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[quote author=Mrs, Eve link=topic=571171.msg7374431#msg7374431 date=1292855569]What hurting me is this gotdamn HIGH GAS PRICES! I go around the corner it time to put some more gas in the car! Gas is 3 dollars a gallon! Damn! Bush Administration SUCKS big time. See men are vermins! [/quote] I feel you on that Mrs. Eve! Lol These gas prices are ridiculous! I use to be a "speed racer". But now, ummm with gas prices. I've slowed it down alot.

You all are cracking me up.    You all haven't just met Mrs. Eve. You know how she do. And it's one thing you all should know, is she don't play. You all just giving her am-mo.   

Omolola1:
dont you think the guy could locate her or even manipulate her
coz i heard people like that have spiritual power

@Specialist,
He already broke up with her before telling her the truth, she still wouldn't get him off her mind

@livedit,
That was what i thought, but cant seem to think towards that direction anymore, if he wanted to get rid of her he wouldn't give her an ultimatum!!!!
Am so worried, coz she is my best friend and if anything happens to her, her parents would hold me responsible coz we share the same room in school. . .

This is really deep, he definitely have a strong hold on your friend.  You truly need to continue praying for her that God will deliver "him" from out of her.  If they were ever intimate, I know it's hard.  That is why people should be careful whom they hook up with.  Your spirits are inter twine with each other every time you lay down with that person and whomever that person hooked up with, it goes on an on,   Therefore, you can pick up all kinds of evil spirits like that.  People don't realize that it's more to sex than just you getting that climax.  When you open up to anybody like that, you open yourself up to any and everything.  It's only so much you can do for her at this point.  I'm not saying she is a done deal.  But this situation she's in will only take the power of God to set her free from this man.  I wish it was more I could say or recommend. But she has blinders on her eyes right now.  So she don't see what we see.  With him dealing with witchcraft, you are on a whole another level!   

Omolola1:
Yes, its very sad, so so sad, but i dont think he is sorry

I just dont know why i feel this way, something just don't feel right!
I feel he is lying and just wants to get rid of her!

But then i wonder, why would he lie about this and then give her an option to serve his god or forget him!
it might be true, its so scary! you needed to have seen the way he looked at me when i told her to leave him! though, he doesn't know i know about his "little secret"

I think I have an "idea" of how he was looking. But you made a valid point though, if this was the case and he just saying that so that he could get rid of her so he don't have to look like the "enemy" than that's still shady and he don't need to be saying stuff like that. He needs to grow a "pair" and tell her, "it's not working out between us and I don't think we are a good match, I care about your feelings (even if it's not true) to lead you on. And then leave. Why make up stuff or give this poor girl an dumb crazy ultimatum like that! People please, grow UP!

Okay, now that you gave more details about this relationship.  If after numerous attempts to try and work it out with this guy and he STILL keep doing the same pattern over and over.  I think they should part ways.  He obviously has some trust issues and too controlling, weak, and insecure with himself.  He really needs to seek some professional help immediately to get himself together first before trying to get in a relationship with ANY woman.  He's not sound.  My advice to your friend is to break it off with him, forgive him, pray for him and move on with her life.

Plain and simple, "walk away".  Clearly, that man is a Satan worshipper.  The best thing she can do for that man, is pray that he will be saved, delivered and set free.  Because he is clearly tricked and under the influence of the devil.  And if she knows her bible, Satan has 3 alterior motives is to: STEAL, KILL, and DESTROY.  That's it! He loves no one. It's so sad, I feel sorry for the guy, he just don't know, 

Hmmm, I've had many. I'm very sentimental, what can I say.  The best text message I've ever received is as follows:

"Livedit" I am so much in love with you.  You are the best thing that ever happened to me.

"You are the anchor and joy of my life"

"I can't stop thinking about you"

"I'm nothing without you"

Of course Livedit fall hook lined and sinker.  

How often is your "friend" on these websites?  These social websites can become addictive and some people may not realize they spend an awful considerable amount of time on Facebook/Twitter.  It's fine to be registered and on those sites, but when it's becoming in the way of your personal life and/or relationships then you have a problem.  

On the other hand, why is he so "overpossessive"?  Maybe he craves attention, a little selfish, insecure, controlling and maybe even "mentally disturbed".  You say he "loves" her dearly and treats her good other than that right?  I can see where the man is coming from if her first morning greetings is to a bunch of strangers that may or may not even like her than before your man.  He got a good point there.  Maybe he just going about it wrong when trying to express how he feels.  

If your friend is going to remain in this relationship, then they are definitely going to need to work on some better communication skills.  Because from what you just wrote, they are lacking that tremendously.  Have they always had this issue or is this issue new? Either way it goes, they need to have to learn how to LISTEN first and communicate better. Otherwise, maybe it's better they part because why continue on being miserable if no one is willing to compromise and sit down quietly and try to work things out without it turning into a "fight".

