₦airaland Forum

richie240:
Lolz......
Even d 'strungup' dude dt has bn stringing u gyes upandan all along has confessed/come out clean, but u r still here beating ur skinny chest?

Even if God comes down himself to say it was a lie, people like Kennedyiheme will still stick to the initial story because it puts women in the bad light that appeals more to him than women being good.

It takes a noble person to admit that he was wrong. But to save face, most guys here will stubbornly stick to what they want to believe.

Mstick:
On nairaland when ever a woman brings an issue concerning her marriage/husband the men on this forum always want to,
1)hear from her husband
2)suggest she isn’t submissive or contributing financially to the family.
3)run her down physically and emotionally

When it’s a man they don’t
1)want to hear from his wife after all women are evil
2)they don’t even care if he loves his wife or even contributing in any way to his family.
3)they don’t care even if he’s at fault, he’s a man and it’s his “god given right”.


I will give you an example, a “man” created a topic about how his wife emasculates him, none of the “men” commenting on that topic cared about the woman’s side of the story. Over 30 pages of insults and name calling till she comments and gave her side of the story, the “men” still kept on insulting her and picking her statement.

Later on OP commented and said truly she’s his wife and he lied, as a normal human you would expect the “men” that insulted her to apologize but no they insisted that OP was being manipulated by his wife.

Welcome to Nairaland where the men are bias towards women.

The bolded is apt.

saintneo:
TonyeBarcanista,

You are just saying Alpha male is a Choleric-majority personality.

True! Finally!!

This alpha male thing that is becoming a trend on NL like Marlians is not new. That was my comment, that they are just personality types like cholerics, phlegm, Sanguine, melancholy and a combination of them.

I read Tim Lahaye's Why You Act The Way You Do over a decade ago and it seems some people are just waking up and playing around with names...alpha, beta, lol.

They will all be fine

djon78:
And you haven't seen men with money women play like a puppet.
Men that just use only money to attract women most times end up with gold diggers
Just yesterday a close friend was telling me of his close pal that married a woman and placed her on salary . He was working a very high paying job. The chick was a stunner/beautiful. Guy man later lost his high paying job. Chick went back to her people, that she will return when things turn around.

Money can't cover your inadequacies

And mind you even rich people can go through a down time. You may have plenty today but money is not constant

Even billionaires go bankrupt
Everyone needs money but money can't cover your weakness/inadequacies.
It must show one way or the other

In Nigeria we think it's just money money but most times money attract to you gold diggers, women with uncouth character, women on the lowest level of intelligence, who can't add any value to your life.


Had an oga/menror then whose wife was an Exxon Mobil top engineer. Dude was controlling all her money, in fact her salary account he controls it and decides how it will be used.
He had absolutely nothing. From her earnings he started a highly lucrative business. Today that man is worth 100s of millions, very big man. His wife's earnings no near half his own now.
He was my mentor through me a lot about relationship. A no nonsense man, still running his family excellently.
There is nothing like being with a smart woman that respects and adores you. It takes more than money to arrange that kind of package. You must be a real man not simp

I don't think they are talking about idiots with money...men whose thought processes are only linked to their bulges. Or those that lack discretion. They are doomed to crumble.

prinsam30:
my first heartbreak thought me a bitter lesson and ever since then av been Alpha Male, no time for dulling

Are you sure you are now an alpha male? What makes you one?

DexterousOne:
You know one thing is that more often than not

It's the women wanting to define who "men" are when.they have never been a man a day in their life


Men don't do this in wholesale

It's always women

Only men know what and who men are and should be

"A tiger doesn't proclaim it's tigritude". There's no trying to.prove to anyone that it's a tiger when it's clear. If it's a rat, it will be evident.

This fight to be seen as an alpha is evident that the qualities and features are not actually there.

Martinez39s:
Whether you like it or not, healthserve, tonyebarcanista, and other red pill men don't give a damn about what you think constitutes an alpha male. No female shall define or dictate to us what makes us alpha men. We do not need your approval and validation.

Take your piffle to other simpletons on this thread that think like you for we [the red pill men] will be having none of that. If you think one cannot be alpha without money, that's your business and we redpill folks don't care what you think. I wish red pill men will start ignoring the ignorant bunch that think riches make one an alpha. We are not responsible for anyone's ignorance about the redpill and its terms. Good night.

You can send the memo

healthserve:
Who is angry and who's copying. Quit attacking what you don't have intimate understanding of

Manyen are dying in quite a few marriages and we don't want our brothers coming newly to the game to suffer. Simple

Cc...it means to copy people in a mail.

