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Jewessgratitud3:
I need very mature advice here.

I'm a picky person when it comes to making relationship choices. For me the attractiion has to come from my end otherwise I'll find it difficult to accept the individual.


There's this guy, very mature and. I'm sure will be older than me or we'll be of same age I love watching his contents on Facebook and what attracted me to him was one of his sit down videos where he talked about premarital sex and the dangers of engaging in it as a Christian. I was wowed that a dark handsome man like him could speak against such practices and his audience that day were youth and teenagers.

I began to observe him and noticed he addresses the youth more and is always teaching them moral and academic lessons. I somehow felt connected to him and one day summoned the courage to ask him if he's married. He didn't reply.

I recently came across his video again and asked him for the last time on his comment section if he's married and I said this was the last time I was going to ask him this question. He now replied that he is not married.

I don't know, would it be wise if I take a shot at him or try being his friend. He's a Born again brother and my spec.

Please sincere advice.

Are you looking for a husband or a victim?

You don see mumu wey you wan use catch cruise, abi?

What's all this crap about "spec" gaaaan?

Did you submit specifications for God to manufacture for you?

If you want a Christian gentleman, it's not by observing them online, though, assuming you're not just looking for a crutch who will be your shock-absorber.

You go to the God who makes men and who made you, and let Him choose for you. Then accept His choice even if he's not "your spec".

If you're a Christian, you'll know what "THY WILL BE DONE'' means.

If your motives are not pure, please leave the poor boy alone, don't give him PTSD.

I'm speaking as a mature Christian man, married for over 15 years, so you know I'm dead serious.

As in, I'm not joking at aaaaallll!

illicit:
If u investigate well

She didn't pay for it

WORD!

Oxb90:
A COUNTRY CALLED NIGERIA.
Gold mining sites are controlled by terrorists (aka bandits). Money made goes into the pockets of individuals.
Oil mining sites are controlled by the federal government and the money made is shared among the states and the FCT.
Who are the real enemies of NIGERIA?
Is Nigeria one country?

See why banditry and terrorism won't end in Nigeria?

The bolded.

It's robbery.

The country is being robbed, and it's international robbery of mineral resources.

The kidnapping sef is just a front for the real business.

StaffofOrayan:
Him plan na suicide by police
Kudos to the DPO for not using lethal force,
He should be commended
Few people with guns can show such restraint

Suicide by cop while carrying a knife and stone?

No be to just shoot am one for leg?

3exe3:
Ransom payment or not those kids are safe now.Ransom payment does not stop the military from going after the groups.If cash is given cash can be tracked

Ransom payment means more guns, ammo, vehicles and gear for the bandits.

More money buys more informants within the government security apparatus.

This means any forces going after them may walk into a shitstorn of an ambush.

blaquemyc:
Kikikikikiki

Not funny but I dunno why I'm laffing

Send a bonus to your dealer.

He's a very honest man.

kenny714433:
Rigid pavement is way better

Although both have their own failures but the advantages of rigid pavement are quite enormous. It's expensive than flexible pavement in construction also.



Either you lack comprehension abilities or you just login Nairaland and log off your brain.


I am shocked you disagree with me 😅
I am not shocked because you disagree, I am shocked because from your reply, you have intensive knowledge of what I said and should know better.

I agree with all what you have said, they are the disadvantages of rigid pavement. But don't also forget flexible pavement has it's own numerous disadvantages.

If we look at lifespan, rigid pavement has over 50 years while flexible has like 30 years if both are constructed properly.

Rigid pavement has greater load bearing capacity. It's always a better option compared to flexible pavement regardless of it's disadvantages.

Nevertheless, your response shows we still have intelligent people who can hold discourse. Others just quoted me to show how dumb they are.

We are allowed to take differing positions on a subject matter even when we possess good information about it.

Rigid pavements have a lot of advantages, but they are not a good replacement of flexible pavements where flexible pavements will do just fine.

You know, we consider many factors when choosing a type of infrastructure over another. Cost, speed of construction, environmental considerations, etc.

I like to tell people, the reason we in Nigeria feel that rigid pavements are totally better and should 100% replace flexible ones is because of corruption, which leads to substandard infrastructure. If an asphalt road is well built and properly drained, it will last and last.

There are roads in Abuja built in the 80s by Julius Berger that are still in use, with maybe a little patching in about 40 years. There are also concrete roads that are rutted and cracked even though they were built less than 10 years ago.