Wow! You came hard with that question. This is kinda hard to answer. This is one of those times when I would say I'll cross that bridge if/when I came to it. Praying that it never happens. But to be on the real tip, that will definitely draw a slight wedge between us. Because if we agreed to get married, we should've been comfortable and honest enough to tell his/her partner something as important like this. You talking about another life for Christ sake! I won't deny I would be highly upset, hurt and devastated! No doubt and to say what I would do is something I can't answer. A very big part of my actions will solely rely on his explaination (granted it's the truth) of why and when he conceived a child while him and I was together and his relationship with his kid/mother. But then secondly, if he was shady all around and lying to me cheating and crap like that. That's a no brainer, he's out!

We can all say, well, I'll just call off the wedding and leave him. But most women/men who was genuinely in-love with their partner more than likely eventually end up forgiving the guy/gal and getting back with him/her and proceed with the wedding plans.

Orikinla:
I love being a man and I thank God I am not a woman.
I just want to be the Alpha Man for every woman in need of loving care.

Woman is the burden bearer of mankind and a woman suffers a lot.
I feel sorry for every woman.

I imagine how a woman feels receiving every thrust of a big mojo and breathing heavily as the man enters her.
I am afraid that a woman will not faint under the weight of a man with a BIG[i] MOJO[/i].

Then she gets pregnant and goes about bearing the nausea of morning sickness and the heavy belly for 9 months.
Yet, the man still gets her pregnant again and again.
Very unfair.

I wish God will make every man to get pregnant once every decade so that he can experience what a woman suffers bearing his burden of life.

Thank God for compassionate and understanding men like you! Best post so far!

Hon, this is why you NEVER compromise your beliefs and religion for no man. I know you are upset and hurting and been betrayed. But I'm a firm believer that all things happen for a reason. That is why it's pertinent to wait on the Lord to bless you with your mate. God won't keep together what He didn't put together. Right now, you need to take some time away to get yourself together by seeking the kingdom of God for deliverance, wisdom and healing. You must find a way to forgive what that guy did to you and continue to move on with your life so that God can bring the man who is ordained for you. When he does bring him forth, you won't have to "chase" after him. He will be "chasing" after you. Your life will not come to end just because it didn't work out with that guy. Your life didn't begin with him and it sho nuff won't end with him either. You have to find a way to move on with your life. I'm sure he has! That is why he is not returning your calls or communicating with you. It's hard to pick up and go and start all over again. But many of us has been through it and what didn't kill us made us stronger. You'll be just fine. It's hard, I know. Livedit been there done that. And now I'm with a man who loves me and respects me and don't cheat on me. You have to know and believe in your heart that you do deserve better and deserve nothing less than the best. It's up to you rather or not you have the faith to receive it.

Good info! , Livedit don't need to take the romantic test. She has her game down packed!

Courtmanship is always good. Because you do need to find out if you two are compatible.  You need to try to get to know each other.  While it's true when you are courting, most people put their best foot out.  This is why it's a great to have a strong relationship with God.  Because it is He who know's all and who will put you with someone who will be equally yoked with you.  Having a good prayer life and reading God's word is definitely a absolute MUST for wisdom and relevelation.  However, you have to put your faith to work.  Your spouse won't come floating down on a cloud from heaven with some flowers in his/her hand asking for your hand in marriage.  That is why you should step out on faith and get out there and date.  No one is guarantee anything, not even your life span.  Because the bible says: tomorrow is not promised to no one.  Therefore, courting is natural act to find out if you two are suitable and you also get to learn more about yourself in the process.

"Open relationships"?  Super bad idea! The worse idea anybody has ever came up with.  How is cheating on your spouse will make your marriage successful? You take a vow to love one another until death do you apart. And your solution is, honey, let's sleep with the neighbor next door? Umm, NOT! You inviting a whole lot of mess into your relationship willingly. So each party involved deserve any and everything bad that comes with it.  That is NOT how the bible intended to be, therefore it's WRONG! It ain't no if, but, and's, or maybe's about it.  God did not invent marriage for it to be shared with other people.  That is like a smack in his face.  Then wonder why your life is a mess and on your way to "haites". 

Marriage is suppose to be sacred.  It's sad that this world has gotten so off and corrupted that people don't even know right from wrong. That is until they be calling the Maury show trying to figure out who is the father of their baby.  Or maybe calling because they need to get a lie detector test done because their spouse is continuing to step out on them.  Or maybe they are wondering why their partner decided they no longer wanted to be married to them. Or, could be that ALL parties involved has spreaded diseases among each other and end up at the infectious disease clinic crying because the doctor told them that they caught something incurable and be told make the best of your life the remaining limited time you have left.  Then you see those kayaking down on a boat smiling saying they haven't had a breakout in 6 months.

