Biglittlelois:


Seriously.

Talking from experience. I won't advice anyone to go into it.

Perhaps, your husband didn't start this behavior recently.
Didn't you notice it during your first pregnancy and throughout the period you were bringing up your first child?
You are concerned that his fun side is hugely affected because he rarely gives you the attention you crave.
Why not match him with some of the chores? Whatever you figure out will make him work, ensure you tidy it up before he comes around. This way, he will have less to do and reserve some strength for you.

Long distance relationship can drain someone eee!

Coronavirus doing warm up in Kano State. Just it give it time, more of this news will be a daily report...

Do you find yourself in a secluded place before you engage in it? Avoid secluded places.
Work on your mind. Your ability to break off this habit is in your will power.
Prayer can equally help you. Fast and pray...

We know how stories like this usually end.
Just know that what goes round, comes round.
Put yourself in the shoes of that lady's husband. Would you cherish a man to philander with your wife or girlfriend?

After reading your book, will it bring me much money?

Will you get married when you can hardly fend for yourself?
Will you bring home someone's daughter without putting some things in place to ensure you have a stable home?
Marry when you are mentally and emotionally prepared to do it.
It's good to marry early if you are reasonably stable.

I feel this woman is just an opportunist...

What is your packaging like?
Be a tailor with difference. Your girl will come. Don't go into an illegitimate thing because of fake girls.

I wonder what you are still doing with a woman who is carrying another man's baby. Where is the man that impregnated her?
The fact that you are still dating shows who you are.
Why not be grateful to God for exposing the cheat? She could have put the pregnancy on you and you father another man's child.
What makes you think that she will not continue having sex with random men? She is not faithful. She has not been faithful. Not now, not ever.
A cheat will remain a cheat always. If you marry her, she can get pregnant from different men and put them on your head.

Get sense like someone rightly advised you above.

Trouble dey, nyanga wan go wake am.
OP, can you handle what will come after you must have gone into her?

OP, the two scenarios should not be compared. She took to prostitution as a way to eke out a living. She is compelled to have sex with men in exchange for money. She can go on with as many men as possible on a daily basis just to receive more cash.
In other words, the more men she can service sexually, the more money she will make to cater for her needs and that of her children.

In the case of her husband, perhaps he was always demanding it on daily basis and she did not see the need to comply with such demands. Sex can be very boring when it becomes a routine.
Partners can enjoy sex if they approach it more creatively rather than just jerking off. A woman can only emotionally participate in a sex act if she is mentally prepared to recieve the action. If this is not the case, forget it, anything the man does will put her off.

#Care to make some money during this lockdown? See my signature...

What you said is the truth and nothing but the truth.
Peharps, you may have read of the mysterious deaths happening in Kano State lately. It is not a mystery, it is coronavirus. As it is in Kano State, so it was in Bergamo, New York City and all the other places.
Before long, dead bodies will liter the streets of Kano and any other place that is not on total lockdown.

Like you rightly mentioned, total lockdown and palliatives are the best measures to break the chain of transmission of this virus. Sadly, our heartless, wicked, incompetent and clueless politicians will not give out to the needy now.
Worst days are coming. Nigerians will have it very bad in coming days because of hunger and covid-19 induced deaths.
It is what it is. There is no sugar coating this reality that will hit us soon...

Congratulations and more grace to you two.
Happy married life.

They want you now because they think that you now have something to offer.
How come the three of them remembered and contacted you almost at the same time? Did you show off on social media?
If I were you, I would rather focus on making money than waste time on people who turned me down when I genuinely wanted to have a relationship with them.
But wait ooo! By coming here to ask this question signals that you don't have a girlfriend yet. Bros, face front and stay focused.

The signs are very glaring. You don't need any soothsayer to tell you that she is playing games with you.
Think twice before you propose to her. A girl you intend to marry and you claim you have dated her for 5 years yet she answers calls in hiding is not to be trusted.
Be very careful and don't make the mistake that will haunt you for life.

I advice that you monitize your talent.
When next you start a drawing project, capture it on video from start to finish.
Edit it with a video editing software. At most 5mins but ensure you capture all the details properly. That means you have to run the clip in fast forward mode to reduce the 72hrs of work to mins. Look up some hyper realistic art drawings on YouTube and see how they do it.
Upload the video on your YouTube channel if you have one already or create a new channel with your art signature.
I bet you, in just days, you will get over 1 million views. Once you have over 10,000 subscribers, YouTube will start paying you for every 1,000 views of any of your videos. Remember to set your YouTube settings to monitize videos.
I have seen YouTube videos of hyper realistic drawings that garnered 50million views within 1week. Don't waste your time and talent anymore.
You can equally upload your finished work on some websites where people pay you to download them.
Good luck.

