₦airaland Forum

samorobo:
Nonsense how this one take concern Nigeria..is this what we should be talking about in this day that we should be reflecting on the dire state of our nation and how she has t broken completely so we can know the necessary steps to take in order to redeem her...mtcheeeww sufferNmiling yoot

We know the necessary steps... but those who are taking action are being detained, those with power to change are still burying their hands in sand, and the rest of us are forming keyboard warriors.

At least let me see something other than the same reflecting on rubbish that refuses to change.

Quality20:
really strange, well even here in nija ds rubbish is fast spreading. remembered a guy who claimed he saw a lonely girl in a park and decided to approach her only to be accosted by another girl telling him that "she is my girlfriend,," and d guy was left bewildered.
I really don't know why a lady would decide to b lesb? Dont they want children, real sex enjoyment, manly strength, financial inducement fom d man, respect and all that?

Nope. They are happy as they are, taink you. All I want is for people to be happy... a world of happy people not causing headaches for others would be a nice world.

lukui:
Guys, if u have hustled real hard and yet you are still broke. Get married, because some women holds the key to success.

Is this true or just a mere assumption?

Matured comments only please and no insults. Thanks!!

On one hand, you can be motivated to succeed because you have a family to provide for; and it can give you focus on your goals (no time to waste).

On the other hand, your capacity to work long hours is limited by having to care for the family, and most of what you make goes to providing for them, not into the business.

There are many successful people who achieved it before getting married: Page, Brin, Zukerberg; there are also those who became successful after marriage: Bezos, Ma, Musk.

In conclusion: consistent hard work - and belief in yourself and in your vision - are the keys to success.

osuofia2:
Bless you khafi, something the dullard can't do rather na hunger him de use reset naija people. Sango fire all zombies here

meditator:
He must be the cause of the generational problems in your family.

You know, actually he is. The extremely hard times of mid-to-late 80's (which admittedly started under Shagari but worsened by him and his cohorts) has left a scar on people from that generation who could not find work, or even basic supplies and food due to austerity. That was the result of PMB refusing to listen to reason about currency and structural adjustments - strangling the economy to the point industries had to shut down. His friend IBB made things worse as he zigzagged between rational and irrational decisions. These ushered the severe decline in government services: education, health, running water etc. as they became subservient to World Bank and IMF economic experiments that said governments should divest from providing services.

Unsurprisingly, Buhari reprised his bad decisions from 1983-1984 again in 2015-2017. Our dear PMB, after OBJ took us out of debt, is setting up another generation of Nigerians to service decades-long debt; but there no jobs being created for the youths to service these debts; promises remain unfulfilled; corruption continues unabated (though disguised); all leadership is making all the wrong long-term choices.

So yes, you can say PMB is the cause of generational problems in many many Nigerian families, and the ill-effects of his two terms will be felt for at least a quarter century. According to some people, however, he can do no wrong.

I can't celebrate it. I still remember the hope and optimism during "Nigeria is 25"... 34 years later, we still don't have running water; we have worsened on many indices; and the same crop of looters are still there...

What's there to celebrate? PMB? SARS? Herdsmen? BH? Bad hospitals? Failing universities? Joblessness? Subservience to West? Abeg...

This is likely a joke. Anyone who's ready to take your car will do so, never mind that small chain.

Abi is it the landlord chaining a tenant's car

Good one. Hope will all the dredging, large ships will be able to pass under the two Niger bridges...

Don't tell me it wasn't considered. That would be too funny

Wuzyurdaddy:
In other saner climes, the courts aren't government influenced.

What do you mean? Worldwide, courts don't fund their own buildings (it's up to the other arms to approve budgets for such).
Similarly, judges are nominated by the executive and confirmed by the legislative... definitely influenced, though should be independent.

They are free to discharge their duties as long as he doesn't have to follow their judgements or decisions bah?

To all the ladies: people (both genders) are naturally predisposed to promiscuity. Why? The short answer is genetic diversification: both need their genes to survive and the best way is to "put your eggs in several baskets".

