₦airaland Forum

Nwachi22:
The guy is a married man.

Let’s assume he is married as you later said…..you did not mention that as part of your reasons for declining to marry him.

Your bone of contention was, his demand that you get pregnant first. More so as you stated, his married wife leaves abroad and may even be a foreigner he used to get his papers or that relationship is in a bad shape and either have hit the rock or about to hit the rock, hence he is looking for a solution.

And many ladies won’t mind getting into such relationships, but you appear not to be the type, so just move on. The truth is, men to marry dey scarce and the competition is very tough, so your public service announcement is not going to make ladies of marriage age look back. Ladies are even dating married men these days on purpose with the aim of taking over, hence many married women don’t package and leave their marital home again, when they caught their husbands cheating as that will be fulfilling the cherished dreams of another lady.

As a result of the above many ladies who don’t want to tolerate or play the above games opt to become independent ladies and fashy the marriage thing altogether or wait absent-mindly for God to answer their prayers of a husband as they live single, focus on their careers and grow old.

mannatech:
Courtesy demands that you explain to the person while you want to seat by the window.
No be my papa car wey I wan draw seat on top.
Plus here in Abuja, na one chance Mo be that

Well, your point register well.

I don’t know what made you think, she owe you an explanation.

You met her there, already sitting by the door/window and you want her to explain to you that is just arriving at the park her reasons for choosing that seat? Just like the lady on the other side ran/walk faster and chanced you into sitting over there, do you know what sacrifices and efforts she have taken to earn that seat?

Maybe she woke up very early, while you are still sleeping, took speed bike and pay extra, chanced someone else to get that seat, and you just want to take it like that, you have self entitlement problems, check yourself

If you are truly objective and look at this fairly, you will conclude that, you are the one that lacks courtesy. If you want someone to give up their seat in a public setting for you a new comer, when everyone is paying the same fair, courtesy demands that, you explain to her, why she should give up her window seat for you.

They usually say, there are two sides to a story and you need all sides in other to reach a fair conclusion, but on this your account alone, the lady is right and you are wrong.

Numerouno94:
I tot Dark Web was untraceable.

Law enforcement agents infiltrates the darkweb and become buyers and sellers themselves.

They then use social engineering to get info on other buyers and sellers, which are the real criminals they are after.

Have you considered the possibility that, you might be the one enabling him?

If you stop sending upkeeps directly to him, but instead to your mom, who will ensure only the necessary things are spent on, he will not see a lot of cash to play with.

And believe me, when cash stop flowing that lady will chase him away by herself. There is nothing that irritates and dry the Nigeria lady’s pussy faster than a cashless man or dry pocket, if you think am making stuff up, try loss your job today…….the countdown to losing your girlfriend or wife has begun.

emmy512:
This won't work,
They analyse the sim data and phone data, including sms to determine if you're worthy of a Lone.
Even if they give, it won't pass 5k

You mean N5k?

That is less than $10, is Nigeria that bad, that one have a approach a financial institution for a $10 loan? This is around what waitress/waiters receive as tips and what a friend usually will gift to you.

The Country is truly in the wrong trajectory.

Easylion3569:
This thing just happen to me at the very wrong time.. I need to do something before people find out

If you worrying like this, after impregnating a girl…..it is a sign that, it is going to be twins or triplets, so congratulations in advance.

Look for work now, you have time, it’s nine months away!

DoggoneDogg:
An OTP will be sent by the app to verify the phone number and this is how your number will be gotten.

If you still want to go ahead, remove your SIM so that the person uses his/her own SIM (& Google account).

If you truly want to help the person.
1. Backup your contacts to your SIM card.
2. Remove your SIM.
4. Check contacts to ensure that, there is no contacts on the phone, if there is any, delete all of them.
5. Let him insert his SIM, since all he ‘need’ is a smartphone. If he doesn’t have a SIM card, let him go get one.
6. After completing the transaction, he can remove his SIM.
7. Insert your SIM and restore your contacts.

Nice write up, I read everything. It will help some secondary student, who are starting to think of the field to get into and some job seekers as well.

Not everyone is built for Engineering, especially your kind, but most people would want to work for an Oil company.

One glaring thing you did not cover is compensation and salary, please add this for posterity seek. Since no one know who you are here, you can give exact details/figures, unless you think otherwise. Thanks

Magnoliaa:
Is showing up the best we can and bringing out the best in our partners not a part of unconditional love? I believe it is a part of it, and one does not necessarily preclude the other.

