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There is nothing mysterious about a woman so much that a man has to use formulas or various tactics to "decipher" her. Any man with sense would not see this writeups as an eye opener or see the writer as a Messiah as many guys here do.

I believe it is the slow ones that would have to use laid down principles to get a woman.

Besides, there is more to life than wooing and bedding a woman for people to put too much focus on.

Loyalists can attack me as usual. But at least come with reason and facts and not empty heads accompanied with foul and abusive words.

achu442:
Where did you get your stats from?.... Hahaha

We don't know these people you listed there.

Where is,

Mercy Chinwo,
Nathaniel Bassey,
Eben,
Chioma Jesus,
Buchi,

Go and book this people and know how much they charge.

The op's list is outdated. Lara George since when?

After you say "I do"

True, breakups are necessary and should not make us lose our minds. There is always some much more better.

You need to know that there are other things to life than sex. When you are not having sex, you are dreaming of it .

The first time she visits, you had sex? What have you also offered her apart from sex. Did you guys define your relationship? Do you even talk about your dreams, ambitions, aspirations? Or you just meet and Straff?

Try to get a job so that sex is not the only thing that will keep you occupied.

Another one bites the dust

djon78:
Rule 1 don't ever use money to convince a woman to date you. Don't you ever make that mistake. You will live to regret it.

Keep your money. Give only when it is necessary, when you feel like. Out of your own magnanimity.

That's how I did. There was a day I surprised her. She had a need and reluctantly Told me, sometimes I will overlook. But that day, I later in the day transferred something way above what she needed. It blew her mind, because she wasn't expecting such.
I was trying to let her know that it is not your money. I have a generous heart. But you can't force me to give you, except it is from my heart.
That way she understood my principles.


Keep your money.
A woman that loves you will stay.
If not good riddance to bad rubbish.
As for the high maintenance ones
That is the biggest delusion out there.
A man needs a woman that will help him build.
Putting your hand into a high maintenance woman is the worst decision a man will make.
I know a guy that married a high maintenance woman, the guy been get money oo.
But everyday na regret the guy dey complain.
He says that she brings no value into the union.


In conclusion
Man go for a wise woman
Seek for her, search out for her
If you eventually get a wise woman
You will start enjoying your own heaven from
here on earth.
Most successful men you see out there
There has been a wise woman at the background.

But they are mostly attracted to the blink blink... glittering, flash and all that, with no substance.Can they even handle a good woman if they see one?

If she says, "no sex till we wed", can they cope? They would rather go for the easy way out for one that would manipulate them with sex.

Not all men can handle a good woman or even deserve one because they can't handle it.

OriginalCEO:
hmm 'High Maintenance".. i op you are not like them

I hope so too

skywalker240:
The post i quoted just now

You read your meaning into it. Because your conclusion has nothing to do with the premises in my post

Delivar:
If a lady is flashy and high maintenance then it means she must be an independent woman. But if she is jobless and fully depending on a man to keep herself flashy and high maintenance then she is not truly flashy and high maintenance. If the lady has a job and earns her own money why would an independent woman run down a guy's finances when she has hers? That's selfishness and the woman is only interested in spending someone's money not really because she is flashy and high maintenance.

Not every lady has the sense to realize that she should foot the bills for her extravagance. A guy should be able to see that and move on instead of getting involved with her, spending on her excesses and then complaining later.

Papertrail11:
I feel the ratio as to which we have commited boy friend and girl friend relationship is getting low and exsistent such that we may have a generation of men that didnt grow up to understand how a woman think and same for women too

among my circle of friends i can barely count 1 guy who is in a stable emotional relationship hookup culture has taken over and hey i will blame it on the modern day Woman who isnt settled for any long term growth but wants it now!

Society says " Go and hustle" and women will come to you but if you dont have that experience dating experince i mean you supposed to acuqire in your 20's trust me you would mess up!

Your circle of friends? I am tempted to say "birds of the same feather...".

My own circle of friends are in stable relationships with level headed people. It depends on what you want.

skywalker240:
In respect to your post, it is safe to say every woman has a price?

What post?

Hmmm...you were already an eligible bachelor in the womb. All the girls and even the unborn ones were rushing you.

Now that both didn't work, you could go to the hospital where you were born to get a list of girls that were born the same day as you and take it from there.

You will be fine

domination:
one thing I dislike RCCG to church authorities should look into this matter, why force people to go and become pastor even when u see no geniune repentance in them, this is his own story u will not want to hear my experience with my former boss a redeem pastor

Please spill

Because a lot of guys have ojukokoro. They are very greedy and tend to go for the flashy girls that are high maintenance instead of cutting their coat according to their cloth. Then they come and wail when the girl exhibits what is in her.

donstan18:
Nigerian ladies don't give a flying about men and their upkeep/hygiene so long as they are gaining heavily from you.