However, if we were to be honest, we will only consider rigid parents under special conditions where they are the absolute better choice.

Thanks for respecting my position. I respect yours, as well.

COMPAQ:
Thermal expansion should be worse in Europe cos the temperature differential there is even more. Houston can go from 23C in the day to 5c at night. Not sure I've ever seen temperature differential more than 5C in a day between high and low in southern Nigeria.

Hmmmmm......the differential might not be as important as the highest temperature reached in the day. I know I talked more about the differential, though.

kenny714433:
Rigid pavement is way better

Although both have their own failures but the advantages of rigid pavement are quite enormous. It's expensive than flexible pavement in construction also.

Either you lack comprehension abilities or you just login Nairaland and log off your brain.

I can tell you a few reasons why I disagree with you.

You sound like a construction professional, so I will make free with the terminology.

One major advantage of flexible pavements is ease of maintenance.

You can get easily cut out potholes and fill with fresh asphalt, while you get problems with bonding and shrinkage in the case of concrete roads.

Super elevation of roads, where vertical curves are merged with horizontal curves, is handled better during construction with flexible pavements, because the sub-base and road base already have the geometry and you just lay the base and wearing courses to follow suit.

Concrete pavers tend to lay pavement in flat planes, so vertical transition can be a problem. Result? Bumpy ride around curves.

In Africa where we have intense heat in the day and relatively cool nights, thermal expansion is also a problem, especially when you consider the expansion differential between concrete and the reinforcing steel bars. Result? Some hideous cracks with sharp, jagged edges that can fuckup your tyres.

I say Asphaltic roads are waaay better from cost to operation and maintenance.

siant:
The collapse of this building was not as a result of human error or negligence as many here will think. It goes beyond that. It was a spiritual attack.

Since when did poor construction practice become a spiritual attack?

Strizt:
On the 26th of February, 2024 a building belonging to the Living Faith Church in Wukari, Taraba State, Nigeria, had collapsed, trapping Two People inside. It was reported that the building was undergoing renovation when the incident happened. The cause of the collapse was not confirmed at the time.

The incident caused panic and resulted in the death of one person at the spot, one person reported to have been injured. Emergency services were immediately dispatched to the scene, and the injured person was rushed to the hospital for treatment where he still receiving treatment.

The building did not collapse, the roof caved in.

The roof span and pitch resulted in too much weight without support within the hall in the form of columns

He should just be ready to bury his daughter any time.

That's all.

dfrost:
Cool.

It used to be a sign of rebellion back then. Good to see age old institutions evolve in their ideologies.

Bet the sour lot were just jealous of the Navy

Kobojunkie:
I grew up noticing many of those folks around even as many others turned their noses up at them like they were invisible or not to be regarded at all.

I'm not too different from you.

We just have different experiences.

I know of few couples with no children around or at all, but they're waaaaay in the minority.

Most childless couples I know are young, like thirties to forties.

Ance4Liverpool:
You better not think of coming back to nigeria bcs sleeping in the street of portugal is better than who sleeps in nigeria flat

Hmmmmm?

I'm in an air-conditioned bedroom right now.


Ain't no way sleeping in a tent is better!

Kobojunkie:
How do you know they aren't common if it never even crossed your mind that they may just be there in your face without you even noticing them and their plight?

How do you know they're common?

Kobojunkie:
Can you also see the many old people out there who either lost all their kids over the years or got abandoned by them, some od them worse off than others who never had kids to begin with? They are all in that very same community you all live in.

How common are those?

If they're common around you, you need to change location.

mariahAngel:
Dunsin Oyekan around 50 ke? 😲
Are you even sure of what you're saying?

Oh, you think he's a kid?

SoNature:
We are waiting for Frank Edwards!

I don't know why that guy is still single at his age.

Congratulations to Dunsin; I even thought he was married with kids.

He was.

His wife died about 4-5 years ago.

fitinwell:
Why secretly?

Which means they are fornicating, already abi...

He's around 50 years old.

He was married, but lost his wife.

Being a public figure, I think this sort of thing is best handled privately, unlike our stupid "yeyebrities" who marry and start revealing all their infidelity stories on social media.

I respect his choice, and I wish him well.

Klass99:
It sounds like you have a good thing going for you which is great and I congratulate you for.

If heaven asked me to name one wish they could grant me, I would say give me a sweet, wonderful and compatible companion in the form of a male man like you created Eve for Adam.

