You need deliverance.

I do have lady friends. So many of them.
But them, I limit my level of association, closeness or contact with them out of respect for my woman.

Listen little sister, in marriage, it is no longer about you, it is about your partner first, your kids second before yourself. Anything short of it is selfishness which you are exhibiting.

You don't have any ulterior motives to visit your good male friend but I am advising you to respect your husband's decision. It's for the good of you both.

Kindly answer the following questions:
1. The visit to your male friend, will it enrich you or your husband's pocket?
2. That visit will it cause you more headache at home or peace?
3. Is this good male friend of yours more important to you than your husband ?

You really need to grow up little kid. Respect your husband and enjoy your marriage.

1. Will you approve of your husband to visit his female friends?
2. Does your male friend whom you describe as your good friend know that you are married? If he knows and he is still encouraging you to visit him, it all means that you both have unfinished business from way back.
3. How old are you? I bet that you are not more than 23 years. Hence, your childish thoughts. You are too young to understand what marriage entails.
You are too stubborn and very unreasonable. Your husband would be regretting why he married you by now.
Look at how Ben Sirach describes your kind of person:
"10If your daughter is determined to have her own way, keep a close watch on her. If you don't, she will take advantage of any chance she gets. 11If she is too self-willed, be on guard, and don't be surprised if she disappoints you. 12She will spread her legs anywhere for any man who wants her, just as a thirsty traveller will drink whatever water is available." Sirach 26: 10-12
If you won't respect your husband, kindly leave him in peace. He deserves a better woman than you.

She is still keeping her options open.
For you, you have gotten to your final bus stop in her whereas for her, she is still ready to jump ship when she meets a better man than you.

Discuss with her and let her know that she is hurting you with such behavior.

But then, have you formally proposed to her or you are just assuming that you are her fiancé? If you have not discussed and agreed that you both will marry each other, my brother, both of you are still very single.

Your girlfriend is just full of drama.
She is enjoying her life with some other guy, yet she wants to keep you.

Spare yourself the heartache...

1. Your fiance is not yet emotionally matured to get into marriage.
2. The fact that he is still very much in touch with his ex is a red flag. He is emotionally cheating on you right under your nose and he is not hiding it.
3. He is highly insensitive and is not interested in your emotional wellbeing. If you turn the table, I bet that he will never condone you to talk regularly with another guy, talk more of your ex.

4. Since he trusts his ex more than you, why not give him space? He does not deserve you.

You are most welcome.

Perhaps, this was just a way for you to be relieved of unnecessary headache that may arise from her kids staying with you. God may just have saved you from something imminent.

Stay safe, stay strong and good luck.

I understand that you feel let down by her reaction but stay calm and do the needful.
Win her back. You are doing this not because you are wrong.

I hope no one else is putting blames on you? They ought to understand that you meant no harm to your sister.

850k list - bride price.
Bride price was paid separately on the day of Traditional marriage.
The 850k must be paid first before any other thing.

Ego and pride is very dangerous and unhealthy for every relationship.

OP, tell your friend to go look for his wife and kid if he claims he loves his wife unto death.

When he gets her back, they can sort themselves out. Tell him not to allow pride and ego to kill their beautiful marriage.

If you ever beg a lady for attention when you have not married her, just know that you will forever beg her for attention in your marriage.

It is very clear that she places you at the bottom of the list of men who satisfy her needs. Don't be surprised that you are not the only guy who is dating her.

A woman who loves you will always show it. It's not difficult to know this fact. Do you think that she loves you? I doubt.

There is no love from her end...
Lack of commitment...
Respect is zero...
She does not reciprocate any of the gestures she receives from you.
Her attitude is not changing anytime soon.

Move on and never look back.

You are most welcome.

This could be the reason why she is reacting this way. Her lil' kid sister should not have indirectly told her the bitter truth.

Show her some love and win her back.

Withdraw!
If she loves you, she will come begging...
I repeat, withdraw now.
A girl who has strong feelings for you will never waste the opportunity to accept your proposal the first time.

He can marry her but there is a generational gap between them.
Their thoughts and ways of life may never align properly.

That marriage may turnout to be partners living like mere roommates.

So your sister finally accepted that she is as culpable as her friend too?
Are you the last born of your family? How come that your sister is mad at you for saying a harmless truth to her face?
This incident reveals the type of personality she is.

