₦airaland Forum

AntiBrutus:
On Nairaland, almost every guy is an alpha male...one that works, earns mega, drives a car, changes women and gives no fck about them. On this same NL, almost every lady is an independent woman...one who knows her worth.

One would wonder who are the guys living in one room with torn boxers, the parasitic girls depending on men for every...in reality.

I guess they are not on NL.
We're all kings and queens here

lol indeed. That's why some of us will avoid meeting others so that fowl nyash will not open on our head.

In anonymous we trust !

seunmsg:
Giving a vague apology is not enough. They should make a list of all the atrocities committed by their members and make each and everyone of them to apologies individually. After that, they should order all their members who looted the country dry to return every single kobo they Stole. In addition, every PDP members that stole money must be ready to plead guilty to stealing in court and serve the necessary prison terms. That is the only way we can truly say PDP's apology is genuine and accepted.

For now, it is just a fake apology that was made to deceive Nigerians. The good news however is that Nigerians are smart people who can't be deceived. PDP was not an option in 2015 and it will never be an option in 2019.

I agree. But I am yet to see APC's apology at least

ubunja:
any submission that doesnt involve kneeling i reject it. i always tell my hoes if you not prepared to kneel then kindly walk away. and half always walk away. yet i never been rejected so much i spent months single. many girls really dont mind. and some are doing it as a fvck-you to feminism. i met quiet about 3 girls like that.

you are a chauvinist? It is ok as far as you dont disrespect females in your day-to-day relations.

however, i fear you are making your chauvinistic sentiments universal law.

kimbraa:
So in essence, you still see yourself as a superior being to your wife? I wasn't the one who said man must be the provider and protector of his home. It's in your bible, and it has nothing to do with feminism as most of you ignorant folks look for means to bring your most dreaded subject into discourse even where it isn't meant to come in. Being submissive doesn't entail kneeling down to serve you. That's my point.

most of what you said seemed ok for me except when you equated kneeling for him to being a slave.

Kneeling could be symbolic. As far as it does not affect the dignity of the person(s), then it is fine.

Does a guy become a slave by proposing to a lady?
do certain tribe boys become slaves by kneeling door-to-door to all women in the village as part of their rites to become a man?

ReinaFarine:
You counter with logic when someone is willing to listen and be corrected.

I am not generalizing or insulting when I say he and his brother(s) have been unfortunate with women and that explains his hatred for anything with a vagina except his daughter of course.

I understand and to an extent sympathize with his pain. But most of his minions don't understand that all his post are filled with emotional pain he was probably too weak and stupid to express to that cause(s).

So instead of challenging/fighting his ex that broke his heart, or the virgin that falsely accused his brother of rape, he takes vengeance by inciting other men to hate women. He gives wrong advice to people in happy relationship just going through a little misunderstanding. And all his co-XY counterparts cheer him for it.

I won't be surprised if hundreds of poor, gullible men have broken off relationships with the best thing that will ever happen to them because of his bad advice and the multitude the believe them.

And this must stop.

The responses of you folks countering him are way too emotional. Most of his audience are guys and guys would typically chose logic over subjectivity. If really you folks think he is negatively brainwashing his male audience then you are doing a bad job at correcting this with your emotion-laden responses.

Amarabae:
thats why many of them hate a strong azz independent rich lady because they know that she will be selective and many of them have nothing to offer her.
They start whining like "she is sleeping around "
In their backward mind "a single lady can't achieve that without riding their dumb di*k"

well what i will advise you ladies that are interested in marriage, is to marry someone who has your mentality. even at that it will be tough.

Tough because, once your primary world view becomes men vs women rather than "two of you" vs "rest of the world", you already have added baggage to deal with in your marriage.

FluidQueen:
I do not Give a fúck about those culture. No one should have to conform to cultures that do not align with their conviction.

I do not want to ever trade my Surname for Another's. I love mine just the way it is. That is my OPINION.

and your opinion should be respected. No one should force you to change your last name.

corpershun:
Dowry is paid by a woman and done in countries like India

Bride price is paid by the man and done in countries like Nigeria.

Cultural differences.

Besides even when you change your name as a woman you have to carry that news paper cut up and down.
If you bear your maiden name you also carry your marriage cert photocopy up and down so its a two way thing.

I have seen people that didn't change their name and the marriage is waxing strong, I have seen those that did, the marriage is gone and the woman has to go back to change her name, I have seen those that adopt both their maiden and hubby surname.

Let us live and let live...Do what pleases you provide it makes you happy.

P.S Name change is the least of problems in marriage and raising a family-Character, compatibility and love are the most essential.

it is a question of convention and tradition. The law should not force anyone to change names. There is nothing to protest about. There are guys who do not require that their wife (or wives) change their name. Marry them. Previously, the law did not allow women keep their names and that was wrong. Today anyone can do a name change.

