you, and insults can only do as much damage as you allow them. On my post I was called bitter, unhappy, sex starved, a lesbian, an attention seeker, a LovePeddler, e.t.c.. I checked the definitions of these words and none of them describe me. Their words hit my barrier of awesomeness and bounced back right at them.

After that introduction, I became even more confident of my ideas because I know how much men fear them. And I pity those women who attacked me because I know that they didn't earn the respect that they so much desired.

Dogs never get to sit at the table with their masters no matter how obedient and subservient they are. The highest they will ever get to sit is on their master's lap.

Happy Week!!!!!!!!!!!

Mention one thing nobody taught you how to do but you can do it very well??

CROCHETING

Nice

Over time I noticed that there are a whole lot of negative vibe in this forum, everybody wants to be savage and loud. Some people will jump in the comment section with all sorts of derogatory comments and castigation.

Personally, I do not feel like it's ideal. Maybe we should learn to respect each others Opinion, and best believe that whether or not the persons is right or not, it doesn't mean that the person is not doing well in life. All of us are broke, na phone and filter we take pass each other.

The kind of insults I see in the comment section of people's posts are uncalled for, which was why earlier today with the sole intention of replying every "I too know" person strength for strength and Savagery for savagery, just so they can understand that it's not everyone you'll poke and get away with it.
The normal me does not reply comments because I try to avoid drama and bants, but I did today because I needed to pass a message.

So, to everyone who was offended by my reply, I hope you understand how people feel when you leave bad comments on their posts.
Always understand that even if a persons post doesn't sit well with you, you can always scroll pass rather than try to be a cyber bully and keypad warrior.

Let's learn to be more accommodating and have more respect for other people's opinion.
My 5 hours of shenanigan is over, and I'm back to my default setting, which does not reply derogatory comments.

Happy Weekend in advance my people

Dear pick me woman,
Do not think you are better than people like us!!! No you are not, you are just a feeble, weak and an emotionally subjected clown.

I don't blame you that your voice has been taken away, I only blame you for not seeing how low you have descended. You have forgotten who you are.

In case you are not sure of who a pick me woman is. A "pick me" woman are those woman that join their voices with men to shame other women.

A pick me woman is a woman who thinks she will get a man to "wife " her by being the caricature "virtuous" , society accepted regular wife material.

She will go to the extent of trying to prove how men are natural cheats

A pick me woman will do all in her power just to get the praises and validation of a man ...lol.

She will justify a mans fooooolish behaviour with comments like "He is a man", " men are natural flirts, men lie to protect women, he is mistreating you because he cares about you.

Let me tell you a secret, men will always choose women like us over you. You know why? because they know where we stand. They know that with us they cannot be confused. They know we mean what we say , and we say what we mean. We are not a bunch of confused women like you. We know exactly what we want and when we see it , we pursue it with all our hearts. We are not double standard. We are not held back by your slavery mindset of male dependence. We can date any man irrespective of his societal status or class. Our love is independent of what a man can or cannot give us. We know we can get anything we want with or without our spouses help, so why set a material criteria as a standard for an immaterial desire ( why choose money, status or physical appearance over love, friendship, trust loyalty).

A feminist will show you where you are with her. If you are just a f*ck mate, she will tell you. If you are her man, or just a friend, you will also know. With women like us, you may be shocked, perplexed , wowed, angry, but NEVER confused. That is why we will always be a preferred choice. We are not like you, we are not doubled standard like you. You are double standard and you do not know what you want. You are just following the band wagon , and just like a dog, your masters can only give you a pat on the back for being a " good dog" He will still throw the food to you on the floor. And like a dog, you will wag your tail and lick his feet. No no, I don't want to be called a good woman, I want to be called a good human.

You know why you cant compete with women like us?
Because the men know what they want. They are not as confused as you.
An average feminist has so many choices of males to choose from. Check our inboxes and see the numbers that come in there. And even in our physical lives, we have too many males pressuring us for relationships that we even almost confused on who to choose and outside social media that we end up getting confused when "pick me " women like you make a statement like "men are scarce".

This is because a woman who has a voice has power. That is the diamond, your voice is your power. And because the males know that, they attack it and you foooooooool join them with your abject ignorance.

You pick me woman assume you become the more marriageable wife material when you are like that. No, you are not. He knows you are a poor weakling that will always be his dog and will lick his feet at any time "T". Then they come back to us and keep begging.

So never confuse our being outspoken with lack of male figures in our lives, or like some of you would quickly taunt, lack of " di*ck"... Dont dream it. We have too many choices to make. So much choice that you can't even imagine it.

See!!! if an average pick me woman has 10 guys asking her out, an average feminist has like double of that. That is because humans go for scarce commodity.

The worse you can do about us is gossip. I know one who went about gossiping me about how much I have been used. In her words " them don fu..ck. Joan tiya", lol. This is someone whose baby daddy slept with her best friend, and she went ahead and forgave. Yes, that's how the "pick me" women are. The men can do what they like because they know they "pick me" woman has limited choices. She is scared that if she looses him, no one else may find her. So aunty had to forgive.

