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Live with me? No thank you. 2 weeks visit max.

Most annoying are the brothers: they want meals specially cooked for them, so my wife will cook 2x, finish your fuel, demand keys to the car, start doing things around the house without permission like it's their place.

ykalhaji:
Virtue signaling... Police your own family and the ones that depend on you and afterwards mind your own freaking business. Who gave Op the right to be the judge of responsible parenting. Until someone craze for una finish with real physical repercussions before una stop to dey try to force una ideas onto people, before na so so a real man is not bla bla bla, come you be man ? How do you know what a man is let alone a real man.

That your papa wey dey seat down monitor hairdresser sef, he really get as e be.

Erm... I think it's everyone's business to decide whether it's OK to inflict pain on a child for some reason.
Permit me some examples:

Some individuals pointed out that painfully scarring a child's face with identification marks was not the best thing. Most people thought it was OK at some point in the past, but it's people like the OP who can cause change. Same with twins being left to die in the forest.

As society we still cause boys pain when we circumcise... but society feels the benefits (easier cleaning, apart from the religious reasons) still outweighs the temporary discomfort that most boys don't even remember. However, female genital mutilation is being seen as a bad thing (which I agree).

People used to think nothing of beating a child with plank because of "spare the rod, spoil the child...", yet we are gradually understanding that there are better ways to discipline a child, and the only thing you teach a child by beating is that violence is an OK way to solve problems.

I'm reaching, and going to extremes to prove a point, but please don't think I'm equating facial scarification with braiding hair in terms of permanence, damage, pain, etc, or equating death of twins with circumcision. Just don't lose my message that it's the voice of people like OP that can cause people to rethink why we do things, and change if we feel that the ends do not justify the means.

computergeek:
With her natural hair, well-oiled, combed and packed nicely into buns or tails, she'll still be the beautiful princess you gave birth to

Fully agree with your post. However, even these buns will need daily combing... which isn't exactly pain-free. Better than the headache-inducing braids, etc. but ideally short cut would be best, then only daily ude and a small comb needed.

Drkingjames:
I don't think devaluation is a move in the right direction

I would agree.... devaluation (or undervaluation) helps countries that export value-added products (e.g. manufactured goods). However price of oil (which is the largest commodity we use to obtain dollars) will not change based on our Naira, yet we will need more Naira to pay for imports.

Because imports become expensive, locally produced goods will also become more expensive: even a toothpick seller will have to increase their prices so they can in turn pay for (imported) tshirts (a contrived example, but not too far off).

Devaluation has not once helped the Nigerian economy, in my opinion.

What individuals should do is save as much as they can, ideally into dollar accounts to hedge against devaluation and inflation. Spend as little on extravagant expenses this season.

Leaders who don't provide good schools, good hospitals, good roads, and instead steal all the money... are they the ones who should be complaining about the youths that they raised?

But seriously, every generation since Plato has complained about the deterioration of morals in the youths.
Imagine what Nigerian parents were saying about those 1960's highlife kids who just want to dance and drink and hang out in music joints. Then another generation complained about the kids of the disco 70's who just wanted to dance and smoke. Then they complained about those kids in 80's who just want to breakdance and wear jerry curls. Now those parents who danced and smoked in 60's 70's 80's are complaining about kids doing the very same thing in 2010's.

And I won't be surprised to read that Naira Marley himself complains about "kids these days" in 2040's.

Customers will always pay. Price of goods and services will be increased, that's all.
Even I know that, and I'm not an economist.

Somebody said:

"I don’t understand people saying she bleached. Is your camera quality from 10 years the same as now? You don’t know money changes skin color? Have you ever heard of skin care routines?"

OK, I agree. But hanty that same high quality camera took the guy picture, and he no change. Please try another excuse again.

Donexy16:
But what exactly will I do with the "eggs" if I buy them

Keep them, admire them as they rise in value. Just like the people before you.
It's just like a painting or stocks. It's increasing in value and you can't do anything with it until you sell it.

Dcaliphate:
Enugu is among one of the best states anyone can reside in the south east. They're so civilized and obey traffic rules very well.

Seconded. Enugu is so serene and organized. I wish I could relocate, but I visit often sha.

iCauseTrouble:
Nothing dey the music, the video and the album. Just overhyped

Thank you bo. Saved my data after seeing your review.

TheSourcerer:
Can this happen in Naija

hisexcellency34:
Not only Naija, Africa as a continent

Not in the same way, but we have seen leaders removed when their time was up (perhaps unconstitutionally):
our coups, stopping third-term agenda (which was NASS asserting itself during OBJ), Mugabe.

Funny in Nigeria, we've not had a leader serve more than 8 years, or two 4-year terms. (Gowon almost clocked 9 years, but didn't reach it)

naijaguy123456:
Is that not why chioma married him cos of American papers and access to real money. If davido was a shoe maker or huzzling bottle water will she marry him ?

Somebody has to marry the wealthy men.

Show me anybody who marries a person without a future. Even those who fell in love when they had nothing, would say "I saw his potential..."

longsnake:
Is there any guarantee the marriage will last? I no trust chinko at all

And na Naija guy you trust? There's no guarantee of anything bros.

I've never seen a poor person build factories with their own money. This is done by people with surplus money (e.g. investors) in hope of generating more wealth over time.
Overtax the wealthy, and all you'll do is encourage them to hide and move more of their wealth abroad.
The tax revenue will be badly spent - given government's precedent, and the people will only get inefficient state-run enterprises.