What we should protest sef is why the law frustrates men who want to take up their wife's family name.

bigtt76:
Hmmm why not add both names together ....it will pay you on the long run Isabella Peter-Philips not bad to me sounds like a royal you know? Meanwhile all these feminists crap is getting to me joooor.

We are being enslaved by the feminists any more than they think they're helping us. We should not begin to see the male sex (or anything involving the male sex) as an enemy ....they are not! We should learn to accommodate them and chose what is good for us.

The issue of change in name after marriage is a decision left at the discretion of the couple although during submission of some official documentations, you may have to go at length to prove you two are married. Most times, change of name is the best and concrete proof to that.

actually a lot of what feminism is about has helped you. I am all traditional and against feminism but I can appreciate ( and push for) some aspects of feminism like equal rights and opportunities in society. These have benefited many women all over the world including you

LesbianBoy:
Like i said in another thread, there is nothing wrong with the Cee C girl. She just doesn't suffer fools gladly.

then she should understand when she becomes the fool and others don't suffer her gladly.

MaziOmenuko:
Nope. That doesn't justify the ineptitude and corrupt govt ran by GEJ; but what we a re seeing now is a dull, disorganized and disoriented govt ran by an inner-circle where the head has NO SINGLE idea of what goes on. He is just a president by proxy, more like a ceremonial head of state.

my thoughts too

famousguy01:
You get mind to still come on top this platform spit this kind trash, you wey suppose don dey kirikiri

if na benin, the passenger dey go Ayelala straight

Jiang:
what a sissy, how can you allow a woman to rape you. haba! You are a disgrace to manhood. No woman can rape me even if they are two of them talkless of just one.

I might not be able to hit a woman, but I sure as hell can overpower her when she tries any sort of physical contact, then kick her out of my apartment

they will drug you and all this your macho senrenre will disappear. You will be awake but immobilized

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Na u sabi. Doubt you'd b here if your dad had such mentality. You sir are a coward. Face your fears!

cowardice could be wisdom in disguise

Chikita66:
All these feminists are so clueless.
You go to a man's house, you strip yourself knowing they are moved by what they see and you expect nothing to happen, you feminists must be mad, in short you are mad.

funny I am anti-feminism and in full support of patriachy but I agree with her.

A girl stripping naked in your house doesnt mean consent.

This is quite logical.

You can accuse her of harassing you if you insisted she should put on her clothes and she refused. But it gives you no right to force her

Shugavee:
please dear can u tell me what's a mans contribution in a union!!!

Provide (financial, emotional etc.), Protect, Lead

mrkunlex:
let me ask you 1 question.
for example, if a woman bcome president, her husband will be what

google Joachim Sauer

Kholiwe:
Abortion is Not Murder Abortion is definitely a form of killing, but it is not murder. Not every form of killing qualifies as murder (for instance, soldiers killed in combat are not considered to have been murdered). An aborted fetus could not live on its own outside the uterus; it therefore has not every been fully alive and cannot be murdered ,

The bolded is not a question of being alive but a question of viability

an embryo is definitely alive. It is also definitely human (46 chromosomes) but it is not viable as it cannot survive on its own. Normally 22 weeks is agreed for viability as that is the earliest stage a prematurely born foetus can survive. However, note that viability changes with technology, decreasing as we become more advance in technology. A second mute point is if a new born is truly viable. Can a new born survive on its own without a mother (or at least another human)?

I find it tough to argue in favor of abortion using the notion of viability. Allowing abortion for non-viable stages of the foetus views the foetus as a parasite to be terminated. it also discards the concept of individual pain for common good of the species which is natural to mammals.

Kholiwe:
"If God hates abortion, why does He allow miscarriages?" Isn't life sacred to him......religious fanatics

here's your analogy:

if God hates murders, why does He allow people die naturally? Isnt Life sacred to him.

Newboss:
You are absolutely ignorant if you don't know that it's mostly ladies that opt for abortion!

well it's their lives that are most impacted by the child. Guys are minimally impacted. Ladies have to make a choice between their convenience and that of the child.

unfortunately as always selfishness wins. so they chose their own interest ahead of the child.

Zuluhead:
Quite interesting but some clarification are needed, lets think outside religion cause some religion support it. Where does the crime/murder/sin starts from?
If abortion is a crime then releasing outside the Virginia is also a crime?
Also with family planning?
I have mingled and associated with people from different religion and we have deep conversations irrespective of religion.
It boils down to faith believe and national constitutions.
Morally produce what you can cater for.

the bolded is not a valid logical equivalence. Releasing outside the Vagina only destroys sperm cells and not a fertilized egg.

Releasing outside the Vagina would be under preventive contraception, just like use of condoms etc. Note that some religions (Catholic) are against even preventive contraception but do not consider it as grave as abortion which they simply term murder of an innocent.

