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illicit:
I am a crowd1 member and I don't feel cheated....

That is what MMM victims too said

Hathor5:




Happy to hear it.
I love happy love stories and easy is how it is supposed to be.

I meant selflessness...lol

Curvinus:
Op redpill teaches you that the game is rigged even before you got started. For instance, if you're not a top tier male - 6ft plus, well sculptured face, nice body frame and you dont make good money, then you'll definitely struggle in the dating scene. This is a proven fact of life.

So in this wise, the knowledge of redpill helps you understand that when a girl starts to act all bitchy and disrespectful, it is a sign that she is simply not into you. In this scenario, it is most likely that she does not find you attractive or to possess the qualities she desires in a man. As a result you would be made to pass through hoops and probably pay for what this girl would gladly give away to top tier male, just to put you off. It then becomes your choice to accept to play life in hard mode or walk away.

However, you must always understand that the consequences of not being top tier would definitely wear you down over time, especially if you desire to sleep with good looking women in their prime.

In your case, I think you're trying to get these girls to treat you like they would an alpha but that is not how it works. An alpha male by default or by stroke of good fortunes inpires love in women who find him irresistible and who would do anything within their power to continue to sleep with him.

One doesn't need redpill to know these things. It is common sense. You know when a woman is into you or not. You try to love yourself and have confidence and charisma and women will love you.

It's not only 6ft handsome and rich men that ladies fall for. I am talking about the real ladies and not those shallow ones that just want to leach on rich guys.

But it seems the target of redpillers is the leeches since their aim is to play the game to sleep with them. But if you are dealing with decent, responsible ladies, all that game.playing will only complicate and spoil a simple thing.

pocohantas:
In school. You don’t have that much undergraduates in your circle do you?

Not really. The few I know won't bring up that topic with me.

So it is boys that are still collecting pocket money that come to make mouth here

Gerrard59:
Pocohantas calls them alfa meils

Bunch of clowns

That is even putting it mildly.

The funny thing is that I have never met anyone in the real world with their mindset or ideology. So where are these redpillers?

nwaezeemmanuel:
Many of the 'social media feminists' aren't feminists, but men haters.

I know this because i have studied it and have some prior training on gender roles. True feminism wants the best for both men and women, but many twist it to female supremacy and gender domination that shouldn't be.

Very true at the bolded.

Just like most Nairaland redpillers are women haters. They don't really understand the concept of red pill. All they know is to come and shout "simp"

pocohantas:
Let them not share abeg. Aisha Yesufu wey answer question, see as them done analyze the matter, come tag the husband simp. Please enjoy your marriages in your homes. If you so want to share, look for a platform with predominantly happy people- that platform isn’t Nairaland.

I agree.

Some small boys that are still collecting pocket money from their parents will come and shout simp.

But I cannot resist the urge to share small. Marrying my friend was the best decision ever. His liberality and selflessness makes my life easy.

Cc Hathor5

Zzor:
i lie?

You lie o

I cannot even comprehend why a woman will beat, slap, push her MIL. That is abnormal and just sick. Something you can never do to your own mum.

I agree that some MILs can be provocative and intentionally difficult. The best way is to try to live in peace and avoid clashes. I have studied the kind of person my MIL is and I relate with her accordingly.

Xundi73:
Thank you, his all-round development is impeccable. He walked at 11 months, he has grown almost full set of child-teeth and seems tall for his age. Just his lack of interest to learn to talk or even blab

His ability to say bye and to move to dance when he hears songs he likes has made us rule out deafness or being mute (dumb).

I have encouraged the mother to worry less, let him take as much time as he needs and when school reopens we will enroll him into school before worrying about possible deformity if he still doesn't want talk when he is more than 3 years

Enrolling him in a school should help him talk. I believe he knows a lot about what to say because when he does start talking, it will all come rushing out. But he is just taking his time.

Please let madam stop worrying. It might be his nature not to talk much. But whatever the case, he will be fine

OP you have no choice than to manage the situation. A lot of women keep citing the excuse of not being in the mood. If you want to live according to mood, some of us won't go to work or do what we are supposed to do.