It's so sad that so many people has gotten away or completely forgot about the sanctuary of marriage.  There is no way in heck livedit will ever be for it and be involved in it.  I pray my marriage stay sacred between the two of us only and always.  Cheating is not an option EVER! There are other ways you can "spice" up your sex life with your mate without stepping outside your marriage onto a world of sin.  I'd like to see all the people who step before God at judgement day and tell God he/she took a vow to be committed to your partner only but stepped outside the marriage to "spice" things up! Umm, yeah, And the bible says: "The wages of sin, is DEATH".

No thanks! NEXT!

Good article! Thank you for sharing.

Revelations my dear Nairalanders. Just think, it's only gonna get worse,

kokoye:
Those theaters are really the only place to determine if someone is truly an good actor / actress

Blue-rays - go check them put @ the Redbox booths - only $1.10 a day.

Thank you for the tip kokoye. I've never been to one of booths. Sad huh? Lol

Dangie, has Mrs. Eve and 190 always beefed like this or is this all in innocent?

kokoye:


Yup, good shoes and watches to compliment my baldness

what play ?

been a long time since I saw a play . . need to put a ban on cinemas, dvds, tvs and blue-rays to go see some originality

Noooooo kokoye, I'm a DVD freak! Can't put a ban on those! I'm still learning what blue-rays are.

Originality is always good. Been a while since I've seen a play too kokoye.

[quote author=Mrs, Eve link=topic=569158.msg7350266#msg7350266 date=1292529664]If MISTER stay out of long enough FOR IT TO BREAF, I wouldn't have NO PROBLEM letting it breaf![/quote] LMBO! You killing me! You can forget about that Mrs. Eve! Hubbers not gonna let you go "commando" without a reprecussion. Hmmm, I doubt if my soon to be hubby will let me either? , I'm like there are alot of men out there that likes to play "hide go giddy yo" out there. Don't get me wrong, it's not a bad thing, so livedit's not complaining.

Neither is good.  However, depending upon the circumstances and the severity of the "problem" or person that was offended.  And then it also depends what kind of relationship you have with that person(s).  I think it's best to tackle that issue right away and don't let it fester into something even bigger.  Now, if this person really "pissed you off".  Sometimes it's better to wait until you have calmed down so that you are able to communicate your feelings well instead of letting your emotions take over.  Or you may end up saying or doing something you may regret.

Let me get this straight, there are only 3 men and 9 women total? If that is the case, I choose myself. Eventually all 3 men would end up players with 8 other women competing with me. So I'm straight on all 3.

kokoye:
there's no sin in acknowledging, appreciating or admiring what looks good to you.

Amen kokoye. Just be respectful and tactful with it.

Good question- I love my fiance because first, I love God and I know God will only send me His best.  So the attributes I love about my fiancee there isn't enough words in the English language to explain how wonderul he is.  But, here it goes, He is a man of God and God fearing.  I love him because I know he loves me and show's me every chance he gets. I love my fiance because he is very caring and affectionate.  He has been real with me since day one and I love his ambition he has for life and that he is family driven.    He has a wonderful sense of humor and easy to get along with.  He is uplifting and comforting in my time of distraught.  Although he is not fianancially where he wants to be in life, he has the drive and integrity that will help him reach his goals in life and still finds way to give and help people. 

Bottom line, I will forever love him because I know what is good for me and he know what is good for him and we compiment each other's personality bringing forth a awesome chemistry. Since he's been in my life, I do know that there is a God. I thank God each and every day for blessing me and loving me for it is He (God) that know's what's best for his child.  And I will be eternally grateful.

How old are the two of you? How long have you two known each other?  I'm assuming you are young if you still have a "guardian".  I feel if you have a "guardian" dictating to you when you should marry then you ought to wait because you have a lot of maturing to do.  I doubt any grown man/woman would be taking orders from somebody especially since it's none of their business. Everybody have a right to voice their opinion and thoughts. But you don't tell nobody what to do with their life! You have your own life to live.  The only two that decides what is what are the two parties involved. Do you two even love each other? Or are you marrying her purely out of LUST because you don't want any other man to want her? Because let me tell you something, if that's the only case you are marrying her in fear of some other guys are going to be chasing her then you have some growing up to do, seriously! There are so many shady lustful men who will STILL chase her if you do marry her.  And if she is the type that get down like that, then you STILL in trouble.  So make sure you are marrying her for all the right reasons before jumping into something as serious as marriage.  You not only playing with your life, but you playing with your partners life as well.  Whatever is meant to be, will be.  If it's not meant to be, then it's nothing you can say or do to keep that person in your life! And I do mean NOTHING.

