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MANNABBQGRILL5:
All of us @ [b][/b]
We don't give any chance because we lack brain and we are senseless

that's why we av become nuisance on Nairaland
And we are also tired of life, as it is now we no longer grill bbq again
We grill monkeys, bats, house rats, giant spider and all sorts of venomous snakes

Don't argue with us please, because we are feeling the heat of the poverty created by our precious daddy

as we are typing right now, hunger no let us sleep.

We rise

Mtchew! You never start to de wail


Back to the topic, the number of chances depends on how important you are to me. If you no get any relevance, I go just cut you off once. If you get small value at a point idI just get along just for the sake of milking you dry till I get a new host

Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

What does marrying a girl have to do with begging brothers? Are you telling us you're not matured to say no a request if need be after youvyo married the girl?

Don't think you need any advice on this one though except you're still not matured

ezenwaez:
You have not been excluded, most N-Power Batch C applicants claimed to have been contacted to submit the N-Power print out at the local government

Claimed

ezenwaez:
Please if you are an N-Power Batch C applicant and were informed to submit your N-Power print out at your local government area please oblige, provided the N-Power print out does not contain sensitive information like your BVN number you can submit, just look for a way of concealing the BVN number, there is no harm in submitting your N-Power print out.

Nonetheless, I repeat, just tread with caution and be extremely observant, ask lots of questions when you get to your local government area, in addition always check your N-Power NASIMS portal for any updates and also your email, maintain this feat, because their are lots of fraudsters out there, even at your local government area.

I just checked my dashboard and email but didn't see any update relating to the local government. Please where did you get your info or I've been excluded?

Shokoloko:
Read to understand.
That statement said she is beautiful, not she looks beautiful. There is beauty in someone's qualities. For example, her courage is beautiful, her spirit is beautiful.

And I agree, she IS beautiful

Lol ok

Dekingmoses:
Woow she is such a beautiful lady despite d incident...

Don't be a fake ass . Learn to say the truth at all times.
Thanks to God she survived but she's looking terrible. Say it!!!

bouncin04:
None , as a single guy ( 33 years ) I earn 250k naira monthly, and I swear down I still struggle to get the basic human needs. No shi shi to save by every month end ( I'm based in Lagos )



NB : I don't womanize , I don't smoke neither do I drink.
Japa things on my mind before it's too late , I heard Nigeria of today is a paradise to Nigeria of tomorrow .

You earn 250k as single and you don't have savings Them suppose flog you

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

You disflowered a woman and for six good years have pinned her down without proper marriage, now you want to discard her

Ina-agbani kwa

Hope your daughter will also meet your kind of man

GeneralKoko:
I have been a victim of disrespect over the years from mainly my friends. I don't know if it is because I'm too free or too playful but I hardly gain the respect of people.

Please I need tips on how to gain the respect and loyalty of my friends.
Thanks

The second comment on the first page just answered your questions

In addition give your life purpose and direction and itll help you to be more confident.

Don't give too much of your self to anybody

BenedictStinson:
If you're not careful transport business can wreck you. Banks won't even give you loan because to them vehicles are "diminishing assets" so it can't be used as collateral. You will just be using money on expenses. At the end of the day when you finally give up, the condition of the vehicles won't even attract reasonable offers so you will be left with nothing

Please what are the precautions to take? I just bought a car for transportation (foreign used). What you just said somehow raised my fear

iramure:
Haulaging/transport business. The vehicle is always giving issues. Ended up spending close to #2.2 million to repair which included changing the engine to tokunbo, yet no breakthrough. Las las, the vehicle is in mechanic workshop for the past 2 months. What a huge loss!

You would had bought a direct foreign used

When I saw Muhammad I was expecting.......the lifeless one

It's a bad thing

G

Daytonbale:
Please I don't know which section to post this.
Dear Nairalanders please help me out , I secure a new job in bank in Lagos and the salary is 55,000 per month for a start and they will increase it after three months and from my house to my office is not far is trekkable I don't pay Tp to work.

And I also have a new pos machine that will give me money too I don't know what to do since the bank job Don't give me time to combine the two, my bank working hours is from 7am to 5pm and I can't combine the two .
Please can I resign in the Bank and concentrate with the POS business
or should leave the POS and concentrate with the bank Job .

please help me

Like seriously you want to resign from known to the unknown just like that ??

Facts111:
@ drizzle0007
Yes i forget to stated it. " i mastubate ". But finding it hard to stop.

Do not join cultism, those that joined ate wishing they were free.


Jesus can help you stop masturbation and train your mind on how to be more confident. But this will come in the place of fellowship with the Spirit of Christ not just by prayer. There's a spiritual process that takes care of this two challenges.... masturbation and timidity.

