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FullBlastLight:
All right, good job frm u there then!

Those b4 u already resiliently did theirs ever b4 u showed up! Or, don't u think so?

Meanwhile, keep it up & put more effort, cos it's invariably a training ground 4 u 2 bcom d Proverb 31 woman!

U're getting built, honestly!

So because they did theirs before me, they should all gang up on me.

More effort ke. That was a long time ago. We are all now in our husband's houses. But whenever I visit, they can't help but hand over the cooking and running of the house to me for the period .

You already agreed in the beginning to relocate with him. It is not like he is just bringing the issue from nowhere.

And your business was doing well in Lagos, you moved to PH and it was still doing well, what makes you think it won't do better when you relocate?

Also, for your children's future, your future, for a better outcome, life, etc, relocating is a good idea.

You just have to make up your mind to push your business when you get there.

The other option is to stay behind while your husband moves and stays over there while you have a distant marriage and you both will be visiting each other.

FullBlastLight:
I hope she's not tryna be lazy as one chronic attribute of many last born!

There's dignity in labour, not in laziness!

If u try stay wit anoda pple away frm ur family, what u wil be subjected 2 we make u realise how u hv been enjoying in ur own home dt u're fussing at now!

Lastborns are not lazy. Me plus the ones I know were the unofficial househelps of the family. Running errands like no man's business. I washed clothes, cooked and cooked, plait hair, go to the market countless times. It wasn't easy.

When I read some posts about lastborns being lazy, I am wondering, "HOW!" Maybe the lastborns that are boys though. It is those ones that they pamper.

richardorovwigho:
Luficer means morning star or light bringer... it's not necessarily a bad name only that the first bearer of the name is Satan! which ofcourse made it bad

I guess you can name your child Lucifer

pocohantas:
Lmao. Sorry about that. It looked nothing like your meatpie-moinmoin. I wasn’t hands-on to take a picture, but it looked like this...

The attached picture is mine too.

Scintillating

Maybe because the desirable was not available and had to make the available desirable.

And now, the desirable has become available and she has now left the available for the desirable.

I can hardly see past the fact you think beating her is your right.

It's better to let her go than beat her.

pocohantas:
Your husband?

That is why I don’t wanna stop. If I do 10, 2 would leak small, 1 will almost scatter. Not too bad for a rookie wrapper.

Lol...exactly. he taught me.

It's better it leaks than having to use something else. I prefer moi moimoi made in leaves

IDENNAA:
Akwaibom has oil money. I actually expected more , especially in human development!

Delta, Rivers and Bayelsa nko? What do they have? Water money?

pocohantas:
Late post;

Pic 1: Assorted stew
Pic 2: Moinmoin about to be cooked. I don’t wanna give up on wrapping with leaf. I’ll keep doing it, till I perfect it.

Yeah. When you keep wrapping, you become good at it. You can't imagine who I learnt to wrap moimoi from...lol

thedio:
I don't pray for a daughter

Don't be shocked when God gives you more daughters than sons. Be prepared. Sons are not better than daughters.

Meanwhile the men are dressed

thedio:
thou I'm not in total support of FGM but how would u feel,if ur teenage daughter is d one looking for boys to Bleep,if she can't live without sex in 3days.
I know one girl like that when I was in schl,this girl used to move from one floor to the other,from block C to E giving guys free service.Infact they used to share her number in d hostel,u know guys now.
Besides that I av caught a girl of around 7yrs playing with her clit......I don't know where to stand on this issue.

So you would mutilate your daughter to prevent her from flirting. Then unmutilate her when she's about to get married abi.

Talk about cutting of the nose to spite the face.

Any beans lovers like me?

I still don't think getting married and having kids in an uncompleted building should be encouraged. If a man cannot provide basic shelter for his family, why get married?

There's no competition in getting married. He doesn't have to have it all. However, he should have the basics.

You can only be called what you act like.

And you have obviously been acting like an oga, bros, boss.

Enjoy your title

Nezero:
This is fantastic

Yeah it's good to see something refreshing other than the cliché NL grammar: SIMP, CRETIN,etc

AdesewaAde:
im not contradicting myself,if he can trust me to the level of telling me how he wants to spend money,using me as NOK,why can’t he trust me by investing on me too?