Safiaaa:
No thanks. But my dad is a Muslim.

i am just saying they share the sentiments you expressed there. I am not campaigning for muslim men. I am not muslim

dominique:
My husband does chores, my father does chores as well. Both MEN work and provide for the family and that didn't stop them from assisting in the running of the home. Assisting your wife with the chores doesn't make you less of a man, it only shows that you're caring and considerate. You work in a fully air-conditioned office yet you think you work harder than the one bursting her limbs to keep the home in order, seriously?

My son turns seven this month and he has been doing housework since last year. I'm raising him that way so he doesn't turn someone else's daughter into his glorified maid. I'm raising my daughter to know her worth and not settle for less in a relationship or marriage. She will never settle for an overgrown boy that thinks he's doing her a favour by marrying her hence she must be their ass locker and ego massager.

the bolded shows that you consider it HER responsibility

Safiaaa:
that’s why you don’t contribute financially at all. Problem solved, happily ever after Your money is our money, my money is mine

That's exactly what Islam states. I understood that from my Muslim friend. I would advise you marry a Muslim then if you are single and want to get married.

dominique:
Who is fighting with you now? That a wife is submissive doesn't mean you should not give her some form of respect. Submission to men like you means subservience and subjugation, in other worlds slavery. If I have to choose between being married to a boy-man like you and packing out, I will gladly pick the pack out option. Unlike the desperados that will prefer to suffer in the name of marriage, marriage will never be a do or die affair for me. I will gladly leave your house for you to eat it. A man that cannot accord his wife some level of respect and see her as a partner is not fit to be a man.

is it a lack of respect to want one's wife to be responsible for taking care of the home?

the rule of thumb is to discuss your understanding and expectations about marriage.

As a lady, If you dont expect cooking to be your obligation in marriage, explain this before any committment. Don't refrain from discussing it due to some desperation. There are always going to be those who share similar marital values and expectations with you.

As a guy, if you expect cooking to be your wife's responsibility. Let her know before you guys make a commitment to each other so she has a choice. We have no right to take away anyone's choices or to coerce someone into something the person does not want.

Most of us where raised in a culture and the effect of this culture still affects our understanding of marriages. Religion (Orthodox Christianity and Islam especially) further support this idea of Husband (Lead, Protect, Provide) and Wife (Home Management and Nurturing) responsibilities.

A lady will probably know about my position on marital responsibilities in our first month of dating.

Safiaaa:
Really? What Nigerian guy in this generation wants to be responsible for all the bills and finances in the house?

most of those I know actually. They recognize and appreciate any support/assistance the wife provides but they consider financial provision (at least) to be their primary responsibility

dominique:
Not all marriages, some men are very hands on with house chores and child care. Besides, some women bring this upon themselves. You will go to a man's personal and family homes and turn yourself into their glorified maid just to prove you're 200 yards of wife material. How won't they take you as a glorified maid in marriage?

Some women will go ahead to marry a man that unapologetically told her that chores are solely a woman's duty because they're desperate to marry. Once married, they will see how draining all that housework but they won't be able to complain too much because that's what they signed up for.

Marriage shouldn't be as hard as our people are making it. All it involves are partnership, effective communication, mutual respect and understanding.

the biggest problem with marriage is human selfishness. Do you know how difficult it can be to be truly selfless?

Autopartz:
This is a tough one.

Over here, Mercedes overall has a slight edge over the BMW especially in Nigeria.

The BMW is has a slightly better performance.

The challenge with the BMW especially in Nigeria, is that it is slightly more sensitive to the floods and
bad roads (it has lower ground clearance on average).

Not much exposure to the Audi.

With better infrastructure, a BMW would have been preferred.

I compared the BMW 5 series 2011-2014 with the Mercedes E class 2011-2014.

Benz had ground clearance of 4.1 inches against BMWs 5.6

FarahAideed:
Was Jonathan God in 2014 that y'all expected him to bring Chibok girls back

I am not a PMB fan but I am sure she must have been misquoted. It is typical for media to twist words to get sensational headlines.

... and I admit same was done to GEJ - some of his words were twisted by media to sensationalize them.

Originalsly:
Common now with social media....people fall in love from the inside out! Right here on NL ones be falling in love with others without laying an eye on them!

eros doesnt neccesarily have to do with looks.

i know ladies who are more attracted to text and speech than looks.

Safiaaa:
I hardly read them. When I do, I just find them so comical. I see you ending up lonely and empty or eventually being with your dream man. One of the two.

that's an illogical conclusion.

your statement is analogous to statements by guys who believe female feminist are going to end up as lonely old women or lesbians. You criticize that view point but here you are giving the exact analogy.

Do you know what is common between ubunja's chauvinist crew and you "feminist" folks? Selfishness

Do you know the starkest contrast between ubunja's chauvinist crew and you "feminist" folks? Honesty