The realities of human society - having to work hard to provide for offspring - resulted in the arrangement where a man wants to be sure he is sweating for only his own seed. In addition, a pregnant or nursing woman was vulnerable for a few years and could not - on her own - provide for all her needs, and so needed to be in a situation where a partner would provide for her. Thus the institution of marriage became a formalized arrangement to address these concerns, where the ideal is for one man, one woman. We as societies have drummed that message into our heads - in folk tales, music, religion, etc.

However, the fact remains that our natural disposition is to seek multiple partners. Promiscuity is doing what nature has designed us to do, but because society has developed to say it's a no-no, it's called "cheating". So rather than asking why men are men, perhaps it's healthier just to accept that men are men (and women are women, as we shall see in the last paragraph).

The main reason a woman feel cheating is bad is because of the risk of losing access to the resources she's being provided with. Modern society has made it possible for women to work and provide for their household, but it hasn't been the case for millennia. Another woman usually meant reduced resources for her children, and competition with a rival for basic needs. Modern women may deny this, and use the façade of religion, love, and morality to denounce it, but underlying all of that is the basic instinct for financial (resource) stability.

Now, to address what I feel is a one-sided accusation, there have been many well-researched reports that up to 30% of children are born to households where the man is not the biological father. These statistics only refers to cases where the woman admitted to the infidelity. We don't have statistics for unreported cases, or where the woman took the deception to her grave.

To recap: cheating happens in both genders; there is a biological basis for it; we feel it's bad because it hurts the chances for survival for us and offspring.

Yoruba amaka all the way.

We have brains in this country... imagine if the enabling environment was there for these bright minds.
Hope when they start writing software, SARS won't come and harass them.

Wow... so inadvertently Dabota is also saying that Tacha in her current state needs a full body make over? I can't decide if she's being insulting or truly helpful... hmm.....

Casted!!! Chai! As e dey hot!!!

So Tacha can open her mouth and insult people up an dan about their heritage, lineage, color, accomplishments, etc and it's entertainment bah? But when somebody makes a song people start saying "it's not nice". Before nko? All those people in the house who she abused and fought with... they didn't have feelings too abi?

Abeg, I won't lie... I played that snippet like 8 times... it's too funny. "Ah ki lo'n run?"... This na real pepper. Humility is a lesson this girl needed to learn small. She should take this lesson with her on her next adventures and not be too full of herself. Just because she can manage to buy small cream, lashes, and hair does not mean she's better than anybody.

Nobody is perfect, but some are worse than others, and we use feedback to train them to become better.

But if only we paid as much attention to the people stealing from our backyard, as we did to BBN, this country for beta.

expert234:
Because you didn't see the link doesn't negate the link. Those who see the link see it. I won't bore you with explanation

Fair enough...

expert234:
Lol. This my comment is not what will cause division in Nigeria.

While you blame the Nigerian army for committing a masacre in Asaba, may I also remind you that the biafran army had earlier committed the same crime after they bursted through the Asaba end of the Niger Bridge? Yes, your igbo brothers at the Asaba end of the bridge opened the gate for their igbo brothers from the other side of the Niger. No time to go into more details

Yes, the biafran army committed series of atrocities, like murder and rape. They even robbed the Central Bank at Benin. So, biafra is not without fault in the matter. In fact, what you are commemorating today is more or less an equal and opposite reaction to an earlier gruesome action by the biafran army.

Yes, we are commemorating the atrocities of the war committed by all belligerents. However, what has that to do with your original comments about puppets and masters? I just didn't see the connection, nor the reason for the comment in this topic.

But this notion of "opened the gate"...
1. was there a gate?
2. why wasn't it guarded by Nigerian army?
3. why leave such a strategic position open or in the hands of civilians?

I feel that's a lazy excuse in the search for who to blame... and I suspect anybody who was in the path of Biafra<->Nigeria was going to get mowed down, regardless of the actual truth.

Sadly for traditional rulers, they are not the sovereign. They are welcome to amass an army to create and defend a republic independent of Nigeria. Until then however, Nigerians are free to go anywhere in Nigeria. Back in the day, yes, they were sovereign because they could defend their borders. Then the Europeans came and imposed their will on those former empires and kingdoms, which they handed to the Nigerian government. Not even a state governor is sovereign.