I might sound insensitive but I don't think we should let our moods control us.

Ishilove:
This is where extensive discussion on sex while courting is paramount so that they will know what they are getting into.

In their case, it started from day 1 cos she was a virgin while he was sexually active. The first few weeks were frustrating for him...lol. But after they got past the pain, he had to deal with her lack of interest in sex.

Ishilove:
You obviously have a higher libido than her. Like thorpido pointed out, she needs someone to talk sense into her head because she is not going about it the right way.

My friend had to pour his heart out to me one day about how his wife was withholding sex. It became so serious that he had to involve my pastor's wife who talked to her and gave her some books on sex to read. A marriage of less than a year and alreadysex issues.

pozehnani:
Hmm.. it's mood. I can perfectly understand her cos she's just like me. I don't feel up to it until around my menstrual period, few days before and after then the mood dies off again. It's not our fault. Thats what the body does to us.

Well.. like I said, bear with her but if you can't wait till shes in the mood, then encourage her to eat lots of chocolates. It sets one in the mood at all times. This is what I discovered so I won't deprive my man when the time comes cos at some point I was worried and went into research where I found this.

It's well dear.

This mood things should not determine sex in marriage. Some people can be moody forever. That would mean the man is on his own.

My orientation about is sex in marriage is quite different; especially after my pastor's wife touched on the topic.

She said that we need to channel our minds and deliberately activate ourselves when sex is coming. It really helped me. I have never said I am not in the mood. I don't even have to tell my husband when I am tired. He knows and just lets me sleep.

Xundi73:
Thanks for your comments.
1. I just registered today, I have used nairaland as a guest member for some time.
2. I opened this to seek opinions to calm the wife's mind. I'm not at all worried like her. I myself didn't stand or walk until I was more than a year old.
3. I don't expect perfect diction or a sentence from him. If you read our worries objectively you'd have seen the part that I mentioned he is not interested in talking or making efforts at all.

Again thanks for your comment

It is normal for parents to worry especially when it comes to their children. So don't let anyone here fault you for being concerned.

From what I have seen, children develop differently; when they start growing teeth, walking, talking, etc. My cousin's daughter walked at 10 months, grew teeth at about 4 months but my daughter was over a year when she walked and her first set of teeth came out at 11months...lol. But one thing my daughter was fast in was talking. She talked before she walked. By 2, she was a talkative.

I am sure your son developed fast in some other areas but is just taking a longer time to talk. But if you are not convinced, you should consult with a paediatrician to get a professional view.

Please research and ask questions around to know their beliefs and doctrines to avoid future problems that you can avoid.

Love is not enough when it comes to marriage.

The bad eggs spoil the good ones. Even among the peaceful protesters, there are some that have their own agenda.

Dyt:

I want

Petyprincess:
The rice looking attractive ☺

Tastes even better

Sunday rice

Gandollaar:
Today nkor how far? Hope you are not protesting on the streets.

I don't get.

LedRock:
Even this one that insults people dey advise person not to insult, wonders will never end on Nairaland

You must be quoting the wrong person. Show me where I insulted someone or forever hold your peace.

TheGiftedOne:
Any man who lays his hands on a woman is no longer a man.



Real men don't beat women. My dad never ever laid hands in my mum. I'm neither deviating from the precedence he set for me.


The best way to avoid that pitfall is to choose your wife wisely. Marry who get sense not who fine pass. A word is enough for the wise.

Say no to violence against Women.
Say no to wife battering..

Big boobs and big bum won't let some people hear o

sholarr12:
What he said was enough to provoke my reaction.

It was insulting and unintelligent to say "You want us to tell you to pay or not."

You would know it was insulting and unintelligent if you saw my original post but it seems you did not see it.

Sometimes, if you don't know the context of which a statement is made, you should be careful in the apportionment of blame.