Have you tried investing in yourself? You said you are working. What do you spend your money on? Do you spend on him also. Or you expect him to do the spending while you keep your money?

You don't know if that money is going into future plans. Or you want to eat the future today? Also, he probably has family that he helps out.

You already said he helps out with your bills. Don't burden him much with expense making him think you are all for the money.

We have to learn to love each other beyond our tribes. And parents need to free their children from their own bias. There's nothing wrong with marrying from another tribe. My bro married a Yoruba lady and it's over 12 years. My sis married Hausa.

My parents were liberal people especially my mum who wasn't as educated as many mothers who limit their children.

Please you need to fight this. Tribe should not be their basis for refusal. It is not enough.

Phenom10101:
I can never marry a Yoruba woman, The are too treacherous .
And Yorubas don't like us Igbos, If you have stayed with them you will understand. They are too greedy and the can't be trust worthy.

People also think the same of igbo women. And also that they are rude, materialistic and wicked.

There's really no winning in this tribal wars. Everyone has their flaws and good sides individually.

Fake.

That's their format

But you said he foots your bills and even used you as his NOK. So why are you contradicting yourself?

She's talking based on the kind of men she has been dating.

She should keep her advice for herself

Olamila:
Let me not bore you guys with my relationship history but this girl is my first love, i met her while i was in school 300l. Ever since then i have always been there for her despite even having a low budget as student because I'm not from a wealthy home, even her parents has times10 more than my family. But despite that i try all i could to maintain my role in the relationship because i don't fancy myself asking anything from my girlfriend.

Before anything else i need to tell little about my girlfriend, she is beautiful and nice. Almost every guy wants to woo her and all of that. Aside of that my girlfriend is very stingy to me, she can never allow her anything be in my possession, she doesn't have this idea that we could end up one day though she will always say something close to it only during fun time. But when she is at her leisures she will say how she fancy how husband to be and all of that which i no I'm not the person she could had been referring to. That not even my major issue.

She always been cruel when she asks me for anything and i refuse to give her maybe i don't have or just don't see needs to do so.
I also discovered that most of our fun times comes immediately money enters my hand. Because i remember when i was in school my first 800k i made was finished and squandered with her, i haven't dated anyother or even have another girl since i met her. Because i try to make her feel comfortable because i no how many guys wish her to be with her. So secondly i made another 1m i squandered it with her too. But when this money just finish guyz i always see hell in her. This was the ups an downs i was experiencing till i finished my school with her. It was a shame for me upon the money i made in school i graduated with zero account looking for money for my law school. I wasn't fortunate to get any help so i sat back to Hustle. Then i was begging looking for helper to assist me when i saw one big opportunity that i need to take but it the opportunity required money as my account was bleeding zero. I begged everyone including my girlfriend but she told me she doesn't have even if she happened to get money for me i will pay her interest. This words alone made me cry, did you no instead of helping me out she told me I'm not the only one that needs help she also need to invest on her self which she was right i believe her. She later invested her money in one fraudulent sheme which she lost the money.

FastTrack to what is happening now, i later got help from someone who offered me 50k and my mum 20k making it 70k i picked myself up and started my Hustle again. Within three months i made 800k again. All this times i was giving her update about my business and earnings. Could you imagine she had the gut to ask for money despite her behaviors. Because of my nature i don't believe someone's bad nature should change my own nature so i still sent her some money because i also no she is broke.

Since then i just forgot about what she did and all of those stuffs because my money kept coming and i don't keep grudges i keep taking care of her. Now i had issue with my business i want to fix something up i was also telling her. this girl went ahead to start asking me to send her money. I was really disappointed i protested because i noticed when i have money i become very careless. It seems money covers so many things.
I just need advice because i think it is time to let her go coz with her nature and type of girl it might end in tears for me. All she do is stay on social media, snap and post and look for who will send her money. No skills, i have begged her several times to look for something to be doing she refused and tells me how her dad won't allow her. She doesn't listen to me, always feel like boss when little money enter her hand. Guys i really love her but i think it is time to seek help because i will regret if this continues.