I am not enamoured with children the way majority of the population is, I am not looking to them or for them to give my life meaning or fill my heart with joy and pride (as you put it)

I want to love and be loved, give me a good man I can do life with, whether it is for 5 years or 10 years, I will take it and make the most of it. You people put too much stock in children as the almighty thing everyone should aspire to but some of us value and appreciate other things besides children.

Not so, my sister. I won't tell people who can't have kids to kill themselves, for instance. I have close friends who are childless and really want kids.

However, I can see the old people around me and I know for sure that their grown kids mean a lot in their lives in their old age.

Klass99:
When I first felt the desire to be child free and not have children I was in my 20s. Several people told me the feeling would change or I would change my mind as time goes by.

As the years went by my desire didn't wane neither did my mind change. The desire only grew stronger and my mind more convinced that motherhood is not for me.

I have no regrets so far and right now I honestly can't see myself regretting the choice. Home ownership and companionship with a good man, matter to me more than biological children do.

I own my home and I have a great wife, but I have two sons who are grown and verging on independence.

A day will come that they will leave the nest and go start their own lives, like I did many years ago, and I'll still be alone with my wife to hopefully enjoy a couple decades before old age issues.

The difference at that time between a couple with no kids and one with kids is that, once in a while, the kids will show up with their own kids and fill the parents' hearts with pride and joy.

A greater impact hits when one spouse leaves this earth. Then, it will.be the kids who will mean life itself to the surviving spouse.

A husband may be there now and give all the pleasures and assurances a woman needs, but he will be gone one day, and quite likely at an age when he cannot be replaced.

That's when the kids and grandkids come in.

I look at my octogenarian Mom, and I know this to be true.

Tellmeastory:
^^ Reuters is APC?

Who did this to you people?

Has the product refined by Dangote landed at your neighbourhood filling station yet?

SoNature:
If he's qualified, there's nothing wrong with that. Just don't overdo things and make sure you spread appointments across all the LGAs in the state.

Make everybodi try work hard. Some fathers have already worked for their great grandchildren. That's the way it is everywhere in the world.

Their Papa na brilliant man, a Civil Engineer with PhD.

I haven't met this one, but I have met one of the younger sons, and through him, met the man himself.

The son I met is also a brilliant engineer.

Arobaga:
No difference between Davido and Tinubu

Useless liars with foolish supporters and fans

Honestly!

Somebody wey get plenty baby mamas, fa!

nlfpmod:
Nigerian History Group

There was also "Uniflit" by Umipetrol.

chisomkachy:
https://dailytrust.com/kaduna-schoolchildren-its-not-important-if-ransom-was-paid-or-not-gov-sani/

So it's not important that bandits now have a truckload of money to buy arms and ammo?

What a governor!

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar
You must be a real niggar
South America
Colombia na im worse
Even South America football difficult die and funny enough them sabi play ball pass Europe

Everything in South America is tied to the drug trade.

Boxing, religion, soccer, even health care, to say less of the justice system and politics.

NPFLADMIN:
Honestly, my dad knows a person in this situation.

He earns 1M as salary monthly and also has a side hustle which should be bringing him nothing less than 200k estimate. But the man still wants to leave 4 UK. And getting a job in the UK at the age of around 45+, isn't that almost impossible?


His wife is already there and she's doing care-job.

I still don't understand why he wants to move.

If I ever meet him with my dad before he leaves, I'll tell him "sir, you're making a big mistake!"

Well, he's still agile. I guess that's an advantage.

He's 45+, you say?

Well, he's still younger than me, and people older than me sef still dey jápa. I know a few.

One of them, my former boss, told me to sell my house and move to join him in the UK. Well, he sold his house (well, one of his HOUSES) to make the move.

Personally, I can't see myself selling my property. So I'm still here.

However, things can change.

I just pray it doesn't get to the point I'll decide to leave, because it will be bad indeed.

SensualMan:
The Kidnappers must have assumed the farm manager was hoarding food and was responsible for the Ebi n pawa in the state with the indigenes famished

The arrested Kidnappers will be released and the business will continue in Ogun. That's what they signed up with their votes.

You didn't even read the title of the thread, did you?

thedio:
How about security

Also a part of it.

Ogbuu101:
Una de build refinery far away from the source of the raw materials.
Ok oo

Na some pipu don get de "source'' now o!

Den don sell our oil! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

On a serious note, financial expediency is quite different from socio-political.

They won't be putting up refineries in Lagos if it would cost a lot less to site them in Port Harcourt.