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See how you are loving and being so dedicated as if you are not married.

You have the mouth to say you are a jealous person. Jealous kill you there.

You are complaining that she is cheating. Meanwhile you have a very big log in your own eye. She is "single-cheating" and you are "married-cheating"

Where is your wife in all of this? Your wife is the side chick here.

LadySarah:
We Dont like saying things the way it is cos a lot of Nigerians are hypocrites.Major reasons they reject Cs is Finance.If we had a Sort of insurance covering these births,a lot of these deaths will be avoided.Ask a woman who had undergone labor more than 24hrs with All strength gone.She will sign anything white As long As She is assured that her bill is covered.They never born man that will tell me he promised himsrlf Or family that his wife will not undergo Cs when he doesnt know what labor pain and complication is.

Secondly,is our mouth.A lot has already used our mouths to bring problem for us.What ppl will say.Ppl wjo when You die lives on.
My bestie then underwent Cs After 3 days of labor.when i went to visit her,the first thing She told me was that i shoildnt tell Anyone She birthed thru cs.The dirty look i gave her and how i hushed her up immediately told her i wasnt cut out for Such illiterate talk.

Even Though i have had My 3 sons vaginally,it doesnt make me better than one that had Cs.Al in all,the koko is that mother comes out alive with her baby and Theres resources to take care of all.

Your friend is funny. What's there to be ashamed of?

What actually is the benefit of joining this cult? He joined a cult and is still a vulcanizer probably struggling. You now join extra wahala

Logobenz1:
Look there is an undertone to everything bro.
Do you know what love is?if you love a person,moving on won't be that easy!
That's why the dead man's family is protesting because it kind of tells them the woman did not love their brother enough.
I remember 2008 when the first woman I ever loved left for France for studies.God I cried,did not date any other person till 2014 or so...
Love is not that easy to move on from.

It could even be that love that makes her remarry quickly. She loved her husband so much and was so into him and their marriage and was hardly ever alone. She grew to depend on him and enjoy having him around.

Now he's gone and it's hard to stay alone. And then she meets a good man who may not match up to her ex husband but she is comforted by the fact that she won't be alone.

People react differently to same situations. And people should not be quick to judge based on their own reaction.

MariaLavina:
Only the all knowing God knows who will be responsible or not. To err is human.

Haba Maria! Now you are putting it on God when He has given us the wisdom and discernment to be able work through these situations. there will be downtimes sometimes. But the op cannot just outrightly put the blame on the guy.

Temmywrites:
Sincerely speaking this is what I expected from peeps here, but u know its not all ladies that even falls into this trap.. But then the weaker ones or the ones that have not seen life, might not even understand what responsibility means or how to identify it... That's y we read books, move out and interact, watch movies to widen our thoughts and horizons to understand more about life.. It's simple as that..

That's why it's good to mix up with people, interact and be informed and know what's up. Some would just keep to themselves.

I remember one babe during youth service that got caught up with one very notorious corper and she was raped. He was a known dog and she was a naive introvert. I used to think then that if only she mixed up with people, she would have been warned.

MariaLavina:
Sometimes irresponsibility isn't written on the face, most times responsibility is proved by unforeseen circumstances. A person's ability to accept and overcome an unprepared for difficulty shows how responsible he or she is. Now how do one rightly judge another's responsibility? Only a man (human) knows himself (weakness and strength) deeply and he should tread accordingly.

That's why a lady has to guard herself in case a guy is not who he appears to be. You can't completely let your guards down and later cry foul. Because even a seemingly responsible guy can turn irresponsible.

Kingpee2:
I grew up watching this man ,I’ll never forget rattle snake in my life ,that movie was fire and big action movie to me way back ..

Ahanna

Association matters. The people you surround yourself with and mix up with is important. You go and spend your day around all sorts of people that would probably not add anything meaningful to you.

And now, they look down on you. It's better to make yourself scarce around such places. Look for an alternative charging point. You will be fine

It does not have to be between option A and B. There can be C as long as it works well for.you.

carter009:
I would have loved to try this, but they way most girls here bash guys and insult them, I don't think is a good idea.

Are you sure it's not the other way round? As per guys bashing girls. Girls have just learnt to defend themselves.

Hmmm...driver.

Then why sleep with the irresponsible guy? Why allow yourself to get pregnant when you are not married? It takes two to tango. It's not all on the guy. At least it wasn't rape but consensual.

So if it didn't work out, blame both parties.

Amuocha:
With glo mifi on sick bed abi

How do you want him to post his "attempted suicide" pictures on social media?

GrabHisBalls:
That's a lie to make women believe they're not a success without men.

And it's even ladies that make this kind of false statements

Jonasbadoo:
keep deceiving yourself

It's not deception. It's truth.

mayluv:
I don't think a woman should forget herself just cos she wants to please her husband though. There should be a way to balance things and everyone will be happier for it.

Not forget herself but put her family before herself. And this doesn't mean she would neglect herself

simonlee:
When a man cheats on a woman as Sonia, you'll know that beauty is the least mark a good wife should score in a marriage!

Yep. It's not about having a banging body as some guys think

Salmoneus:
Are you sure you're Nigerian?

Yes now.

In the first place, noodles is like the last last resort if there is absolutely nothing else. Maybe like twice a year...lol. Now eating it raw is just pushing it.

KanwuliaExtra:
Rule #1.
If you disagree with a post, DO NOT QUOTE OR MENTION IT. You can’t convince me and vice versa.

I have stated my opinion. State yours and move on.




Please, explain to the NL-VILLAGE-MONILTORING-SPIRITS!

Golden rule*

If you can't handle opposing opinions, don't comment on a public forum.