You are your problem.

Maybe when you have spent all your money on her and reduced to zero again and she moves on, you will wake up.

You can't see her for what she is.

Some people here castigating the poor man are the same people that still encourage someone with 20k salary to get married.

Sparro:
Yeye, in your myopic mentality, no matter what, a father will loose relevance where his child is concerned. Sorry for your own situation. Our fathers are very very relevant in every area. And we are going to be very very relevant where our children are concerned. Like I said earlier, there are as equal number of irrelevant mothers as there are irrelevant fathers. I won't reply any of your myopic comment again.

You are not even making sense. Just rambling


Good riddance.

Korllami007:
I quote you because you are comparing men's job and women's job as if they are the same thing and belittling men's job in the society.
Let me ask you again, the jobs I listed earlier, which job can you confidently do for a day?

At what point did I belittle a man's job? I have not done that. I don't know where you saw that.

My only point is that time can be created to spend with the children, no matter the job.

We create time for what matters to us despite our professions, career, etc.

Korllami007:
You can tell that to soldiers in sambisa that have been there for more than three years and may end up getting killed without seeing their family.
I'm pretty sure if you happened to be the kid of a soldier that's has been fighting in borno for years, you will hate him for not bonding with you while spending his money.
They are some pictures of soldiers being slaughter, packed like sardine that has been circulating the internet. You know that they are human too, but you are here stylishly belittling their work. Their kids can hate them for not bonding with them. Their father put their lives on the line so that they can live a good life. I'm pretty sure you will hate your father in this situation.

The tissue paper and a piece of paper you use daily, I don't think you know how it's made. Some men sleep in the forest for months dragging out log of woods and they do this to feed their families.

Abeg come do Jackman for sawmill make you dey roll timbers weigh 200kg and above from morning till night or make you offload timbers from a truck; if you can do any of this jobs for 1 minute without ending in hospital or die, you should be given national award. But you are here on the internet belittling men's work in the society.

Mtchew.

You can go to sambisa yourself to deliver that message.

I went to Command and naturally, the friends I grew up with were children of soldiers/officers. It didn't stop them from being close to their children. In fact one of them who lost her dad in the plane crash en route Obudu was exceptional. That man was so close to his children. It was pleasant to watch.

So please use another analysis. It has nothing to do with the profession. Even when soldiers goes on peace keeping missions to Sudan or elsewhere, they still come back home.

Choosing to spend time with family/children is a personal thing.

Don't worry...I won't hiss

Sparro:
Myopic woman, if your father is not close to you or if he is not relevant, stop assuming that all fathers are like that. Thank you

That's why I say you are the myopic one. If you actually read my comments to understand, you would have seen that in fact I said men especially in recent times are close to their children.

But your bias, myopic mind and short sightedness won't let you see beyond your nose.

You only read to attack not to get it. Please take your bias elsewhere

TonyeBarcanista:
One of the problems of you people is the lack understanding!

1. A man's primary duty in the home is to provide, protect, defend and care for the family.

2. When he is chanced, he spends time with his family no matter how little (most men I know do this). I have never seen a man that doesn't spend time with his kids when he is chanced... Except for a few extremely irresponsible men!

3. Yet, a woman is always the first point of call for kids because she is usually with them while discharging her wifely duties in the home front, spends more time with the kids and of course bond more.

3b. The above does not in anyway relegate the relevance of the man. Although most kids tend to acknowledge this sacrifices of fathers when they are grown, especially male children.

4. For Xynerise, being an adult male that is expected to know better, to come up with an uninformed thread just like this only shows that he is advancing an agenda to subjugate men/fathers. It is unfortunate and Sissy for a grown up man to reason this way.

5. I don't expect you to grasp my point because you are not a man, husband nor father.

The bolded was not in the equation in your previous comments. It is good to see that you know it is important.

As I said to someone earlier, it is not about men's vs women's roles. It is about getting close to the children you fathered. It much more than providing, protecting, etc.

I don't have to be a father, man or husband to understand you. I have a husband here; a great father (who is also my father). And he makes it seem effortless.