Love is important. Yes, the feelings, tingly kind I believe. One that makes your heart race and feel good just thinking about them, I believe. No, that is not all there is to it.

But unconditional love has imbued in it the works, the efforts, the commitment and the blindness as well.

To the usefulness of such advice, I feel it paints a dreary picture of marriage that I don't want to look forward to. Sounds drudgery. Like I must do things for my partner, just because. Not cheerily. Are there likely going to be times I feel that way? Possibly. But haba, for the most of the time and my marriage life?

I don't want that kind of organic, fulfilling-a-duty or filling-in-a-space love, tenkio.

If marriage is about unconditional love, why are the daughters of the rich and mighty not falling in love unconditionally with the poor truck pushers on the street and marrying them?

Humans are incapable of loving unconditionally, we are by nature selfish beings, that is how God created us and that is why we are still alive today. Our very instinct to survive and procreate our kind that have kept the world going till now is because of that subconscious love for self that God implemented in us….only that, some are more selfish than others.

Only God is capable of loving unconditionally. If a guy say, he love a lady, if you check very well…there are some qualities and features he likes in that ladies, remove those qualities & features from that lady, the guy will fall out of love instantly….the same is applicable to ladies.

ivolt:
Fake news.
CCTV or not, there is no evidence of rape and the man was never going to any jail.
Rape is one of the most difficult case to prosecute and the victim's word is never enough for conviction.


This is the man's convoluted story:

The man was moving around a house that is not his own and opening random room doors.
What kind of a guest does that ?

Then when he got to a particular door, a giant predator lady was hiding and could recognize him
in the dark. She came out of nowhere and shoved a fully grown man inside against his wish with
her massively built muscle, slammed the door and held him hostage.
When our victim escaped with his life, the nameless lady friends were waiting outside for him.
And the story ends with a bang, arrest her!
Even a child would do better at inventing stories.

Here is a more believable fiction a more intelligent writer would have come up with:
The man and the girl agreed to engage in illicit affair right in a house that isn't theirs.
When they got into a room, the man didn't like what he saw and decide to quit which got the woman
angry and she alleged assault to get back at him.

Modified:
To those quoting me.
Even if the story is not fake, courts don't engage in jungle justice.
They don't jail suspects because of a victim's allegation only.
The court will ask for corroborating evidence which doesn't exist in this case.

Not true!

Once handcuffed and accused of rape, your next bus stop is jail straight. Don’t confuse the legal term ‘jail’ with ‘prison’, some people misused them.

He will be sitting in jail until Monday if it a weekend, where he will appear before a Judge for a bond hearing. They will take his mugshot, finger print him and load everything into their criminal database. If he can’t make bond or if granted bond but can’t raise the cash to bond-out, his ass will sit in jail until the trial is over and that could be months or even years.

If he has a job, he is required to report any criminal arrest and jail time, if he does; they will fire him, if he doesn’t they find out later and still fire him.

For the next months or years while the case passes through the court, he will be destitute; he wouldn’t get a good job as each application will require him to write down all his arrests and if he doesn’t, once they run a background check, his mugshot and history will pop up on the screen.

Even after finding him not guilty, the guy would have been drained financially, emotionally and his zeal and will power will have taken a huge beating. It will take the miracle of God and good counseling for him to pull through and become whole again.

If by chance he is convicted, he will transition from jail to prison. Jail is a temporary housing for those awaiting the final adjudication of their case, while prison is where you serve out the sentence given to you by the Judge and in some cases, both can be the same exact location, building, housing, cell even to the bed you sleep in, but they have the same effect, which is you lost your freedom and are locked up, away from society.

adubam:
I just want to share this painful and bitter scenario to job seekers out there.

So we posted a job advert and over four hundred applied. Three were selected for interview and only one appeared.

Salary is about 150k for a start.

So this applicant came and did well in both oral and written interview but she was not given the job because of this:

She was given a paper to apply for the job. Excellent write up though but she messed up the whole paper with cancellation and instead of asking for a fresh paper to start over again; she even went ahead and handed over it like that to my boss.

My boss concluded that she was an untidy and scatty fellow.

And that was all.

Please take note of this and try not to make this mistake.

God grant you your desired jobs.

This mentality that employees have, that they are doing job applicants a ‘favor’ by employing them is what is contributing to malperformance in companies today.

No one is perfect, more so you now know her flaws, why not hire her because of the other stellar attributes she possesses that are needed by the job and advise on this issue?