We need to solve the problem of conflicts with herders, but that does not include banning them from entire regions.

gwarotango:
on point one that you raised, they were considered as enemy combatants for contravening the Geneva convention itself by covertly supporting the Biafran army behind Nigerian lines

This alleged covert support is a typically Nigerian response by authorities. We arrest, blame, and prosecute people without proper investigation: there is no documented proof or reports that Asaba citizens provided support that warranted wanton execution of civilians.

Asaba itself was invaded during the drive to capture Mid-West and on to Lagos.

What is documented is: "On October 7, 1967, citizens of Asaba were forced to leave their homes and attend a public dance in Asaba. When the civilians arrived in downtown Asaba they were massacred by the 2nd Division, under the supervision of Lt.Colonel Murtala Mohammed, in retaliation for the assassination of Ahmadu Bello at the hands of Kaduna Nzeogwu one year earlier, this massacre became known as the Asaba massacre."

This theme of revenge has been repeated in multiple articles about the massacre, and is a more likely explanation that the unfounded allegations of collusions. Even if I was to concede to you that Asaba "colluded with the enemy" (which I strenuously don't agree), once hostilities ceased, it was illegal for armed soldiers to gun down unarmed civilians, and in most places the commanders in charge would have been convicted of war crimes.

gwarotango:
Those asaba people who were shot can legally be classified as enemy combatants since they aided the Biafran army to invade Nigerian territory. No war crime there.

1. Even enemy combatants (soldiers) who once bore arms, but are not currently holding them, are to be treated under the Geneva convention POW agreement. It's a war crime to massacre belligerents who have either surrendered or pose no threat.

2. The fact remains that these people were innocent citizens whose government (Nigeria) failed to protect them from the invading Biafrans. Yes there were Biafra sympathizers, but to use that an an excuse to mow down 500 civilian men and boys, is weak at best, and would not stand in a court.

3. It is not up to civilians to aid or restrict combatants... that's what an army is for; the invasion is something Nigerian Army Intelligence should have foreseen and prevented.

4. The painful reality is that neither Nigeria nor Biafra gave two shits about the people of Anioma (and Edo); they merely used them when convenient and abandoned them when not convenient; then the other side retributed. As far as the Nigerians from North and West were concerned, it didn't matter if you were from Asaba... you spoke Igbo and so qualified to be killed in the progrom (or massacred by a vengeful army). To the Biafrans, it didn't matter that you insisted you were Nigerian, you spoke Igbo and so are part of Biafra automatically. That is until they retreeted and abandoned the people they once called brother.

To wit: "The Geneva Conventions are rules that apply only in times of armed conflict and seek to protect people who are not or are no longer taking part in hostilities; these include the sick and wounded of armed forces on the field, wounded, sick, and shipwrecked members of armed forces at sea, prisoners of war, and civilians."

Also please notice: Biafra never included Asaba... it was invaded by Biafra. Conversely Biafra included Onitsha and Enugu, which were never "invaded by Biafra". That should tell you where was, and where was not, considered Biafra.

expert234:
Igbos are holding their own, but Yorubas seem to be happy being slaves to fulanis. They are ready to throw Gani Adams under the bus for daring to set them free from slavery.

The mentality of most Yorubas is that of a slave.

Too bad.

Why did this comment get any likes?

We in Ahaba are commemorating a heinous action by the Nigerian Government (via the Army) against it's own people. A war crime against citizens for which the perpetrators have never been brought to justice, nor for which the commanders have shown any remorse. Why drag other matters into this solemn occasion? Let us condole each other without such divisive statements.

Nigerians and false spirituality: it's pretty much guaranteed that some of the people would have been eliminated in the very next round... what's the significance apart from mere coincidence. The fact that her attitude predisposes her to erase, is the same attitude that predisposes her to doing things that would get her eliminated.

People like reading too deeply into things sometimes...

Akanapiaigwe1:
I repeat Nobody can withstand that provocation from mercy

If I had a chance to win at a show... you can provoke me all you want...

mike272:
This soo unfair. Mercy played Tacha into gettting disqualified because she knew she already has 2 strike. What a cheat!!!

Tacha herself should have been aware and if she were smart, would avoid being provoked or causing fights. Mercy used her opponent's weakness against her... how is that cheating?

Akposy:
Good for her! I wish she was evicted for provocation too!