Anyways, you can make peace reign if you want. How?
Tender an apologia. An apologia is different from apology. You are tendering an apologia not because you said anything wrong but because you want peace to reign. If you love your sister, win her back. Ask mom to speak to her or any of your siblings that she succumbs to but then maintain your innocence that you never had her in mind when you condemned her friend.

She is bitter because she is in the same boat that carried her friend too.
Do you love her kids?
Do you want your sister and her family to still come close to you?
Fix it now.

But if you can survive without them and you care less, 'bon voyage!'

No bro, you are not being cold-hearted, you are simply being human.
Both of you have cheated on each other. Imagine what she would think of you if she knew you cheated on her?

Trusting her again will take a very long time. It can last for years.
As for her not to repeat the act, so long as the married is still in town and comes around her, forget it, she will do it with him again and again until one of them lives town.
You can forgive her but you may never forget.

That's the correct price bro. In fact, you got discount sef.
My homie paid 850k plus bride price.

There is something your sister saw that she is trying to avoid.
Perhaps, the mother-in-law will treat her like a maid if they live in her house.

If your sister's husband is sensitive and considerate, he can rent an apartment since he is well to do. Your sister may never be comfortable living in her mother-in-laws house.

Your girlfriend is weak from what you wrote and she knows that very well.

Mind you, she will still go back to the East to finish her studies and they will continue where they left off before her IT.

Also remember that she will go to service too. By her defense, she is implying that she will still cheat when she goes to NYSC for 1 year because she will be far away from you.

At 27, she ought to have outgrown the stage of emotional instability. But since she has not, marriage with her may be a high risk.

Why not ask her? Is this a big deal for you?

Wet dreams are normal for young boys who just attained puberty stage.

It is natural and there is nothing to worry about. It will stop with time.

How old is she? Probably 21...
Na small girl. She knows nothing yet.
If you can tolerate her attitude for a very long time, then continue.
Let me tell you something, she is not taking your relationship serious. She will dump you as soon as she falls for another guy.

Kindly explain what you mean by astrological compatibility?

How do you get to know of it?

@Ironman15, if you are still here and you get to read this, kindly jettison every thought to kill yourself.

As a matter of fact, there is so much you can live for. Don't be in a haste to go to the great beyond when your maker has not called you home.

Perhaps, the choices you made in past years put you in your present condition.
Henceforth, make the right choices and see how your future will turn out great.

What's your relationship with God? What sort of life do you live?
Tomorrow holds so much hopes and promise for you...

@Peacefullove, it seems like you are very much disturbed about this your new guy. I want to believe that you are the same person as @Favour2323.
You created @Favour2323 moniker on July, 31, 2020 just to ask this question in secret. Meanwhile, your original moniker @Peacefullove had been in existence since August 07, 2016.

My dear, much of the advice that were poured out for you on that thread are the truth to help you stay loyal to your guy.
It will not pay you to be jumping from one guy to another.
Loyalty to one's partner remains the ultimate.
Meanwhile, fix yourself in the receiving end and advice yourself accordingly.

Goodluck.

I want to get married soon when am 25 or less
Zip up until you get married.

Think of ways to improve your fortunes. Make money. I said make money.
When you have enough money, all things will fall into place. Forget sex and make money.
Ask yourself why your penis always go flaccid when you are with a girl. There is something you are been saved from...

This new guy represents everything I want in a guy
Na so you go still meet guy wey get even 99% qualities better than this new guy.

Relationship is not for the fickle minded. It is a very serious business and should be treated so.

Flip the coin and put yourself in your boyfriend's shoe. If you don't feel any pain of him dumping you, then "bon voyage!"

I am certainly sure you are not more than 22 years...

Congratulations!
Your bundle of joy will certainly arrive in at most 10 months from now.

Kudos to you and your girlfriend.

She does not see any comfortable future with you.
If you get a very good job with good pay, she will come back.
Let her go and then fix your life. Someone who rejected you because you are a nobody should not be accommodated when you have become somebody.

What you had is called friends with benefits (FWB).
Normally, there is no commitment, emotional ties or strings attached.
Unfortunately, the girl has refused to accept the reality.
She cannot guilt trip you into a relationship. You may go and see her but maintain your grounds.
Next time, don't get sexually or emotionally attached to a girl you know you won't get serious with.

She does not want to be tied down with you.
In order words, you will be sex mates only and she can date some other guys freely.
FWB is very complicated. If you can handle your emotions, then you may think of it but I will advice you. Don't go that route...