₦airaland Forum

madridguy:
Even though majority sees you as a dictator, I see you as a messiah but it unfortunate you passed away at the time Nigeria need you most.
I wish you can come back to finish up with your assignment, kill all the bad people dragging Nigeria backward and you go too so the youth can take over.


May your soul continue to rest in peace.

were MKO, Kudirat, Saro-Wiwa part of these bad people?

pocohantas:
I disagree.

lol ok. I am not sure I can (or have the energy to) convince you otherwise

pocohantas:
Most women forgive? Yes.
Live 'happy' lives? Lies. The frictions will always be there.
You are not a woman, you will only say that which is acceptable to you. So, I am not surprised lots of you men assume women indeed forgive and are HAPPY. Same women that are 'emotional' creatures? LOL!!!

He loves her but he is banging another chick RAW and buying postinor 2 for her? May I not be loved and valued that way.

Many men can love and value their partners and still cheat.

not the same for most women.

pocohantas:
Monex, where are you from, your tribe I mean?

Edo

pocohantas:
No, majority of Nigerians don't earn such.

>Nigeria has an estimated population of 180m.
Over half of this population are living below poverty line.
>Minimum wage is N18000 a month, N216,000 p.a
>Npower is N30000 a month, N360,000 p.a
>NYSC is N19800 a month, N237,600 p.a
>Dependency ratio is over 80%
>Unemployment rate was put at 18.8% [Q3, 2017]. There have been recent reports, by NBS of a 1.1% decrease in [Q1, 2018], but with Buhari in power and what I see around, I don't believe it.
>Most youths are either unemployed or underemployed.
>2% of Nigerians account for 90% of bank deposits [NDIC, 2016]. That should tell you the gap between the rich and the poor.

I guess she is only voicing out what she wishes for us, but she is unaware we are in perilous times. Make I just dey watch her.

interesting figures. smart stuff

Bintabisiriyu:
Once again A Northerner making Nigeria proud, but inyamiris would not see it

you are doing Ahmed Musa a disservice with this tribal post

resurgent2019:
The snafu here is that the kind of feminism practiced by our women is a ruse. They want to eat their cake and have it. How many of the girls shouting feminism on this section are doing very well for themselves?

We all heard the exploits of pocohontas{who is the head of the feminist pack on here}. It is a very shameful news —because i really thought she embodied what she always propagated.

I cant really discuss feminism because i do not really understand its purpose—in the Nigerian context. Pardon my ignorance.

the way you folks slander people here ehn. Can't you make a good point without trying to bully or defame others.

Movic1:
What's Ipobs business with Nigeria? Ok let's say you have biz with Nigeria what's your biz with Ekiti? What if Apc win in Abia or Anambra? You will burn INEC office Lol. Even eleka and fayose wey lose no destroy thier PVC . Some people eh. Well some people do poo for 1min fame.. Nonsense.

he lives there and pays his tax there.

what's your own business with Ekiti?

ChiefOkafor:
Fayose was seen earlier crying with a neck cast and bandages around his arm. I never knew teargas could cause dislocation but today I know.

well he says he was hit with the butt of a gun. so it wasnt the tear gas causing the bandage

pocohantas:
Monex! Monex...hmmm

I am sorry but i try to rationally follow and i couldnt find the inference.

unless there are other context i am unaware of.

My post was based only on what he write in that post

pocohantas:
That's because ladies do not leak them. Not because they are any better, but because no one is interested in a guy's nude. If the lady is stupid enough to leak it...be rest assured she will get most of the backlash. No be Naija we dey again?

Guys send nudes too. Forget this mouth they're running here.

That said, I am not really open to exchange of nudes but I understand that people do a lot of silly things when the going is good. It is only a very vengeful and immature person that will go about leaking nudes and slandering an ex after break-up.

She should be happy to break-up with such a person. This kind guy can pour acid. Pray not to be at the receiving side of an aggrieved [immature] man. Hell hath no fury...

very true @bolded

LordKO:
Only a petty man (person) will expect/demand for submission - submissiveness is good and expected, and those who expects it knows that its earned not given - from a woman (person) outside formal settings (work environment where totalitarian rather than civility is required to achieve efficiency). Yes, there's a distinction/difference between submissiveness and submission - euphemism. The importance of euphemism can never be overemphasized. Show me a proponent of submission and I will point to you a subjugator. Unfortunately, subjugation knows no gender.