My advice. You can leave your mediocrity and learn some enlightenment.

Don't be a pick me woman...
You deserve more than crumbs.

Do me a favour to share this post. To enlighten all pick me women. They needed to hear me say it.

See you guys in 30 days time

Abi na

solasoulmusic:
Sometimes it’s the truth and it’s a nicer way of saying your really not my type it’s better than ghosting you sha sorry

Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

Smallboy01:
And I'll add arrogance and jaundice to your self qualities

Inthemoment:
My brother already has... He said he married her because she reminded him of me. (weird thing to hear) his wife is my best friend, mother and sister.

Pettyprincess:
Yeah you very right!!
As a lady if your bf never contributed to your life in one way or the other he's not the right person for you
I detest stingy guys guys with passion!!
As a guy you should be able to spend any amount on your gf without demanding sex!!!
Real men do not equate money with sex!!!

ok

Alot of times, you guys miss the point.

The worst way to approach an intelligent, sensitive and independent woman who knows her worth and understands her value (it is one thing to know your worth and another to understand your value) is to come into her inbox with the mindset to interview her.

You will hit a brick wall!

No woman who knows her onions will give you the audience of conducting an interview in her inbox when she isn't applying or has applied for a job.

Relationship is not a job interview that you would want to know everything about the person in one day!

Learn to go through a ladies profile get the basic information about her before sending her a message. There are other mature ways to approach a lady than asking her "sup" "xup" "what's ur name (when it is pretty obvious)" "where are you now (if I tell you would you come over)" "where are you chatting from (aren't we all chatting or writing from our phones or laptops) "have you eaten (as if you will buy me food)"?

Pick a subject! Talk about the weather, the situations around you, politics, sports, trending topics on social media, zeeworld or whatever. If you can't remember any subject, at least remember buhari is still the president and talk about him!

Stop coming inbox to conduct interview sessions! We aren't applying for a job and don't forget that you are meant to shoot your shots to get her not get an employee. There are much more intelligent and mature way to chike a lady than the way some of you go about it.

Why are Nigerian like this?!

Stephani3e:
I don't see how banging someone's mom correlate with the topic, you could have used sister or brother using mother is quite degrading.

Godson214:
Stop drugs

Very shameless.

mrsfavour:
the 3rd one is bomb. I once tried that when I was dating,hummm ,it remained I give my life yet the idiot will take my money and still cheat. Such a shameless guy

This answer is confusing

DonroxyII:
Yes, if they are really what I want for a wife !!

No, if they are not my kinda woman !!

There are 3 categories of men you MUST never date, no matter how desperate you are.

1. Do not date a broke man.
2. Do not date a stingy man.
3. Do not date an ingrate who refuses to acknowledge your contribution in his life.
*I despise the last one*

mrsfavour:
I agree with you. Once they get money they become king and forget their hungry days

There are people who enjoy being poor. There are also men who are perpetually broke because they like it that way. They move from woman to woman, living off them. They don't want to work - they'd rather borrow from or defraud others.
Those are the men am talking about. My experience dating a broke guy left me traumatized till this day. I shrink whenever I remember the psychological and emotional abuse he put me through.

Single Lady,

Do not trust the humility of a broke guy.
Do not trust the loyalty/love of a broke guy.

Poverty forces a man to be humble and to do what he hates for survival.

Wait until he has money then see if he will still remain 'humble.'
Money is a revealer of character.

I am going to hit the nail right on the head!

Let's stop lying to ourselves.
This life of lies won't take us anywhere at all!
I am all for a woman working, earning a living, being Independent and not relying on any man.
But I am also a REALIST!
Relationship is commitment on all levels!
If you can not commit totally why be in a relationship?
It is not an entitlement mentality to expect someone you are in a relationship with to be of financial assistance.
I have been in relationships where I was the one doing most (if not all) the financial giving.
I didn't see it as an entitlement mentality,
I saw it as investing in my relationship. Helping the man I love as at then.
I know a lot of ladies who were financially helping their men at one time or the other.
It's a sign of love and commitment to that person you profess to love.
What is love without giving?
Giving is a proof of love.
You might not be giving money but when you give your time, your energy, advises, a listening ear, ideas, suggestions,
It's also giving and a proof of love.
Why date someone who won't add to your growth in life?
Why be entangled in a relationship where your partner sees your asking for his assistance as an entitlement mentality?

We might not all have money to give,
But giving is necessary to strengthen the bond of love!
A man who has money to give but refuses to give is not just stingy but wicked!
Even people who aren't romantically entangled give talk more of you that is romantically entangled!
I am against a parasitic relationship,
You shouldn't want to suck the blood off your partner's body all in the name of having a relationship!
That's not what I'm saying oh!
If you can give your man, give him and if you can give your woman, give her!
Forget all these facebook ideologies!
Some people who come screaming "why must he give you? Is he your father"?
Some of these ladies won't survive if a man doesn't given them!