Davash222:
Biggie should have disqualified both of them. It’s not fair.
In Biggie’s word ‘Provocation is violence’. Violence means disqualification... so, why is Mercy still in the house ?? Biggie is biased!!

Even somebody raising their voice to start a fight is provocation, so I don't think we can use that as a basis. On the other hand it's what one does when provoked that matters... even with the hair swinging (which contributed to Mercy's strike), it was Tacha who physically escalated.

So OP made several points about bad behavior of some Nigerians in foreign countries. Ironically, less than 6 posts later, representative Nigerians have started demonstrating those same traits... Unfortunately the message is being lost.

Klington:
who did we offend in this country that youths now think that doing internet fraud is the best way to succeed in life

It's the sad truth that for many, internet fraud is the best way. When being honest doesn't pay; when you can't find work; when you have work but boss won't pay salary for 3 moths; when police taxes you everyday; and worst, when your leaders steal money meant for your generation and nothing happens. It's not good, but I can't honestly say I blame the youths brought up by leaders in an environment that does not encourage legit wealth.

Agugbadin:
You are absolutely right especially black women. Deceitful and deceptive that is their brand

If that was the case, onyinbo would not have invented DNA test for use in their own society. From nih.gov: "Nearly 300,000 paternity tests are performed in the United States annually to include or exclude a male as the biological father of a child. ... RESULTS: The test results indicated paternity inclusions in 72 percent of cases, overall."

Meaning about 28% (getting close to 1/3)! of oyinbo women lie about paternity. And this is just the cases that went for testing. How many more didn't get a test?

Godfullsam:
By the way, what is the average cost of DNA test sef

More expensive than condom sha

mybestlove:
What of those children that were swapped by nurses? How do we settle that?

If the DNA test fails for father, then you do one for the mother. If mother passes, then you know what's up.

popefuse:
how will u possible swap a baby probably by mistake birth room should be a private room, one child one mother

It happens... sometime accidentally and sometimes maliciously... which is why in most developed societies, name tags are issued before birth, then attached to mother and child right at birth. The tags will show signs of tampering and are difficult to remove without causing bruising. There are also tags that have RFID and tracking because societies realize that mistakes happen, and there are also malicious people around.

ednut1:
must we always bash women some men also have children being fathered by other men. na merry go round. if this story is real sha. the husband will die soon from brief illness

The person doing the deception and concealing is the mother... that's the problem. Happened to an uncle of mine... 15 years he was raising a child he thought was his flesh and blood. 15 years the mother knew but hid it from child and father. After kasala burst, the wife didn't even feel bad for her actions and turned the girl against her dad. Devastating.

lawalosky:
This J.B can be so selfish and naive at times,
You are constructing a federal government project in my fatherland.. And you don't want my people to benefit out of it, what nonsense.

It's not up to JB to give anybody anything. They have been contracted by FG to do a project, they are delivering, according to the terms in the contract. Host communities should talk with their own government so that they can include local content in the contract in the first place. These people should not frustrate the contractor abeg... we need work on the bridge to continue without interruption.

My experience in Delta (and Nigeria in general) is that you will be frustrated on your project unless you settle local chieftains, "youths", and various councils... and it's not as if these communities have experts that will contribute anything concrete to the bridge.

Heh, bestie or no bestie, most people have no idea that their partner (guy or girl), is intimate with other people. Me personally, I'm yet to meet a girl who no plaster with 2+ guys. Even me, I've been guy #2 or #3 in women's life. She dey even pick call during intramural. Na standard na.

Ladylite:
Why not LIE that you got a job, and come to where your sisters are at, why not lie with proof of employment and escape. Inbox me, I can help

taink you... so that she can enter one chance abi?

See Ifemide123, your being at home is a saving grace. I don't know what your status is (student, employed, etc), but concentrate on the more important things in life at this stage: learn, work and build yourself. You say you have a shop... take advantage that you're not paying rent now to save your money so you can pursue dreams later.

crixtech and missjo said it best:

crixtech:
... But the fact is that, any guy who stops communication with you cos you still live with your parents or because you need their permission to go out does not have good intentions for you.

missjo:
... I can assure you that any boy, guy, or man in any part of the world who has a problem visiting you in your parents house or at least getting to your parents house to take you out from there, is not to be taken seriously. He's just another puccyhunter. Good riddance.