Mutual healthy and happy union only takes place where both parties involved are liberators (not where one of the parties is a subjugator) - liberalism doesn't mean absence of conscientiousness.

Sincerity begets submissiveness. A sincere head doesn't need immunity to reign supreme towards his follower(s), however, an insincere head can only reign supreme towards his follower(s) if and only he has immunity, this is so because he's full of impunity - so, an insincere head will expect submission rather than submissiveness from his follower. The former in this regard is a leader - leaders liberates - while the latter is a dictator - dictators subjugates. Those of the diplomatic ethical leanings liberates, while those of the manipulative ethical leanings subjugates.

unfortunately most people derive their demand for submission from the christian bible. In this book, respect/submission is obligatory and not earned. Ditto for love.

The man is obligated to love his wife no matter how undeserving she is and the woman is obligated to submit to her husband no matter how undeserving he is.

It might be easier to find a different interpretation for the context of submission and love used in those obligations but it will be impossible to say that they are not unconditional obligations.

as more and more people veer away from orthodox religions, submission will cease to be a topic. Although I fear marriage will also cease to be a topic.

pocohantas:
Typical Naija man, buys respect[submission] with his money.
Without money,most of you will feel very useless and insecure.

In fact you all should stop complaining of gold digging Naija ladies...they are the perfect fit for lots of you.

there is no analogy in what he wrote and your response.

that he thinks independent ladies are feminist means he has an issue with feminism not financial independence. He would like an independent lady who is not a feminist.

your assertion that he wants to buy respect/submission with money cannot be deduced from his post.

maxtreme:
But respect is mandatory, right? And the man should be the head right? And respect is reciprocal, right? If it's yes to these things, then you are correct, but if one of your answers is no, then you are wrongestess lol

nothing in life is mandatory. We all have choices and there would be repercussions for our choices

respect is contextual and your job is to find someone who shares your values, culture and context of respect

SheIsElle:
So? Kneeling down doesn't make her a good woman or a perfect wife. I don't see the need in doing that, I see marriage as a fusion of friends who have each others best interest at heart. Where is the fun and friendship if I have to kneel down to greet you?

Where is the fun and friendship if he has to kneel to propose to you?

to each his/her own. There is nothing wrong in her kneeling to greet her husband and there is nothing wrong in not kneeling. These are matters of preferences not common right or wrong. What is important and what society should fight is that we have our freedom to make our own choices.

Kneeling to greet your husband should be your choice. ditto for the reverse.

and yes kneeling doesnt make her a perfect wife. You don't see the need but she sees the need. None of you is wrong.

life has always been about balance so we have a yearning for companionship to counter balance our inherent selfishness. It seems today that we have found more interesting ways to satisfy our need companionship, get our benefits and still allow the specie survive outside marriage.

Amarabae:
Well a woman should marry if she wants to marry,
But she should not marry just because of societal pressure.
Simple

exactly. same for a man.

themodernman:
My dear follow your heart but make sure your heart is rock solid and isn't easily hurt, cos Nigerian men will taunt the hell outta you.

If you walk by the road and mistakenly slip on a banana peel, they'll attribute it to your singleness at your age.

They'll attribute the most ludicrous reasons with anything happening to you and you'll almost get yourself driven crazy.

The best thing most times is to keep your private life private and don't try to form liberator etc. Norms are thoroughly ingrained and not to so easily effaced from people's psyche.

Just live your live privately but if you feel you can put up with the taunting, ridicule, stigmatisation etc, then go public with it.

it is not just nigerian men. it is society in general due to our culture. we don't like exceptions /outliers. I have a colleague who is in her early forties and is nasty/mean to everyone.

My other female colleagues thinks she is frustrated about not being married. I say she has an inherent nasty personality. They say they are women and i dont know how women think.

cococandy:
Guys claim marriage is a disadvantage for them.
Yet.... they are on every social medial fighting people who are advising against marriage. Erm confused much? These type of people should be your best allies in eradicating an institution that is so unfair to you. Unless y’all were just being insincere and mouthing off

true that is hypocritical. except that it might not be the same guys who say marriage is unfair to them that are fighting those against marriage.

also a lot of peeps used to see marriage as a necessary evil. That is changing now for both gender and thankfully so.

marriage should simply be a choice. even religious books like Paul in the christian bible say we are advised not to marry except we would burn with lust

Ziggylady:
I dont know why males on this thread are crying about this...Marriage for women in Nigeria is extremely stressful while for men its an eldorado.