Guy, it's over with her. Face your lane and find babe in the abroad. There are idiots for sure, but there are also gems.

Spiritfun:
I LOVE THIS GIRL and I'm certain that will make a good wife for me.

Hah hah hah... so says every Nigerian man who has lived to regret it. By the way, I can bet you are not her first choice based on her initial rejection of you and what I'm reading... she might still be holding out for that other guy...

If you bring her over with your funds, you enter one chance, as many many Nigerian men can attest when they took girlfriend-who-became wife abroad. So, since I see this relationship quitting in 1 or two years, might as well cut it now so you both don't waste your valuable time.

Why postpone the inevitable? Konji will catch you, it will catch her too. You will call, she's asleep. She will call, you're at work. You will call, she's not picking... and so on. After 2-3 months the frequency of your calls will reduce and the majority of your conversation will be about how you miss each other, and how life sucks. Meanwhile several ebonies, snowflakes, and mulans will be eyeing you and you will be eyeing them too. Then you and your girlfriend will enter the "pretend I'm not cheating phase", which might lead to fight every call, and mistrust.

Congrats! Go and face your new life in Canada.

Note to people: if anybody wants to start business with you in ember months... tell them to wait till February. Money don japa oh.

OK, on a serious level... this one get as e be. If you involve police and lawyer, you will need to find another 100k for them. If they get the guy he may not be able to pay since money don enter voicemail.

So what about the land documents? No CofO, no deed, nothing passed between your friend and the guy?
Without receipt, or a bank transaction, this may be very difficult to prove.

Jaiye jaiye lo!!! See fine fine people.

The warning signs are there, very clear. You've asked for advice, and here it is:

Cut him out of your life permanently. Now. People don't change.

dannyla:
- During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper
- I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it.
- He gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache
- He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view

All other excuses, pleas, apologies are irrelevant. Don't be top story on the nairaland news about some wife in emergency room, or worse.

BlueAngel444:
Here is a question

For one to do what is right in all things at all times, I mean even in an ever changing world with different eras and cultures, mustn't one first know what to do that is right? You then said always.

Is there any who knows what to do always?

The rule is quite simple: love others as yourself. Just following that alone will lead you down the right path, irrespective of religion or era or culture. No need to clutter with all kinds of derivative rules and formulas.

You can't.

You shouldn't: righteousness is a thing between the person and his God.

Pauldollars:
One of your duties as a Christian is to make sure you always give your tithes and God will bless you abundantly (Read Malachi 3:10) How the money is being used by the Church should not be your concern. BTW it is good that you give your tithes in the church that spiritually nourishes you...not just any random Penterascal church which have no business propagating the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Agreed. I think you'll recall Jesus was very much against foolishness. Whether it was the parables of talents, the builders, the 10 virgins, speck and log, and many others.

If you continue to give your tithes to corrupt pastors... you are naught but foolish.

Airplanes, mobile phones, computers, medicine, cars, Internet, rule of law, printing press, agriculture... were not invented in a church.

We go to Europe, US, Asia and Dubai, not because of the sizes of their churches.

Kehni:
What's your point bro...all the offence ur saying is between human....not cows bro

So we only shake our heads when an okada driver is killed over 100 Naira bribe (because it's between humans), but get outraged when a person is killed over a cow (which is arguably more valuable that 100 Naira)? Please let's be consistent in our outrage.

Phone belongs to somebody. Steal it: jail.
Cow belongs to somebody. Steal it (or kill it): jail.
Money in bank belongs to somebody. Steal it: jail.
Abuse somebody in power or with leg: jail.
Even scratching a big man's car can land you in jail.
That's my point.

I'm from SS, so don't think I'm defending cow's rights over humans. My point is FFK's post is unnecessarily inflammatory.
Why foment tension on top cow when the result of damaging/stealing/killing another's property is often jail (or even death) in this Nigeria?

Abeg, is it not in this same Nigeria people get jail for stealing common phone?
How about those who scammed people out of only 30k, don't they get jail time? Those who lose their lives over 100 Naira bribe nko? And the justice system looks the other way. Why making all this noise ontop cow? Abeg FFK, go and rest. It's not everything you will be alarming the populace for.

Ewoooo!!!

Chai, to be this girl's boyfriend go sweet. Just looking at her is enough to brighten up your day

Sweet family, many happy returns Angel.

But I have to say anytime I see a group of people holding up four fingers, I shudder... that's the 4x4 next level trauma PMB has brought to me

Please read the official FAAN twitter feed. https://twitter.com/faan_official
They did not ban anything today.

Thank goodness, because this would be going back to the dark ages of being gouged by taxi drivers.

Regular taxi cabs should adapt to the new paradigm... nothing stops someone from signing up to Uber

Making money
If you could make $5 mill every weekend you spend in Lagos, won't you miss it?

A fraudster is released on bail, yet a voice of the people is rearrested, abi? Naija well done oh...

Izzokay with me jare... not every Christmas has to be merry abeg. Personally, I will be chilling at home, doing nothing, no parties, no special anything - and especially no spending. Just recovering from the harsh year and getting ready for 2020.

Not scared... just don't want another dependent.

Better to meet women who are working, independent, with their own thing going on.
Rather than having a student who will be asking you for tfare, money for weave, small chops, to settle professors, help her sick mother, support her out-of-job brother. Surprisingly, a student whose parents can't afford a textbook for her class will be angry with you because you don't want to waste 10k on drinks.