I have never done number 2

You won't see the alpha males or woman haters here commending her

The craze for a reigning dance style is so annoying. These days, just ask someone to dance and they just come and carry leg and gbe body and that's it. People can't even dance again.

tommyken:
I broke up with her just last month and I have move on fine although sometimes I miss her but I throw away such feelings immediately they appear.

I broke up with her due to her cunning and cheating nature but the problem here is that whenever any one ask her of me she replies them with anger and people have been telling she is really bitter towards me.

Someone came to my house and told me she said she will never forgive me that when I was sick she was there for me but she has forgotten I was also there for her and my own sacrifices I made towards her, well am not move by such manipulation.

My problem now is that some people are telling me to beg her for forgiveness even if we won't be together but for the sake of peace and to forget the past BUT that is against my principle because doing that will give her a kind of victory and feeling that I miss her.

My Intuition is telling me to ignore her that a time will come when she will realise her mistakes and be the one to call me up, I just have this deep conviction in me to just allow her be and keep hating for all I care.

Please I would like your advice concerning this issue.
Thanks.

Did she apologize for cheating on you?

What are you apologizing for anyway? That you broke up with her after she broke the trust? If you want to apologize, you need to know what you are apologizing for and if there's something you did that warrants an apology.

Celestial777:
Bro pls ignore her...i have been in a similar situation. I broke up with the hoe cos I found out she od bleeping like nine guys plus me at yje same time. She own a wine kiosk and I spend most of my time after work there. I never know she is a paod olosbo as well. Other guys bleep her for 5k and so one while i was busy planning future with her. The day I found out I didn't fight her.. she had a child though. She usually takes the two year old with her if she is going on mission sometimes.
I tuse style discharge her and then she begin tell people how bad I am. In fact she carry my matter go Alfa Dem side. Bro I hear weinn
But now i am better pls fear ondo gals..
Jus leave her alon I beg you. She will be fine lad las

How do you even date someone like that? What was the attraction? Do you guys share the same views about life? Sounds like you had a night with a sex worker and decided to convert her to girlfriend status

Logobenz1:
I think you should ask the op what caused her family members to start hating on her?
Do you think all that bile is for nothing?I can bet that all that contempt is from one person being ok while letting others perish.
It doesn't work that way!
If you get siblings and make head way,don't help them you hear?
Tell them that you only.owe help to your parents and see whether you won't find yourselves in the op's shoes.
Onye ji ego,emegbuna nwanne ya meaning man dey hold money,no leave your people perish!na dem get your back las las..
Ozu siwi isi,enyi ka nwanne a na beh nnaya meaning when a corpse start to smell,that friend that you value more than your family will leave and go to his father's house.
That's all I can say

I guess she should force her help on them because they are her family even if they have decided to blacklist her for whatever reason. Laslas are they having her back now?

As I said, not every blood is family and not every family is blood. I have seen friends and loved ones that are better that some family.

Logobenz1:
not at all.
But is buying provisions for your bloodline such a big deal that one counts it as good things he or she has done for his or her people?
She doesn't know whatsup yet and I pray she doesn't find out the hard way!

You said making them financially stable. Aside her parents, why should she be buying provisions monthly for the siblings. She can help out when they ask but they don't even respect her in the first place.

Not all family is blood and not all blood is family.

She doesn't know what's up how? She should kill herself to show that she wants to be part of her own family? God is the ultimate judge and He sees what is going on. If she is being treated unfairly by her family, they will eventually pay for it

DIKEnaWAR:
Poverty has robbed you of comprehension. Eat, relax, recover and read my post. I neither promoted wealth nor poverty. I talked about respect, dignity and character.

I guess you think being insultive means you are cool. Pause, think and then learn to communicate without throwing insults.

Logobenz1:
your siblings or family get better money?
I no dey talk of 10 million net worth o!I mean better bread
If they do,you no go come here dey spit this kind talk!
Entitlement mentality?
I am also my mom's last child(favourite actually) And the only reason I am not bothering my siblings is because I found my own way,else them for settle me tay tay or face the consequences
See this yeye op dey talk say she do buy them provisions from time to time and expect make we clap for am
N.a. provisions den dey use become person?madness!

Is the op worth 100 million? Or she said she has a money tree at home

I am tempted to share my cousin's story.

She's over 40 and will be wedding very soon to a man who has never been married before. She has met family members and they love her. She's a wonderful person that went through a lot.

Forget what society, people and Nairaland guys say about being an evening newspaper, old cargo...blah blah... Thankfully, what happens eventually is not in their hands

DIKEnaWAR:
You allowed the poverty you have tasted to shape your orientation. You have a poverty stricken mindset and the mind of an olosho

1. A woman should be financially independent and can take care of herself before marriage. Reason is simple, so the man can respect and treat her right. So many men with a poverty stricken mindset (like yours) who come into sudden wealth don't place value on women. They tend to look back on how they were disrespected in the past and how they are being respected now. They narrow it down to "money is everything"

2. Money is not everything dear, cos any idiot can make it. Character is everything.

3. Teach your daughter to go for the man who treats her with respect and dignity. It doesn't matter whether he has money or not. Marriage is not about who feeds and clothes the other like a dog. It is a union of two consenting adults who are equal in the partnership.

You sound very broke and desperate.

Why do some of you guys make it seem like a crime for a girl to date or marry a wealthy guy. But endorse it if it is a struggling guy?

Not everyone will marry an upcoming guy and not everyone will marry a wealthy guy.

If a lady is married to a rich guy and he's paying all the bills and not complaining, let it be their problem.

So the woman that was locking and unlocking her phone, guarding it jealousy, raised the phone for you to have a clear vision of it so much that you saw that she was chatting with three different men and that he was part of some erotic groups.

Are you sure you are not the woman?