Believe me, as long as he has a car and they went to shoprite, believe me, that lady will wholeheartedly suck the hell out of his preeeeq like her life depends on it.

Forget these their social media formings.They can't wait to have that guy.

Do you really hate ladies that much that you always somehow turn everything on the lady?

What about the guy himself? Can't he take care of his hygiene? Or is it not supposed to more of his concern than the lady's?

Martinez39:
Honey, is that you?

you have miss road

James289:
Yes he will she is ugly and fat

And it is the slim and beautiful you that is here complaining that he won't leave her. You can either find your own man or keep feeding on her leftovers.

He won't leave his wife. Then find your own husband.

My husband is the most intelligent person I know. Really intelligent and knowledgeable in many fields.

Did she hold a gun to your neck to surrender your savings? Savings that if your mother had asked you for, you wouldn't have given her.

You lied to her and you are still lying to her that you didn't lie to her.

AZeD1:
You don't do business with emotions. If the state government had done proper feasibility studies, they would have known this.

Let's wait and see instead of being a prophet of doom. We are tired of seeing fake prophets.

AZeD1:
What's hating in a venture that is going to fail?

Why preempt that it will fail. What about being optimistic that it will be profitable to the state and help with unemployment?

And it is not an abomination to kill where you come from

ugo4u:
The way Lagosians are being manipulated by one man defies human logic and every known scientific parameters of manipulation, the obvious iberiberism seems to move to a higher pedestal every election cycle. The irony of everything is that the same people shouting Otogè are the same people rooting for a "demigod" and everyone is scared to challenge the status quo especially the media( save for Sahara reporters).
These same puppets including journalists have shamefully joined in the bandwagon of praise singers, who are always quick to point to developments in the state to the blueprint of the Jagaban Nimrod without making inquiries/ forensic check on the humongous revenue generated in state vis-a-vis the level of development. To them Ambode was the best thing that happened to Lagos state but suddenly became a Villain because one man thought otherwise of him, prolly for not working with the "blueprint" of the systemic looting of the state treasury. Imagine the media attention that wiuld have being generated if it was Saraki that was captured on cam recieving Bullion vans of monies, both the EFCC, DSS, etc would have swung into action.
Honestly, I won't blame Yorubas for this because Lagos is a metropolitan city with people from diverse ethnicity and also with the pattern the SWners vote Tinubu would have being history by now, he can't try this in Oyo, Ogun or any homogeneous SW state. Lagos state that is presumably full of intellectuals have cowered into the hands of one man, and have swallowed the philosophy of baba sópe politics hook, line and sinker. A state where touting have being made lucrative and glamorous while those in the academia are left to languish in obscurity and nothingness. Sanwooulu who is now the next best thing after sliced bread for Tinubu's followers might also be kicked out if he don't follow the "blueprint" and people will not ask questions, and you people want to tell me that they've not use Lagos's pant.
Una mumu never do.

I wonder why people cannot come together and challenge the status quo. Is it fear of violence in the state because of the touts? Is it as a result of complacence amongst the youths and people generally?

Instead, what we see here especially on NL is people fighting themselves while defending parties that don't even have their interests at heart but are only out to enrich their family members.

People need to start having sense.

AZeD1:
I don't know what is it with Nigerian governors and airports/airlines.

This is a terrible idea and a waste of public funds.

Instead of hating, try to applaud AkwaIbom state. The state has been growing consistently. We cannot say the same for many others

Pregnant women are advised to sleep on their left side more because it increases the blood and nutrients that go to the placenta and the baby. How do you reconcile both?

Besides some people cannot stay in one position all through the night.

30,500 I guess

victorian:
Don't mind the guys on Nairaland . they are fierce online but offline , they are as quiet as mouse and soft to their women . Although not all sha .
Me, I can't live with an alpha male anyways . I don't have strength for their unnecessary egos .

I like the bolded , that's how life and living suppose to be , than isolating oneself thinking every woman out there wants to steal her husband so funny !

Upon all their protection on the man at home , the man will still go out there to carry women and even impregnant some sef . Women with such mindset of isolation ,I just laugh at them . lol.

And can u imagine his friends are your friends , your friends are His . that's how life suppose to be . I like how u guys handle your relationship with friends and marriage . its very good . I believe in live and let me live , dont ! stiffle my living with restrictions and isolation . I wouldn't like it one bit .