Now, you guys are going to waste time and resources to go through another round of job posting, going through resumes and interviewing people and may end up selecting a candidate with a bigger but hidden flaw.

Dem no go put the IV clinic or hospital for the congratulation messages, so that others who have been praying and waiting on God can know the way.

You can’t testify to the miracle God in Egypt without mentioning Moses’ Rod or Stick….show us the way that God used.

Righteousness2:
Why on Earth will someone CONFIDENTLY and CONCIOUSLY Lie Blatantly against a fellow Human?

The Heart of Man is really Wicked Evil and Devilish!

The World Inhabitants need JESUS CHRIST.

You that was lying uppadan last year against God that God told you that Trump will win.

It was all a scripted publicity stunt!

What are the chances for cameras to be precisely at the location and the two vehicles meeting head to head...

Plus, if am annoyed, why target just the front windshield, he no damaged side mirror, no dent or single hit to the side of the vehicle, left the back windshield, open car door windows and walk towards the front windshield.

No blows or punches between both of them, na the car take him daughter go date? He for land the guy three to four correct blows or slaps.

They have calculated the max lost of this stunt, which is just the front windshield.

AntiWailer:
Nobody expected Naira to rise just by shutting AbokiFX down. If you believed that, you are either ignorant, mischievous or just a victim of picking common thoughts on the street.

For Naira to rise, we need to manufacture and export. Reduce imports drastically and reduce our reliance on dollars then the basic Economics of Demand and Supply will kick in on the price.

The problem AbokiFX bring is speculation issues. it is one of the problems and others would be tackled accordingly. There are about 7 other reasons to be tackled.
1. Inflation rate.
2. Interest rate.
3. trade balance.
4. Government debt
5. Terms of trade
6. Political and stability of performance.
7. Recession
8. Speculations.

If you observe the list closely you will discover that the Govt's failure is responsible for majority of them and that is why there is no hope anytime soon. The decision which is a right decision no doubt, at best took care of only item 8. the 7 other monsters must be dealt with.

Many people asked several questions around where AbokiFX get their data from. There was no sensible answer.

Also a lot of people rely on AbokiFX to make decisions on how much they will buy or sell their dollars so let us take an example.

If AbokiFX continues operations and all of a sudden post #750 to 1 dollar (recall we don't have any logic behind the price they post), thousands of people who use AbokiFX to av an idea of how much they will sell will definitely not sell at 450 right ?

Even if people say they are mad, they will not sell cos they believed if AbokiFX says 750, it is likely close. The refusal to sell automatically impacts supply while the demand for dollars keep going up, price will definitely rise at a rate not steady.


Please note that this is highly intellectual. I will try and reply every mention.

If u don't understand, I can forgive you but if your response is only insult because it is too much for your capacity to think, i can also forgive you but will likely ignore you.

I agree it is not every time posts would be interesting like Squid Game or Tonto Dike vs Kpopo.

I was there with you until you mentioned Speculation.

Speculation and Speculators are a healthy feature of all and any security asset or market. Without them, there will be no security market period.

Starting from stocks, pick any stock sticker, the price you see today listed for that sticker is a speculated future price of that company having discounted everything is known to happen or not happen with the stock in the future.

If Apple comes out today and say, their sales last quarter beats estimates by 20%, but because of supply problems, the sales for next quarters will be down by 5%, the stock will take a nose dive and trade in the negatives.

Go to futures, Airlines are able to fly year round with minimal hit to their bottom line due to fluctuation oil prices, because there are huge middlemen who have nothing to do with oil, but would speculate about future prices of jet fuel and sell guaranteed Jet fuel Futures contracts to Airlines at a guaranteed price regardless of the market price of oil throughout the year. This stable price allow these airline to do their budgets, project expenditure without worrying about the future price of oil or jet fuel…. These middlemen do not take delivery of any Oil or jet fuel.. the Airline will continue to buy from the market as long as the market price is below their contracted price with these speculators, but when the market price kicks above, the speculators comes in and pay the difference….this is insurance and peace of mind for the Airliners, plus they don’t have to build huge storage facilities with recurring cost to store huge stockpiles of jet fuel, all thanks to speculators in the middle.

Same thing with stocks….Stocks Options are pure speculations about the future direction of the stock, but people who own the actual stocks buy stock option as insurance in case the stock takes a negative turn without the middleman who owns zero stocks speculating this insurance will not be available.