I think it's good for all women to go "commando". At night that is. Like some other's mentioned earlier, give your "love tunnel" time to breathe since our "tunnels" is self cleaning all on it's own. Besides, bacteria feeds on warmth and moistness so it's a good idea to shower after a long day and forget about the "undies" and chillaxin.

Ladyjide:
Most "men" mis interepret "arrogance" anyway - If your chick does not know when to leave her work life at work- then there are bigger issues. Most times women who are educated are just overlooked despite whether she is arrogant or not!!I can not really speak for the woman in question in this post but she wouldnt be the first to not find a mate at that age, and be 36! Who really knows what her issues are with finding a mateBeing respectful, and humble in a relationship should be a given. Titles and education should never be a determining factor on how one is treated in a relationship and by no means should one bring bossiness home with them! Leave work at work. In response to your statement though- My thing is this: these days most men who call themselves MEN do not use the balls they have. There for as women we now have to play rolls as if we have balls.! Please do us all a favor and dont call yourself a man and want us as woman to give you 100 % respect if you are not fully able to take those responsibilities that come with the title of being a man! If you are the king of the castle and what your woman to treat you as such, then be prepared to do all things that come along with that title!

That's what I'm talking about! School em'!

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your fiance.  I know trying to cope with this has to be very hard and emotionally, physically and mentally draining.  I'm not sure if you know Christ Jesus or not. But I really think you need to pray for strength and solace to help you through this traumatic time in your life.  A death of a loved one is very horrific to try and deal with on your own.  What worries me more is the thoughts of wanting to die and then you are with child.  I also recommend seeking professional as soon as possible. Do you have a clergyman you could go to talk to? I'm sure your family and close friends are also grieving during this time so it can be hard for each of you to try and console each other when everyone is experiencing this tragic.  But this is when you all need each other more now that ever.  I do sympathize with you on your lost and I know this is probably draining the very life out of you, but you do have to think about your baby you are carrying.  Even though your baby has not been born, he/she know's  mommy's not feeling "alright". It also affects the baby.  I'm sure you finance would want you to continue on with your life and raise your and his baby despite of.  Your baby needs you. He/she needs his mommy since that is all he/she has right now.  You have life forming in you which has  a part of your finance and a part of you growing inside you.  Please try to seek some kind of counciling  Believe me, it will truly help you deal with this. 

There is no such thing as a magic pill to take away your pain.  So you do have to allow yourself time to grieve so you can heal and continue on with your life raising your child.  As cliche as this sounds, time does heal all wounds and it will take some time for you to get through this.  Just take it one day at a time.  Try to remember all the good times you two had together.  The funny jokes you two have said to one another.  Even try to to stay busy and keep yourself surrounded by family and friends to talk about the good times you all shared together.  Last thing you want is sit alone and let depression seek in.  Then that brings on even more problems and will prolong the grieving process.  Maybe try to seek a local help/support group.  I know it's easier said than done. But you have to make yourself get up and continue on with your life.  Do you think your fiance would actually want you to harm yourself or the baby? He'll want you to go on and raise your child together so that his memory and spirit will live on.

I really wish it was more I could say to help take away your pain. But please give what I said some thought.  Many of us has lost loved ones and know this is very devastating to your system.  But out of all this, pray to God. He is there with you always. He loves you more than you could ever love yourself.  Talk to Him.  He is waiting, all you have to do is call upon his name.

Please take care of yourself and your baby.  You'll be okay.  You'll see, you will find out you are stronger than what you think. Despite how it "looks" or what you feel like now.  Don't lose faith in any of that.

Sup Mrs. Eve!

Well, I'll politely but be firm and tell him that I'm no longer interested in having ANY kind of relationship with him and wish no further contact be made with me. If he is still persistant, don't answer his calls/texts. If he continues to call, then I would change my number and continue to ignore him. Hopefully, that will do the trick.

If he still continues to harrass/stalk me (because that's what it is) then it's time to take legal action because no one will force me to move out the comfort of my own home. Livedit not having it!

kokoye:
^^^

The legs kinda wanna touch at the knees

Thank you kokoye! Wow, I guess livedit need to get with the program because I've never heard that slang before.

My current fiance' we met online and I think he looked just as good on webcam as he did in person. From his picture, he looked short, but he turned out to be slight taller than me so that was great!

In the past, I have met up with more than several men online and some I have to say didn't look nothing like their picture. One guy told me he was short like 5 "4", when we met up, he was more like 4 "4". I felt like I should've been his mother even though he was much older than me. Another guy I met, he looked so cute from his picture, and when we finally met, not only was he "unattractive" but he also turned out to be crazy and tried to rape me. So after that, I was traumatized for a while before I ventured back out in the dating world.