Money is very Important in sustaining a relationship!

Never marry or date a man who won't add to your growth in anyway!
A man should support his woman knowing that she is doing the right thing.
I won't even date a man who isn't ready to invest in my business and I in his !
You are either investing money, time or giving me ideas on how to grow it. Relationship is relating at all levels !
I add to your life, you add to mine; equation balance.
Cos I will want to see my man grow in his line of business, he should also want to see me grow.

And all these have nothing to do with two adults consenting to have sex!
Relationship goes deeper than a man and a woman coming together to have sexual Intercourse!

Good Afternoon sweethearts!

If you’ve had sex with someone and they forgot to tell you they’re HIV positive, go to the hospital immediately and ask for Post Exposure Prophylaxis. It’s an antiretroviral medicine which if taken after being potentially exposed to HIV can prevent infection. Must be done within

72 hours after though and after you do this go report that person. Now make this spread quicker than y’all spread your legs for random men.

If their viral load is undetectable then there's no need to panic, you're safe. Undetectable =untransmissible.

I know of discordant couples living together and having babies normally and delivering normally and breastfeeding normally, whilst keeping the negative partner negative. Positive couples having negative babies. This I've seen with my own eyes.

Look at the analysis to know whether having sex is good or bad, let us have an elaborate discussion to know what reasons every couple cites for having sex before marriage. Some of the reasons are

1. Few women have admitted that having intercourse before marriage was one of the ideas to make the guy get committed to her. Whereas, the men always have a different opinion where some may real want to share the intimacy and there are few guys who just do to satisfy their lust.

2. Once when you start to have intercourse, then it becomes a natural habit which may become unavoidable and end up in having it at least two to three times a week. This will not only spoil the intimacy between them but will also break the desire to get into the next phase of life with the same girl.

3. Some couples also say the reason by blaming the environment and circumstances arousing them to have intercourse and also to make their level of relationship in a comfort manner.

ADVANTAGES OF HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE:

Let us now see the benefits we can gain by having sexual intercourse before marriage life.

a. The chemistry between the couple at the time of sexual intercourse is usually said to have increased. It not only creates an understanding between the two but also creates a good mutual respect between the couples. Still, it might be advisable only to have intercourse occasionally as making it a regular practice before marriage will surely lower your interest.

b. Some people prefer to have intercourse within the same gender before marriage and this is a denial scenario since it may make the person to lose interest of having the intimacy with the opposite gender. They will not have an experience or a feel of having intercourse with opposite gender and it automatically sets their mind to deny them even after their marriage.

c. The ultimate advantage is you can clearly get to know each and every proceedings of bed step by step and you actually start to enjoy and co-operate with your partner which always makes you feel so excited and anticipated.

d. You can clearly note your partner inch by inch physically and may be tempted to explore more and more about your partner. In this way it is very much helpful in noting down the actions and behavior of your partner which would prove handful even after the marriage.

e. Some may have problems in fulfilling the desires of their partner while the other may get fulfilled very quickly. To best avoid this problem, having intercourse before marriage will surely help you a lot. Once if you find either you or your partner is not able to fulfill each other , you can follow practicing some remedies to get fit enough and give the libido your partner wants.

DISADVANTAGES OF HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE:

a. Similar to the benefits, there are also some major disadvantages of having sexual intercourse before marriage. They are

b. Based on the recent study, it has been revealed that man y women have lost their interest in having sexual intercourse with their partner after marriage as they have got fed up and tired of having intercourse with the same partner even before marriage. In some cases, there are also some males who have witnessed the same issues very frequently.

c. Having intercourse before marriage may give them the attraction and physical fulfillment at the moment but it won’t last long. The reason being that men always think that this just a part of relationship whereas the women think that they have given their entire life to the guy and become more close to him. In such cases when there is nothing more left in the relationship to be carried further, there are heavy chances of breaking-up, being a possibility.

d. Also many women lose interest of having sexual intercourse after marriage with her partner just because of the myth that was created in her mind that intercourse will only lead to the fulfillment of individual on their own rather than the love and intimacy which is to be shared in the bed with each other. This is mainly because of her previous experiences at the time of her relationship.

e. Whenever there is relationship between the men and the women before marriage which gets further through the sexual intercourse will get a feeling of individual’s joy and pleasure on their own at the end of intercourse. The reason being the libido and the intimacy that was shown at the initial phases of first few weeks of intercourse will totally get changed into a entirely different one which has the desire to get fulfilled by the individual’s on their and get their due disrespect and opinion towards the sexual intercourse even after the marriage.

f. There are also several health related issues which may occur during premarital sexual intercourse. There may be problems during the period of life after marriage such as loss in erection, getting fulfilled quicker than usual and several other similar issues that are related to intercourse which occurs either before or after marriage affecting your future marriage life.

Guys Be honest
Can you advice your brother or sister to marry someone like you
Don't lie