Same with forex and currency trade…..that is why despite the heavy indebtedness of the US, speculators still believe that the dollar is better, because speculators discounted the current debt profile and look at future economic outputs, structures, etc.

Speculation is very healthy, they bring liquidity into the market, CBN cannot supply all the liquidity needed, it does not happen like that anywhere in the whole world…Also note that, speculators do not always win, many get burnt after a bad bet, but it is all part of a healthy system. The bitter truth is, everyone cannot win every time, at each iteration, there must be winners and losers.

Joshrob:
Our last born is very lazy but there's nothing this guy can't do if he really want to work. He help me wire my flat and paint. He did all that alone.
When my sister husband build their house, he help them wire the house and do all connections. But if he's not in the mood, no amount of begging will make him do it.
Even today that he came to watch match in my house, I was trying to sweep the room and make everywhere neat, he raise his leg up for me to sweep, went to the fridge to take coke and origin to sit outside while I'm cleaning the house.
He came inside when I'm done and continue watching his match.
My ex girlfriend complained that he doesn't greet her, I asked her if she have ever hear him greet me before, she said No. Case closed
Only when he needs money that he will greet before asking.
He so stubborn that he's the only one that have fight mark on his body in the family.
All the 7 children attend the same primary and secondary school, he's the that make the principal know my parents,because of his troubles.
And he can eat very well but he doesn't grow fat. He will by 8pm and d still wake up by 2am to dish food again, but he have a very flat tummy. That's what I like about his body

I don’t think he is lazy, if what you described is accurate.

It appear that, he like challenges, doing big projects, tough tasks and does not like trivia tasks and activities.

Engage him with those stuff that picks his interest.

oyejideogunjumo:
It was not wrong to marry a close relative especially in the Old Testament.
Abraham married his half sister.
Same father but different mother.
But as time goes on it became a taboo.
The society also frown at it except in some places that is still being practiced.
Indirectly we are marrying our relatives since we all came from Adam and Eve our fore parents.
But time is against it now to marry known close relative

So….basically, it was perfect and okay before, but time and society has made it look like taboo?

Listen, am not supporting it in anyway, but there is no way you can explain away Adam & Eve kids doing it is okay, but some doing it today is sinful, abomination, taboo….all because of time & society.

UndauntedYOCA:
This is disgusting but I'm more concerned about the children. The man is their dad, uncle and the siblings will refer to themselves as being what exactly? Bother/sister---- cousins? They just made their lives confusing.
How can one be sexually attracted to one's family member? Sibling for that matter. .
This world don dey end true, true.

They were not the ones that started it and would be the ones that will end it…….after all, Adam & Eve kids were sexually attracted to each and God was kool with it.

Victorclean1:
What a foolish write up. Why call the woman a nurse?. Did u ask her if she is a real nurse or not. Why paint nurses black.

Nurses can take you to court for defaming their profession.

Be sure before you write anything. Am not a nurse but know the implications of defamation as a lawyer

I sensed a bit of sarcasm in your write-up, but in any case, generalized statements can’t pass the defamatory test, even if they are bad.

One of the four elements of a defamation case is, you must prove absolutely that, the statement is false and you were particularly harmed by it.

If I say ‘Nurses these days are quack’….depending on your sample size, sample location, sample ages, schools attended, work experience, etc….the statement can be false or true.

And, it is absolutely true that, ‘some Nurses are quack’, no defamation there. Plus, you can sue for defamation as a class or a member of a class, the speech or write up must be direct to you in particular….if I say ‘all men cheats’….a member of the class ‘men’ who does not cheat, cannot sue me, because the speech was not directed at him personally.

WriterNig:
Rate my kill and rifle from 1- 10?

I will rate a zero - 0.

Deers though wild are soft targets, defenseless and very timid.

If you want a rating, go after a wild animal that at least can defend themselves against you and your gun.

Totilopussylick:
Wise creature

Please don't eat ooo


Train it if you can.

Train it to do what?

4tomandchi:
The evils that men do lives with them.

Men and AWOF you see a girl and you know deep down you can't spend the rest of your life with her but if she opens her legs you go even shook your head inside is that not wickedness...

LADIES and GOLD DIGGING!

You see a guy, he nova put ring for your finger, he nova see ya people you just dey open legs for am to visit Jerusalem as much as he likes in the hope him go give you ring, is that not FOOLISHNESS!

yyba:
The suspect one PIGI KELVIN ‘m’ of Ututuoama town Ughelli South LGA age 42yrs was arrested. Waiting patiently for someone to claim the suspect is a FULANI man

That is a hunting riffle, you don’t need a license for that. We use to carry it to use for hunting in those days in the village.