What skills do you have?
You can become a freelancer. Go to any freelance jobsite, open an account and setup your profile to match your skills. Then, send in your proposals to clients who may need your services.
Example of jobs you can do on freelance websites: content writing, copywriter and copyediting, SEO, article writing, editing and proofreading, website design, graphics design, programming, theses or dissertation reports, book writing and editing, financial report analysis and so much more.
The list of jobs is endless and you can do any job with just a phone or laptop.
Check these websites:
www.fiverr.com
www.upwork.com
www.freelancer.com
www.guru.com
www.peopleperhour.com
etc
Good luck.

Come and finish the story. It's very captivating. At least, you have much time to spare now due to covid - 19.
You are too good a story teller.

Do not harm an innocent baby by abortion.
Tell your girlfriend to carry the baby and take responsibility.
Approach your Mom or any relation of yours you can freely confide in and open up.

Some other guy has filled the emotional gap your absence created in her.
Do you wish to marry her? Then, you need to reassure her of your commitment to the relationship. But I must warn that long distance relationship will zap your energy. It's not easy at all and I don't recommend it for anyone.
Call her and discuss your future together. Her response or disposition will tell you to continue or to quit.
Her attitude towards you presently is normal for a young lady. It may not be intentional because ladies hardly withstand emotional voids when their guy travel abroad. They don't waist time to replace you with the nearest bestie available.

Truth report card
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1. She is not into you as much as you are into her.
2. She is still very young and this is the age for her to explore.
3. She does not see any future with you presently. May be you are not financially viable yet.
4. She switched her love attention to some other guy long before now.
5. She will come back to you at some point after she must have sampled different guys.
6. She is not worth you love or attention.
VERDICT
Forget her now now and move on. It hurts but I assure you, you will heal within few weeks.
Don't be tempted to receive her back when she returns.

She is weighing her options with the different guys.
Move on immediately and don't even explain to her.
Just keep moving, yes, I mean move very very far!!!!!!!

This type of question can only come up when a man is feeling like a demi - god.
The two parents did the job of bringing the child into this world.
The two parents ought to babysit the child without hesitation whenever the occassion arises.
If you won't babysit your child, don't impregnate your wife. No excuses...

Yes, it is possible but the age gap is a very big concern for so many reasons.
1. They are generations apart and both may not bond properly in marriage.
2. Communication might be an issues because of their dispositions toward each other and life generally.
3. Infidelity is possible too as his sisters have noted but it should not be enough reason to deter him. What if the girl turns out to be a very faithful lady?
He should consider some other factors and not necessarily infidelity in his later age. A more matured lady who understands life and knows what she wants in a marriage might be better.
A 20 year old girl knows nothing.

The child that is coming is packed with numerous blessings for the parents. Abort it and abort your blessings. That child is not an accident.
For a woman who has fibroid problems, conception would normally be hard and the wife is pregnant. It calls for celebration rather than worries.
Also, abortion is a wicked act and a vicious crime against an innocent harmless, helpless baby. Abortion is a sin and the souls of the innocent babies cry to God for justice against the persons who kill them.

Always bet with an amount you can afford to dash people. This way, if you lose, you forget it but if you win, it's a plus.
Keep the odds low.
Do your analysis carefully.

Why not have your own mind? Why not make your decisions? Why not stand your ground on your choice?
If you please your parents, you may never be happy in such marriage.
Just some days ago, a lady who was forced by her father to marry against her wish came here to seek advice on how to make her marriage work.
Stick with your choice. If it does not work, you won't bear grudges against anyone.

It's very clear what your choice is already. Forget the useless talk about you loving your Nigerian babe because you do not know what true love means. Just go ahead with your smart plans but then you never know what the future holds.
Your Nigerian babe has not done any wrong to you. She has been supportive and loyal to you through thick and thin.
Remember, what goes round, comes round...
Kudos with your smart plans.

Once in three days communication is a death nail on any relationship. It is either you are not really into this guy as much as he is into you or you barely love him. A woman who is in love can never stay a day without talking to her partner.
Your communication style is unhealthy for your relationship and this is a red flag for both of you in marriage.
If you want the marriage then sacrifice your job or allow the young man to go find someone who will dote over him like he wants.

"I don't know if am being selfish or not but am just restless."
You are not only selfish but you are insecure and not yet mature to get married.

Truth is you will forever be restless with the thoughts of her cheating.
She deserves a better man who will treat her like a human being. Let her go...