And it's good u and your husband are from the same state ,there will be more deep rooted trust and understanding.

My dear, I like your family concept is very good . keep it up .

I have a neighbour like your type of family setting . their friends visits and even one or two stay over . Hearing laughter and gists from their flat makes me happy . The house is alive with joy and conversatoons ! The husband does not have issues wit it and they are happy .

People have a twisted view of marriage. That is how someone asked me what I am doing on Nairaland as a married woman. Like my life is supposed to stop because I am married.

For me, nothing changed really because I married my pal just like you. Not the ones here that want their wives to call them "lord"

I wish you more love and laughter in your home

victorian:
Ok .

I spoke to my man yesternight about this topic , I just thank God we've bonded well even though we had ups and downs early in the relationship. But guess what he said ? He said Vicky , there is nothing if u want your friends to visit , or sister to stay with us , as long as u can vouch the lady coming is good and properly trained .
Simply do your wifely duties and there will be no issue. And when our flat is spacious ? There is nothing wrong in accommodating ones friend or sibling .
He said , he knows what it means to be stranded without accommodation , way back and he won't forget such experience.

Then he said :I pray I won't get to let you down cos from the first day we met, I knew u were the one I would love to spend the rest of my life with .
And knowing the kind of anger and hotness u can display at times if I fucvk up, why would u think , I would allow my dicck control me ? U ehnnn!!!!! Lol

I know u already! If u catch me, that day will be hell for me ! So why would I want to ruin what we have going for us . Just be sure of your friend , or sister that's all.

And if they come onto me , I will let you know .

I was so happy last night , even till now .

My dear. Its good to date and settle with someone from your tribe or similar to your tribe . we were speaking pidgin mixed with English all thru.

He knows me , I don't take rubbish and he loves this fiery part of me .

Lol! Sighs thank God I have a docile man . His mum tried well in training him to be well behaved . God bless his mum. Honestly she try.


Not all these wolves online , who call themselves alpha male and be doing anyhow in their homes .


Abeg I thank God !

I feel you. That's why I wonder if these guys on Nairaland with their archaic ideas about marriage are actually for real. Many of them have a twisted view of how they should relate to their wives.

Forget that alpha male thing. It is not with clear eye.

My friends visit my house well. In fact my friends are his friends and his are mine. We just both agree that we like our space but it is not like we will chase family away when there is a need.

And I am the last child...no sibling coming to live with me. He is the 1st son but siblings don't need to stay with us. We are the same state. The most important thing is that we do what works for both of us.

victorian:
I don't mind my husband brother coming to live with us for a while . it's not like my sister will live with us forever . She has her own life to live , maybe she's spending time with us, possibly if school is on strike . Or she's staying with us awaiting a new job . She won't live with us forever , one day she will marry and move on.

Likewise my husband's brother , one day he will move on and pave way for his own life . I don't see anything wrong in it , as long as he's submissive and wise . What's there ? Fingers are not equal and circumstances of life can change at any time .

If my husband cannot be there for his own brother when he needs where to stay because of me ? Then that's very bad . I won't support such! His brother can come and live with us for a period of time , because he has his own plans too .

Well, families are different. I have three older sisters. Before I got married, I could hardly stay in their houses for two days without wanting to be home in my own zone. I think it was the way we were brought up. My mum would say she couldn't sleep in her inlaw's house when she had her own house.

Everyone believes that once you are married, you should be given space. What if I didn't get married and get a place, won't they have a place to stay?. My husband feels the same way especially because it would mean he has to start wearing clothes around the house even when he doesn't want to.

We have not had people live with us except during omugwo. As I said, families are different

victorian:
What of the he goat husband that can't control his dicck!

So wife cannot allow her sister stay with her again?
She should cut off her sister ,abi? Because she has one he goat for house ?
I pity women who alienate their female blood whom they are close to, because of husband .

Women should ask themselves , do their husbands stop their younger brothers from visiting them or even staying over , when they are married ?

They don't , because the husband knows his blood brother will not betray him , even if some do betray but not in all cases . You can't cause bad blood between yourself and siblings cos u are married . Its wrong !

Watch and know whom you wish to marry and make the right choice !

If I have a sister and we are very close , I will not alienate her from my home ços am married . Except I'm not close to my sis but if we are so close , she can visit and stay over.

Aside the temptation aspect, it is always better for family members to stay in their houses and not live with a couple to avoid any issues and even to allow the couple bond without any other party.

Your sister not living with you doesn't mean alienation. And if you allow your close sister come and live with you, you should be able to accommodate your husband's brother too.