TonyeBarcanista:
Yimu

If you think you are an alpha, you are not being truthful to yourself. Thank God you wrote the article.

healthserve:
True Masculinity is never placing oneself above a woman or suppressing women in anyway. No one has ever embraced punishing our ladies. It's simply about men taking mantle of leadership and being men. Simply put

Cc

Martinez39 Martinez39s Ubunja Ericsmith

Why copying angry men?

zmpp:
those ones, the red pillers and MGTOW, are not alpha males. they are angry men's rights activists. they are broken beta males who have realized that their weakness was their undoing

Light bulb moment at the bolded.

It has turned them to bitter wailers, lashing out at every opportunity. Bashing ladies is their MO and source of livelihood . Maybe if they don't bash, they might die.

TonyeBarcanista:
Of course, you should know where I belong

Definitely not alpha

Jman06:
A turnoff to you but not a turnoff to me and to some other people!


Are you aware that some men in an attempt to live up to expectation of people like you end up making a mess of themselves and their relationships

They be forming alpha male and raising shoulder and their major feature is about women. How they have to be in control of her...above her, etc.

So you mean martinez39, astroG and the likes are not alphas but just female bashers and oppressors. Lol...it's not like I have not always known.

Alpha, beta...nothing new. The alphas are just like cholerics and the betas...probably phlegmatic or melancholy. Everyone cannot be ine way. We all compliment each other with our differences. Lifting alpha or omega over other personality type is just being unreasonable.

But then again, it seems this is the current trend and everyone wants to associate.

Sarang:
This is everywhere

Ok. Believe what you want.

sisisioge:
Hello people, my uncle's wife is about to celebrate her 40th birthday and he wonders what special gift or special thing he could do for her. Please note that they live abroad, each have their car and phone and are basically living low key.

There won't be a big party, just a parlour thing and he would be doing the cooking. He initially wanted me to get a nice low cost singer/abi na comedian to do a one minute video skit for her but I think that won't impress her biko. So he asked me to bring out ideas...what would you ladies want for your birthday? What would you gentlemen gift your loving babes for her 40th? Please help...many thanks.

Additional note: the babe like paparazzi small sha

You could check out royalhugssurprises on Instagram. They organize surprises

See, you're blaming him for the timing of your pregnancies and by extension, for your kids. Let's assume as you got pregnant at 19, you were probably naive and your husband didn't know better then, so you got pregnant, that's excusable and for some women, those achievements you failed to have at the time your peers were getting would make you resent that man with the mindset that he took it away from you. This here is basic for those who know so I understand you here.

From your second pregnancy timing, blame yourself. You know your body more than your husband does and your life should be in your hands 100%. There were a lot you could have done to avoid getting pregnant if your husband failed to use CD. You could've gone out to get pills, there are a lot of after sex pills or herbs to flush out sperm but you ate and slept on it so why blame the man?

Back to your fight, for your husband to walk away means you said a lot of nonsense to him, but that wasn't enough, you left the house without telling him where you were going to. I guess if he knew you went to buy drugs for your second child, he won't have locked you outside. As you come spark later na him the man spark too so na 1-1. After all, people handle anger differently.

Na your mouth make them beat you although your husband no get sense too. How person go carry hand dey beat pregant woman? Even if na devil push her come, you no Waka comot? Sorry oh! As you no get power to fight back, just carry yourself go hospital as you dey vomit blood.

So locking her outside till the next day is justification for not telling him where she was going. If she was linched and murdered that night, you think that would be a good excuse? Some men are just very mean hearted.

crackkhaus:
Next time, lead with this:



Not saying it is the cause of your single status, but it provides context for those looking to advise you.

Chief Inspector Investigator crackkhaus

CsRockefeller:
You people saying she should be happy, live her life to the fullest bla bla bla.

What if having a man in her life would just be that one thing to trigger her joy?

I once stayed with an uncle who was so bitter and angry, always quarrelling with me on little issues. The day his GF now wife came to visit him for the first time, he was so happy, I couldn't believe it, my uncle was so happy for a long time you would have thought he hit the lottery.

They are still married for about 6 years and I can still see that happiness in him.

You think at 30 it's easy to stay alone? Be alone, especially emotionally?

My dear, I only hope you find a man who truly deserves you. God cannot be wrong, if he says it's not good for a "man" to be alone then it's not good.