Married women look and feel better before marriage,while married men look much better after marriage..fact.

men generally age slower. if you add sophistication, you will see why older men might look more attractive.

it is not marriage that makes him look younger

Ziggylady:
Oga as at now,as in 2018...Most married men do not go through any damned stress of providing anything!!!...in Nigeria!!.I have countless real life experiences of married people around me,both colleagues and family members..

99% of the women in the aforementioned marriages contribut at least 60% of the financial burden in the home...I have heard an earful with complaints from them on how their husbands are not bringing in much financially...

They do all the house chores,cook,take care of the kids,work and bring in more money than their husbands.Most married women will not open up to you about the stress they are going through in other to 'cover their husbands unclothedness'..but the mega stress is Real!!!!...And the men very ungrateful and difficult.

a small sample space for such a huge assertion

pocohantas:
I asked you a simple yes or no question.

But if you don't get my complain, let me explain it in simple terms. Certain professions and positions imposes some level of responsibility on us. You can't be a gynaecologist and go asking for sex from random girls because you are not in a theatre.

You are supposed to portray a good image in and out of your workplace. You are a representative of your organisation. I don't know if you work in a formal organisation, if you do...you should know this. Even if you don't, it is common sense.

there is nothing unprofessional about asking for consensual sex. It only feels this way because it is the public domain. Many organisations would frown at a leaked tape of a personnel (who is single) and his girlfriend. it doesn't make having sex outside the office unprofessional.

You can say the guy lacked tact and there is really two extremes these days for a guy who wants to get laid. (1) deceive her into having sex with you (2) be straightforward about your intentions. most people do a middle between those two extremes.

pocohantas:
LOL. That dude claims a thousand and one religions.

I was innocently believing the guy sha

GoTV:
Islam will dominate Nigeria one day. Insha Allah all infidels will be converted

ow i get now.

didnt know your claim to be christian was just trolling

GoTV:
Allah is the same God and Jesus Christ is his messenger. We are saying the same thing

I thought MFM has been against this ideology (Christians and Muslims serve same God). And yet you say you are a pastor at MFM

it is either you are lying or MFM's doctrine changes with the times

Terminator1234g:
I hope ffk the slowpoke is happy now, for he has already hoodwinked the international community into thinking this is about ethnic cleansing and killing Christians.

Mental? Some Nigerian Christians are so unfair for saying Christians alone are being killed.

This is simply a plot by the evil opposition and IPOb to dismantle the country and say nonsense
The jobless aggressive idiotic lazy evil mad pigs of Biafra and PDP will not go unpunished.

they attribute it to ethnic ethnic cleansing. You attribute it to PDP & IPOB.

both are baseless but theirs is even more tenable than yours

pocohantas:
Experience?

lol lets say I have seen or heard a lot about that approach

pocohantas:
Next step is to milk mama of some dollars.
Then send some home to his brother to build a house.

After that, come back home one Xmas and block one small girl (preferably U-25) at his village square. Marry her. Come back regularly to give her belle. Send her money as at when due...

Life goes on

it is that simple

crackhaus:
How far is she willing to go in helping you out with your sexual frustration without actually having vaginal sex with you?

making out will still be fornication.

if her reasons for not wanting sex is religous/moral then that advise will not work

if her reasons have nothing to do with religion then OP should respect her wishes and end the relationship

Daeylar:


"We need to hear the other side of the story"

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These women are not playing

actually we need. I am a heterosexual man and I am not trolling

when will people stop generalizing women and men

adorable29:
For someone who told us he "booked tickets" just so he can see her as if booking tickets is such an achievement in the child's life, he definitely would have added that he took care of the baby.
Same person whose own PARENTS had no idea they had a grand child for TWO WHOLE YEARS ASIDES THE NINE MONTHS PREGNANCY is the one you say was caring for mother and child? There is something called deductive intelligence. You can deduce intelligently from a part to form a whole.

i did not say "was caring ..." i say that we cannot say for certain that he wasnt

what you did there is inductive not deductive.

yours had more weight than freshvine though. hers was more unlikely. I concede that