I've been into your shoes before

drizzle0007:
It's difficult. People say pray and all that spiritual stuff. I would only advice you to be self aware. Be aware of what triggers it and control it. You can't stop the act directly in my opinion. You can only stop what triggers it. So if it's a thought for instance, be aware of the fact that you're having a thought that could trigger the act and try as much as possible to distract yourself from that thought. That's what I mean by being self aware and taking control. Get busy, learn to code, get a job, register in a gym. Anything that keeps you busy. Do it. You'll be fine.

I remember when I failed into masturbation..... until The Deliverer in Mount Zion arose.

What I'm trying to say is that Jesus can help him stop masturbation and train his mind on how to be more confident. But this will come in the place of fellowship with the Spirit of Christ not just by prayer.

I've been in his shoes so I know what I'm talking about

murphyibiam15:
I just pity the children who will be torn between going to mummy's or daddy's church

I and my siblings go to different churches outside our parents. Doesn't make any difference

debbycreamy:
Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

I totally understand you....a it's a serious case.
Your husband is a minister due to that it's inappropriate that his wife do not even have the same doctrine with him.

But you're spiritually suffocating.... which is even worse.

I'd advise you to meet your pastor to pray with you concerning it so that your husband can allow you go where your spiritual life can flourish..... Else other issues will surely crop up with it even you remain spiritually dormant

Worse come to worse tell your Dominion pastor to meet your husband pastor to talk to your husband so that he can compromise.

I know why I'm saying o, don't compromise your spiritual life for anything, other things will surely come with it.

But thread with wisdom

God does not leaveale a man but his anointing and spirit can depart from a man. And when it does one or more of the observable traits by the individual are IMPATIENCE majorly; irritation, anxiety, spiritual incapacity, psychological and emotional issues, lose of social skills, sudden observation of depression or inexplicable fears, poor results or backwardness, inability to make plans and achieve it without tragedy.....

All men HAVE SIN and FALLEN SHORT from THE GLORY OF GOD

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

You came to seak spiritual advice in the midst of the ungodly Lol

Actually I understand what you're going through. Yeah only a spiritual man can understand. It's a serious case

My advice is this. If you can pray in the spirit, then pray more in the spirit about him. Just continue in it before you know it what you will need to do and the strength to do it will come from within you.

If you can't pray in the Spirit id advice you extend the wedding date until you pray the solution out.

If you are impatient then permissively I'd advise you marry him and then win him over in prayer and in submission. But whatever you see before winning him over you take it like that

Like I said "a solution" suitable for you. However according to God's word...d d not be unequivocally yoked with unbelievers.

Nuelito:
Smh...las las my sim go still dey active after June 30

No be naija again. I don peg my own by January next year

matt97367:
Dear doctors in the house, I'm a third year medical student in a nigerian university, I got an offer to study medicine in eastern Europe, will it be wise to accept to offer and start over again or should I complete my studies here.
My major reason for accepting the offer is the fact that I'm scared that I wont be able to practice (or it would be very difficult) to practice in the country of my choice, because I heard nigerian certificates arent held with high regards compared to others from European countries
I just want to know if it's possible to practice somewhere else after completing my studies here with a nigerian degree

The money and time you've spent will mean nothing in the long run. Just leave the country immediately

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Are you still asking us for advice??

Come on will you dump that silly man already!!!!!

I'm a man o, I've said my own

quentin06:
The Nigerian Police is the most corruption free in the galaxy, both of you should kneel down and raise your hands in the air till further notice.

Nigerian police force will only be corrupt free if they'd start wearing white uniform without pockets

BruncleZuma:


They all failed Egunje 101

You're in the spirit.

Fear? Lolz if you pass what I passed through that means you'd kill yasef now

Owh! You even have father self probably a mother too

My brother don't be like the vegetable in Abuja. Come on man up. Wetin you de fear

I started staying on my own with no one to help, no job after service with just 10k. And today na history.

No let me flog your yansh, man up and stop fearing

She can't get anything right. Had to sack her after 2weeks

xandy84:
You are welcome. Univ.cc is your friend... Apply to multiple schools and scale down with what you can afford...

Is Univ.cc a website name?

xandy84:
Do your research. Apply for Masters but you want schengen member area like I said earlier. There are Masters with just $2k in Latvia. Pay part payment and the admission is yours. Go from there and you can thank me later

Thanks bro

xandy84:
School comes with accomodations. You pay part tuition and accommodation hoping you can hustle at least the first 3 months. Most student visa comes with at least part time work authorization and that put you on a very good place. The idea here is to stretch every $$ you have and people have done it and still doing it. Pray, do your research and you will be fine.

Ok thank you, your reply is very helpful. I'm a graduate actually, I guess I should just apply for master then?