Even till today, every male in the village above 50 have at least one.

Be realistic, N5,000.00 is less than $10, fashy this gift and picture frame….

Take them out to a nice dinner at somewhere exclusive and memorable.

Question everyone is asking…..wetin go happen to the 700k now?

She killed herself, so no RIP for her, na de moni na him bi the koko….can the bf legally lay claim to it, since she has already voice her promise that the moni belong to the guy…and there are witnesses to the matter?

Use the taxis packed the garage/park beside the airport. Most times the drivers will be at the luggage area to assist by taking your luggage to the park, it is few walk from the airport.

The taxis inside the park are well known, and the management have the details of your driver, they don’t allow misfits or strange drivers/cabs anywhere near the park.

….true story:
I took a taxi one day from that park, but before leaving decided to change some foreign currencies into Naira, aboki guy did his thing, I counted the money and it ‘correct’ as we left and on our way, I recounted the money, and found out some were missing, I told the driver and we went back to the park.

On getting there aboki disappeared and we reported to the park manager, surprisingly they were able to locate the aboki oga and my money was made whole. I was surprised that, they seem to know everyone doing business in that park including the abokis and their Ogas.

You can quickly annul the marriage based on her lies.

Secondly, even with a court wedding; you only lose half of the wealth and assets acquired during the marriage. Even if you are denied an annulment and you did a divorce, your only responsibility will be the care of your unborn baby.

Always remember that, no matter how far or how many steps you have taken on the wrong path or road, the best option is to make a U-turn and the earlier you make that turn, the better.

eas01:
You really dumb. How about the British threaten to colonise Nigeria again because Nigeria has mismanaged her resources?
Nigeria is asking the world for debt forgiveness. How about the world says no because Nigeria has mismanaged the monies borrowed?

You must be on something, you clearly sound incoherent and disjointed; get yourself together all hope is not lost.

The law was actually made to catch & punish deceit.

Deut: 22:28 states that, if a guy dis virgin a lady that is not engaged to be married, the the man must pay the dowry and marry her.

If the lady was engaged and he raped her, the guy will be put to death.

So, it was very rare to see ladies then who were not married and has been dis virgined by some guy. Most in that situation will totally avoid getting married as it will be deceitful if they do.

tsdarkside:
south south should get atleast 80%....

this formula today is not fair atall....

The 13% wey dem dey get, wetin they use don do?

Sometimes, I feel like Nigeria will not progress unless the oil completely dried up from our land. Oil is truly a curse, it provides free money to politicians, which completely renders them ineffective.

Once, this free flow of money to the FG, States, LGA, and politicians drys up, only those who are truly interested in Governance will run for positions in Nigeria as there will be no monetary incentives to do so any longer.

shortgun:
Can I report Uber and Bolt Drivers?
They keep harassing my girlfriend whenever I book a ride for her to come to my place, meet up with me or go back to her house.

I am busy most times and don't have the time to pick her up or drop her off.

She keep telling me of the harrasments and how she will prefer I pick her than book a ride.
I always overlook her complaints until yesterday a bolt driver who told her he's married came back to her house to look for her after a ride yesterday!!

The randy man picked her from my house, I spoke with him on the phone and she told him she's in a relationship but he still carry his poverty stricken blokkos to my girls house?

I tot guys that do uber are trying to make ends meet? I always tip them cos I tot they need help but this have shown me that they are just a bunch of unserious people.

The bitter truth is, your girlfriend is only telling you about the Uber/Bolt drivers who approached that she does not like or fancy.

She is most likely digging someone on the side and decides to tell you about these, so as to keep you busy and not suspect her and to also sell you a false flag of her 'faithfulness' to you, and her plan appears to be working great!

On average most ladies get tossed or approached by some guys about twice a day at the least, but the majority of them just ignore it and do not make it a topic of conversation with their husbands or boyfriends.

If your girlfriend or wife starts telling you about the guys tossing her, it means you may be doing something very wrong or she is tired of the relationship and just want to remind you of her ‘worth’ outside….or she is up to something.

OP, in your write-up you did not even appreciate him for giving a place to stay for the past days.

You went straight to the negates and also make sure to let us know you buy your own food to eat.

Stop looking at the glass half empty, focus your attentions on the half full portion of the glass, thank him for his hospitality and move on.