Being sad and bitter won't make the husband come faster. So she should as well live her life fully while she waits for him.

DoubleEngine007:
Hmmmm This one weak me small,but its all about different destinies anyways.. Its not actually how far,but how well.. Op your partner will come,but I hope you are not the one driving him away ?.. He mustn't be super rich o,because this mindset makes some girls single till 80.. So,please don't rush,just keep praying and he will come soon..

Lol...a relative of mine got married in December. She was over 40. The guy was older and he had never been married before.

Forget what you see on NL. Everything is not black and white. Forget all those virgin, evening newspaper nonsense. It's kids that think that way. Even a 50 year old woman can get married to a never-been-married man.

psalmsmiles:
Remember that guy who honestly loved you but you ditched him because he "wasn't" good enough for you 10 years ago?
This is karma paying back in full bi!tch

Who told you there was a guy she ditched?

How do you know that the guy was actually good for her?

What has karma got to do with this?

And is it every guy that asks a girl out that she accepts?

Sarang:
I grew up there! They are the most simple set of people.

They are quite simple but could be vindictive. And some of them have been affected by the lack of exposure and it affects the way they see things.

Just burying a family member brings out all those terrible features in them.

NGRsenate:
She signed an NDA.

Get it notarized and filed.

If she comes with any drama in future, sue her stinking ass.

Case closed.

Be a man, don’t tell your gf anything, if it’s any consolation; they can even do worse.

See advice. Can you predict the future and how an NDA would affect the relationship between a child and father if the OP wants the child later in life?

Sarang:
ENVY is in NIGERIA as a whole. Everywhere is filled with competition! Leave village people out of it.

How can I leave village people when the topic is about them? Village people are those who live in our villages or who grew up there, right?

Envy and jealousy is everywhere but we are talking about a particular set of people. I didn't create the thread.

Maybe you should save your girlfriend from marrying someone with a wandering manhood. Because you cannot be trusted.

A man that cannot exercise self control that just throws his life away, sells his birthright, safety, conscience all for sexual pleasure is a ticking bomb.

The wife to be, should prepare to be infected with deadly diseases because her man cannot put his thing in his pants.

Nigga44:
hmmmmm

Some of you have been completely brainwashed.
I blame you not......it's just what you were told while growing up.

What about some of us that live in villages? I wonder with this your logic, how the hell are we still alive?

My point is that sometimes you need to unlearn somethings you learnt as a kid. Not all you hear are actually true. I stay in my village and I've never had any reason to be afraid of anything. Some of the best and most honest people I know are actually in the rural areas.
All the yahoo boys, fake pastors, corrupt politicians, ritualists and the likes don't reside in the villages. Change your mentality..... Visit just once and I bet you visit once every year atleast

That means you are part of the village people. You are part of them. They won't envy you na. It's because you live there that you don't understand what people are talking about.

Michellekabod2:
a set of comb ,there are about 12 pieces...you can get them for 2k and above

There are more creative gifts than comb. It just like going to buy shaving stick as a gift. With 2k, though small, something better can be bought

Michellekabod2:
don't let her go. Love and accept yourself. Don't let anyone broke-sham you. You will make it some day and treat her like the Queen she is.

Don't be ashamed to get her little things like comb,earrings,a lovely T-shirt,or even take her out once a while to eat a moderate lunch. You can send her #200 recharge card

Comb?!!

We4all:
At this point, you should call it quits with her. This is because, most prophets are diabolical. They give false prophecies and if you doubt them, they use their diabolical powers to make such prophecies a reality. This is so they can prove themselves right.

And please, kindly ask your mum to stop exposing you to these so called prophets. Most of them are no good.

Rather, he and his wife should be more prayerful and involve their own prayer team in church so that no bad prophecy will come to pass.

Abfinest007:
he is d boss so he dictate what's happen

Very funny.

RisenPhoenix:
She is old. Old people sometimes behave strangely. Protect her honour as she would have protected yours; you don't need to lift your ego up ahead of hers. If she tells people that you don't give her money and they challenge you, just nod your head and promise to do more. You don't have to tell them that she's lying.

Wise words

RisenPhoenix:
This is an easy problem to solve.

Leave the children with her. Just settle her existing debts and put her on a steady income that will keep her debt free and the children comfortable.

Steady income? He is a corper, his brother is a tailor that is probably settling bills already. One brother is missing and another one is living in the shop with the mum. None of them can afford to set the mum up now especially with the 4 grandkids she has and her older son living with her.