I am saying you could have answered with the kind of maturity you expect. If you blame someone for being unintelligent and insulting, you shouldn't respond in like manner.

I didn't see the initial post but I have an idea. There are some things you should not condone so that it doesn't become a norm especially if you notice that your wife's family displays some kind of greed, plus if it is not something you are required by tradition to do.

Just use wisdom to handle to matter and try not to engage them in any argument or something that might be used against you later.

pozehnani:
Lol... Ok. So, is it ok to say since both of them were involved in the strolling, they both own the money? Therefore the Walker shares out of the money then..

Someone cannot just come and go and lose out like that na.lol.. mothers!!!

It is hard o. But selflessness and integrity really comes to play here. Can the person resist the urge to take out of that money that is really meant for the baby?

It is not easy especially with the situation of the country and most especially if the person is broke and in dire need of money. The truth is that if the person is comfortable financially, she won't feel entitled to that money.

sholarr12:
This was your first input.

Do you think the bolded was intelligent?

I tabled a matter needing intelligent contributions, but you came like a frustrated thing.

You already sound angry, defensive and ready to pounce. And you are derailing your own thread.

How can you receive advice like that? What he said is not enough to provoke your reaction. Take it easy.

pozehnani:
The mother kor, father nii.

If they want they should take her out for a walk too. Lol..

Lalasticlala Biko bia oo. This is a serious chumchim.lol

Lol.

But if she was strolling on her own without the baby, would she have got the money? No.

So the baby owns the money.

mariahAngel:
I was reading through, hoping to find one person that commented what I had in mind in response to that comment...nairalanders never disappoint

I couldn't resist the urge to respond

MLTR:
Is there any reason why people don't bring reality along to social media. are we gonna pretend the africa women of today haven't evolve so much that there is only little disparity between them and so called foreign wife.
You need to know there is a difference between submission and tolerate, white women also submit to there husbands, they cook, they do laundries with machine n also take care of there homes just like other wives buh they just don't tolerate bullshiit, which in most cases is cheating.
If you marry a white woman and stay faithful, their is little or nothing to worry about buh if you marry a naija woman, faithful or not wahala, no money double wahala we sha dey manage una

The disparity is not little at all. African women have evolved. True. But we still have the cultural background, ideals and norms that makes us African.

The white woman has a different mindset, culture or lack of culture, upbringing that is totally different from ours. Even the way we bring up our children is different. But some African men have no issues with it and can live with it.

You guys go around criticizing Nigerian women like you are blameless and perfect. We on the other hand don't just enjoy crying over already spilled milk

pocohantas:
Everybody has friends that got married to foreign women. However, there are not many interracial old couples. My uncle married a foreign woman, they have kids, the eldest is a teen. He is now in his early 50s and wants to retire in Nigeria. Foreign wife doesn’t understand why she should leave the US for Africa. He has finally picked a homebased wife...

I love my uncle for being very practical, he didn’t marry a youngling, he married an evening newspaper like me. Now he shuttles Nigeria and the abroad. We have never seen his kids and we may never see them, just pictures... I am sure those kids might attack you if you call them Nigerians.

As if he is living in their houses to know that they are in control. Isn't it what they tell him, that he believes.

MLTR:
You are a nigerian wife, do you sing praise & worship songs to your husband early morning or sundays, do you kneel to serve him food or kneel to get things from him. just curious what a nigeria woman does that depict "worship".
Maybe it time some of you go back to school, hopefully you all will know the disparity between respect & worship.
When you ask our darling feminist to accord the same respect they give there boss @ the office or pastor to there husbands.. such act overnight metamorphoses to " i can't worship him" women brain capacity ehn

You are the one who needs to go back to school to learn how not to jump into conclusions.

Does "some" represent every woman?

The truth is that the average Nigerian man with that traditional mindset will find it difficult living with a foreign wife because they cannot get the kind of submission they expect.

The woman said she pities Nigerian women. She doesn't want to know how some wives have to worship their "Nigerian" husbands to please them.

#Teamforeignwives